Going From Fear To Motivation With a Simple Shift

My motivation is insanely out of control lately. Something has switched inside after I dropped my negative thoughts and adopted some radical thoughts that I share here. I am basking in the glorious aftermath of living on the other side of fear: in a constant state of motivation. Think it’s too good to be true? So did I, but so glad I was wrong!

Lately, my energy is to the roof. My focus is laser sharp. My productivity is highest it’s ever been. I feel a great sense of urgency and nobody can talk me out of the work I need to do.

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I can’t stand the idea of resting and relaxing for a minute longer than necessary. I cannot keep count of all the ideas running through my head and what’s more, I can smell no fear in pursuing every single one of them.

No fear. Not anymore. I am done being scared . I am done making decisions with fear. I am finished half-committing to my goals. I am done fooling around with my dreams. What about you?

I’ve turned a corner and I am not looking back. It happened when I woke up one day only to realize I have been chasing an empty dream, an illusion of happiness, and a mere shadow of success. Have you turned that corner yet?

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Watch What You Speak

Our mouths can sure get us into trouble, can’t they! This is especially true for someone whose heart is tainted by evil. Talk reveals so much about our interior life, and an evil person has a lot to hide! But that brings us to ourselves. What does our talk reveal about us? Does it help us escape trouble or does it reveal fastening evil in our souls.

We should watch what we speak because the tongue is powerful. There was this African Nollywood movie I watched back then, this lady was suffering, no job, no money, no friends. During this challenges in her life, she wasn’t able to take care of her sick mother. In that process she lost her mother to cancer. This made her really depressed and angry. She angrily look up to heaven and said by the time she turns 25 and she doesn’t have a change in her life, her life should be taken away from this earth. Unkowning to her the spirit of death was around parading all over the place for whom to destroy and devour. The spirit took her words and waited for 25 years later.

About a year, she got a good paying job, was leaving in a big apartment, with a good car for mobility. After 25 years, the spirit of death came knocking at her door. She had forgotten what she used her mouth to say when she was faced with multiple challenges.

What happened next ain’t a good news.

Let’s be careful and learn to speak good things to our lives and to those we care about. The best time to proclaim good things in your life is during trials and challenges.

Read Proverbs 12:13

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What Everyone Must Know About Involving God In All Your Activities

Hey guys! As you start your day, don’t forget to involve God in all your activities. Check the tips below..

1. *Beauty* is not a guarantee to marriage

2. *Falling Sick* does not mean you are about to die.

3. *Getting rich* is not the definition of prosperity.

4 *Building a nice house* is not enjoying luxury.

5. *Sleeping on an expensive bed* does not bring you sound sleep.

6. *Driving a new car* is not a guarantee that you gonna reach where you going.

7. *Wearing expensive clothes* does not guarantee smartness.

8. *Owning a family doctor* does not guarantee permanent health.

9. *Being highly educated* is not a sign of wisdom.

10. *Marrying a rich guy* does not guarantee happy marriage.

11. *Winning an argument* does not mean that you were correct.

12. *Whatever is done without the merit of Heaven* is fake and temporal.

13 *He who builds without God* is building for nothing; & he who *watches over a city* without God, watches in vain.

14. *Not everything is possible with man but everything is possible with God.*

15 *Be wise and learn to Involve God* in everything you do.

*Kindly Bless Someone Else today* and be blessed back by God.

Video: Train Yourself Each Day To Expect Something Good To Happen

God wants you to have the best life possible. Always dare to get your Hope’s up, things will begin to change in your life. Faith increases, joy returns, and peace reigns.

Be excited about today! This is going to be a great day! Train yourself each day to expect something good to happen to you.

Don’t be hurting today, doubting if things will ever get better… get your hope’s up!

The video above contains words of encouragement from Joyce Meyer

Why When Life Squeezes You Is Just Another Passing Trend

Orange juice comes out because it is an orange and that’s what’s inside. Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you and someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offend you, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear and so on.

Why?

The answer, as indicated by late Dr. Wayne Dyer, is because that’s what’s inside. It is one of the greatest lesson of life! The question is what comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing , what comes out inside of you is a choice!

When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you have allowed to be inside through daily word meditation. Don’t forget Jesus dwells in your inside and that means all his characteristics virtues, traits such as holiness, power, humility, love, authority, courage, boldness, and wisdom now dwells on your inside. Your duty is to allow Him to live through you daily no matter the problem.

When life squeezes you. The challenges and trials

When life squeezes you, the light and glory of God will flow out because Christ is in you!

N:B: Happiness keeps you sweet, trials keep yo strong, sorrows keep you human! Failures keep you humble! And God keeps you going!

Killers of Happiness

Regretting the past

Worrying about the future

Comparing yourself to others

Anger/Bad temper

Life’s battles

Unforgiveness and not letting go

Complaining on the battle front

Planning to quit

Selfishness

Thinking negatively

Your reaction to events

In summary of everything, look good and positive during trials and challenging times.

Why Should A Christian Be A Radical? The Only Norm You Really Need

Hey guys!

This question was thrown to me over the weekend by a group of friends. I was able to defend myself and my faith but it inspired me to research more on the word “Radical” relating to “Christianity”. The word radical as applied to human behaviour, which can be either positive or negative, depending on one’s point of view. For the purpose of this post, we will define radical as “one expressing strict adherence to a world view that is at extreme odds with the cultural norm”.

If normal is in the middle, then a radical would be a person at either end of the spectrum. For example, Mother Teresa (God rests her soul) could be considered a radical in her extreme self-denial and ministry to the poorest of the poor. But Saddam Hussein, General Idiamin, General Sani Abacha, and other tyrants the world has ever known were also radicals in their violent enforcement of religious and political agenda. Both are considered extreme by societies as “normal”.

Whether or not Christians should be radicals depending on how the word is defined. Many people in history have used the name of Jesus Christ to inflict terror, persecution, and genocide upon those with religious differences. That form of radicalism was never condoned by Jesus who was Himself a radical. His message of love, forgiveness, and mercy was at direct odds with the accepted views of the day. He refused to fight back when attacked to allow Peter to defend Him with violence (Mathew 26:51-52), or to condemn the woman caught in adultery (John 8:4-11). Those were all radical acts for that time and culture. One reason some people turned away from Christ was that His requirement of giving up everything for His sake was simply too radical (Luke 18:22-23).

The decision to follow Christ is itself a call to radical living. Jesus said that “anyone who wants to follow me must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me (Luke 9:23). The command is at extreme odds with our flesh’s desire to please itself (Roman’s 7:21-23). It challenges worldly wisdom, which preaches self-fulfilment as our highest aim (1 John 2:15-17). The cross is a radical symbol, and declaring Jesus as Lord of our lives involves a dethroning of self and a complete abandonment to His will. We must be willing to go where He leads, do what He says, and love Him more than life itself (Mathew 10:37-38). The lifestyle changes that follow such a commitment are considered radical by those who fall within the world’s definition of normal.

The antisocial atrocities that are often synonymous with radicalism are in direct opposition to radical Christianity. Those who incite violence and persecution in the name of Christ are not radicals at all, but enemies of the cross. Because following Jesus is in direct conflict with the “norm”, then “to live is Christ and to die is gain” (Phillipians 1:21) could be considered a radical way of life.

I challenge you today to live a radical life of obedience to the Bible instead of seeking to fit into our culture. It’s unfortunate that believing and following Christ is considered radical. It should be the normal way Christians should live everyday.

These Are The Facts Of Life

1. In life, those with the Lion Heart get the Lion share.

2. In life, only the Bold get the Gold.

3. In life, only those with the Liver get the Silver.

4. In life, only the Risk Takers become Rich.

5. In life, only the Brave becomes Great, Successful and Wealthy.

6. In life, nothing happens until you make it happen for yourself.

7. Behind anything Automatic is a ‘Human-matic’ effort.

8. In life, what you don’t expect, you won’t experience.

9. In life, what you don’t desire, you do not deserve.

10. *If you keep on waiting for the Right Time, Right Job, Right Opportunity, you will keep on wasting your life*

11. Your youth is your Peak, if you miss your Peak, you will end in the Pit of life and you become an object of Pity.

12. What you do not Imagine, you will not Manifest.

13. Whatever you can Conceive and Believe, you can Achieve.

14. Whatever you can Conceptualize and Visualize, you will Actualize.

15. *What you don’t Resist has a right to Remain.*

16. *What you don’t want, you don’t watch it happen to you. *

17. Only the Adventurous advances in Life.

18. *What you don’t Fight will Prevail.*

19. If you have nothing to Inspire you, you will get Expired.

20. You have to endure the Pains of today, to have the Gains of tomorrow.

21. Life itself is a race.
When G is added to race, it becomes Grace. G + race = Grace.
The G in Grace is by God.
Let God be in your race, and your life will enjoy His Grace.

My people irrespective of your salary, job or business we are doing the most important thing is the Grace of God, once the Grace of God is involved! That’s all… Is not those that worked nor runneth but by the mercy & grace of Almighty God!

Do have a gracious dream!

Happy Sunday..

The Beautiful Dance Of Mercy And Truth

We live in some confusing times, times where the truth is challenged just by normal, every day culture. It gets harder every day to live according to God’s standards. Ravi Zacharias, a well known Christian apologist, said it this way, “These days it’s not just that the line between right and wrong has been made unclear, today Christians are being asked by our culture to erase the lines and move the fences, and if that were not bad enough, we are being asked to join in the celebration cry by those who have thrown off the restraints religion had imposed upon them. It is not just that they ask we accept, but they now demand of us to celebrate it too.” Nevertheless, no matter how difficult or anti-cultural it seems, if you have given your life to Christ you have been called to live a life of holiness.

Now here comes the confusing part. We are also called to be merciful, just as our Heavenly Father is merciful (Luke 6:36). This means, if someone is living a life of sin that is bringing about pain and distraction, we are supposed to look upon them with the same mercy that God showed us when He sent His Son to die on the cross

There are few things more difficult to navigate in our Christian walk than this beautiful dance between mercy and truth. It is like that moment when a friend or stranger is telling you all about the crazy night they just had full of sinful, destructive activities. Then they present an inviting laugh hoping that you will reciprocate and affirm their behavior. In those moments, it is an absolute art to know how to show grace and mercy to that person in their broken state while also not condoning the behavior.

I have looked to the bible for guidance in this area, in particular the life of Jesus. The interesting thing is that Jesus did not always handle these situations the same way. We see a stark contrast in the way he handled the lost, His followers, and the religious leaders of His day. With the lost, He was extremely sensitive and gentle. Read about he woman at the well (John 4) or the woman caught in adultery (John 8). With His followers, Jesus was much more stern. When Peter tried to talk Jesus out of going to the cross, Jesus words to him were “Get behind me satan” (Matthew 16:23). Then with Pharisees and Sadducees, Jesus uses some very harsh language in an attempt to break down their rigid, religious barriers. Jesus refers to them as a “brood of vipers” (Matthew 23:33).

So what is the glue that brings these two apparently opposite terms together and makes them dance together so beautifully? The answer is unconditional love. This is the same love that God showed for us when He sent His Son to die on the cross. While we were still sinners in opposition to God, and in no way deserving of His mercy, He showed it to us anyway. That is the reason that Jesus could look at Peter and call him satan, or look at the Pharisees and call them vipers, and be doing it out of complete love. He knew that He had been sent to save them, and His motive with every single word was 100% love for them and a desire to see them set free.

What does this mean for us? It means that the condition of our heart is the most important element of our own dance with mercy and truth. If our heart is in the right place, then we can speak truth to others mercifully and out of love. If out heart is in the wrong place, we could be speaking the truth with the wrong motives, such as a desire to manipulate and control. All I would ask you to do today is take a few minutes to stop and ask God where your heart is. Ask God to help you fix your heart, so that you have the right motives. Then ask him to teach you the more detailed steps to the beautiful dance of mercy and truth.

Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them around thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart – Proverbs 3:3

Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and dish, and then the outside also will be clean. – Matthew 23: 26

Things I Am Grateful For Today (And Always)

1. That humans are a self-healing species.

2. The infinitude of people wiser and more talented than I, because of whom I will always be able to learn more, see differently, understand better, and generally be entertained.

3. That anytime something hasn’t worked out the way I wanted it to initially, something better did. Always. Without fail.

4. My wife is with me when I was researching this. Been thankful for everything God has done for us.

5. The abundance of foods and cultures and restaurants and diners that exist in my little corner of the world, and that I get to taste a little bit of everything as often as I like.

6. I have never once in my life worried about being too cold in the winter because I couldn’t afford a sweater or jacket.

7. Friends who have loved me more than I loved myself, and who taught me how to love myself.

8. Hugs.

9. Cooking, and sharing it with others. It’s been something I have really grown a love for this past year.

10. That nothing lasts forever, which is, essentially, just a call to be present.

11. That I live in a hemisphere that experiences all four seasons.

12. Second chances. Third chances. Forgiveness. The ability to say: thank you for that experience, and mean it.

13. Nature. And trees. The after-rain smell, the springtime smell. Mountains and trails and and the fact that I have feet and legs to walk them.

14. The funny fact that the nature of realizing a problem is also you recognizing that there is a solution.

15. My job. The fact that I get to write every day. The other amazing writers and producers I get to read and work with and publish.

16. Coffee, and coffee shops at night.

17. A long meal in a dimly lit restaurant with a bottle of wine and someone you love.

18. The excitement of knowing you have reservations for a long meal in a dimly lit restaurant with a bottle of wine and someone you love.

19. That I have rent to pay, dishes to do, laundry to fold, and dinner to cook; because it means I have my own home, have eaten, am clothed, and have more food available to me.

20. How much joy the little things bring (knowing that that joy is always accessible.)

21. Finding a song you love so much you listen to it 20 times in a row and it just gets better and better with every word and riff and beat you start to memorize.

22. Handwriting anything.

23. Farmers markets.

24. The smell of someone you’re falling in love with, right when you’re falling in love with them.

25. The fact that there is no limit to the number of people we can fall in love with – and that it is possible to do so, each time, as wholly as we did before.

26. Confident people who live their lives and speak their truths and redefine beauty and greatness and wonder and what it means to LIVE just by the nature of their living. (People don’t become inspiring by trying to help others, just by being themselves.)

27. Kids. I envy teachers (though I acknowledge how much work they do and how crappy I’d be as one). Regardless, my real joy in life is playing games in my comfort zone and eating biscuit with a cup of fresh juice, watching my favourite season movies.

28. Warm, comfy beds.

29. The simple, perfect knowledge that my only real purpose is to be. Right here, just like this. My name will fade with successions of generations, and eventually, one day, nobody will know I existed. But for now, just for today, I am awake and alive to see and feel and breathe and live in a foreign, temporary body. If there is something more beautiful than that, show it to me, I’ll be surprised.

30. Everything I have healed, everything I have learned, and how being happy, being present, creating more, and being abundant in every way, always begins with thankfulness.

The Trap Of The Comfort Zone

The second mental obstacle that you need to overcome is the comfort zone. Many people become complacent with their current situations. They become so comfortable in a particular job or salary or any level of responsibility that they become reluctant ro make any changes at all, even for the better.

The comfort zone is a major obstacle to ambition, desire, determination, and accomplishment. People who get stuck in a comfort zone, if it’s combined with learned helplessness, are almost impossible to help in any way. Don’t let this happen to you.

Very short and precised but very important to take note of this trap.

Watch: Why Women Are More Anxious Than Men

By: Brianna Weist

I recently watched (and some of you may be familiar with) a set of social experiments in which a group of men and then a group of women agreed to go on a date with a person they met on Tinder – a model, who would be in a fat suit when they arrived.

The experiment claims to be based on the fact that number one fear for women dating online is that they’ll meet a serial killer, and the number one fear for men is that the woman will be fat.

Low and behold, when each of the men arrived and met their date, they were… offended. They were mad because they felt lied to, and did little to cover their displeasure with the woman’s appearance. Only one of them didn’t walk away or excuse himself to the bathroom – never to return. But none gave her a chance, or took any interest in getting to know who she was, all because she wasn’t thin.

Now, as I was watching this, I’ll be honest. I was thinking, well, okay, it’s not completely unreasonable to be off-put if you’re expecting one thing, and get another…

That was, until I saw the women’s video.

Not one of them walked away. They gave the guy a chance. They connected with him. They laughed at his jokes. They did acknowledge that they were disillusioned about his appearance, but they were not rude or entitled about it.

… And one of them kissed him at the end. Another offered up a second date. They got to know who he really was, because they were able to see past their expectations about what he should be.

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I’m sure it comes as no surprise that research shows women are twice as prone to anxiety as men, are twice as often diagnosed with anxiety disorders, and that women are significantly “more inclined toward negative emotion, self-criticism, and endless rumination about [their] problems.”

But here is the important part: we also know that this is not the result of a biological or hormonal difference. Indicating that it is, unsurprisingly, cultural.

Simply, women are not encouraged to honestly acknowledge their feelings and cope with them in proactive, mindful ways – and this is mostly to maintain how others perceive them.

Taylor Clark dubs this the “skinned knee effect,” wherein from a young age, boys are encouraged to confront their fears, and girls are encouraged to hide them. “If little Olivia shows fear, she gets a hug; if little Oliver shows fear, he gets urged to overcome it.”

And when these emotions “go underground,” they become ingrained in the subconscious, and then begin to have a huge and often overlooked impact on day-to-day interactions.

Studies also tell us that women tend to be insidiously competitive, jealous and spiteful toward other women, especially those they are close to. Because they are taught not to win at someone else’s expense (to be a perpetual people-pleasers and peace-makers) their healthy, natural, normal, innate competitiveness must become tempered.

And the more it is inhibited, the more it remains unacknowledged. As anybody can tell you, as soon as you pack a feeling away in a dark closet… it becomes a potential monster that you have to prepare yourself for – and that feeling of dread and suppression begins to bleed into otherwise unthreatening, daily situations.

Though these are just a few examples plucked from the pile of research on the anxiety gender gap, the point is that anxiety is, in an abstract sense, the anticipation that something ‘bad’ is coming, or the fear that one cannot handle it.

More accurately, the fear that they cannot hide it.

It’s the running idea that bad things cannot be dealt with because feelings cannot be felt. And so the fear of them, the fear of losing culturally-induced composure, compiles into anxiety. Intense anxiety. Unbearable anxiety that remains dormant until something sets it off and it crops up endlessly. “I know this sense of panic and urgency is coming from somewhere… and so I must search for it, project it and deal with it in ways that aren’t actually addressing the root of the problem.”

Women suffer greater anxiety than men because they’re taught… not to. They’re denied simply being honest about their feelings, and most often in a way that convinces them it will yield positive results. It will make people love them. They will seem “together.”

But at what cost?

In terms of the women in the experiment, certainly they were kinder, more positive, and opened themselves up to the possibility for real romance, but only because they were conditioned to be just that: open, accepting and willing, no matter what.

Who is to say they were actually interested in that man? I certainly am not. But what we do know is that the men who were not interested in their date didn’t have to pretend for the sake of someone else’s feelings.

There isn’t an anxiety gap. There is an honesty gap, and there is a decency gap. There’s a middle ground on which we each need to rest a foot: that you can be honest without hurting someone intentionally, that you can cope with your feelings without being violent or cunning about it, and most importantly, that it’s human to feel on edge when your instincts are being compressed. That the most we need to do is let our inner demons out and discover they were nothing more than the fear that they could be something else.

Let me know what you think about this by commenting your opinion.

The Incredible Power of Taking Risks in Life

There are many ways to change your life for the better. And one simple, yet seemingly scary choice we can make is to be taking more risks in life.

The problem with this path to positive change is that most of us fear taking risks!

may fear rejection, failure and change. We may fear uncertainty.

We think about taking a risk and our innate fight/flight response kicks in.

On top of that, many of us have a warped relationship with fear, where we think fear is bad, and that we should stay away form it.

But actually fear isn’t bad, and neither is risk!

In fact, risk is the very thing that can make us feel alive, and the fear we get with taking risks is just a feeling message to tell us that we’re going outside of our familiar comfort zone.

What’s the worst that could happen?

For many of us, it’s all too easy to get stuck into a routine that provides comfort and safety. But, we have to ask ourselves, are we truly living?

Yes, some risks shouldn’t be taken because the consequences could be disastrous. Howeveyourself. a little bit of discernment, we can take calculated risks that will benefit us regardless of the outcome.

Say for instance, you see an attractive person in a coffee shop, and you want to say hi. What’s the worst that could happen? They’re not interested, but you took that risk which ultimately didn’t hurt you in the end. And doing so likely boosted your courage. So no regrets! It’s all about the attitude you take.

Or there are more serious risks that you could be taking, such as leaving the job you aren’t so thrilled about, or moving to a new country. Again, what is the worse that could happen? If things didn’t work out the way you wanted them to, at least you learnt a lot more about yourself and the world in the process. Plus, you can always go home and go back to the same type of job if you want to!

Risks help to build confidence & open up possibilities

By taking risks, you give yourself permission to try things out, to learn, to fail, to grow and to explore. You get to test your limits and go beyond what you believed was possible. You can to go after the things in life you really want!

By doing this, you naturally build up your self-confidence, growing as a person and opening up a whole new world for yourself.

By taking risks you get better at knowing what you want

Risks helps you to get clear on what you want out of life.

They make you more consciously aware of what is important to you, what you want and don’t want, as part of your planning and decision making process.

Just the level of clarity you get from planning to take a risk helps you to feel more empowered and in control, as the leader of your life and the master of your own destiny.

Risk taking builds self-trust

When you take a risk, you generally do so with awareness after balancing your logic and intuition, to decide what is best for you. By taking action aligned to your own inner compass in this way, you build a level of trust in yourself.

And trusting yourself and knowing when to take action on something you really want only serves to further elevate your self-confidence.

Risks make life exciting and colorful

What would happen if we never took risks?

Life would become monotonous and boring. Nobody wants a boring life, yet it’s such an easy option to resort to, in order to stay safe and in our comfort zones.

It boils down to making a decision.

Although your heart may be racing, and your palms many be sweating, think about what would happen if you didn’t take the chance?

Would you regret the missed opportunity?

We only have this one life, why not stretch yourself to new heights! You never know what could happen… and isn’t that exciting?

Take action starting from today

You don’t need to jump head first into a tonne of risks, but you can practise the art of taking one small risk each day.

It can be as simple as saying hello to someone new, learning a new skill or applying for a new job. Whatever your comfort threshold is, start testing it out each and every day.

Because this is where real growth happens. Ultimately, this risk-taking habit alone will transform your life!

Choices To Make Today That You Won’t Regret Tomorrow

1. Fighting for a career you love. You will never regret fighting for the job you really want or struggling to make it happen. It is a choice that will upgrade the quality of your life and give you a better shot at success.

2. Letting go of unrequited love. Or waiting for someone to make up their mind. You will never regret letting them go because you are paving the way for someone else to come in and you are being honest with yourself about the possibilities of being with someone who is not on the same page.

3. Apologizing to someone. You are a human being who is prone to making mistakes-a lot of them. Saying sorry to someone you care about and appreciate is the only way to redeem yourself and try to save the relationship from falling apart. You will never regret patching things up with the people who deserve it.

4. Learning something new. Whatever that may be; a new language, a new course, a new sport or a new meal, you will never regret investing time in a new skill. Learning drives us to be more productive, attentive and gives us the motivation we need to rejuvenate our lives.

5. Taking a break from social media. Unplugging is therapeutic in this ever-busy and chaotic life. Sometimes it’s really crucial for your sanity to take a break from social media and re-shift your focus and energy onto something better and more meaningful.

6. Exercising. The benefits of exercising are not just physical, they are also mental and spiritual. Taking a run or hiking can really help you feel better about yourself and inspire you to think clearly and make more coherent decisions.

7. Expanding your network. Building more relationships and expanding your social circle and your network will open new doors for you and will add value to your personal and professional life. You never know who you’ll be able to connect with and where that connection will lead.

8. Not taking life too seriously. You will not look back and remember the times you cried and the times you broke down. Don’t let pain or sadness drag on for too long. Try to look at the good in every bad and do your best to get over the disappointments quickly so you can be able to enjoy most of your life.

9. Loving yourself. With your flaws, with your quirks, with your mood swings and your eccentric habits. Be kind to yourself and try to love the different parts of you. You will never regret being your biggest fan because you know you can always count on yourself. Also, when you love yourself, you are more likely to find someone who loves you too.

10. Believing that tomorrow is a better day. You will never regret looking on the bright side, or being hopeful, or starting the day with a smile. You will never regret having a positive mentality and an optimistic outlook on life, you are more likely to achieve a positive life this way.

The Inherent Meditation Of Creativity

Being creative is as innate to being human as eating, talking, walking and thinking is. It has always been a process we naturally prioritize; our ancestors somehow found time to carve their images and stories on cave walls. But we’ve mistakenly grown to regard it as some form of luxury – you’re lucky if you have the means to express yourself.

In reality, it is a manner of education, communication, and ultimately, self-introspection, and we are in constant manifestation of it. The mediums have shifted from rock particles to pixels, but we can all still see that there is something inherently human about wanting to imprint, impress, craft, mold, form, paint, write and otherwise mold something abstract into that which is conceivable to someone else.

Unsurprisingly then, it seems that the most effective creative process is one that follows the art of meditation, mindfulness, intuition, non-resistance, non-judgement, etc.

I did not begin writing because it was something I liked. It was how I figured my way out of pain. It didn’t take too long to realize that I didn’t want to spend my life creating or exacerbating problems only to think and feel my way out for the sake of a job. I wanted to be able to write and create just because. Just because I’m alive and breathing and can.

I had to learn that my expression did not need to be justified – it is valid because I am a valid human being, the same as you, and everybody else.

But in the meantime, I tried all the classic writing routines of the greats, the promised formulas for consistent, rhythmic creation. I tried to be structured, did anything to induce “flow,” intentionally probed at the deep dark untouched corners of myself, was routine even when I didn’t want to be, and found every bit of it to be dead-ended.

I was trying to create structure where structured need not be placed. It did little more than make the process stagnate.

The reason being, mostly, that we do not ebb and flow in and out of creation. It is an unseen constant, from the clothes we choose to the sentences we say to the way we arrange our desks at work.

It comes down to imagining writing (or painting, or singing, or whatever it is you do) as coming as naturally as breathing does: it’s an effortless process, it draws upon what is outside you and transforms it as it goes through you, and it is tensed, stressed, ebbed and made more difficult when we consciously try to do it.

In fact, anything creative tends to be most hampered by end goals. It is almost imperative that you are completely mindful of the moment, creating from a place of simply allowing whatever is going through you to flow out.

Because when you have a pre-prescribed path in mind, it means you are trying to align with somebody else’s. It means that the inspiration you have found is you creating your own version of somebody’s something else that made you tick and flow.

You’ll seldom be inspired by work that is coming from a core truth, and that’s because it shows you something about yourself. Not just something, the truest truth – that’s what makes the process so god damn unbearable.

And that’s why we reach for structure, that’s what makes us stopper the process. That’s why we want inspiration and validation and external support.

In the true essence of real zen, the most creativity can be fostered when you learn to do so without passing judgment: similar to how observing your thoughts and feelings objectively are the path to peace as well.

Some of what you write down you’ll want to share, or make consumable. Some you won’t. That’s okay too. It’s imperative to realize that even the greatest artists weren’t consistently prolific, especially not publicly. But considering that “inactivity” a lack, loss or failure is just attaching another ego-meaning to it all.

You cannot quantify your creativity, and though it is an extension and impression and expression of yourself, it does not define you.

You are free to keep the sacredness of your most inner self only within your own existence. The more you can express that, and live that, without judgment, and in the moment, the more you’ll feel free to be honest, and open up to yourself. The more you feel comfortable with that core self, the more you’ll feel able to create from a peaceful place. Just because. Whenever you want.

Practice Makes Permanent

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You can begin the process of developing courage and eliminating fear by engaging in actions consistent with the behaviours of courage and self- confidence. Anything that you practice over and over eventually becomes a new habit. You develop courage by behaving courageously whenever courage is called for.

Here are some of the activities you can practice to develop the habit of courage. The first and perhaps most important kind of courage is the courage to begin, to launch, to step out in faith. This is the courage to try something new or different, to move out of your comfort zone with no guarantee of success.