You Got This!!!

According to Bernadatte Logue…

You are unbreakable, unstoppable and unbelievably powerful. In all situations, remember… YOU GOT THIS!

Do you ever have days where you wish you could take a break from being an adult?

You know… there’s actually a thing called “Adulting” (being an adult)…

The practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially the accomplishment of mundane but necessary tasks.”
“To carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals.”

No wonder we want to get off that treadmill sometimes! ???????????? I know I do!

Don’t get my wrong… life is A-MA-ZING. But let’s keep it real… it is also freaking hard sometimes too!

So for those days when you’re not feeling up to this whole “Adulting” thing, I want you to remember…

YOU GOT THIS!

  • Even on the days you would rather crawl under your bed cover.
  • Even on the days when there are too many tasks to do and not enough time.
  • Even on the days when you boss is being unreasonable.
  • Even on the days when everyone is at you wanting something.
  • Even on the days when your body feels exhausted.
  • Even on the days when you have no idea what you’re meant to be doing, and you’re trying to look like you do!

One if the major reasons why I love to read, research and post on my blog platform is because I got the opportunity to spread good news and contribute to someone’s life daily.

I want to appreciate Bernadette for her continuous work and writings that inspires me to also be amongst the team of life coaches.

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Success Depends Upon Maturity!

Hey guys, thanks for stopping by…

Maturity is many things. It is the ability to base a judgment on the big picture, the long haul.

It means being able to resist the urge for immediate gratification and opt for the course of action that will pay off later.

One of the characteristics of the young is “I want it now.”

Grown-up people can wait.

Maturity is perseverance–the ability to sweat out a project or a situation, in spite of heavy opposition and discouraging setbacks, and stick with it until it is finished.

The adult who is constantly changing friends and changing mates is immature. He/she cannot stick it out because he/she has not grown up.

Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction. The mature person can face unpleasantness, frustration, discomfort and defeat without collapsing or complaining. He/she knows he cannot have everything his/her own way every time. He/she is able to defer to circumstances, to other people-and to time. He/she knows when to compromise and is not too proud to do so.

Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say, “I was wrong.” And, when he/she is right, the mature person need not experience the satisfaction of saying, “I told you so.”

Maturity is the ability to live up to your responsibilities, and this means being dependable. It means keeping your word. Dependability is the hallmark of integrity. Do you mean what you say-and do you say what you mean? Unfortunately, the world is filled with people who cannot be counted on. When you need them most, they are among the missing. They never seem to come through in the clutches. They break promises and substitute alibis for performance. They show up late or not at all. They are confused and disorganized. Their lives are a chaotic maze of broken promises, former friends, unfinished business and good intentions that somehow never materialize. They are always a day late and a dollar short.

Maturity is the ability to make a decision and stand by it. Immature people spend their lives exploring endless possibilities and then doing nothing. Action requires courage. Without courage, little is accomplished.

Maturity is the ability to harness your abilities and your energies and do more than is expected. The mature person refuses to settle for mediocrity. He/she would rather aim high and miss the mark than low-and make it.

Maturity is the art of living in peace with that which cannot be changed, the courage to change that which should be changed, no matter what it takes, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Believe In Yourself

There may be days when you get up in the morning and things aren’t the way you had hoped they would be. I experienced this in the past when I used to give up on my ideas and dreams, doubting myself and thinking otherwise. But i thank God, some few friends, and my fellow motivational bloggers on this platform.Believe in yourself and go for it

So i had to tell myself things will get better. You also have to adopt that believe that everything will get better. There are times when people disappoint you and let you down. But those are the times when you must remind yourself to trust your own judgement and opinions, to keep your life focused on believing in yourself.

There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life, and it is up to you to accept them.

The great and rich minds in the world never gave up on their ideas or dreams, no matter how difficult it was to accomplish, they pushed and believed that it was possible. “Remember Rome wasn’t built in a day.”

Constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction. It may not be easy at times, but in those times of struggle you will find a stronger sense of who you are. So when the days come that are filled with frustration and unexpected responsibilities, remember to believe in yourself and all you want your life to be.

Because the challenges and changes will only help you to find the goals that you know are meant to come true for you.

 

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The Fall In Each Person’s Life

This,is an example of a human life..

When and how it happen.
But never knew why it did…
Playing in the whiten pure snow,
Feels free with no darkness and envy,
Spins your body around with ease,
No pain,
No stress,
Until the year of your age pass,
The curiosity,
The confusion,
The smoke and thick clouds surrounds you,
The whiten snow in which you are stepping on turns dry,
Piece by piece inside you starts to die,
The ground cracks and you fall,
Fall and fall,
The lights fades further away,
Don’t know where to grab,
Don’t know where to stay,
Cannot run, cannot hide,
Because the darkness, are already inside,
Too alone to scream,
Should you still now follow your dream?
You stumped into a dark pitch forest,
None colour of white,
Not even a beam of light,
You stand up,
Try to find a way out,
No clue of how many years passed,
The pain,
The torture,
The sadness,
You gave up,
Struggled to get use to it,
Then,
A loud roar you heard,
A light of flame you see,
What is it going to be?
You run towards,
You see,
A humongous dragon,
Firing the forest,
The light you have not seen for so long,
No weapon to fight,
But the determination becomes your shield,
And your bravery becomes your armor,
It is never meant to slay,
You run and climb on to it,
controls it,
and made it fly,
Fly and find where you have fallen,
Fly into the sky and you try,
to fight more for freedom..
To fulfill your life with justice,
while you fly up high
you see,
All the stupidity,
the ignorant of human nation,
which cannot be stopped unless they know what pain is,
is that what it called eternity?
You defeated the darkness and you finally fly,
maybe its not darkness,
but a blessing in disguise….

Be Confident And Overcome The Fear Of Moving Forward

It was like a dream, when I felt my mind left the reality world into an imaginary scene.

One evening, I was heading for a meeting that will transform my life and family to become a partner in a law firm. As I was driving I noticed I was the only one on the road. The environment was like “silent hill” quiet and horrifying. Out of the blues, I saw a very big image of a man standing some distance in front of me. I stopped and tried to glimpse at the image, I couldn’t see anything. Fear came drumming on me, my mind became a battlefield. The first voice told me to go back, do I want to die. The other said move forward, you have to complete your mission, remember you were deprived for long to get this position, you have worked hard, this is your time. I was confused and stood beside my car for like 10 minutes. I began to seek God’s presence in prayer to reveal who is the giant blocking my way. Then a word came to me to look at king David as an example. I opened my Bible and began to read.

The war between the Israelites and the Philistines in 1 Samuel 17, the outcome of which is determined by David’s confidence in meeting the challenge of Goliath. The Israelites were full of fear when the Philistines had a giant who was there number one fighter. They tried to retreat back to there camps. But with faith David came forth and said he will challenge the giant. After reading, I gained confidence and my faith grew stronger. It’s like the giant image was reading my confidence, it came out of the shadow to reveal itself. It was a giant, a scary big man with a sword just like Goliath. I wore my armour of faith and confidence, got into my car, ready to destroy anything blocking my goals, future, and greatness. The giant spoke saying “where do I think am going to, do I want to die today. There is no way for you to pass, go back.” When he saw I wasn’t responding to his threats, the giant started running, approaching me very fast. I at the other hand started my engine, and moved with a full speed. As I was moving, I didn’t feel myself in a car anymore, it was like the the car transformed to a very powerful weapon. As we collided, the giant in my front was no more. I came out of the car giving praise and worship to God my protector.

Lessons:

Don’t let fear steal your hardwork, don’t give up on life when things becomes hard. Keep moving forward and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:8-9, ESV)

Be blessed!

Get Fired Up In Achieving Your Dreams

What drives you to get up in the morning and chase your dreams? Why are you working until 10PM on a weekend? Why are you at home working when you could be out partying or hanging out with friends? It’s easy to get lost in your own head and allow procrastination to put your dreams in a standstill.

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A few quotes to get you fired up…

“Good things happen to those who hustle.” – Anais Nin

“My entire life can be summed up in four word: I hustled. I conquered. ” – Unknown

“The dream is free. The hustle is sold separately.” – Unknown

“You must either modify your dreams or magnify your skills.” – Jim Rohn

Have a blessed and wonderful week guy!!!

I Don’t Want To Take Shortcuts In Life

I don’t want to take shortcuts to achieve my dreams. I want to take the long road; the road full of mistakes and bad choices and moments of despair. The road that seems longer and longer as the days go by and the road that almost makes me give up but forces me to fight harder.

I want the long road because it’s the journey that makes you want the dream even more and it’s the journey that will give your dream meaning and it’s the journey that will truly change your life.

I want a journey that’s full of struggles, obstacles, surprises, heart breaks, laughter, tears and battles. I want scars and bruises. I want signs that I fought for my dream, that I learned how to make it happen, that I didn’t settle and that I survived whatever tried todestroy me.

I don’t want to take shortcuts to find love. I want to fall in love with a lot of wrong people and get heartbroken a few times, because this is how you grow, this how you become wiser and this is when you learn how to be compassionate, how to be kind and how fragile our hearts can be.

I want to have bad examples to learn from, and people I can’t forget along the way, I want to look back on all those I’ve loved and understand why it never lasted and why it never worked out, but more than anything, I want these people to be living proof that I’m still capable of loving, I’m still capable of trying and I’m still capable of forgiving .

I want them to be a sign of my strength, of how I put myself first when I walked away and how I found a way to love myself even if they didn’t love me back. I want them to be memories of who I used to be and who I’m becoming and I want them to be the reason why I’ll be the best possible person for the one I’ll end up with.

I don’t want to take shortcuts to make friends. I want to meet all kinds of people, I want to meet who don’t resemble me at all and learn to accept and love their differences and I want to meet people who are so much like me to know that I’m not alone and that someone out there was sent along to be on the same path with me so we can lean on each other.

I want to talk to strangers about life and experiences and learn from their wisdom and I want to be around people who make the world a better place. People who dream, people who love, people who want to make a difference and people who are trying to make the best out of their lives.

I want to find them after I’ve been around people who let me down, people who made me feel alone, people who judged me because they couldn’t understand me and people who didn’t believe in me, because this is how you learn to distinguish between the real ones and the fake ones and this is how you learn not to let yourself be defined by what other people think of you.

I don’t want to take shortcuts to anything worth having because shortcuts make you miss the beauty of the road, the surprises you see on the way, the people you meet in traffic and the pretty views you drive by when the road is long. Shortcuts make the drive quick and unexciting but the real road is full of surprises, full of bumps, full of incidents that will teach you something and full of moments that can change your life. You don’t learn how to drive so you can take shortcuts; you learn how to drive so you can take the real road, the highway and handle any circumstances you face on the way.

Shortcuts can sometimes lead to dead ends but the long road is endless.

Repost: Pick Yourself Up And Bounce Back After Failure

Success is not always what it seems.

Steven Spielberg had his share of failures and setbacks before becoming successful. So did Walt Disney and Michael Jordan. Arianne Huffington, Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates experienced many ups and downs before they became successful in their respective fields. Henry Ford and Steve Jobs also had a bumpy journey to success. These icons are perfect examples that the road to success is anything but smooth.

Failure is inescapable and inevitable. There is no denying it or escaping it. No one is immune to it. No matter how good you are in your field or area of expertise, there is no guarantee or immunity against failure nor is there a surety that you’ll succeed the first time around or make it every single time.

Failure is bitter no matter how you see it. The sting of a letdown, the agony of experiencing disappointment and the pain of defeat is hard to endure. In plain words, failure sucks. It crushes you, hurts you deeply and leaves your ego bruised. There is no feeling worse than having hit rock bottom. No wonder everyone dreads failure, but keep in mind that no amount of hating or detesting it can help you avoid it.

Failure is a part of life and the success process. J.K Rowling, the bestselling author with the phenomenal rags to riches story, has beautifully summed it with this line: ‘It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all. In which case, you fail by default.’

But, failure doesn’t have to discourage, demoralize you or end your success journey. Looking at it in the right perspective, failure doesn’t mean it’s all over. It just means that you didn’t succeed this time around.

Sometimes you’ll face situations where the odds are stacked up against you. Other times, despite your best efforts and preparation, you will still experience failure. You have to train yourself to be tough, take the hits and be able to deal with it all.

Failure can work for you big time if you look at it the right way. It, by itself, is not detrimental. What is damaging about failure is its paralyzing effect once you let it get to you. Your chances of recovering from failure and regaining lost confidence depend heavily on how you approach it.

Failure doesn’t care about how you feel. It makes no concessions. It only throws two choices in your way: either give up or fight again. It’s up to you to decide and take the call. You can choose to opt for the easy way out, step back and quit or make the hard choice of picking yourself up, getting back on your feet and starting all over again. The right choice will help you steer yourself towards success and transform your life.

Here are 11 ways you can bounce back from failure and get back on track again.

Accept what happened

The first thing you should do after you have failed is to accept it and come to terms with it. Don’t ignore, deny or hide it. You have failed and there’s nothing you can do to reverse it now.

Accept it and know that it’s okay. Failure happens all the time. It’s no big deal if you accept it and decide to do something about it. That’s how you start learning how to overcome failure.

Take total responsibility

Own your failure. There’s no shame in it. Everyone fails sometimes.

Things won’t always pan out the way you want them, but the sole responsibility should always be yours to take. You must be accountable for your actions, choices, and decisions. Never blame others and hold them responsible for your failures. Passing the buck is a sure recipe for disaster.

Analyze what happened

You cannot undo what happened, but, by taking stock of what happened, you can dispassionately assess and gain insight into what went wrong and where. It will also enable you to understand what worked and what didn’t so that you can begin with a whole new approach.

Analyzing can help you in revising your strategy, preparing yourself, working on your weak points and improving your future performance. It will also give you the confidence to bounce back and begin more confidently.

Learn from your mistakes

There is much truth in the words of Henry Ford when he said that the only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. Failure teaches you like none other can teach you. You must learn from your mistakes and ‘heed the lessons of failure’, as Bill Gates put it.

Make the best of your mistakes. Embrace them, learn from them and never repeat them. Identify your weaknesses, work on them and turn them into your strength.

5 Don’t dwell on failure

The worst way to deal with failure is to take it to heart. What has happened has happened. No amount of crying, complaining or regretting can help you overcome it.

So, stop ruminating over it, re-running it in your mind and feeling sorry for yourself. It will not serve any useful purpose and will only take you deeper into sorrow and unhappiness.

Get over it; Move on

Failure is ‘a temporary detour, not a dead-end’, as Denis Waitley, the American bestselling author is once known to have said. Failure only lasts until you succeed again. So, don’t let it become permanent and scar your psyche.

A negative feeling cannot have any positive outcome. It is best forgotten. Wipe the slate clean and make a fresh start. Look ahead, move on, and give yourself a chance to recover and rebuild yourself.

Develop mental toughness to triumph over failure

Setbacks should not dishearten or break you. Failure is not an end in itself so, don’t let it steal your confidence. Train yourself to take bad hits in life. Use failure to learn, grow and better yourself. Maintain a positive attitude in the face of failure. That’s how you can strengthen your mental toughness.

Jump into a positive frame of mind

When you face defeat, you are engulfed by fear and self-doubt. Failure brings with it a dark cloud of negativity. You begin to question yourself and start to doubt your ability. Positive thoughts are the last thing on your mind and that’s how it is. Recovery and rebounding

Recovery and rebounding take time. To facilitate and make the process faster, you must fight all negative thoughts that cross your mind and fill yourself with positivity. Look back and reflect on your own life how you faced past failures and overcame them.

Nothing can inspire you more than your personal experience and your own success story. You know you have dealt with it before and can do it again.

Let go of fear

 When you experience failure, one thing is sure. The worst has struck you, but things can’t go bad from there.

When you fall down, you can’t go further down. So, what is there to fear?

From there, you can only move towards the positive direction. So, get up, gather your broken pieces and start building yourself again. Success is achieved by those who don’t fear failure. Don’t let failure hold you back or stop you from realizing your dreams.

10 Focus on bettering yourself

Everyone faces failure but how you look at it and what you do about it is what makes all the difference. In most cases, failure happens because a person wasn’t able to prepare well, didn’t plan properly or was ill-equipped. It can also be because he’s just plain unlucky.

Disregarding the last one, everything else can be fixed. So, make a list of all the things which you think contributed to your failure and start working on them, one thing at a time. Do everything within your power to rectify, resolve, improve, develop and put right.

11 Begin again

Failure can devastate you if you allow it to. It can also help you rebuild yourself and restart your journey if you choose to.

Failure shouldn’t be the end of your dreams, goals, and aspirations. The power of failure should motivate you to chase your goals, take a fresh start and make a new beginning. Let failure make you stronger, tougher and more resilient so that you don’t just survive it but you’ll bounce back stronger.

Interview Discussion With The CEO of I. Pearls Fashion: Tabitha Bankole

What motivates and drive extraordinary people to do big things? It’s determination. To continue our series on interviewing upcoming young CEO’s, today we have a creative stylist and fashion designer. A lady of charm, elegant, and spruce. Guys welcome Tabitha Bankole “CEO I. Pearls Fashion”.

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and Where were you born?

My name us Bankole Tabitha, the 5th of 6 children. I was born in ogun state but my family relocated to Lagos when I was about 7 years old. I schooled in mbari mbayo school, redeemers high school and redeemers University where I obtained a B.A in history and international relations.

> 2. How was life growing up?

Life was good, had its ups and downs, I wanted to be a doctor growing up but I can’t stand blood… Then I wanted to be a farmer but I can’t hold chicken… Growing up was just growing up, I am still growing.

> 3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into the fashion business?

Fashion was my plan b, agriculture was my plan A, plan A was never going to work so plan B became plan A

> 4. How do you cope running a fast growing business?

Growing yes but I don’t think it’s moving as fast as I want. Generally it is a lot of dedication, hardwork, sweat and tears, but some day I will get there soon.

> 5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?

It is kind of a bit of both, as the owner of a business you carry a lot of responsibilities on your shoulders, a lot more than you bargained for, but it’s a blessing because I have no limitations, i can go as high as I want which is a big blessing.
> 6. What challenge have you had as a business owner?
A lot of challenges, a whole lot I can mention a few… Dealing with fake fabric vendors to satisfying clients, coping with emergency jobs, getting investors.. A whole lot

> 7. In your opinion, what is the most difficult part about fashion and style?

Creativity : as a designer or stylist you have to keep being creative, it is the only way to stay in the game. There are over a million styles out there and a million coming out daily, so you have you keep thinking and being creative to stay in the game.

> 8. What’s the weirdest thing a customer/ staff has ever told you?

Nothing weird yet, I await that moment (laughs)
> 9. Your business confidence is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?
Yes definitely I do, every business owner does, but you just have to keep the faith and keep moving.

> 10. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?

I am working on something new, I will let people know when it is time.

> 11. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

Omg that will be Oprah!

> 12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?

Stay diligent, remain motivated, and keep working hard.

> 13. Aside the unemployment nature of the country, what drove you to switch from an International relations graduate to a fashion business owner?

Unemployment played no role in my business. I always knew I want to be an entrepreneur right from high school, in my university days I sold all sorts, so business has always being a part of me. I still love international relations and some day, I might do something in my line of study

> 14. What advice would you give to unmotivated and non inspired people around the world. Please explain???

Just keep doing what you do, the road is not easy but once you start flying you remain flying, there is no traffic in the air, so just keep trying to ‘take off’ and once you do, you will soar for ever.

> 15. What’s next for Tabitha Bankole?
I am working on my ready to wear line, and doing something new in the bridal industry. Once I am ready, the world will know.

Thank you very much for your time and contribution to our platform. Hope we do this again..

Tabitha Bankole: Sure…

Success

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Not what we have, but what we use;
Not what we see, but what we choose –
These are the things that mar or bless
The sum of human happiness.

The things near by, not things afar,
Not what we seem, but what we are –
These are the things that make or break,
That give the heart its joy or ache.

Not what seems fair, but what is true;
Not what we dream, but good we do –
These are the things that shine like gems,
Like stars in fortune’s diadems.

Not as we take, but as we give,
Not as we pray, but as we live –
These are the things that make for peace,
Both now and after Time shall cease.

Tips On How To Stay Motivated In Life

The dictionary defines motivation as a reason or reasons to act in a particular way. It is a desire to accomplish something. Most times when we want to accomplish a goal we need a willingness to help us improve our habits and get results.

It is easier to become motivated about an activity when you are passionate about it. So ask yourself why you are passionate or dispassionate about an activity. One way to certainly get motivated is to find your passion in a particular activity. When you do, you can be motivated about it. You could also include others in this activity and gain the support you need to keep on going.

Here are some quick tips to help you in this mission. Just follow each one and get on the road to success;

1. HAVE A PURPOSE

What drives people to go further and further is the purpose. For you to understand better, let’s use the example of the big brands. Apple is more than a company that makes computers and cell phones, it is a company that goes against the status quo. It works every day to reinvent how people connect, rather than inventing a new iPhone feature. That’s what motivated the company to go that far.

2. KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOUR GOALS ARE

Once you discover your purpose, it’s time to set goals. The wishes you hope to achieve in 2017. Keep them very clear, written in a piece of paper or on the wall in your office is a good way to stay motivated. When you stick to your goals you will feel renewed to reach them.

3. ESTABLISH STRATEGIES, THEY WILL KEEP YOU MOTIVATED

With your stated goals, establish a way to reach them. For example, if you are looking for a salary increase, you will have to propose outstanding work within your company. This will keep you motivated because you already know which way to take.

4. VALUES AND REWARDS

Create a list of personal skills and consult it whenever you are having insecurities before any challenge. Sometimes we think we cannot do something and that’s poison for motivation. If you are where you are, it is because you have earned it. Never demerit your talent. Each time you reach one of the stated objectives get a reward. Maybe a weekend at the beach or a new car. Setting goals with rewards also works very well to stay motivated.

5. THINK POSITIVE

Lastly, do not let negative thoughts get you. When you have a positive attitude you attract good things and good people who can help you. It’s time to think about it, visualize it, write it down, share it with someone else, take actions to support your thoughts. Now just get ready and get to work. With these tips, your motivation will be incredible this year.

I learn everyday, even a victim sometimes to feel unmotivated and lazy. But whenever I think about my journey, I have to get up and do something. Like my pastor will say, even if it’s to write your goals and plans on a sheet of paper, it’s a step to whatever you want to achieve. If you a blogger and have not yet started yielding value from your platform. Don’t give up, keep moving, persistence is the key. “Rome wasn’t built in a day” To start motivating yourself can be any time to start over as long as you stay motivated.

Don’t forget write down in a piece of paper all the objectives that make your life more complete and your career more successful.

If You Want To Be Successful, It’ll Be Helpful To Give Up and Let Go of These Things

According to Ghanian superstar actress Jackie Appiah, if you want to be successful in life one must adapt these points.

  • Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying to impress others with your lifestyle. Be yourself, live a happy real life and people will love your realness. Trying to impress people only works against us, people sense inauthenticity and we only make ourselves look insecure and unattractive.

  • Give up your resistance to change

There are few constants in life and change is not one of them. Change is necessary for self-development; both mentally and physically if you want to live a happy life.

At our work places, change is crucial if you want to get recognition and promotions. You can get quality education to make your CV rich and get the better understanding of the business world. If nothing changed, everything would become stagnant and never improve.

  • Give up on your fears

Fear is a dangerous intangible thing that can hinder your progress and affect your relationships. There’s no cure for courageousness but if there was a remedy for fear, it is courage. “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself – Roosevelt.”

Replace fear with love and curiosity, and watch yourself grow rich in experience.

  • Give Up Self-Depreciation

Life is beautiful. Regardless of the situation, you are in now, don’t ever think the worst of yourself. Patience is a virtue and it will help you deal with the discomfort in a way that best suits your life and the people around you.

Undervaluing yourself ruins confidence and it will be very difficult to rise from your sorry state. Why don’t you inspire yourself and work hard to achieve your dreams?

  • Give up thinking small

Always think outside the box when it comes to work-related issues, new projects and dealing with people. We are all born genius but others fail to succeed because of their limited thinking. Don’t be over-impressed by your past glories. Try to beat your past records and create a niche for yourself in your respective field.

The floor is opened if you disagree with her.

May Not And Perhaps

In everything you do use positive expressions that feed your mind with thoughts of success.

The power of the right words can make the difference between moving forward to accomplishments or the realization of a dream, or staying stuck where you are, or casting oneself in the role of failure.

How You See Yourself
One thing is for certain, though. If you always see yourself as failing, you are more likely than not to be just that. The power of how you visualize the world is directly connected to how you see yourself and how you speak. If you see the world as full of problems , obstacles or roadblocks to change yourself, start or learn new skills, or to begin the adventure of being your own boss in your own business, you already have allowed defeatism to enter into the equation. In essence, you have set yourself up to fail before you have even started.

What Words Do You Use
For example, if you use the words “I probably will not make enough money to make a living” already has a failure element built into this perception, whereas the words, “I will, perhaps, make enough money to make a living”, give potential a fair opportunity to live on.

An Example
A few months ago, I was visiting a couple that I have known for years. After exchanging the usual pleasantries, they began to tell me about a home business they were going to start. It had to do with catering meals to local special events, old age homes, and small office functions like birthdays, or promotions.

The husband said, “that they might make enough money to cover their costs” while the wife said, “they were going to be able to make enough money to expand their business to their own commercial establishment.” He told me that they had to start small and not go to fast while she argued that they should expand as quickly as possible so they could build up a decent clientele that would help spread the word and to make enough money to expand.
In fact, in just a couple of weeks, they had started to secure a couple of clients. From what I could tell, they appeared to have a great idea, and had at least started when others would have simply talked about it. It seemed they were off and running.

In the last couple of weeks, I stopped in to see them again to see how they were doing with their new catering business. As soon as I walked in, I felt a sense that something was wrong. I asked them both if something had happened? The first to speak was the husband who bluntly and concisely told me that they stopped their catering business. He turned and looked directly at his wife and said’ “I told you we had to go slow, but you wouldn’t listen. Now we have been left with a lot of kitchen utensils and equipment that we don’t need and paid for out of our own pockets”.

She looked at me seemingly hesitant to respond but did so after I asked her exactly what happened. She reluctantly told me that they had been doing quite well and had several new clients. But, they had received a visit in their home by an inspector from the local health authority that wanted to ensure that their kitchen preparation area was up to code. It wasn’t. So, they were told that unless they had a proper food preparation area, they must cease operations.

You Can Defeat Yourself
Unfortunately, the defeatism attitude of the husband ruled the day. It was all about blame, and “I told you so” rather than about how to find a solution to this obstacle. It is a situation where one person had started with an “I doubt it” attitude and where another started with a “We can” attitude. Without both parties being on the same page, there was little hope that a solution would be found, or, even explored.

How big a role did selected words have in defeating this new business venture? I would have to say a great deal. Words are powerhouses of feelings, attitudes and reflect what you believe . If you want to succeed in absolutely anything, choose your words correctly, believe what they mean, and live up to these words daily.

Temper Control

Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”

As he grew, his parents became concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. “Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”

Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.

“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “you get to PULL OUT one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your temper even once.”

Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.

At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”

A most valuable lesson, don’t you think? And a reminder most of us need from time to time. Everyone gets angry occasionally. The real test is what we DO with it.

If we are wise, we will spend our time building bridges rather than barriers in our relationships.

Christian Setting Goals

Being a Christian and setting goals for yourself is not a sin nor a bad thing . The Bible encourages us to plan and set goals for ourselves. However, it’s important to set goals according to God’s will.

Knowing God’s will only comes by spending time with Him (reading His word, praying, fasting and etc).

Biblical Scriptures on Setting Goals
Here are 3 Biblical scriptures encouraging planning and setting goals:

1. “Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry. (Habakkuk 2:2-3).
2. Wise people think before they act; fools don’t—and even brag about their foolishness. (Proverbs 13:16).
3. Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty. (Proverbs 21:5).

Setting Goals That are in Alignment to God’s Will

It’s important to understand that when setting goals, we must set goals according to the will of God for our lives. God has a plan just for you and only His spirit can reveal to you what those plans are. God can reveal those plans to you while reading His Word, prayer, placing a desire within your heart and etc.

On the flip side of the coin, we cannot expect God to bless our goals if they’re not in alignment to His will. It’s imperative to understand that only when our minds are on Christ can we discern the proper course for our lives and know what to set goals for.

Trust in God’s Abilities; Not Your Own

Relying on our own abilities to make things happen is starting off on the wrong track. God will not share His glory with anyone; boosting on your own abilities to get things accomplish is not wise. God shows us in His word to trust in Him and not ourselves.

It is better to trust in God than to put our trust in man – including ourselves (Psalm 118: 8). “Blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence” (Jeremiah 17: 7). “Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you” (Psalm 37: 5).

Nowhere in the 3 scriptures provided nor in God’s word does it tells us to trust in our selves; it directs us to trust in God for everything. God wouldn’t be God if we didn’t need Him (if we could do everything on our own); but being that we do need Him, we need to trust Him.
While setting goals, make a decision to trust in the Lord to bring it into manifestation; trust Him and wait on Him while actively doing your part in preparation for the harvest.

Goals Are Subject to Change by the Leadership of the Holy Spirit

In the mist of all our planning and goal setting, we must understand that our goals are subject to change. Meaning, we shouldn’t hold tightly to plans and goals that we’re disobedient or “deaf” to the voice and instruction of the Holy Spirit.
Often times during our walk with God, goals need to be adjusted. I remember earlier this year (2009) one of my goals had to be adjusted. It wasn’t easy, but it’s better to be obedient to the prompting of the Holy Spirit than to experience the affects of being disobedient.

Start Setting Goals for Yourself

I encourage you to set aside some time and think about where you see yourself a month, 2 months or even a year from now. Where is it you want to be spiritually, financially, socially and so on?

Understand that it’s ok to be a Christian and set goals for yourself ; the bible encourages it. However, remember to set goals that are in alignment to God’s will.
Trust in the Lord’s abilities and not your own and never keep too tight to your goals that you’re unwilling to be lead by the Holy Spirit – even if it goes in the opposite direction of your plans and goals.

In closing, I ask you: what are your goals? What is it you want to have accomplished? Could it be surrendering your life to Christ , establishing a relationship with God, getting a promotion at work, getting out of debt or spending more time with the family?

Whatever goals you have, go ahead and write those things down. Though it tarries, wait for it to manifest because it will surely come to pass (Habakkuk 2:2-3).

Be blessed in Jesus name.