A Quick Way To Bounce Back From Disappointment

The work by Abraham Zaleznik at Harvard proved that the way you respond to disappointment is usually an accurate predictor of how likely you are to achieve great success. If you respond to disappointment by learning the very most from it and then by putting it behind and processing forward, you are very likely to accomplish great things in the course of life.

N:B: Everyone faces difficulties every step of the way. The difference between high achievers and low achievers is simply that high achievers utilize adversity and struggles for growth, while low achievers allow difficulties and adversity to overwhelm them and leave them discouraged and dejected.

So today, choose to face difficulties with a positive attitude and bounce back from disappointment.

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A Short Testimony By Rick Warren (Inspirational Speaker And Author)

This testimony has blown me apart. May I live for Him alone not for the things of this world. Patiently read through….

RICK WARREN’S (BEST selling Author, Inspirational Speaker) Interview…..

Pls Read this:

This is an absolutely incredible short interview with Rick Warren,
‘Purpose Driven Life’ author and
Pastor of Saddleback Church in California.

–In the interview by Paul Bradshaw with Rick Warren,

Rick said:
–People ask me, What is the purpose of life?

–And I respond:
In a nutshell, life is preparation for eternity. We were not made to last forever, and God wants us to be with Him in Heaven.

–One day my heart is going to stop, and that will be the end of my body– but not the end of me.*

–I may live 60 to 100 years on earth, but I am going to spend trillions of years in eternity.
This is the warm-up act –the dress rehearsal. God wants us to practice on earth what we will do forever in eternity..

–We were made by God and for God, and until you figure that out, life isn’t going to make sense.

–Life is a series of problems:
Either you are in one now, OR you’re just coming out of one, OR you’re getting ready to go into another one.

–The reason for this is that God is more interested in your character than your comfort; God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in making your life happy.

–We can be reasonably happy here on earth, but that’s not the goal of life. The goal is to grow in character, in Christ likeness.

–No matter how good things are in your life, there is always something bad that needs to be worked on.

–And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always something good you can thank God for.

–You can focus on your purposes, or you can focus on *your problems:

–If you focus on your problems, you’re going into self-centeredness, which is my problem, my issues, my pain. But one of the easiest ways to get rid of pain is to get your focus off yourself and onto God and others.

–We need to ask ourselves: Am I going to live for possessions? Popularity?

–Am I going to be driven by pressures? Guilt? Bitterness? Materialism? Or am I going to be driven by God’s purposes (for my life)?

–When I get up in the morning, I sit on the side of my bed and say, God, if I don’t get anything else done today, I want to know You more and love You better.

God didn’t put me on earth just to fulfill a to-do list. He’s more interested in what I am than what I do.

–That’s why we’re called human beings, not human doings.

–Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
–Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
–Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
–Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
–Every moment, THANK GOD.

–If you do not pass it on, nothing will happen.

But it will just be nice to pass it on to friends…

Just like I have done now.

How To Love People More And Judge Less

Recently I read a book called “Driven by Eternity” by John Bevere. This book has had an amazing impact in my life and has forever changed the way I love and view the people around me. This revelation could not have come at a more perfect time…

Shortly after reading this book, I saw a girl at a store making fun of a friend of mine for going to church. She went on about how Jesus was his only friend, she then began to mock Jesus. This astounded me!

I grew up in a tough Christian home, or what is known as the Bible Belt so I’ve never experienced someone being so blatantly disrespectful to God! At first I was fired up and wanted to say something to her, but thankfully no words came to mind.

I began to release my anger on ordering what I don’treally need. During my shopping, I began to reflect on the book I just read and I started to pray for her. I realized that she may not have anyone who can speak love and grace into her life and she needed it!

I began to pray that she would encounter God and would serve and glorify Him for the rest of her days on earth, and that she would get to spend eternity with Him.

In Luke 9:51-56 we have a Biblical example of this…

51 As the time approached for him to be taken up to heaven, Jesus resolutely set out for Jerusalem. 52 And he sent messengers on ahead, who went into a Samaritan village to get things ready for him; 53 but the people there did not welcome him, because he was heading for Jerusalem. 54 When the disciples James and John saw this, they asked, “Lord, do you want us to call fire down from heaven to destroy them?” 55 But Jesus turned and rebuked them. 56 Then he and his disciples went to another village.

In verse 54 James and John are so upset by these people’s behavior toward Jesus that they want to have this village and all its people killed and consumed in a fire from Heaven.

How condemning, how harsh, how final. Eternity is a long time.

I know we’ve all had times when we see family, friends or strangers sinning. Whether it be sexual immorality, drunkenness, idolatry, drugs or any other sin issue; our first reaction is judgment. We may say things like;

“I can’t believe they…”
“How could they…”

These statements are the exact opposite of how we should respond. As followers of Christ our only response should be love.

God’s desire is for us to pray for His mercy, the Holy Spirits conviction and for that person’s repentance and salvation. God is the ultimate judge, He needs no help from us. After all it is only a blood-stained cross that separates us from the lost.

Love People More and Judge Them Less

I challenge you to change your thought process. Next time you begin to judge someone or think negatively about them, pray for them instead! Pray for their salvation and for the Holy Spirit to do a work in them. This will change your life and the way you view all of God’s people!

Don’t Do the Devil’s Job for Him

Do you find yourself making it your job to control things? Do you stress out about things that you can’t control? If you’re anything like me, it’s more often than you would like to admit. God reminds me ALL THE TIME that He is the one in control, not me. Can we control everything that goes on in our lives? No. Letting go is something I still work on daily.

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When we take control of our own lives, things are never as good as when we let God have control. If we are controlling our lives, then we are the ones making decisions about our lives instead of aligning ourselves with the will and the word of God.

We can not do the devil’s job for him. The devil wants to come in, cause division in all areas of our lives, in the lives of those around us, and in the Kingdom. If the devil can get us to do his job for him, he can sit back and watch us crumble.

The need for control does the devil’s job for him because:

  1. It causes us stress.
  2. Makes us anxious.
  3. Creates division between us and others.
  4. It delays our obedience to God’s plan.

If we are under stress  and anxious, we are not trusting God. When we trust God and focus on His plan, we will be overwhelmed with a supernatural sense of security and comfort.

At the center of division is the problem of control. Division between people happens when both sides are fighting for control and neither is willing to fight for unity. When we fight for control at the expense of unity, we are doing the devil’s job for him.

“Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall.” Luke 11:17 NIV

Christine Caine says “delayed obedience is still disobedience“. When we take things into our own hands, we are telling God that we think our plan is better. We eventually always come back around to His plan because His plan for us is always better. There is not a better example of this than when I avoided serving in the kids ministry at my church. I used to work as an Assistant Director of a preschool in town. At church I did everything I could to avoid serving in kids since I worked with kids every day during the week. Guess what? I now serve on staff with the cKids team at Celebration Church. By delaying my obedience because I was trying to control things and do things my way. I spent two years avoiding the exact place God wanted to place me.

Here are 4 ways conquer your need for control:

  1. Align yourself with God’s word and His will.
  2. Take your issues to God first. When you do take it to another person, seek to tell them what God did in your life instead of seeking validation in your need to control things.
  3. Pray. Ask God to help you give full control over to Him in all areas of your life.
  4. Give grace to yourself and others.

What have you tried to have control over that didn’t turn out well? The good news is, it is never to late to hand it all over to God! Do not take on things you were never meant to carry. God is waiting and willing to take it back.

Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible.

Richard M. Devos

You do not believe what you don’t see; you see what you already believe. You actually view your world through a lens of beliefs, attitudes, prejudices, and pre- conceived notions. You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.

Proverbs 23:7 says that as a man “thinketh in his heart, so is he.” This means that you always act on the outside based on your innermost beliefs and convictions about yourself.

In Mathew 9:29, Jesus says ” According to your faith, {it will be done} unto you.” This is another way of saying that your intense beliefs become your realities. They determine what happens to you.

All improvement in your life comes from changing your beliefs about yourself and your possibilities. Personal growth comes from changing your beliefs about what you can do and about what is possible for you. Would you like to double your income? Of course you would! Here is the question: Do you believe that is possible? How would you like to triple your income? Do you believe that is possible as well?

Whatever your level of skepticism, let me ask you a question. Since you started your first job, haven’t you already doubled or tripled your income? Aren’t you earning vastly more than you earned when you started? Haven’t you already proven to yourself that it is possible to double and triple your income? And what you have done before, you can do again probably over and over if you just learn how. You simply have to believe that it is possible.

According to Napoleon Hill, he said “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

If you have any other contribution to this, please feel free to comment.

Let perseverance finish its work.

Every day holds a series of conflicts between the right way and the easy way. On a daily basis, in almost everything you do, you will be presented with the right way, and the easy way. Rarely do these two options have the same result. Every day your strength will be tested through your choices. Your strength is a byproduct of struggle; you must do what others don’t to achieve what others won’t; meaning, you must decide to take the right way, instead of the easy way.

The strength you have at this point in your life is a product of your willingness to struggle in the past. Your strength can be expanded and further developed through perseverance. Perseverance means to be steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success. No matter how difficult the conflicts that you face may become, in order to continue to grow in strength you must preserver by making the right choice, not the easy choice! James 1:4 says, “Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

In order to grow and become stronger; you must never allow yourself to reach a point where you feel you have ‘arrived’ or a place where you feel that you have everything together. Don’t allow yourself to get to place where you feel that the easy choice has become acceptable for your life. You must continue to push yourself. Be okay with allowing conflict and difficulties in your life. In every season of life and in every day you must always hold the desire to grow and become stronger than the person you are right now. Always be persevering regardless of the comfort you may have to give up during the process.

Making the right choice is hardly ever the same as taking the easy way to get through a situation. Sometimes the right choice can even be draining. When I am having a difficult time pressing on and moving in the right direction, this scripture always helps to motivate me, so I wanted to share it in this post:

1 Corinthians 9:24-27
Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.

Today I encourage you to persevere through whatever it is that you may be going through. Allow yourself to struggle to do the right thing; don’t just take the easy way out. In the end, you will be rewarded and you will grow stronger. Never underestimate the important of little victories in doing the right thing. No matter how big or small something may seem to be, make the right choice; it will encourage you when something big comes around to make the same right choice. I encourage you today; no matter what season of life you are in, remember to press on. Make the right choices in your life today, weigh everything you are deciding on against the Word of God. Let perseverance finish its work in you!