- Each new day is an opportunity to write a new story; a blank page to start over and begin writing a new chapter. You have pages to fill with your own words. You have sentences to live by and characters to support your story. Make sure you write a story that you love, a story you are proud of, a story your children and grandchildren will want to read over and over again, and make sure you write an authentic one, an original one, a story that reflects your life, your dreams and your desires – not a copy of someone’s life or a story someone else has written for you. Here is how to write the best story of your life.
- Start by building the right characters. Your characters are the ones that make your story come to life, and they are an integral part of your journey. Pick the right characters, the ones that will stick with you till the end of the story, the ones that will support you when your story is falling apart, the ones who will fill all your pages and chapters, and the ones who will help you write a happy ending.
- Find the purpose of your story. What are you trying to tell the world? What are you here for? And what story do you want people to read about you? Find a meaning to your story that makes you come alive and inspires you to wake up every day. Find a meaning that keeps your story interesting and keeps you interested , find a meaning to fight for, live for and die for.
- Don’t let defeat put an end to your story. Every great story has periods of despair, failures and defeats, but this is what makes it even more compelling and this is what makes it even more substantial. This is the climax of your story and the turning point. This is when you start changing and your whole story changes. It now becomes about how you handle defeat, how you rise up after you fall down, and how you change the direction of your life after failure. A victorious ending requires a series of lost battles.
- Pick an exciting theme. The theme is one of the most fundamental components of your story. Pick a theme that ends each chapter with hope, faith, and a desire to make tomorrow better. A theme that makes your character stronger in every chapter, a theme that makes people root for you and want to see you make it to the end. Pick a positive theme, a humorous tone maybe, or a theme that depicts the strength in struggle and the beauty in vulnerability.
- Love is the essence of your story. Your story will be very weak without the power of love. You have to write a story of love and passion. Love is what keeps the story moving forward. It could be a lover, a friend, your work, your parents, your children, God or the love of the journey, the love of the unknown, or even your struggle to find love and define it. No matter how you tackle it, love is the crux of your story.
- Don’t worry so much about the ending. Pay more attention to the details of your story and the way it’s unfolding. The best writers often don’t know how their story will end, they just start writing and the ending comes to them after they’ve shaped the main plot. If you focus too much on the ending, you might miss out on the whole story.
- Give it a spectacular title. The title is what summarizes your story in a few words. It’s what makes people want to read your story. It’s your choice how you want people to perceive your story. Each day you make a choice as to whether the title ends with a question mark, a period, or an exclamation point.
1. Good job.
We should give ourselves a pat on the back for the things we are trying to accomplish every day and the people we are trying to become. Even if we’re not there yet, at least we are trying and we deserve to give ourselves credit from time to time.
2. There will always be bumps on the road and that’s okay.
We will always be faced with obstacles but that’s how we learn how to really drive and which roads to avoid. Nothing will ever go exactly the way we want them to but this doesn’t mean that we are headed in the wrong direction. Sometimes a change in direction leads to a better way.
3. Life is not a race.
We can’t keep competing with everyone like it’s a race and we need to get to the finish line first. We should just run as fast as we can or as slow as we can as long as we keep looking ahead and moving forward. We shouldn’t be concerned about winning because life is not a race.
4. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
If we stop doing things because we’re scared, we won’t be doing much. Fear is part of life and the only way to get over it is to just go ahead and do what scares us – especially if it will bring us closer to the life we want to live.
5. Some people are not meant to stay.
We will meet a lot of people who will not stay in our lives no matter how much we want them to. Instead of trying to find out why they can’t stay, accept that this is how life works sometimes. Maybe life wants to replace them with better people or maybe you just need to learn how to be on your own for a while.
6. The depth of your love today is the depth of your wound tomorrow.
Before we recklessly give our hearts to people and invest in them, we need to know if they are really worth the pain and the suffering that may come with loving them. Some people are worth suffering for and some people are not. We have to pick our battles wisely.
7. We may not solve all our problems but we can change our mindset.
We can’t control everything that happens to us; we can only control the way we respond to them. As long as we manage our mindset, we will be able to cope with certain difficulties better and we will make our lives a bit easier.
8. Do not settle.
Don’t stay at a job you hate, don’t marry someone you don’t love, don’t stay friends with people who belittle you. Life can be good if we choose not to settle for the things that impede our happiness.
9. Time heals everything.
Eventually our pain will go away, our mistakes will be forgiven, our hearts will mend and our minds will find peace.
10. We are never alone.
We are never alone in our struggles or alone in our lives. We will always find people who want to be there for us and support us and people who genuinely love us. Sometimes we think we are alone, but that’s just our minds tricking us into thinking that life is harder than it’s supposed to be.
Maybe one day we’ll know why certain people have left us and why they didn’t come back. One day we will be able to connect the dots and understand how the pieces we didn’t understand all found their way to fit into the puzzle of our lives and complete the picture.
Maybe one day we’ll know why destiny keeps bringing certain people back into our lives or why their lessons had to be learned over and over again so we can finally know it by heart.
Maybe those people are meant to be a bigger part of our future and they keep reappearing to remind us that their part in our story is not over.
Maybe one day we’ll know why we left certain jobs and why we were forced to change directions. Maybe we were meant to change the world and our jobs weren’t going to make that happen. Maybe we are free spirits who are destined to roam the world freely without being caged in an orbit of predictability.
Maybe one day we’ll know why we didn’t get along with our parents or our relatives. Maybe we were meant to go out and make new friends and find people who teach us that we don’t have to share the same blood to count as family. Maybe we were meant to get lost and wander to find where we truly belong – to find a home we don’t want to escape from.
Maybe we were meant to fail and be laughed at to learn how to shield ourselves from the stones that keep getting thrown our way.
Maybe we needed to learn how to walk on pebbles so we can walk slowly and discover that there is more than one path along the way.
Maybe we were meant to be laughed at so we can understand that one person’s tragedy is another person’s comedy.
Maybe we were meant to fall in love with the wrong people to learn that love doesn’t discriminate. That the heart doesn’t know the rules or the terms or the social conduct. It just feels and jumps recklessly into anything that moves it. Maybe we need to learn that love will always be inexplicable, something of the Gods, something that calls us to do things that are unfamiliar to us. Something that makes us believe in magic – a dream that meddles in the nightmares of reality.
Maybe we were meant to sail away from the shore to learn the methods of surviving alone, to learn that loneliness won’t kill us and solitude can be our friend. Maybe we need to disappear to see who will care to find us, who will care to bring us back to life, who will wonder about us and who will wish we never find our way back.
Maybe we needed to be scared so we can understand that we will never be fearless but we can be courageous and we can be brave. Maybe one day we will know if our fear is merely a reflection of our own insecurities or fear of our own greatness . Maybe one day we will know why we were so afraid to shine.
Maybe one day we will know why we just can’t be happy, why we are always searching for something to stress us out so we can feel like we are part of society, why we always have to feel ‘useful’ to be accepted, why we always want more than what we have and why we feel like it’s a crime to just exist – just be – bounded by our nothingness.
Maybe one day we will look back and life will make sense, maybe one day we will stop asking so many questions and let the answers find us. Maybe one day we will know for sure why we wasted so much trying to get a grasp of life that we forgot that we are here to live it – not understand it.
1. He is listening. He is listening to your prayers, your fears, your pain and your silence. He is listening to what you are asking for and in time he will either give you what you were asking for or something much better.
2. He is making you stronger. With every unanswered prayer, with every disappointment, with every hurdle, with every loss, he is making you stronger. He is giving you the strength you need so you can be strong for others. So you can be a strong mother, a strong father, a strong wife, a strong husband, a strong daughter, a strong son, and a strong friend.
3. He has a better plan for you. He knows what’s better for you, he knows what you
need not what you want . He is planning the perfect timing for your life. The timing of your love, the timing of your career, and the timing of your miracle.
4. He will answer your questions. He will show you why you didn’t get that job, or why it didn’t work out with that person. He will show you why you lost a loved one, why he broke your heart or why he tested you so much. He will make things clear to you and you will thank him for it.
5. He will heal you. He will heal your broken heart, he will ease your restless mind, and he will solve the mystery of your puzzled thoughts. He wants you to be patient but he will always fix you.
6. He wants you to trust him. He wants you to have faith in him, he wants you to leave the big things – the uncontrollable things up to him, he wants you to believe in him, he wants you to go back to him when you think you have no one and he wants you to trust that he will provide for you when you lose everything. He will always rescue you before you drown.
7. He wants you to know you’re never alone. He is always there with you; when you’re scared or confused, he is there with you. When you’re afraid of the dark, he is there with you. When you are crying late at night and you think no one can hear you, he can hear you. When you’ve given up on your life and on love and think you have no one, you have him. No matter where you are, he is always with you and he wants you to know that he is enough.
8. He wants you to grow. He wants to you to change, he wants you to learn things the hard way, he wants you to evolve, he wants you step outside of your comfort zone, he wants you to lose your way so you can find him and find yourself. He wants you to be wise and strong and he wants you to prosper.
9. He wants you to know he loves you. He loves you more than you know, he may be hard on you sometimes but he loves you, he may not give you everything you asked for but he loves you. No matter how many mistakes you’ve made or how many times you got angry with him, he still loves you, he forgives you and he is turning your life around. He doesn’t love you for your money or your looks or your status, he loves you for you. God loves you more in a moment than anyone could in a lifetime.
10. He wants you to believe in miracles. He is bringing you small miracles so you can believe in the big miracles. In every dream of yours that come true, in every pleasant surprise you get, in every enlightening situation you encounter, in every person who moved you, in every person you loved – he’s making miracles happen. He’s a God of magic, wonder and hope and he wants you to believe that.
Credit to one of my mentors Rania Naim
We’re always thanking our friends and family for their support and the incredible things they do for us but we sometimes forget that we should thank ourselves as well for the things we go through and how at certain times we make it completely on our own. Here are some of the things you should thank yourself for:
1. For trying to be a better person. Thank yourself for trying to be a better friend, or a better partner or better to your parents. Thank yourself for going out of your way to help someone. Thank yourself for going the extra mile for a friend who truly needed your support.
2. For not giving up. During your finals, during stressful work weeks and during difficult times. Thank yourself for pulling yourself together and enduring the anxiety and the pain that you had to go through. Thank yourself for making it out of the storm in one piece.
3. For taking care of yourself. Thank yourself for trying to take care of yourself first before you can take care of others. Thank yourself for the times you had to focus on yourself and did a great job. Thank yourself for understanding that you have to always work on yourself because this is the person you will truly live with forever.
4. For trying to achieve your dreams even if they didn’t happen yet. Thank yourself for trying to go to school again, for trying to ask for a raise, for trying to look for another job, for trying to move to a new country. Thank yourself for the awareness you have that you need to dream bigger and do better.
5. For letting someone you loved go. Thank yourself for letting them be, for moving on even when it was hard, for trying to forget them when you didn’t want to and for doing your best not to contact them when it was all you ever wanted. Thank yourself for protecting your own heart.
6. For the moments of weakness. Thank yourself for giving yourself permission to eat that cheeseburger or skip the gym for a few weeks. Thank yourself for telling someone how you truly felt. Thank yourself for knowing that you are not perfect but there are perfect moments where you just have to be unapologetically you.
7. For making mistakes. Thank yourself for the decisions that were not so great, it means you’re learning, it means you’re evolving and it means you’re growing wiser and stronger. Thank yourself for not allowing your mistakes to define you.
8. For your kindness. Thank yourself for doing something selflessly, for giving something without expecting anything in return, for sharing your experiences or stories with people who could benefit from it and for being kind to yourself when the world is being hard on you.
9. For embracing the chaos of life. Thank yourself for keeping a smile on your face when you’re sad, for waking up and participating in life when you feel the weight of the world crashing down on you, for going out when all you want to do is stay home and for believing that things will get better even though you’re not sure. Thank yourself for trying to live your life – no matter how unpredictable and messy it can be.
10. For all the things you do that make you proud. For the little things and the big things. For the things that make you happy and the things that make you look forward to tomorrow. For the beautiful things you do that go unnoticed, for the sincere prayers you say to the ones you love, for the compromises you make, for the risky chances you take and for the silly things you do to make people smile. Thank yourself for any moment that made you grateful to be alive and made you love yourself a little bit more.
Life as they say is not easy. But each day you try your best to make it more suitable and easy for yourselves. Don’t forget to thank yourself each day for not giving up on life.
It is a fact of life that we will experience pain time and time again – pain changes people. It may take a while for the pain to leave your body and your heart or it may be engraved inside of you forever, but I realized that every time I experienced unbearable pain, I changed significantly – changed for the better. There is something about going through a lot of pain that makes you want to be a good human being.
Here’s why pain can make you a better person:
1. It makes you compassionate. When you go through a lot of pain, you become more empathetic; you don’t want others to go through what you’ve been through and you don’t wish the pain you experienced upon anyone. It teaches you how to be kind and to never underestimate someone else’s pain just because you haven’t gone through it yourself.
2. It makes you wiser. The little things don’t bother you anymore, you don’t sweat the small stuff like you used to; you look at the bigger picture instead. Pain makes you look at life differently and it makes you understand the essence of life.
3. It makes you cherish your relationships . Pain makes you value your relationships more, you realize that you have people you can lean on in times of trouble and people who genuinely love you and are happy to support you. Pain makes you strengthen the bond between you and your closest friends and family.
4. It makes you stronger. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. After the storm has passed, pain makes you a lot stronger and better prepared to face difficult situations. Pain is sometimes the training you need to pass the tests of life.
5. It makes you re-evaluate your life. It makes you reconsider your career, your health, your finances and your relationships. It can help you go in another direction or find a meaningful purpose for your life. Pain makes you stop and question a lot of things and try to find answers and these answers can change your life.
6. It can be a major source of inspiration. Your pain can be your main inspiration for a new project, for a new charity, for a new community event and if you’re an artist, it will be the catalyst for the art you produce. Most masterpieces were painted strokes of pain.
7. Your love becomes stronger. You love more deeply and you are more open to being vulnerable. Even though pain makes you stronger, it makes you softer too. It makes you want to give love and ease someone else’s pain. Your love becomes pure and more profound.
8. It makes you fight for happiness. When you’re in pain, you look for waysto feel better and ways to be happy. You do things you never thought you would just to put a smile on your face. It makes you active in the pursuit of happiness.
9. It makes you more spiritual. When you can’t understand why certain things happen to you, you tend to look for answers outside of yourself. You try to understand God and the universe. You try to comprehend the divine laws and you start to slowly believe that there must be a bigger reason for your pain – you become more in touch with your spirituality and you pay more attention to it.
10. Your scars make you beautiful. The scars no one can see, the scars that hold stories of pain and survival, the scars that show that you’ve fought for something or loved someone, the scars that indicate that you have been bruised but you’re still walking – your scars make you different, they make you a human being with imperfections and they make you special .
1. You will have a lot of haters.
No matter how politically correct or general you are trying to be, there are people out there who enjoy putting others down. They enjoy hating as much as they enjoy letting others know that their work doesn’t mean a thing. You’d think if someone doesn’t like something, they could just ignore it instead of reading it or seeing it and taking the time to write paragraphs mocking your work. But this will somehow be the fuel you need to keep creating and keep getting better.
2. People are a lot more sensitive than you think.
If your art is emotional; you will provoke some people. The simplest thing can really trigger a lot of emotions or send out the wrong message and you must learn how not to dwell on it.
3. You will realize that creativity is another world.
It’s really a world of its own, as a writer, I get lost in my writing every day, I get lost in my ideas, I get lost in how the words flow together and how one word can give meaning to a whole paragraph. I get lost in the art of writing – I get wonderfully lost that sometimes I really don’t know how I wrote something or all how all the pieces of it came together the way it did.
4. Heartfelt comments will be the air you breathe.
As much as you will piss a lot of people off, you will also touch so many hearts and in my opinion this is what makes it all worthwhile. Knowing your art moved someone, they helped someone find a way, they touched someone’s heart, they made someone get over their heartbreak and they made someone feel less alone. This is the best and most powerful reward you get from creative living, you get to connect with so many amazing people and you all inspire each other.
5. You have to be fearless.
If you really want to make it as an artist, you have to be completely fearless. You will always be afraid that someone else already did it better, or that you won’t be taken seriously, or that you will be too exposed, or that people will think you are a fool or that you will embarrass your friends and family. The list is endless and boring . You have to give it all you’ve got because it’s what you’re passionate about and it’s what you know and it’s what you love. Creative living requires courage. Taking the road less traveled will never be easy but it will always take you to extraordinary places not many people have been.
6. Art is not something you learn.
Creative people, artists, writers or musicians don’t really need schooling to be considered as one. A lot of Nobel prize winners and Oscar winners never even got past high school. If you are working on your craft with love and devotion and creating something that at least a few thousand people can connect with and relate to then you are already an artist – you don’t need a fancy degree to affirm that for you.
7. You will have self-loathing moments.
You will have moments when you hate the stuff you’ve written or produced and you want it to take it back, you will have moments when you wish you would’ve never published this piece – but this is part of the creative living. It’s better to produce something that is not that great than to produce nothing at all — it’s also part of growing as an artist. As long as you are creating something; you’re already ahead of the pack. Good enough is better than nothing.
8. Your love life might suffer.
Most days it will – sometimes it will take away the air of mystery if someone is getting to know you because your whole life can be revealed to them by the click of a button and sometimes it will scare people off because they don’t want their lives to end up somewhere in your work. This goes back to being fearless enough and having the courage to be an open book or exposed. In a way it filters those who don’t like you for the real you.
9. Self-discipline is essential.
People think that if you work creatively that you can be a sloppy mess with zero time management skills. This is one of the worst misconceptions about artists; we do have more flexibility but you still have to discipline yourself to prepare your craft, fix it, re-do it and find more inspiration. Creative living means less sleep and more work because it will become your priority and it represents you.
10. It’s a life-time commitment.
At the end of day creative living issomething you commit yourself to. You commit to keep creating regardless of the results, you commit yourself to finding new sources of inspiration, talking to different people, visiting new placed and you sometimes commit to temporary isolation – isolation with your thoughts and your ideas. You spend your life promising your art that you will never give up on it, take it for granted or stop loving it.
We sometimes let our ego lead our lives until it somehow destroys it. There’s a big difference between confidence and ego. Confidence is healthy , ego is destructive. There’s a famous expression: ‘Too much ego will kill your talent,’ but it will not only kill your talent, it will kill you career, your relationships and your happiness. Too much ego can actually ruin your life. Here’s why:
1. It makes you less compassionate. It makes you believe the worst in people and get defensive most of the time. It blinds you from seeing the bigger picture or giving the benefit of the doubt. It makes you think that people are personally attacking you instead of trying to understand where they’re coming from.
2. It pushes people away from you. It may attract a few wrong people but it pushes the right ones away from you. People want to be around those who lift them up, not those who tear them down or make others feel like they’re so much better than them. Too much ego can be a conversation killer and can get in the way of getting ahead in your career and your relationships.
3. It stops you from growing. Too much ego makes you stubborn and when you’re stubborn you don’t listen to other people or take their advice – people who may know better than you and are probably more experienced. Your ego could potentially hinder your success and you could end up getting lost if you keep rejecting any type of guidance you get.
4. It blocks love from coming into your life. When you don’t allow yourself to be vulnerable or risk facing rejection, you don’t take many risks or chances on love — chances that could turn your life around. When you’re always waiting for others to come to you, you’re going to miss out on amazing people or even worse alienate them.
5. It makes you irrational. When all you want to do is win or prove others wrong, you start acting in ways that are not very diplomatic or rational. You will always say and do things that you might regret if all you want to do is prove you’re right instead of trying to understand things from a logical standpoint.
6. It makes you competitive in an unhealthy way. It could make you want to harm others so you can be on top. It makes you not wish the best for someone else and it will make you less content with your life when you want to take what others have.
7. It makes you critical. Too much ego makes you criticize every one and complain about everything because they’re not up to your standards. That kind of attitude will not make you enjoy anything in life because you will never be satisfied if you keep trying to point out what’s wrong with the world.
8. It makes you greedy. Because you always want more and you want to win bigger. It’s good to be ambitious but when you become greedy you can take away everything you’ve ever worked hard for and you will never appreciate what you have when you have it.
9. It only adds more stress. When you’re always trying to be above everyone else and take everything as a direct hit to your self-worth, you will probably not be sleeping very well and you probably won’t have any peace when you’re always frustrated and anxious.
10. It kills your happiness. Your ego can take away so many good things in your life and pushes many loved ones away from you. Your ego will affect the way you live your life and you won’t be able to deal with the disappointments or the hardships in a healthy way; and disappointments are a part of life.
Gaining control of your ego is the best thing that you can do for yourself or else it will continue getting in the way of your relationships, your career and your life.
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Sometimes God gives us hardships so we can turn to him and get closer to him; sometimes he just wants to remind us that life is fleeting but he is eternal and that is why we should always go back to him.
I remembered when I was wandering in the wilderness, it was not a funny experience. I disciplined myself to fast, pray and read inspirational books. I learnt that I am nothing without God, I can’t do anything without Him. Putting God in everything I do as turned things around in my life. Both the ones have seen and experienced, and the ones am still expectant of.
Beneath are some ways to revolve back to Him..
1. When you’re heartbroken. Ask him to heal you, ask him to help you repair yourself again, ask him to give the strength to move on, the wisdom to understand, the grace to forgive and the courage to try again. Because he’s the only who knows your heart and he is the only one who knows how to mend it.
2. When you’re confused about life. Ask him to guide you, ask him to help you find the way, ask him for a map, ask him to lead you because he is the only one who can, because he is the only one who really knows where you’re going and he is the only one who has the fuel to keep you moving.
3. When you don’t feel like you’re good enough. Ask him why you’re still here, ask him if you’re special, and ask him for reassurance, confidence and faith . Ask him because he wants to let you know how special you are, ask him because he knows your day is coming soon and ask him because he will bring it to you sooner than you think.
4. When you’re lonely. Talk to him, tell him your problems, cry to him, tell him to stay by your side, tell him you need him and tell him to tuck you in bed and help you sleep. Talk to him even if you’re not saying a word because he is listening to your silence and he is watching your tears and he will make you smile again.
5. When you’re scared. Tell him to give you courage, tell him to take the fear away, tell him to silence the voices in your head, tell him that you’re afraid but you’re willing to take the risk and ask him for strength to handle the consequences. Tell him to make you fearless because he knows you have it in you and he knows how to bring it out.
6. When you’re tired of failing. Ask him to give you peace of mind, ask him to give you the faith you need to trust him and trust that this is all for a reason, that he is putting you through this for a bigger and better purpose and that he is not going to let you down. Ask him for patience to wait for the answers.
7. When you’re not sure if he’s listening. Ask him to remember you, ask him to give you reassurance, ask him for a sign and ask him for a miracle, because he wants you to believe in miracles and he wants you to witness them.
8. When you’re giving up. Ask him to give you hope, ask him to let you see the light at the end of the tunnel, ask him for the silver lining and ask him to give you power to keep fighting your battles until you win the war. Because he wants to see you win and he wants you to be victorious.
9. When you’ve lost someone you loved. Get closer to him, it’s okay to question why this happened to you but ask him to be your friend, ask him to be there for you, ask him for the reason he took something you loved away and then trust him; trust his plan and trust his timing, trust that he will replace what you’ve lost with something even bigger and better and something that never even crossed your mind.
10. When people are making fun of your dreams. Tell him that you think this is your calling, that this is your passion, and that this is what makes you feel alive. Ask him to make it happen, to make it easier, to make it less cruel and ask him to cover your ears from all those who are laughing at you, because he wants to make your dreams come true but he wants to make sure that you’re up for the challenge and that you will fight for them.
I don’t want to take shortcuts to achieve my dreams. I want to take the long road; the road full of mistakes and bad choices and moments of despair. The road that seems longer and longer as the days go by and the road that almost makes me give up but forces me to fight harder.
I want the long road because it’s the journey that makes you want the dream even more and it’s the journey that will give your dream meaning and it’s the journey that will truly change your life.
I want a journey that’s full of struggles, obstacles, surprises, heart breaks, laughter, tears and battles. I want scars and bruises. I want signs that I fought for my dream, that I learned how to make it happen, that I didn’t settle and that I survived whatever tried todestroy me.
I don’t want to take shortcuts to find love. I want to fall in love with a lot of wrong people and get heartbroken a few times, because this is how you grow, this how you become wiser and this is when you learn how to be compassionate, how to be kind and how fragile our hearts can be.
I want to have bad examples to learn from, and people I can’t forget along the way, I want to look back on all those I’ve loved and understand why it never lasted and why it never worked out, but more than anything, I want these people to be living proof that I’m still capable of loving, I’m still capable of trying and I’m still capable of forgiving .
I want them to be a sign of my strength, of how I put myself first when I walked away and how I found a way to love myself even if they didn’t love me back. I want them to be memories of who I used to be and who I’m becoming and I want them to be the reason why I’ll be the best possible person for the one I’ll end up with.
I don’t want to take shortcuts to make friends. I want to meet all kinds of people, I want to meet who don’t resemble me at all and learn to accept and love their differences and I want to meet people who are so much like me to know that I’m not alone and that someone out there was sent along to be on the same path with me so we can lean on each other.
I want to talk to strangers about life and experiences and learn from their wisdom and I want to be around people who make the world a better place. People who dream, people who love, people who want to make a difference and people who are trying to make the best out of their lives.
I want to find them after I’ve been around people who let me down, people who made me feel alone, people who judged me because they couldn’t understand me and people who didn’t believe in me, because this is how you learn to distinguish between the real ones and the fake ones and this is how you learn not to let yourself be defined by what other people think of you.
I don’t want to take shortcuts to anything worth having because shortcuts make you miss the beauty of the road, the surprises you see on the way, the people you meet in traffic and the pretty views you drive by when the road is long. Shortcuts make the drive quick and unexciting but the real road is full of surprises, full of bumps, full of incidents that will teach you something and full of moments that can change your life. You don’t learn how to drive so you can take shortcuts; you learn how to drive so you can take the real road, the highway and handle any circumstances you face on the way.
Shortcuts can sometimes lead to dead ends but the long road is endless.
We have to ignore the apocalyptic voices in our head that take us to hell instead of heaven. We have to ignore the way they frighten us and the way they belittle us to believe that we’re not good enough. We have to try to shove them aside when they attack us and we have to trust ourselves more even if we’re unsure of ourselves. We have to ignore our uncertainty and just keep moving.
- We have to ignore the critics.
We have to ignore their opinions and their advice, we have to ignore their rules and their limitations and we have to ignore the toxic words they use to describe us and the poisonous arguments they feed us about why we shouldn’t do this or why we shouldn’t follow that. We have to ignore their experiences because it is not our own and we have to ignore their excuses because that’s how they justify living their lives and we need to find our own justifications.
- We have to ignore those who left us behind.
We have to ignore their promises, the plans we made for the future, the secrets they shared with us and the way they looked at us. We have to ignore these enchanting moments because they’re no longer happening. They chose to take it all back and we have no other choice but to leave them behind too, because fighting for them might not bring them back and even if it did, they will run away again. We have to ignore those who didn’t appreciate us and we have to ignore the way they made us feel about ourselves.
- We have to ignore some of our questions.
We have to ignore the dreadful questions we ask ourselves every night: ‘Why me? When will I be happy? What do I want? Why am I still here?’
Sometimes we have to ignore these tantalizing questions and trust that in time we will find the answers and that the answers may not always be what we wanted.
It’s hard to ignore the things that bother us but it’s also harder to live with all these burdens, they weigh us down if we pay too much attention to them.
We’re always faced with two choices; either we carry those burdens with us until they kill us or ignore them so we can live.
Most people label you by what you wear, the kind of car you drive, what job you have and how much money you make. Often these labels are shallow and impermanent, but this is how society likes to define us and consequently, this is how we sometimes define ourselves. But what we should really be labeled by; is who we are and who we’re trying to be.
You should be labeled by your pain. The hardships you endured, how gravely you suffered, the heartbreak that left you empty, the wounds that scarred your veins and the tragedies that became part of your story.
You should be labeled by you strength. How you survived your pain, how you healed or how you’re still healing, how you’re going to fight through the bad days and how you’re overcoming your own fears.
You should be labeled by your kindness. By how giving you are and how big your heart is, by how forgiving you are and how compassionate you can be. By how far you’re willing to go for those you love without expecting anything in return and how much you’re willing to compromise for them.
You should be labeled by your love. How you can do anything for the one you love and how supportive you can be to your closest friends. How protective you are and how loyal you are and how you continue to love even after you’ve been hurt.
You should be labeled by your dreams. What you really want to be doing, how you want to change the world, how you want to change lives or change your life and how you want to be remembered long after you’re gone. You should be defined by your wishes and your dreams not by what you do to make ends meet.
You should be labeled by your hidden beauty. The beauty that shines from the inside, the beauty that has got nothing to with makeup or pretty outfits. The beauty that people can only see when they know you and discover the treasures you hold within.
You should be labeled by your soul. The energy you exude, the way you make people feel, the way you help them see the best in themselves and the way you try to make someone’s life better. How you see God, how you trust the universe and how you connect with the world around you.
You should be labeled by all the things that touched your heart and the things that blew your mind. You shouldn’t be labeled by the things that make you conform, you should be labeled by the things that make you stand out.
If you follow what society brings, you will be lost in the wind. Be true to yourself and brand it hard
You seek someone’s help, you read articles and books to find answers, you talk to friends and family, you go to a therapist so they can help you make decisions, help you lead a better life and help you quiet the endless cycle of confusion in your head, but at the end of the day you’ll still be the one who needs to make these decisions, after all is said and done, it will be your call. No one else will make them for you when it’s time to take action.
Because even if the whole world told you not to do something and a little voice inside of you whispered that you should, you will end up following that voice.
Here’s the funny thing about human beings, they think they don’t know the answers and sometimes they really don’t but almost everyone knows how to find it or where to find it, almost everyone knows where to start and almost everyone knows what needs to be done, but almost everyone wants confirmation that they’re on the right track, they want someone to tell them they’re right and they want someone to make the decision a little easier.
Because that’s all what we really want; someone to make the decision easier instead of making the actual decision, someone to make us feel like we’re not alone.
But when people don’t agree with us or our decisions, we tend to doubt ourselves and we stop making decisions based on how we feel or what we know and make decisions based on what the people who care about us tell us to do, because sometimes they’re right and sometimes we can take ourselves to hell.
But isn’t making decisions based on someone else a hell of its own? Isn’t living an inauthentic life the worst decision you could possibly make?
I guess what makes decisions easier is that they’re our own, when you make the right decision, you get a sense of pride and ownership that you knew what was right for you and when you make the wrong one, it’s easier to move on with no regrets because it was also all you.
Because if you give the right to choose or the right to decide to someone else, you’re giving away the right to live.
Only you can make the decision to quit or try harder, only you can make the decision to stay or leave, only you can make the decision to love or hate, only you can make the decision to hold on or let go and only you can make the decision to control your life or let others control you.
Decisions can be many things; they can be hard or easy, rash or calculated, temporary or forever and they can also change, but the one thing that shouldn’t change is who makes these decisions.
And that should always be YOU.
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” — Alexander Graham Bell
1. They are tools of fate forcing you to change your direction and find other doors. It’s the hands of God guiding you to another direction that’s better for you.
2. They teach you how to let go and accept that certain things might be taken away from you no matter how much you wanted them and there will be nothing you can do about it.
3. They teach you that banging on closed doors and knocking on them will not open them and will only hurt your hands.
4. They humble you because they make you realize that no matter how old you are, you still don’t know what’s best for you.
5. They give you peace of mind because you begin to understand that you cannot go back and force things to be as they once were.
6. They remind you of the other closed doors that led to nowhere; how you finally realized that they closed for a reason and how thankful you are now that they have closed.
7. They force you to step out of your comfort zone and try all your keys on different doors until one of them opens.
8. They teach you how to walk away when you discover that you deserve so much more than staring at a closed door.
9. They give you a chance to move forward when you refuse to. They’re powerful reminders of how life works sometimes; it could close doors you wanted to keep open and open doors you wanted to close. You will learn that doors don’t care about what you want.
10. They will teach you that some doors hide a lot of dark secrets behind them; secrets that could’ve destroyed you if you kept them open. They are examples of how things can look pretty on the outside and ugly on the inside.
11. They show you what doors to avoid in the future and what doors to open wider.
12. They guide you to the right ones. The ones that will keep you safe and the ones that will not lock you out.
The potential of the average person is like a huge ocean unsailed, a new continent unexplored, a world of possibilities waiting to be released and channeled toward some great good.
1. What motivates or inspires you?
2. What do you do well naturally and effortlessly?
3. What is the one thing that you do that you always get positive feedback on?
4. What’s the one thing that’s missing in your current life and career?
5. Do you feel like what you’re doing right now is making you happy or bringing you closer to happiness?
6. If you didn’t have to worry about money, what would you really be doing?
7. What did you want to be when you were a kid? What was your childhood dream?
8. Who is your role model or who do you look up to when it comes to living a passionate or purposeful life? And what are they doing differently?
9. What do you want to be remembered for? What’s the message you want to leave behind?
10. What activities do you do that make you unaware of time and bring out the best in you?
11. What is the one thing that you won’t get tired of doing every day?
12. What would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail?
13. Is fear the only thing holding you back from finding or living your calling?
14. How supportive are the people around you when it comes to living your passion?
15. Are you listening too much to them and ignoring your gut?
16. Do you believe you have what it takes to follow your passion?
17. If not, what are the tools you need to make you believe in yourself?
18. What is preventing you from following or finding you calling?
19. Are you confusing your job with your purpose?
20. What doesn’t feel like work to you?
21. What do people tell you you’re
22. What talent do you possess that you know sets you apart from everyone else?
23. Would you be able to downsize your expenses and lifestyle so you can truly do what you love?
24. Do you have friends or mentors who are living their calling? How did they do it?
25. Are you saying yes to opportunities and activities that you truly enjoy?
26. Are you connecting with people who are passionate about the same things you’re passionate about?
27. Are you reading books on how to make them happen?
28. Are you actively trying to research how to get started?
29. If you were to quit your job and follow you passion, do you have enough savings to survive for a few months?
30. If not, how can you save up more so you can focus on living your passion?
31. Are you asking for advice or guidance?
32. Are you working on improving your skills or talents so you can stand out?
33. Are you mentally prepared to face rejections or setbacks until you make it happen?
34. Are you willing to ignore the naysayers and be your own source of motivation and encouragement?
35. What’s the worst that could happen if you actually started living our passion?