Life is an ugly, formless clump of mistakes and pain that can be molded with deliberate and careful hands to make something so beautiful from something so ugly, it is almost impossible to comprehend.
However, many people, maybe including yourself, believe this clump of life can be molded without an external force. However, there are two aspects of your life you have to change from this moment on to mold your own work of art.
1. Take Responsibility For Your Life
First, you must take full responsibility for everything that is present in your life.
You must take full responsibility for the good that arrives, but also the painful and inconvenient. You must be able to accept the fact that you have played a part in everything wrong that is in your life. You must figure out how to fix it.
You have to ask your self, “What can I do right now, at this very moment, to create a better tomorrow for myself, my family, and my future?”
You have two decisions to make. To either be the victim or accept the responsibility for yourself, but you already know you only have one choice.
2. Win The War, Not Just The Battle
Second, you cannot win the war against the world if you can’t win the war against your own mind.
You have to dismiss the illusion that you cannot overcome this moment because of the perception in your mind. This very moment may be the lowest moment in your life.
You must remember that if this is the lowest moment in your life, then there is only up from here.
You must remind yourself that you matter. Life is going to hit you in the mouth, and you must remember that the wound will heal over time. It may take a week or a decade, but you must remember that the pain will subside and be replaced by the happiness you deserve.
So some of you are asking why this kind of deep post today. I decided to research and post more on deep inspirational and motivational articles today, compared to the circular articles I normally post.
Do you believe that your job is reflective of what your natural gifts and abilities are? If you answered yes, that is awesome. You are in the minority and you can exercise greater influence because you believe that you are walking in your calling. As for some of us who got into jobs because that was what you were offered, or it paid well, we need to ask the question, “Are we living our best/most purposeful life?” – SUMESHNEE REDDY
In the part of my world in Africa, specifically in Nigeria. This is a major setback for most graduates. Unemployment is on the high rise, so whatever you get, you manage till you get something better or you make your decision in becoming an entrepreneur.
Do you believe that your job is reflective of what your natural gifts and abilities are?
If you answered yes, that is awesome. You are in the minority and you can exercise greater influence because you believe that you are walking in your calling.
As for some of us who got into jobs because that was what you were offered, or it paid well, we need to ask the question, “Are we living our best/most purposeful life?”
Made to for a Purpose
The world has believed a lie that we are purposeless beings and are here to work, pay bills, save and retire as early as possible. All of which are good things, yet are incredibly self-serving. You could have started off life believing that this is what we should do; however, God says otherwise.
Ephesians 2:10 says “For we his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” God created us on purpose, for a purpose.
It is interesting that in Genesis we are told that everything that God created in the garden had a purpose, and God placed a seed in it to reproduce after its own kind. God created oak trees, once, with a seed within, to reproduce more oak trees. Everything has a seed within, including us. Yes, we have a seed to multiply, but its way more than that. God has given us the ability to grow a vision and to feed a passion that he has placed in us.
So, what stops us from accomplishing this vision and purpose? The fear of failure, the failure of success even. We can be in a place of comfort and complacency. Basically, if you don’t want to embrace your purpose, you will find a reason to back down, rather than take a step of faith. Perhaps someone spoke an unkind word against your vision or discouraged you, and you allowed those words to affect you deeply. Maybe the words were spoken by people who were meant to be beacons of light, maybe they were your parents.
God’s Word About You
I want to encourage you today, to allow those words to lose their hold over you and rather hear what God’s word says about you. After all, He is the one who placed this potential inside you, not your earthly parents. Let God’s truth about you, be the ultimate truth and let everything else be a lie. (Romans 3: 4“…Indeed, let God be true but every man a liar…”)
Bill Hybels wrote an amazing book, called Holy Discontentwhere he speaks about an area where you experience anger and frustration with the world (For example, Jesus’s anger when he saw the money-lenders gambling inside the temple of His Father and he made the rope and whipped them out. Matthew 21:12-13) and how that could point you to your true purpose. Together with the deep intimate relationship with God, this holy anger can be changed into a positive force that impacts and changes the course of the world. Just think of people like Mother Theresa, Billy Graham and Bono.
Holy Discontent as a Starting Place
Let’s for a moment forget about those high-profile names. Think about a young lady who grows up in a broken home, and her hearts breaks for kids who grow up in an unhappy home. She decides to become a primary school teacher so she can impact the lives of kids who grow up in this dysfunction. One of the reasons Bill Hybels is the pastor of a huge church in America today (Willow Creek Church) is due to the holy discontent he experienced as a kid. His family attended a church that was run very badly, and it was then that the stirrings of his holy discontent started.
I understand that not all of us are able to quit our jobs and go volunteer our time for a free but worthy cause. However, we can volunteer in our free time, over weekends. Also, showing love to another usually can take you a minute. This can include sending a message to a hurting friend or making a dish for some struggling friends…whatever you can do, with whatever you have, is a start.
As you continue being faithful in the little bit, Jesus will multiply it and give you more. He won’t give you more than you can handle. First and foremost, our main priority is to spend time receiving His love, daily, renewing our minds, in the word.
So, I leave you with a few questions:
What is the one thing that gets you fired up and causes a firestorm of frustration to build up within you?
Are you willing to let God help you in those areas, and lead and guide you by His peace?
Practically, how does this look for your life?
My prayer is that you would not just conform, but rather be transformed by the renewing of your mind, daily. (Romans 12:2) Remember that His love and grace empowers you and sets you free to be the best version of yourself. I love how the Passion translation of the Bible puts it:
“We have become his poetry, a re-created people that will fulfill the destiny he has given each of us, for we are joined to Jesus, the Anointed One. Even before we were born, God planned in advance our destiny and the good works we would do to fulfill it!” (Ephesians 2:10 TPT)
Today I will be pointing out 3 questions to confirming your purpose.
Purpose is the feeling of having a definite aim and of being determined to achieve it. A very important thing you want to achieve in life.
Living a life without regret is a universal desire. I’ve had too many sleepless nights around the question, “is this it?” I’ve worked hard… and even had some great achievements, but at times, I’m still troubled by the missed opportunities, the things I’ve never said, the trips I never took, or decisions I’ve failed to make. This is regret.
It’s the feeling of missing out. It can sap your passion, poison your future, and even have an effect on those around you. It leads me to this positive thought:
“In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.”
But in the end, we can’t do it all. We all realize life is moving faster and faster to our final day – and we understand a life without regret is impractical, but how do we live life with less regret? How can we chase our dreams, live our passion, and love our lives all at the same time?
3 Critical Questions to Confirming Your Purpose:
What are you most passionate about? – (Design and Creativity, Charity, Tutor, Entrepreneurship, Etc.)
Who’s most important to you? (Spouse, Best Friend, Cousin, Parents, Children, Strangers, Etc.)
Where is your favorite place on earth? (NYC, Spain, Canada, Australia, Hawaii, Your Home, Church, Etc.)
If you’re doing what you’re passionate about, with the people most important to you, in place that excites you, you are living the dream.
Now, it’s up to you to not only answer these questions but to make at least one of them happen this year… because remember, in the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.
Chasing a dream is never easy, but the most passionate people stop at nothing once they decide to go for it.
For most of my life, I lacked what I now call an emotional navigation system. I either didn’t have the tools to express the anxiety I felt, or didn’t feel I could do so without being punished for it in some way. So I just avoided pain. Or, I tried to avoid pain. I was obsessed with figuring out what I was meant to do, or being able to determine who I was meant to be with. I thought that if I only did what I was “meant” to, I could never be wrong, I could never get hurt, and I could never lose anything. Growing up, I would sit for hours looking up college course catalogs, making lists of things I could become. On the outside, it looked like ambition, on the inside, it just hurt.
I was a binge thinker. I would identify a problem, and craft a solution. This was how I got by, this is what propelled me. I thought I could calculate success, or make a formula for happiness. My subconscious mantra was “I will be happy when.” If only I could fix this thing about myself, I would feel better. If I only had this much money, or had this relationship, or wore this pant size, it would feel better. But it never felt better. There was perpetually one step between me and feeling okay.
My every move revolved around “purpose.” I thought that if I could figure out what I was here to do, everything would feel better. Everything would be worth it. The truth is that I didn’t have the capability to recognize what was preventing me from feeling happy in the first place. I didn’t understand that the same part of the brain that governs rumination also controls problem-solving, and creativity. The more depressed I was, the more successful I became. Until that became too much.
I know now that being afraid of things going wrong is not the way to make them go right. Releasing that fear is knowing there’s no “right” way for things to go.
What’s interesting about tracing the story back is that along the way, the elusive “signs” of the purpose I spent my life looking for were right in front of me. I was a professional writing major in college, but I never took a creative writing class, because I was too shy to share my thoughts and feelings with peers. In my relationships, as soon as things inched past the point of intimacy that I was comfortable with, I relied on asking myself “Is this right?” rather than “Do I feel this is right?”
I didn’t actually want to be successful, I just wanted to feel better, and I didn’t understand any other way to do that other than to change my life. My greatest success didn’t come from being successful, but who I had to become along the way.
In 2012, I read an article by the writer Ryan O’Connell for the first time – a friend pulled it up for me in the newspaper office in which we worked. I was heartbroken and reeling and heavily medicated and barely getting by. But when I read that article, a weight lifted (literally, physically).
For the first time, someone had articulated exactly what I was going through. I had never read anything like it before. I didn’t know that it was what I wanted to do, I only knew that it made me feel better. So I started doing it, too. I was first published nearly by accident (I thought it would look good on a résumé). And then, something happened. Something I couldn’t have planned for, something I couldn’t have chosen, yet something that every single thing was leading me to. People started reading. And I kept writing. And then people started reading by the millions. And then tens of millions. The deeper I looked into my own problems, the more thoroughly I analyzed them and expressed them and shared them, the more I could understand other people, and the more rapidly they would respond. The more intimate my confessions, the more people would click and share.
Every little part of my life meant something, I just didn’t know it at the time. Every moment – however unbearable – was crucial. My only purpose was to just be here, and that was it. It would add up on its own. My life would calculate itself; it didn’t need me to judge whatever it came out to. I do believe in purpose, but I don’t believe that you need to know what it is to live it.
I know now that being afraid of things going wrong is not the way to make them go right. Releasing that fear is knowing there’s no “right” way for things to go. It’s a presupposition, one that will hurt you more than it will ever help.
1. Your purpose is what you do with each moment of your life – the big things are just small things, done over and over again. 2. You do not have to know what your purpose is to be already living it out. 3. There is no purpose that is greater than another, we all affect one another in mysterious and invisible ways. 4. Your skills are not random, they show you what you’re here to work with. 5. The things you worry about are not random, they show you what you’re here to work toward. 6. Your greatest happiness will not come from being comfortable, it will come from being useful. 7. You are not here to be happy all the time, you are here to create and appreciate, two things that tend to arise from discomfort. 8. You will help people more by changing yourself than by telling people how to change themselves. 9. You will inspire more people by being yourself than telling others to be themselves. 10. Everything that happens to you is a resource, it is showing you a part of yourself and forcing you to think in a way you never would have before. 11. You are always growing, so it’s not about whether or not you’re moving forward, but which direction you’re going. 12. Your entire life does not need to unfold today. 13. What you think about you will bring about; what you focus on you will continue to create. 14. Your power, therefore your purpose, mostly resides in how you think. 15. Your purpose is not just that you do one specific thing, but how you go about doing everything. 16. It’s not about how perfect you appear, it’s about how you rationalize your actions and how you mend mistakes when you make them. 17. The most powerful work is that which is done willingly without applause. 18. You do not need applause to be doing purposeful work. 19. You can always decide what you want your purpose to be, and it’s best if you choose something that helps others and makes you feel alive. 20. Purposeful work is not always fun. 21. That does not mean you can’t choose to love it anyway. 22. Your purpose happens in the moment, not in ideas of the past or future or how you appear to others. 23. When all is said and done, people care far less about what you’ve accomplished than they do how you treat others.