Going From Fear To Motivation With a Simple Shift

My motivation is insanely out of control lately. Something has switched inside after I dropped my negative thoughts and adopted some radical thoughts that I share here. I am basking in the glorious aftermath of living on the other side of fear: in a constant state of motivation. Think it’s too good to be true? So did I, but so glad I was wrong!

Lately, my energy is to the roof. My focus is laser sharp. My productivity is highest it’s ever been. I feel a great sense of urgency and nobody can talk me out of the work I need to do.

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I can’t stand the idea of resting and relaxing for a minute longer than necessary. I cannot keep count of all the ideas running through my head and what’s more, I can smell no fear in pursuing every single one of them.

No fear. Not anymore. I am done being scared . I am done making decisions with fear. I am finished half-committing to my goals. I am done fooling around with my dreams. What about you?

I’ve turned a corner and I am not looking back. It happened when I woke up one day only to realize I have been chasing an empty dream, an illusion of happiness, and a mere shadow of success. Have you turned that corner yet?

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A Quick And Easy Fix To Your Frustration

I learnt a valuable lesson yesterday reading a book titled “if not for the Grace of God ” by Joyce Meyer.

I learnt that we can’t do anything in our power to achieve what we want. I also learnt that when you focus your energy and effort into something that is doomed to failure, the only possible result is frustration. And what do we do when we frustrated, we keep up trying harder which only produces more frustration.

We don’t attempt anything without asking for God’s help. We lean on Him the whole way through each project. We maintain an attitude that says, “Apart from Him, I can do nothing”

If you are frustrated about timing, lean to pray with the psalmist, my times are in your hands… (Psalm 31:15).

Sometimes when I feel my time is wasted in a particular circumstance, either waiting to see the doctor, waiting to get an alert from the bank, bad electricity, no water and so on… Yea am not perfect and just human, I get frustrated and disgusted but after reading this inspiring book from Joyce, it changed my perspective to the way I handle my mood when frustrated.

A Quick Way To Bounce Back From Disappointment

The work by Abraham Zaleznik at Harvard proved that the way you respond to disappointment is usually an accurate predictor of how likely you are to achieve great success. If you respond to disappointment by learning the very most from it and then by putting it behind and processing forward, you are very likely to accomplish great things in the course of life.

N:B: Everyone faces difficulties every step of the way. The difference between high achievers and low achievers is simply that high achievers utilize adversity and struggles for growth, while low achievers allow difficulties and adversity to overwhelm them and leave them discouraged and dejected.

So today, choose to face difficulties with a positive attitude and bounce back from disappointment.

Video: Train Yourself Each Day To Expect Something Good To Happen

God wants you to have the best life possible. Always dare to get your Hope’s up, things will begin to change in your life. Faith increases, joy returns, and peace reigns.

Be excited about today! This is going to be a great day! Train yourself each day to expect something good to happen to you.

Don’t be hurting today, doubting if things will ever get better… get your hope’s up!

The video above contains words of encouragement from Joyce Meyer

Life Is An Adventure

The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. – Jon Krakauer

Keep Your Mouth Shut

Wrong words are like fuel on a fire. The more fuel we pour on the fire, the bigger the fire grows. The only way to stop the inflammation is to remove the fuel. The only way to stop or prevent a disagreement or argument is to stop speaking. When someone insults you or hurts your feelings, we are often tempted to give a response out of our wounded pride. But it would be wiser to ignore the insult and let God deal with the person. We must give up wanting to prove that we are right and everyone else is wrong.

It’s ironic that many of our arguments are over insignificant concerns. The apostle Paul warns us about such conversations in II Timothy 2:23-24. In this passage, it indicates things that are unimportant and make no difference when considered with things that are really important.

The verse is simply saying, stay out of conversation that has no positive effect, where no one knows what they are talking about and everybody is arguing over nothing. So often our pride keeps us arguing over things that make no difference to anybody. A proud heart refuses to be quiet because pride demands that I have my say- I must have the last word.

When someone insults you or hurt your feelings, pride tempts us to give a response out of wounded emotions. But I would rather live in peace than get my own way all the time.

Wouldn’t you?

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Trying to Be Perfect Never Works, So Quit It Already!

If you believe it is attainable, you will seek and never find it, you will strive and never achieve it, you will think you’ve got it and then something will happen and you’ll realize you never had it to start with.

It will suck the joy from your life.

There are many of us who have experienced the crippling behavior of perfectionism.

It makes you feel like nothing you are or do is quite enough or quite right.

It leaves you constantly trying to be more, do more, achieve more, make things better and better, until one day you will be able to breathe easy knowing you are perfect, everything you have done is perfect and everything around you is perfect.

It stops you from finishing anything, or it stops you from celebrating what you do finish as you’re too busy looking at what you wish you had done better. This cripples your soul, it torments your mind, it suppresses your creativity, it limits your progress and it slows the pace at which you produce anything (personally or productivity in the workplace). It affects the outcomes you generate and it drastically impacts your enjoyment.

It will cause you to focus on things that simply don’t matter, at the expense of things that truly do matter. It will lead you to see faults, where right next to those faults complete beauty and magic exist.

It will lead you to think you are someone role modelling excellence, when in fact you are role modelling paralyzing over-analysis and complete imbalance in priorities.

It will affect your home life and your career. It will affect your self-esteem and your relationships.

It will impact your thoughts and feelings, and give rise to unnecessary tension and stress.

You will never be perfect, because perfection is not possible. 

Perfection is an illusion. Life by its very nature is imperfect, and you as a human being by your very nature are imperfect.

Additionally, your entire life from birth to death is a process of expansion – to learn and evolve. Perfection goes directly against this process. If you were perfect, and your life were perfect, then you would be done! You would not be here. You could not fulfil the very progression that is inherent in your human nature, and so what would be the point of your life?

Perfection also denies the value and uniqueness of all your imperfections, of all your quirks and development areas, of your beautiful weirdness that you know and I see, and your loved ones adore. Perfection would make you vanilla. You were born much more flavoursome and colourful than that. Your job here in life is to give full expression to every ounce of who you were born as, not to try to fit yourself to a societally defined and unattainable plastic model of “perfection”.

By all means strive for excellence. Have high standards. Face every moment of every day with the intention of being your best self, and giving your all and creating memorable outputs. That will allow you to have inner peace. That will lead you into success. But don’t confuse that with crippling perfectionism. They are completely different perspectives, and give rise to completely different life experiences.

I know all of this because I used to be a perfectionist. So, if you want to change and someone tells you that leopards can’t change their spots, tell them to keep quiet while you prove them wrong!

Without Purpose, Life Is a Motion without Meaning, Activity without Direction, and Events without Reason

The post title is a quote from Rick Warren’s book The Purpose Driven Life – which really articulates the importance of having a big picture to press on to. This ties in to my post from last week on pondering how we would want our lives summed up when it’s all said and done. Personally, I want to be remembered as “A man who enjoyed God, enjoyed His many blessings and helped others to do the same.” That’s the big picture for me.

“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, Wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay” Habakkuk 2: 2-3

In verse 1 of that chapter Habakkuk took a stand on the watch post to hear from God. It’s clear that the big picture comes from seeking God. One key point from Rick’s book is that “knowing purpose (the big picture) reduces stress, simplifies decisions, increases satisfaction and prepares us for eternity”. We need guiding principles/core values to help simplify life decisions. These guiding principles are a natural outflow of the big picture. I see having guiding principles as having a cheat sheet for life, not a replacement for God’s word or dependence on the Holy Spirit, but rather a lens for making decisions. To make this more concrete, here are the guiding principles for my family:

C – Every member of the family is CRUCIAL

H – Live in dependence and reliance of the HOLY SPIRIT

O – Remain OUTWARD focused

O – Live OPENHANDED to God and man

S – Seek to STRENGTHEN those around me

E – Take time to ENJOY God’s blessings

As you can see, beyond having a mnemonic to help me remember these principles, I have a framework on which I can decide the important things to invest my time, money, talent and resources on. Do you have such a ‘Christ-centric’ framework on which you determine what you say yes or no to? Are you able to articulate your core values and guiding principles if someone asked you today? Maybe it’s time to spend time on our watch post like Habakkuk and see what God has to say … whatever it is, don’t forget to write it down.

You Can’t Avoid Suffering, You Just Pick What You’re Willing To Suffer For

You can’t avoid suffering. You can’t avoid pain. It’s a given and life becomes so much easier when we accept that reality.

The more you care about someone, the more you’ll hurt when they let you down. The more you’re passionate about something, the more heartbroken you will be when you lose it.
Ironically, the things that bring us joy are also the things that bring us pain. The people we love are also the people who break our hearts and that’s the essence of life.
You won’t find something you love given to you freely without an ounce of pain or suffering. The journey to happiness and love is full of suffering and pain. You won’t fall in love with someone until you’ve seen them at their worst, learned how to forgive them and accept their difficulties.

Ultimately, we’re only fooling ourselves when we say that the things we love shouldn’t make us suffer but they do. I love my job but I lose sleep at night when I mess up and I can’t forgive myself for the smallest errors because I actually care about my performance. I’m more sensitive when I have feelings for someone and more likely to take their actions personally. I love my friends but it hurts when we don’t talk as much or lose touch because of our responsibilities.

While the level of suffering is not the same for each, it’s still suffering but to me, it’s better than suffering at a job I hate or suffering because I’m with someone I don’t adore or suffering because I have no friends. In this case, I’m picking the things and the people I want to suffer for. I’m picking who’s worth my pain. I’m choosing the lesser of two evils.

But to sit there and say you can avoid suffering is one big lie and to expect that the things you love or live for will not make you suffer is also delusional because it’s always the things we love that have the power to hurt us, whether our careers, our friends, our families or our relationships and there’s nothing you could do that would change that.

Essentially, what you should be asking yourself is who’s worth suffering for and what’s worth the pain? Essentially, life is more about picking your battles rather than avoiding them.

Because you can play it safe instead of trying and taking risks and you can try to avoid pain or heartbreak by stopping people from getting too close to hurting you but you also miss out on living your best life when you shelter yourself from the tough experiences that could change your life. You sit on the sidelines watching life pass you by, which is the worst kind of suffering in my opinion.

You suffer more when you choose not to participate in life. You suffer more when you refuse to let the pain make you grow. You suffer more when you shut people out. You suffer more when you lead a lonely and banal life.

What’s Your Greatest Barrier to Change?

Ever felt like there is something lacking within you or in your circumstances that prevents you from flourishing in your life? It’s common to have times in your life when you feel like there are barriers to the change you want to create.

I am ever the seeker of evidence, so in order to see what was really going on out there among my community of readers and clients I asked the question…

“What do you believe is the single greatest barrier to positive change in your life?”

Below is quick snapshot of the responses:

  • Lack of self-belief and confidence – 40%
  • Unsure where or how to start creating change – 16%
  • Personal circumstances and resources – 15%
  • Lack of time and space to create change – 6%
  • Fear of failure – 6%
  • Fear of judgement and ridicule – 3.5%
  • Lack of support/motivation/inspiration – 3.5%
  • Other (such as ‘a little bit of all these things’, ‘familiarity of current situation is easier than the fear of the unknown’ and ‘uncomfortable being vulnerable/addressing true emotions in order to move forward’) – 10%

What You Believe Becomes Your Reality

You might have noticed that we worded the question, very purposefully, as “What do you BELIEVE….” in relation to barriers to change. That is because your beliefs are what create the barrier/s. And, you have the ability to shift your beliefs. That’s fab news!

It all comes down to how much you want to shift any limiting beliefs. Because you can, it is just a choice and willingness to look at the limitation and to put in the conscious effort (awareness) to retrain your belief system in a way that better serves you. The result will be an empowered version of self for the rest of your life. The effort is worth it! Think of it like a ritual, not a chore. If people put half the effort into themselves as they do into everything (and everyone) else, they would be astounded at the change that results.

A core reason many people don’t put that effort into themselves, is that they don’t put themselves first in their life. They come last after everything and everyone else. It’s time to drench yourself with love and to realise that you are the centre of your life experience, everything stems from you and the best thing you can do for everyone around you is to care for and love yourself (like during aeroplane safety briefings when they tell you to fit your own oxygen mask first before helping others!)

Shifting Yourself – Dissolving Barriers

From your commitment to change, and from your self-belief, stems the endless possibilities available to you. Nothing and no one can tell you what to believe, what to think, how to feel or what to do. You and you alone create your life. You and you alone perceive what stands in your way. You and you alone create or break down the barriers that appear before you. It’s all about lifting your awareness, using your consciousness to your advantage, and starting to make choices moment by moment that will propel you upwards.

So now you might be thinking… “Well, yes I believe that I have barriers to change, and I want to change those beliefs so that those barriers don’t block me any more. But, how the heck do I shift my beliefs?”

I’d love to work with you if you are ready for creating transformation in your personal and professional life, using my simple but powerfully effective techniques and Unleash Your Life coaching method… for rewiring you for inner peace, freedom and success. Get in touch with me directly if you are ready to leave the baggage behind and lift into the next level of your evolution.

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Do You Know Who You Are?

“Can you remember who you were, before the world told you who you should be?”

Can you? Did you ever know who you were to begin with? For a long time I did not. Our culture tells us what should define us; just think about the article titles on any magazine cover you’ve seen lately. If we change our body, make more money, find the one person that will complete us then we’ll be happy… or will we?

For most of my life I lived comparing myself to every person I met. I thought if I could change who I was then I’d be happy. But I was wrong. Who I am has nothing to do with the things I can change – my looks, job title, how much money I make, or my relationship status. It has everything to do with who I am.

It’s easy to become lost in the comparison game, collecting more and more things to give yourself value. Let me be the first to tell you that it won’t work. No created thing can ever make us happy or whole. Created things cannot give other created things worth or value, only their creators can do that. To know who you are, you must intimately know the one who made you. Then you can walk in wholeness.

Jesus Christ – He is the living word of God. He made us in His image. Therefore, only in Him will we know who we are. You may be thinking to yourself, ” I know all of this” or “this sounds cliche”, but hold tight because we can know things without truly grasping them.

As you embark on your week and deal with all that life is throwing your way – I want to remind you who you are. Don’t let the sweet, yet empty promises from this world romance you into old thought patterns. You are a new creation (2 Cor. 5:17). When trials gets harder, know that you are more than a conqueror and empowered by the Holy spirit to win every spiritual battles (Romans 8:37). Furthermore, when the temptation to compare yourself to the next person arises, take those thoughts captive. You, my friend, are incomparable. Don’t settle to be a counterfeit version of someone else. You are God’s unique handiwork. created to fulfill you’re own part in His plan (Ephesians 2:10). Most importantly, you are loved unconditionally by God.

It’s important to go back to the basics – to the foundations of who we are every now and again. Learn who you are in Christ and be confident in that. The world will try to convince you to change to be accepted, loved, and successful, but that’s a lie. All you really need is the One who never changes. In Him, you are complete.

The Effects Your Lifestyle Has on Establishing the Kingdom of God

The bible warns us in Galatians 1:6-10 NLT to watch for any other gospel being preached – let the person who would do that be cursed. Salvation, prosperity, healing and the likes are by products, not the gospel itself. The Good News (gospel) is that Jesus came to restore what humanity lost in the Garden of Eden. What the first Adam failed to do, the second Adam has done perfectly. Now through Him, we once again have the opportunity to co-labor with Him in establishing His kingdom in the earth as His emissaries (ambassadors).

Jesus preached the gospel of the kingdom of God.

In his book, Kingdom Principles, Myles Munroe defines a kingdom this way: “A kingdom is the governing influence of a king over his territory, impacting it with his personal will, purpose, intent; producing a culture, values, morals, and lifestyle that reflect the king’s desires and nature for his citizens.

Jesus did not give His life to establish a religion, or Christian organizations that focus on buildings, meetings, and programs. It is a lifestyle built on a relationship with the King and fellow subjects who happen to be sons and daughters.

We have obviously missed the mark by a long shot evidenced in the fact that the majority of the community of faith doesn’t live any differently than the world around them. Premarital sex, adultery, unwed pregnancies, divorce, entertainment, language, dishonesty, gossip, pride, greed and the list goes on, are the same in the assemblies as they are outside of them. This has had an adverse affect us individually, as a faith community and as a nation.

Sin is never isolated.

We have failed to be the salt and the light. The accumulation of our individual sins have resulted in the breakdown of the community as a whole. Consequently, all of society has suffered. The results can be seen in the state of our nation. We are to blame for the ungodly administration we are currently under. Our apathy, poor judgment, and self-centeredness has taken its toll.

Where are the true disciples?

We have a creation/ kingdom mandate to subdue (Terminate from a place of strength and with moral certitude; reverse a situation with conviction) and take dominion (Rule by going down and walking among the subjects as an equal). Yet, pollsters say 52% of the faith community doesn’t even vote! And many of those that do have actually voted for representatives that don’t uphold our biblical values! Shame on us! Don’t complain if you’re not willing to even participate properly in the process.

God has given us a game plan with promises in 2 Chronicles 7:14 NLT, If My people, who bear My name, will humble themselves, pray, seek My face and turn from their evil ways, I will hear from heaven, forgive their sin and heal their land.

Let’s break it down;

1. Bear His name/ nature. We are to be His ambassadors re-presenting Him in the earth. This means our feelings, thoughts, opinions, words and actions are to reflect His as He has revealed Himself in His Word. This obviously is an ongoing process.

2 .Humility is a condition of the heart. It means to “bow down”. It is our willingness to trust, follow and obey.

3. Pray. The essence of prayer is communication with the Father, through the Son. It is being “naked and unashamed” as “we walk in the garden in the cool of the evening”, sort to speak. All things are laid bare before the One in whom we must give an account. Get real and get right.

4. Seek His face. There are two words commonly used in Hebrew meaning to seek. Darash (inquire or search after) and bakash (request something desired). The former ought to come before the later. Psalm 27:8 NLT My heart said of you, “Seek My face.” Your face, Adonai, I will seek.

5. Turn from evil. This doesn’t mean what we think it does. There isn’t an equivalent Hebrew word for evil. To the original writers of our Scriptures it means to destroy its original purpose; dysfunction; contrary to God’s nature.

If we surrender to these instructions, the results will be as God has stated.

He will hear from heaven, forgive us and heal our land. It is the responsibility of each and every one of us to do our part. Each one of us will, one day, give an account before our God and Father. Let’s get to it!

Life Moves Pretty Fast. If You Don’t Stop And Look Around Once In A While, You Could Miss It.

“In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven”(Matthew 5:16).

As Christians, we often talk about living our lives in such a way that others see God’s light shining through us. It’s the idea that actions speak louder than words. While the bible obviously conveys this principle in verses such as Matthew 5:16, it’s always a blessing to see it in action. We get to see this principle at work when we look at someone and just see life radiating from them. It is not really about what they are doing or saying, but about how they are going about it. It’s always an amazing site when you see life sparked by a revelation of Christ’s love just pouring out of someone. It is impossible to miss.

Recently, I made a new friend that has really challenged me in this regard. He has challenged me in a very beneficial, life giving way and doesn’t even know it. At first, this guy sort of took me by surprise. I almost missed it. I mistook his energy and enthusiasm as an attempt to gain attention and notoriety from others. Quite frankly, that pushed me away at first. However, when I really took the time to observe, and watch his interaction with others, I realized that he was truly just radiating with the Holy Spirit. It is absolutely contageous when someone is going through life that way. This is especially noticable in people who have just given their life to Christ. You can just look in their eyes and see that there is something different, something supernatural going on. It attracts people like a magnet.

Now here is the challenging part. In the above paragraph I said, “I almost missed it.” That is a pretty scary statement. The transformational, revitalizing love of God was pouring out of someone right next to me and I almost didn’t recognize it. Why is that? It’s because the things of God were becoming common place and habitual in my life, and God used this man to fan the flame inside of me. God used this man to remind me that walking with Him is not about religious practice or doctrine, or even about filling up our schedule with minstry related activities. Walking with God is about the life changing power of love that pours out of us and onto others when we are walking closely with Him.

Unfortunately, we are all susceptible to this as human beings. We are creatures of habit. We can get so comfortable and set in our ways, and this includes our walk with God, that we resist anything that might disrupt the comfortable, familiar world we have created. This is exactly why the Pharisees and Saducees, who claimed to understand God better than anyone else in their day, didn’t even recognize the Son of God walking right in front of their faces. They were clinging too tightly to the familiarity of the traditions they had created.

The infamous Ferris Bueller said it very well, although he said it for very different reasons. In this excellent 1986 film, the main character sums of the movie with the line, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” True life only comes from the giver of life, and He is constantly beckoning us to embrace it. If we don’t stop and allow Him to interupt our habitual routines, we could miss His voice speaking life directly into our ears. Stop and look around today. Allow yourself to be motivated by His love.

The Spirit gives life; the flesh counts for nothing. The words I have spoken to you—they are full of the Spirit and life. – John 6:63

What To Do If You Tired Of Toughing It Out

Have you ever noticed how so many different thoughts run through our minds every day? Some are good, some bad. Unfortunately, our natural temptation is to focus on the bad; so accepting them doesn’t take any effort. The effort comes when we’re determined to cast down the negative thoughts, and take a firm grasp of the positive ones.

The Battle for Your Thoughts

Positive minds full of faith and hope produce positive lives. The opposite is also true: negative minds full of fear and doubt produce negative lives, which can ultimately destroy your life. Some people have been hurt so many times that they don’t think they can face the pain of another letdown. Therefore, they refuse to hope so they won’t be disappointed.

Battles are fought in our minds every day. When we begin to feel the battle is just too difficult and want to give up, we must choose to resist negative thoughts and be determined to rise above our problems. We must decide that we’re not going to quit.

When we’re bombarded with doubts and fears, we must take a stand and say: “I’ll never give up! God’s on my side. He loves me, and He’s helping me! I’m going to make it!”

Reprogram Your Mind

When the battle seems endless and you think you’ll never make it, remember that you’re reprogramming a “worldly” mind to think as God thinks. In the same way that computers are programmed, our minds are also programmed.

From the time we’re born, our minds are like computers that have had a lifetime of garbage programmed into them. But God—the best “computer programmer” around—is working on us every day to reprogram our minds as we cooperate with Him (see Romans 12:2).

When Progress is Slow

This process of reprogramming or renewing our minds will take place little by little, so don’t be discouraged if progress seems slow. Don’t get down when you have setbacks or bad days. Just get back up, dust yourself off and start again.

When a baby is learning to walk, he falls many, many times before he develops the ability to walk without falling; however, the baby is persistent. He may cry for a while after he falls down, but he always gets right back up and tries again.

Learning to change our thinking works the same way. There will be days when we don’t do everything right—days when our thinking is negative. But never stop trying. God is gradually bringing us around to His way of thinking. Just don’t give up!

The Power Of Peace

Having an attitude of peace and calm is priceless. It’s an attitude that says, “I’m trusting God,” and it speaks powerfully to people. But it takes time, focus and the grace of God to be consistently peaceful.

One way to develop consistent peace is to learn to live “in the now.” We can spend a lot of time thinking about the past or wondering what the future holds…but we can’t accomplish anything unless our mind is focused on today.

The Bible tells us that God gives us grace for each day that we live. I believe that grace is the power, enablement or energy to do what we need to do—and He gives it generously, as we need it.

We need to make a decision every morning to say, “God has given me today. I will rejoice and be glad in it.”

The Real Source of Stress

Too often our stress level is tied up in our circumstances. You could be stressed because you’re always busy or you’re struggling financially or because you’re not getting along with someone you love.

It could be a number of things, but what’s interesting is that these situations are not the cause of your stress. Stress is really caused by your reaction to each situation.

We don’t have to work at trying to get rid of every stressful situation. We need to learn how to embrace peace.

See, we’re always trying to get rid of everything that bothers us. But the Bible says that in the world there will be tribulation. That’s why Jesus said, “Cheer up, I have overcome the world.”

We don’t have to work at trying to get rid of every stressful situation. We need to learn how to embrace peace.

7 Ways to Practice Peace

I believe that one of the keys to maintaining peace in your life is to take small steps toward peace every day. Here are a few tips for having a more peaceful lifestyle.

1. Be selective with how you spend your time. You may be trying to do too many things and end up doing none of them well. Hurrying is trying to do more than the Holy Spirit is leading you to do. Be led by the Spirit.

2. Be prepared to say no nicely. Sometimes we take on things we know we shouldn’t, just because we’re uncomfortable saying no. If you feel this pressure, ask God to put your spirit at rest and give you loving words to speak that will take away the unnecessary awkwardness of saying no.

3. Resist the spirit of procrastination. It’s the attitude that says I’m going to sit here and wait until I feel like doing what I need to do. But God’s Word tells us to exercise self-discipline. Do what you need to do now so you can fully enjoy your times of rest.

4. Eliminate key distractions. If you know you are easily distracted, set some guidelines for yourself. Don’t let them keep you up late at night so you oversleep the next morning and end up setting yourself up for a hurried, stressful day.

5. Set appropriate boundaries for interruptions.Life is full of interruptions, but we can learn to set boundaries that help us manage them in healthy ways. Schedule times when you are “off-limits.” Let your calls go to voicemail, turn off your email, and decide to get back to people after your “off-limits” time is over. Trust the Holy Spirit to tell you when there is a true emergency.

6. Modify your life.
Ask God to show you “out-of-the-box” ways to save time and trouble. For instance, when I don’t have time to do the dishes, I use paper plates. And if I’m having a birthday party for one of my kids and don’t have time to make a meal, we just have cake and ice cream.

7. Listen for the Holy Spirit.
If you can see that your plan is not producing peace, go back to God; pray for peace and for wisdom to make changes that will benefit your life.

If you can learn to trust God “in the now,” receive His grace as you need it, and you can become a truly peaceful person. Now that’s powerful!

Source: Joyce Meyer