Your Life Becomes The Sum Of What You Tolerate

In an ideal world, life would amount to the sum of our intentions.

Good things would happen to good people; we’d be measured by our heart and depth and character.

While this is true to some degree — life is undoubtedly kinder toward those who are kind to it — the truth is that your intentions don’t amount to your outcomes. Just wanting something badly enough does not qualify you to have it, simply believing that you’re capable of more does not mean you will actually achieve more.

In the end, your life amounts to the sum of what you tolerate.

It is defined by what you allow.

You are treated as well as you allow other people to treat you. When you set boundaries or cut off contact with those who do not meet those expectations, you are setting the standard for relationships in your life.

You achieve as much as you allow yourself to pursue. You create as often as you are willing to show up, and to begin.

You grow as much as you allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. We often think that it is discomfort that holds us back from becoming who we want to be, when in fact, that feeling, once truly acknowledged, will point us in the direction that we need to create change.

If you are willing to tolerate mistreatment, you will be mistreated.

If you are willing to tolerate unhappiness, you will remain unhappy.

If you are willing to tolerate dissatisfaction, you will remain dissatisfied.

Your life only truly becomes your own on the day that you decide you will not — for another second of your existence — tolerate less than you know you are capable of having, doing less than you are capable of doing, and being less than you are capable of being.

The truth is that nobody else is going to give this to you.

Nobody is going to wake you up to this fact.

Nobody is going to sit you down and give you a power point presentation about your worth and potential, and nobody is going to strategize a way to make it a reality.

The only way it is going to happen is if you decide you are no longer going to be okay with excuses, empty words or broken dreams. It is only going to happen if you decide that you will no longer tolerate anything less than the outcomes you want, and the life you dream of.

Your life becomes the sum of what you tolerate, so stop tolerating less than you desire.

Guest post from Brianna Weist

Despite What You’ve Been Telling Yourself, You Are Valuable

Thank God it’s friday!

Today I have a guest post from Holly Riodan.

It’s dangerous to assume your worth is tied to any one thing, whether that’s your career or your relationship or your friendships. If you get your validation from a single outside source, then your sense of worth is going to rise and drop on a daily basis. Your confidence is going to change based on how well that single area of your life is currently going.

You can’t allow your relationship status to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter whether you’re currently getting over a breakup. It doesn’t matter whether your heart is having trouble healing. It doesn’t matter whether you’re spending your nights in bed alone. It doesn’t matter whether you’re the last one of your friends who is still single. It doesn’t matter whether you thought you would be married with children by now. You value doesn’t change based on whether or not you’re in a relationship.

You can’t allow your social media stats to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter how many comments you get on a selfie. It doesn’t matter how many followers you have. It doesn’t matter how many people have been sliding into your DMs. It doesn’t matter whether anyone has checked your story in the last hour. Your value doesn’t changed based on your popularity on social media.

You can’t allow your career to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter how much money you’re making. It doesn’t matter whether you’re taking longer to achieve your goals than you feel like you should. It doesn’t matter whether your friends seem further ahead than you right now. It doesn’t matter whether you feel like you’re slowly falling behind. You value doesn’t change based on the amount of money in your bank account.

You can’t allow your friendships to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter whether there are certain nights you consider yourself lonely. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve lost touched with some people you used to consider close. It doesn’t matter whether you have trouble finding people to hang out with on weekends. It doesn’t matter whether you’re struggling to make new friends now that you’re older and in a different place in your life. Your value doesn’t changed based on the amount of people who like you.

If you’re unhappy with a certain area of your life, then by all means, you should try to fix it. You should take action. You should make a change. But you should never let your unhappiness convince you that you’re not valuable as a human being.
You can’t allow a single aspect of your life to determine your worth. You have to determine your own worth. You have to look in the mirror and say to yourself: “It doesn’t matter how much money I’m earning. It doesn’t matter what my relationship status is. It doesn’t matter how many friends text me on the weekends. It doesn’t matter how many likes I get on my latest post. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of me — because I know what I think of me and I am valuable. I am worthwhile. I am loved.”

5 Tips for Conquering Negativity When Starting Your Own Business

Guest post from Katelyn Marie

Imagine this. It has been raining for so long, but you want to take a walk and meet your friend who lives a house down. The only problem is that you live on a dirt road. There are no sidewalks or paved walking paths to be found.

So, you decide to walk on the dirt road. As you take the first few steps forward the mud is so thick you can feel the suction on your shoes as they are nearly pulled off of your feet. You’re scared of the step you just took and want to turn around, but you realize that you really want to see your friend.

You push on only to slip and go sideways. You catch yourself and learn from your mistake. Pretty soon you’re walking at a good clip, but you don’t see the stick in your way and trip over it, falling down completely.

Managing to get back up, you notice you’re covered in the filth and dirt. The mud is fresh in your mouth; it tastes disgusting. You won’t be able to wash off until later, but you wipe off as much as you can.

You start to wonder when you’ll get to your friend’s house. It didn’t seem this far away before.

You think about giving up completely, but you realize that wouldn’t be wise. You’re already part way there. You’ve chosen to follow through and if you quit now, you’ll feel cheated. Besides, you want to see your friend.

Finally, you see your friend waving from her porch. She runs forward and embraces you.

“I’ve been waiting,” she says.

Revealing Your Power

  • Now, what if I told you the mud was every negative thought, naysayer, or comment that was holding you back from your dreams?
  • And your friend was success.
  • And that you were carrying a super long hose that could’ve been used to wash yourself clean at any time you chose?

Would you believe me?

When I first started out, I’m not sure I would have.

Right out of college I chose to start my own freelance writing business. That was the scariest decision I’ve made to date. It’s hard and frustrating and sometimes completely baffling. It’s all too easy to get wrapped up in the doubts and negative thinking that can accompany taking a leap of faith.

But success was calling my name. She beckoned me from her porch, called me to keep coming closer, to keep pursuing her.

It’s easy to get stuck in the mud. To fall victim to the thoughts in our own mind and voices of others who doubt our ability to achieve what we are called to. It’s easy to stumble over an obstacle in our path and let it stop us. But we must forge on.

A lot of people have called me brave for starting my own business. While these things do take courage, I think the bravest people are the ones who start working on their goals and keep working to complete them. It takes grit, determination, and bravery.

I didn’t believe it at first, but I do hold the power. And with these five ways to conquer negativity, you can hold the power, too.

Say No to Negativity When Starting Your Own Business – 5 Easy Tips

1. Not Everyone Will Understand—Don’t Expect them To

There will always be well-intentioned people who will try to change your mind. Who will try to convince you to do something safer or easier.

My advice: don’t let them. Stick to your guns and explain why your dream is important to you. If they don’t come around, they aren’t worth your time.

2. True Haters are Probably Jealous

Ever come across a person who has nothing kind to say about your business venture?

It might be their own insecurities talking. You’re doing something they’ve only dreamed about. Remind yourself that it isn’t you and if you can, distance yourself from the negativity.

3. Find Positive Places and People

Whether it’s friends and family or a group on Facebook, surround yourself with like-minded people who share your goals. It’s much easier to reign over doubt if you have people walking with you. Plus, it’s a great way to network and expand your circle of supporters.

4. Success is Measured in More than One Way

Don’t look at your business purely in terms of profit. While that’s the ultimate goal, there is so much you learn with a start-up. You’re gaining life skills that are invaluable. So, when someone tries to measure your success in monetary terms, know that’s not the only way to look at it.

5. View Mistakes as Lessons

When you start this journey and as you continue to walk on it, there will be times when you mess up. Instead of throwing in the hat and telling yourself you aren’t cut out for this, try to see mistakes as learning experiences. Work through the problem and try not to repeat it. Be as gritty as possible.

A Rocky Road is Well Worth It

It isn’t always easy to follow your dreams. Sometimes they seem impossible. We make excuses: now’s not the right time, I don’t have enough money saved, I’m too old for this, I wouldn’t know where to begin.

But the truth is we can make excuses for days. There will never be a “right” time to start. But if it is something you really want, put on your boots and stick your foot into the mud. It’ll be messy, but there’s a good chance it’ll be worth it.

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How to Stop Feeling Guilty & Believe in Yourself

Have you been feeling guilty recently?

Or perhaps for a very long time?

Maybe you’ve done something you regret, something awful even.

Or maybe you are just tired of feeling shamefaced all the time.

You’re going to get really good at this. The more you practice reframing your thoughts about your relationships, the more enchanting you will become.

The process goes something like this:

  1. First ask yourself, “Should I really feel guilty about this?”
  2. Question the motivations of the person placing guilt on you. Was it about their needs or yours?
  3. If you are at fault, do something about it. Make it up to the person if you can. And move on.
  4. It’s not the end of the world if you lose a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about you or won’t forgive you.
  5. Use the experience as a learning opportunity to make yourself a better person.

And remember this, you gorgeous person–the best cure for guilt is to the become the highest version of yourself, not of someone else!

Thank you Tami Green for these wonderful points.

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83 Ways to Become a Better Person (List 3)

Hey guys!

Today I continue with my list about ways to become a better person. If you’ve missed the other lists, don’t worry, you can simply search the blog or check the archive section for the previous lists.

So here is the list on being a better person starting from 41-60..

41. Watch your health like a hawk. Don’t rely on doctors or nutritionists. You Know Best.
42. Walk away if it compromises your values or it will eat away at you sooner or later.
43. Start that project, that dream, that task that ages ago you put away, saving it for “someday”. Just Start It!
44. Take the second step after starting that project in #43.
45. Create a bucket list if only to get a sense of immediacy and urgency about life.
46. Remind yourself that life is finite and your days are numbered and now is the time to do what you want.
47. Ask your boss for a raise . Ask again if you don’t get an answer or get a new boss.
48. If bosses don’t work out for you, no problem. You weren’t meant to have one. Become your own damn boss!
49. Don’t just get married to get married. Marry for love. Marry for love so intense you can’t stand not being married to it.
50. Don’t have children unless you want them. And don’t feel bad if you don’t. Don’t force your spouse to want them either, just find one who does.
51. Get a dog only if you are not going to leave it in a crate all day long. Please.
52. Find people who get you. Really, really get you! Find the group, the community that gets you , whoever you may be. Find it.
53. Stop mistreating your body. You are not invincible and it will catch up with you and you will regret it.
54. Don’t put up with the crappy corporate job culture if you are itching to get out. It’s mostly lies, half-truths, and total nonsense.
55. Take a hard-core class that pushes your body. Indoor cycling. Krava maga. Kickboxing. Power yoga.
56. Stay away from people who are jealous of you and don’t be jealous of others. They are not who you are meant to be.
57. Read Rumi’s poetry. Do this more than once.
58. Motivate yourself every single day to keep going and don’t even talk to me about poor odds or bad luck. Just keep going.
59. Fight complacency like you would an animal that is out to suck the very life out of you.
60. Push past your comfort zone, be it in body, mind or spirit. Get uncomfortable. Good stuff will happen next.

Stay tuned for the final list on this space. Have a wonderful day and happy weekend!!!

83 Ways to Become a Better Person (List 2)

Hey guys!!!

To continue with the list I started yesterday on becoming a better person. Here is 26-40. If you missed the first list, please kindly check for my previous post to read.

26. Don’t do it just because others are doing it. Such a lame excuse.
27. Break up with whoever mistreats you. And that really means whoever ! No human being should stand for that.
28. Expect nothing for one day. Just do your best.
29. Say thank you for a hundred things daily. Thank you for the air, the water, the love of my husband, the music, the internet, the sky, the sun …
30. Tip a street musician. Actually, tip every single one you ever see for the rest of your life, even if the music is mediocre.
31. Don’t tip in restaurants if the service is bad or else what’s the point of tipping for good service?
32. Be punctual. Or better yet, be 10 minutes early.
33. Pick up the bill and surprise someone.
34. Stretch your body: legs, hips, arms, shoulders, fingers and toes. Stretch and breathe.
35. Drink loose-leaf tea. Do this twice and you won’t go back to tea bags and yes this makes you a better person!
36. Help someone with a task that comes easy to you.
37. Read another dozen books by about now.
38. Start a business . This one may take longer than a day but it doesn’t take as long as it used to. Best time to start a business is today.
39. Ignore a criticism. Just let it go once and see how it feels.
40. Ditch alcohol. It’s not as cool as you think, it ruins brain cells you’ll miss later and you’ll wish you were sober so you could remember more.

Stay tuned for the next list. I think after all this, I will get a lot of testimonies and positive results.

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You Have The Power To Change Your Life

You have all the answers to your questions and you have the solutions to your problems. Even the things that are out of your control, you can still choose how to react to them and how to respond to them.

You have the power to walk away from certain people; people who don’t see the greatness in you, people who don’t believe in you and people who don’t see you for who you really are.

You are capable of distancing yourself fromanything that doesn’t motivate you or make you grow. You’re allowed to change the terms of your life according to your own conditions.

You have the power to move on from heartbreak and find solace in being single or wait for someone who wants to love you the way you deserve to be loved. You have the strength to live without someone you thought you couldn’t live without. You have the power to leave even if they got used to you staying. You’re allowed to speak up even if they got used to your silence. You’re allowed to start using your voice.

You have the power to redefine yourself instead of defining yourself by your failures or your mistakes. You have the power to choose the direction you want your life to take without following anyone’s map.

Sometimes things take time, sometimes it takes patience, sometimes it takes sacrifice — but it always needs you. It needs your voice, your beliefs, your strength, your faith and your resilience.

You’re free to see the world with your own eyes and paint your own colors. You don’t have to use someone else’s glasses. You don’t have to buy someone else’s painting.

You have the power to reinvent yourself and change, as long as this change is coming from within, coming from your own voice, from your own feelings, from your own soul and your own depth.

And what you choose not to do can be just as important as what you choose to do. Because this is your life. This is your destiny. And you’re still here for a reason. You’re not here to be stagnant, you’re here to evolve.

3 Pitfalls Of People Pleasing

As a motivator for some years now, I often challenged teens not to conform to peer pressure but to let God’s Word transform their thoughts and actions (Romans 12:2 NKJV). Recently, I realized we adults suffer from a subtler form of this problem called people pleasing.

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Those of us who dislike conflict and change (or is that all of us?) find this problem particularly painful. If we’re going to conquer it, though, we have to take an honest look at the pitfalls of putting others’ opinions over what we know God has asked us to do.

Pitfall #1: Pretense over Transparency

Perfectionism often goes hand-in-hand with people-pleasing. We want others to think we have our lives, jobs, and relationships immaculately intact. We crave acceptance and applause at the cost of quenching the impact our messy, imperfect stories can make.

Can you imagine if the Apostle Paul had attempted to cover up his past crimes against Christians? He would never have gained anyone’s trust or been half as effective in spreading the gospel. Instead, he proclaimed from the rooftops “that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am chief” (1 Timothy 1:15 NKJV).

Are we afraid God can’t use cracked vessels? A quick study of Scripture reveals the very opposite is true. In fact, He chooses the most unlikely people to accomplish His will. Yes, transparency makes us vulnerable, but it can also open doors to the most unexpected, amazing places.

Pitfall #2: Conformity over Convictions

Think about some “gray areas” where godly people often hold varying convictions. Keep in mind that a conviction is a personal belief, not a gold standard.

Since we just talked about transparency, I’ll give a personal example: With rare exception, I don’t watch R-rated movies.Now, does the Bible say, “Thou shalt not watch R-rated movies?” Of course not. In fact, I have friends who can see past the content while still enjoying the story, and I’m happy they can.

If I went to such a movie just so I didn’t “make waves” in a party, I wouldn’t hurt anyone but myself. In I Corinthians 8, the Apostle Paul cautions against injuring our consciences or someone else’s. However, other people can’t respect our convictions if we aren’t open about them. It’s better to be lovingly honest and remember that true friends will respect our boundaries if we communicate what they are.

Pitfall #3: Peacekeeping over Conflict

Gray areas aside, life does contain black and white, right and wrong. God’s Word provides clear direction on many topics this world condones as “socially acceptable” or “freedom of choice.” It also makes plain there’s only one path to heaven through the redeeming work of Jesus Christ (Ephesians 2:8-9 NKJV).

Certainly, there are times to keep quiet. Several years back during an election, I was acting as manager in my department. Needless to say, the candidates and their controversial platforms often became a heated break room topic. I kept a smile on my lips and my mouth shut, because I didn’t want to lose my effectiveness as manager.

However, we can all think of other situations when staying quiet becomes wrong, because silence often indicates acceptance. In those cases, people-pleasing can hurt our testimony and hinder opportunities to share the gospel. Whether at risk for rejection or not, we need to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15 NKJV).

Do you ever fall into these people pleasing pitfalls? If you’re like I am, we need to take an honest look at our motives, and make sure we’re not sacrificing our integrity and testimony on the altar of people pleasing.

Your Worth & Value are not Defined by Results

BY BERNADETTE LOGUE

You could watch this Spoken Word video by Suli Breaks and get lost in thinking it’s just about the need to improve education systems, or about seeing what doesn’t work in the way education is delivered.

Maybe it is partly about that. However, I watched this video and saw one glaringly obvious message… that your worth and value are not defined by your results.

How many children understand this?

How many children realise that regardless of whether they get good grades and do well in their sports and achieve XYZ, that they are nevertheless awesome, and that no matter what results they get at school (or in life!) there is only ONE of them, and their uniqueness is their gift!

Telling them this in words isn’t enough. Showing them in actions, reactions, feelings and role modelling is the only way.

How many people know that it’s so important to just be who you are and do what you love, regardless of what the external world tells you is right, wrong, good enough or not good enough. Now there’s a message that we wish we’d been taught at school!

What does this video stir within you?

Six Points To Take Charge Of Your Life

Take Charge Of Your Life

A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with- a man is what he makes of himself- Alexander Graham Bell

  • Identify your biggest problem or source of negativity in life today. In what ways are you responsible for this situation?
  • See yourself as a president of your own company. How would you act differently if you owned 100% of the shares?
  • Resolve today to stop blaming anyone else for anything and instead accept complete responsibility in every area of your life. What actions should you be taking?
  • Stop making excuses and start making progress. Imagine that your favourite excuses have no basis in fact, and act accordingly?
  • See yourself as the primary creative force in your own life. You are where you are and what you are because of your own choices and decisions. What should you change?
  • Resolve today to forgive anyone who has ever hurt you in any way. Let it go. Refuse to discuss it again. Instead, get so busy working on something that is important to you that you don’t have time to think about it again.

It is not easy abiding by these points, but it is worth the try.

Am opened to contributions and comments.

You Can’t Just Sit At Church And Become Spiritually Strong, Just Like You Can’t Just Sit At The Gym And Expect To Become Physically Strong..

BY CHARLES HAMRICK

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Most human beings have uttered the words, or some form of them, “I am out of shape” or “I need to get in shape” at some point in their lives.  Regardless of the reason behind wanting to get in shape, most all people have an innate desire to be in better shape than they currently are.  We do this as humans because we want our body to both look and perform better.  The only way to accomplish this goal, despite anything you may have heard on late night television, is to work at it.  There is no easy fix or simple way to get in shape.  Its not a click of a button or some magical pill you can take.

If you know me, you know that I’m not what you would call a “gym rat” or someone who is going to work out every day of the month. I do know people (one who writes often on this blog quite often, no names mentioned, haha) that works out nearly every day and feels lost if they don’t.  There is nothing wrong with this, they just realize that to stay strong and improve the shape they are in they need to keep working at it everyday.  I admire their commitment to their health and am always impressed with the daily dedication.

Similar to the way we have to work out to keep our physical bodies in shape, we have to “work out”, to stay in shape spiritually as well.  You can’t just sit at church and become spiritually strong, just like you can’t just sit at the gym and expect to become physically strong.  You have to put some work into it on a daily basis.  God wants to teach you and interact with you daily.  He wants you to pick up His Word and read it (daily) and learn from it.  He wants you to ask questions and dig deeper to understand His Word.  God loves to speak to us, and loves us to understand how to speak to Him.

You will start to see yourself getting stronger as you continue to daily spend time with Him in some form or fashion.  If this is not something you currently do, I encourage you to start TODAY and give it a shot for a certain amount of time.  While I am a firm believer that we have a responsibility to keep ourselves in good physical heath, being good stewards of the body that we were given for our time on this earth, I believe even more strongly that we have a responsibility to be spiritually strong, for the battles we will face throughout our lives.  A few of my friends are starting a 24-Day Challenge today for physical health reasons where they focus on eating healthy, cleansing and putting good things (vitamins / supplements / etc.) in their system.  I would suggest you start a 24-Day Spiritual Challenge, where you spend time with God every day for 24 days, in the Bible, in prayer, in meditation, in church and any other place you can get yourself into the presence of God and see what He does for you and tells you.  Focus on it and I promise you will come out in better shape than you did going in!

1 Corinthians 6:19-20
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

1 Timothy 4:7-8
Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.

Behave Consistently With Your Self-Image

You develop new beliefs by taking actions consistent with those beliefs. You act as if you already believe that you have these capabilities and competences. You behave like a positive, optimistic, and cheerful person toward everyone. You act as if your success is already guaranteed. You act as if you have a secret guarantee of success and only you know about it.

You realize that you are developing, shaping, and controlling the evolution of your own character and personality by everything that you do and say every single day.

Since you become what you think about, you should only say and do what is consistent with your self-ideal, the person you must aspire to be, and your long term future ideals. You should only think and talk about the qualities and behaviours that are moving you toward becoming the person you want to be and toward achieving the goals that you want to achieve.

Your beliefs are always manifested in your words and actions. Make sure that everything you say and do from now on is consistent with the beliefs that you want to have and the person you want to become. In time, you will replace more and more of your self-lomiting beliefs with life-enhancing beliefs. Overtime, you will completely reprogram yourself for success. When this occurs, the transformation that takes place in your outer life will amaze you and all the people around you.

A Hand To Hold In The Darkness

When the storms of life rage and the darkness grows dense, that is no time to panic or fear. No matter how dark things seem, God can see what you can’t see, and He promised to be with you and guide you safely to shore if you’ll trust Him.

Uncle David the psalmist knew the truth that God is Light and the darkness can’t hide anything from His view.

Even the darkness will not be dark for you; the night will shine like the day, for Darkness is as Light to you. (Psalm 139:12) NIV

Most of us have experienced a “midnight hour” in our lives – a time when things seemed their darkest and bleakest. That’s probably how the disciples felt that night on the Sea of Galilee. It was night and they were struggling to no avail. The wind was blowing against them, and they were no doubt growing discouraged and weary. Yet it wasn’t dark to the Master. He was watching over them with loving care. He is watching over us, too, and He promised to help us in our time of need.

For I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help the. (Isaiah 41:13) KJV

God is always present with us, and we have His promise that He will help us. But when tests and trials come, the rowing always gets tougher when we allow our view of God to become masked by the storm. If we’re not careful in the midst of a test or trial, we can lose our perspective of reality and take a wrong turn.

Like my pastor will say, every situation in life is in time and season. He also cautions people never to make a life- changing decision in the middle of a crisis. God’s time is always the best and it’s better to seek God and regain their composure and perspective.

I’ve seen people make life- changing decisions that they later regretted because they lost their perspective in a storm of life. Their ship was pitching and rolling on the waves of adversity, and they lost sight of the Master. They began to take matters into their own hands, and they suffered consequences that God never intended for them to suffer.

Storms have the ability to warp our perspective if we’re not careful. Even some of the great men of the Bible temporarily lost their focus in times of trouble. For example, Chief Moses as he dealt with a rebellious people; a heart sick Uncle David as he grieved for a son who had tried to kill him; a despondent Chief Elijah as he ran from jezebel; and an angered Chief Jonah as God forgave a penitent nation. At times, duress and personal struggle caused the attitudes of these men to become tainted by their troubles. They wanted to give up and quit. They wanted to take matters into their own hands and try to change God’s plan. But God wanted them to cling to Him and let Him guide them through the storms and struggles.

It’s so easy to lose your perspective of reality when things seem dark, but if you’ll hold tightly to the Saviour’s hand, light will come. The day will dawn, and your “midnight hour” will be a thing of the past.

Psalm 30:5 says, “… Weeping may endure for a night, But Joy comes on the morning.”

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Questions You Should Ask Yourself Daily

The greatest block in your life is YOU.

The greatest solution to that block is also YOU.

If you do not learn from your experiences, and take control of your own energy (your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions) then you will surely continue to reap the same results and repeat the same patterns.

If those results and patterns are working for you, then great!

If they’re not, then below are a set of wise questions to help you tap into your own inner wisdom for the answers that will propel you into the year ahead as a clearer, more inspired, empowered and insightful you.

Everything in your life stems from your energy and the paradigm through which you view the world.

So it’s time to own that and POWER UP.

Grab a pen and paper, and answer the following questions.

As you reflect, consider the past 6-12 months of your life, and the coming 6-12 months.

You are going to learn from the past to elevate yourself in the present, and prepare for an inspired future!

  • have I been doing, and continue to do, in my life that I know is NOT working for me?
  • Why have I not yet taken action to ‘course correct’ my journey in order to get different results?
  • What am I procrastinating about doing?
  • What negative habits do I have that I know I need to let go of? Click here to refer to my list “28 Habits that Block Your Happiness & How to Let Them Go”
  • Regarding the greatest challenges that I faced in the past 6-12 months, what lessons did I learn that I can apply in future for my benefit?
  • Is there anything I intended to achieve in the past 6-12 months that did not eventuate?
  • Did I invest my attention, time or resources into my personal growth, knowledge, wellbeing and/or happiness in the past 6-12 months year in any way?
  • What goal, dream or aspiration do I have for myself for the coming 6-12 months that I’m ready to make happen?
  • Where is fear currently controlling me?
  • Am I feeling professionally fulfilled?
  • What would I most like to learn how to do or be for the 6-12 months ahead?
  • How have I been using my “free time” and has that helped me feel inspired, vibrant, healthy and fulfilled?
  • Are my current habits for eating, drinking and exercising working for me or against me?
  • Am I holding any resentment towards others or myself?
  • How could I be of service in the 6-12 months ahead in a way that will make the world a better place?
  • Which of my relationships need more of my loving attention to prosper?
  • Which of my relationships are toxic and no longer serve myself or the other person?
  • What have been my strengths and achievements in the past 6-12 months that I can celebrate?
  • Am I living a life that is meaningful to me?
  • Am I proud of who I am, how I behave and what I offer into the world?
  • What feelings dominated my experience of life in the 6-12 months gone by?
  • What feelings do I most want to experience in the 6-12 months ahead?
  • What I am most passionate about in my life that I’d like to do more of?
  • If I could improve one aspect of my life, what would it be? (e.g. relationships, career, finances, health, state of mind, emotional balance, adventure, self-expression…)

Does Being Labeled As Gifted Undermine Personal Growth?

Stanford psychologist, Carol Dweck, has spent her career studying the mental phenomena that lead to success. The Effort Effect provides an overview of her findings.

Why do some people reach their potential, while others with equal or greater talent fail?

The answer, according to Dweck, is attitude. In fact, Dweck has observed that believing in fixed intelligence can undermine a person’s ability to succeed.

Many people who believe in fixed intelligence also think you shouldn’t need hard work to do well. This belief isn’t entirely irrational, she says. A student who finishes a problem set in 10 minutes is indeed better at math than someone who takes four hours to solve the problems. And a soccer player who scores effortlessly probably is more talented than someone who’s always practicing. “The fallacy comes when people generalize it to the belief that effort on any task, even very hard ones, implies low ability,” Dweck says.

This fallacy leads people to view set backs as personal failures rather than opportunities for growth.

Students for whom performance is paramount want to look smart even if it means not learning a thing in the process. For them, each task is a challenge to their self-image, and each setback becomes a personal threat.

Is Being Gifted Harmful?

As a person labeled ‘gifted’ as an adolescent, this article lead me to reflect on my own intellectual development.
Has being ‘gifted’ undermined my achievement? Possibly.

When you’re ‘gifted’ expectations change. Intelligence becomes your identity. Everyone knows you’re supposed to do well in school. When you don’t surpass other students with ease you feel like a failure.

Having your identity tarnished is very threatening.

If you do live up to expectations, you start to believe you really are gifted, and that your natural gifts will carry you to immense personal success. This leads to an inflated ego and underdeveloped work ethic.

Did this hurt me? It’s possible, but I wouldn’t want to use it as an excuse for personal shortcomings.

Still, I’m optimistic. At least I’ve realized that being ‘gifted’ doesn’t get you anywhere in the real world. That’s something they should teach in schools.