If You’re Confused, Talk To God

I discovered something recently, when you talk to people, they confuse you even more but when you talk to God, slowly but surely you begin to find your direction, you begin to feel like things are slowly making sense and somehow things just feel right again.

It’s not an overnight epiphany, it’s not a magic wand that will finally wipe away your confusion, it’s just a small step in the right direction, an idea, a small decision or just a new sense of self-worth or wisdom that makes you feel unstuck and sets you free.

Talk to God if you’re confused about someone, he will either move your heart closer or push you away. Signs will show up, you will hear something about them, you will see a side you haven’t seen before, you will slowly begin to make a decision and you will eventually figure out if that’s the right person for you.

Talk to God if you don’t understand why certain things aren’t happening or why certain blessings are delayed, somehow he will give you reassurance that your patience will pay off, that he is planning something far bigger and greater than what you had hoped for. You will understand, in time, that maybe you weren’t ready to receive what you wanted when you really wanted it, you will understand that the things you wish or pray for change over time. You grow and you realize that what you wished for a year ago is totally different than what you wish for now.

Talk to God if you’re lost. You may not find yourself or your answers right away but you will find a thread of hope, a new piece of information, a gut feeling that propels you to do something you never thought of doing or take a risk you were afraid of taking or just take a leap of faith. He will give you courage, strength and patience to at least stay grounded until you find what you’re truly looking for.

The thing is talking to God doesn’t fix everything overnight, but it gives you the tools and the resources you need to overcome the confusion, overcome the hardships and stay hopeful that better things are coming your way.
Maybe we’re always looking for a quick fix, but quick fixes don’t last, they break easily. Healing takes time. Finding what’s really right for you is a long and tumultuous journey.

Miracles take time but they happen and only God can make them happen.

And when you learn how to talk toGod, solitude becomes sweeter and somehow you feel safer because you know that there’s nothing you can’t handle. Everything will fall into place. Everything will be okay.

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God’s Patience and Bird Box

By: Tatyana Claytor

I applaud Tatyana for this creatively written piece for us all to learn something about God’s patience.

Despite the overwhelming horrors of our sin, God chooses patience over judgment. He chooses to love us in grace and waits for us to return to Him.

The popular Netflix movie Bird Boxexplores what happens when people are exposed to the absolutely worst thing they can imagine. In each scenario, the characters’ response is suicide (unless they were mentally ill). To protect themselves, the surviving characters walk around with blindfolds on.

The movie made me consider what would be horrible for me. Maybe it would be seeing a true reflection of my heart or witnessing the pure evil in the world. Even now, I am easily overwhelmed by the horrors that happen in our world–a few minutes of the news, and I am ready to blindfold myself. What if we couldn’t walk away though? What if we were subjected to not just a segment of the worlds’ sin, but all of it, all the time?

We Can Walk Away

I am blessed that, for the most part, I can walk away from the ugly reflection of our sin. God, however, cannot. He endures every act of violence, every injury to a child, every misalignment of his character for all time. God could end it too. He could stop the sin and suffering by bringing His mighty judgment. However, it would have to be one that wipes out the earth though since none of us is innocent.

Ironically, this seems to be a theme in Bird Box. Those who are insane deliberately try to get others to open their eyes and call it a cleansing. But this is a cleansing without mercy and without hope.

God’s response is neither to blindfold himself or to destroy us. Instead, He makes a way out that both respects the grievous effects of sin and the suffering it causes. His way though still shows value to every person, no matter how defiled. He takes the consequence of the sin upon Himself and only asks that we admit our need for Him.

But He Waits

That mighty judgment is there too, but He waits. 2 Peter 3:9 (ESV) says,

“The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.” He waits because He wants as many as possible that can be saved to be saved.

The parable of the Prodigal Son illustrates God’s patience with us (Luke 15:11-32). Most of you are probably familiar already with the often-told tale of the two brothers. The younger, impetuous and disrespectful, requests his inheritance (before his father has even passed away) and runs off to waste his money. When it runs out and famine comes to the land, the son “came to himself” (vs17). He then remembered the mercy of his father and decided to return. He rehearsed his speech of penitence, expecting to be treated as a servant.
Instead, the father saw him afar off and “felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him” (vs. 20). Even more, the father planned a party to celebrate his lost son returning. The older son is angry because he had been faithfully serving. It doesn’t feel fair to him. Ironically, this parable’s theme hinges on the older son’s lack of compassion and joy for his younger brother, mirroring the Pharisees’ own biases towards the sinners they observed.

What Do We Learn?

There are two lessons here–first, a warning not to be like the Pharisees who cared more about the judgment of sin than the rescuing of their brother. They are the ones who are eager for the “cleansing.” We must remember to look with compassion on those around us, no matter what state they are in.

There is also a message of hope too–a peek into the character of God as we observe his divine patience. In the story, the father allows his son to run off and to waste the money that the father, not the son, so meticulously stores up. He doesn’t pursue him with demands to do his part–he waits until the son is ready.

He is Patient with Us

God exercises patience with us also. He allows what we consider a disgusting use of his resources in order to accomplish the perfect timing of redemption. When I look back over my own spiritual journey, I see how patiently He has waited for me to understand different truths. I see clearly how He never gives up on me, no matter how foolish I am.

This mindset reminds me that I can pass that patience on to those around me, remembering that God is working in each person and is on a journey of their own. I don’t want to be like the Pharisees or the older brother who seemed to delight in the idea of people being punished. Instead, I want to be like the father, anxiously waiting for the turning, for the moment when those who are lost, are found again. There’s a big party coming, and I want to be one who rejoices.

It is difficult right now to see the evil of man and to feel hope, but we can be confident that God sees more clearly than we do what is going on and what needs to happen. He is not blind–in fact, He sees all and still has hope.

Patience Means Waiting on The Path, Not Creating a Path

I pulled up to a stoplight the other day and was feeling pretty anxious about getting to my destination the quickest way possible. I didn’t want to sit there; I was getting impatient that I was the first car stopped at this red light. But then I saw an opportunity to take a shortcut and not sit at the poorly timed light. The urge to keep moving and not wait for the green light had taken over any chance I had of sitting there another second. I looked over to my right and saw the perfect opportunity to cut through a gas station and a few parking lots, as there was no traffic or lights to stop me. I was on a mission. My mission was to save time until I was sitting at another light waiting to get back on the road. Sure enough, the cars that were behind me at the first red light were passing by one by one.

This reminded me of our relationship with Christ and what begins to happen when we become impatient trying to replace His timing with our timing. I have noticed in my life that when I try to take my own steps, it often sets me back farther than had I remained patient in the process. We often feel like we know the timing of everything and the route we need to take to reach our destiny. Our destiny for us isn’t God’s destiny for us. God may call us to something we never thought imaginable. Do we accept the challenge to remain patient in the process of His calling? We honor God when we live with patience. We show Him that we are willing to submit to His plan and not our plan.

Think about Job and how everything he owned was destroyed along with his children. However, he remained patient knowing God had a plan for his life.

We know that Noah had some patience. He waited 120 years for God to send the flood!

Think about Jesus, knowing He would be crucified but still exemplified patience leading up to His death on the cross. Jesus remained patient with His disciples teaching them all the way up until His death.

Are we speeding through life trying to reach our own destination by any means necessary? Or are we remaining patient where God has placed us and following His lead? It is easy to say, “Why did I not get the promotion at work over this person?” or “Why do I have to respond to the authority of my boss?” We have many questions we ask and we often try to answer them on our own. Let God prepare us. He is developing us along the journey. He will show us how He used that waiting period to strengthen us for His glory.

Romans 12:12 – Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.

James 5:11 – Behold, we consider those blessed who remained steadfast. You have heard of the steadfastness of Job, and you have seen the purpose of the Lord, how the Lord is compassionate and merciful.

When God’s Timing Is Taking Too Long

When God's Timing Is Taking Too Long

We all want good things to happen in our lives, but too often we want it now…not later. When it doesn’t happen that way, we are tempted to ask, “When, God, when?” Most of us need to grow in the area of trusting God instead of focusing on the “when” question. If you’re missing joy and peace, you’re not trusting God. If your mind feels worn out all the time, you’re not trusting God.

The tendency to want to know about everything that’s going on can be detrimental to your Christian walk. Sometimes knowing everything can be uncomfortable and can even hurt you. I spent a large part of my life being impatient, frustrated and disappointed because there were things I didn’t know. God had to teach me to leave things alone and quit feeling that I needed to know everything. I finally learned to trust the One who knows all things and accept that some questions may never be answered. We prove that we trust God when we refuse to worry.

God wants us to live by discernment—revelation knowledge, not head knowledge. It’s difficult to exercise discernment if you’re always trying to figure everything out. But when you’re willing to say, “God, I can’t figure this out, so I’m going to trust You to give me revelation that will set me free,” then you can be comfortable in spite of not knowing. Trusting God often requires not knowing how God is going to accomplish what needs to be done and not knowing when He will do it. We often say God is never late, but generally He isn’t early either. Why? Because He uses times of waiting to stretch our faith in Him and to bring about change and growth in our lives.

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5 Simple Steps To Re-activate Yourself, If You Work Hard With No Results

Tips for life.

You’ve spent a lot of time, energy, effort and money to achieve your goal.

You’ve even sacrificed your favorite TV shows, shopping, dating, and your sleep. You utterly, wholeheartedly want to succeed.

And yet your results seem insignificant.

It’s frustrating, isn’t it?

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But remember this: “Giving up on your goal because of one setback is like slashing your other three tires because you got a flat.”

It’s not the time to give up yet.

Here are 5 simple steps to revive your motivation and keep going.

1) Take a Vacation and Rest

“When all else fails, take a vacation.” – Betty Williams

You have been striving hard for so long. If you feel you can’t go any further, stop, rest, and travel. Detach yourself from seeking for solutions, forget those miseries, and just have fun. Besides refreshing yourself, you may even gain new insights and inspirations.

2) Do Some Revision

“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” – John F. Kennedy

Of course you have a target. But it’s easy to lose focus when you’re too busy working on your plans. Revise again – What’s the reason that you want to reach the goal? Write and rewrite it on papers. Then imagine the excitement and contentment when you finally succeed. Keep that fire and march on.

3) Make a Different

“Be stubborn about your goals, and flexible about your methods.” – Anonymous

Don’t just work hard without reflection, you are not a cow. If things don’t turn out well, dwell on other possibilities. You can observe others’ strategies or ask your friends for suggestions. Most importantly, dare to make changes, reflect, and improve again. Continuous trying brings progress.

4) Believe

“If a goal or dream is slow in coming, envision it on a delivery truck, just a wee bit stuck in traffic, but still headed toward you.” – Karen Salmansohn

If you start to doubt your abilities, you have lost half of the battle. This is because you will tend to put less effort, passion, and love to your work. To gain confidence, praise yourself for managing to come this far. You’re halfway there. Don’t worry about failure; just do your best.

5) Be Patience

“The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.” – Arnold H. Glasgow

Understand that great things take time. After all, an oyster needs around 7 years to make a pearl. So don’t feel sorry for yourself, and avoid comparing yourself to other people’s achievements. The truth is that there’s no overnight success. You need to go through this journey filled with challenges, trials, and errors to become smarter and better. Just carry on, persist!

You see, sometimes what you need is just a change of attitude and approach to help you get over the hump and be ready to keep fighting for your goal.

Do you have other tips to pick yourself up? Please share with us in the comments.

 

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Laziness Is Not Patience: What Defines Patience

I relate to this article very well. Guys remember when I wrote on getting a flexible job? Yes the job is a contract job. Thank you Byron Pulsifer. I use to think am very lazy, but clarifying this issue has given me the chill. Have been surfing online and calling peeps for available vacancy. But I trust my God, expecting a Miracle for a better stable job before my contract expires next year.

There are those who hold to an interesting definition of patience. To them, patience means something that says you should wait until the time is just right before you do something.

An Example
Take this example; it is about a man who has a family with a wife and two very small children. He has known for some time that he is going to lose his job, a job that has been hanging by a thread for over the last year.
This is a job that has no medical benefits or pension; it is only a contract position. It has absolutely no security. But, it is a job that pays well unlike some other jobs in the same kind of area of expertise. And, he gets to
work at home.
When approached about his concerns for his family’s security, his standard reply is that he isn’t worried about their security. He must not be because he has yet to apply for one job, or, for that matter, hasn’t even looked in a newspaper help wanted section, or on the Internet that lists jobs available in his area. When pushed a little harder about what he is going to do his response is only that he is going to have to have patience and ride the job to the bitter end.

So What Does He Do
What I find so unusual is that he knows his job is coming to an end; he known this for some time but believes that all will be well – that patience must be exercised to see whether he will get another offer from another contractor in the same area. He isn’t very busy any longer either with his current contract. In reality, he only spends no more than two hours day actually performing any functions.
So, what does he do for the rest of the time ?
Instead of using his time to look for work, or rewrite his resume, he plays online computer games – that all.
Is this patience to see what will happen to his job with the hope that he will be offered another contract or is this laziness?

No Sense of Urgency
Sad. There seems to be no sense of urgency; no sense that he is putting his family in jeopardy not to mention the real possibility that he could lose his house. He has no money saved and if he is out of work longer than one month, the mortgage and the rest of his obligations will not be met.
As the old inspirational saying goes, Patience is a virtue , but laziness is not associated with patience in any form whatsoever.

What It Really Means To Have Unwavering Faith #Rania Naim #faith #patience

It means that you trust God with your life more than you trust yourself. It means that you trust his timing even when you’re running out of patience. It means that you trust his decisions even if you don’t like them. It means that you will love him with all your heart even if you don’t understand him.

It means that even when you question him, you still believe in him, even when you’re tired from everything he’s been throwing your way, you sleep with your mind at ease because you know he knows what he’s doing. It means that you accept what he’s written for you even if you’re dying to change it.

It means that instead of fighting with him, you fight for him. It means that instead of complaining to him, you thank him.

Because faith doesn’t change anything around you but it changes everything within you.

Faith doesn’t always shine and sparkle but it helps you live through the darkness and through the pain.

Faith keeps you going when everyone else is giving up, faith keeps you dreaming when everyone else is waking up and faith teaches you the meaning of life and ultimately teaches you how to live.

Faith means that you don’t know where the road is taking you but you’re still driving, it means that you don’t know if you’re good enough for something but you still go for it, it means that you don’t always have what it takes but you’re still trying.

Faith is not seeing God but knowing he’s there, it’s not hearing him but knowing he’s listening, it’s thinking he doesn’t love you but knowing that he’s always saving you.

Because we’re not meant to understand God or destiny, we’re not meant to make sense of something that’s beyond what we can comprehend — beyond what we can grasp.

We’re not meant to interfere with the universe and what it brings to us. We’re only meant to believe in ourselves and foresee the best and wish that our vision will somehow manifest itself and that God will answer our prayers.

But faith is also understanding that sometimes what we pray for is not right for us, it’s understanding that we sometimes don’t know what we’re praying for.

Because human beings change and life changes but God doesn’t. We are all unstable and impermanent but God is eternal.

And sometimes without faith, you’ll never understand life, you’ll never understand God and you’ll never understand yourself.

Without faith, there will always be a void you can’t fill and something missing that you can’t find. You can only find it when you find God — you’ll stop feeling empty once you feed your soul with faith.