Meet Ire Aderinokun: The Tech Genius & First Nigerian Woman To Become Google Developer Expert

She is the first Nigerian woman to be a google developer expert. She is one of the most influential young women in Nigeria and making us proud.

She is truly doing well, which makes her our wcw this week.

Ire Aderinokun is one of the three Google developer experts in Nigeria. Ire is a self-taught UI/UX Designer and Front-End Developer working in Lagos, Nigeria. Since starting her blog, bitsofcode, in 2015, she has written weekly articles on HTML, CSS, and JavaScript.

It all started at age 14 when Ire Aderinokun played an online game and got stuck in the world of pixels and bits. She went on to get a Degree in Experimental Psychology and a Master’s in Law but never forgot her first love.

Aderinokun’s career emphasizes the importance of being a self-starter and consistency. She has succeeded in building a career on the platform of thought leadership and it has gotten even better as she is giving back to society. Progressing from a mailing list of 1,431 to 2,541 subscribers on her blog, to speaking at the WeAreDevelopers conference in Vienna last year, Aderinokun has shown us that commitment to consistency is the purest form of handwork.

Currently working as a full-time front-end developer at eye/o, she is dedicating her resources to seeing young women through tech programs online.

Source: http://www.womenafrica.com

When You Start Showing Up Fully In Your Life, You Stop Caring About Who Might Be Better Than You

The way we see other people is often a reflection of how we see ourselves.
In fact, it is our most extreme reactions to other people that are often the most revealing. When we are intensely jealous of someone to the point of hatred, there is usually a reason. When we cannot stop comparing ourselves to someone else, there is usually a reason.

That reason is that there is something about them, or their lives, that we secretly aspire to have.

We might deny it, we might try to hide it, we might villainize them and victimize ourselves in order to feel better about it.

But in the end, when we are totally preoccupied about who is better than us, more attractive than us, more successful than us, or happier than us, it is always because there is a huge, gaping hole within us that we do not yet know how to fill.

We fill it with action.

We fill it by showing up.

We fill it by no longer neglecting our true desires and our deep needs.

We fill it by going after the life we really want.

We fill it by rising to the challenge, adapting to the competition, and becoming the absolute best version of ourselves.

Do you know what happens when you start showing up fully in your own life? You stop caring about who might be better than you.

When you think you look the best you possibly can, you stop caring that someone might look better. When you think you are doing the best you possibly can, you stop caring that someone might do better. When you think you are being the best you possibly can, you stop caring that someone might be better.

That insecurity almost always comes from our subconscious awareness that we are not doing all that we are capable of, and that person is. Instead of pointing out our own fault, we project it onto them, shaming, belittling, or trying to make them seem to be less than what they are.

This is not effective.

This does not do anything but make us seem petty and small.

Throwing shade at someone else’s light does not make you shine brighter, it only reveals the darkness within you.

The truth is that you don’t actually want to be better than other people, you just want to feel like you are enough, and you are never going to feel like you are enough if you aren’t showing up and trying to do what you truly want to do.

Worthiness is both something we are born with, and yet, something we must prove to ourselves over time. Nobody wakes up with profound confidence, it is something they build by getting out into the world and showing themselves that they are capable of what they desire.

The same is true here.

Someone else’s beauty does not make you less beautiful, someone else’s success does not make you less successful, someone else’s well being does not make you less healthy.

There is enough shine for everyone, there is enough success for everyone, there is enough goodness for everyone.

Instead of fighting to have someone else’s taken away, it’s time to start chasing your own.

When you really start showing up as the person you want to be, you’ll never again fear that you aren’t measuring up to someone else’s standard, because you’re measuring up to your own — and that’s all you really want anyway.

This is a guest post from Briana Weist.

True Motivational Stories: Brie Larson – #Captain Marvel | Be your own hero

Brie Larson Captain Marvel – A Motivational Story.

A story of Brie Larson Captain Marvel, Real motivational story for all girls around the world who ignore themselves and consider themselves inferior to others and thinks the situation and background are all that is stopping them. This story truly fills the strength in the spirit and inspire every girl and women.

Brie Larson thought she wasn’t pretty enough. Every night, Brie would lay awake listening to her mother’s sobs.

Seeing her parents fight terrified her.

When they finally split, Brie moved into a tiny apartment with her mom and sister. Brie would open her closet and see her only possessions… Two t-shirts and a single pair of jeans.

The family lived off nightly dinners of instant noodles, while her mother worked as a waitress.

Being homeschooled made Brie feel isolated from other children. So, she saw movies as a way to escape into a more glamorous world. Brie watched Gone with the Wind so many times the tape wore out, And she worked on perfecting her Scarlett O’Hara impression. But Brie was too terrified to let anyone see it and hid for years.

Her insecurities only grew as she got older. Each day she spent hours staring into the mirror, Obsessively trying to hide every last flaw.


Brie spent so much time preparing for the life she wasn’t actually living it. And knew she had to take a leap.
Becoming a superhero means saying goodbye to your old life, and becoming something greater than yourself. Brie knew this when she agreed to play Captain Marvel. When the trailer was first released, online trolls told brie to smile more.

But Brie shut them down in true superhero style:

“You can be strong in the ways you want to be. You can own who you are.”

She posted photoshopped faces of male superheroes with smiles on their faces. Finally becoming the hero she needed as a child, Brie gave girls the strength to be themselves. She endorsed #CaptainMarvel raising money for girls to see a female superhero on the big screen.

Despite the spotlight, Brie never forgot her humble roots. She refuses to splurge on clothes and shops at thrift stores when she can.

Brie reminds us that we are all capable of being our own hero, I think it’s always the moments that are trials that end up making you the hero in the end.

Be inspired!

Despite What People Say, Your Reputation Is Just As Important As Your Character

Hey guys!

As I was surfing the internet as always for inspiration, I stumbled on this piece that will blow your minds out. At first when I was reading through, it was as if everything was all about me. Am sure reading through also can relate to you too.

Conventional wisdom tells us that your character should matter more than your reputation. After all, one is who you really are, while the other is just what other people perceive you to be.

While there’s certainly virtue in knowing that no misperception of you can really impact the truth of who you are, it is a false notion to think that we don’t have to care what other people think about us.

However, we hear the opposite as a rally-cry all the time.

It doesn’t matter what other people think!

Except it does, because everything you want in life involves other people.

Now, small-minded people who are intent on disliking you for their own prejudiced reasons are not what we’re talking about. No, we’re not even talking about the people who dislike you for legitimate reasons.

Your reputation does matter as much as your character because the way people perceive you is who they imagine you to be, and who they imagine you to be determines how they will interact with you, what they offer you, whether or not they want to work with you, and whether or not they show up for you.

You cannot behave like a social pariah and then just fall back on the idea that it “doesn’t matter what other people think” because you’re a good person at heart.

All that goodness will be for nothing if you aren’t actively considering the opinions of others. No, not so they can weigh you down and stop you from pursuing your goals, but because when other people have a consensus about you, you’re typically the common denominator.

It matters what the people in your close circle think.

It matters what your partner thinks.

It matters what the people you love think.

If everyone in your life thinks you’re making a mistake, you might really need to take a moment to consider whether or not you might be. If everyone in your life is warning you about your new partner, you might need to take a moment to consider if perhaps they have a point. If everyone in your life seems to have the same problems with you, for the same reasons, in the same patterns, at the same frequencies, you might really need to take a moment and determine whether or not the world is just crazy and out to get you or if, perhaps, there’s also a pattern in your behaviour.

It’s easy to not care what other people think.

It’s convenient, actually.

It totally lets us off the hook, it allows us to validate our own motives and desires without any real consideration for those around us.

The work is not that we completely neglect our own needs and opinions in favour of other people’s.

The work is that we both advocate for and tend to our own needs, honour our own opinions, and still remain cognizant of how people are responding to us.

If you want to get anywhere in life, you have to be a reasonably likable person, or at the bare minimum, not impossible to work with, difficult to connect with, or challenging to love.

And to do that, we have to think about what other people are thinking. Not so their opinions of us can become our own, but so that their opinions of us can inform our own.

In all, I appreciate one of my mentors and excellent writer Brianna Weist for always coming through whenever I need a push in my life. Her piece of work is very deep and encouraging. Also it’s a privilege to always acknowledge your work on my page.

New Music Alert: All I Need By Temi Akindele

This is a sponsored post.

Worship sensation and international gospel singer Temi Akindele is out with another single titled “All I need”. His previous single “Still God” is still trending pretty fast, as people tend to make it a worship anthem to God, believing whatever the challenges are, God is Still God.

All I need delivers a strong lyrics on the love of God, happiness and joy in hearts and soul.

Let’s make this song trend as we tend to make Jesus famous in our hearts. I rate this song a top notch hit single for everyone to hear.

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Celebrate Your Silent Milestones

You should also celebrate the things that aren’t as obvious, that are invisible to the eye. You should celebrate the fact that you’ve gone a few days without engaging with anyone toxic. That you’ve gone a few weeks without falling back into your bad habits. That you’ve gone a few months treating yourself with more kindness than in the past.

You should celebrate the fact that you’ve grown into a stronger person within the last few years. Your heart has reformed. Your personality has reshaped. You might not be able to see your progress, because it’s not something you can track the same way you can track the money in your bank account, but the results are hidden right there.

Take a second to think about how far you’ve come. Not in terms of your career or your love life. As a living, breathing human being. Throughout these last few years, you’ve grown more mature. More responsible. More accountable. More aware of your own feelings. You’re turning into a slightly better person each and every day, even if you aren’t able to see that yet.

When you’re feeling down about how far behind you feel, about how much you’re struggling to reach your dreams, you have to remember the material items you own and the external accomplishments you can brag about online aren’t the only signs of success.

Your silent milestones matter, too. They’re worth celebrating, even if you’re celebrating on your own. You might not be able to brag about them on social media, but it doesn’t matter if anyone else recognizes how much you’ve grown. All that matters is that you realize. That you see how much you’ve done. That you understand you aren’t a failure, you aren’t doing as poorly as you think, you aren’t actually a screwup.

Your silent milestones matters more than you realize.

Cherishing God’s Will Above Our Comfort

As Christians we must begin cherishing God’s will above our own Comfort. This is not always simple to do, but it is possible. This post explains how.

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In order to begin cherishing God’s will above our comfort, the bottom line this. God is God, and His glory should be our pursuit even when it hurts. When Joab and his brother Abishai were surrounded by the Syrians and Ammonites, this is what he said: “Be of good courage, and let us play the man for our people, and for the cities of our God, and may the LORD do what seems good to him” (2 Samuel 10:12)

They were ready for battle, but were resolved to whatever outcome God deemed good in His view. Esther echoed a similar refrain: “… I and my young women will also fast as you do. Then I will go to the king, though it is against the law, and if I perish, I perish.” (Esther 4:16)

Once again we see an abandonment to God to do what He deems best. I’ll do what I know to do to the best of my ability and trust God to have His way. I really feel this is the essence of having faith: trusting God in spite of the outcome. It is a trust in God’s goodness (having the best intentions for us), His ability (to do all things), and His wisdom (to do that which will bring Him glory and us joy in Him).

In both passages, the central characters took responsibility, were decisive, yet rescinded themselves to God’s will. James encourages us to have this attitude.

Sometimes, we make plans, speak presumptuously about the plans without any acknowledgment that God should have a say. As if God exists simply to meet our needs or for our sole satisfaction. He warns: “Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.” (James 4:15)

It’s time to start cherishing God’s will like never before.

His will is our ultimate place of fulfillment, even if it seems like we miss out on some momentary comfort. This is not always easy,  and I am sure it was no different for the Bible characters mentioned earlier. But, such trust in God sets the stage for Him to show Himself strong. As tempting as it might be, let not your heart be anchored simply on things hoped for but rather stay grounded on God’s goodness, power and wisdom.

Credit to Sho.

Thankfulness Is The Beginning Of Happiness: Why Are People So Unhappy?

We’re all searching for happiness in life. But many of us look in the wrong places. Start with thankfulness. Thankfulness is the beginning of happiness!As a human race, people are more unhappy than ever before. I’ve discovered that there are three main reasons for this decline in our overall happiness. The three main reasons for our unhappiness are comparison, comfort, and entitlement. I’ll explain each in detail below.

#1. Comparison

Thanks to big media, TV, movies, and even social media platforms, we’re always comparing ourselves to someone else. Comparison will steal your happiness quicker than anything else. The key to overcoming the comparison game is to take these things for what they are. Remember, online, and on TV, you’re seeing someone’s best. Both their successes and their failures, you see it polished and made interesting for you. At the end of the day, each of us are human, and what you see on a screen is not reality. Stop comparing yourself!

#2. Comfort

This is the silent killer. Do you want to die faster? Live a comfortable life. I could really go on a rant about comfort, but I’ll save it for a content later. Here’s the summary, comfort is an illusion. The more comfortable you are consistently, the less happy you’ll be. The more uncomfortable you are, the more you push yourself and don’t allow yourself to relax, the happier you will be. (In moderation, of course) If you want to be happier in life, get off the couch, do something crazy that makes you really uncomfortable, stretch yourself!

#3. Entitlement

I’ve heard many people say that because Buhari is the president, they’ve felt more unhappy. GROW UP. Since when is it someone else’s responsibility to make you happy? News flash, life isn’t about you, and it never will be. Yes, I know, I’m being harsher than I usually am here. But many people need to hear this. Life isn’t about you, stop acting like it is. Take responsibility for your life and circumstances. Make the best of every season that you’re in. If there’s something you don’t like happening around you, fill the gap, be the solution instead of the complaining voice. (Remember, I love you all! I’ll stop being harsh now.)

One more thing, happiness is not circumstantial.

Happiness doesn’t come from having a great job or owning a successful business, and it doesn’t come from being debt-free or extremely wealthy. It doesn’t come from being in a stable relationship or having a lot of friends. Everything I just mentioned makes you FEEL happy, but it’s all a by product. Happiness is a mindset, not a set of circumstances.

Obviously, there are more reasons why people are so unhappy than I mentioned above. I have found these three reasons to be the root of the happiness crisis that we’re facing. If you can overcome these three things, you’ll begin being happier. But let’s not stop there! Let’s dive into ways to proactively increase your happiness.

How can I be happier?

If you want to be happier in life, you must understand that happiness is a mindset. It’s not your circumstances. And you don’t obtain happiness by avoiding the three main reasons that people are so unhappy that I mentioned above. The key to beginning to live a happier life is to get into a mindset of happiness. The best way to start shifting your mindset is by being thankful. Thankfulness is the beginning of happiness. This isn’t always easy, but if you can remember it in your daily life, you can start becoming a happier person.

In conclusion, remember to avoid comparison, comfort, and entitlement because circumstances do not lead to happiness. Instead, remember that thankfulness is the beginning of happiness. You can become happier by expressing gratitude, making life about more than yourself, and lastly, and ultimately, that each of us is free in Christ!PS: Am also working on myself on this matter. I post this to also find happiness in what I do, forgetting whatever challenges am having at the moment. We shall overcome by the Grace of God.

Enjoy your Life!

Life happens so fast these days. We are always on the move; we are always changing or working toward something new. The next big thing is always almost here or about to happen. We are so focused on getting where we want to be that we forget where we came from and we forget where we are in that moment. Most people would tell you that they are not happy with where they currently are. Why is this?

The world has always tried to sell this statement to the people within it: “Happiness is right around the corner.”

The truth is that happiness is not around the corner, the next thing to be excited about is what you are being sold. Happiness is temporary and based on your circumstances. Your circumstances change daily. This has become more and more troubling to me as we live in an increasingly unhappy world. The problem is not the world itself; the problem is that the people who follow Jesus are following this suite of unhappiness. We are called to be in the world, not part of it. (John 15:19)

More people would want to know Jesus and be saved if they saw genuine joy in the lives of those that call themselves believers. We are called to be different than the world. Even during difficult times in life, we are still called to be full of joy. James 1:2-3 says, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.”

1 Kings 4:29-34 speaks of how wise King Solomon was. Leaders from all around the world came to seek counsel from him. 1 Kings 4:29 says, “God gave Solomon wisdom and very great insight, and a breadth of understanding as measureless as the sand on the seashore.” Solomon says something that really sticks out to me in Ecclesiastes 3:12 “I perceived that there is nothing better for people than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live.”

In Solomon’s unmeasurable wisdom from God, he says that there is nothing better for people than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live. It seems so simple when you read it, but why aren’t we living it out?

Whatever it is that you are currently doing, stop for a minute! Refocus. Remember to enjoy your life! Your life is a gift from God. We were not created to be unhappy and unfulfilled in this life. God ultimately created us so that He could watch His creation do good works and be full of joy in the process. God created us to watch us be happy. Colossians 3:17 says, whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Have you ever thought of it that way before? God created you so He could enjoy you and for you to enjoy Him through your joyfulness in life. Today, give thanks in all things; be joyful on the journey of your life no matter what season you are in. Let God look down at His creation and see you enjoying what He has given you. Start enjoying your life today!

Source: BY

Happy Mother’s Day To Every Mother And Mother To – Be

This is my prayer for all of you.

Dear Father, we approach your throne on behalf of the mothers whom you have entrusted with the care of your most precious little ones. We thank you for creating each mom with a unique combination of gifts and talents. We thank you for the sacrifice of self each mom gives for her children. For the late nights spent rocking a colicky infant. For the hands calloused from washing, wiping, scrubbing, mixing, backing, stirring, hugging, patting, disciplining, holding, writing, erasing, painting, and pouring.

We thank you for the gift of time moms give for their kids, whether it’s stay-at-home moms, working moms, and moms who have some combination of the two. We thank you for the flexibility of moms, for their tirelessness, their perseverance, and their devotion.

We pray you give each mom strength. Help her to see in every mundane task the eternal, cosmic significance that you place on motherhood. Help her to understand that the most radical, world-changing events may be happening anonymously in her home. Help her to forgive those who undermine her significance.

We especially pray for single moms, who must lean solely on you for the fathering of their children. We thank you that you’re big arms surround children who may never know their earthly father. We also pray for mother who never had the honor of bearing children, but whose nurturing extends to the many poor and needy who crass the threshold of their lives.

Love you all!

Being ‘Normal’ is Costing You More Than You Think

If you’ve settled for a normal life, you’re missing out on being something more. For the sake of ‘being normal’ you’re missing out on extraordinary living

Normal is defined as conforming to a standard. To being usual, typical, or doing what is expected of you. Some synonyms for ‘normal’ are common, ordinary, customary, conventional, habitual, fixed, or traditional.

Is being normal a good or bad thing?

Based on the definition, being normal sounds good, right? If you follow the norms, you will never face questioning or be in trouble. You would fit right in, and everyone in your circle would love and admire you. It sounds like quite the cushy, comfortable life we all hope for. Yet, when you take a closer look, you will see just how dangerous ‘being normal’ can turn out for you.

Some examples of traditions/norms can include believing the teachings from childhood and never questioning it. Believing cultural/traditional rituals without ever questioning any of it. Believing that you can only reach so high, earn so much, marry a particular type of person, believe a certain way… etc.

As a guideline, if it is anything that you feel ‘forced’ or coerced into doing, or you do it out of fear, then you may be operating out of an established norm/tradition. The motives behind why you are doing what you do are seriously important.

The traditions of man or culture,, may create life limitations. Each society has its own culture, its own acceptable ways of living and of life. You can be ostracized and criticized if you go against the cultural norms of society.

A ‘normal’ life means that I have accepted the norms of my people and the limitations they impose on me.

The danger lies therein, because once we accept something as ‘normal’ we limit our ability to receive beyond that. ‘Normal,’ creates boundaries and stifles creativity, it discourages the unlimited life that God has for us. The way you see yourself, is what matters most.

You can’t change society or cultural norms, but you can choose your beliefs and change yourself.

God has a life without limits for you. Every time a limitation arises, as a stronghold, take it into your secret place with God. Meditate on His love for you, and on His word, and you will see the boundaries of those limitations removed.

With Christ in you, there are NO LIMITATIONS on what He can do, and what He wants to do in your life and through you.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. – Romans 12:2

Stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you. Allow the Holy Spirit to inwardly transform you through a total reformation of how you think. This will empower you to discern God’s will as you live a beautiful life, satisfying and perfect in his eyes.

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Why (and How) God Tests Our Faith

Now that God has refined you, He’ll test your faith like gold. This is where a lot of believers become discouraged and give up.

When faced with a situation that tests your faith in God, how do you respond? Many times, our initial prayer is for God to deliver us from the situation. We may even beg Him for it. But I’ve learned that God doesn’t deliver us from a test because the purpose of the test is actually to deliver us.

It can be difficult to understand why a good and perfect God allows us to go through trying situations. The reason is simple: sanctification. God is transforming us into the image of His son, Jesus Christ. God tests us for our good; to develop our faith. Testing is not something we should despise because it’s a chance to show the genuineness of our faith and glorify our Lord.

Testing Reveals What is in Us

This third I will put into the fire; I will refine them like silver and test them like gold. They will call on my name and I will answer them; I will say, ‘They are my people,’ and they will say, ‘The LORD is our God.’” – Malachi 3:3 NIV

The bible tells us that God refines and tests us like silver and gold. To understand what that looks like practically, you first have to understand how silver is refined. In short, the silversmith places the silver in a fire and watches it very carefully. He knows the silver is ready when he can clearly see his reflection (or image) in the metal.

When you’re in a trial or test, does God see His image and character in you? Or are your carnal ways of thinking still leading your behavior? Do you exhibit the fruits of the spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, self-control,etc…) or are you led by your flesh? Will you doubt God or trust Him if a less qualified person is given the promotion you’ve been praying for? Do you slander that person’s name to everyone around you or do you ask God to remove the bitterness and still serve at your job as unto the Lord? When faced with a test, what is in you will come out of you. How we respond determines if God moves us forward in His will or allows us to spend a bit more time in our current season.

Testing Removes Impurities From us

As you grow in your faith you’ll begin passing more and more tests. It’s a great feeling, but even though you’re on the right track you shouldn’t get too comfortable. Now that God has refined you, He’ll test you like gold.

Gold is naturally impure. To purify it, the goldsmith must put into the furnace repeatedly. With each pass through the fire it becomes more pure. This is why there are different karats of gold (8,16,24). The higher the karat the more pure it is, with 24 karat being the purest. If we want our faith in God to pure and indestructible like gold, our faith has to go through the fire again and again. Although we’ve been made right with God through our faith in Jesus, the remnant of our sinful nature is still within us. Our sanctification doesn’t happen all at once, it’s a process.

Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. – 1 Peter 4:12-13 NIV

This is where a lot of believers become discouraged and give up. We don’t know when the tests will come, how long they will last, or how intense they will be. Like the Israelite’s in the desert, we can grow weary and start to believe God has forsaken us in the very place He brought us to. In our weakness and fear, we attempt to take matters into our own hands instead of waiting on God (See Exodus 32 NIV).

“If your faith doesn’t cost you anything it’s because it s not worth anything”

Your Faith Will Cost You

To follow Christ we must pick up our cross and deny ourselves. This requires dying to our own desires and ways of thinking. The tests we go through are design to kill our flesh so we learn to rely on the Holy Spirit. It’s a fight not to go back to self-medicating or finding our worth in a relationship. It’s a struggle to stay faithful at work when you’re being overlooked or discredited. Trials feels like the complete opposite of what life in Christ should be, but it’s not. The purpose of the test is to grow your faith, free you from bondage, and increase your dependency on God. Shallow beliefs and idols won’t last in the trial, they’ll will be ruined by the fire. Only what is true and pure will remain.

Friends, don’t fear the fire – the tests and trials. The fire isn’t designed to destroy you, but to remove everything that’s been holding you back from God’s perfect will. If you stay steadfast, you will glorify God and come to know His power in a brand new way. Your triumph will be a testimony to believers and unbelievers alike. Now this isn’t to say that it will get easier, but you will become stronger, wiser, and not as easily swayed by storms that come your way.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. – James 1:2-4 NIV

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Instant Pot Christian: Are You Changed in An Instant?

Have you ever purchased a new item only to feel overwhelmed when you go to use it? It’s so new and different that you don’t even know where to begin. A new Christian may often feel this way as he/she learns to navigate the Christian life. There is no instant pot Christians.

That’s how I felt when I took my instant pot out of the box. It wasn’t a crockpot where I could just toss things in and turn on. The instant pot has so many buttons and options. And, within each feature, there are more features! It’s a completely new way of cooking, and I just couldn’t figure it out was I went. The instant pot was a new way of life and I needed to learn and understand how to use it. I thought I’d be making fancy meals right out of the box, instead I needed to start with the basics.

There’s No Instant Pot Christianity

For those of us who have been followers of Jesus, we sometimes anticipate an instant pot Christian. We expect the moment someone believes, their life is instantly changed to what we expect a Christian to look like and speak. There is no instant pot Christians.

If Christianity was about molding a person to a specific set of standards and conduct, we’d have a religion with a group of people that looked, dressed, and acted the same.

Christianity is the Transformation of Lives by the Power of God

In Romans 12:2, Paul writes that we are not to conform but be transformed. Conforming, by definition, is to comply with rules and laws. Conforming does not indicate there is new life within you; instead, it’s an indication that you are are a rule follower. Anyone can conform to a set of rules. However, true life transformation is by the power of God. This is the power that changes lives.

When you come to Christ, you are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). Your previous way of life and thinking are no longer relevant, but it takes time to learn God’s way. There are no instant pot Christians. You learn His ways by consistently renewing your mind. As you renew your mind, your life is being transformed, from the inside out, into the same image as the Lord (2 Corinthians 3:18).

I remember my own journey as a new believer five years ago. Theologies and terminologies were overwhelming. I would call the language of mature believers “Christianese” for I didn’t understand what it meant when “God spoke to you” or “being saved”. My attempts for understanding through the Bible only led to more questions. My previous ideas of life needed reprogramming. I didn’t need a new set of rules to follow, I needed a reboot of my operating system.

This is what the transforming power of God does, it wipes out our old operating system and puts in a new one.

The More I know, the Less I Understand

Fast forward five years later, and I have a deeper understanding of God, but I also have many unanswered questions. Unanswered questions is good for it keeps us seeking God. We will never understand the ways of God, and we must learn to accept the mystery of God. God doesn’t think the way we do for He is greater than us and so are His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9).

Because we are made in His image, we can relate to His thoughts, but we cannot understand Him. It’s like a young child who can relate to the thoughts of his parent but cannot understand his parent at the same time. As parents, we have experiences and a larger picture to base our decisions. So it is with us and God for we are His children and do not understand the ways of God. We need to be okay accepting the mysteries of God.

We get ourselves into a lot of trouble when we think we have God figured out. And, when God doesn’t act the way we expect Him, this leads to disappointment and a crisis of faith.

While we may have lots of questions, God reveals truth to us in His time. The Holy Spirit will teach you everything you need (John 14:26). Remember, your life is not built in an instant for there are no instant pot Christian.

Christianity is not an instant pot. You are not changed in an instant. Instead, by the power of God, and over time, you will find your life tranformed. Don’t allow anyone recieve you, you are a work in progress.

Thanks to CHRISSY PETRAITIS for this piece.

Learn Something New During This Lockdown

Hey guys!

I will dive straight through on the topic today. Hope you learning something new during this lockdown.

This is an opportunity for everyone of us to be creative in whatever area we find ourselves. It is not easy to be on a lockdown, the boredom alone can get people crazy. But it depends on those who know how to manage the situation.

Skills you can learn

  1. Cooking/ Baking
  2. Graphics design
  3. Photography
  4. Writing/ blogging
  5. Makeup
  6. Video Editing

And many more…

Whatever you want to do, you can do, don’t be idle.

In all, stay safe✌

How to Avoid Toxic Venting

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Hello guys, been a while, trust you all doing well and staying safe. This too will pass very soon.Venting can be a healthy way to express frustration, but when it becomes toxic, it creates a cycle of negativity that’s hard to repair. Though it feels good to vent in the moment, toxic venting creates significant anger and resentment that is unhealthy for you and your relationships.

On the other hand, healthy venting helps you to heal and move forward. By reasoning things out with someone else, you gain clarity on what’s happening. Confiding in someone often lessens the pain because you feel supported. You avoid getting stuck in all that negativity.

What is Toxic Venting?

Toxic venting feels like an attack on someone’s character. Whether you are the one venting, or you’re listening to someone else do it, this communication makes the other person out to be “the bad guy.” This type of bad-mouthing becomes an intense form of gossip.

With toxic venting, the person gets fixated on the other person’s faults. There is no rationale, only targeted rage. Instead of feeling momentarily upset, the venting mimics contempt, which according to The Gottman Institute for Couples Therapy is the single best predictor of divorce.

Examples of contempt include:

  • Name-calling, put downs or criticisms that hit below the belt
  • Acting like the other person “is beneath you”, lazy or stupid
  • Making comparisons to another person or implying they don’t deserve you
  • A lack of accountability for your part in the situation

But toxic venting isn’t just about complaining. It’s telling the same story repeatedly from a victim’s point of view. This behavior fuels gossip and resentment which can make them difficult to give up. Unfortunately, some people feed off of a juicy story!

Those who learn this type of behavior as children, may rely on it a way to get attention. Listening to family tell negative stories makes an impact on how we view conflict. These negative stories become almost entertaining, but unfortunately, at someone else’s expense.

Primary Examples of Toxic Venting

  • Repeatedly criticizing someone’s character but rarely acknowledging their good qualities
  • Complaining about what others do but never admitting your own behavior
  • Implying that someone is less than, stupid or worthless in any way

Each time the person re-tells the negative story, the emotional intensity makes it harder to forgive and move forward. Over time, this can impact physical health and create stress-related illnesses.

Living in the negative story feels draining even though temporarily it gives us energy. Over time, people who are emotionally healthy become repelled by the behavior. Some may distance themselves as a way to avoid having to listen to it.

What is Healthy Venting?

When venting is healthy, the boundaries are clear; you are expressing frustration to get support and seek solutions. It’s not a free-for-all to say whatever you are thinking out loud. There are firm limits that don’t get crossed.

Healthy venting acknowledges frustration while not getting stuck in the feelings. When the person vents in a healthy way, their focus is to get relief, not to be right. The person can communicate what’s upsetting without blame or condemning the other person. While this may include some complaining, it’s not the primary focus. Healthy venting addresses what’s not working while brain storming solutions.

Tips for Healthy Venting

  • Reaching out to trusted friends to reason things out
  • Expressing yourself through “I” statements which keeps the focus on feelings
  • Acknowledging anger and other emotions without getting into character attacks
  • Writing in a journal to express yourself without being censored

Final Thoughts

When done constructively, healthy venting helps you recognize what needs to change in order to seek solutions. Making an effort to see things from the other person’s point of view tranforms the story. For instance, instead of getting increasingly upset, you start to empathize with the other person. You can hold two different points of view rather than being right.

Healthy venting provides a sense of emotional release and connection because you feel heard. Acknowledging your upset in a healthy way makes it possible to resolve issues without damaging the relationship. That way, everyone wins!

Source: Michelle Farris