How to Conquer Your Emotions and Stay Motivated

It’s natural to find yourself dreading work or feeling burned out. Don’t let these feelings get in your way of success or productivity, though; here’s how to conquer these emotions to stay motivated- Jayson DeMers

In the professional world, and in entrepreneurship, it’s easy to let our emotions get the better of us. When you’re passionate about what you do, you can become frustrated and disheartened more easily than usual. When you aren’t comfortable or happy in your workplace, it can be difficult to get out of bed in the morning and get excited about working. When you’re nervous or intimidated, you might not want to start a project for fear of it failing or being rejected.

Emotions are natural and unavoidable, but their effects on our professional lives must be managed. In order to stay motivated and continue doing your best work, you can’t–and shouldn’t–stifle your feelings. Instead, when you experience them, you must find workarounds that mitigate their negative effects.

Depression: Find Work That Gets You Excited

When you’re feeling depressed, whether in the clinical sense or just in a low “funk” you can’t snap out of, working productively and consistently is practically impossible. Sadness is a characteristic emotion of depression, but the state runs much deeper than that fleeting emotion. When depressed, you find it difficult to enjoy anything, even the activities you used to love best. With these empty feelings, you could wake up and dread going to work, only to get there and stare at your computer screen, dreading the idea of doing anything.

Snapping out of this funk is only impossible if you allow it to be. Instead of looking at the work you should be doing and seeing it as dreadful, look at the work you could be doing and imagine what it would be like to do it. Don’t limit your imagination–if you could be doing anything, what would it be? Find work that excites you and try it out. The change of pace could jumpstart you into a new rhythm. If you’re having trouble finding anything that excites you, visit other departments in your company and see what they do. You might find a niche that makes you happier.

Fear: Do What You Do Best

Intimidation and fear are powerful, gripping emotions that can completely compromise our productivity. If your proposals have been rejected consistently, five times in a row, you might feel too intimidated to attempt writing another. If your boss is threatening you with disciplinary action if your performance doesn’t improve, it could make the feeling that much worse.

Rather than fixating on the problem at hand or worrying about underperforming, focus on tasks and responsibilities that you know you can do really well. Work on those, even if they’re small or unimportant tasks, and rebuild your confidence from the ground up. If you can knock out ten easy tasks without blinking an eye, that harder task is going to look far more manageable by comparison.

Frustration: Take Time to Experiment

After a failure or after your plans didn’t turn out the way you expected, it’s natural to feel frustrated. Frustration can lead us to a host of other negative emotions and bad habits, including the tendency to isolate ourselves or to give up on work entirely. Rather than try to correct a problem, many frustrated people simply give in to the idea that a problem can’t be conquered.

Instead, when you feel frustrated, remember that your frustration is probably rooted along one particular path. If you experiment by trying out new paths, you may find your frustration disappear. For example, if you find yourself frustrated when one marketing strategy isn’t giving you any measurable results, try experimenting with a new marketing strategy you have no experience in. Even if you aren’t successful, you may find your frustration easing as a result.

Anxiety: Get Perspective

Anxiety is often related to both fear and depression, and it can seriously throttle your attention. If you spend your time worrying about the results of a particular effort, you won’t spend any time improving your performance in that effort.

There are many tricks to relieve anxiety, but one of the most useful is to get perspective on the problem you’re solving or the fear that’s preoccupying your mind. If you’re worried about failure, get statistics on similar efforts–for example, if you’re trying a new advertising strategy, look up numbers about how similar campaigns have fared in the past. Try to imagine the absolute worst-case scenario–you losing your job or losing the business. That scenario is infinitely unlikely, but even if it does happen, you can still recover with relative ease as long as you apply yourself.

General Advice: Find a Support System

In all of these scenarios, and in the case of many other types of negative emotions, reaching out to others is a major key to success. Whether you talk to your supervisor, your coworkers, or a family member on break, find a support system you can rely on for help when you feel overwhelmed. Simply venting your troubles can be cathartic and relieving enough to make you feel better about going back to work. In addition, your partner will likely be able to shed some perspective on your situation and offer helpful advice you haven’t considered.

There’s no escaping the occasional negative emotions that can compromise your well-being and interfere with your work habits. But if you recognize your troubles objectively and work to find alternative strategies, there’s no negative emotion that cannot be overcome.

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Worry Never

An inspirational poem for your daily lives on not to worry about a thing in life. The poem is inspired by Eleanor Porter.

Worry never climbed a hill,

Worry never paid a bill,

Worry never dried a tear,

Worry never calmed a fear,

Worry never darned a heel,

Worry never cooked a meal,

Worry never led a horse to water,

Worry never done a thing you’d think it oughta.

The ability to worry is not a spiritual problem but a physical. Humans we worry about a lot of things, especially things we want and need but not getting to our needs. Worry changes nothing in our lives, but makes us uncomfortable. Cling unto Jesus every single day to battle the spirit of worry out of our lives, and am sure gradually we will walk away from that part of our lives.

Be productive, motivated, and believe we will overcome.

Video: Taking Your Disguise Off

Christiano Ronaldo disguised himself in a town-square in Madrid and no one cared about him. Even with his swags with the ball, no one cared.

But when he took his disguise off, everyone wanted a piece of him. What a world we live in.

If Jesus comes in disguise will you care about him? Treat everyone with love and respect as Jesus will do.

14 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re Quietly Chasing Your Dreams #BriannaWeist #inspiration

1. Keeping to yourself. Maybe you sometimes spend Friday nights working on projects. Maybe you put traveling over home ownership; maybe you put your 10,000 hours over swiping on another dating site. Maybe you weren’t able to keep up with your high school friends in some ways, but whether or not the outside world can see it, you’re living as other people won’t so one day, you can live as they can’t.

2. Changing direction, sometimes suddenly. Sometimes you have to give up the career path you previously committed to if you want to truly realign with the one that’s right. Part of what makes the process go so much faster and easier is when you allow yourself the freedom to change course when you know it’s necessary – regardless of how it looks on the outside.

3. Keeping your social circle small. You have a limited amount of energy each day, energy that you are determined to use building something that matters to you, not infinitely expending on things and people who drain and don’t replenish.

4. Letting go of other people’s ideas of success. Somewhere along the line, you have to go through a reckoning; a moment in which you reconcile the fact that you can either spend the rest of your years building a life that looks good on the outside, or you can pivot toward making one that feels good on the inside.

5. Saying no, sometimes loudly. The first step to building a life that you do want is not being afraid to discard the life that you don’t anymore. Boundaries need to be set, lines need to be drawn. You teach people how to treat you, and part of becoming an empowered, respected adult is choosing what is and isn’t in your experience.

6. Sharing your product rather than your work. Maybe some people don’t know how you’re spending your days, or “what you’ve been up to” over the last 6 months. That’s okay, they don’t need to know. It is infinitely more powerful to show your finished work rather than get affirmed for working “so hard” and doing “so much.” Be careful of what you choose to get attention for – you’ll be far less motivated to finish if you’re already getting reinforcement just for being mid-way through.

7. Feeling free enough to try different things, sometimes all at once. A lot of people don’t feel liberated to stretch themselves in every direction they feel they have potential in. Most people find one thing they think they like, and feel strapped to it forever. When you’re really opening yourself up to your dreams, you know that you can, and should, and are, capable of doing anything and everything. To other people who are afraid, that looks like “being all over the place.” To you, it’s self-exploration. It’s discovery.

8. Becoming a different person than the one people used to know and were comfortable with. People tend to strongly dislike when the people they know change, but change is the only constant in life, and it is your absolute duty to yourself to keep evolving until you are who you want to be. Becoming who you are often requires stepping out of other people’s comfort zones. Allow yourself this.

Becoming who you are often requires stepping out of other people’s comfort zones. Allow yourself this.

9. Tuning out the voices around you that have shaped you your entire life. If you want to live a life entirely on your own accord, you need to get into alignment with your own calling, your own opinions, your own choices… not the ones of the people who have spent your entire life trying to mold you and shape you into who they want you to be.

10. Stepping out of the status quo. If you live like a normal person, you will live an average life. To do something that’s exceptional, you will have to be the exception – you will have to be willing to live in a way that other people are too afraid of, and be prepared for when they project that fear onto you.

11. Surrounding yourself with empowering people. You know the saying that you will become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with? There’s some truth to it. The company you keep determines the person you’ll become, and you have to choose carefully.

12. Becoming more outspoken. When you feel more empowered and authentically yourself, you become less worried about what other people might think, and more focused on living and speaking your truth. People are going to judge you regardless; might as well make it worth your own while.

13. Changing your mind. Or changing religion, or political stance. Sometimes through the process of continual introspection, you find that you had adopted other people’s ideas as your own, ones that maybe don’t quite make sense or resonate with you in a real way.

14. Your primary goal in life is being yourself, not living up to other people’s expectations of who you should be. Maybe you have to get tattoos, pick up a yoga practice, travel to the other side of the world, start freelancing, open a business you believe in, start making friends who “get” you. Chasing your dreams is a holistic thing, and it transforms your goal from being “what can I get from this?” to “who will I become because of this?” And that is a beautiful thing.

Repost: 10 Signs You’re Not Lazy, You’re ‘Selectively Motivated’ –And That’s A Good Thing #BrianaWeist #motivation

When you look around your life and think: I could be more fit, I should have more money, I need to be doing more work, maybe the reason you’re not isn’t because you’re lazy or inherently unworthy, but because you do not care about those things as much as society is making you think you should.

The world conditions us to think that we have to be everything, all the time. That once we conquer one area of our lives, we need to put our energy toward fixing another. Maybe you’re not working on the book because you really don’t want to write, even though you like the idea of being a writer. Maybe you aren’t getting in better shape because you’ve been conditioned to think there’s something wrong with your body in the first place. Maybe you’re not working toward running your own business because you only think you want to. Sometimes, the thing that we can’t seem to fix isn’t meant to be fixed, and what’s distressing to us is that we are having a hard time accepting that it is the way it is. But successful people don’t do this. They don’t waste their energy on things that don’t matter, or that they don’t care about.

Here, how to know if you’re one of them.

1. When you aren’t genuinely inspired by something, you become paralyzed. You have a very hard time forcing yourself to do anything you don’t really want to.

2. You frequently give yourself a hard time for not doing “more.” In a world that conditions you to believe you need to be more, more, more, sometimes you fail to recognize everything you have done in the face of everything that you’re still struggling to juggle.

3. You’re not afraid to give up on what’s not working. A lot of people stay in the wrong jobs, commit themselves to projects they know aren’t right, or stay with partners they don’t actually get along with because they are afraid to disturb the status quo. Sometimes “giving up” is the most liberating and important thing you can do, and you would rather people judge you for changing than not do what you know is right in your heart.

4. When it comes to anything from reading books to attending classes in school, you excel when you’re genuinely interested, and just get by when you’re not. It’s not that you’re inherently less smart than other students, it’s that you can’t feign interest in things that don’t apply or resonate with you.

5. You believe you have a big purpose in life, one that’s far more than just going to work, paying the bills, and waiting around to die.

6. You don’t want to spend all of your energy each day working on creating other people’s dreams. You’re motivated by knowing you’re creating something for yourself.

7. You’d rather be fulfilled than comfortable. Being selectively motivated doesn’t mean you’re quick to give up or choose the easier path, it just means you’re only willing to suffer for what’s really worth it.

8. What you care about is what motivates you. What you’re good at is what motivates you. Those two things, when done in tandem, create your purpose. You realize that the things you like are not random, they are fundamentally a part of what you are supposed to do here.

9. You feel disproportionately motivated when it comes to “getting your life together.” You will happily spend 11 hours of your day working on your creative projects, but can’t get yourself to care about decorating your apartment better, or having more stylish clothing. A lot of things that other people seem to care about a lot don’t always register as important to you.

10. You’re willing to sacrifice some parts of your life to put your energy toward others. Maybe you wear a “personal uniform” each day so your first energy in the morning goes toward something other than how you appear. Maybe you’re choosing to stay single for a period of time because your focus needs to be primarily on yourself. Maybe you’ve moved to a cheaper city so you’re able to pursue more freelance dreams. The point is: you’re willing to do anything for what you care about, and you’re not afraid to discard what you know won’t matter in the end.

This Is What It Means To Be Driven, Because It’s Not About Being Self-Centered Or A Workaholic: Repost #Brianna Weist #inspiration #wisdom #motivation

People aren’t born ambitious.

People become ambitious because they hit a crisis point at which they can no longer allow their circumstances to govern their lives.

Life traumatizes us all in different ways, but the road ultimately diverges between the people who keep trying to fight their lives and the ones who realize that they are manifesting the battles.

Being driven means realizing that life is happening for you, not to you. It means understanding that everything is feedback, everything is a mirror.

Once you begin to take responsibility for yourself in this way, you start to see that you were never a victim, you were only allowing your past to dictate how much you’d cap your potential.

Being driven is no longer letting your potential be controlled by anything other than your conscious habits and active choices. It means not remaining latent. It means believing that things can change, and you are the one who can change them.

It means taking a pile of bricks and building a house.

People who aren’t awake yet can’t understand why you’d spend so much time working on your craft, your career, your relationships… why you’d be so committed to growth. In fact, people who are still have an external locus of control interpret other people’s success as a threatening to their own. People who believe in their own inner power see other people’s accomplishments as a reminder of what’s possible, not a threat to it.

That’s what it really means to be driven: it just means you’ve woken up to how much you can do, how much you can change, how much you can create.

Once you get a taste of how much power you do have, you can never unsee it. You can never deny it. You can resist it for a bit, but ultimately you realize that the quality and magnitude of your life is your own responsibility, and the more that you develop your gifts and your talents, the more you are fulfilling your greater purpose – the more you are living in service of others, too.

Driven people have a higher threshold for what they think is possible in their lives. That’s what fuels them to move.

What drives a person is their unwillingness to be driven by the world. What makes them succeed is the amount of control they choose to internalize, and how long they sit idling, waiting until they realize they are the god who can save themselves.

Prayer Tuesday

Father, God and sovereign Lord of all creation, thank you for your incredible love for me.

 While I know I don’t deserve your overwhelming and generous Grace, I rejoice in it. While I know my best attempts at honouring you fall short, thank you for promising to welcome me into your presence, care for me, and comfort me when I come home to you. Your love, O! Lord, is beyond my comprehension and exhausts my appreciation while filling my heart with wonder and praise. In Jesus name .. Amen!!!

Value: Repost

A popular speaker started off a seminar by holding up a $20 bill. A crowd of 200 had gathered to hear him speak. He asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”

200 hands went up.

He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.” He crumpled the bill up.

He then asked, “Who still wants it?”

All 200 hands were still raised.

“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?” Then he dropped the bill on the ground and stomped on it with his shoes.

He picked it up, and showed it to the crowd. The bill was all crumpled and dirty.

“Now who still wants it?”

All the hands still went up.

“My friends, I have just showed you a very important lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, life crumples us and grinds us into the dirt. We make bad decisions or deal with poor circumstances. We feel worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. You are special – Don’t ever forget it!

Source: living3