Interview Discussion With Popular Instagram Relationship Coach “Abigail Ajayi”

The first time I met this woman of substance was back then at the university. She was a professional dancer and actor on stage. Now she’s a renowned relationship coach on Instagram. She is the spokesperson and owner of “relationship talk with abilight”.

She’s married and a mother of 3 beautiful children. Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you Mrs. Abigail Ajayi.

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and were you born? 

  • My name is Abigail Ajayi, I am from the western part of Nigeria. I grew up in a family of 6. I had most of my education in Nigeria. I am an alumnus of the prestigious Redeemer’s University where I studied Theatre Arts. I am presently running my Master’s program in Paris, France.

2. How was life growing up? 

  • I would say it was fun especially as the only daughter. You can imagine how it felt growing up among 3 soldiers.

Me: Laughs!!! I can imagine

3. At what age in life did you decide to become a relationship coach? 

  • Well, I didn’t decide to be a relationship coach, but experiences from my teenage and adolescent years where I saw some of my friends face relationship challenges which I had to help resolve stirred up my counseling dreams. Toward the end of the year 2017, I was led in my spirit to start the relationship talk. Taking this decision was not so easy, but as Relationship talk with Abilight is a ministry initiated by God, He made all things work seamlessly.

4. How do you cope with running a fast-growing relationship coaching platform?

  • It’s my passion and a lifestyle so there is nothing to cope. I find joy in what I do.

5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?  

  • It’s being a blessing, never has it been a burden because I feel it’s a privilege to be a blessing to people.

6. What challenged have you experienced as a relationship coach? 

  • Ensuring I do as I preach, also coaching someone who reached out for change but refuses to change. 


7. In your opinion, what is the major problem couples face during marriage/relationship? 

  • The major problem in marriage/ relationship is lack of true love, if we love ourselves the way God has orchestrated love, marriage will work perfectly. Where love reigns, submission will be easy, where love reigns Peace reigns…
  • Secondly, I will say lack of communication. 

8. What’s the weirdest thing a follower has ever told you? 

  • Hmm, requesting to be taught how to seduce his own mother (incest) Me: What a hilarious person. I can imagine the kind of weird things you hear during your sessions online.

9. Your videos and presentation confidence are so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown? 

  • Fear of the unknown no… God has been my strength so far… 

                  Abigail and her Husband


10. You’ve been married for close to 6-7 years now if am correct. What have been the driving force to your successful marriage? 

  • GOD, I can’t over emphasis Him. He forever will remain my reference. 

11. You have featured mothers and other personalities on your platform. Which professional do you seriously look at to work with or have something coming out with? 

  • I’ll say a professional marriage counselor who has very good experience in counseling and also a psychologist to speak enormously on depression as it’s an issue a lot of young people face especially after encountering relationship challenges.

12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on a daily basis? 

  • Never considering myself as a failure. 
  • Becoming a better ME daily
  • Impacting the world in my own little way. I sincerely believe I don’t need to be the president before I can implement change… The change could be implemented from you as an individual.

13. You studied Theater arts at the university. What drove you to switch from that profession to become a relationship coach? 

  • *smiling* well I didn’t switch like you think, my career as a relationship coach is complemented by my training as a thespian. Being able to communicate with people and passing my message to the world on live tv to me is part of acting. I will also add that as a relationship coach I can streamline what I want my audience to hear at any particular time.


14. What advice would you give to those women who are depressed on not getting married in time, and those who are facing one problem or the other in their marriages? 

  • My advice to women who are depressed about not getting married in time; please don’t get tired of praying. One thing I realize in life is at times God keeps us away from danger without our knowledge and we blame Him for it.
  • Work on yourself as an individual, at times we might be our own problem. Beauty could help you get a relationship but the character keeps you in that relationship. 
  • The purpose of marriage is to reflect the relationship of the Godhead and to serve him. But when you don’t even have the opportunity to serve God what’s the essence of it. So, people will tell me there are marriages working perfectly without God involved, hmmm my brother/sister it will tell with time. Am a kingdom bearer and I talk from that perspective.
  • I can’t over emphasis prayer in marriage. When there is an issue in your home, try to settle it both physically and spiritually. Often run back to your Heavenly Father to take charge and speak to His son/ daughter. He alone knows how to speak to a child. 
  • Lastly, Patience is key. In as much as it’s not an abusive relationship, be patient! 

15. Also, what advice would you give to unmotivated and non-inspired people around the world who are tired of life, especially ladies.

  • No one is useless. Life or experience is a teacher… do not get discourage even in that situation. One driving force that pushes me is a NEW day. I believe a new day brings new blessing. Always remember you ain’t useless! Often remember you are wonderfully made by the most high, So one driving force we all must have is the Holy Spirit. If you haven’t encountered Him, ensure you do today.
  • You shall make it, never retire today! Be a vision on a mission! 

16. What’s next for Abigail Ajayi? 

  • *smile* a lot but right now I just launched my new brand, LIGHT EXQUISITE FUNCTIONS: it’s an event management brand. She was born out of necessity and me exploring my creativity. You can follow me on my IG page @lightexquisitefunctions and @relationshiptalkwithabilight. 

Thank You.

We should be the one thanking you for creating time from your busy schedule.

  • Thanks so much Mr Femi Johnson. 

You welcome.

If you want to know more about Abigail Ajayi or you find yourself having issues in your relationship or marriage. Folllow Abigail @relationshiptalkwithabilight

Till next time, do have a wonderful day!!!
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Interview Discussion With The CEO of Dobi’s Organics: Adaobi Jennifer Ifeadi

This year I will be interviewing upcoming young CEO’s about how they started, the journey, and challenges starting their businesses. Also, motivating others to do what they love.

Am honoured to have this interview with our guest. She’s bright, loving, charming, beautiful, in all she represents her business well. Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you Adaobi Jennifer Ifeadi.


1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and Where were you born? · My name is Adaobi Jennifer Ifeadi. I am from Anambra state. I was born in Makurdi, Benue State Nigeria. I Got my first degree from the European university of LEfke Cyprus, and second degree from university of Northampton (Both MA and BA in International Relations).

2. How was life growing up?

· Life growing up in benue state was interesting as I got to learn how to speak tiv and idoma language, also learnt their cultures and ate their food. This didn’t affect my mother tongue and heritage anyway, as I spoke and still speak igbo language very well, and cook varities of igbo soup like bitter leaf soup, ofe oha, ofe nsala, etc..

3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into the organic products business?

· I decided to go into producing organic products at age 22.

4. How do you cope running a fast growing organic business

· I manage well as I currently have two staffs helping me grow my company.

5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?

· Let’s just say running your own business can be fun and challenging at the same time. Because there are days when you will feel like throwing in the towel and getting a 9-5. But in times like this you just have to keep pushing and focus on why you started in the first place.

6. What challenged have you had to as a business owner?

· So far there has been so many challenges. One of which is being able to get an experienced staff. I basically have to teach them everything and if they leave I start afresh with another person.

7. In your opinion, what is the most difficult part about organic hair creams, Beard oils, etc..

· For me producing it can be fun and exciting, almost the same feel I get when I’m cooking. However challenges includes buying some materials from the abroad as I may not be able to find it here in Nigeria and having to wait weeks sometimes months before I can receive them.

8. What’s the weirdest thing a customer/ staff has ever told you?

· A customer crediting my account with a rather large some of money after my products worked for her and her daughter and she prayed for me and my business. It’s a good kinda weird.

9. Your business confident is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?

· If you must be a business owner, you must be bold enough and ready for troubles and challenges. Once I take it all up to God in prayer, I keep going and pushing no matter what.

10. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?

· I’m looking at becoming a politician. Therefore encouraging other Nigerian women to become active in political issues.

11. You were recently interviewed on an international cable news channel. What was it like seeing yourself on TV?

· Although I have been interviewed about my business on local Nigerian news channels, It was an exciting experience been shown and exposed on an international platform with CGTN.

12. How the people react, especially your friends and family.

· Up till today people still walk up to me to ask if I’m Dobi’s organics because its still been aired repeatedly on DSTV

13. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

NIL


14. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?

· To always read books, make research, and take classes for business and pernal growth. Because change is constant.

15. What motivates you?

· The thought that I want to be better, do better, and always excel in everything that I do.

16. What advice would you give to unmotivated and non inspired people around the world. Please explain???

· Believe in yourself and put God first in all that you do because with God, all things are possible.

17. What’s next for Jennifer?

· I’m going to keep pushing till Dobi’s Organics becomes a household beauty product both on a local and international level.

Guys I have tested and used her products, and I must say it works perfectly fine.
Example showed in the picture below…


Make sure you order yours now. Don’t worry thank me later when that Beard starts growing, or when you start glowing with dobis organic products.

You can follow dobis organics on Instagram: @dobisorganics or WhatsApp for your orders: +2348146905425


We appreciate your time doing this interview with us, making room for us with your busy schedule. 

Thank you very much.

Interview With Ex- Beauty Queen And Super Model: Joyce Ngozi Chidebe

Am so privilege to have the opportunity of interviewing an Ex- Nigerian Beauty Queen, a super model, and a friend over the weekend.

Guys, join me as I welcome Joyce Ngozi Chidebe

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and Where were you born?

I am the 3rd child in a family of 7. Was born in Lagos state. I attended both primary and high school in Lagos state, and my university (UNIBEN) in Edo state.

2. How was life growing up?
Growing up was something!
I grew up in a 3 bedroom apartment that had a cacophony of people in it because my parents never turned a blind eye to a person in need.
You have accommodation problem, there’s always a couch/bed for you to sleep in.
No food, there is always a plate for you.
The pro of that was that I understood people’s suffering from a really young age and it taught me humility.
The con on the other hand is I am a very quiet/private person so the inability to quiet the noise and have an alone time irked me.
In all it helped shape me into who I am today: strong, grounded and disciplined.

Me: that’s so kind of you guys.. Both 😂😂😂

3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into modelling?
I decided to go into modeling when I was 17 years old.

4. How did you cope with running your daily activities and modelling?
I always say the best way to live is to make sure there is a sync or balance in the things you do. My daily activities and modeling is very much inter woven so there is never a clash.

5. Is being a supermodel a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?
It’s been an absolute blessing. I’ve met amazing people, achieve feats that were just imaginations before now and also been able to give me financial freedom.
6. What’s the weirdest thing your fans has ever told you?
“You are my role model” it was overwhelmingly but highly flattering/appreciated. It was like a bitter sweet feeling because here I am trying to constantly improve myself and with that comes self criticism so it was absolutely amazing to hear that someone appreciate the work I am doing.
7. Your self confident is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?

Absolutely! I believe a person without is a person without dreams. Confidence/courage isn’t the lack of fear but the ability to look at your fear and with a sweating palm/racing heart hold on to it so tight that even the universe will help you make those dreams come true!

8. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?
Fashion designing, animation, interior design and architecture.

9. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

This is difficult question to answer as I have a long list of people I would love to work with in every field I am interested in. It ranges from Namoi Campbell, Coco Rocha, Edward Enninful, Karl Lagerfeld, rElon musk, Richard Branson, Meryl Streep, Mia jocovich, Emma Stone, Johnny Deep, Chimamanda Adiche and much more.

10. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?
Is it weird to say I don’t have a go to note pad cos I actually don’t.
11. You were MBGN 2012 runner up and also West Africa Beauty Queen runner up. How has life treated you after the beauty pageant?

Beauty pageantry was a beautiful stepping stone for me. It help me dream even more, made me push more and it has help me drive myself in the direction I currently am right now.

12. What advice would you give to aspiring young models?
Things are not going to be given to you, you have to work for it. Show up for your casting, be prompt and have a “can do” energy. A lot of no’s might be thrown at you but shake it of, keep pushing and give them a reason to say yes. Believe me when I say it’s quite worth it.

13. Please advice the unmotivated and non inspired people around the world today on why they shouldn’t give up but keep trying. Please explain???
Life is tough, I truly do understand that but putting too much thoughts to your problems won’t solve it. So just like a tough exam in school, solve the easy problems: that would give you an energy/mental boost. That way you have a few more things to be grateful for and helps you look at the tougher problems with more of a positive light. Don’t rush but also dont be lazy, a steady pace will keep you balanced and help you enjoy the small miracles on your way to your big picture.

14. What’s next for Joyce?
I am busy dreaming with my eyes wide open.

We all from Motivated and Free Blog appreciate you for sparing us a bit of your time because we know you are a very busy lady. We wish you the best in all your endeavours.

Thank you.

Interview Discussion With The CEO of I. Pearls Fashion: Tabitha Bankole

What motivates and drive extraordinary people to do big things? It’s determination. To continue our series on interviewing upcoming young CEO’s, today we have a creative stylist and fashion designer. A lady of charm, elegant, and spruce. Guys welcome Tabitha Bankole “CEO I. Pearls Fashion”.

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and Where were you born?

My name us Bankole Tabitha, the 5th of 6 children. I was born in ogun state but my family relocated to Lagos when I was about 7 years old. I schooled in mbari mbayo school, redeemers high school and redeemers University where I obtained a B.A in history and international relations.

> 2. How was life growing up?

Life was good, had its ups and downs, I wanted to be a doctor growing up but I can’t stand blood… Then I wanted to be a farmer but I can’t hold chicken… Growing up was just growing up, I am still growing.

> 3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into the fashion business?

Fashion was my plan b, agriculture was my plan A, plan A was never going to work so plan B became plan A

> 4. How do you cope running a fast growing business?

Growing yes but I don’t think it’s moving as fast as I want. Generally it is a lot of dedication, hardwork, sweat and tears, but some day I will get there soon.

> 5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?

It is kind of a bit of both, as the owner of a business you carry a lot of responsibilities on your shoulders, a lot more than you bargained for, but it’s a blessing because I have no limitations, i can go as high as I want which is a big blessing.
> 6. What challenge have you had as a business owner?
A lot of challenges, a whole lot I can mention a few… Dealing with fake fabric vendors to satisfying clients, coping with emergency jobs, getting investors.. A whole lot

> 7. In your opinion, what is the most difficult part about fashion and style?

Creativity : as a designer or stylist you have to keep being creative, it is the only way to stay in the game. There are over a million styles out there and a million coming out daily, so you have you keep thinking and being creative to stay in the game.

> 8. What’s the weirdest thing a customer/ staff has ever told you?

Nothing weird yet, I await that moment (laughs)
> 9. Your business confidence is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?
Yes definitely I do, every business owner does, but you just have to keep the faith and keep moving.

> 10. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?

I am working on something new, I will let people know when it is time.

> 11. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

Omg that will be Oprah!

> 12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?

Stay diligent, remain motivated, and keep working hard.

> 13. Aside the unemployment nature of the country, what drove you to switch from an International relations graduate to a fashion business owner?

Unemployment played no role in my business. I always knew I want to be an entrepreneur right from high school, in my university days I sold all sorts, so business has always being a part of me. I still love international relations and some day, I might do something in my line of study

> 14. What advice would you give to unmotivated and non inspired people around the world. Please explain???

Just keep doing what you do, the road is not easy but once you start flying you remain flying, there is no traffic in the air, so just keep trying to ‘take off’ and once you do, you will soar for ever.

> 15. What’s next for Tabitha Bankole?
I am working on my ready to wear line, and doing something new in the bridal industry. Once I am ready, the world will know.

Thank you very much for your time and contribution to our platform. Hope we do this again..

Tabitha Bankole: Sure…

Repost: Telling God To Get Out

We may not know how we deliberately send God packing from our lives. I appreciate this interview for sharing more insights on how we send Vod away from our lives. Please be patient and read this interview through.

Billy Graham’s daughter, Anne, was being interviewed on the Early Show by Jane Clayson, regarding 9/11/2001. She was asked, “How could God let something like this happen?” Ms. Graham gave an extremely profound and insightful response. She said, “I believe that God is deeply saddened by this, just as we are. But, for years we’ve been telling God to get out of our schools, to get out of our government and to get out of our lives. And being the gentleman that He is, I believe that He has calmly backed out. How can we expect God to give us His blessing and His protection if we demand that He leave us alone?”

This form of rejection seemed to begin when Madeline Murray O’Hare complained she did not want any more prayers in our schools. And we said, “OK.” (Side note: Madeline was murdered, and her corpse was found)

Then, someone said, “you better not read the Bible in school”… the Bible that says thou shalt not kill; thou shalt not steal, and love your neighbor as yourself. And we said, “OK.”

Then, Dr. Benjamin Spock said, “we shouldn’t spank our children when they misbehave, because their little personalities would be warped and we might damage their self-esteem.” And we said, “an expert should know what he’s talking about,” so we said “OK.”

Then, someone said, “teachers and principals better not discipline our children when they misbehave. And the school administrators said no faculty member in this school better touch a student when they misbehave, because we don’t want any bad publicity, and we surely don’t want to be sued.” And we said, “OK.” (Side note: There’s huge difference between disciplining and touching, beating, smacking, humiliating, kicking, etc.)

Then someone said, “let’s let our daughters have abortions if they want, and they won’t even have to tell their parents.” And we said, “OK.”

Then some wise school board member said, “since boys will be boys and they’re going to do it anyway, let’s give our sons all the condoms they want, so they can have all the fun they desire, and we won’t have to tell their parents they got them at school.” And we said, “OK.”

Then some of our top elected officials said, “it doesn’t matter what we do in private, as long as we do our jobs.” And agreeing with them, we said, “it doesn’t matter to us what anyone, including the President, does in private as long as we have a job and the economy is good.”

And then someone said, “let’s print magazines with pictures of nude women and call it wholesome, down-to-earth appreciation for the beauty of the female body.” And we said, “OK.”

And then someone else took that appreciation a step further and published pictures of nude children, and then stepped further still by making them available on the Internet. And we said, “OK… they’re entitled to their free speech.”

And then the entertainment industry said, “let’s make TV shows and movies that promote profanity, violence, and illicit sex. And let’s record music that encourages rape, drugs, murder, suicide, and satanic themes.” And we said, “it’s just entertainment, it has no adverse effect, and nobody takes it seriously anyway,” so we said, “OK.”

Now we’re asking ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they don’t know right from wrong, and why it doesn’t bother them to kill strangers, their classmates, and themselves. More than likely, if we think long and hard enough about it, we can figure it out. I think it has a great deal to do with… “WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.”

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“Dear God, Why didn’t you save the little girl killed in her classroom?” Sincerely, Concerned Student.

“Dear Concerned Student, I am not allowed in schools.” Sincerely, God.

Funny…?

Funny how simple it is for people to trash God and then wonder why the world’s going to hell.

Funny how we believe what the newspapers say, but question what the Bible says.

Funny how everyone wants to go to heaven, provided they do not have to believe, think, say, or do anything the Bible says.

Funny how someone can say “I believe in God,” but still follow Satan who, by the way, also “believes” in God.

Funny how we are quick to judge, but not to be judged.

Funny how you can send a thousand ‘jokes’ through e-mail and they spread like wildfire, but when you start sending messages regarding the Lord, people think twice about sharing.

Funny how the lewd, crude, vulgar and obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but the public discussion of God is suppressed in the school and workplace.

Funny how someone can be so fired up for Christ on Sunday, but be an invisible Christian the rest of the week.

Are you laughing?

Funny how, when you go to email a message like this, you will not send it to many on your address list, because you’re not sure what they believe, or what they will think of you for sending it to them.

Funny how I can be more worried about what other people think of me than what God thinks of me.

Are YOU thinking?

Pass this on… if you think it has merit. If not, then just discard it. No one will know that you did. But if you discard this meaningful thought process, then don’t sit back and complain about the sinful shape of the world!

True Story: Every business requires absolute dedication Interview with Rennie Chamasanyan- Repost

Rennie Chamasanyan has been living in London for nearly 14 years. As every beginning is difficult, Rennie’s was not an easy one as well, but she always knew she would succeed. For seven years she worked as a financial director at a TV in London and for four years she has had her own financial firm. Her great passion is construction, but what makes her extremely happy is her family, her husband Hovanes and their one-year old son Georgi.

At the beginning of my new life in England I was working at three places and slept for three or four hours a night to have money to pay my bills and rent. I bought a house almost a year later.

I moved to London and started looking for a job. I lived with my best friend in the centre of London and I started work almost outside London. Every day I travelled for an hour and a half. While everyone was coming from the outskirts to the centre to work, I was doing the opposite … but one morning I was running because I was late and I fell on the street … A bus almost ran me over and stopped just a meter away from me because I crossed on a red light. I was so scared and I decided that this was the last time I do this to myself and decided to quit. I went to the office with torn pants and told them I was done. Then I decided that I would look for a job within walking distance and wouldn’t need to travel any more. And so it happened. After some time I went to an interview at a television and to my great happiness they liked me. I had to walk to the office for just ten minutes!

Work in television was probably the dream of every person with a wish to fulfil themselves. I was financial director for the entire television and the offices abroad. I travelled to Brazil, Ukraine, France. I had assistants, an office, a driver, business trip costs, but above all my word had weight and people respected me a lot. I had many rights and duties, of course. I learned a lot and now this helps me every day. After years I left because I knew and could do everything and only the owners were above me. I didn’t want to limit my development and wanted to use my time in a better way.

Every business mostly requires absolute dedication. It’s not so important how much money you will invest but how much effort and desire you have. Will, ambition … I think these are more important than capital. I started my financial business with an old laptop and the construction business – with a small tape measure.

Accounting business is something that I really feel comfortable with. Our office is not large, but everyone is at a very high level. We have a lawyer who deals with all legal issues and immigration lawyers. My clients have full confidence in me – I have had clients for five years that I’ve never met in person. I try to do everything online and by mail. I respect the laws of England and I think that I advise people in the most efficient manner.

My formula for success is a lot of work, good assessment of the circumstances, screening of situations, risks and especially to be accompanied by someone who inspires you. There is nothing more devastating than being with someone who doesn’t make you happy. This can’t be good for your success, neither personal nor professional. The person beside you is very important … really! This person should make you give the best you are capable of, to be your support when you need it, to make you feel loved, valued and irreplaceable.

By: Julia Jarvis