Interview Discussion With Popular Instagram Relationship Coach “Abigail Ajayi”

The first time I met this woman of substance was back then at the university. She was a professional dancer and actor on stage. Now she’s a renowned relationship coach on Instagram. She is the spokesperson and owner of “relationship talk with abilight”.

She’s married and a mother of 3 beautiful children. Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you Mrs. Abigail Ajayi.

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and were you born? 

  • My name is Abigail Ajayi, I am from the western part of Nigeria. I grew up in a family of 6. I had most of my education in Nigeria. I am an alumnus of the prestigious Redeemer’s University where I studied Theatre Arts. I am presently running my Master’s program in Paris, France.

2. How was life growing up? 

  • I would say it was fun especially as the only daughter. You can imagine how it felt growing up among 3 soldiers.

Me: Laughs!!! I can imagine

3. At what age in life did you decide to become a relationship coach? 

  • Well, I didn’t decide to be a relationship coach, but experiences from my teenage and adolescent years where I saw some of my friends face relationship challenges which I had to help resolve stirred up my counseling dreams. Toward the end of the year 2017, I was led in my spirit to start the relationship talk. Taking this decision was not so easy, but as Relationship talk with Abilight is a ministry initiated by God, He made all things work seamlessly.

4. How do you cope with running a fast-growing relationship coaching platform?

  • It’s my passion and a lifestyle so there is nothing to cope. I find joy in what I do.

5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?  

  • It’s being a blessing, never has it been a burden because I feel it’s a privilege to be a blessing to people.

6. What challenged have you experienced as a relationship coach? 

  • Ensuring I do as I preach, also coaching someone who reached out for change but refuses to change. 


7. In your opinion, what is the major problem couples face during marriage/relationship? 

  • The major problem in marriage/ relationship is lack of true love, if we love ourselves the way God has orchestrated love, marriage will work perfectly. Where love reigns, submission will be easy, where love reigns Peace reigns…
  • Secondly, I will say lack of communication. 

8. What’s the weirdest thing a follower has ever told you? 

  • Hmm, requesting to be taught how to seduce his own mother (incest) Me: What a hilarious person. I can imagine the kind of weird things you hear during your sessions online.

9. Your videos and presentation confidence are so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown? 

  • Fear of the unknown no… God has been my strength so far… 

                  Abigail and her Husband


10. You’ve been married for close to 6-7 years now if am correct. What have been the driving force to your successful marriage? 

  • GOD, I can’t over emphasis Him. He forever will remain my reference. 

11. You have featured mothers and other personalities on your platform. Which professional do you seriously look at to work with or have something coming out with? 

  • I’ll say a professional marriage counselor who has very good experience in counseling and also a psychologist to speak enormously on depression as it’s an issue a lot of young people face especially after encountering relationship challenges.

12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on a daily basis? 

  • Never considering myself as a failure. 
  • Becoming a better ME daily
  • Impacting the world in my own little way. I sincerely believe I don’t need to be the president before I can implement change… The change could be implemented from you as an individual.

13. You studied Theater arts at the university. What drove you to switch from that profession to become a relationship coach? 

  • *smiling* well I didn’t switch like you think, my career as a relationship coach is complemented by my training as a thespian. Being able to communicate with people and passing my message to the world on live tv to me is part of acting. I will also add that as a relationship coach I can streamline what I want my audience to hear at any particular time.


14. What advice would you give to those women who are depressed on not getting married in time, and those who are facing one problem or the other in their marriages? 

  • My advice to women who are depressed about not getting married in time; please don’t get tired of praying. One thing I realize in life is at times God keeps us away from danger without our knowledge and we blame Him for it.
  • Work on yourself as an individual, at times we might be our own problem. Beauty could help you get a relationship but the character keeps you in that relationship. 
  • The purpose of marriage is to reflect the relationship of the Godhead and to serve him. But when you don’t even have the opportunity to serve God what’s the essence of it. So, people will tell me there are marriages working perfectly without God involved, hmmm my brother/sister it will tell with time. Am a kingdom bearer and I talk from that perspective.
  • I can’t over emphasis prayer in marriage. When there is an issue in your home, try to settle it both physically and spiritually. Often run back to your Heavenly Father to take charge and speak to His son/ daughter. He alone knows how to speak to a child. 
  • Lastly, Patience is key. In as much as it’s not an abusive relationship, be patient! 

15. Also, what advice would you give to unmotivated and non-inspired people around the world who are tired of life, especially ladies.

  • No one is useless. Life or experience is a teacher… do not get discourage even in that situation. One driving force that pushes me is a NEW day. I believe a new day brings new blessing. Always remember you ain’t useless! Often remember you are wonderfully made by the most high, So one driving force we all must have is the Holy Spirit. If you haven’t encountered Him, ensure you do today.
  • You shall make it, never retire today! Be a vision on a mission! 

16. What’s next for Abigail Ajayi? 

  • *smile* a lot but right now I just launched my new brand, LIGHT EXQUISITE FUNCTIONS: it’s an event management brand. She was born out of necessity and me exploring my creativity. You can follow me on my IG page @lightexquisitefunctions and @relationshiptalkwithabilight. 

Thank You.

We should be the one thanking you for creating time from your busy schedule.

  • Thanks so much Mr Femi Johnson. 

You welcome.

If you want to know more about Abigail Ajayi or you find yourself having issues in your relationship or marriage. Folllow Abigail @relationshiptalkwithabilight

Till next time, do have a wonderful day!!!
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The Ugly Truth About Addiction

19-YEAR-OLD INSTAGRAM MODEL ADMITS HER “PERFECT LIFE” WAS A LIE & EXPOSES THE UGLY TRUTH BEHIND SOCIAL MEDIA.

This young lady’s story is really inspiring to social media addicts or to lady’s who are hungry for social media fame.

Alanna Ketler in November 3, 2015 shared to the whole world this deepest addiction and sacrifice to success story.

Essena O’Neil is a 19-year-old Australian Instagram star and she recently opened up to reveal the truth about her life and the shots that made her famous on social media.

She began her blog and YouTube account when she was in high school, and it wasn’t long before they completely consumed her life. She became a widely known online sensation, garnering over half a million followers on Instagram and over 250,000 YouTube subscribers. “I fell in love with this idea that I could be of value to other people,” she wrote. “Let’s call this my snowballing addiction to be liked by others.” Soon she was getting sponsorship opportunities and was able to support herself entirely through this work. She was also offered to model in L.A.

Many young girls looked up to O’Neil and were even obsessed with her. Little did they know that behind that pretty face was someone miserable and exhausted.

“Yeah 16-year-old Essena would have been like ‘WTF girl you have the dream life,’” she wrote. “So why did I feel so lost, lonely and miserable?”

O’Neil eventually decided she had had enough after realizing she wan’t living an authentic life. She then decided to make a drastic change in her life and announced to her followers that she was quitting social media, and has already begun editing all of the captions on her photos to tell the truth behind the pictures.

“I was addicted to what others thought of me, simply because it was so readily available,” she wrote. “I was severely addicted. I believed how many likes and followers I had correlated to how many people liked me. I didn’t even see it happening, but social media had become my sole identity. I didn’t even know what I was without it.”

Not only has she deleted her Tumblr account, but she plans to stop posting on YouTube as well. She has also deleted over 2,000 pictures from her Instagram account; she says they served no real purpose other than self-promotion. She also went as far as to admit that her “hot body” shots were the results of unhealthy habits…

“A 15 year old girl that calorie restricts and excessively exercises is not goals. Anyone addicted to social media fame like I once was, is not in a conscious state,”

“…Stomach sucked in, strategic pose, pushed up boobs,” O’Neill wrote. “I just want younger girls to know this isn’t candid life, or cool or inspirational. Its contrived perfection made to get attention.”

“Without realizing, I’ve spent majority of my teenage life being addicted to social media, social approval, social status and my physical appearance,” she wrote. “Social media, especially how I used it, isn’t real.”

She also opened up about how she was making money from some of her posts and was completely honest about how there were no actual “candid” photos; they were all staged and photoshopped.

Essena O’Neil Is Being the Change

What this young woman is doing is absolutely incredible. Having the courage to open up and be honest about everything she was doing is an amazing feat in itself. She is now able to be an excellent role model for all of her younger fans and they will know the truth and the true cost of this “success.” Some of her more recent posts are geared toward exposing the lies behind what you see on social media.

O’Neil has also started up a new website called LetsBeGameChangers.com to tell her full story, and is challenging her fans to give up social media for one week. She hopes to encourage others to be present and live life, authentically.

“The more you engage in any type of emotion or behavior, the greater your desire for it will become.