Monday Motivational Quotes

You don’t have to have it all figured out at 21, or 30, or even 40. You’ll bloom when you’re ready. The only thing that matters is never giving up.

Don’t compare yourself with other people, compare yourself with who you were yesterday.

Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing.

If you want more joy, serve. If you want more money, solve problems. If you want more freedom, face your fears.

Maybe the past is like an anchor holding you back. Maybe, you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.

You need people in your life that are further along than you, people that are more experienced, people that are out of your league. You need to be exposed to new levels so that you can go to new levels.

Change your conception of yourself and you will automatically change the world in which you live. Do not try to change people; they are only messengers telling you who you are. Revalue yourself and they will confirm the change.

Have a productive day!

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Repost: An Attitude Of Gratitude.

Originally posted on Everyday Answers.

Hi, thanks for stopping by to read my post today. I was surfing the internet and saw this beautiful piece, I couldn’t read it alone but to also share with you guys on my platform.

Most people would agree that we have a lot to be thankful for. After all, many of us live a lifestyle full of conveniences…

  • We live in comfortable homes, wear nice clothes, and have reliable transportation.
  • We have no shortage of clean water or healthy food.
  • We have access to quality healthcare and education, and basically live a good life with a lot of freedom, safety and security.

While it’s easy to take these wonderful blessings for granted—and begin to focus on what we don’t have—millions of people around the world live without the basic necessities of life.

I’ll never forget the time one of our sons went on a weekend outreach with a team of people to help the homeless. It was obvious that the experience touched him deeply. He called me and said:

“If I ever complain again, please knock me down for being so stupid!”

After he saw how some people were living, he was appalled at how he had complained about small things in his own life.

Just think about it…

We can complain about trivial things like cleaning the house. However, those without a place to live would love to have a house to clean.

Or have you ever complained about the regular costs of maintaining your vehicle? I’m sure we’ve all had our day ruined by an unexpected repair. However, a person without transportation dreamsabout having a car to drive.

It is so easy to forget how blessed we are! That’s why maintaining an attitude of gratitude is something we need to do on purpose.

This “little thing” can make a big difference…

I want you to try something. As you go about your day, make a point to be grateful for the things you may otherwise not even notice.

For instance, I really like coffee. Sometimes I take a moment in the morning to thank God for this “little thing” that brings me joy and comfort.

Or how about the blessing of having hot water? It’s something we can easily take for granted, but it makes our lives so much better!

As you begin to thank God for the seemingly small things in your life, it will help you to focus on the positive and everything you do have. As result, you will also be much happier!

Invite God into everything you do…

One of the best things we can do throughout the day is praise God while we work.

No matter what you’re trying to build—your home, your marriage, your business, financial security, or even an exercise plan—you can worship God as you work.

At my conferences, I make sure to be in the service as soon as the praise and worship begins because I love to be in God’s presence. In fact, before I speak to an audience, I make sure I have entered into praise and worship.

I want to fix my thoughts on God, thank Him for what He’s done in my life and for the words He’s giving me to speak, and I want to give Him praise for everything else He’s going to do.

We need to praise God because we love Him. It actually draws us closer to Him, which helps us hear the Word clearly, receive it, and hold on to it through faith.

This will help you to see more clearly…

Giving thanks throughout the day is simply a way to show God how grateful we are for who He is.

Regularly giving thanks to God not only helps us fully realize how He’s working in our lives, it gives us a new perspective—our mind is renewed, our attitude is improved, and we are filled with joy (see Psalm 16:11).

I am truly amazed at how two people can have the exact same circumstances, however one person can be negative, dissatisfied and hopeless while the other is optimistic and full of joy!

Praise makes all of the difference. Living life with a heart of gratitude for who God is and what He has done for us lifts our burdens and causes us to see everything in a different light.

Each moment that we’re given is a precious gift from God. We can choose to have a thankful attitude and live each moment full of joy…simply because God is good.

Please feel free to comment, like, and repost.

Repost: 30 Beautiful Moments In Your Life That You Will Never Forget

By: Rania Naim

1. The moment you faced a longtime fear. There is no greater feeling than doing what you were most afraid of and getting through it.

2. The moment you aced a difficult test. And that awesome feeling you get that you can accomplish anything you put your mind to.

3. The moment you started driving without supervision and played your favorite music the whole way.

4. The moment you got your first salary and how you felt that hard work truly pays off.

5. The moment you made a new friend knowing that you will be friends forever.

6. The moment your crush told you they liked you and how you couldn’t stop smiling.

7. The moment you land in your favorite country and how it breathes new life into you.

8. The moment you rest your head on the pillow after a productive day at work and how it’s bringing you one step close to your goal.

9. The moment your favorite team wins the championship and the euphoria that follows.

10. The moment you hold the baby of someone close to you, and how innocent and soft you become in that moment.

11. The moment you stand up for yourself after being quiet and patient for so long.

12. The moment you get what you’ve been praying for and realizing that the world is not so bad after all.

13. The moment you realize how loved you are by those around you and how supportive they are.

14. The moment that your pet welcomes you home every day as if you are the best thing that ever happened to them.

15. The moment after you’ve had a special conversation with a special someone and immediately feel the growing bond between both of you.

16. The moment you made someone smile after having a terrible day.

17. The moment you let go of someone or something that was holding you back and the liberation that came with it.

18. The moment you make your family happy; whether by being a good student, a good person or just being there for them when they need you.

19. The moment your friends do something sweet for you and remind you of how much they love you.

20. The moment you successfully complete a mission: losing weight, being more focused, being more positive…etc.

21. The moment you are done reading a good book and the inspiration you find in its words.

22. The moment you prove someone who doubted you wrong and the confidence you gain from it. Learning to believe in yourself more often.

23. The moment you master one of the hard yoga poses and the strength you feel after.

24. The moment you decide to be a little bit kinder to yourself and start slowly loving yourself with your imperfections.

25. The moment you receive a heart-felt thank you for touching someone’s life.

26. The moment your favorite song comes on when you have been waiting to hear it all day.

27. The moment you run into an old friend or an acquaintance unexpectedly.

28. The moment you go to the beach after a long time and the serenity you feel from the sound of the waves and the beauty of the sky.

29. The moment you finally understand why something happened to you and finally solving that riddle.

30. The moment of silence when you can truly enjoy your own presence and be grateful for the gift of living no matter how hard or easy your life seems to be.

Why We Should Live Like We’ve Never Been Hurt

Why We Should Live Like We’ve Never Been Hurt

People say love like you’ve never been hurt, but how about we try to live like we’ve never been hurt? Live like life never disappointed us, like pain didn’t change us, like we didn’t grow up or learn, like we are still innocent kids believing that life will turn out exactly the way we want it to. Every now and then let’s live with the naiveté of a 7 year old.

Even if it sounds unrealistic, even if it sounds crazy, even if it sounds impossible, we should try to live like that – even for one day.

We should live like we know we’ll get what we want when we ask for it. Like the universe is our genie granting us anything we wish for. Like the universe is here to spoil us and give us everything we want.

We should live like we never fell off the bike or fell while running. We should run like we are free and we should throw caution to the wind and let our bodies roam the world – unafraid of bruises.

We should speak with no reservations, we shouldn’t be afraid of being vulnerable or throwing tantrums or crying in bed next to our favorite soft toy. We shouldn’t be afraid to feel.
We should live worry-free, like we have all the time in the world to do the things we want and be with the people we love. We shouldn’t worry about the right time or the wrong time or worry about time at all. Life is infinite.

We should say what’s on our minds and in our hearts without calculating or rephrasing or editing. We should speak with no reservations, we shouldn’t be afraid of being vulnerable or throwing tantrums or crying in bed next to our favorite soft toy. We shouldn’t be afraid to feel.

We should quit things we don’t like and stay in bed all morning because we feel like it. We shouldn’t wake up to responsibilities that drain us and a routine that slowly kills us.

We should look forward to our birthdays and throw the biggest and greatest birthday parties. We should get excited about growing up and making our dreams come true. We should get excited about life.

We should believe in romance and fairy-tales, we should believe in a love that is so pure and real, we should believe in ‘ forever’ against all odds.

We should wake up every day waiting for a miracle.We should believe in miracles and magic and a life that is bigger and better than what we know, we should wake up every day waiting for a miracle.

We should have expectations that are not crushed by reality or rules or rights and wrongs.

We should be silly and playful and laugh as loudly as we can, we shouldn’t worry about what people might say. We shouldn’t suppress our laughter or our joy.

We should play house and dream of our perfect home. A home that is built with love, not broken hearts and unfulfilled promises or empty rooms and unspoken words. We should believe in a happy home – one we want to go to every night and wake up in every morning.

We should live like we don’t know any better.

Very Important Life Lessons

I want to share with you 4 very important life lessons that were reinforced for me over the 3 hours.

These are truly foundations for our happiness and success.

While I’ve had these reflections individually many times in the past, recently all 4 have culminated together for me and it feels like they’re now written in the cells of my body, singing out to be aligned with and honored!

Okay let’s dive in to the points!!!

VIL 1. Do Only What Resonates

Resonance is a feeling you get, telling you that something is good, aligned, and right for you.

The opposite of resonance is dissonance, meaning you feel something isn’t aligned.

Too many people navigate their lives doing things that do not resonate, in places that are not resonant, with people who don’t resonate with them.

If we make our choices about what we do in life based on our thinking mind alone, we can end up in all sorts of trouble and dissonance like this.

Instead, we need to notice what we feel, what RESONATES when we are making our choices about work, money, relationships, health, lifestyle and more.

VIL 2. Be in a State of Ease

As you go about whatever you do, personally and professionally, it’s all about HOW you do it.

Too often we race around in life in such a hurry to get things done, resisting life, aggrieved by things that bother us, frustrated by unexpected situations and people that seem to distract us from what we would prefer to be experiencing.

We may push ahead and force with strong, intentional energy to “get things done” and achieve our goals, but to what end?

Are we sitting there at the finish line feeling ragged and worn? And/or have we left a trail of issues behind us, paying a price in our health, relationships, finances or lifestyle because of the way we have been operating?

If you want to have a happy life then:

  • Recognize how it feels inside your body when you are at ease – there is a lightness to that feeling, a grace, a flow.
  • Recognize how it feels inside your body when you are pushing, forcing, racing, resisting, stressed and tense – there is a very definite physiological difference to ease!
  • Pay attention in your daily life to what you feel in your body – you will quickly start to notice if you’re operating from a state of ease and grace, or from a state of stress and tension.
  • Use breathing and a mantra to shift yourself back into ease in that moment. e.g Breathe in, “I choose to feel at ease”, breathe out, “All is well and I’m in my flow”

VIL 3. Remember You Can’t Do Everything

Well, technically you can do everything you want (over your lifetime) but you most definitely can’t do it all at once!

You can’t please everyone, you can’t be all things to all people, and you can’t achieve all your goals in one go while also caring for your relationships, health, work and personal life. So you have to make conscious choices about what to give your precious energy to.

I recently read a wonderful book on Essentialism – the art of focusing on what is essential, and not getting distracted by the gazillions of non-essential things that call for one’s attention each day. And my takeaway so far, which is so profound for me, is this…

There will be many good things you can focus on and give your time to. But there are only a small handful of GREAT things. To be most effective and successful, means deciphering the great from the good – saying yes to great, saying no to good…

I’ve previously had a major issue with this, struggling to say no to good things. It’s like we’re wired to say yes to all the good things in life. Good people, good opportunities, good experiences, good ideas. But there are actually many goodies! And we can’t do it all. From experience, trying to do it all leaves you burned out!

So, if you want to be highly effective AND happy, then:

VIL 4. Every Path Has Both Pros and Cons

And here is the very important lesson…

In saying goodbye, I was sobbing with such a deep, deep sadness in my heart. Yet, at the very same time, in every cell of my body as I bawled my eyes out hugging my parents and siblings goodbye, I knew what my intuition was telling me – to continue my path (even though my path leads me away from the physical presence of those I love).

When it comes to having an amazing life, please know that there is no perfect. There is only the choice of living your most soul-aligned path, whatever that looks like in any given moment, and accepting all that it gifts you and teaches you as you flow with it.

So, if you want to go big on your goals, and live the life of your dreams, then:

  • Focus on your inner voice, celebrate the pros of your path, peacefully accept the cons.
  • Such cons will exist with all choices. It’s called opportunity cost. With one path chosen, all other paths are not. But rest assured your soul will always lead you to the life experience you are here on this beautiful earth to have.
  • Leave no room for fear to reside in your mind. Trust yourself and remind yourself regularly of why you make the choices you do and why your goals are important.
  • Keep it real – SOMETIMES THE RIGHT CHOICE AND DIRECTION CAN ALSO BE THE HARDEST. And this, my friends, is the colorful ride that we call life!

Guys don’t get it twisted. Ain’t the writer of this. Lol! As mentioned in my first paragraph, i got motivated just some few hours back reading this beautiful piece that so referred to my life. All credit goes to Bernadette Logue.

30 Funny Short Jokes That Are Guaranteed To Make You Smile

1. Evening news is where they begin with ‘Good evening’, and then proceed to tell you why it isn’t.
2. I asked God for a bike, but I know God doesn’t work that way. So I stole a bike and asked for forgiveness.
3. Relationships are a lot like algebra. Have you ever looked at your X and wondered Y?
4. Laugh at your problems, everybody else does.
5. I used to be indecisive. Now I’m not so sure.
6. If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of payments.
7. Drink coffee! Do stupid things faster with more energy!
8. I find it ironic that the colors red, white, and blue stand for freedom until they are flashing behind you.
9. Money talks …but all mine ever says is good-bye.
10. Two wrongs don’t make a right, take your parents as an example.
11. Team work is important; it helps you put the blame on someone else.
12. You know that tingly little feeling you get when you like someone? That’s your common sense leaving your body.
13. Dear alcohol, We had a deal where you would make me funnier, smarter, and a better dancer… I saw the video… we need to talk.
14. Some people say “If you can’t beat them, join them”. I say “If you can’t beat them, beat them”, because they will be expecting you to join them, so you will have the element of surprise .
15. Funny how we need to talk really means you need to listen.
16. Nothing ruins a Friday more than realizing that it’s Tuesday.
17. Jesus loves you, but everyone else thinks you’re an a**hole.
18. If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why do some people have more than one child.
19. Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
20. Just about the time when you think you can make ends meet, somebody moves the ends.
21. Is google a woman? Because it won’t let you finish your sentence without coming up with other suggestions.
22. Isn’t it great to live in the 21st century? Where deleting history has become more important than making it.
23. I can totally keep secrets. It’s the people I tell them to that can’t.
24. My job is secure. No one else wants it.
25. Always borrow money from a pessimist. He won’t expect it back.
26. That awkward moment when you leave a store without buying anything and all you can think is “act natural, you’re innocent.”
27. Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit. Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.
28. Materialism: buying things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people that don’t matter.
29. A celebrity is someone who works hard all his life to become known and then wears dark glasses to avoid being recognized.
30. You have two choices in life: You can stay single and be miserable, or get married and wish you were dead.

Things We Should Say To Ourselves More Often

1. Good job.

We should give ourselves a pat on the back for the things we are trying to accomplish every day and the people we are trying to become. Even if we’re not there yet, at least we are trying and we deserve to give ourselves credit from time to time.

2. There will always be bumps on the road and that’s okay.

We will always be faced with obstacles but that’s how we learn how to really drive and which roads to avoid. Nothing will ever go exactly the way we want them to but this doesn’t mean that we are headed in the wrong direction. Sometimes a change in direction leads to a better way.

3. Life is not a race.

We can’t keep competing with everyone like it’s a race and we need to get to the finish line first. We should just run as fast as we can or as slow as we can as long as we keep looking ahead and moving forward. We shouldn’t be concerned about winning because life is not a race.

4. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

If we stop doing things because we’re scared, we won’t be doing much. Fear is part of life and the only way to get over it is to just go ahead and do what scares us – especially if it will bring us closer to the life we want to live.

5. Some people are not meant to stay.

We will meet a lot of people who will not stay in our lives no matter how much we want them to. Instead of trying to find out why they can’t stay, accept that this is how life works sometimes. Maybe life wants to replace them with better people or maybe you just need to learn how to be on your own for a while.

6. The depth of your love today is the depth of your wound tomorrow.

Before we recklessly give our hearts to people and invest in them, we need to know if they are really worth the pain and the suffering that may come with loving them. Some people are worth suffering for and some people are not. We have to pick our battles wisely.

7. We may not solve all our problems but we can change our mindset.

We can’t control everything that happens to us; we can only control the way we respond to them. As long as we manage our mindset, we will be able to cope with certain difficulties better and we will make our lives a bit easier.

8. Do not settle.

Don’t stay at a job you hate, don’t marry someone you don’t love, don’t stay friends with people who belittle you. Life can be good if we choose not to settle for the things that impede our happiness.

9. Time heals everything.

Eventually our pain will go away, our mistakes will be forgiven, our hearts will mend and our minds will find peace.

10. We are never alone.

We are never alone in our struggles or alone in our lives. We will always find people who want to be there for us and support us and people who genuinely love us. Sometimes we think we are alone, but that’s just our minds tricking us into thinking that life is harder than it’s supposed to be.

5 Ways To Survive With Life

There have been times where I found life to be really difficult to cope with. During those times, I have succumbed to stress, had low self-esteem and felt that I just could not carry on. Fortunately, I have come through and this encouraged me to share with you this topic.

First things first, I acknowledge my father in heaven. For without him I wouldn’t have come this far in life.

1. Recognize your situation

Sometimes, one of the most difficult things to do is to recognize your own situation. When life is tough, it becomes difficult to see what is actually happening. Negative thoughts can make it hard for you to think clearly. They can make you feel as if there is no way you can continue.

To break this kind of thinking, ask yourself: Have I changed?
Take note of the things you have been experiencing lately, like struggling with sleeping, not eating well, drinking excessive alcohol and no longer doing the things you enjoy. These are all signs that you are not effectively coping.
Recognizing these signs is the most important thing you should do. Once you are able to recognize your struggles, you can start finding ways to improve things and make your life better.

Try to identify what is triggering your anxiety. It can be the sad passing of a friend or family member, money problems or relationship difficulties. Or it could be a combination of things which are mounting up.

2. Make time for yourself

You are important and you need to recognize this. Failure to see your importance can easily make you neglect yourself.

Ensuring that you are eating a healthy diet is one of the best things you can do. When your body is healthy, so is your mind.

Try to engage in some form of exercise. This doesn’t have to involve a trip to the gym. In fact, you can start with a gentle stroll around a local park.
Although exercise can’t instantly cure your stress, it can help reduce your anxiety as well as help divert your attention. In addition to healthy eating and exercise, you can also do meditation.

At first, this may seem unusual, but, in the long run, this technique can make you easily recall your happy moments easily.

3. Plan a way to move forward

Once you know what is causing your stress, you can start looking for ways to solve it. If you know you won’t be able to solve it on your own, don’t hesitate to ask for help. In case you are being stressed by money problems, for example, there are organizations that can help you with advice and support. For bereavement, there are counselors who can give you practical help to move on.

There are a lot of organizations online that can give you support. If you find this uncomfortable, you can go see your doctor.

4. Keep a ‘Positive Diary’

A “positive diary” works similarly to a journal. However, instead of paying close attention to negative thoughts, you write down positive things about your day. For each day, you need to record three positive things. They can be things you felt or thought of during your work at the office, while working out in the gym or during your walk home.

As much as possible, disregard the negative things that may have happened. Focus only on the positive things to attract more of the good energy into your life.

5. Know that you can carry on

As I said above, there will be some days where you will encounter setbacks and there will be times when your best-intentioned plans will fail. You need to know that this is something that happens to everyone and is not a reason to give up.

Some time ago I went through some pretty tough times. At that time, I thought they were insurmountable. However, I kept going, looked for positives and got through it.
I was reminded by reading some of my Facebook memories which showed some pretty bleak posts from previous years that showed me how I found a way to get through. In time, things did get better.

Don’t give up
You may feel that there is no solution and that the only way forward is to leave this world. Although tempting, this isn’t one of the best ways to cope with life. If you ever feel this way, please get professional help.
There are a lot of suicidal cases in the world today. It is so devastating to look at families and friends, all wondering if they could have done anything to help. Actually, we could have done something- had he only asked.

Moving on and finding ways to cope with life can take some effort and time. This, however, doesn’t mean that they aren’t doable.

Tips On How To Find Happiness This Weekend

Knowing how to find happiness is easy, but actually attaining it is a different story. If you have been chasing happiness without positive results, read through the tips below to open yourself up and to let happiness come to you this weekend.

  • Understand That Happiness Can’t Be Defined: Happiness is something that we must define for ourselves. What one person may find happiness in, others may see sadness or contempt. For example, many people consider high-paying jobs and large houses to be the definition of happiness. For other people, happiness is being with their family and spending time with them even in a small house. Happiness can be found in all things, but it is up to you to discover which things should hold a special place in your heart.
  • Realize That Happiness Is in Your Life Already: Happiness is already in your life. Just think about the way you feel when you hug your friend or when you feel that hint of fresh air when you step outside. Think about that moment when your head hits the pillow after a long day of work. We often overlook the small bits of happiness in our lives because we are so focused on obtaining objects and titles that we believe will make us happy. In reality, the key to being happy is in realizing that happiness is already around you and within you. You just have to be receptive to it.
  • Open Yourself Up to the Universe: You will not be able to fill a cup of water if you’re holding your hand over the opening of the glass. Similarly, you will not be able to allow happiness to fill your life if you are closing yourself to the universe. Pain and hardships will come into your life from time to time, and they will make you want to shut yourself down. Fight this instinct. Only fighting through the pain and darkness will you be able to find the joy and the light.
  • Express Gratitude to the World: Have you ever wondered why we teach children to ask politely and say thank you after receiving something? It’s because we all know that we should show gratitude to those who have been good to us. Much like those people, we should also express our gratitude to the world around us. Thank it for anything and everything. The world will be much more willing to provide you with what you need if you express gratitude for what you have.
  • Seek to Better Yourself: People who are happy with themselves and their lives are constantly seeking to become better people. Search for resources and people who can help you achieve these goals. Bettering yourself will help increase your self-awareness giving you the ability to know what areas of your life are lacking happiness so you may improve upon them.
  • Know That You Can’t Always Be Happy: Those who chase happiness are under the impression that once they find it, every moment of their lives will be filled with overpowering happiness. This is absolutely not true. Not every day will be happy, and it shouldn’t be.
    Happiness is special because it is something that you can’t experience all the time. That being said, you can find pieces of happiness every day even in unexpected places, and you shouldn’t allow yourself to give in during times when it seems as though things won’t ever get better.

Happiness is like the air around us. You can’t always see it, and it’s not always obvious that it’s there, but if you sit still and stop seeking it, you will be able to find it. If you use the tips in this article properly, chasing happiness will become a thing of the past.

Have a happy weekend guys!!!

The Fall In Each Person’s Life

This,is an example of a human life..

When and how it happen.
But never knew why it did…
Playing in the whiten pure snow,
Feels free with no darkness and envy,
Spins your body around with ease,
No pain,
No stress,
Until the year of your age pass,
The curiosity,
The confusion,
The smoke and thick clouds surrounds you,
The whiten snow in which you are stepping on turns dry,
Piece by piece inside you starts to die,
The ground cracks and you fall,
Fall and fall,
The lights fades further away,
Don’t know where to grab,
Don’t know where to stay,
Cannot run, cannot hide,
Because the darkness, are already inside,
Too alone to scream,
Should you still now follow your dream?
You stumped into a dark pitch forest,
None colour of white,
Not even a beam of light,
You stand up,
Try to find a way out,
No clue of how many years passed,
The pain,
The torture,
The sadness,
You gave up,
Struggled to get use to it,
Then,
A loud roar you heard,
A light of flame you see,
What is it going to be?
You run towards,
You see,
A humongous dragon,
Firing the forest,
The light you have not seen for so long,
No weapon to fight,
But the determination becomes your shield,
And your bravery becomes your armor,
It is never meant to slay,
You run and climb on to it,
controls it,
and made it fly,
Fly and find where you have fallen,
Fly into the sky and you try,
to fight more for freedom..
To fulfill your life with justice,
while you fly up high
you see,
All the stupidity,
the ignorant of human nation,
which cannot be stopped unless they know what pain is,
is that what it called eternity?
You defeated the darkness and you finally fly,
maybe its not darkness,
but a blessing in disguise….

Is This True? The Fabrication Of Social Media Inspires Depression and Anxiety

Social media was designed to make interaction a lot easier. But today, when we look closely, we are socially awkward. This is why social media causing depression and anxiety isn’t surprising.

We are gradually getting so addicted to proving ourselves to the rest of the world that we fail to realize our real self-worth. Social media is silently taking away our happiness without us realizing it.

Breaking Connection to Reality

Social media enables us to portray what we want others to think of us. That means that what other people make out of our message isn’t always similar to what we really mean.

We usually post about the good things that are happening in our lives. It could be pictures of foreign trips, a newborn child or a really happy experience.

The viewer on the other side might not take it as happily as you intended it to be. It makes them start reflecting over the negativity in their monotonous lives.

What people fail to realize is that while other people’s pictures depict happiness, they could be far from reality. No one actually knows about the number of sleepless nights as parents or the hard work you go through to save up for a trip.

Last month, I was out celebrating a friend’s anniversary. I had imagined they are a very happy couple celebrating their 6th anniversary. I had always admired the tourist locations they went to, the places they dined at, and all the romantic quotes they put on social media.

At times, I felt uncomfortable being around such happy people. This was very far from the truth. I realized this after I spent two days with them. They were both influencers on social media, with thousands of people watching them.

In reality, they had more fights than any other couple I knew. They spent their anniversary taking picture-perfect images instead of celebrating their relationship. I understood the hypocrisy of this virtual platform that very moment.

Reality is not always picture perfect. That is why most people do not post reality on social media.

Breakups

In the rush to stay connected with people from around the world, we have missed noticing the people around us. Our addiction to social media has made us distant from our loved ones, the ones who truly value us.

Lack of communication is one of the major reasons why relationships go downhill. Aversion to social media leads to most breakups today. Real relationships need effort and time. They require patience and a lot of hard work to go through phases.

It’s high time we realize that our aversion to social media is leading us to a very delusional land. It’s a land where we might have a thousand friends virtually but absolutely no one in real life. We are real human beings that crave for real human emotions at the end of the day.

Youth Narcissism Increases

A study on students showed that social media has a direct relation with increasing narcissism among teenagers. A classic example of being a narcissist is just being obsessed with one’s self.

Social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram take up most of the time in a youngster’s life today. They get their sense of accomplishment from the number of likes and the response they get on social media. There’s a constant rush to prove their worth in the virtual world.

While the sense of competitiveness is good, they fail to look at the bigger picture. They don’t realize that they are ignoring their real worth. They fail to make appropriate human connections or networks during the most crucial phase of their lives.

Social media platforms certainly make their lives more meaningful and enable them to have a broader outlook. But, at the same time, social media platforms keep them away from making human connections and having real-life experiences.

Smoking, Drinking… Next Social Media

Addiction refers to compulsive behavior resulting in some severe negative effects. Addiction to anything is said to be bad, even to the best of habits. Be it just drinking water or eating vitamins.

Social media addiction is characterized by the urge to constantly check platforms to make updates or look up others. There exists a very thin line between being fond of something and being addicted to it.

Researchers claim social media addiction could be stronger than alcohol or cigarette addiction. To prove that, they hooked people to MRI machines while they spoke highly of themselves, which is what most people do on social media platforms. They noticed that it stimulated pleasure centers of the brain like good food and sex do.

The Toxic Mirror

Social media has now become a toxic mirror. It creates your virtual image. What it shows is what defines you in front of other people.

Our severe addiction to social media has blinded us to see the difference between real and virtual.

We stick to topics that are trending and we follow them blindly without questioning their reality or logic. We show our interest in topics only when we see people interested in them and not when they need attention.

That has made us overlook the importance of connection with our real-world friends.

There is much more to life beyond those blue screens. So, go out, meet people, and make real connections. Life has too much to offer. It can’t all be restricted to a small screen.

Learn to find happiness in the smallest of things. That’s the secret to unending happiness.

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Responding To Pain With Positivity: Unleash The Stronger You

Was surfing the net and fell in love with this post. Very motivating and inspiring!

We all have had our share of pains, bruises, and bumps. These things are what make life more meaningful and memorable.

For me, things were pretty bad and so out of hand that I wanted to kill myself. However, with time, everything fell back into place and life looked way better than before.

Trust me, attracting pain is usually beyond human control. If we are destined to face the harsher realities of life, no protective measure would come in handy. At the end, it will all depend on the will of an individual and how he or she will use that pain to grow stronger.

There are individuals who give in to the pain and trauma while there are superheroes who use these roadblocks as motivation. They start learning, moving towards a positive direction and growing beyond their limitations.

Today, we will be talking about the approach used by these winners to unleash their stronger side.

  • Understanding The Will And The Lack Of It

    There are two types of individuals: one who breaks down upon experiencing a barrage of hardships and the other who moves on towards a better life despite the pain.

    It took me twenty years to get over nephrotic syndrome, an ailment that nearly damaged my kidneys. I witnessed my father’s death. There was my girlfriend who stood by me during the tough days but later on cheated on me with a few other men. All those things happened within a span of two years, leaving me twisted, broken and beyond repair.

    However, facing all these wasn’t the difficult part. My father’s absence made me feel lonely and her betrayal made me an insomniac. I was confused as which pain should I lament to and there were no answers.

    Just a blank slate with my teardrops on it.

    I am not ashamed to admit that I cried and I cried a lot. This actually helped me vent out the anger for her and the gut-wrenching pain and sadness associated with my father’s absence. As a result, my work suffered. I found it hard to concentrate on anything constructive.

    I got three huge scars even before I could turn 25. The heart can take only that much but mine kept on asking for newer challenges.

    Getting fired from the workplace due to frequent mistakes, getting my right leg fractured, and losing a pet were some of the other roadblocks that sabotaged my growth. There was even a time when I took medicines for depression.

    Fast-forward to 5 years later and at 30, I feel that my life has never been better. I have a beautiful wife, a growing business empire and a lovely daughter. Things do look bright but I wouldn’t be complacent. Then again, this isn’t my story to share. It’s ours.

    You can never learn the right way to deal with pain. You must experience it. Therefore, enumerating points wouldn’t make a lot of difference. However, I believe that reading on can help a lot of readers in dealing with emotional pain.

  • Pain Is Not Everlasting; Glory Is

    Trust me, the pain isn’t going to last forever, but your inner toughness will. Yes, I admit that certain experiences can haunt us for years but every pain-filled moment has an expiry date.

  • A Hint of Narcissism

    Be self-obsessed. Be in love with yourself. Be a narcissist.

    Yes, you won’t find motivational speakers recommend these traits, but they can do you good. The love for your own body and attributes will overshadow the pain which you might be finding hard to deal with.

  • Keep Changing Things

    When in pain, monotony can be the biggest tormentor. This is why you need to hustle down the alley and play a sport, go to the gym or do both. Never allow yourself to be stagnant in situations that haunt you. Become the free-flowing stream which never stagnates or sits at one place.

  • Cultivate Acceptance

    The day you can accept everything that has happened to you, nothing in this world can torment or torture you anymore.

    I could only accept the sudden demise of my father 3 years after the incident. I know he had to go someday, but, sadly, it happened when I least expected it.

    My girlfriend cheated on me and this was actually harder to accept because of my ego. However, I love myself way too much to spoil my health and sleep over her betrayal.

    Pain often brings disappointment and fear with it and we should stand and face these things head on. Running from them can actually make the pain a lot worse but eventually, we’ll be able to go ahead of them.

  • The Wrap

    Believe me, there is no quick fix to killing the pain and the reasons associated with it. You need to live through each and every moment of anguish— all by yourself.

    There can be friends and family members to support you, but this fight is all yours and nobody else can join the combat for you. Pain, inflicted upon us by people or circumstances, is a medium to make us stronger.

    Have you ever seen how a piece of iron is forged into something unbreakable?

    It needs to undergo massive amounts of heat and pressure before it becomes strong. Similar to that, you can imagine yourself as that piece of raw iron that needs to be strengthened with pain.

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  • Repost: Signs The Only Thing In The Way Of Your Happiness Is You

    1. The only problem with your life is the way you think about it. Objectively, you have everything you could ever want or need, yet your unhappiness simply comes from a lack of appreciation (which is a cultivated trait, if not a practice).

    2. The solution to most of your problems is just changing the way you think about them. For example, learning that people’s opinions of you are largely projections of how they see themselves would solve your problem which is evaluating your life through the idea of how other people could perceive it.

    3. You’re mentally lazy. You know you should be more present, but you won’t put in the effort to practice it. You know you should meditate and learn to train your brain to focus so it doesn’t become engulfed by negativity, but you head to the gym instead. You’re lazy in the way it matters most, and that’s your biggest problem.

    4. You’ve accomplished things you thought would make you happy and immediately shifted them from “goals” to “notches on the belt.” Once you achieved something, you immediately started to think of it as “another thing done,” rather than “another thing in my life to enjoy.”

    5. You haven’t practiced holding the emotion of happiness. We all have a tolerance for how “good” we’ll let ourselves feel, our “upper limit.” To go past it, we have to actually practice letting ourselves feel – otherwise, we’ll self-sabotage to bring ourselves back to our comfort zones.

    6. You care more about comfort than you do about change. You’d rather remain moderately uncomfortable than deal with the unknownness that is making a real change in your life.

    7. You consciously choose to spend time with people who aren’t “good” for you. Meaning: they don’t really care about you, or they inspire you to behave in a way that is counter to what you’re trying to achieve. In other words, they bring out the worst in you, yet you continue to see them anyway.

    8. You won’t let your idea of yourself evolve. You’re stuck in only being comfortable thinking of yourself the way you were 3, 5, 10 years ago, because that’s how other people are comfortable seeing you.

    9. You choose what you think should be right rather than what actually is. You’re more loyal to the ideas you have about things than the honest reality you know them to be.

    10. You won’t apologize. To yourself nor to others. You’re not open to being wrong, and certainly not to taking the ego-hit that is admitting you didn’t always do your best. Yet, doing this is the first step in changing that.

    11. You haven’t fully taken responsibility for your life – you’re still waiting for something to come and change how you feel. Often, people choose to suffer loudly because they believe it is a “cry to the Universe,” as in, if they are transparent enough about how bad things are, something or someone else will eventually have to fix or change them.

    12. You’ve ascribed happiness to a level of accomplishment rather than a state of being. You think that only some people can be happy because their life circumstances are ideal, rather than choosing seek happiness in the moment and realizing that has nothing to do with it.

    13. You think that “happiness” is a sustained state of feeling “good.” What it really is is a higher “baseline” for perception. You are better able to process every emotion, and because you do so healthfully, you return to your general state of contentment quickly.

    14. You accept what you’re taught even if it doesn’t feel right. You’re more trusting of dogma, teaching or religion simply because you knew it first, not because it resonates or helps you in a real way.

    15. You have a good life, and you know you have a good life. At the end of the day, you know it’s just about choosing to focus on it more.