The Other Side Of Failure

By: Femi Oluyemi

I was surfing Facebook today and glanced at a friend’s post and write up that caught my eyes by the content and title “Failure”. I decided to share this with you guys. Hope it helps!!!

Failure is not a death sentence, failure is a catalyst that has the capacity to spur you into greatness. Please Fail forward……

There are two sides of a coin, the head and the tail which shows that life is in phases and men are in sizes. Growing up, I was opened to the idea that failure is a taboo. I remembered my father will say that “the person who came first doesn’t have two heads, he only has one like you”. So, I was always afraid of failure that I ended up not being the first in my school days. One day I sat down and asked myself the reason for my failure and what I was doing that was not right? I got some answers that set me on the path of success. I wouldn’t be sharing the answers I got with you now but latter. In my quest for answers I discovered some benefits of failure which changed my perception and response to failure. Soccer player Kyle Rote said that ” There is no doubt in my mind that there are many ways to be a winner, but there is really only one way to be a loser and that is to fail and not look beyond the failure” most times the reason for calling someone a failure is because a phase in the person’s life seem not to come out the way we expected and then there is a conclusion of failure. Failure is not just an event but a process. It is never final, but the refusal to try again is failure.It was Napoleon Hill that said “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Here are reasons why failure is actually beneficial.

Failure is a teaching aid. One very story that inspires me on the subject of failure is that of Thomas Edison who never gave up until we had “light”.Do you know how many times he tried inventing the incandescent light?…almost a thousand times. In life it is not about what really happens to us that matter but how we react to those things is what counts.Back to Edison’s story when he was asked the question “how come you didn’t give up on that project after a thousand times you tried”? His response will shock you: He said “I only discovered a thousand times how not to make an incandescent light“.Failure can sometimes be an efficient teacher although it can be harsh.In our careers and our financial lives, learning what not to do is just as important as learning what to do. Sometimes you have to fail to learn how to win. Failure is a teaching aid that supplies experience and knowledge.

Failure Inspires Creative Solutions. Failure is a catalyst that spurs you to creative thinking. Nothing motivates a person like adversity. This adversity can be turned to advantage if you allow it to inspire you. You can either use the experience of failure to your advantage or to your disadvantage.One of the advantages is that it helps you to do better next time. Use it as a tool for determination in order to drive you towards success.

Failure builds strength of character. Anyone can be the hero when times are good but how do you measure up when the going gets tough? Failure can be a measuring tool for character. Do you crumble or stand your ground after failure?Take a moment to think about that before you consider yourself a failure. Going through a failure is a remarkable test of your character, your courage, your determination and your mind set. I truly believe that it isn’t until you’ve been through the worse that you can truly appreciate the best. Failure is like a bench mark because It will show you what you are made of. Les Brown said “When life knocks you down, try and land on your back, because if you can look up, you can get up”.

Failure keeps you humble.
One of the enemy of success is complacency. We have read stories of once great persons,nations, cultures, and companies that banked on the notion that a successful past guarantees a successful future. But failure has a way of opening the eyes,it is evaluating and motivating. Leaders can’t lead from a place of arrogance. But, it’s a sad fact that success makes many people arrogant. Arrogance leads to under estimating the preparation required to succeed. Of course, showing up unprepared often leads to more failure. Humility is a powerful benefit of failure. We all need reminders that success can quickly disappear. By bearing failure with good grace, and feeling humbled by the experience, you don’t take success for granted. You’ll realize how fleeting it can be – and you’ll strive to work harder and smarter for it next time.

Failure Makes Us More Valuable Mentors.Experience they say is the greatest teacher. Most qualified teachers are those who have been through it all and know how to weather it all. One of the ways you acquire valuable experience is through failure. A large part of effective mentorship is helping to anticipate and avoid pitfalls, stay focused and respond to challenges with creativity and optimism.

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