20 Simple Reminders To Keep You Going When You Don’t Know What To Do With Your Life

1. Believe that your calling is closer than you think. We spend so much time thinking about what our calling is and how we will fulfill it instead of trying to follow our curiosity or the excitement we feel towards something over the other.

2. Our calling may not be life-changing, but it guides our steps in the right direction. A lot of people think their calling has to be something extraordinary or magical, but sometimes our calling may be very real and ordinary but it has the potential to make our lives extraordinary.

3. Stop thinking that your life should be dramatic. We are all waiting for that big shot, that big moment where we turn our lives around, be filthy rich, and travel the world. This false belief is what leads us to be disappointed with our lives, thus we force ourselves to consider making big changes that doesn’t make sense to us thinking that this is the true definition of happiness.

4. The best way to figure out what we want to do with our lives is to keep making tiny strides toward a better life, making small changes one step at a time.

5. Once we find our calling, we shouldn’t let failure stop us. We have to keep trying over and over again. There is no such thing as beginner’s luck when it comes to our life’s purpose. The more we try, the wiser and smarter we will be and we will finally get it right one day.

6. Don’t romanticize the future or blame the past. When we feel lost, we have a tendency to blame our past for getting us to where we are now, so we romanticize a better future without really changing ourselves which only adds to our discomfort.

7. Although it is easier to play the blame game when we are not happy and we don’t want to hold ourselves accountable for our fate, but we have to remember romanticizing the future without actively finding ways to make it better will not change our lives.

8. The best thing we can do when we feel this way is to get real with ourselves about what went wrong in the past and how we can fix it so we can avoid falling for the same trap in the future.

9. It’s also good to remember that life is a bundle of contradictions and it will not always be the one we pictured or go exactly the way we wanted.

10. Read enriching books and turn off the TV. Reading invites us to a new world of lessons and guidance, the quiet moments we spend with our books can have a better effect than any show we watch on TV. Books cultivate & feed our minds and offer valuable lessons we wouldn’t learn anywhere else.

11. Success is subjective and doesn’t have a universal definition. There is no one right way to live or one definition to success. It is easy to get influenced by the fantasies, stories and movies around us but at the end of the day everyone will end up paving their own way to success.

12. Taking the time to discover our strengths will help us learn how to hone them in our current life roles, and give us more confidence in moving forward with our lives.

13. The first ingredient to deal with the uncertainty of life is learning how to be patient with yourself and everything around you, and the patience to wait for the life you truly desire.

14. The second ingredient is to practice letting go of all the unrealistic expectations we had, the old patterns that keep holding us back, and the resentment that consumes our heart and blurs our clarity.

15. Friends and family are here to support us; we should go to them when we feel lost, they can provide us with their help and wisdom and give us the pep talk we need to get back on our feet again.

16. Change is the only constant in life so we should do our best to embrace the changes that come our way and the changes within ourselves.

17. There is no deadline to our lives. Sometimes, we think we want to do something and then once we try it, we realize it might not be what we want after all. It’s not the end of the world – it’s how we know what doesn’t work so we can figure out what will work no matter how old we are.

18. Learning to be grateful for the small things will make a huge difference in our day to day. Adopting this outlook may help prevent us from over-emphasizing the importance of the bad things in our lives and give us a healthier attitude to deal with the discomfort of our current situation.

19. Even if we get what we want, we will be faced with new challenges and responsibilities tomaintain it.

20. “Good things take time” and “no one has it all figured out” are two powerful reminders we should repeat to ourselves whenever we feel like we don’t know what to do with our lives.

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5 Simple Steps To Re-activate Yourself, If You Work Hard With No Results

Tips for life.

You’ve spent a lot of time, energy, effort and money to achieve your goal.

You’ve even sacrificed your favorite TV shows, shopping, dating, and your sleep. You utterly, wholeheartedly want to succeed.

And yet your results seem insignificant.

It’s frustrating, isn’t it?

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But remember this: “Giving up on your goal because of one setback is like slashing your other three tires because you got a flat.”

It’s not the time to give up yet.

Here are 5 simple steps to revive your motivation and keep going.

1) Take a Vacation and Rest

“When all else fails, take a vacation.” – Betty Williams

You have been striving hard for so long. If you feel you can’t go any further, stop, rest, and travel. Detach yourself from seeking for solutions, forget those miseries, and just have fun. Besides refreshing yourself, you may even gain new insights and inspirations.

2) Do Some Revision

“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” – John F. Kennedy

Of course you have a target. But it’s easy to lose focus when you’re too busy working on your plans. Revise again – What’s the reason that you want to reach the goal? Write and rewrite it on papers. Then imagine the excitement and contentment when you finally succeed. Keep that fire and march on.

3) Make a Different

“Be stubborn about your goals, and flexible about your methods.” – Anonymous

Don’t just work hard without reflection, you are not a cow. If things don’t turn out well, dwell on other possibilities. You can observe others’ strategies or ask your friends for suggestions. Most importantly, dare to make changes, reflect, and improve again. Continuous trying brings progress.

4) Believe

“If a goal or dream is slow in coming, envision it on a delivery truck, just a wee bit stuck in traffic, but still headed toward you.” – Karen Salmansohn

If you start to doubt your abilities, you have lost half of the battle. This is because you will tend to put less effort, passion, and love to your work. To gain confidence, praise yourself for managing to come this far. You’re halfway there. Don’t worry about failure; just do your best.

5) Be Patience

“The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.” – Arnold H. Glasgow

Understand that great things take time. After all, an oyster needs around 7 years to make a pearl. So don’t feel sorry for yourself, and avoid comparing yourself to other people’s achievements. The truth is that there’s no overnight success. You need to go through this journey filled with challenges, trials, and errors to become smarter and better. Just carry on, persist!

You see, sometimes what you need is just a change of attitude and approach to help you get over the hump and be ready to keep fighting for your goal.

Do you have other tips to pick yourself up? Please share with us in the comments.

 

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Smart and Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself

Some days you wake up motivated and ready to go. And some days things feel heavy as you arise and it is hard to get going and find that inner drive.

1. Just get started and let the motivation catch up with you. You don’t have to wait for motivation to get started. If you want to work in a consistent way every day then sometimes you just have to get going anyway. And the funny thing is that after I have worked for a while things feel easier and easier and more fun and the motivation catches up with me.

2. Start small if big leads you to procrastinating. If a project or task feels too big and daunting don’t let that lead you into procrastination. Instead, break it down into small steps and then take just one of them to start moving forward.

3. Start tiny if a small step still leads you to procrastination. If breaking it down and taking a small step still leads you to procrastinating then go even smaller. Take just a tiny 1-2 minute step forward. That’s it. Because the most important thing is to just get going and to build momentum forward.

4. Reduce the daily distractions. When you have easily accessible distractions all around you then it becomes hard to focus. So shut the door to your office. Put your smart phone in silent mode at the other end of your work space or home. And use an extension for your browser like StayFocusd to keep yourself on track.

5. Get accountability from the people in your life. Tell your friends what you will do on social media, via phone or in real life. Ask one or more of them to regularly check up on you and your progress. By doing this you’ll be a lot less likely to try to weasel out of things or give up at the first obstacle.

6. Get motivation from the people in your life. Spend less time with negative people who always look at the dark or apathetic side of things. And spend more of the time you have now freed up with enthusiastic or motivated people and let their energy flow over to you.

7. Get the motivation from people you don’t know. Don’t limit yourself to just the motivation you can get from the people closest you. There is a ton of motivating books, podcasts, blogs and success stories out there that you can tap into to up or renew your motivation.

8. Play music that gives you energy. One of the simplest things I do when I feel low in energy or motivation is to play music that is upbeat and/or inspires me in some way. A break with a few songs or working while listening to them for a while usually works well.

9. Find the optimism. Pessimism can drain both your motivation and energy. But the positive and constructive way of looking at things can on the other hand energize and recharge your motivation. So when you’re in what looks like a negative situation ask yourself questions like: What’s one thing that’s good about this? And what’s one hidden opportunity here?

10. Be kind to yourself when you stumble . It’s so easy to fall into the trap of beating yourself when you stumble or fail. But that don’t work that well in my experience. You just feel worse and less motivated. So try this the next time: be kind to yourself, nudge yourself back on the path you were on and take one small step forward.

11. Be constructive about the failures. To make your setbacks more valuable and less hurtful be constructive about them. When you stumble ask yourself: what is one thing I can learn from this setback? Then keep that lesson in mind and take action on it to improve what you do.

12. Compare yourself to yourself and see how far you have come. Instead of deflating yourself and your motivation by comparing yourself to others who are so far ahead of you.

13. Be grateful for what you got. When motivation is running low then it’s easy to start seeing your life and the aspects of it through a negative lens. To put your focus on what you still have and who you are – and to recharge with positivity and motivation – ask yourself a question like: What are 3 things I sometimes take for granted but can be grateful for in my life? My answers would, for example, be a roof over my head, clean water and not having to go hungry.

14. Reduce your to-do list to just one item. An over-stuffed to-do list can be a real motivation killer. So try reducing your current to-do list to just one item. The one that’s most important to you right now or perhaps the one you’ve been procrastinating on for way too long. Then get started by taking a big, small or tiny step. And have another list tucked away somewhere where you can’t see it with other tasks to do later on.

15. Don’t forget about the breaks. Few things can in my experience drain the daily motivation like just working non-stop. Instead, work for 45 minutes each hour and use the rest for a break where you eat a snack, get out for some fresh air or do a bit of stretching. You’ll – perhaps somewhat counter-intuitively – get more done in a day and week and do work of higher quality because your energy, focus and motivation will simply last longer.

16. Adjust your goal size. If a big goal in your life feels overwhelming set a smaller goal to find your motivation again. And if a smaller goal doesn’t seem inspiring try to aim higher and make it bigger goal and see how that affects your motivation.

17. Take 2 minutes to look back at your successes. Close your eyes and let the memories of your biggest successes – no matter in what part of your life – wash over you. Let those most positive memories boost your motivation.

18. Reward yourself and celebrate your successes (no matter how big or small they are). If you’re looking forward to a nice reward that you’re getting yourself after you’re done with a task or a project then your motivation tends to go up. If you celebrate a success in some other way by for example by taking 1 minute to appreciate what you did or by telling someone about your success then that also usually recharges motivation and positivity. So dangle those carrots and celebrate to keep your motivation up.

10 Wrong Mindsets To Avoid That Traps You

A typical example of this subject is Moses and the Israelites. The Bible says they wandered in the desert for 40 years making an eleven day journey.

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According to Joyce Meyer in one of her personal experiences with God in the past, God spoke to my heart and said, “The children of Israel spent forty years in the wilderness because they had a wilderness mentality as a wrong mindset. Like the Israelites, our wrong mindsets can keep us dealing with the same problems, never truly making any progress.

Here are 10 wrong mindsets to avoid…

  1. Everyone else is better off than I am
  2. My future is determined by my past and present
  3. It’s not my fault
  4. It’s too hard
  5. My life is so miserable- I feel sorry for myself
  6. I’m addicted to complaining
  7. Somebody do it for me
  8. I don’t deserve God’s blessings
  9. Don’t make me wait- I deserve everything immediately
  10. I’m going to do it my way or not at all.

Think This: I am unique and special. God loves me, and He has a wonderful, personalized plan for my life.

Romans 12:15; 1 Corinthians 12:12-27; Jeremiah 29:11

Just Thinking Is Not Preparation

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I don’t know if you’ve ever agreed to help someone with a project who desperately needed your help but who hadn’t done one thing to be prepared? How frustrating. You would probably be no different than I was – not to be ready is all part of planning and preparation.

Some people assume, falsely, that just thinking about a project is not actually planning unless there are steps laid out as in the form of a plan. A plan means that you have not only thought about the project but that you have a list of steps that must be followed in order to accomplish the task at hand.

Helping A Friend Who Seemed To Only Think
I was recently asked to help a friend complete an outdoor deck. The first part of this project meant that we would have to tear the old one down, or, repair it before we could extend it. The project wasn’t that difficult so I was happy to be of assistance. Since I was over some thirty miles away, and didn’t have all day to spend at the site, I had let it be known that I would be there at a specific time and that we needed to get started right away.

But, when I arrived at the stipulated time armed with all the tools I would need, I found him sitting at the kitchen table eating his breakfast. I at first thought that he had already been around the back to the deck and had all his tools there including his chop saw, sledge hammer, extension cords, pry bars and the wood we would need. I was wrong.

Not only had he not retrieved his tools, he hadn’t even bothered to get the wood I had asked him to. When I asked him why he was not ready when I had told him when I would be there and what we would need, he said that he had thought about it but just didn’t get around to it.

Wow! I was some put off. It is one thing not to know what is needed when you start because you have no familiarity with what is required for a project but it is quite another to know and not to do one thing to get ready.

How To Move Forward
You cannot move forward in any project, or task, career, relationship or changing a habit unless you plan. And, preparation is not the end but only the beginning. Planning is crucial but if you do not take steps over and over again constantly moving the yardsticks forward like a football team, you will not accomplish anything. You cannot wait for someone else to take ownership for your actions – you have to do it yourself. There is no easy way just the right way.

So, how did the project turn out? Great. But, what was learned during the project?
During the course of this project, and with gentle but pointed reminders and coaching, he learned more about planning ahead than actually doing. But, I wasn’t disappointed with this approach because planning to do what comes next is a vital step in reaching any desired end whether that is a goal you have set for yourself or a project or task that you must complete at work.

Each time you prepare from the start to the finish, you can do so by visualizing the complete process in your mind. These visualization skills that you develop can apply from everything like a project at work to doing a home based plumbing job.