Video Message: Help Someone Today- Say No To Suicide

Even the people who once fought for others tend to get weak and eventually “give up” and lose interest in the worth of fighting any longer.

Save a life around you!

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The Quickest Ways To Avoid It: Depression Is Real!

I won’t stop till this message goes viral and touch someone out there who is facing a lot of challenges.

DEPRESSION IS REAL Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. It’s Real!

Say NO to depression, say NO to suicide!

Do you wish to help?

👪Stop calling that child a fool or empty vessel.

👪Stop referring to any child as a failure.

🚻Stop asking single friends why they are not yet married

🚼Stop asking married couples without kids what they are waiting for

🚹Stop asking people why they’re too fat.

Your stomach is too big just after one child? Oga, you eat so much? Don’t you do exercise? Please it’s none of your business

🚷Stop telling people to add up a little. You look skinny, why? Be careful.

You’re not feeding them

😎Stop seeing jobless people as lazy people

You don’t know how hard they are trying to secure one

⚠Stop blaming people about what fate has offered

NOTE: You’re just so lucky. It’s not your smartness that got you where you are. It’s called GRACE (common or uncommon), Opportunity, chance, are all as a result of timely mercy.

Don’t be happy about others failure (raise the feeble handed)

If you can help someone do it without grudge.

If you can’t, God will raise helpers from elsewhere…

♿Stop getting others depressed!

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VIDEO: HOW TO AVOID DEPRESSION AS A CHRISTIAN 

Hey guys! Welcome
Have you ever wondered why so many people are depressed, full of anxiety, and constantly worrying? This won’t take much of your time, as you watch this inspiring video by inspirational Speaker and Entrepreneur Mr. Dipo Adesina.

Find out why, and how you can refill your ‘Joy Tank,” today and start living above these negative traits.

Subscribe to his YouTube channel : @dipoadesina

True Story Of A Lady That Conquered Depression To Become A Business Owner And An Entrepreneur.

Hey guys!

Today’s post is a true story from a lady I know to have battled a lot of problems in her life to stay at the top. She’s a business woman and an influence to other women around her. Guys this is Mrs. Gloria Obi During’s story.

Her story is filled with inspiration and motivation. You see, in this life you either face the battle and be strong when doing that, or life beats you down when you feel sorry for yourself. Life is not fair and it will never be fair, we only have the grace of God and our inner mind to fight life battles each day of our lives.

Please the post is kinda long but you get to learn one or two things from here. So be patient!

I woke up today feeling exceptionally grateful for the turns my life has taken in the past one year. A lot of change can happen in a minute, a lot in an hour, then imagine how much can happen in a year. Over a year ago, my family and i moved to Lagos. That was one of, if not the biggest decisions of my life. I went to Lagos with a lot of hope; hope to have a more eventful life, to get a good job, hope that life will have that major turn that’ll change things for good…etc. But i got to Lagos and became a depressed young girl. No friends to visit or even visit me, even the ones around, traffic won’t let you. Sent out appications, till i had the picture of my cv memorized in my brain, with no response. The business i had always wanted to do required a lot of funds to start, at least at a very good but minimal standard. I got tired!

Some days, all i do is cry and whine, other days i just want to close my eyes and disappear. Traffic in Lagos didnt even help my situation as Perry (her husband) was out of the house most of the day so nobody to talk to so much. I felt so depressed and tired so much so that on my birthday last year, all i did was cry and pray. I cried so much that Perry thought somone had died. I was etremely tired of everything. The thought of getting used to Lagos depressed me the more each passing day. But little did i know that in all my fears and worries, God was preparing me for a better tomorrow. When Perry told me we’d be coming back to Abuja, MY GOD!!! I danced like i have never done. I thanked God every minute of the day and anytime i remember what it was like being in Abuja. One day, around Egbeda b/stop, i went to get something and i saw a bag hanging in a store, iliked it a lot so i went over to get it. As i was there waiting for the lady to answer me, something just told me, ‘Gloria why not start selling these types of bags when you get back to Abuja?’ That was how i got home, patiently waited for Perry to get back so i’d share the idea with him , as my manager that he is. When he came back, i told him and he was OK with it (as always) and that was how my hunt for a supplier started. I combed all the okrika market in Lagos state looking for a trusted supplier of bags but to no avail. Then one lady, who i usually buy clothes from, adviced me to sell clothes since i didnt get a connect for the kind of bags i wanted (God bless you for me Mummy Allen). I got home, thought about it and decided to go for it so i bought a bale of children’s clothes before leaving Lagos.

Today, @obere aego is barely 6months and we have grown. Grown beyond how i imagined we would within the time and all i can say is, Lord i am grateful. The past year wasn’t easy for me, i lost quite a number of people i knew and were really close but God kept me and my family and friends.

Since my church don’t do testimony during Mass, this is my own testimony!

To the real meaning of support, Perry During, I say THANK YOU!

Thank you for listening to me whine.

Thank you for all your support, corrections, encouragement even when you too needed someone to encourage you.

Thank you for being my pillar. The best things i have accomplised in life, i did with you.

Thank you for all you do to make us comfortable.

Thank you for being the best partner, father, brother, brother in-law, son in-law.

Whenever i thank God for my many blessings, seen amd unseen, i thank him for you 10x. You are everything and more and i want you to know that i am eternally grateful. YOU ARE IRREPLACEABLE!!!!

Thank you Gloria for allowing me to share your story to the world. God will keep blessing and guiding you through life in Jesus name.

I guess you enjoyed reading her story. Well I did!!! You are not alone. Keep believing, keep moving forward.

If you have something similar to this story about life you want to share with us. Please feel free to contact us by sending your story to motivatedfree@gmail.com

10 Things That Happen When You’re Fighting A Battle No One Knows About

1. You feel all alone even in a big group. You feel disconnected from everyone around you, you can be talking and having great conversations but still feel like no one really gets you or understands what you’re trying to say. You’re more likely to listen than talk because it’s easier this way.

2. People will give you all sorts of labels. They’ll call you ‘moody’ or ‘unpredictable’ or
‘distant,’ but that’s mainly because some days are better than others and no one really knows what’s happening inside you.

3. Talking about it no longer makes you feel better. You talked to your friends, your family and maybe your therapist about it but it’s still a challenge to explain what you’re going through. Sometimes even the wisest person won’t understand what’s happening to you until it happens to them.

4. You’re tired of pretending you’re okay. You’re tired of saying there is nothing wrong with you when there is, you’re tired of having to lie to people about what’s going on and you’re tired of pretending to be strong and smiling when all you want to do is cry. You wish you could just let everyone know what’s wrong with you so they can leave you alone but you also know that it’s not possible.

5. You’re more guarded. You’re not as open and friendly as you used to be. You’re cautious with everything because you don’t want anyone to make your battles worse. People mistake you for being aloof when the truth is you’re just trying to protect yourself.

6. You’re easily disappointed. When you’re fighting a battle no one knows about, the smallest thing can put a damper on your mood and trigger negative emotions. You’re easily hurt by the slightest remarks or even jokes just to give yourself the right to get mad at something.

7. Your mind is perplexed. You’re easily distracted, you’re forgetful and you always feel like there is just not enough hours in the day to do everything you’ve been wanting to do. You’re always stressed out and you’re always anxious — even in your
sleep.

8. You crave isolation. You think the more you participate in real life, the more you screw up. You feel like you need a vacation, somewhere far away — away from people and away from the noise to piece yourself together again.

9. You keep praying but you’re losing hope. You keep praying for things to get better, for things to change but part of you feels like that’s something that will stay with you because you don’t know how to shake it off and you don’t know if anyone can help you with it.

10. You know you’re the only one who can help yourself but you’re still trying to figure out
how.

Source: Rania Naim

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Social Media Habits Linked To Depression

Social media is a platform where many users post the highlights of their lives – but scientists say it may be making some people depressed.

A study, conducted by researchers at Texas State University, analysed the habits of 500 students frequently using Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat.

It was found that while the users’ reasons for using the platforms were not linked with mental illnesses, how they interacted with the platforms were.

Those who compared themselves with others they considered “better off than” also had a higher likelihood of having depression.

Those who scored highly on the “social media addiction” component also had higher depression ratings. This section was based on statements such as “you have tried to cut down on the use of social media without success” and “you use social media so much that it has had a negative impact on your job/studies”.

Those with depression who used social media were more bothered by being tagged in unflattering photos, and were less likely to post pictures of themselves with other people.

“People tend to make themselves look better off than they really are” on social media. “This is not someone’s ‘real life.’ It’s important to recognize that.”

It’s not the first time social media has been linked to bad habits. Studies earlier this year have also connected the platforms to overspending and overeating.

My next post will emphasize more on these points.

Drop your comments let me know what you think!

What To Do When Everything Seem Hopeless

Happy Sunday guys.

If you’re going through a difficult time right now, I want you to know that God loves you. He sees what you’re going through, He is with you, and He desires to help you right where you are.

Psalm 34:18 (NLT) says, The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. When we are hurting, God hurts with us.

Maybe you feel like things have gotten too difficult and there’s nothing good left for your future. That is what the enemy wants you to believe, but God has something else to say…

The Lord says, For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you…thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome (Jeremiah 29:11).

Our enemy, Satan, wants to discourage us and make us feel like things will never get better…like there’s no way out. He wants us to believe that we’re all alone. I dealt with depression for years, and there’s a tendency to want to keep it hidden. It’s easy to isolate ourselves and feel like no one else can possibly understand.

The enemy likes it when we keep things hidden in the dark. However, God is Light, and when we discover what He has to say and shine His light into our situation, it brings freedom and hope.

I think it’s common for people to feel embarrassed when it comes to depression or having thoughts of suicide. But the greatest thing we can do in these situations is tell someone else and get it out in the open.

If that’s where you are today, I encourage you to take a step of faith and reach out to a close friend or a trained Christian counselor. Don’t allow the enemy to keep it hidden, but take the opportunity to get things out into the light.

I’ve learned from experience that keeping things like this to ourselves makes everything seem worse than it really is. But when we get it out into the open, it brings relief, and we allow God to use other people to help us.

The truth is, we all need to talk to someone at different times. We all go through things and need someone to help us get through our difficult seasons in life.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, I encourage you to take a few moments and pray right now:

“Father, I need You now. You say You love me and see exactly where I am…and in spite of how I feel, I choose to believe Your Word. In the face of all I am going through, I look to You for help. I need Your strength to deal with everything that feels too big for me right now. Help me to keep my eyes on You. Please make Yourself real to me…and encourage me for the road ahead. Help me experience Your love and presence in a tangible way. I give all that I am to You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

At this moment, you may be facing what seems like an impossible situation. But I want you to know that God can make all things new. He can take your problem and turn it into something good.

Hope is the confident expectation that something good is going to happen. It’s closely related to our faith and what we believe. When we dare to hope, it floods our life with joy and peace.
My wife, and I laugh about it now, but in the early years of our relationship, I was passing through some serious depression and challenges. Negativity was like my middle name. I often joke that if I thought two positive thoughts in a row, my brain would get into a cramp! But thank Jesus today, am alive, we married, I got a job, and I have my blog. All to the glory of God.
Today, I can honestly sit here and tell you that God has transformed me from being negative and pessimistic to someone who is full of hope, always expecting His goodness around every corner. Little by little, He helped me discover the power of hope and what that means for my thoughts, words, attitudes and every area of my life.
Wherever you find yourself today—regardless of what’s happened or how things may look right now—always remember that God is on your side. He is the God of the impossible…and the One who can make a miracle out of any situation.

Rushing Around… But Where’s the Fire?

How many times in your day do you feel like you were rushing around trying to put out one fire after another? How many times during the day are you actually at peace with yourself and you don’t feel like you have to hurry up to get to the next task on your list?

If you can go day in and day out without feeling the need to be rushing around from one fire, to another task to satisfy a need for someone else, to accomplishing something that you forgot to do yesterday… I applaud you. But that is not me! If you are like me and many others we have not figured out how to appropriately manage our time and our stressors. Thus, rushing around is all we know. It’s not healthy, but hey…we have made it this far, right?

From solving home issues, rushing to get my work done before deadline, trying to finish some personal assignments, the list doesn’t end. Managing personal health problems, drama at work, stress with significant others, bills, say what? We all have stressors and pressures in life. These struggles and different types of anxiety, can attack us from all angles of life. As someone who suffers from stress and anxiety, I know how important it is to keep the right perspective on things. Easier said than done though, right?

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” – Philippians ‭4:6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Also, easier said than done. It’s easy to think we can bottle up all the things in life that consume our thoughts, place them in a box, take them to God, set them down and walk away. Never giving another worry about them. I’m not too sure that’s what this verse calls us to do. You see, God wants us to take action. The action isn’t hanging it over to him to fix and not doing anything about it ourselves.

“So, do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah ‭41:10‬ ‭NIV

God’s promise does not free us from doing some of the heavy lifting ourselves.

We are not promised that God will solve our problems and we won’t have to pray, follow His word, or change some of our own behaviors. Giving our worries to God does not mean we are absent of having to make personal adjustments.

Here’s an example:

Having a full-time job, donating time to volunteer activities and other obligations at church can be hard to manage when it comes to time commitments. I send up all the prayers I can think of, beg God for a solution. While I do these things, I continue to cram my schedule and nothing changes. I pray harder, I get plugged in to the right communities, I surround myself with friends who have the same values, but still my prayers go unanswered.

Here’s the same example with a much different viewpoint:

Having a full-time job, donating time to volunteer activities and other obligations at church can be hard to manage when it comes to time commitments. While I send up prayers to God, I get organized and prioritize my schedule. Looking at the commitments I have made, I decide which ones I should prayerfully consider stepping down from. Seeking wise counsel, God begins to reveal to me which priorities are most important and advancing His kingdom. Then it becomes very clear what should stay on my schedule.

My first moments awake I spend with God. No, this was not always the case. I used to be so wrapped up in my work and social media, I would check on those things first. Now, before my feet hit floor (or at least while I’m brushing my teeth or in the toilet) I am spending time in the word. I’m reading, or listening to my daily devotional and praying for different areas in my life.

My last moments awake I spend with God. This too wasn’t always the case. Don’t tell anyone, but I have several shows I like to watch, but because I don’t have time (no pun intended) I downloaded them on my phone to watch later. I used to spend the last hours of my days watching TV. Not anymore. A very close friend of mine told me about an app that will help me in reading inspirational stories, which I have been using. If it’s not that, I’m listening to worship music as I drift asleep. This forces me to relax my mind and make every attempt possible to close out my days peacefully.

When you aren’t sure… Just ask.

Seek wise counsel and identify the things in your daily life that are creating the most stress in your routine. Ask yourself, or even write down the pros and cons of that activity. If there are more cons on the list and you’ve gone to God in prayer over them, ask yourself if that particular thing is truly necessary to have you all worked up over and rushing around to accomplish on a regular basis.

Are You In A Difficult Season Of Life?

This post is for people, like me, who have been through difficult times in their lives. Translation: this post is for everyone. Going through times of trial is part of being human. In fact, we are either just coming out of a trial, currently in a trial, or about to go into a time of trial. That sounds depressing huh? The truth is that difficult times of trial do not have to be viewed as a negative thing. Although each person on earth has unique trials in their lives, I see three common points that are involved in trials for all of us.

1. We all have them.
The bible says to build each other up in faith. Build each other up as trials present themselves. We all have trials, but each trial is unique. Just because we may not struggle with the same thing as another does not mean that we should be insensitive and unwilling to build up someone going through a difficult season in their lives.

2. The deepest parts of ourselves are exposed.
The person that you truly are is who you are when you are in a rough time or under extreme pressure. We really learn who we are and what we can handle during times of trial. Although we look at this as a negative thing; knowing who we are deep down inside and what we are able to handle should be a positive thing.

3. We find ourselves.
A trialing time is going to magnify who you truly are on the inside. Sometimes we find ourselves during the trials; sometimes it isn’t until after it has past. Ask yourself this question: Who am I during times trial in my life? Finding yourself can be a beautiful thing if you use it to grow and develop into who you want to become in the future.

Trials are not supposed to be looked at negatively. However, we enjoy comfort so we look at a time of trial as being a bad thing. In reality, in order for us to become who we are supposed to be, we must go through some trialing times. The bible says in James 1:12, “Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.”

Definition of Trial: a tryout or experiment to test quality, value, or usefulness.

What if we viewed the difficulties in our lives more as quality tests instead of seeing them as horrible times? James 1:2-3 says to consider it pure joy when we face trials of many kinds, because the testing of our faith produces perseverance.

I grew up playing city league baseball. I can remember going to these huge recruiting days as a kid. You would get out there, they would put you in some simple scenarios, some difficult ones, and in some that seemed impossible. I always wondered why the coaches would do that. I realize now that it wasn’t to see if I could do something impossible, it was to see how I reacted, adapt and grow in the trial when success seemed impossible.

If you are in a time of trial, I encourage you to change your mindset. Think of this season as more of a test to work on your most inward character and to find yourself on a greater level in the process. Above all else, stay encouraged! God has not left you; He is simply growing you for who He needs you to become. Finish this difficult season strong!

Don’t Let Life Hijack You

Don’t let life hijack your brain! Life used to hijack my brain all the time! I used to worry about why my work wasn’t noticed, why can’t I figure out my life, why is my life this hard and I work very hard, etc….these types of thoughts consumed me every day. I allowed these things that were beyond my control to hijack my everyday thoughts. All of this negativity followed me all day long.

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It is up to you to realize that you must fill your brain with goals- be ambitious! Like the body requires the proper nutrition to perform optimally, the brain requires positivity, self-confidence and, most of all, it is up to you to control it. Once that mind gets hijacked, you are doomed!Something or someone controls it and they will take you for a ride. Trust me- a lot of people enjoy these mind games and watching you respond like a puppet to their every command. No one wants to fail a test. No one wants to get heartbroken. No one wants to get passed over for the promotion at work. No one wants to feel expendable. But, guess what? That is the world we live in. You must learn to push past every single thing and person that wants to hijack your mind. It is critical that you always have goals in front of you so that those negative things that will happen to you don’t derail you and your plans. Make sure that you are the only one who owns the real estate in your mind!

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7 Dismissive Reaction of Social Media on People and Users

Closeup of man on social media

If you can’t imagine your life without social media, that’s a sign that you’ve fallen a victim to the evil power of social networking. It also means that you’ve experienced one (or more) of the negative effects of social media on society.

Don’t pretend you’ve never heard of these. While social media can have a positive impact too, that doesn’t mean it’s all hearts and flowers. Unfortunately.

How Unpleasant is Social Media

Let’s explore the darker side of social media and exactly how (and why) it’s bad for you. You’ll be surprised to learn the negative effects of social media are both physical and mental. It can change your perception of the world and yourself, and not always for the better.

Don’t believe us? Then read on to find out some of the negative effects of social media. And if you recognize any of them as your own symptoms it may be time to consider stop using social media altogether.

1. Depression and Anxiety

Do you spend more than two hours per day on social media? Spending too long on social networking sites could be adversely affecting your mood. In fact, you’re more likely to report poor mental health, including symptoms of anxiety and depression.

So how to use social media without causing yourself psychological distress? If you turn to the same research (and common sense), the recommended amount of time you should spend on social networks is half an hour per day. So, as with so many things in life, it’s all about moderation- Anya Zhukova

2. Cyberbullying

Before social media, bullying was something only done face-to-face. However, now, someone can be bullied online anonymously. Today everyone knows what cyberbullying is, and most of us have seen what it can do to a person. And since screens hide our faces, you can even be a jerk on sites like Reddit without realizing it.

While social media made making friends easier, it also made it easier for predators to find victims. The anonymity that social networks provide can be used by the perpetrators to gain people’s trust and then terrorize them in front of their peers.

These online attacks often leave deep mental scars and even drive people to suicide in some cases. You’ll be surprised to find out that cyberbullying isn’t just affecting kids, but also full grown adults.

If you are being harassed online, it’s important to know that you’re not alone and that you can take steps in order to get back your dignity.

3. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)

Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is a phenomenon that was born at the same time as Facebook—and it’s one of the most common negative effects of social media. FOMO is basically a form of anxiety that you get when you’re scared of missing out on a positive experience or emotions that someone else is getting.

This fear is constantly fueled by your social media engagement. The more you use social networks, the more likely you are to see that someone is having more fun that you are right now. And that’s exactly what causes FOMO.

4. Unrealistic Expectations

This one probably comes as no surprise, but social media helps you to form unrealistic expectations of life and friendships. The networks that do it most are Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. Those are the social media platforms that severely lack online authenticity.

One simple way out of this is for everyone to quit lying on social media. But in the era of Instagram celebrities and YouTubers who earn millions, that isn’t going to happen anytime soon. The Top 10 Most Popular YouTube Channels: Should You Subscribe?

5. Negative Body Image

Speaking of Instagram celebrities, if you look at the most-followed accounts on Instagram, you’ll find beautiful people wearing expensive clothes on their perfect bodies.

Today, body image is an issue for many people of both sexes. Of course, seeing those perfect in accordance with the society standards people on a daily basis makes you conscious about how different you look from those pictures. And not everyone comes to the right conclusions in this situation.

6. Unhealthy Sleep Patterns

On top of increased rates of anxiety and depression, spending too much time on social media can lead to poor sleep. Numerous studies have shown that increased use of social media has a negative effect on your sleep quality.

If you feel like your sleep patterns have become irregular and that this is affecting your productivity, try and avoid spending a significant amount of time on social media. If you still have trouble sleeping, here are some more tricks to help you to sleep peacefully.7 Simple Online Productivity Habits That Can Change Your Year

7. General Addiction

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Social media is often described as being more addictive than cigarettes and alcohol. With the worst social media apps being Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat when it comes to addiction.

Don’t know if you’re addicted to your social networks? Think when was the last time you went a full day without checking your social media accounts? What if your favorite social networks completely disappeared tomorrow; would it make you feel empty and depressed?

If you just realized you’re addicted to social media, don’t worry, as most of us are there with you in varying degrees. And it’s not necessarily a reason to go and wipe yourself off all those social networking platforms.

However, if you think quitting is the best solution for you, we won’t stop you. In fact, one of our writers tried quitting social media once, and it was an interesting experience.

As with everything else, social media brings both good and bad things into our lives. At the end of the day, you’re the one who decides whether there’s more help or harm in it for you.

Maybe all you need is find the right site for you. Perhaps switching from Facebook to Twitter, or from Instagram to YouTube. Or maybe you’re done with all of them altogether and are ready to delete your entire social media presence for good.

If that feels a little too extreme consider doing a social media detox every once in a while instead. Because the non-nuclear option should always be your first choice.How to Do a Social Media Detox (and Why You Should Right Away)

It depends on what you benefit from social media. It can make you or break you.

If you have any additional say on this post, please feel free to drop your comments.

Identify Your Major Worries

depression, teen depression, pain, suffering, tunnel.

The flip side of the above questions is this: What are my three biggest worries or concerns in life right now? What bothers you, worries you, concerns you, and preoccupies you in your day-to-day life? What aggravates or irritates you? What is robbing you of happiness, more than anything else? As a friend of mine often asks, “Where does it hurt?”

Once you have identified your biggest problems, worries, or concerns, ask yourself,

  • What are the ideal solutions to each of these problems?
  • How could i eliminate these problems or worries immediately?
  • What is the fastest and most direct way to solve each problem?

Repost: How Many Celebrity Tragedies Before We Understand That Fame And Money Don’t Mean Happiness?

There are many conversations to be had in the wake of Robin Williams’ death. About the perils of depression; the silent weight of scrutiny that’s internalized when we treat famous people like characters, not humans; and the love a generation could have for a man, though we hadn’t taken a moment to discuss him until he was gone.

When tragedies like these occur, the only thing there is to do is take something and grow collectively. At the end of the day, the million+ tweets and posts and discussions about Robin are (for all we know) unbeknownst to him. They’re for us. So while we’re at it, let us take this too: You will not be happier tomorrow if you do not create happiness today.

We are aggregators and perpetuators of the idea that external success yields internal fulfillment. We spend our whole lives seeking that greatness: a physical body others can appreciate, stacks of money you can measure, material items other people can get wide-eyed and jealous of, attention and admiration that we believe will fill some emptiness within us.

External success — success that is sought because other people can perceive it — is a dark and winding path of putting our whole lives into something that never does fill the gaping, heavy hole that sent us running away from ourselves to begin with.

I have a hard time believing that Robin — or really anybody who has perished despite a seemingly phenomenal life — wouldn’t want us to understand this. More importantly, because of those people, but more due to our own internal convictions of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, and disconnectedness (that we all at some level understand) I believe that this is what we need to start understanding.

Despite the endless feed of overdoses and tragedies, we remain a culture that is, for the most part, decidedly unaware. If you asked someone, in theory, does money and fame mean happiness? They’d probably say no, because they think that’s the right answer. And yet. But still. It’s easier and more instantly gratifying to keep seeking the external. It’s common, it’s normal, it’s expected, it doesn’t require much by the way of fiercely letting your own light refract into the untouched darkness of others’.

We are a society driven by ego. We have monopolized even the most natural and simple of processes for the sake of these empty, meaningless, physical accolades. We took control of animals to help discover/conquer new territories, then put them in concentration camps to be slaughtered (though, then again, we’ve done that to each other.) We’ve changed more on the Earth in 50 years than in the last 13,000 combined. Industrialized farming poisons our food for the sake of cheap, exponential growth, and our food workers wear radiation suits. Everything has been cloned, standardized, copied and individuality has been destroyed, ironically, in the face of our very isolation that has to be mentally resolved before anything else can be. We just continue to take and take and take and take.

And when other things aren’t enough, we take control of each other, and in the interim, we monopolize ourselves, too. We do this every time we police someone into behaving one certain way. Every time we believe what we’re conditioned to and don’t think for ourselves. Every time we allow something ultimately meaningless to control our lives because the one thing we have not learned to do is find something that does mean something to us.

We created a culture that cares far more about how things appear than how they actually are. As long as this carries on is as long as we’ll be seeking a great nothingness.

And the funny thing, the important thing, the only thing worth knowing here, really, is that if every one of us took it upon ourselves to fill ourselves with deep understanding and conviction, to perceive unity rather than isolation, to learn to embrace individuality in harmony with everyone else, these problems would disappear. We do not have to fix the outer. We do not have to deconstruct the society we live in to fix it. We have to deconstruct the illusions within us.

This is not something we vote on. This is not something we influence others to do. This is not what happens when we take control of other beings and things. We cannot keep perpetuating the world that we do, and losing the things that we are, the people we love, and ourselves. We do not just owe this to our heroes and our children and the people who have passed. We owe this to ourselves. We owe it to our own happiness to stop feeding into the incessant cruelty, to stop judging other people and policing them into a life we deem acceptable. We owe it to ourselves to ask for help when we need it. To help others when they do. To let our suffering move us toward deeper, internal acceptance and awareness and okayness through the external knowing that all is one and one is all and to know that no matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.

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Here Are Seven Awesome Psalms To Read Whenever You Are Struggling With Depression And Anxiety.

They are:

Psalm 23:4

“Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”

God’s words bring peace (psalmsquotes)

Psalm 27:1–3

“God, You are my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear? You are the strength of my life, of whom shall I be afraid? When the wicked come against me to eat up my flesh, my enemies and foes, they stumbled and fell. Though an army may encamp against me, my heart shall not fear!”

Psalm 32:7

“You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.”

Psalm 46:1

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.”

God’s words bring peace (bibleverseimages)

Psalm 55:22

“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.”

Psalm 61:1–3

“Hear my cry, O God; from the ends of the earth I cry to You, when my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you are a shelter for me, a strong tower from the enemy…”

Psalm 34:1–10

“I will bless You at all times, Your praise will continually be in my mouth. I sought You, Lord, and You heard me, You delivered me from all my fears. When we look to You we are radiant. Your angels encamp all around those who fear You and You deliver us. Help me to taste and see that You are good, oh Lord. You say I will be blessed when I trust You. Those who seek You lack no good thing.”