Don’t Be A Pretzel

This is originally posted on the daily positive.

You are not a pretzel. Don’t twist yourself to fit into who you think people want you to be – just to make them happy – which then makes your soul feel all twisty-like. Be who you are. Accept and love all your quirky aspects. Make your soul happy. Don’t be a pretzel. Be your whole enchilada.” – Karen Salmansohn

What do you do to make yourself more likable or acceptable to others?

I’ve heard the following types of things, and I’ve experienced my own versions of these in the past…

I don’t want to be seen without make up on.

I prefer to wear a hat to cover my receding hairline.

I can’t wear sleeveless tops because I don’t like my arms.

I try not to say too much, in case I say the wrong thing.

Just in the last few weeks I’ve seen many examples of people CHANGING THEMSELVES in some way that puts them out (alters their natural preferred state) in order to be more acceptable to others.

3 REALIZATIONS

Here are a few useful realizations that I hope this will either support you, or you could pass onto someone who might benefit…

People are far too busy caring about themselves to be concerned about what you do, what you look like, what you wear, what you own, what you say.

If someone did care, and they judged you in any way for being you, it truly isn’t anything to do with you, and it’s a reflection of where they’re at in their own consciousness.

The kicker – most of the time we’re actually not changing ourselves to be more acceptable to others. The truth is… we often don’t feel acceptable to OURSELVES! 😲 If you don’t accept yourself, it’s a natural subconscious thread to believe others won’t accept you either.

2 QUICK TESTS

Here’s a little QA test to see if you’re wasting your energy on self-adjustment to be more “acceptable” (when you’re already acceptable just as you are!!!)

ASK YOURSELF:

“If there was NO ONE ELSE around, and it was just me on this planet, what would I do, what would I wear, what I would say?”

“If I 100% accepted myself, what would I do, what would I wear, how would I behave, what would I say?”

You might be surprised by what these questions bring up – exposing the ways you adjust yourself AWAY FROM your natural, divinely created and glorious self.

As the above quote says, no more twisting yourself like a pretzel, it’s time to be your whole enchilada!

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What You Are Looking For And Longing For

Whatever you are looking for and longing for, you are here to BE IT.

You are ready right now.

“If you inherently long for something, become it first. If you want gardens, become the gardener. If you want love, embody love. If you want mental stimulation, change the conversation. If you want peace, exude calmness. If you want to fill your world with artists, begin to paint. If you want to be valued, respect your own time. If you want to live ecstatically, find the ecstasy within yourself. This is how to draw it in, day by day, inch by inch.” ― Victoria Erickson

Today, notice what do you long for? Then ask yourself…

“How might I embody this today? How might I bring it to life myself?”

Video: 13 Steps To Rebuild Unpleasant Reactions into Peaceful Responses

Life is full of people, situations and things that will trigger you.

No one else is like you. You have your unique perspective and your unique expression.

Life is not designed for us all to be the same, with the same values, views, opinions, thoughts, feelings and actions.

It is natural to anticipate that there will be PLENTY of external experiences that will trigger you as they push hard up against what you believe to be “right” and “good”.

In these situations, there is nothing at all wrong with the experience, there is also nothing wrong with the trigger that has pushed your buttons, and furthermore there is nothing wrong with you for feeling the way you do.

Having said that, you are FULLY responsible for how you react to life whenever you are triggered by something that doesn’t align to what you believe to be “right” and “good”.

Most people live in a constant cycle of painful reactions to such experiences. Someone says something you don’t like, and BOOM… you painfully react like a volcano erupting. Someone does something you don’t like, and you allow your ego to judge them, and to make yourself righteous, and to look upon the situation and person with distaste. You may not even say anything, but the look on your face could be enough to express your pain and displeasure.

So, you have a choice. Your life is one long timeline of choices. Your choices define the quality of your life experience, and flow into your outcomes for your health, emotional wellbeing, psychological wellbeing, and overall energy vibration (which has a massive impact on your life results professionally, interpersonally, financially, and so on).

Here are 13 simple steps to practise for instantly transforming your pattern of painful reactions to people, situations and things that trigger you, into peaceful responses that serve you and move you forward powerfully.

Credit: Bernadette Logue

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Dead Fish Or Smart Fish

This post was originally posted on The Daily Positive.

When you genuinely don’t know what to do or where to go, you are in a blessed position. It’s time to stop “trying hard” to figure it out, and instead start tuning into life around you. You are being guided. If your mind is still, your heart is open, and you are patient… the way will become clear.

There’s an old saying, “Only dead fish go with the flow”.

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The meaning of this saying is pretty clear…

Fish swim with the current or against it, but they are always intentional and active, going somewhere.

If not, and they were simply going with the flow, they would be dead. I’m not sure if that is true, but we get the point.

Applying that to life as a human being, you might accidentally think that “going with the flow” means you are inactive, unintentional, directionless and not fully living.

Today let’s reflect on an alternative viewpoint to this – because mindfulness, conscious living, faith and spirituality all teaches us differently about the VALUE and PLACE of going with the flow at certain times of our life.

Let’s say there are 3 ways you could be living right now:

🐟 You’re a fish on a mission achieving your goals – you know what you want, you’re working on it, your life has a clear vision and you’re feeling good about that.

🐟 You’re a fish without clarity on what you want or where you’re going – as a result it’s a little challenging! But, you’re a smart fish, so you’ve decided to go with the flow of life as best you can, and you’re paying attention to your inner voice, to the energy of life around you, to opportunities and synchronicities – ready for guidance and direction to become clear in divine and order timing. You trust.

🐟 You’re a fish who has given up and you’ve stopped participating in life completely. You don’t know what you want or where to go, and you’ve closed your mind and heart. There is no interest in or presence to the incredible force of life and divinity all around you… so you’re highly unlikely to see any guidance when it comes knocking on your door.

Should you ever face a point in your life where your direction is unclear, this does not mean you have no direction.

It means you are in a blessed position for an exciting, new, divinely ordered unfolding to take place for you and through you.

It only requires that you be open and patient, and that you are ready to say YES to whatever intuitive nudges or signs might show up to guide you.