Be Confident And Overcome The Fear Of Moving Forward

It was like a dream, when I felt my mind left the reality world into an imaginary scene.

One evening, I was heading for a meeting that will transform my life and family to become a partner in a law firm. As I was driving I noticed I was the only one on the road. The environment was like “silent hill” quiet and horrifying. Out of the blues, I saw a very big image of a man standing some distance in front of me. I stopped and tried to glimpse at the image, I couldn’t see anything. Fear came drumming on me, my mind became a battlefield. The first voice told me to go back, do I want to die. The other said move forward, you have to complete your mission, remember you were deprived for long to get this position, you have worked hard, this is your time. I was confused and stood beside my car for like 10 minutes. I began to seek God’s presence in prayer to reveal who is the giant blocking my way. Then a word came to me to look at king David as an example. I opened my Bible and began to read.

The war between the Israelites and the Philistines in 1 Samuel 17, the outcome of which is determined by David’s confidence in meeting the challenge of Goliath. The Israelites were full of fear when the Philistines had a giant who was there number one fighter. They tried to retreat back to there camps. But with faith David came forth and said he will challenge the giant. After reading, I gained confidence and my faith grew stronger. It’s like the giant image was reading my confidence, it came out of the shadow to reveal itself. It was a giant, a scary big man with a sword just like Goliath. I wore my armour of faith and confidence, got into my car, ready to destroy anything blocking my goals, future, and greatness. The giant spoke saying “where do I think am going to, do I want to die today. There is no way for you to pass, go back.” When he saw I wasn’t responding to his threats, the giant started running, approaching me very fast. I at the other hand started my engine, and moved with a full speed. As I was moving, I didn’t feel myself in a car anymore, it was like the the car transformed to a very powerful weapon. As we collided, the giant in my front was no more. I came out of the car giving praise and worship to God my protector.

Lessons:

Don’t let fear steal your hardwork, don’t give up on life when things becomes hard. Keep moving forward and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:8-9, ESV)

Be blessed!

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Signs That You’re More Empathetic Than You Realize: Being Confident Yet Still Caring About What People Think

Empathy, the cousin of sympathy, is not so much being able to relate to what someone is feeling as it is actually feeling it as well – and most of the time, we’re completely unaware that it’s happening. We adopt the thoughts and emotions of those around us all the time (i.e. the collective consciousness) but some people just have a stronger response to it than others. Here are a few ways to know you’re more empathetic than you realize, so you can stop driving yourself crazy trying to solve problems that aren’t yours.

1. You deeply care about what other people think, yet at the same time, are very confident. If you’ve been struggling to reconcile the two, consider that it’s not insecurity as much as it is wanting and needing other people to think and feel positively so you don’t pick up on it yourself.

2. You’re the “counselor” of your friends. You always feel responsible for solving other people’s problems, and almost can’t bear to be in the company of someone who seems upset or struggling with at least trying to talk through things or offer them help.

3. You’re often tired for no reason, or at least require a lot of alone time to think through things, process and relax.

4. You overthink as a means of working through emotions that aren’t inherently yours. You find yourself constantly having to put in tons of mental energy to try to get to the root of a problem, often going through it again and again but to no avail, simply not realizing that it was never yours to dissect or heal in the first place.

5. You get upset “for no reason.” You’ll be just going through your day as usual when all of a sudden, a random, strange emotion will come over you and you’ll feel all but paralyzed by it.

6. You’re actually pretty emotionally distant on the surface – and are highly selective of who you give your time and energy to. Though you’re sensitive – and possibly even outgoing! – you are very cautious as to who you spend time with, and who you willingly give your attention to.

7. You respond strongly to your environment. You can almost “chamelionize” to whatever is going on around you – mimicking other people’s idiosyncrasies, or adopting the behaviors and attitudes of whomever you spend a lot of time with.

8. You’re interested in psychology, philosophy or anything else that explains how we behave and why. You realize that the way you think and feel is what creates and constitutes a “good life,” and so any way you can learn do either of those better seems like a noble pursuit.

9. You overthink social interactions more than anything else. The only problems you’ve ever really had in your life have been social or inter-personal. If not that, then your anxiety is always rooted in something to do with your relationship to other people, even if only your perception of it.

10. You’re also very intuitive, simply because you can pick up on people’s micro-expressions. Naturally being aware of body language and small mannerisms gives you tons of insight into how they really think and feel, and sometimes, when we’re geared to pick up on these things, we inadvertently start adopting the feeling that comes with them.