Video: 3 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Here are 3 common ways you might be comparing yourself to others which leave you feeling “less than”. Bringing awareness to this helps you to catch it when it happens so you can interrupt the cycle, to stop comparing yourself and start feeling confident instead!

By: Bernadette Logue

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The Big Risk if You’re Seeking Approval from Other People

Originally posted on the daily positive.

As human beings we crave acceptance and approval – to feel a sense of belonging and security.

The Big Risk if You’re Seeking Approval from Other People

It makes sense if you think about our primitive nature and history – the need to be in tribes/communities together, for safety and survival.

That seems to drive so many of us in modern life to go seeking approval and acceptance from others – be it our families, our friends, our work colleagues and employers.

Heck… we even go on social media and seek “likes” from complete strangers in order to get that sense of acceptance.

But here are the cold hard facts about living for the acceptance, approval or praise of others…

  • Yes, it feels good (we all like it!)
  • But, you can’t guarantee you’ll always get it.
  • And as long as you’re attached to the acceptance, approval and praise of others, you’re also equally attached to their judgment, criticism and rejection.

The powerful truth that I’ve personally learned over the years is this…

  • When people say nice things about me, that’s lovely and it’s just what they’re thinking and feeling in that moment. It has nothing to do with me. It’s none of my business. 💙
  • When people say unkind things about me, that’s unpleasant and it’s just what they’re thinking and feeling in that moment. It has nothing to do with me. It’s none of my business. 💙

If you live by the praise of others, you die by their criticism.

Everyone is simply projecting their inner experience into the outer world – be that positive or negative, be that praise or criticism. To live your life at peace and empowered here are 2 TIPS…

  • Don’t take things personally – even when it’s nice things (acknowledge the love the other person is expressing, and witness it with appreciation, but don’t attach to it like an umbilical cord!). 😃
  • Don’t go looking for people to validate, approve, accept or praise you – GIVE IT TO YOURSELF. The only person’s opinion who truly matters is yours. From your own approval, the world is your oyster and you can enjoy the good and detach the bad, forever free to simply be.

Away From Pain

An eternal struggle that kept a soul in the darkness for so long. A young heart was just aching for a little bit of freedom. Nobody was able to understand it, so they limited themselves to call that young heart “egoistical”. Was really so bad just for trying to get a little bit of happiness? No. The young spirit just wanted to feel a tiny bit of happiness after a long life in the shadows. Was it too much to ask for? It wasn´t.

Against everybody else´s wishes, the young heart was more than determined to fight for the happiness deserved.

It wasn´t an easy task. How could be easy forget long years filled with self-loathing? But even when it was hard work, it had to be done. Rebuilding something, always takes some time, but the wait it´s worth it.

Those awful feelings didn´t disappeared magically, but slowly began to be smaller and smaller. Maybe not everything was perfect yet, but a new door was opening in front of the young heart. There was a beautiful chance for a fresh start, away from the shadows of self-loathing and pain. The only thing that was needed was a little bit of confidence and faith in the future.