The Skill Of Not Reacting to Negative People – in 3 Simple Steps

Every day we wake up ready to go into the world, looking to experience our optimal type of day.

We want peace and happiness. We want productivity and success. We want rewards and fulfillment.

And we plan as best we can to create that type of day we want.

We can create the right mindset and energy before stepping into the world.

We can take focused action toward the results we want.

We can choose where to go, who to be with and what to do.

These are all things we can control.

But, there’s something we can’t control, and it can have a major impact on ALL the things we want to achieve and experience.

That something is OTHER PEOPLE!

Dealing with the Negativity of Others

We quickly learn in life that no matter how zen we choose to be, other people might cross our path and bring their negative energy into our zone.

We also very quickly learn that if we get upset about their negativity, if we buy into it, if we judge them, if we resist and say it “shouldn’t be this way” … then we end up suffering and in negativity with them!

So one of the best things we can learn on our personal growth journey is the ART OF NOT REACTING TO NEGATIVITY.

It’s an art form because it takes practice, and grace.

Our human nature tends to be that we drop down into negativity unless we consciously choose to keep ourselves up above it.

When someone brings their negative energy your way, here are the 2 important things to remember:

  1. It’s like fishing. They throw out the fishing line with negativity bait on a hook. Will you be the fish who isn’t aware and bites, taking the bait and ending up in a tug of war? Or will you be the wise fish who sees the bait and keeps on swimming past it?
  2. If you give your energy to negativity and negative people, you’re flushing it down the toilet. Your energy is so precious, and each day you only have a certain amount of that energy to give to the world. So you have to be super smart about what and who you give your precious energy to. If you give it to negativity, you can’t give it to your goals and dreams!

So, in order for us to experience the type of peaceful, happy, productive and successful day we want, we have to learn the art of not reacting to negativity if it crosses our path.

We get prepared in advanced, so we can masterfully deflect it.

The Art of Not Reacting to Negative People – 3 Simple Steps

Here’s a 3 step process to help you practice non-reaction…

1. See it Coming

You know what negativity looks and sounds like. So be present and aware for when it crosses your path. If you see it coming (like a baited hook dangling in the water!), you have a chance to stand back and breathe before biting! You can instead make a conscious choice not to engage with that negativity.

2. It’s Not About You

Always remind yourself that other people’s negativity is not about you. It’s a reflection of something that is going on inside their mind and emotional system, and it’s being projected around you or toward you.

Too often we get tangled up in other people’s negativity because our egos take it personally and react to their behavior or words. Rather – keep accurate perspective that someone who is being negative is just a fellow human being going through pain. It’s not about you.

3. Wish them Peace & Happiness

The quickest way to non-reaction and inner peace when you’re witnessing someone being negative around you or toward you, is to wish them peace and happiness.

This doesn’t mean saying out loud to their face, “I wish you peace and happiness”.

It’s a mantra you say inside yourself.

This is a practice of conscious and spirited living to say within your own mind and heart, “I wish them peace and happiness. I wish them peace and happiness. I wish them peace and happiness…”

I know you don’t want anyone on this planet to suffer, not you or any other person who crosses your path. And using this mantra helps you to sit in the energy of forgiveness, compassion and detachment.

Inspired by: Bernadette Logue

Life Coach

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Interview Discussion With Digital Marketer And Entrepreneur “Mrs Uche Anunobi

Some few days back I had the privilege of meeting an old school friend of mine. She’s an extraordinary woman, a wife, a friend and a sister. Through her coaching lectures, she has turned a lot of people’s life around on Instagram and how to build there businesses around the social media platform. Also she has inspired and motivated a lot of people to keep doing what they do best and never give up.

Ladies and Gentlemen please help me to welcome Mrs. Uche Anunobi….

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school and Where were you born?

I was born in Lagos and grew up in Lagos except for when I was in school. I attended Redeemers University for my undergrad studies and did an MBA at the Lagos Business School.

2. How was life growing up?

Growing up was great for me because I got to see both my parents work really hard to ensure we were comfortable. They showed us love and encouraged us to be better always.

3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into entrepreneurship and a digital marketing coach?

I decided to become an entrepreneur after 3 years of working in an audit firm. The firm was a great one and I learnt a lot about how businesses operate but had zero experience and very little confidence that I could run one myself. That was when I decided to do an MBA to up-level my training. After my MBA, I started testing out my entrepreneurial skills, failing in some and succeeding in some. I’ve also struggled with choosing that one thing that I would love to do for the rest of my life.

4. How do you cope running a fast growing digital marketing platform?

At first, I thought it was crazy and put myself under a lot of unnecessary pressure. But now, I have learnt that there are timeless principles that always work regardless of the changing digital environment and I’ve dedicated myself to learning those principles. That way, I feel less pressured keeping up with the ever changing platform. I embrace the change better and educate other to do same.

5. Is being an entrepreneur a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?

It is more of a blessing than a burden. Entrepreneurship teaches you many things: how to be kind to everyone (customer service), how to plan yourself better because you’d be juggling so many things at the same time, how to motivate yourself because there’ll be no boss to motivate you, the importance of having a coach and trust me, having a coach is everything.

6. What challenged have you had to as a digital marketing coach and entrepreneur?

The most challenging for me is getting people to implement the great things that would move their business forward. People love and understand what I’m telling them to do but get lazy to do the work even though they know it will make all the difference. I guess that’s why coaches like to work with high performance individuals.

7. In your opinion, what is the most difficult part about your line of work?

Ensuring that clients don’t give up when the going gets tough because the entrepreneurial path is not all roses and sunshine.

8. What’s the weirdest thing your followers has ever told you?

I think I’m lucky not to have had any weird follower yet..lol

9. Your business confident is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?

All the freaking time! This is a daily struggle, the only thing is, I don’t let it stop me, not anymore.

10. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?

I so look forward to working with Tara Durotoye, Tricia (Triciabiz), Nelly (Naijabrandchick), Steve Harris, Bankole Williams, Stephanie Obi and Tomie Balogun. I love these great men and women because they inspire me every day. And what’s even more exciting is that they are all Nigerians who started thinking big as youths.

11. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

Tara Durotoye

12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?

How to be a better version of me

How to impact lives positively

How to run my business better

13. Aside the unemployment nature of the country, what drove you to switch from a graduate to a digital marketing coach?

Unemployment didn’t drive me to switch. I chose to switch because I wanted to impact lives in a way that I couldn’t with my paid employment.

14. What advice would you give to unmotivated and non-inspired people around the world. Please explain???

I’d advise them to first acknowledge that they have a challenge of being unmotivated and uninspired. Acknowledging is the first step towards a turn around. Next, they can start to read great books, start working on their business ideas, surround themselves with great people and get a coach.

15. What’s next for Uche Anunobi?

I’m working on developing an online course that would help entrepreneurs kick start and grow their businesses online. I’m also working on my book to open people’s eyes to see how they can take advantage of the online space. These alongside my free weekly live videos on my Instagram page @uche.anunobi will help to grow a tribe of intentionally successful young Nigerian entrepreneur.

We appreciate your contribution and advise for unmotivated people around. We wish you well in all your future endeavours.

To get in touch with uche for advise and coaching, you can follow her on Instagram: @uche.anunobi

Hope This Video Inspires You

Life is not all bed of roses. You will face challenges, you will be insulted, neglected, rejected and abused. But always remember you are who you are. When they tell you your business won’t go far, you don’t have to argue with anyone, just keep going. When they tell you your ugly, appreciate the fact that you are alive and kicking life to the wall.

This young lady is now a motivational coach and speaker to younger kids who are faced with challenges within their environments.

Be inspired, Be motivated!!!