5 Tips for Conquering Negativity When Starting Your Own Business

Guest post from Katelyn Marie

Imagine this. It has been raining for so long, but you want to take a walk and meet your friend who lives a house down. The only problem is that you live on a dirt road. There are no sidewalks or paved walking paths to be found.

So, you decide to walk on the dirt road. As you take the first few steps forward the mud is so thick you can feel the suction on your shoes as they are nearly pulled off of your feet. You’re scared of the step you just took and want to turn around, but you realize that you really want to see your friend.

You push on only to slip and go sideways. You catch yourself and learn from your mistake. Pretty soon you’re walking at a good clip, but you don’t see the stick in your way and trip over it, falling down completely.

Managing to get back up, you notice you’re covered in the filth and dirt. The mud is fresh in your mouth; it tastes disgusting. You won’t be able to wash off until later, but you wipe off as much as you can.

You start to wonder when you’ll get to your friend’s house. It didn’t seem this far away before.

You think about giving up completely, but you realize that wouldn’t be wise. You’re already part way there. You’ve chosen to follow through and if you quit now, you’ll feel cheated. Besides, you want to see your friend.

Finally, you see your friend waving from her porch. She runs forward and embraces you.

“I’ve been waiting,” she says.

Revealing Your Power

  • Now, what if I told you the mud was every negative thought, naysayer, or comment that was holding you back from your dreams?
  • And your friend was success.
  • And that you were carrying a super long hose that could’ve been used to wash yourself clean at any time you chose?

Would you believe me?

When I first started out, I’m not sure I would have.

Right out of college I chose to start my own freelance writing business. That was the scariest decision I’ve made to date. It’s hard and frustrating and sometimes completely baffling. It’s all too easy to get wrapped up in the doubts and negative thinking that can accompany taking a leap of faith.

But success was calling my name. She beckoned me from her porch, called me to keep coming closer, to keep pursuing her.

It’s easy to get stuck in the mud. To fall victim to the thoughts in our own mind and voices of others who doubt our ability to achieve what we are called to. It’s easy to stumble over an obstacle in our path and let it stop us. But we must forge on.

A lot of people have called me brave for starting my own business. While these things do take courage, I think the bravest people are the ones who start working on their goals and keep working to complete them. It takes grit, determination, and bravery.

I didn’t believe it at first, but I do hold the power. And with these five ways to conquer negativity, you can hold the power, too.

Say No to Negativity When Starting Your Own Business – 5 Easy Tips

1. Not Everyone Will Understand—Don’t Expect them To

There will always be well-intentioned people who will try to change your mind. Who will try to convince you to do something safer or easier.

My advice: don’t let them. Stick to your guns and explain why your dream is important to you. If they don’t come around, they aren’t worth your time.

2. True Haters are Probably Jealous

Ever come across a person who has nothing kind to say about your business venture?

It might be their own insecurities talking. You’re doing something they’ve only dreamed about. Remind yourself that it isn’t you and if you can, distance yourself from the negativity.

3. Find Positive Places and People

Whether it’s friends and family or a group on Facebook, surround yourself with like-minded people who share your goals. It’s much easier to reign over doubt if you have people walking with you. Plus, it’s a great way to network and expand your circle of supporters.

4. Success is Measured in More than One Way

Don’t look at your business purely in terms of profit. While that’s the ultimate goal, there is so much you learn with a start-up. You’re gaining life skills that are invaluable. So, when someone tries to measure your success in monetary terms, know that’s not the only way to look at it.

5. View Mistakes as Lessons

When you start this journey and as you continue to walk on it, there will be times when you mess up. Instead of throwing in the hat and telling yourself you aren’t cut out for this, try to see mistakes as learning experiences. Work through the problem and try not to repeat it. Be as gritty as possible.

A Rocky Road is Well Worth It

It isn’t always easy to follow your dreams. Sometimes they seem impossible. We make excuses: now’s not the right time, I don’t have enough money saved, I’m too old for this, I wouldn’t know where to begin.

But the truth is we can make excuses for days. There will never be a “right” time to start. But if it is something you really want, put on your boots and stick your foot into the mud. It’ll be messy, but there’s a good chance it’ll be worth it.

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Why Your Dreams Require Band-Aids

This is a true life inspirational experience and story.

Fulfilling a dream is a lot like surfing. We fall a lot. But when we honor God with our dreams, He remains with us through the highs and lows.

You have a dream, right? So do I. We probably have more than one, maybe even dozens. If your dream isn’t brand new and you’ve started taking steps to pursue it, you’ve likely discovered that the path to fulfillment is something like the field of poppies that Dorothy had to cross to reach the Emerald City in The Wizard of Oz.

Those poppies sure look pretty, but [spoiler], the wicked witch has poisoned them to keep Dorothy from reaching her goal. Hopefully none of us are picking our way through a field of poison poppies today, but if you’re like me, you might be buying some Band-Aids.

Case in point

My husband James and I both love the outdoors, but the primary difference between us is that he was born with natural ability and I have to work for every ounce of strength and skill I have. One sport he introduced me to is surfing, and last year, I shared my preliminary experience with you. Since then, I’ve improved … a little.

Understand that my goal with this sport is not lofty. I don’t want to metal in a sporting event or even qualify to participate in one. I simply want to get upright long enough to enjoy the wave and then get off without injuring myself.

The size of our goal doesn’t matter as much as how willing we are to stick with it. In that regard, surfing and dreams in general have a few common qualities.

To succeed, you will fall.

Falling off a surfboard provides a physical sensation that equates well to the pain of failure. You don’t just fall off a surfboard and land gently in the water. Your board might nose dive, catapulting you over it. You might get sucked under the water and feel like you’re drowning.

However, the more you fall, the wiser you become. As you practice, you will keep falling, but experience will teach you that even when you feel like you’re going to drown, you should wait a few moments before surfacing, or your board might land on your head. Yes, ouch.

Pursuing dreams is similar. You might get rejected, turned down, booed, told “that’s impossible,” or any number of scenarios. If you don’t quit the first time, the second time, or the hundredth time you fall, you will eventually meet success or at least approach your goal more intelligently.

To succeed, you will scrape your knee.

Be prepared. Pride and self-interests often take a back seat when pursuing goals.

The last time we walked to the beach with surf boards in tow, I had one wish: Please, please let me not get hurt today. You see, last year, I took a hefty chunk of skin off my left knee that required a bigger Band-Aid than even the lifeguard could provide.

For the first hour, I was getting the hang of things. I welcomed smaller waves and kept getting up on the board for some decent rides. The only problem was that since my waves weren’t deep, I was riding them into much more shallow waters. All it took was one wrong fall, and I scraped the skin off my other knee.

So now they match. Kind of. I jokingly tell James that thanks to this sport, I will have prematurely ugly knees.

The bigger the dream, the bigger the fight

Yes, our dreams sometimes leave us feeling scraped up.  As Pete Wilson shares in his book What Keeps You Up at Night, “The bigger the dream, the bigger the fight you’ll face. In fact, the people throughout history who have been the most directly in the center of God’s will for their lives are the same people who have gone through the toughest trials.”

Wilson gives the example of Joseph, one of my favorite Bible characters. Talk about someone whose dream presented obstacles! He went from daddy’s favorite to a slave and a prisoner before God elevated him to Pharaoh’s right hand man. His life experience left more than scraped knees. But through all the setbacks and disappointments in his life, Joseph sought to honor God through his circumstances, and God remained with him.

Several times in Scripture, we find this idea of God being present with Joseph through every low point in his life (emphasis added below).

  • The Lord was with Joseph, and he was a successful man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian.” (Genesis 39:2 NKJV)
  • “But the Lord was with Joseph and showed him mercy, and He gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison.” (Genesis 39:21 NKJV)
  • “The keeper of the prison did not look into anything that was under Joseph’s authority, because the Lord was with him; and whatever he did, the Lord made it prosper.” (Genesis 39:23 NKJV)
  • “And the patriarchs, becoming envious, sold Joseph into Egypt. But God was with him and delivered him out of all his troubles, and gave him favor and wisdom in the presence of Pharaoh, king of Egypt; and he made him governor over Egypt and all his house.” (Acts 7:9-10 NKJV)

You know what these verses tell me? When we seek to honour God through our dreams, God is with us, too.

Surfing is but a picture.

Surfing is a personal dare I have yet to master, but it paints such a good picture for the obstacles we often face when going for the dreams God has placed on our hearts.

The bottom line is that we can’t give up on them, because God doesn’t give up on us. We have to keep buying the Band-Aids. One day, when we do succeed, all those falls will have been worthwhile as we feel God’s pleasure. Well done!

Question: What dream has God placed in your heart?

Credit to Kristen Hogrefe for sharing this wonderful story and experience.

The Best Time To Plant a Tree Is 25 Years Ago. The Second Best Time Is Today

“I’m going to start soon…”
“I’ve been wanting to do that for a long time…”
“I need to do that…”
“I know I should be doing this…”

When I hear people saying things like this I am reminded of this quote that a well respected business man said to me some time ago: “The best time to plant a tree is 25 years ago. The second best time is today. Be a person of action; start taking steps toward the future you want today.” When I first heard this I really got it. I took action and a lot of things changed in my life due to me just taking action. I found myself starting to do the things I talked about doing for years. I began to make great progress in my life. Today, I cannot help but speak this same quote to others when I hear them saying the things that I was once saying.

Often when I say this quote to people, nothing changes. For the past year, this has been something that has troubled me. I would ask myself, “Don’t people want to grow and excel in life?” I have come to believe that the reason so few people are willing to act is because, as a people, we have allowed ourselves to become complacent with where we currently are. Life gets in the way of us moving and making progress. We are comfortable where we are, so why risk messing it up?

In Matthew 25:14-30, Jesus talks about the parable of the talents. The wicked servant in the parable hid the talent that was given to him by the master because he was afraid that he would not be able to make more out of it. How often do we fall into this same category? We are unwilling to step out in faith and try to do something that we want to do because it may threaten how comfortable we are. So instead we stay where we are, hiding who we could become just so we do not have to face the risk.

Today I encourage you to look at your life, see if you have been putting some things off that you know you should do; and start doing them! There is no better time than today. Plant the tree of self-disciplined in your life today. Begin to move in the direction that you know you need to go. Allow your comfort in life to be challenged. In the end, you will find that you are a person of action. Always moving toward the future you know you want, one step at a time.

Interview Discussion With The CEO of Dobi’s Organics: Adaobi Jennifer Ifeadi

This year I will be interviewing upcoming young CEO’s about how they started, the journey, and challenges starting their businesses. Also, motivating others to do what they love.

Am honoured to have this interview with our guest. She’s bright, loving, charming, beautiful, in all she represents her business well. Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you Adaobi Jennifer Ifeadi.


1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and Where were you born? · My name is Adaobi Jennifer Ifeadi. I am from Anambra state. I was born in Makurdi, Benue State Nigeria. I Got my first degree from the European university of LEfke Cyprus, and second degree from university of Northampton (Both MA and BA in International Relations).

2. How was life growing up?

· Life growing up in benue state was interesting as I got to learn how to speak tiv and idoma language, also learnt their cultures and ate their food. This didn’t affect my mother tongue and heritage anyway, as I spoke and still speak igbo language very well, and cook varities of igbo soup like bitter leaf soup, ofe oha, ofe nsala, etc..

3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into the organic products business?

· I decided to go into producing organic products at age 22.

4. How do you cope running a fast growing organic business

· I manage well as I currently have two staffs helping me grow my company.

5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?

· Let’s just say running your own business can be fun and challenging at the same time. Because there are days when you will feel like throwing in the towel and getting a 9-5. But in times like this you just have to keep pushing and focus on why you started in the first place.

6. What challenged have you had to as a business owner?

· So far there has been so many challenges. One of which is being able to get an experienced staff. I basically have to teach them everything and if they leave I start afresh with another person.

7. In your opinion, what is the most difficult part about organic hair creams, Beard oils, etc..

· For me producing it can be fun and exciting, almost the same feel I get when I’m cooking. However challenges includes buying some materials from the abroad as I may not be able to find it here in Nigeria and having to wait weeks sometimes months before I can receive them.

8. What’s the weirdest thing a customer/ staff has ever told you?

· A customer crediting my account with a rather large some of money after my products worked for her and her daughter and she prayed for me and my business. It’s a good kinda weird.

9. Your business confident is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?

· If you must be a business owner, you must be bold enough and ready for troubles and challenges. Once I take it all up to God in prayer, I keep going and pushing no matter what.

10. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?

· I’m looking at becoming a politician. Therefore encouraging other Nigerian women to become active in political issues.

11. You were recently interviewed on an international cable news channel. What was it like seeing yourself on TV?

· Although I have been interviewed about my business on local Nigerian news channels, It was an exciting experience been shown and exposed on an international platform with CGTN.

12. How the people react, especially your friends and family.

· Up till today people still walk up to me to ask if I’m Dobi’s organics because its still been aired repeatedly on DSTV

13. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

NIL


14. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?

· To always read books, make research, and take classes for business and pernal growth. Because change is constant.

15. What motivates you?

· The thought that I want to be better, do better, and always excel in everything that I do.

16. What advice would you give to unmotivated and non inspired people around the world. Please explain???

· Believe in yourself and put God first in all that you do because with God, all things are possible.

17. What’s next for Jennifer?

· I’m going to keep pushing till Dobi’s Organics becomes a household beauty product both on a local and international level.

Guys I have tested and used her products, and I must say it works perfectly fine.
Example showed in the picture below…


Make sure you order yours now. Don’t worry thank me later when that Beard starts growing, or when you start glowing with dobis organic products.

You can follow dobis organics on Instagram: @dobisorganics or WhatsApp for your orders: +2348146905425


We appreciate your time doing this interview with us, making room for us with your busy schedule. 

Thank you very much.

Interview Discussion With The CEO of I. Pearls Fashion: Tabitha Bankole

What motivates and drive extraordinary people to do big things? It’s determination. To continue our series on interviewing upcoming young CEO’s, today we have a creative stylist and fashion designer. A lady of charm, elegant, and spruce. Guys welcome Tabitha Bankole “CEO I. Pearls Fashion”.

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and Where were you born?

My name us Bankole Tabitha, the 5th of 6 children. I was born in ogun state but my family relocated to Lagos when I was about 7 years old. I schooled in mbari mbayo school, redeemers high school and redeemers University where I obtained a B.A in history and international relations.

> 2. How was life growing up?

Life was good, had its ups and downs, I wanted to be a doctor growing up but I can’t stand blood… Then I wanted to be a farmer but I can’t hold chicken… Growing up was just growing up, I am still growing.

> 3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into the fashion business?

Fashion was my plan b, agriculture was my plan A, plan A was never going to work so plan B became plan A

> 4. How do you cope running a fast growing business?

Growing yes but I don’t think it’s moving as fast as I want. Generally it is a lot of dedication, hardwork, sweat and tears, but some day I will get there soon.

> 5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?

It is kind of a bit of both, as the owner of a business you carry a lot of responsibilities on your shoulders, a lot more than you bargained for, but it’s a blessing because I have no limitations, i can go as high as I want which is a big blessing.
> 6. What challenge have you had as a business owner?
A lot of challenges, a whole lot I can mention a few… Dealing with fake fabric vendors to satisfying clients, coping with emergency jobs, getting investors.. A whole lot

> 7. In your opinion, what is the most difficult part about fashion and style?

Creativity : as a designer or stylist you have to keep being creative, it is the only way to stay in the game. There are over a million styles out there and a million coming out daily, so you have you keep thinking and being creative to stay in the game.

> 8. What’s the weirdest thing a customer/ staff has ever told you?

Nothing weird yet, I await that moment (laughs)
> 9. Your business confidence is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?
Yes definitely I do, every business owner does, but you just have to keep the faith and keep moving.

> 10. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?

I am working on something new, I will let people know when it is time.

> 11. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

Omg that will be Oprah!

> 12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?

Stay diligent, remain motivated, and keep working hard.

> 13. Aside the unemployment nature of the country, what drove you to switch from an International relations graduate to a fashion business owner?

Unemployment played no role in my business. I always knew I want to be an entrepreneur right from high school, in my university days I sold all sorts, so business has always being a part of me. I still love international relations and some day, I might do something in my line of study

> 14. What advice would you give to unmotivated and non inspired people around the world. Please explain???

Just keep doing what you do, the road is not easy but once you start flying you remain flying, there is no traffic in the air, so just keep trying to ‘take off’ and once you do, you will soar for ever.

> 15. What’s next for Tabitha Bankole?
I am working on my ready to wear line, and doing something new in the bridal industry. Once I am ready, the world will know.

Thank you very much for your time and contribution to our platform. Hope we do this again..

Tabitha Bankole: Sure…

True Story: Every business requires absolute dedication Interview with Rennie Chamasanyan- Repost

Rennie Chamasanyan has been living in London for nearly 14 years. As every beginning is difficult, Rennie’s was not an easy one as well, but she always knew she would succeed. For seven years she worked as a financial director at a TV in London and for four years she has had her own financial firm. Her great passion is construction, but what makes her extremely happy is her family, her husband Hovanes and their one-year old son Georgi.

At the beginning of my new life in England I was working at three places and slept for three or four hours a night to have money to pay my bills and rent. I bought a house almost a year later.

I moved to London and started looking for a job. I lived with my best friend in the centre of London and I started work almost outside London. Every day I travelled for an hour and a half. While everyone was coming from the outskirts to the centre to work, I was doing the opposite … but one morning I was running because I was late and I fell on the street … A bus almost ran me over and stopped just a meter away from me because I crossed on a red light. I was so scared and I decided that this was the last time I do this to myself and decided to quit. I went to the office with torn pants and told them I was done. Then I decided that I would look for a job within walking distance and wouldn’t need to travel any more. And so it happened. After some time I went to an interview at a television and to my great happiness they liked me. I had to walk to the office for just ten minutes!

Work in television was probably the dream of every person with a wish to fulfil themselves. I was financial director for the entire television and the offices abroad. I travelled to Brazil, Ukraine, France. I had assistants, an office, a driver, business trip costs, but above all my word had weight and people respected me a lot. I had many rights and duties, of course. I learned a lot and now this helps me every day. After years I left because I knew and could do everything and only the owners were above me. I didn’t want to limit my development and wanted to use my time in a better way.

Every business mostly requires absolute dedication. It’s not so important how much money you will invest but how much effort and desire you have. Will, ambition … I think these are more important than capital. I started my financial business with an old laptop and the construction business – with a small tape measure.

Accounting business is something that I really feel comfortable with. Our office is not large, but everyone is at a very high level. We have a lawyer who deals with all legal issues and immigration lawyers. My clients have full confidence in me – I have had clients for five years that I’ve never met in person. I try to do everything online and by mail. I respect the laws of England and I think that I advise people in the most efficient manner.

My formula for success is a lot of work, good assessment of the circumstances, screening of situations, risks and especially to be accompanied by someone who inspires you. There is nothing more devastating than being with someone who doesn’t make you happy. This can’t be good for your success, neither personal nor professional. The person beside you is very important … really! This person should make you give the best you are capable of, to be your support when you need it, to make you feel loved, valued and irreplaceable.

By: Julia Jarvis