Getting Sucked into Comparing Yourself to Societies Norms

Have you ever observed people or yourself feeling taunted by social norms?

I’ve noticed the history of this for myself, spanning back to childhood, and I’ve noticed it time and time again for others I encounter in my work, where people have fallen into the hole of comparing themselves to others and comparing themselves to socially accepted norms and measures of ‘success’. Granted, it’s a pretty darn big hole, so actually, it’s not that hard to fall into! When I’ve witnessed this Comparison Conundrum as I like to call it, it’s like hearing a cry echoing from deep within the hole, which sounds a bit like this:

  • Everyone else is married now, and I’m not. Something’s wrong.
  • Everyone else is buying houses now, I guess I should too.
  • I’ve got this job but it’s not really a career like other people have.
  • They’ve found their passion, I still don’t know what mine is.
  • I’m falling behind.
  • I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.
  • I want to ‘switch lanes’ in life but I don’t want to go backward. It’s too risky.
  • They are successful and did it that way; I should do it that way too.
  • They are thinner/more attractive/more fashionable/more successful/braver/stronger than me. I’m not enough. I’ll never be enough.
  • I’m not capable like them, I guess I’m just not destined to have a life like them.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

This hole is so easy to fall into because often we’re invited into the hole, with our mind reinforcing that we’re falling behind via negative thoughts, supported by well-meaning people telling us that we should do this and that. So, of course, we’d then end up in the hole when everything points that way. Our mind reinforces what we see and hear, telling us it is true and if only we could figure out what we need to be and do in order to be like everyone else, then everything would be fine, right?

Except, you’re not everyone else. You’re you. No one is like you. No one. You make your own decisions about what you need and want, and when it feels good to you. If you want a house right now, buy one. If you don’t, don’t. If you want to travel, travel. If you want a big career, have it. If you want to do volunteer work, do it. If you want to be single, be single. If you want kids, have them. If you don’t, don’t. Do what feels good to you, not what others tell you that you should feel good about. And when I say others, I primarily include in that all the advertising, all the propaganda and all the mass media messaging we see day to day that conditions us in a way that we don’t even consciously realize. Start listening to the one thing you can trust – your soul. Your soul is your true self, below any rampant negative thoughts that are leading you astray.

And you might say, “I can’t hear my soul. I don’t know what it’s telling me!”

To which I would suggest that you be still and quiet as often as possible. Listen without fear of what rises up from within you. You do know what you want and need. You do know what makes you feel good. And, let your signals guide you home.

Listening to the advice of others, proffered from their own paradigm, will never triumph over your inner knowing and divine guidance.

  • Do you compare yourself to others?
  • Do you compare your situation and status to that of others?
  • What prompts you to do that?
  • How does that make you feel?

If you’re feeling sad, alone, disconnected, lacking, not enough or plain old exhausted from it, then give it up. Chose to let it go and be open to exploring who you are and what is important and meaningful to the real you – that is, you below any negative thoughts, and conditioning and any fear. We all have negative thoughts, we have all been conditioned and we all have fear. If you are alive, then you have experienced all of this, it is impossible not to. But now you are awake, and you have the choice to either be defined by these things or to break free.

Being someone you are not, in an attempt to live up to social norms, means that signals will eventually intervene to help you. As Marianne Williamson says, “The universe is self-organising and self-correcting”. If you are not aligned to who you really are, your true self, the natural order of the world in which we live will eventually assist you to see this. Intervening signals are not always pleasant, but they are signposts to help us head in a new, better, healthier, more beneficial direction. When things in your life ‘turn to custard’, it could well be because you are not in your flow, you might have accidentally swum into someone else’s flow. So, get out of their river and get in your own

Here is my final word on this subject, and when I say it to you, know that whatever I write is really a message to myself as much as it is to you. For in saying it to you I am reminding us both:

  • NEVER compare yourself to others. EVER.
  • NEVER try to be someone else. EVER.
  • You were born extraordinary and unique.
  • Any time you compare yourself to others, trying to be something else or like someone else, you deny the beautiful individuality that you were gifted when your soul chose to come into this life.

Create your own norms in life. The norms of society have no bearing on you unless you choose them. At all times, be yourself. There is nothing more magical, perfect and beautiful than you being you.

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Comparing Your Life to Other People’s Lives – It’s a Trap!

Man comparing two measurements

It’s easy to get caught in thinking you are the only one facing a momentary challenge in your life or long-running adversity, the only one with unanswered questions, or the only one who hasn’t figured out how to create the balance, health, relationships, finances or career success you want.

But that’s actually not the case.

Everyone faces challenges!

Everyone has unanswered questions of some sort. Everyone is working out how to create what they want. Everyone is evolving in their own unique way, at their own pace.

One way you are conditioned to feel like you’re the only one with challenges is that you are led to believe everyone else “has got it together” because most people are only showing the sanitized and happy aspects of their life to the world – on social media, in social situations, and in conversation.

Many people keep the dark moments to themselves or sharing only with those trusted and loved people closest to them. That is natural and of course in many cases quite appropriate. But it leads you into a false perspective of your own situation in relation to others.

You can easily get lost in comparison, and end up feeling alone and isolated in your challenges from this perspective. Comparing your worst day with someone else’s best day will never bring you peace.C

No one else on this planet is going to unfold in their life like you are. No one. No one else is uniquely like you. You cannot be compared. What you most need to understand when you go into comparison mode in your mind, is that you channel all of your energy away from your own creative processes. Instead of focusing your thoughts and feelings and actions on creating outcomes for yourself, you focus all of your attention to someone else and what they are creating for themselves. This leaves you no power and it is also a complete waste of your precious energy.

Just because unhealthy comparison doesn’t serve you, does not mean you can’t genuinely observe and admire the success of another person. This is actually uplifting – feeling joy for all they are being and creating. You may well feel inspired into the ongoing possibilities for yourself by witnessing them flourishing. You may see opportunities to learn from what they are doing. You may be able to apply that learning in your own path, in your own unique way, aligned with your passions, inspirations, and intuition, to aid your success.

And… you will always clearly know the difference between this form of positive observation and learning, versus pure painful comparison. The former leaves you feeling uplifted and excited, and the latter leaves you feeling sad, frustrated and deflated.

Listen to the messages your feelings are giving you.

Questions You Should Ask Yourself Daily

The greatest block in your life is YOU.

The greatest solution to that block is also YOU.

If you do not learn from your experiences, and take control of your own energy (your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions) then you will surely continue to reap the same results and repeat the same patterns.

If those results and patterns are working for you, then great!

If they’re not, then below are a set of wise questions to help you tap into your own inner wisdom for the answers that will propel you into the year ahead as a clearer, more inspired, empowered and insightful you.

Everything in your life stems from your energy and the paradigm through which you view the world.

So it’s time to own that and POWER UP.

Grab a pen and paper, and answer the following questions.

As you reflect, consider the past 6-12 months of your life, and the coming 6-12 months.

You are going to learn from the past to elevate yourself in the present, and prepare for an inspired future!

  • have I been doing, and continue to do, in my life that I know is NOT working for me?
  • Why have I not yet taken action to ‘course correct’ my journey in order to get different results?
  • What am I procrastinating about doing?
  • What negative habits do I have that I know I need to let go of? Click here to refer to my list “28 Habits that Block Your Happiness & How to Let Them Go”
  • Regarding the greatest challenges that I faced in the past 6-12 months, what lessons did I learn that I can apply in future for my benefit?
  • Is there anything I intended to achieve in the past 6-12 months that did not eventuate?
  • Did I invest my attention, time or resources into my personal growth, knowledge, wellbeing and/or happiness in the past 6-12 months year in any way?
  • What goal, dream or aspiration do I have for myself for the coming 6-12 months that I’m ready to make happen?
  • Where is fear currently controlling me?
  • Am I feeling professionally fulfilled?
  • What would I most like to learn how to do or be for the 6-12 months ahead?
  • How have I been using my “free time” and has that helped me feel inspired, vibrant, healthy and fulfilled?
  • Are my current habits for eating, drinking and exercising working for me or against me?
  • Am I holding any resentment towards others or myself?
  • How could I be of service in the 6-12 months ahead in a way that will make the world a better place?
  • Which of my relationships need more of my loving attention to prosper?
  • Which of my relationships are toxic and no longer serve myself or the other person?
  • What have been my strengths and achievements in the past 6-12 months that I can celebrate?
  • Am I living a life that is meaningful to me?
  • Am I proud of who I am, how I behave and what I offer into the world?
  • What feelings dominated my experience of life in the 6-12 months gone by?
  • What feelings do I most want to experience in the 6-12 months ahead?
  • What I am most passionate about in my life that I’d like to do more of?
  • If I could improve one aspect of my life, what would it be? (e.g. relationships, career, finances, health, state of mind, emotional balance, adventure, self-expression…)

Very Important Life Lessons

I want to share with you 4 very important life lessons that were reinforced for me over the 3 hours.

These are truly foundations for our happiness and success.

While I’ve had these reflections individually many times in the past, recently all 4 have culminated together for me and it feels like they’re now written in the cells of my body, singing out to be aligned with and honored!

Okay let’s dive in to the points!!!

VIL 1. Do Only What Resonates

Resonance is a feeling you get, telling you that something is good, aligned, and right for you.

The opposite of resonance is dissonance, meaning you feel something isn’t aligned.

Too many people navigate their lives doing things that do not resonate, in places that are not resonant, with people who don’t resonate with them.

If we make our choices about what we do in life based on our thinking mind alone, we can end up in all sorts of trouble and dissonance like this.

Instead, we need to notice what we feel, what RESONATES when we are making our choices about work, money, relationships, health, lifestyle and more.

VIL 2. Be in a State of Ease

As you go about whatever you do, personally and professionally, it’s all about HOW you do it.

Too often we race around in life in such a hurry to get things done, resisting life, aggrieved by things that bother us, frustrated by unexpected situations and people that seem to distract us from what we would prefer to be experiencing.

We may push ahead and force with strong, intentional energy to “get things done” and achieve our goals, but to what end?

Are we sitting there at the finish line feeling ragged and worn? And/or have we left a trail of issues behind us, paying a price in our health, relationships, finances or lifestyle because of the way we have been operating?

If you want to have a happy life then:

  • Recognize how it feels inside your body when you are at ease – there is a lightness to that feeling, a grace, a flow.
  • Recognize how it feels inside your body when you are pushing, forcing, racing, resisting, stressed and tense – there is a very definite physiological difference to ease!
  • Pay attention in your daily life to what you feel in your body – you will quickly start to notice if you’re operating from a state of ease and grace, or from a state of stress and tension.
  • Use breathing and a mantra to shift yourself back into ease in that moment. e.g Breathe in, “I choose to feel at ease”, breathe out, “All is well and I’m in my flow”

VIL 3. Remember You Can’t Do Everything

Well, technically you can do everything you want (over your lifetime) but you most definitely can’t do it all at once!

You can’t please everyone, you can’t be all things to all people, and you can’t achieve all your goals in one go while also caring for your relationships, health, work and personal life. So you have to make conscious choices about what to give your precious energy to.

I recently read a wonderful book on Essentialism – the art of focusing on what is essential, and not getting distracted by the gazillions of non-essential things that call for one’s attention each day. And my takeaway so far, which is so profound for me, is this…

There will be many good things you can focus on and give your time to. But there are only a small handful of GREAT things. To be most effective and successful, means deciphering the great from the good – saying yes to great, saying no to good…

I’ve previously had a major issue with this, struggling to say no to good things. It’s like we’re wired to say yes to all the good things in life. Good people, good opportunities, good experiences, good ideas. But there are actually many goodies! And we can’t do it all. From experience, trying to do it all leaves you burned out!

So, if you want to be highly effective AND happy, then:

VIL 4. Every Path Has Both Pros and Cons

And here is the very important lesson…

In saying goodbye, I was sobbing with such a deep, deep sadness in my heart. Yet, at the very same time, in every cell of my body as I bawled my eyes out hugging my parents and siblings goodbye, I knew what my intuition was telling me – to continue my path (even though my path leads me away from the physical presence of those I love).

When it comes to having an amazing life, please know that there is no perfect. There is only the choice of living your most soul-aligned path, whatever that looks like in any given moment, and accepting all that it gifts you and teaches you as you flow with it.

So, if you want to go big on your goals, and live the life of your dreams, then:

  • Focus on your inner voice, celebrate the pros of your path, peacefully accept the cons.
  • Such cons will exist with all choices. It’s called opportunity cost. With one path chosen, all other paths are not. But rest assured your soul will always lead you to the life experience you are here on this beautiful earth to have.
  • Leave no room for fear to reside in your mind. Trust yourself and remind yourself regularly of why you make the choices you do and why your goals are important.
  • Keep it real – SOMETIMES THE RIGHT CHOICE AND DIRECTION CAN ALSO BE THE HARDEST. And this, my friends, is the colorful ride that we call life!

Guys don’t get it twisted. Ain’t the writer of this. Lol! As mentioned in my first paragraph, i got motivated just some few hours back reading this beautiful piece that so referred to my life. All credit goes to Bernadette Logue.

Staying Strong During Life Challenges: A Reminder

If life challenges are knocking on your door, or they’ve already moved on in and seem to be making themselves at home, these are 6 empowering reminders I researched for you.

Tune in, because it’s time for you to rise up strong…

#1

You have A 100% track record for getting through everything in your life.

You’re doing pretty awesome!

You’re still breathing, heart beating, and you have what it takes to walk ahead powerfully.

Remind yourself every day – “I will be okay. Everything will be okay. I always get through somehow. I trust this.”

#2

This too shall pass.

Challenges are like storms that arrive in your life, like a weather pattern. Storms have a life span. And your life span is longer than its!

The storm will come and it will go, and you will outlive it.

Remember, this is a season. Like everything in life, it will eventually pass. Thoughts pass. Feelings pass. Challenges pass.

Be patient and trust.

#3

Diamonds are made under pressure, and so are you. Your challenges will be the making of you.

Life challenges pressuring you are softening your rough edges, calling you to evolve, buffering you to expose the power and beauty you have.

On the other side of this challenge, you will shine again, brighter than before.

#4

All challenges morph into wisdom.

This is the gift that challenges bring. They come to offer you something.

Whatever you get out of a challenge in the form of greater understanding, skills and life wisdom, you will not only use in future (as a handy side benefit) but you will NEED in future.

There is Divine Order in your life. Maybe you don’t know yet what this life challenge is gifting you, or maybe you do. Maybe you don’t know yet what this wisdom is for, but you will find out soon enough!

Perhaps the wisdom is to support something you will DO in the future. Perhaps it is to help you SHARE that wisdom with someone else in your life, to uplift them on their journey. You needn’t be concerned about why you’re being given this wisdom, only that it is has purpose.

The Universe/Divinity (whatever word you use to describe a higher power at play in your life)… it moves us across each others life paths, in right time and right order. We end up learning through challenges and then being called forth into work, career, vocations, relationships, situations and places in order that we can contribute through the wisdom we have gained.

There is purpose to what you are going through. Trust this.

#5

Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together

That’s actually a Marilyn Monroe quote!

Remember that when it feels like life is falling apart, sometimes it’s actually life’s way of spring cleaning you (and your circumstances) to prepare you for the coming summer season of your life.

So even though it’s tempting to think that life is beating down on you, pause to consider if maybe the slate is being wiped clean in order that something better can form.

#6

What we resist persists. So, it’s vital TO let go and flow.

Use this mantra on a daily basis… “This is happening, and I choose peace.”

Your attitude is EVERYTHING when it comes to staying strong. You will either become a victim to what is happening or you will rise up and be a victor.

The choice is yours, and it all starts in your mindset.

I hope these reminders are helpful for whatever life challenges you might be going through now, or that you may face on your forward journey.

Source: The Daily Positive

Video: 13 Steps To Rebuild Unpleasant Reactions into Peaceful Responses

Life is full of people, situations and things that will trigger you.

No one else is like you. You have your unique perspective and your unique expression.

Life is not designed for us all to be the same, with the same values, views, opinions, thoughts, feelings and actions.

It is natural to anticipate that there will be PLENTY of external experiences that will trigger you as they push hard up against what you believe to be “right” and “good”.

In these situations, there is nothing at all wrong with the experience, there is also nothing wrong with the trigger that has pushed your buttons, and furthermore there is nothing wrong with you for feeling the way you do.

Having said that, you are FULLY responsible for how you react to life whenever you are triggered by something that doesn’t align to what you believe to be “right” and “good”.

Most people live in a constant cycle of painful reactions to such experiences. Someone says something you don’t like, and BOOM… you painfully react like a volcano erupting. Someone does something you don’t like, and you allow your ego to judge them, and to make yourself righteous, and to look upon the situation and person with distaste. You may not even say anything, but the look on your face could be enough to express your pain and displeasure.

So, you have a choice. Your life is one long timeline of choices. Your choices define the quality of your life experience, and flow into your outcomes for your health, emotional wellbeing, psychological wellbeing, and overall energy vibration (which has a massive impact on your life results professionally, interpersonally, financially, and so on).

Here are 13 simple steps to practise for instantly transforming your pattern of painful reactions to people, situations and things that trigger you, into peaceful responses that serve you and move you forward powerfully.

Credit: Bernadette Logue

Life Coach

The Skill Of Not Reacting to Negative People – in 3 Simple Steps

Every day we wake up ready to go into the world, looking to experience our optimal type of day.

We want peace and happiness. We want productivity and success. We want rewards and fulfillment.

And we plan as best we can to create that type of day we want.

We can create the right mindset and energy before stepping into the world.

We can take focused action toward the results we want.

We can choose where to go, who to be with and what to do.

These are all things we can control.

But, there’s something we can’t control, and it can have a major impact on ALL the things we want to achieve and experience.

That something is OTHER PEOPLE!

Dealing with the Negativity of Others

We quickly learn in life that no matter how zen we choose to be, other people might cross our path and bring their negative energy into our zone.

We also very quickly learn that if we get upset about their negativity, if we buy into it, if we judge them, if we resist and say it “shouldn’t be this way” … then we end up suffering and in negativity with them!

So one of the best things we can learn on our personal growth journey is the ART OF NOT REACTING TO NEGATIVITY.

It’s an art form because it takes practice, and grace.

Our human nature tends to be that we drop down into negativity unless we consciously choose to keep ourselves up above it.

When someone brings their negative energy your way, here are the 2 important things to remember:

  1. It’s like fishing. They throw out the fishing line with negativity bait on a hook. Will you be the fish who isn’t aware and bites, taking the bait and ending up in a tug of war? Or will you be the wise fish who sees the bait and keeps on swimming past it?
  2. If you give your energy to negativity and negative people, you’re flushing it down the toilet. Your energy is so precious, and each day you only have a certain amount of that energy to give to the world. So you have to be super smart about what and who you give your precious energy to. If you give it to negativity, you can’t give it to your goals and dreams!

So, in order for us to experience the type of peaceful, happy, productive and successful day we want, we have to learn the art of not reacting to negativity if it crosses our path.

We get prepared in advanced, so we can masterfully deflect it.

The Art of Not Reacting to Negative People – 3 Simple Steps

Here’s a 3 step process to help you practice non-reaction…

1. See it Coming

You know what negativity looks and sounds like. So be present and aware for when it crosses your path. If you see it coming (like a baited hook dangling in the water!), you have a chance to stand back and breathe before biting! You can instead make a conscious choice not to engage with that negativity.

2. It’s Not About You

Always remind yourself that other people’s negativity is not about you. It’s a reflection of something that is going on inside their mind and emotional system, and it’s being projected around you or toward you.

Too often we get tangled up in other people’s negativity because our egos take it personally and react to their behavior or words. Rather – keep accurate perspective that someone who is being negative is just a fellow human being going through pain. It’s not about you.

3. Wish them Peace & Happiness

The quickest way to non-reaction and inner peace when you’re witnessing someone being negative around you or toward you, is to wish them peace and happiness.

This doesn’t mean saying out loud to their face, “I wish you peace and happiness”.

It’s a mantra you say inside yourself.

This is a practice of conscious and spirited living to say within your own mind and heart, “I wish them peace and happiness. I wish them peace and happiness. I wish them peace and happiness…”

I know you don’t want anyone on this planet to suffer, not you or any other person who crosses your path. And using this mantra helps you to sit in the energy of forgiveness, compassion and detachment.

Inspired by: Bernadette Logue

Life Coach

Repost: 6 Signs That It’s Time to Change Direction

One thing about life is for certain – change is a given! So the sooner you accept the need for change, as a healthy and inherent part of life, the more fluidly and peacefully your life will unfold.

The problem many people have is that they linger too long in situations when change is exactly what is needed – not changing directions either because they don’t realize that it’s time to change or they resist the change that’s needed, preferring to stay with what is familiar – even if that familiarity is painful and not working!

We’re strange ol’ things us human beings!

A valuable life lesson I’ve learnt on my journey so far, is that you’re far better and wiser to take control of your own life and situation by knowing when it’s time to make positive changes, and then proactively making that change happen for yourself. Because if you don’t, life has a funny way of FORCING change upon you!

In this article are 6 signs that it’s time to change direction. That “change in direction” might be a major change – in your health, finances, career, relationships, what you do, how you do it. OR, it might be a minor change, e.g. a small adjustment in the way you’re approaching something.

If you know the signs it’s time to change, you can quickly get on-board and ride with the natural flow of your life, instead of being oblivious or resistant (which only ends up leading you into suffering).

Get your pen and note to write these signs;

1. You’re Forcing & Nothing’s Happening!

If you’ve been pushing and forcing something, and it’s just not working, it’s time to stand back and reassess.

Often when we’re heading down the wrong path, and it’s time to change, we will realize because it feels like banging our head against a brick wall. The dead end is trying to tell us something.

You’ll notice nothing seems to be happening, no matter how much energy and effort you put in.

You’ll notice yourself frustrated, and trying to do more, push harder and yet still nothing’s happening or working for ya!

STOP. REASSESS. It might be time to change directions completely, choosing a whole new path. Or, it might be that you’re just going about things the wrong way – meaning your direction is right but you need a fresh, new approach (a slight adjustment in what you’re doing and/or how you’re doing it).

2. Things Are Falling Apart Around You

When it feels like everything is falling apart around you, like a perfect storm is happening, have faith.

This is often a sign that it’s time to change directions.

It can feel like life is beating down on you, but remember…

“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together” – Marilyn Monroe

You might not be able to see it from where you stand right now, but life might just be helping you to clear away what you no longer need, in order to make room for something else.

Even when it’s painful and you’re losing circumstances, resources, things or people you really want… there is a divine order in your life.

This divine order comes into play when it’s time for you to flow onwards and evolve to the next level spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally.

3. You Consistently Don’t Feel Good

Bottom line – life is about how you feel.

Irrespective of what is going on around you, everything is a feeling experience.

If you feel peace and happiness, you’re on track.

If you consistently don’t feel good, it’s time to take note! Often people are so used to not feeling good, it becomes “normal.”

You’ll know it’s time to make an adjustment in your life if the only time you do feel good is when you’re “escaping” – e.g. going on holiday, drinking, drugs, zoning yourself out in whatever ways you might do with “numbing habits”.

If this is the case, be conscious not to judge yourself or get down about it. We all go through times in life where this happens. You’re not alone. But it really is time to stand back and say… “I need to get real with myself, and make some changes so I can create peace and happiness as my new normal.”

4. You’re Getting Signs from the Universe!

Sometimes the Universe sends you signs trying to get your attention, asking you to make a change.

(Note: “the Universe” is often referred to by people differently, using different words but with shared meaning. e.g. life, Universe, Creator, Source, Divinity, God – where a higher power, something bigger than all of us is calling us forward to live with more ease, grace, faith and flow, in greater alignment to that which we inherently belong).

When you get these signs, it’s not necessarily that there is something “wrong” with your present situation, but rather that something else is awaiting you… something important, something better, something for your soul journey to go to the next level.

It might be for your career, health or wellbeing, your finances or relationships.

Simply pay attention to…

  • Recurring “themes” showing up – if you notice patterns in daily life, like something is trying to get your attention
  • The same types of words, messages, ideas coming at you (from anywhere – people, what you hear, or what you see around you)
  • Coincidences and synchronicities happening.

5. Your Intuition is Nudging & You’re Ignoring

There’s no doubt about it – if your intuition has been telling you something needs to change, then it’s 500% time for change.

The trouble is… most people don’t like change, and try to avoid it. But resistance is futile.

Change is part of your inherent nature as a human being, and all of life around you is constantly changing. It’s the way of the Universe. So you might as well go with it…

Your intuition (also known as gut instinct, nudges, your inner voice, or hunches), is part of how you are guided on your life journey.

You are guided out of what doesn’t serve you and into what does.

If you don’t like what your intuition is telling you, chances are you are running from it, ignoring it, and maybe even arguing with it. You might be rationalizing your way out of it – convincing yourself it’s not right, or you’re too busy to address it, or one day you’ll get around to it.

WORD UP… follow your intuition now and you’ll save yourself unnecessary delays, pain and suffering.

Your intuition is never wrong.

6. Your Body is Reacting

When something isn’t right in your life, your body might react.

Think about it… when it’s time to change, chances are you’re not 100% settled or happy in your mental and emotional state. Hence why it’s time for change!

And your mental and emotional systems are contained in the vessel of your body. It’s like your body is the container, and your thoughts and feelings are like energy cycling around inside the container.

Difficult thoughts and feelings, e.g stress, fear, anxiety, worry, upset, tension, doubt, unhappiness, are disruptive energy, and your body does its very best to try to COPE with these disruptions.

But your body is smart! It will start to give you warning signs that something isn’t right. You may start to notice things “going wrong” in your body.

Stand back and question… “What is my body trying to helpfully tell me?”

It could well be that something “random” happening in your body, while seemingly unrelated to your thoughts/feelings and seemingly unrelated to some situation in your life, is actually DIRECTLY RELATED.

Perhaps your body is just reacting as it tries to cope. This is a handy sign to call your attention to the need for positive change.

By mastering your mind, taking control of your thoughts, learning how to process your feelings, and/or making outer changes in your life situation, you can also support yourself into better health and wellbeing at the same time.

Take Action

If you’ve noticed that any of these signs are applicable to you, it’s time to reflect, bolster yourself and make some positive decisions for your life.

  • Write down which signs apply to you.
  • Notice what particular areas of life these signs apply to – what specifically in your life needs changing?
  • Is it big change – a complete direction shift?
  • Or are there small adjustments that need to be made to what you’re doing and how you’re doing it?
  • What action could you take to start making positive change happen?
  • Think about the most obvious FIRST step in terms of action… don’t worry about the whole path and everything you’d need to do in order to create the change…

To make change happen don’t worry about ALL the steps that you’d need to take. Don’t focus on the WHOLE path. Just take 1 small step forward

I’d love to hear from you, so head on down to the comments section below and leave me a note! Let me know what you’ve got going on in your life right now, and any questions you might have. I look forward to connecting with you.