Staying Strong During Life Challenges: A Reminder

If life challenges are knocking on your door, or they’ve already moved on in and seem to be making themselves at home, these are 6 empowering reminders I researched for you.

Tune in, because it’s time for you to rise up strong…

#1

You have A 100% track record for getting through everything in your life.

You’re doing pretty awesome!

You’re still breathing, heart beating, and you have what it takes to walk ahead powerfully.

Remind yourself every day – “I will be okay. Everything will be okay. I always get through somehow. I trust this.”

#2

This too shall pass.

Challenges are like storms that arrive in your life, like a weather pattern. Storms have a life span. And your life span is longer than its!

The storm will come and it will go, and you will outlive it.

Remember, this is a season. Like everything in life, it will eventually pass. Thoughts pass. Feelings pass. Challenges pass.

Be patient and trust.

#3

Diamonds are made under pressure, and so are you. Your challenges will be the making of you.

Life challenges pressuring you are softening your rough edges, calling you to evolve, buffering you to expose the power and beauty you have.

On the other side of this challenge, you will shine again, brighter than before.

#4

All challenges morph into wisdom.

This is the gift that challenges bring. They come to offer you something.

Whatever you get out of a challenge in the form of greater understanding, skills and life wisdom, you will not only use in future (as a handy side benefit) but you will NEED in future.

There is Divine Order in your life. Maybe you don’t know yet what this life challenge is gifting you, or maybe you do. Maybe you don’t know yet what this wisdom is for, but you will find out soon enough!

Perhaps the wisdom is to support something you will DO in the future. Perhaps it is to help you SHARE that wisdom with someone else in your life, to uplift them on their journey. You needn’t be concerned about why you’re being given this wisdom, only that it is has purpose.

The Universe/Divinity (whatever word you use to describe a higher power at play in your life)… it moves us across each others life paths, in right time and right order. We end up learning through challenges and then being called forth into work, career, vocations, relationships, situations and places in order that we can contribute through the wisdom we have gained.

There is purpose to what you are going through. Trust this.

#5

Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together

That’s actually a Marilyn Monroe quote!

Remember that when it feels like life is falling apart, sometimes it’s actually life’s way of spring cleaning you (and your circumstances) to prepare you for the coming summer season of your life.

So even though it’s tempting to think that life is beating down on you, pause to consider if maybe the slate is being wiped clean in order that something better can form.

#6

What we resist persists. So, it’s vital TO let go and flow.

Use this mantra on a daily basis… “This is happening, and I choose peace.”

Your attitude is EVERYTHING when it comes to staying strong. You will either become a victim to what is happening or you will rise up and be a victor.

The choice is yours, and it all starts in your mindset.

I hope these reminders are helpful for whatever life challenges you might be going through now, or that you may face on your forward journey.

Source: The Daily Positive

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Video: 13 Steps To Rebuild Unpleasant Reactions into Peaceful Responses

Life is full of people, situations and things that will trigger you.

No one else is like you. You have your unique perspective and your unique expression.

Life is not designed for us all to be the same, with the same values, views, opinions, thoughts, feelings and actions.

It is natural to anticipate that there will be PLENTY of external experiences that will trigger you as they push hard up against what you believe to be “right” and “good”.

In these situations, there is nothing at all wrong with the experience, there is also nothing wrong with the trigger that has pushed your buttons, and furthermore there is nothing wrong with you for feeling the way you do.

Having said that, you are FULLY responsible for how you react to life whenever you are triggered by something that doesn’t align to what you believe to be “right” and “good”.

Most people live in a constant cycle of painful reactions to such experiences. Someone says something you don’t like, and BOOM… you painfully react like a volcano erupting. Someone does something you don’t like, and you allow your ego to judge them, and to make yourself righteous, and to look upon the situation and person with distaste. You may not even say anything, but the look on your face could be enough to express your pain and displeasure.

So, you have a choice. Your life is one long timeline of choices. Your choices define the quality of your life experience, and flow into your outcomes for your health, emotional wellbeing, psychological wellbeing, and overall energy vibration (which has a massive impact on your life results professionally, interpersonally, financially, and so on).

Here are 13 simple steps to practise for instantly transforming your pattern of painful reactions to people, situations and things that trigger you, into peaceful responses that serve you and move you forward powerfully.

Credit: Bernadette Logue

Life Coach

The Skill Of Not Reacting to Negative People – in 3 Simple Steps

Every day we wake up ready to go into the world, looking to experience our optimal type of day.

We want peace and happiness. We want productivity and success. We want rewards and fulfillment.

And we plan as best we can to create that type of day we want.

We can create the right mindset and energy before stepping into the world.

We can take focused action toward the results we want.

We can choose where to go, who to be with and what to do.

These are all things we can control.

But, there’s something we can’t control, and it can have a major impact on ALL the things we want to achieve and experience.

That something is OTHER PEOPLE!

Dealing with the Negativity of Others

We quickly learn in life that no matter how zen we choose to be, other people might cross our path and bring their negative energy into our zone.

We also very quickly learn that if we get upset about their negativity, if we buy into it, if we judge them, if we resist and say it “shouldn’t be this way” … then we end up suffering and in negativity with them!

So one of the best things we can learn on our personal growth journey is the ART OF NOT REACTING TO NEGATIVITY.

It’s an art form because it takes practice, and grace.

Our human nature tends to be that we drop down into negativity unless we consciously choose to keep ourselves up above it.

When someone brings their negative energy your way, here are the 2 important things to remember:

  1. It’s like fishing. They throw out the fishing line with negativity bait on a hook. Will you be the fish who isn’t aware and bites, taking the bait and ending up in a tug of war? Or will you be the wise fish who sees the bait and keeps on swimming past it?
  2. If you give your energy to negativity and negative people, you’re flushing it down the toilet. Your energy is so precious, and each day you only have a certain amount of that energy to give to the world. So you have to be super smart about what and who you give your precious energy to. If you give it to negativity, you can’t give it to your goals and dreams!

So, in order for us to experience the type of peaceful, happy, productive and successful day we want, we have to learn the art of not reacting to negativity if it crosses our path.

We get prepared in advanced, so we can masterfully deflect it.

The Art of Not Reacting to Negative People – 3 Simple Steps

Here’s a 3 step process to help you practice non-reaction…

1. See it Coming

You know what negativity looks and sounds like. So be present and aware for when it crosses your path. If you see it coming (like a baited hook dangling in the water!), you have a chance to stand back and breathe before biting! You can instead make a conscious choice not to engage with that negativity.

2. It’s Not About You

Always remind yourself that other people’s negativity is not about you. It’s a reflection of something that is going on inside their mind and emotional system, and it’s being projected around you or toward you.

Too often we get tangled up in other people’s negativity because our egos take it personally and react to their behavior or words. Rather – keep accurate perspective that someone who is being negative is just a fellow human being going through pain. It’s not about you.

3. Wish them Peace & Happiness

The quickest way to non-reaction and inner peace when you’re witnessing someone being negative around you or toward you, is to wish them peace and happiness.

This doesn’t mean saying out loud to their face, “I wish you peace and happiness”.

It’s a mantra you say inside yourself.

This is a practice of conscious and spirited living to say within your own mind and heart, “I wish them peace and happiness. I wish them peace and happiness. I wish them peace and happiness…”

I know you don’t want anyone on this planet to suffer, not you or any other person who crosses your path. And using this mantra helps you to sit in the energy of forgiveness, compassion and detachment.

Inspired by: Bernadette Logue

Life Coach

Repost: 6 Signs That It’s Time to Change Direction

One thing about life is for certain – change is a given! So the sooner you accept the need for change, as a healthy and inherent part of life, the more fluidly and peacefully your life will unfold.

The problem many people have is that they linger too long in situations when change is exactly what is needed – not changing directions either because they don’t realize that it’s time to change or they resist the change that’s needed, preferring to stay with what is familiar – even if that familiarity is painful and not working!

We’re strange ol’ things us human beings!

A valuable life lesson I’ve learnt on my journey so far, is that you’re far better and wiser to take control of your own life and situation by knowing when it’s time to make positive changes, and then proactively making that change happen for yourself. Because if you don’t, life has a funny way of FORCING change upon you!

In this article are 6 signs that it’s time to change direction. That “change in direction” might be a major change – in your health, finances, career, relationships, what you do, how you do it. OR, it might be a minor change, e.g. a small adjustment in the way you’re approaching something.

If you know the signs it’s time to change, you can quickly get on-board and ride with the natural flow of your life, instead of being oblivious or resistant (which only ends up leading you into suffering).

Get your pen and note to write these signs;

1. You’re Forcing & Nothing’s Happening!

If you’ve been pushing and forcing something, and it’s just not working, it’s time to stand back and reassess.

Often when we’re heading down the wrong path, and it’s time to change, we will realize because it feels like banging our head against a brick wall. The dead end is trying to tell us something.

You’ll notice nothing seems to be happening, no matter how much energy and effort you put in.

You’ll notice yourself frustrated, and trying to do more, push harder and yet still nothing’s happening or working for ya!

STOP. REASSESS. It might be time to change directions completely, choosing a whole new path. Or, it might be that you’re just going about things the wrong way – meaning your direction is right but you need a fresh, new approach (a slight adjustment in what you’re doing and/or how you’re doing it).

2. Things Are Falling Apart Around You

When it feels like everything is falling apart around you, like a perfect storm is happening, have faith.

This is often a sign that it’s time to change directions.

It can feel like life is beating down on you, but remember…

“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together” – Marilyn Monroe

You might not be able to see it from where you stand right now, but life might just be helping you to clear away what you no longer need, in order to make room for something else.

Even when it’s painful and you’re losing circumstances, resources, things or people you really want… there is a divine order in your life.

This divine order comes into play when it’s time for you to flow onwards and evolve to the next level spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally.

3. You Consistently Don’t Feel Good

Bottom line – life is about how you feel.

Irrespective of what is going on around you, everything is a feeling experience.

If you feel peace and happiness, you’re on track.

If you consistently don’t feel good, it’s time to take note! Often people are so used to not feeling good, it becomes “normal.”

You’ll know it’s time to make an adjustment in your life if the only time you do feel good is when you’re “escaping” – e.g. going on holiday, drinking, drugs, zoning yourself out in whatever ways you might do with “numbing habits”.

If this is the case, be conscious not to judge yourself or get down about it. We all go through times in life where this happens. You’re not alone. But it really is time to stand back and say… “I need to get real with myself, and make some changes so I can create peace and happiness as my new normal.”

4. You’re Getting Signs from the Universe!

Sometimes the Universe sends you signs trying to get your attention, asking you to make a change.

(Note: “the Universe” is often referred to by people differently, using different words but with shared meaning. e.g. life, Universe, Creator, Source, Divinity, God – where a higher power, something bigger than all of us is calling us forward to live with more ease, grace, faith and flow, in greater alignment to that which we inherently belong).

When you get these signs, it’s not necessarily that there is something “wrong” with your present situation, but rather that something else is awaiting you… something important, something better, something for your soul journey to go to the next level.

It might be for your career, health or wellbeing, your finances or relationships.

Simply pay attention to…

  • Recurring “themes” showing up – if you notice patterns in daily life, like something is trying to get your attention
  • The same types of words, messages, ideas coming at you (from anywhere – people, what you hear, or what you see around you)
  • Coincidences and synchronicities happening.

5. Your Intuition is Nudging & You’re Ignoring

There’s no doubt about it – if your intuition has been telling you something needs to change, then it’s 500% time for change.

The trouble is… most people don’t like change, and try to avoid it. But resistance is futile.

Change is part of your inherent nature as a human being, and all of life around you is constantly changing. It’s the way of the Universe. So you might as well go with it…

Your intuition (also known as gut instinct, nudges, your inner voice, or hunches), is part of how you are guided on your life journey.

You are guided out of what doesn’t serve you and into what does.

If you don’t like what your intuition is telling you, chances are you are running from it, ignoring it, and maybe even arguing with it. You might be rationalizing your way out of it – convincing yourself it’s not right, or you’re too busy to address it, or one day you’ll get around to it.

WORD UP… follow your intuition now and you’ll save yourself unnecessary delays, pain and suffering.

Your intuition is never wrong.

6. Your Body is Reacting

When something isn’t right in your life, your body might react.

Think about it… when it’s time to change, chances are you’re not 100% settled or happy in your mental and emotional state. Hence why it’s time for change!

And your mental and emotional systems are contained in the vessel of your body. It’s like your body is the container, and your thoughts and feelings are like energy cycling around inside the container.

Difficult thoughts and feelings, e.g stress, fear, anxiety, worry, upset, tension, doubt, unhappiness, are disruptive energy, and your body does its very best to try to COPE with these disruptions.

But your body is smart! It will start to give you warning signs that something isn’t right. You may start to notice things “going wrong” in your body.

Stand back and question… “What is my body trying to helpfully tell me?”

It could well be that something “random” happening in your body, while seemingly unrelated to your thoughts/feelings and seemingly unrelated to some situation in your life, is actually DIRECTLY RELATED.

Perhaps your body is just reacting as it tries to cope. This is a handy sign to call your attention to the need for positive change.

By mastering your mind, taking control of your thoughts, learning how to process your feelings, and/or making outer changes in your life situation, you can also support yourself into better health and wellbeing at the same time.

Take Action

If you’ve noticed that any of these signs are applicable to you, it’s time to reflect, bolster yourself and make some positive decisions for your life.

  • Write down which signs apply to you.
  • Notice what particular areas of life these signs apply to – what specifically in your life needs changing?
  • Is it big change – a complete direction shift?
  • Or are there small adjustments that need to be made to what you’re doing and how you’re doing it?
  • What action could you take to start making positive change happen?
  • Think about the most obvious FIRST step in terms of action… don’t worry about the whole path and everything you’d need to do in order to create the change…

To make change happen don’t worry about ALL the steps that you’d need to take. Don’t focus on the WHOLE path. Just take 1 small step forward

I’d love to hear from you, so head on down to the comments section below and leave me a note! Let me know what you’ve got going on in your life right now, and any questions you might have. I look forward to connecting with you.