Rushing Around… But Where’s the Fire?

How many times in your day do you feel like you were rushing around trying to put out one fire after another? How many times during the day are you actually at peace with yourself and you don’t feel like you have to hurry up to get to the next task on your list?

If you can go day in and day out without feeling the need to be rushing around from one fire, to another task to satisfy a need for someone else, to accomplishing something that you forgot to do yesterday… I applaud you. But that is not me! If you are like me and many others we have not figured out how to appropriately manage our time and our stressors. Thus, rushing around is all we know. It’s not healthy, but hey…we have made it this far, right?

From solving home issues, rushing to get my work done before deadline, trying to finish some personal assignments, the list doesn’t end. Managing personal health problems, drama at work, stress with significant others, bills, say what? We all have stressors and pressures in life. These struggles and different types of anxiety, can attack us from all angles of life. As someone who suffers from stress and anxiety, I know how important it is to keep the right perspective on things. Easier said than done though, right?

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” – Philippians ‭4:6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Also, easier said than done. It’s easy to think we can bottle up all the things in life that consume our thoughts, place them in a box, take them to God, set them down and walk away. Never giving another worry about them. I’m not too sure that’s what this verse calls us to do. You see, God wants us to take action. The action isn’t hanging it over to him to fix and not doing anything about it ourselves.

“So, do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah ‭41:10‬ ‭NIV

God’s promise does not free us from doing some of the heavy lifting ourselves.

We are not promised that God will solve our problems and we won’t have to pray, follow His word, or change some of our own behaviors. Giving our worries to God does not mean we are absent of having to make personal adjustments.

Here’s an example:

Having a full-time job, donating time to volunteer activities and other obligations at church can be hard to manage when it comes to time commitments. I send up all the prayers I can think of, beg God for a solution. While I do these things, I continue to cram my schedule and nothing changes. I pray harder, I get plugged in to the right communities, I surround myself with friends who have the same values, but still my prayers go unanswered.

Here’s the same example with a much different viewpoint:

Having a full-time job, donating time to volunteer activities and other obligations at church can be hard to manage when it comes to time commitments. While I send up prayers to God, I get organized and prioritize my schedule. Looking at the commitments I have made, I decide which ones I should prayerfully consider stepping down from. Seeking wise counsel, God begins to reveal to me which priorities are most important and advancing His kingdom. Then it becomes very clear what should stay on my schedule.

My first moments awake I spend with God. No, this was not always the case. I used to be so wrapped up in my work and social media, I would check on those things first. Now, before my feet hit floor (or at least while I’m brushing my teeth or in the toilet) I am spending time in the word. I’m reading, or listening to my daily devotional and praying for different areas in my life.

My last moments awake I spend with God. This too wasn’t always the case. Don’t tell anyone, but I have several shows I like to watch, but because I don’t have time (no pun intended) I downloaded them on my phone to watch later. I used to spend the last hours of my days watching TV. Not anymore. A very close friend of mine told me about an app that will help me in reading inspirational stories, which I have been using. If it’s not that, I’m listening to worship music as I drift asleep. This forces me to relax my mind and make every attempt possible to close out my days peacefully.

When you aren’t sure… Just ask.

Seek wise counsel and identify the things in your daily life that are creating the most stress in your routine. Ask yourself, or even write down the pros and cons of that activity. If there are more cons on the list and you’ve gone to God in prayer over them, ask yourself if that particular thing is truly necessary to have you all worked up over and rushing around to accomplish on a regular basis.

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Take One Day At A Time

I like to describe worry or anxiety as spending today to figure out tomorrow. Let’s learn to use the time God has given to us for what He intended. It sounds easy right??? But in this case easy is far from it. It takes the spirit and grace of God to be at peace with ourselves knowing the challenges we face or what is making us worry. We humans and vulnerable. Don’t beat yourself to it.

“Life is to be lived- here and now”

Sadly, as I mentioned in the first paragraph only the Grace and Spirit of God can turn our minds out of worry and anxiety to peaceful and worry less. Very few people know how to live each day to the fullest. But you can be one of them. Jesus said that satan, the dark one, comes to steal your life. (John 10:10). Don’t allow him to do it any longer!

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Don’t spend today worrying about tomorrow. You have enough things going on today; it needs all of your attention. God’s grace is on you to handle whatever you need for today, but tomorrow’s grace will not come until tomorrow comes- so don’t waste today!

Don’t Let Life Hijack You

Don’t let life hijack your brain! Life used to hijack my brain all the time! I used to worry about why my work wasn’t noticed, why can’t I figure out my life, why is my life this hard and I work very hard, etc….these types of thoughts consumed me every day. I allowed these things that were beyond my control to hijack my everyday thoughts. All of this negativity followed me all day long.

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It is up to you to realize that you must fill your brain with goals- be ambitious! Like the body requires the proper nutrition to perform optimally, the brain requires positivity, self-confidence and, most of all, it is up to you to control it. Once that mind gets hijacked, you are doomed!Something or someone controls it and they will take you for a ride. Trust me- a lot of people enjoy these mind games and watching you respond like a puppet to their every command. No one wants to fail a test. No one wants to get heartbroken. No one wants to get passed over for the promotion at work. No one wants to feel expendable. But, guess what? That is the world we live in. You must learn to push past every single thing and person that wants to hijack your mind. It is critical that you always have goals in front of you so that those negative things that will happen to you don’t derail you and your plans. Make sure that you are the only one who owns the real estate in your mind!

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The Vital Mindset Shift to Progress Your Life

What would you pursue if it was somehow guaranteed that you would be successful?

What’s stopping you from going after your dreams?

If you’re like most other people, the answer is probably fear: fear that you won’t be good enough, you’ll never have enough money, fear that your efforts won’t be rewarded, and the list goes on.

Succumbing to fear is like living with a bad mental cold: it will clog you up and stop you from living your best life. Nothing blocks creativity and potential more than fear.

As human beings, it’s in our nature to avoid anything that causes us to feel fear or discomfort. We take mental and physical “detours” all the time, re-routing ourselves so we don’t have to face fear, and we do this so automatically that it often happens on a subconscious level.

In our fast-paced culture, we are very used to getting what we want quickly and conveniently. This has conditioned us to be a little wimpy—sometimes a lot wimpy.

The truth is, we usually give up way too quickly.

No one is immune to this fear. Let me use myself as an example: I love art, but I haven’t picked up a paintbrush in months. Why? Because I’m scared of failing! It seems like everywhere I look, I see incredible speed drawers, amazingly detailed paintings, and “how to” art videos that make the artist look like they’re not struggling with the creative process whatsoever.
Now, when I sit down to paint a picture, spend 3 hours on it, and still don’t feel like it’s all that great, I get frustrated, ashamed, and fearful. So, I stop…and the fear of “what if I never get better” sets in, paralyzing me and causing me to reach for the TV remote instead of picking up a paintbrush, because that way I won’t be reminded of the fact that I’m not as good of an artist as I want to be.

The Vital Mindset Shift to Progress Your Life

However, I have learned something that I know from experience helps a great deal when pushing myself to grow, and that is having a growth mindset.

If you’ve never heard of it, a growth mindset is basically the opposite of a “fixed” mindset.

Growth Mindset: Believing that greater effort yields greater results. You get good at something because you work hard. Or, in the words of Einstein…

It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer – Albert Einstein.

Fixed Mindset: Believing that if someone is better than you at something, it must mean they were “born that way,” and there’s really nothing you can do about it. A fixed mindset would have you believe that your success and skills are “capped,” and you have all the talents now that you ever will.

Note: this is ALWAYS false—don’t fall for it!

2 Reasons to Choose a Growth Mindset & Push Through Your Discomfort

When you have a growth mindset and push through your discomfort, a couple of things will happen:

  1. You will realize that it’s not as hard as you thought. We over-dramatize things that we’re afraid of. Pushing through fear will help you realize that the fear of something is not nearly as bad as the thing itself. Of course, it still may be hard—maybe even very hard—but you’ll realize that you can take baby steps into progress, and baby steps aren’t so scary.
  2. You will get more ideas. It’s good to work creatively under a broad range of emotions. Each emotion “flavors” your work. For instance, what would happen if you only cooked with one spice? It might still taste good, but it would only ever reflect that one flavor. If you cooked with a broad range of spices, however, you’d get a broad range of flavors. Even tough emotions, like fear, can help you achieve something new and interesting. You just have to work despite the fear!

The truth is, fear will always be a part of life. There are famous performers who still get nervous before going on stage every single time. But they keep doing it anyway, because it’s worth it, and even though the fear might not entirely go away, they get used to feeling it and pushing through despite it.

Think about what happens when you lift heavy weights. It’s tough, and it makes your arms sore. It’s not comfortable. But, if you do it everyday, you will get stronger, and it won’t be as uncomfortable. Does the weight get lighter? Nope. It remains just as heavy as it ever was. The changing factor is you getting stronger!

So, even though fear will always be a part of life, the more we deal with it, the stronger we will become.

The happiness you will get from pursuing your passion and charging through the fear will outweigh any discomfort by a landslide.

Plus, fear doesn’t last forever. It’s usually the initial feeling you get before launching yourself out of your comfort zone, but as you get stronger, you will see for yourself that you can do hard things.

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Watch: Why Women Are More Anxious Than Men

By: Brianna Weist

I recently watched (and some of you may be familiar with) a set of social experiments in which a group of men and then a group of women agreed to go on a date with a person they met on Tinder – a model, who would be in a fat suit when they arrived.

The experiment claims to be based on the fact that number one fear for women dating online is that they’ll meet a serial killer, and the number one fear for men is that the woman will be fat.

Low and behold, when each of the men arrived and met their date, they were… offended. They were mad because they felt lied to, and did little to cover their displeasure with the woman’s appearance. Only one of them didn’t walk away or excuse himself to the bathroom – never to return. But none gave her a chance, or took any interest in getting to know who she was, all because she wasn’t thin.

Now, as I was watching this, I’ll be honest. I was thinking, well, okay, it’s not completely unreasonable to be off-put if you’re expecting one thing, and get another…

That was, until I saw the women’s video.

Not one of them walked away. They gave the guy a chance. They connected with him. They laughed at his jokes. They did acknowledge that they were disillusioned about his appearance, but they were not rude or entitled about it.

… And one of them kissed him at the end. Another offered up a second date. They got to know who he really was, because they were able to see past their expectations about what he should be.

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I’m sure it comes as no surprise that research shows women are twice as prone to anxiety as men, are twice as often diagnosed with anxiety disorders, and that women are significantly “more inclined toward negative emotion, self-criticism, and endless rumination about [their] problems.”

But here is the important part: we also know that this is not the result of a biological or hormonal difference. Indicating that it is, unsurprisingly, cultural.

Simply, women are not encouraged to honestly acknowledge their feelings and cope with them in proactive, mindful ways – and this is mostly to maintain how others perceive them.

Taylor Clark dubs this the “skinned knee effect,” wherein from a young age, boys are encouraged to confront their fears, and girls are encouraged to hide them. “If little Olivia shows fear, she gets a hug; if little Oliver shows fear, he gets urged to overcome it.”

And when these emotions “go underground,” they become ingrained in the subconscious, and then begin to have a huge and often overlooked impact on day-to-day interactions.

Studies also tell us that women tend to be insidiously competitive, jealous and spiteful toward other women, especially those they are close to. Because they are taught not to win at someone else’s expense (to be a perpetual people-pleasers and peace-makers) their healthy, natural, normal, innate competitiveness must become tempered.

And the more it is inhibited, the more it remains unacknowledged. As anybody can tell you, as soon as you pack a feeling away in a dark closet… it becomes a potential monster that you have to prepare yourself for – and that feeling of dread and suppression begins to bleed into otherwise unthreatening, daily situations.

Though these are just a few examples plucked from the pile of research on the anxiety gender gap, the point is that anxiety is, in an abstract sense, the anticipation that something ‘bad’ is coming, or the fear that one cannot handle it.

More accurately, the fear that they cannot hide it.

It’s the running idea that bad things cannot be dealt with because feelings cannot be felt. And so the fear of them, the fear of losing culturally-induced composure, compiles into anxiety. Intense anxiety. Unbearable anxiety that remains dormant until something sets it off and it crops up endlessly. “I know this sense of panic and urgency is coming from somewhere… and so I must search for it, project it and deal with it in ways that aren’t actually addressing the root of the problem.”

Women suffer greater anxiety than men because they’re taught… not to. They’re denied simply being honest about their feelings, and most often in a way that convinces them it will yield positive results. It will make people love them. They will seem “together.”

But at what cost?

In terms of the women in the experiment, certainly they were kinder, more positive, and opened themselves up to the possibility for real romance, but only because they were conditioned to be just that: open, accepting and willing, no matter what.

Who is to say they were actually interested in that man? I certainly am not. But what we do know is that the men who were not interested in their date didn’t have to pretend for the sake of someone else’s feelings.

There isn’t an anxiety gap. There is an honesty gap, and there is a decency gap. There’s a middle ground on which we each need to rest a foot: that you can be honest without hurting someone intentionally, that you can cope with your feelings without being violent or cunning about it, and most importantly, that it’s human to feel on edge when your instincts are being compressed. That the most we need to do is let our inner demons out and discover they were nothing more than the fear that they could be something else.

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The Incredible Power of Taking Risks in Life

There are many ways to change your life for the better. And one simple, yet seemingly scary choice we can make is to be taking more risks in life.

The problem with this path to positive change is that most of us fear taking risks!

may fear rejection, failure and change. We may fear uncertainty.

We think about taking a risk and our innate fight/flight response kicks in.

On top of that, many of us have a warped relationship with fear, where we think fear is bad, and that we should stay away form it.

But actually fear isn’t bad, and neither is risk!

In fact, risk is the very thing that can make us feel alive, and the fear we get with taking risks is just a feeling message to tell us that we’re going outside of our familiar comfort zone.

What’s the worst that could happen?

For many of us, it’s all too easy to get stuck into a routine that provides comfort and safety. But, we have to ask ourselves, are we truly living?

Yes, some risks shouldn’t be taken because the consequences could be disastrous. Howeveyourself. a little bit of discernment, we can take calculated risks that will benefit us regardless of the outcome.

Say for instance, you see an attractive person in a coffee shop, and you want to say hi. What’s the worst that could happen? They’re not interested, but you took that risk which ultimately didn’t hurt you in the end. And doing so likely boosted your courage. So no regrets! It’s all about the attitude you take.

Or there are more serious risks that you could be taking, such as leaving the job you aren’t so thrilled about, or moving to a new country. Again, what is the worse that could happen? If things didn’t work out the way you wanted them to, at least you learnt a lot more about yourself and the world in the process. Plus, you can always go home and go back to the same type of job if you want to!

Risks help to build confidence & open up possibilities

By taking risks, you give yourself permission to try things out, to learn, to fail, to grow and to explore. You get to test your limits and go beyond what you believed was possible. You can to go after the things in life you really want!

By doing this, you naturally build up your self-confidence, growing as a person and opening up a whole new world for yourself.

By taking risks you get better at knowing what you want

Risks helps you to get clear on what you want out of life.

They make you more consciously aware of what is important to you, what you want and don’t want, as part of your planning and decision making process.

Just the level of clarity you get from planning to take a risk helps you to feel more empowered and in control, as the leader of your life and the master of your own destiny.

Risk taking builds self-trust

When you take a risk, you generally do so with awareness after balancing your logic and intuition, to decide what is best for you. By taking action aligned to your own inner compass in this way, you build a level of trust in yourself.

And trusting yourself and knowing when to take action on something you really want only serves to further elevate your self-confidence.

Risks make life exciting and colorful

What would happen if we never took risks?

Life would become monotonous and boring. Nobody wants a boring life, yet it’s such an easy option to resort to, in order to stay safe and in our comfort zones.

It boils down to making a decision.

Although your heart may be racing, and your palms many be sweating, think about what would happen if you didn’t take the chance?

Would you regret the missed opportunity?

We only have this one life, why not stretch yourself to new heights! You never know what could happen… and isn’t that exciting?

Take action starting from today

You don’t need to jump head first into a tonne of risks, but you can practise the art of taking one small risk each day.

It can be as simple as saying hello to someone new, learning a new skill or applying for a new job. Whatever your comfort threshold is, start testing it out each and every day.

Because this is where real growth happens. Ultimately, this risk-taking habit alone will transform your life!

Here Are Seven Awesome Psalms To Read Whenever You Are Struggling With Depression And Anxiety.

They are:

Psalm 23:4

“Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”

God’s words bring peace (psalmsquotes)

Psalm 27:1–3

“God, You are my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear? You are the strength of my life, of whom shall I be afraid? When the wicked come against me to eat up my flesh, my enemies and foes, they stumbled and fell. Though an army may encamp against me, my heart shall not fear!”

Psalm 32:7

“You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.”

Psalm 46:1

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.”

God’s words bring peace (bibleverseimages)

Psalm 55:22

“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.”

Psalm 61:1–3

“Hear my cry, O God; from the ends of the earth I cry to You, when my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you are a shelter for me, a strong tower from the enemy…”

Psalm 34:1–10

“I will bless You at all times, Your praise will continually be in my mouth. I sought You, Lord, and You heard me, You delivered me from all my fears. When we look to You we are radiant. Your angels encamp all around those who fear You and You deliver us. Help me to taste and see that You are good, oh Lord. You say I will be blessed when I trust You. Those who seek You lack no good thing.”

Depressed? Alone? Tired? Afraid? Take heart–God Thinks You Are Great.

Something motivating for you today.

If you think you’re thick and naff
Hate to see your photograph
Self worth sinking in the bath
God thinks you are great.

Wander through a boring life
Avoidance of all kinds of strife
Sever friendships with a knife
God thinks you are great.

Need to change your point of view
Jesus died alone for you
Wants to make you all brand new
God thinks you are great.

Jesus knocking at your door
He is what you’re looking for
Let His Spirit heal your sores
Cos God thinks you are great.

Overcoming Anxiety With Faith

Trusting God with your life is not as easy as it sounds. Once upon a time, i had no idea it even meant. I thought it was enugh to go to church sometimes and pray, even if i wasn’t sure my prayers were being heard.

But putting total faith in God requires us to let go of what we think we know and let Him handle it.

Once we desire a spirit of truth, we trust that He will steer us in the right direction according to His will. In faith we know that God’s will is the best way for us, even when we do not understand it.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight” Proverbs 3:5-6

I can look back at some negative situations in my life and see good in them- God was refining me. At the time they felt excruciating, but now i see the error of my ways. When we don’t have God at the center, the world competes for that spot,  and that’s when we become deceived. More light of this can be read in (1 Peter 5:7)

My brethren,  when troubles come your way,  consider it joy for you know that when faith is tested,  your endurance has a chance to grow.  So let it grow,  for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete,  needing nothing. 

Scriptures In The Bible To Calm Your Nerves And Anxieties

After all the searching and seeking, it was God’s word that brought me to the centre, not empty but full. David story particularly touched my life, and so do these verses. When I read them I remember I’m not alone. They bring me peace. They call me. I pray they help you too.

  • Deuteronomy 31:6
  • Psalm 56:11
  • Galatians 5:1
  • 2 Timothy 1:7
  • Philippians 4:6-7
  • Joshua 1:9
  • 1 Peter 5:7-10
  • John 14:27
  • John 16:33
  • Romans 8:35
  • James 1:2-3
  • 2 Corinthians 4:16-18
  • Isaiah 40:29-31
  • Proverbs 3:5-6
  • Isaiah 41:10
  • Romans 8:15
  • Jeremiah 29:11

According to anxiety.com, in an anxiety-related disorder, your fear or worry does not go away and can get worse over time. It can influence your life to the extent that it can interfere with daily activities like school, work and/or relationships. Fear, stress, and anxiety are “normal feelings and experiences” but they are completely different than suffering from any of the seven diagnosable disorders plus substance-induced anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorders, and trauma- or stressor-related disorders.

Butterflies in your stomach before an important event? Worried about how you will meet a deadline? Nervous about a medical or dental procedure? If so, you are like most people, for whom some worry about major events (like having a child, taking an exam, or buying a house), and/or practical issues (like money or health conditions), is a normal part of life. Similarly, it is not uncommon to have fears about certain things (like spiders, injections, or heights) that cause you to feel some fear, worry, and/or apprehension. For example, many people get startled and feel nervous when they see a snake or a large insect. People can differ in what causes them to feel anxious, but almost everyone experiences some anxiety in the course of their life.

But, as an example, what if someone will not leave their home for extended periods of time because they are afraid of being in a crowd or being reminded of a past traumatic event. That is not a “normal feeling or experience.”

There are several different anxiety-related disorders. Some symptoms overlap across many of these disorders, and others are more specific to a single disorder. In general, however, all anxiety-related disorders feature worry, nervousness, or fear that is ongoing, excessive, and has negative effects on a person’s ability to function.

Useful tips but the whole English is too much, when I can talk to the best and only therapist the world “Jesus”. But not all knowledge is lost. Let’s be careful in our daily lives and activities to avoid anxiety.

Selena Gomez Boldly States ‘I’m a Child of God’: Repost 

My heart limps for joy when I get this kinda news about celebrities turning back to God. I am just overwhelmed and happy for Selena Gomez, for tracing back her connection with the most high God.

According to Christian headline, Pop singer and actress Selena Gomez recently opened up about her Christian faith and boldly proclaimed “I’m a child of God.”

Gomez shared her testimony at a recent Hillsong Church conference. Gomez can often be spotted attending Hillsong Church services, the same church love interest Justin Bieber also frequently attends.

According to Latina.com, the 25-year-old Gomez said that she thought fame would provide her with what she needed, but that turned out to be a false hope.

“You will feel like the loud screams from thousands of people while you are onstage will be the thing that saves you, but it isn’t,” she said.

“I was depressed, anxious. I started to have panic attacks right before getting on-stage, or right after leaving the stage,” she continued.

Gomez went on to say that it was on her 23rd birthday that she finally gave her life to God and He became “real” to her.

She shares that she heard the Holy Spirit speak to her and say:

“Selena, you are enough! Not because you’ve tried hard, not because you have loved hard or put on your best face. Not because you have been given a large platform and not because others tell you ‘you are enough,'” she declared. “You are enough because you are a child of God who has been pursued from the very beginning. You are enough because His grace has saved you and covered you. And every good thing you do will flow from this truth. What you give to others will always be an overflow of what He has given to you. Selena you don’t have to try so hard. You can rest.”

What an inspiring testimony! We pray Selena will continue to walk with God and share her faith. Also will be happy if she releases a good gospel album.

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