The Greatest Success Possible

The Greatest Success Possible: Self-actualization. Self determination. Hard work. Achievement. Success. A pleased God. Reward.

I was on a church retreat recently that spoke on Jeremiah 2. During a quiet moment with the Lord, surrounded in a world of self-actualization and self-determination, a sudden hard truth impressed me. Regardless of your primary purpose or calling or destiny in this life, you’re actually incapable of doing it. Doesn’t matter what it is, you are incapable of performing the one thing you are created to do by design.

Despite your most intense focus, intention, and effort, you cannot glorify God. By your own efforts, you cannot please Him. Think about that and let it sink in. How could a finite and defective being, even one that’s been redeemed by Christ, ever please an infinite and perfect one? (Isaiah 64:6) By your own efforts, you cannot stop sinning. You cannot add one day to your life. And you cannot achieve anything at all truly great. You simply lack the capability to do so on your own.

We may immediately think of some superstar celebrity names that achieved greatness. Well greatness by our standards. Truly I tell you if they did it on their own then whatever they achieved was far less than what God designed them to be. They failed. Funny, the one thing we all were ultimately created for: to glorify God, is actually the one thing we are most incapable of doing.

Depressed? It may seem sad, but it’s by design.

“My people have committed two sins: they have forsaken me, the spring of living water. They have been for themselves cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water.” – Jeremiah 2:13

The harder you try to make yourself under your own power a usable cistern, the more useless you become to God. Even when grace saves you under Jesus, if you continue to power forward under your own might, you’ll fail to please Him.

Only God can glorify Himself. Only infinite and eternal can satisfy infinite and eternal.

So the only way you can please God, your actual ultimate destiny regardless of what your calling may be, is to be as humble as possible. Be honest with your inner core of your condition of a being as useful as a broken cistern, sinful and useless under your own strength.

“The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart O God.” – Psalm 51:17

It is through humbly becoming as much of a shell and clearing out your own determination, drive, and passions that God can finally fill Himself in you as a usable vessel. This is in stark contrast to our current culture’s understanding. It’s by breaking yourself down into a limp puppet that God can finally attach His strings. He brings you to true animated life. Then and only then when you have “self-actualized” yourself to what you really are (nothing) and have identified your greatest capability (completely incapable) is when God can finally assume control. He uses you for your real destiny. This will now be 100% by His hand alone and not one iota of your humanity.

Related Post: The Greatness of Humility

Logically, the only thing we humans are ever in control of, is the first step: removing our pride. We were never in control and capable of anything. Under God’s rule and measurement of true success, our own power and strength exists for the sole purpose of removing our own power and strength. We are to make room for *His* power and strength. Hence, the greatest thing we could ever actually “do” for God is to “undo” ourselves.

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Let perseverance finish its work.

Every day holds a series of conflicts between the right way and the easy way. On a daily basis, in almost everything you do, you will be presented with the right way, and the easy way. Rarely do these two options have the same result. Every day your strength will be tested through your choices. Your strength is a byproduct of struggle; you must do what others don’t to achieve what others won’t; meaning, you must decide to take the right way, instead of the easy way.

The strength you have at this point in your life is a product of your willingness to struggle in the past. Your strength can be expanded and further developed through perseverance. Perseverance means to be steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success. No matter how difficult the conflicts that you face may become, in order to continue to grow in strength you must preserver by making the right choice, not the easy choice! James 1:4 says, “Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

In order to grow and become stronger; you must never allow yourself to reach a point where you feel you have ‘arrived’ or a place where you feel that you have everything together. Don’t allow yourself to get to place where you feel that the easy choice has become acceptable for your life. You must continue to push yourself. Be okay with allowing conflict and difficulties in your life. In every season of life and in every day you must always hold the desire to grow and become stronger than the person you are right now. Always be persevering regardless of the comfort you may have to give up during the process.

Making the right choice is hardly ever the same as taking the easy way to get through a situation. Sometimes the right choice can even be draining. When I am having a difficult time pressing on and moving in the right direction, this scripture always helps to motivate me, so I wanted to share it in this post:

1 Corinthians 9:24-27
Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.

Today I encourage you to persevere through whatever it is that you may be going through. Allow yourself to struggle to do the right thing; don’t just take the easy way out. In the end, you will be rewarded and you will grow stronger. Never underestimate the important of little victories in doing the right thing. No matter how big or small something may seem to be, make the right choice; it will encourage you when something big comes around to make the same right choice. I encourage you today; no matter what season of life you are in, remember to press on. Make the right choices in your life today, weigh everything you are deciding on against the Word of God. Let perseverance finish its work in you!

Repost: How To Achieve More Than You Think You Can

How to achieve more than you think you can, using Justin Timberlake as the perfect example.

Looking at it from the outside, little of how his career has progressed seems to make sense.

JT’s not someone you come across in headlines a whole lot, yet he sits on over 160 awards, a 200 million dollar fortune and one of the most respected reputations in the history of entertainment. At 36 years old, he’s had a globally successful band, four platinum solo albums, starred in the smash hit movies and is considered a fashion icon.

But that’s not what common sense tells us, is it? Though cautions have been added to the famous 10,000-hour rule, the message remains the same: you need lots of deliberate practice and years of time to get good at one thing.

So how can someone like Timberlake switch music styles, industries, even to a completely different skill set, like acting, time and time again, yet still succeed?

What part of the picture are we missing?

Learning To Unlearn

Every lesson in life comes at the expense of unlearning another.

When you learn to be confident, you unlearn to be shy. When you react with humility, you have forgotten your ego. When you’re comfortable taking the risk, you ignore other’s opinions, and so on.

In Chinese philosophy, the idea of Yin and Yang suggests that life consists entirely of dualities. It is only through the completeness of these dualities that we achieve unity. So no matter how contradictory two sides seem, they’re ultimately connected.

For each new piece of knowledge you acquire, you have to let go of an old one. Foggy clouds of ideas make way for facts, which make way for better facts, only to be replaced by new clouds, and so the cycle continues.

What most of us do when we try to improve is resist this cycle. We want every next answer to be the answer to everything. A different diet, a new sleep schedule, a tweak to your marketing — if only we stick to it, it may last us forever. Of course, nothing ever does.

That’s because the underlying skill of acquiring and abandoning knowledge, the unity, lies in change itself. What you’re really learning is how to unlearn.

Justin Timberlake is a master at it.

Smooth in black & white, though that’s not how he thinks.

The Unimportance of Being Right

There is a famous line in a Walt Whitman poem called Song of Myself:

“Do I contradict myself? Very well then, I contradict myself.”

The next time someone accuses you of being inconsistent, say this line. It’ll instantly take the wind out of their sails because you can’t argue with someone who accepts being wrong. Especially without making an attempt to defend themselves.

Most people stumble over this idea because one of our biggest innate desires is to be consistent. Add to that our tendency to spend more time on what we’ve already sunken energy into and you get a high level of resistance to unlearning.

People like Justin Timberlake, however, practice something cryptocurrency expert Nick Szabo calls quantum thought:

“In law school, they teach a very different way of thinking in that you need to take both the defendants and the plaintiffs side of the issue and run down the arguments as if each one of them is true. They contradict each other, of course, or at least the conclusions, and so I compare this to Schrodinger’s cat — maybe it’s alive, maybe it’s dead. Maybe the defendant’s guilty, maybe they’re not, and you have to keep both of these in your mind at once.”

When Justin went from child actor to boyband singer, from solo artist to actor, from show host to comedian, from R&B to Soul, and from commercial star to the voice actor, he was in no way convinced he’d be good at all of those things.

He just managed to hold the possibility of two different truths in his head at the same time. Thanks to this skill, Timberlake is never afraid to be wrong, since he is always free to unlearn one thing for another. He has a frictionless mind.

It’s a mental model he likely acquired at The Mickey Mouse Club.

A Child With A Grown Man’s Work Ethic

Even someone as talented as Justin Timberlake isn’t always right. He bought a golf course for $16 million, only to sell it for $500,000 seven years later, and some of his films were really bad. He works incredibly hard too, which we can’t neglect.“There’s a spelling bee and you have to spell the word ‘CAT.’ One student spells it ‘C-A-T.’ The person got it right. The next person spells it ‘K-A-T.’ That’s wrong.

And so we’ve built a system for ourselves where there is an answer and everything else is not the answer, even when some answers are better than others. So our brains are absent the wiring capable of coming up with an original thought.”

As adults, we spend all of our time in this system, so it’s almost impossible not to fall prey to the same thinking. But when we do, when we resist the process of constantly updating our view of the world, we block our own path.

Children aren’t burdened with this problem yet, because they’re still unfamiliar with the idea that “this is how we do things around here.” As Sir Ken Robinson recalls about the time his son was in the nativity play:

“The three boys came in, four-year-olds with tea towels on their heads, and they put these boxes down, and the first boy said, “I bring you gold.” And the second boy said, “I bring you myrrh.” And the third boy said, “Frank sent this.”

What these things have in common is that kids will take a chance. If they don’t know, they’ll have a go. Am I right? They’re not frightened of being wrong. I don’t mean to say that being wrong is the same thing as being creative. What we doknow is, if you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.

And by the time they get to be adults, most kids have lost that capacity. They have become frightened of being wrong.”

What we really see when we look at someone of Justin Timberlake’s caliber, is a child with a grown man’s work ethic. Having traversed the long road of unlearning, he reaps the rewards of unencumbered thought: Originality, adaptability, and the courage to exercise both at a second’s notice.

If nobody told you what you can and can’t achieve in a 20-year career, how much would you dare to try?

Chances are you’d act with an open mind and, like Justin Timberlake, embrace the next line in Whitman’s poem:

“I am large, I contain multitudes.”

What a brilliant write-up. I highly acknowledge Niklas Goke for this wonderful piece of work and how his writing has impacted a lot of people including me.

I hope this post touches someone today.

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What Is The Cause Of Emptiness?

By: So’dini

The last time I checked
I failed,
I wept,
And I got Beasty.
Beneath my heart emptiness raided every bit of happiness in it.

My shadow told me “Your prayers won’t heal you, only if you take the bull horns, face your fears and ignore those who claim to have everything like paradise.

Social Media. The modern day Babylon, we’ve idolised her,using her beauty to oppress ourselves on her deceitful platform. Flaunting our achievements like the rest are lazy doing nothing.

Every corners of my city is flooded with depression, ill-wealth, broken marriages, lost values, Gucci snakes with deadly venom. Lifeless body by the roadside with ripped breasts & empty eye-sockets all used to plough money. 😢😢😢

I don’t trust folks,You can be a prospective prey for their new Bentley or Benz. A friend asked “how come they don’t wish me more Benz” he said.

They won’t wish you more Benz because you don’t do what they do.
Our society recent vogue is Holocaust of Pants. Steal pants or supply pants and you will be rich.

Money has taken over religion youngsters are dying faster than the oldies money made him do it
money made her do it.”

The moment Angel of Death requests for your soul, he won’t let you take any hand luggage, so why spilling innocent blood for this money.

After dancing with the Devil, eating fresh feces, stealing pants, Scheming, trading destiny like bitcoins… spent the returns on jewellery’s ,cloths, cars & show off.

Bullshitting education like everyone should follow their footprints.When it gets darker I fear for my loved ones because you & I know we’re not safe in the midst of some folks.We’re in a destructive generations but “who’ll lead the cold war like John snow…..” Those who tried in the past died with their enthusiasm.We don’t want revolution if it doesn’t involve money.

Thanks to So’dini for this deep poetry and truth. For more of this, please follow “the sonder of Babylon blog”

Bless!!!

30 Motivating Quotes on Strength and Making It Through Hard Times

Morning guys.

Maybe things are going great. Or at least OK. And you feel pretty good.

Then something happens.

You make a mistake. A setback slips out from around a corner and hits you between the eyes.

Or you fall into a rough patch, a crisis or feel that you’re too far away from achieving your dream and you just want to pack up and go home.

This week’s article is about those times. And about motivating you, recharging you and staying strong when you need to.

Here are 30 of the most though-provoking, encouraging and helpful quotes on strength and making it through tough times.

1. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
– Dale Carnegie
2. “Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.”
– Susan Gale
3. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
4. “Tough times never last, but tough people do.”
– Robert H. Schuller
5. “Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.”
– Hermann Hesse
6. “When written in Chinese the word “crisis” is composed of two characters – one represents danger and the other represents opportunity.”
– John F. Kennedy
7. “Love does not dominate; it cultivates.”
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
8. “He who believes is strong; he who doubts is weak. Strong convictions precede great actions.”
– Louisa May Alcott
9. “I like criticism. It makes you strong.”
– LeBron James
10. “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing.”
– George Bernard Shaw
11. “Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.”
– Unknown
12. “Don’t brood. Get on with living and loving. You don’t have forever.”
– Leo Buscaglia
13. “Make up your mind that no matter what comes your way, no matter how difficult, no matter how unfair, you will do more than simply survive. You will thrive in spite of it.”
– Joel Osteen
14. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
– Lao Tzu
15. “Man can live about forty days without food, about three days without water, about eight minutes without air, but only for one second without hope”
– Hal Lindsey
16. “We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.”
– J.K. Rowling
17. “Concentration is the secret of strength.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
18. “Most of us, swimming against the tides of trouble the world knows nothing about, need only a bit of praise or encouragement – and we will make the goal.”
– Jerome Fleishman
19. “If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again.”
– Flavia Weedn
20. “In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.”
– Albert Camus
21. “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”
– Dale Carnegie
22. “When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
– Harriet Beecher Stowe
23. “Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.”
– Maya Angelou
24. “Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do and damned if you don’t.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
25. “The more one judges, the less one loves.”
– Honore de Balzac
26. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”
– Mary Anne Radmacher
27. “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
– Mahatma Gandhi
28. “Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.”
– Marie Curie
29. “You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
– Marcus Aurelius
30. “A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.”
– Vernon Howard

Have a productive day!!!

Small Beginnings

The Maker looked lovingly at the seeds in His hand

Each barely an eighth an inch long,
And smiled and nodded approvingly
As the other trees broke out in song,
The little seeds little knew at that time
The great lesson that God was showing,
Or the noble cause for which they were made

And the honor that He was bestowing,
From humble beginnings and lowly estate
These seeds would stand mighty and tall,
Clapping their hands in worship and praise
To greet Jesus the Maker of all,
So if you’re not noble or mighty
Remember neither were they,
Sequoias took thousands of years to grow
They didn’t grow up in one day.

Reasons And Rhymes: Truly

Don’t look at the short length of this post, but the message sent.

Do I truly think that I can fool
The almighty, omniscient God,
Who knows what’s in my heart and soul
And sees through my flimsy facade?

Do I truly think the fig leaves I sew
Stitched together by threads of my pride,
Can mask my fears and anxieties
From the One from whom darkness can’t hide?

For I can’t run or hide from my Maker
He knows every thought, word and deed,
And it’s only by placing my life in His hands
That my heart, soul and mind can be freed.

Music Alert: LIL Dizzie Unlocks His First Single Of The Year

lil dizzie Nigerian music star


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Following an eventful 2018 musical campaign which saw him release three major singles (“Your Love,” “King Deuces” & “E-Money“), Nigeria rap star and hard-working independent act, Lil’ Dizzie, is set to get the ball rolling as he starts of the year 2019 on a high note; known widely for his international collaborations, he definitely went out of his way on this new single which is a switch from the norm – produced by Zimbabwe‘s very own Brythreesixty and featuring Mo’ Beatz, Lil’ Dizzie unlocks his first single for the year 2019 titled “Club Inferno” – just as the title implies, this one definitely is set to rock the clubs and dance floors and get a lot of massive airplay and publicity. With mild vocals from both parties and an instrumentation like none other, we see Lil’ Dizzie recognizing the Nigerian disc jockeys on an excellent Electronic rhythm fused with mild vocals on and off the record; words can’t explain the beauty of this masterpiece but listening would definitely do justice – listen up and share your thoughts. | ENJOY!!!

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5 Ways to Fight Negativity & Steal Back Your Life

In recent studies, negativity is shown to form the same functional properties as addiction. Research shows these Negaholics are driven mainly by the inability to lower or release stress.

Blond man fighting negativity

Excessive stress creates a sensation of overwhelm. When people become overwhelmed it can ignite what is called the “Hole in the Soul” syndrome where people think, behave, and believe they are insufficient to meet the standard demands of life.

“A negative mind will never get you a positive life.”

As their stress escalates, these feelings of inadequacy begin to expand while their positivity begins to shrink. If you struggle with negativity, I have listed 5 ways anyone can fight off negativity and steal back their life.

5 Ways to Fight Negativity & Steal Back Your Life:

  1. Take control of your brain: Your mind is powerful. You choose positive or negative. It’s time to shift.
  2. Stop Watching the News: Today’s media is 95% negative, get away from it.
  3. Write a list of everything you’re thankful for: No matter how big or small
  4. Stop using negative words: Replace can’t with a can, won’t with a will, no with yes, tired with excited, and frustrated with understanding
  5. Have fun every day: Plan one thing per day that’s fun. Go to a restaurant, play Fifa, go to the movies, go to the gym, or take a hike. But do something you love each day. You deserve it.

Have you struggled with negativity? What has helped you fight back? Let me know in the comments below. Share

Pain Fades, Love Remains, Joy Returns

Pain is a part of this life. Brokenness is all around us. Parents split. Families’ abuse. The cancer wins. Children die. The only thing I know to be true is this: God is faithful. He is a deliverer. A healer. A savior. A protector. A warrior. A lover. A completer.

I’ve seen some pretty dark stuff in my days in this world. Perhaps the darkest was when I was still in the world, doing stuffs that had no meaning but hurting people around me. Also too many of my friends died. There was no escape from the pain. It was crushing. I never considered killing myself, but I can now see how some people could do it. The pain is simply too much to bear. It was the worst time of my life.

But God moved with a Mighty Hand. He heard me crying out and “He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.” – Psalm – 40:2 God brought to me a community of faith that changed my life and surrounded me with an amazing family in Christ. I walked in to new life.

He restored my heart and healed me of the wounds. I saw how good and mighty He really is. I worship Him for His faithfulness to bind up a broken heart. It didn’t happen overnight, though. Even as mighty as He moved, healing is a process. It seemed as though the pain would always be with me but again His promises are true: Weeping may last for the night, but joy comes in the morning. Psalm 30:5

The night may last longer than you wish, but when The Lord is your God, the morning always comes.

This year will be the second since I lost some very good friends. Am sure they are in peace and with Jesus. Not only did God help me walk into new life, but He saw fit to completely heal me. I am free. Looking back, I realized that even though He had been healing me, I was still walking with a limp through life. While I was not under the weight of tragedy any longer, joy had not returned to my heart.

There was a weekend outing with some church friends, we challenged ourselves to some games filled with lots of laughs and fun. I cannot remember ever laughing so much. It was the best time I have had in years.

“He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear the LORD and put their trust in him.” Psalm 40:3

I would never wish such tragedy on my worst enemy but by clinging to Jesus during the night, He has restored my soul.

I know some of you have experienced terrible things, I know that. Just remember, no matter how long the night, the morning always comes. After that season, the Lord left me with a simple message I would share with you. The pain fades. Love remains. Joy returns.

Video: 46 Positive Truths Everyone Needs to Hear

Life can be incredibly difficult. Relationships. Money. Jobs. Responsibilities. Bullies. Fears. Disease. And the list goes on. But we must remember the flipside of struggle. Joy. Hope. Laughter. Drive. Children. Travel. Smiles. And love.

I stumbled upon this video created by the compelling poet Shane Koyczan. He provides us the powerful reminder of the flipside. The positive truths about our world and the beauty that lives within it. I hope this furthers your journey toward a positive life.

How did this video make you feel? What is your favorite part of life?

Two Major Obstacles To Success

We are familiar with the two agents to success. Which are fear and doubt. It is first of all the fear of failure, poverty, loss, embarrassment, or rejection that holds most people back from trying in the first place.

I remember back in 2013, I was blogging for an entertainment blogger. That period was my first experience in the blogging path. I was learning at the same time trying to venture into mine. After a year blogging for someone else, I decided to start my own and create my own path. First of all I was really motivated in starting my own entertainment blog which I did. But at some point I was scared and decided to fall back a bit. Fear of the unknown came knocking at my door, dropping some doubt about me starting my blog. How I was going to make it famous, how will I get my readers from, there are too many entertainment blogs out there, how are you sure you gonna make it. Different thoughts came to my mind. At some point I decided to go back and work for the person I was blogging for. In all I overcame and my path to blogging from then till now started.

You know because of fear of failure and rejection, an average number of times that people try to achieve a new goal is less than one. As soon as they think of the goal, these fears overwhelm them and, like a bucket of water on a small fire, extinguish their desire completely.

The second mental obstacle, closely aligned to fear, is self doubt. We doubt our own abilities. We compare ourselves unfavourably to others and think that others are some how better, smarter, and more competent than we are. We think, “I’m not good enough.” We feel inadequate and inferior to the challenges of achieving the great goals that we so much want to accomplish.

Fortunately, if there is anything good about doubt and fear it’s that they are both learned emotions. Have you ever seen a nagative baby before? Children come into the world with no doubts or fears at all. And whatever has been learned can be unlearned through practice and repetition.

The primary antidotes to doubt and fear are courage and confidence. The higher your level of courage and confidence, the lower will be your levels of fear and doubt and the less effect these negative emotions will have on your perfomance and behaviour.

I leave you with this:

Isaiah 43:1 “Don’t fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine.” God actually commands us not to fear, or worry. The phrase “fear not” is used at least 80 times in the Bible, most likely because He knows the enemy uses fear to decrease our hope and limit our victories.

You’re Stuck In Life Because You’re Focusing On How To Have Less, Not How To Create More

By: Brianna Weist

This post was originally posted on Thoughts Catalogue.

There’s an old adage that you should “promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.”

It’s not only a nicer way to exist in the world, it’s also really the only way to accomplish anything.

Some people have realized this. Others remain stuck.

When people are dissatisfied with their lives, they usually can only identify what it is they don’t want to feel.

The same thing happens after a break up, when everyone’s telling you to “let go” and “move on.” But how do you do that? How do you come to a place of neutrality over something that all but cut you in half? How do you suddenly find a sense of peace when all you can do is rack your mind over what you did wrong and what it means that the future you once imagined is no more?
The answer is that you do not decide to “let go” one day. You focus so much of your attention and time on other things, and projects, and tasks, and goals and people that, eventually, the pain fades from your memory.

This is what mentally strong people understand: change is what happens when you start building a new city, rather than standing in the ruins of what’s collapsed.

You change your life not by focusing on what you want less of, but what you want to take its place.

You figure out what you really want not through desire, but through discomfort. You identify the exact opposite of your greatest fears and worries. That’s your true dream.

You cannot release anything from your life without something to put in its place. Some people do this in a healthy way, consuming themselves with behaviors that improve their lives long-term. Others turn to coping mechanisms that ultimately erode their mental and physical wellbeing. Either way, it’s the same thing, just with different results.

It’s like if someone tells you not to think about a white elephant. That’s the only thing you’re going to want to think about.

The only way to not think about the white elephant is to think about something else.
So when it comes to enacting real change in your life, stop worrying about what you want less of, and start focusing on what you want more of.

Instead of trying to lose weight, reduce calories and generally become smaller, focus instead on having more healthy foods, more movement, more wellness, more rest, and more positive thoughts about yourself.
If you do this earnestly, the weight will take care of itself.

Instead of trying to get out of debt, focus instead on having more financial freedom, more flexibility, more peace of mind and a greater measure of security.

If you do this earnestly, the debt will take care of itself.

Instead of trying to “let go” of the past, “overcome” your greatest and deepest hurts and anxieties, focus instead on connecting with people right here and now, placing your energy into learning new skills, having more interesting experiences, and doing what makes you feel good each day.
If you do this earnestly, the grief will take care of itself.

You will never be able to lessen yourself into the life that you want. That is not how this works. You cannot expect to focus constantly on what you don’t like and don’t want and think you’re going to magically create what you do like and you do want.
The work is in understanding that your discomfort is the shadow side of your greatest desire.

If you want less weight, you want more health. If you want less debt, you want more stability. If you want less anxiety, you want more peace of mind.

When you focus on the positive aspect of the transformation, you’re actually able to achieve it.

The truth is that you can mourn, grieve, cry and revisit the details of your traumas again and again and again, but the only way you heal them and truly recover is by creating a new experience in the present moment, one that immerses you so deeply, you don’t have the mental bandwidth to even recall the past.

Working From Your Holy Discontent (Finding Purpose)

So some of you are asking why this kind of deep post today. I decided to research and post more on deep inspirational and motivational articles today, compared to the circular articles I normally post.

Finding Purpose

Do you believe that your job is reflective of what your natural gifts and abilities are? If you answered yes, that is awesome.  You are in the minority and you can exercise greater influence because you believe that you are walking in your calling. As for some of us who got into jobs because that was what you were offered, or it paid well, we need to ask the question, “Are we living our best/most purposeful life?” – SUMESHNEE REDDY

In the part of my world in Africa, specifically in Nigeria. This is a major setback for most graduates. Unemployment is on the high rise, so whatever you get, you manage till you get something better or you make your decision in becoming an entrepreneur.

Do you believe that your job is reflective of what your natural gifts and abilities are?

If you answered yes, that is awesome.  You are in the minority and you can exercise greater influence because you believe that you are walking in your calling.

As for some of us who got into jobs because that was what you were offered, or it paid well, we need to ask the question, “Are we living our best/most purposeful life?”

Made to for a Purpose

The world has believed a lie that we are purposeless beings and are here to work, pay bills, save and retire as early as possible. All of which are good things, yet are incredibly self-serving. You could have started off life believing that this is what we should do; however, God says otherwise.

Ephesians 2:10 says For we his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” God created us on purpose, for a purpose.

It is interesting that in Genesis we are told that everything that God created in the garden had a purpose, and God placed a seed in it to reproduce after its own kind. God created oak trees, once, with a seed within, to reproduce more oak trees. Everything has a seed within, including us. Yes, we have a seed to multiply, but its way more than that. God has given us the ability to grow a vision and to feed a passion that he has placed in us.

So, what stops us from accomplishing this vision and purpose? The fear of failure, the failure of success even. We can be in a place of comfort and complacency. Basically, if you don’t want to embrace your purpose, you will find a reason to back down, rather than take a step of faith. Perhaps someone spoke an unkind word against your vision or discouraged you, and you allowed those words to affect you deeply. Maybe the words were spoken by people who were meant to be beacons of light, maybe they were your parents.

God’s Word About You

I want to encourage you today, to allow those words to lose their hold over you and rather hear what God’s word says about you. After all, He is the one who placed this potential inside you, not your earthly parents. Let God’s truth about you, be the ultimate truth and let everything else be a lie. (Romans 3: 4 “…Indeed, let God be true but every man a liar…”)

Bill Hybels wrote an amazing book, called Holy Discontent where he speaks about an area where you experience anger and frustration with the world (For example,  Jesus’s anger when he saw the money-lenders gambling inside the temple of His Father and he made the rope and whipped them out. Matthew 21:12-13) and how that could point you to your true purpose. Together with the deep intimate relationship with God, this holy anger can be changed into a positive force that impacts and changes the course of the world. Just think of people like Mother Theresa, Billy Graham and Bono.

Holy Discontent as a Starting Place

Let’s for a moment forget about those high-profile names. Think about a young lady who grows up in a broken home, and her hearts breaks for kids who grow up in an unhappy home. She decides to become a primary school teacher so she can impact the lives of kids who grow up in this dysfunction. One of the reasons Bill Hybels is the pastor of a huge church in America today (Willow Creek Church) is due to the holy discontent he experienced as a kid. His family attended a church that was run very badly, and it was then that the stirrings of his holy discontent started.

I understand that not all of us are able to quit our jobs and go volunteer our time for a free but worthy cause. However, we can volunteer in our free time, over weekends. Also, showing love to another usually can take you a minute. This can include sending a message to a hurting friend or making a dish for some struggling friends…whatever you can do, with whatever you have, is a start.

As you continue being faithful in the little bit, Jesus will multiply it and give you more. He won’t give you more than you can handle. First and foremost, our main priority is to spend time receiving His love, daily, renewing our minds, in the word.

So, I leave you with a few questions:

  1. What is the one thing that gets you fired up and causes a firestorm of frustration to build up within you?
  2. Are you willing to let God help you in those areas, and lead and guide you by His peace?
  3. Practically, how does this look for your life?

My prayer is that you would not just conform, but rather be transformed by the renewing of your mind, daily. (Romans 12:2) Remember that His love and grace empowers you and sets you free to be the best version of yourself. I love how the Passion translation of the Bible puts it:

“We have become his poetry, a re-created people that will fulfill the destiny he has given each of us, for we are joined to Jesus, the Anointed One. Even before we were born, God planned in advance our destiny and the good works we would do to fulfill it!” (Ephesians 2:10 TPT)

The Weight Of Worry

By: Kaytie Zimmerman

The times in life when I find myself worrying the most, I know I’ve lost a level of trust in God. Recently I entered a season of worry and found myself trying to plan out problems that were more than a year away. More than a year!Close-up of distracted guy with glasses Free Photo

I realized how silly it was when I was playing forward scenarios that are not a present problem. Further, they were crossing my mind daily, weighing me down.

That’s the thing about worry. Not only does it put space between Christ and myself, but it places weight on my shoulders that doesn’t belong there.

What Jesus Says About Worry

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” – Matthew 11:28-30

Did you catch that? I’m carrying a weight, or a heavy yolk, while Christ wants to trade me for His easy and light burden.

What does this look like in my life? For me, it has to become a daily practice of consciously releasing the topic of my worry to God and breathing in trust in Him.

“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” –Matthew 6:34

There’s so much freedom when I can let go of my future worries and focus solely on trusting God to walk me through today. We were not designed to be a ball of stress, worry, and fear. We were made to walk side by side with a Savior who sees all and knows all. Rest easy knowing He has told us He will take care of our needs.