Rickety: A Short Film

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Sometimes you love a person because of all the reasons they’re not like you…Sometimes you love a person just because they feel like home.

In this love drama, Femi realises the right kind of love he needs; and finds love through Ivy, his love who doesn’t show him love.

STARRING: Femi: Chris Okagbue Ivy: Gbubemi Ejeye Angela: Adefolake Otudeko

CREW: Written by: Oreoluwa Obaba Produced by: Oluchi Nsofor Oraka Nnanyelu Directed by: Oluchi Nsofor Executive Producer: Sulcata Entertainment Production Managers: Hope Nwachukwu Tareila Nabena Costumier: Kachi Onuoha Makeup Artist: Kachi Onuoha Cinematographers: Ezekiah Akande Onuche El’ Mustapha Establishment Shots: Walinteen Pro Sound: Spyritmyx Sam Dominic Adeola Matti Editor: Famous Odion Iraoya Colourist: Famous Odion Iraoya Production Assistants: Ufot Samuel Victor Adesiyan Omoha Joseph

Special Thanks to: Zavandi Jewelry Ibukun Adewunmi Shaibu Husseini Gbenga Babatunde Williams Williams

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Happy Mothers Day To All Mothers Around The World

Thank the Lord for these sisters who—like our Heavenly Father—love us not only for what we are but for what we may become. Humbly I thank God for my mother, my sisters, my daughters, granddaughters, and for my special sweetheart, companion, and friend—my wife! May God bless us to honor each virtuous woman I pray in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

— @russellmnelson⠀

Trying to Be Perfect Never Works, So Quit It Already!

If you believe it is attainable, you will seek and never find it, you will strive and never achieve it, you will think you’ve got it and then something will happen and you’ll realize you never had it to start with.

It will suck the joy from your life.

There are many of us who have experienced the crippling behavior of perfectionism.

It makes you feel like nothing you are or do is quite enough or quite right.

It leaves you constantly trying to be more, do more, achieve more, make things better and better, until one day you will be able to breathe easy knowing you are perfect, everything you have done is perfect and everything around you is perfect.

It stops you from finishing anything, or it stops you from celebrating what you do finish as you’re too busy looking at what you wish you had done better. This cripples your soul, it torments your mind, it suppresses your creativity, it limits your progress and it slows the pace at which you produce anything (personally or productivity in the workplace). It affects the outcomes you generate and it drastically impacts your enjoyment.

It will cause you to focus on things that simply don’t matter, at the expense of things that truly do matter. It will lead you to see faults, where right next to those faults complete beauty and magic exist.

It will lead you to think you are someone role modelling excellence, when in fact you are role modelling paralyzing over-analysis and complete imbalance in priorities.

It will affect your home life and your career. It will affect your self-esteem and your relationships.

It will impact your thoughts and feelings, and give rise to unnecessary tension and stress.

You will never be perfect, because perfection is not possible. 

Perfection is an illusion. Life by its very nature is imperfect, and you as a human being by your very nature are imperfect.

Additionally, your entire life from birth to death is a process of expansion – to learn and evolve. Perfection goes directly against this process. If you were perfect, and your life were perfect, then you would be done! You would not be here. You could not fulfil the very progression that is inherent in your human nature, and so what would be the point of your life?

Perfection also denies the value and uniqueness of all your imperfections, of all your quirks and development areas, of your beautiful weirdness that you know and I see, and your loved ones adore. Perfection would make you vanilla. You were born much more flavoursome and colourful than that. Your job here in life is to give full expression to every ounce of who you were born as, not to try to fit yourself to a societally defined and unattainable plastic model of “perfection”.

By all means strive for excellence. Have high standards. Face every moment of every day with the intention of being your best self, and giving your all and creating memorable outputs. That will allow you to have inner peace. That will lead you into success. But don’t confuse that with crippling perfectionism. They are completely different perspectives, and give rise to completely different life experiences.

I know all of this because I used to be a perfectionist. So, if you want to change and someone tells you that leopards can’t change their spots, tell them to keep quiet while you prove them wrong!

I Hope You Know That You Always Have A Choice

I hope you know that you always have a choice.

I hope you understand that you are capable of changing your life even if the odds are against you. I hope you know that there are people out there who are willing to help you and guide you until you make it on your own. I hope you know that the kind of happiness you’re looking for is not out of reach.

I hope you still remember what happiness looks like, what it feels like and what it means to you because life has a way of making you forget and life has a way of making you believe that you don’t deserve it. I hope you still have the courage to fight for that happiness and fight for that life. I hope you don’t make settling a habit just because it’s easier. I hope you don’t make pain a permanent friend just because it’s been with you for a while. I hope you understand that pain is there to make you grow instead of making you suffer.

I hope you know that you always have a choice.

I hope you don’t give up on your love story just because all your previous stories ended in heartbreak. I hope you still believe in the kind of love that softens your heart and makes you trust again. The kind of love that brings out the depths of your emotions, the beauty of your soul and the kindness of your heart. The kind of love that doesn’t remind you of everything that’s wrong with the world. I hope you find the kind of love that restores your faith in romance.

The kind of love that stands by you and makes you feel at home.
And I hope you have the courage to leave the kind of love that poisons your heart. The kind of love that forces you to hide who you are or play games or question yourself. I hope you can still take your heart back from those who destroyed it.
I hope you know that you always have a choice.

But more than anything, I hope you never give up on yourself. Your dreams. Your happiness. Your ideas. Your feelings. Your voice. And I hope you know that they matter. Please don’t discount them. Please don’t forget them. Please don’t let your mistakes define you.

I hope you can forgive yourself. I hope you don’t forget your worth because of a few mistakes or a few people who couldn’t love you. I hope you read this and remember that you’re here to evolve. You’re here to learn. You’re not here to be perfect. You’re not here to do everything right.
I hope you know that you always have a choice.

And I hope that in the coldest of moments, you choose to show the world your warmth. And in the midst of all tragedies, you choose to show the world your faith.

And through it all, I hope you always choose yourself.

Social Media Habits Linked To Depression

Social media is a platform where many users post the highlights of their lives – but scientists say it may be making some people depressed.

A study, conducted by researchers at Texas State University, analysed the habits of 500 students frequently using Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat.

It was found that while the users’ reasons for using the platforms were not linked with mental illnesses, how they interacted with the platforms were.

Those who compared themselves with others they considered “better off than” also had a higher likelihood of having depression.

Those who scored highly on the “social media addiction” component also had higher depression ratings. This section was based on statements such as “you have tried to cut down on the use of social media without success” and “you use social media so much that it has had a negative impact on your job/studies”.

Those with depression who used social media were more bothered by being tagged in unflattering photos, and were less likely to post pictures of themselves with other people.

“People tend to make themselves look better off than they really are” on social media. “This is not someone’s ‘real life.’ It’s important to recognize that.”

It’s not the first time social media has been linked to bad habits. Studies earlier this year have also connected the platforms to overspending and overeating.

My next post will emphasize more on these points.

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Overcoming The Fear Of Rejection

To be a soul winner for Jesus, we must overcome all fear, including rejection. The Samaritan Woman at the Well not only carried water, she carried the burden of rejection. This is the incredible story of her turnaround from Weakness to Wellness to Witness.

Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon. (John 4:6 NIV)

She was alone drawing from Jacob’s well at about the sixth hour. This was a famous well that provided water to the community. But it was the sixth hour, in the hot afternoon. This Samaritan woman was alone because the well was half of a mile away from the community. The women usually carried water either in the morning or the evening. Why did she come under the hot sun? Maybe it was an emergency. Or maybe she wanted to be alone, away from the eyes of other women, to avoid listening to disparaging remarks from other women. Or was it out of fear?

Rejected by Society

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”(John 4:16-18 NIV)

She had had 5 husbands and the man whom she was living with – was not a husband. In those days, women don’t divorce husbands. Either she was divorced 5 times, or had had 5 husbands who died, or a combination of both. In any case, she would have most likely been disregarded by men and a taboo to the women of that society in general.

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Furthermore, she was not married to the man she was living with. After 5 marriages, she wasn’t young anymore. Young women carried waters from the well because they were stronger. Because of the fact she had to carry water herself meant that she didn’t have a servant. We can infer that she was living with that man because she was depending on him financially. Since she was willing to live with him without being married to him, it showed her desperation.

Jesus Crossed Barriers to Reach Out to Her

As a rule of thumb, Jews don’t speak to Samaritans. Men couldn’t speak to women without the husband’s there. Rabbis were not supposed to be near her. Sounds like fear, right? Jesus confronted her past. She didn’t lie to hide her shame.

To be a soul winner, we need to be transparent so that others can see the real Jesus in us. For the light to shine into us, and then, through us to others, we need to be transparent.

Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.” (John 4:39 NIV)

Her transparency was clear when she brought many souls to Jesus. She told many about Jesus: “He told me all that I ever did.” This means she laid bare about her past life to many people. She didn’t care if they already knew about her past or not.

Through her divine supernatural encounter with Jesus, she knew without a shadow of doubt that God loved and accepted her. Now she was no longer living in fear. She was no longer dependent on others for love and acceptance. She now knew that God Himself loved and accepted her.

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Take One Day At A Time

I like to describe worry or anxiety as spending today to figure out tomorrow. Let’s learn to use the time God has given to us for what He intended. It sounds easy right??? But in this case easy is far from it. It takes the spirit and grace of God to be at peace with ourselves knowing the challenges we face or what is making us worry. We humans and vulnerable. Don’t beat yourself to it.

“Life is to be lived- here and now”

Sadly, as I mentioned in the first paragraph only the Grace and Spirit of God can turn our minds out of worry and anxiety to peaceful and worry less. Very few people know how to live each day to the fullest. But you can be one of them. Jesus said that satan, the dark one, comes to steal your life. (John 10:10). Don’t allow him to do it any longer!

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Don’t spend today worrying about tomorrow. You have enough things going on today; it needs all of your attention. God’s grace is on you to handle whatever you need for today, but tomorrow’s grace will not come until tomorrow comes- so don’t waste today!

We Have A Calling On Our Lives To Live

We live in a quit society. I’m guilty of it. You’re guilty of it. We all are. The moment something becomes boring and mundane, we often check out and move on. Let’s face it, life is amazing. There is so much going on in the world at any given moment. They literally invented an iPhone 8, skipped the 9 and made the 10, same as Samsung within 15 minutes of each other. It’s overwhelming. It’s also stimulating. This makes it so much easier to move on when the stimulation stops.

There’s a saying I’ve heard and love, this faith walk ain’t no cake walk.

When we first come to Jesus, I believe all of us are fired up initially. We have this peace that surpasses anything we’ve known. We feel grace in ways we didn’t even know possible. It’s electric. (Boogie woogie woogie).

We become emboldened and begin to share our new-found faith. We are then often discouraged by those tenured in the faith who will say the fire will fade and we won’t always have the same passion and vigor. I specifically was told by a friend shortly after I had a fresh encounter with Jesus who told me to enjoy it because it wouldn’t last. For those who keep the faith and keep the fire, they are eventually labeled as ‘radical’ or not your average Christian. They believe God still interacts with us daily and still seeks to dwell among his people. Others who may have become jaded and tired, believe God doesn’t work as he once did. They may not say it, but the way they live it says it all.

Here’s the crazy thing though, if you asked either one if they were willing to die for their faith or God they would both answer yes.

  • Many, if not all of us would say we are willing to die for our faith. I’m not so sure though.
  • I think the more honest question would be, if you could quit being a follower of Jesus today with no blowback or questions from others, no accountability, and no conviction, would you do it?
  • To many of us, when we say die for our faith, this is the heart behind it.
  • The reality is dying for your faith allows you to not deal with the Earthly blow-back of that professed faith. Don’t get me wrong, It’s an incredibly bold move to die for a friend or die for Jesus.
  • But it takes as much if not more to live for your faith, to continually stand strong in the face of opposition & persecution. When Jesus speaks of laying his life down for a friend. It’s not a call to die…
    But a call to live.

Who are you living for?

The initial command from Jesus to all of us is “Come, follow me.” Many of us immediately drop everything to follow him, but once the road becomes narrower, or harder to climb, we may take a break or find a detour. We convince ourselves as long as we get to our destination it doesn’t matter if we followed Jesus exactly as he led. If we were really honest with ourselves, most of our personal goals would be to make it to Heaven. The goal of Jesus though was to bring heaven to Earth.

God asks you to pick up your cross and follow him. This isn’t the cross you will be crucified to for your own sins. Jesus would never ask you to climb on the cross. There is only one perfect offering and sorry, it’s not you. We are called to bear the burdens of each other. To lighten the load. When we carry the cross, we’re carrying it for friends and family who aren’t yet able to carry their own. It may have become too heavy or they may have not known it was there. He then wants us to carry it to the top of the mountain, stick it in the ground and allow him to climb on it.

We are the Hitch of the kingdom.

God wants us to be the match maker. He’s not asking you to save the world for him. He’s not asking you to heal anyone. All he’s asking you to do is make an introduction. God wants us to live for Him, so he may continue to be introduced to as many people as possible. His will is that everyone should reunite to him.

Christ never called us to die for him, but he did call us to live. Live for him today.

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World Premiere: Lil Dizzie Ft. Blasta Boss, Joko6E And Brythreesixty- Shakuzonto

Award winning Nigerian Afropop star Lil Dizzie is back with a bang! The artiste who has produced hits like Club Inferno, King Deuces, E- Money Anthem and many others. He promises to takeover the airwaves with yet another hit single, and this one is titled Shakuzonto

This monster jam features Blasta Boss from Kenya, Joko6E from South Africa, and Brythreesixty from Zimbabwe. Lil Dizzie never relents on his music career especially in the international scene.

Shakuzonto is a Afropop genre of music with creativity infusing the famous Nigerian dance “ShakuShaku” and Ghana dance “Azonto” together originated SHAKU-ZONTO.

This song is produced by Nigeian young producer MO’BEATZ. This is another party grooving jam for the young and old.

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My Freedom Day Quotes

Today March 14, 2019 the world celebrates World Freedom Day. Freedom from modern day slavery, injustice, and violence around the world.

Happy World Freedom Day! #worldfreedomday

“The secret to happiness is freedom… And the secret to freedom is courage.” – Thucydides

“True success, true happiness lies in freedom and fulfillment.” – Dada Vaswani

“Freedom lies in being bold.” – Robert Frost


“Freedom consists not in doing what we like, but in having the right to do what we ought.” – Pope John Paul II

“What then is freedom? The power to live as one wishes.” – Marcus Tullius Cicero

“Freedom comes from strength and self-reliance.” – Lisa Murkowski

“I prefer liberty with danger to peace with slavery.” – Jean-Jacques Rousseau

“I’m a big advocate of freedom: freedom of speech, freedom of expression, freedom of thought.” – Jimmy Wales

“I believe in freedom of speech, but I believe we should also have the right to comment on freedom of speech.” – Stockwell Day

What makes you free???

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Don’t Do the Devil’s Job for Him

Do you find yourself making it your job to control things? Do you stress out about things that you can’t control? If you’re anything like me, it’s more often than you would like to admit. God reminds me ALL THE TIME that He is the one in control, not me. Can we control everything that goes on in our lives? No. Letting go is something I still work on daily.

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When we take control of our own lives, things are never as good as when we let God have control. If we are controlling our lives, then we are the ones making decisions about our lives instead of aligning ourselves with the will and the word of God.

We can not do the devil’s job for him. The devil wants to come in, cause division in all areas of our lives, in the lives of those around us, and in the Kingdom. If the devil can get us to do his job for him, he can sit back and watch us crumble.

The need for control does the devil’s job for him because:

  1. It causes us stress.
  2. Makes us anxious.
  3. Creates division between us and others.
  4. It delays our obedience to God’s plan.

If we are under stress  and anxious, we are not trusting God. When we trust God and focus on His plan, we will be overwhelmed with a supernatural sense of security and comfort.

At the center of division is the problem of control. Division between people happens when both sides are fighting for control and neither is willing to fight for unity. When we fight for control at the expense of unity, we are doing the devil’s job for him.

“Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall.” Luke 11:17 NIV

Christine Caine says “delayed obedience is still disobedience“. When we take things into our own hands, we are telling God that we think our plan is better. We eventually always come back around to His plan because His plan for us is always better. There is not a better example of this than when I avoided serving in the kids ministry at my church. I used to work as an Assistant Director of a preschool in town. At church I did everything I could to avoid serving in kids since I worked with kids every day during the week. Guess what? I now serve on staff with the cKids team at Celebration Church. By delaying my obedience because I was trying to control things and do things my way. I spent two years avoiding the exact place God wanted to place me.

Here are 4 ways conquer your need for control:

  1. Align yourself with God’s word and His will.
  2. Take your issues to God first. When you do take it to another person, seek to tell them what God did in your life instead of seeking validation in your need to control things.
  3. Pray. Ask God to help you give full control over to Him in all areas of your life.
  4. Give grace to yourself and others.

What have you tried to have control over that didn’t turn out well? The good news is, it is never to late to hand it all over to God! Do not take on things you were never meant to carry. God is waiting and willing to take it back.

When God Changes His Mind

A 65 year old woman had a heart attack and was taken tot he hospital. While on the operating table, she had a near- death experience. Seeing the Lord standing, she asked, “Is my time up?” The Lord said, NO, you have another 33 years, 2 months, and 8 days to live. Upon recovery, the woman decided to stay in the hospital and have various types of surgery on her body to look younger again. Since she had so much more time to live, she figured she might as well make the most of it. After her last operation, she was discharged from the hospital. While crossing the street on her way home, she was killed by an ambulance. Arriving in front of God again, she demanded, “I thought you said i had another 33 years? why didn’t you pull me out of the path of the Ambulance?”

God replied: I didn’t recognize you!

What a pity! The Holy Ghost wants you to know that “No matter what Good has spoken or promised to you, they will never manifest if you do not keep your part of the deal, since every promise of His has a condition attached to it. Yes, God is Almighty but He needs to work with you to bring His plans and purpose to pass.

May we not miss our opportunity of abundance blessings from God by our own ways in Jesus name.

Running Steady and Consistent Does Not Always Mean Running Fast

Recently I have tried to get back into running. I started to use a running coach app that teaches and encourages me throughout my run. A major focal point of the first few runs has been the different types of runs. There are recovery runs, interval runs and even max effort runs. The first two of my runs were recovery runs. These runs are about running at an even and consistent pace. The progression of each run is to start slow, ease into the full run and allow my body time to wake up and realize its being active.

Regardless of the type of run, easing into it is critical. When I look back at my previous runs I see that I am not running faster, which isn’t the purpose, but I am keeping a steadier pace throughout the run. This is a win. When I was running before, I would always try to be faster throughout, but would end up being slow at the end.

Running with revelation

As I ran with this new mindset, I was hit with a revelation. What if my spiritual run was like this? What if instead of constantly living in spiritual highs and lows, I could live a consistent and steady spiritual life? The mindset of running a certain speed, or distance had to shift. I just had to get out and enjoy the run. Similarly, my life mindset had to shift. It had to shift from obtaining accomplishments and goals by a certain age, or time to enjoying what and where life has me right now. Do you find yourself getting this huge wind of spiritual high after hitting bottom to then only a few days later hit bottom again? This kind of fluctuation of spiritually can be harmful to our relationship with God and ultimately burn us out.

“Therefore, my dear brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the Lords work, knowing that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” 1 Corinthians 15:58 NLT

Our faith should be consistent

While we may have times of great triumph which our praise and thanks are elevated, our faith and hope should not fluctuate. If our faith is only high when good things are happening is it really faith? Often in life we can get stuck in this performance identity that tells us if things are going a certain way life is good, God is good. If I’m finishing my miles under a certain time then all is well and life is good, God is good. But if we aren’t performing to what this false identity is telling us, then we believe that something is wrong. We believe that God must be mad at us, or he doesn’t care about us anymore.

“Let us run with endurance the race that lies before us.” – Hebrews 12:1

We aren’t called to run as fast with max effort for the rest of our lives. We are to run at a pace that allows us to consistently build upon our lives, so that we are a better version of ourselves than yesterday. Maybe you have issues with anger, or dealing with someone at work. Each time you get into a situation that makes you angry, I encourage you to find a way to deal with your anger better each time. Let this be your practice until eventually… it is not an issue.

That is breakthrough. That is God working in your life. And if you aren’t getting better ask God why. Ask him what is that you are holding on to that isn’t allowing you to stay at a consistent pace. Trust me from experience, he’ll let you know if you let him!

Don’t Let Life Hijack You

Don’t let life hijack your brain! Life used to hijack my brain all the time! I used to worry about why my work wasn’t noticed, why can’t I figure out my life, why is my life this hard and I work very hard, etc….these types of thoughts consumed me every day. I allowed these things that were beyond my control to hijack my everyday thoughts. All of this negativity followed me all day long.

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It is up to you to realize that you must fill your brain with goals- be ambitious! Like the body requires the proper nutrition to perform optimally, the brain requires positivity, self-confidence and, most of all, it is up to you to control it. Once that mind gets hijacked, you are doomed!Something or someone controls it and they will take you for a ride. Trust me- a lot of people enjoy these mind games and watching you respond like a puppet to their every command. No one wants to fail a test. No one wants to get heartbroken. No one wants to get passed over for the promotion at work. No one wants to feel expendable. But, guess what? That is the world we live in. You must learn to push past every single thing and person that wants to hijack your mind. It is critical that you always have goals in front of you so that those negative things that will happen to you don’t derail you and your plans. Make sure that you are the only one who owns the real estate in your mind!

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