What You Need To Realize If You Feel Like You Aren’t As Far As You Should Be In Life #BriannaWeist

1. Sometimes the thing you keep trying to fix about yourself isn’t meant to be fixed.

A lot of culture tries to tell us that we can be perfect if we work hard enough – and that not being perfect is a product of laziness. But there are things about ourselves we are not meant to change. It’s human nature to want to feel like we belong, but what makes us different sets us apart. We’re not meant to shed the things that make us who we are – even if those things are sometimes quirks and weaknesses and fears.

Sometimes you keep the weight on because when you think you can’t rely on your looks, you start to develop your interests and your sense of self.

Sometimes you can’t finish the project because that’s not the project that you have in you to create. Sometimes you keep having emotional breakdowns because you’re trying to stop yourself from going any farther down the wrong path. Instead of trying to change the things that make us uncomfortable, sometimes we have to trust them.

2. Your life isn’t going to change if it doesn’t need to change.
There are some things in life that are hard to change, but you need to change, like staying in a relationship that’s hurting you, not being able to hold down a job, living outside of your means, abusing a substance or not getting help for a mental illness. But these things are extreme. Being obsessed with changing yourself can make your life exponentially worse if you begin to discard everything that’s good in favor of what could be better.

Your life will not change if it doesn’t need to change – that’s what nobody will tell you. If you’ve paid your bills and do work you find at least somewhat enjoyable and spend time with a few people who are close to you and have some clothes in your closet and know where your next meal is coming from, you’re doing better than you think you are.

Continually “fixing” yourself when nothing is wrong will only exhaust you. It will make you miserable. It will condition your brain to be anxious about nothing and everything.

If you can take an honest look at yourself and acknowledge that you’re doing alright, maybe the problem is more that you don’t know how to be content and weather the natural discomforts of life, rather than uproot and overhaul the second you experience a slightly uncomfortable feeling.

3. Timing is everything – and the thing about timing is that you can only understand it in retrospect.
You will not meet your life partner a day before you are ready to. The job opportunity you’ve been searching for will not present itself until you’ve learned what you need to from where you are. Sometimes you are meant to have seasons of idleness. Sometimes what you find on the detour ends up being the better destination.

Sometimes the novel is not ready to be written because you haven’t met the inspiration for your main character yet. Sometimes you need two more years of life experience before you can make your masterpiece into something that will feel real and true and raw to other people.

Sometimes you’re not falling in love because whatever you need to know about yourself is only knowable through solitude. Sometimes you haven’t met your next collaborator. Sometimes your sadness encircles you because, one day, it will be the opus upon which you build your life. – Jamie Varon

4. There’s no one blueprint for how a life should go.

Forcing your life into specific timelines is what’s causing you pain. It’s not that you aren’t where you should be, it’s that you think you should be somewhere else. You can’t do “growth” wrong. Becoming who you are isn’t something that takes a set number of weeks or months or years in your 20s.

You are not supposed to be the person you thought you’d grow up to be when you were in high school. You made projections based on the limited knowledge you had then. You made assumptions that turned out not to be true. You do not owe it to your younger self – or anyone else – to be something you that no longer suits you.

5. The hardest and longest lesson that any one of us can learn is to do what we can, and surrender to the rest.
By showing you what you cannot control, you are reminded of what you can. By making you feel helpless, you are pushed to take action. By taking away what you thought you couldn’t bear to lose, you see that you are not reliant on anything but your heart and mind. By bringing waves of unexplainable pain, you remember that not everything can be understood, but it must still be endured. By showing you what you do not have success doing, you begin to redefine what you think you’re here for.

When we are confronted with what we can’t change, we are shown what we can. Life is always trying to awaken us to an inner power.

6. Sometimes the best and most poignant parts of your life will be the ones in which you aren’t all that happy.
If you think you’re not where you should be in life, it’s probably because you aren’t as happy as you imagined you could be.
But “happiness” is such a crude measure of whether or not you’re doing alright, because it doesn’t account for what really makes people thrive: fulfillment, purpose, movement, meaning.

Sometimes, you will uncover the best parts of yourself as you dig yourself out from uncertainty and despair. Sometimes, the work that will make you most proud and fulfilled is the same work that exhausted you and kept you up until 1 a.m. every weeknight creating it.

Sometimes, the forever person you’ve been waiting for is on the other side of the challenging relationship you have to get through now.

A happy life is not consistent with a good one. Happiness tends to breed complacency, which is good – for a bit. But wildfires are as necessary to human hearts as they are to nature:
We think of forest fires as these devastating events that we need to stop, but they are actually vital to ecological health of an area. There are plants that require the heat of a wildfire for their seeds to burst open and plant themselves in the earth. There are others that are meant to be flammable, so that fires quells competition. As it turns out, forests are made to have a periodic cleansing by fire. Your heart is made this way, also. – Chrissy Stockton

7. You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
It’s easy to think that we are only ever “meant” for good things, that the only seasons of our lives that are “correct” are the ones that we enjoy. But the dark moments of your life are just as intentional as the better ones. They serve just as much purpose.

There is no instance in which you are ever not where you are supposed to be. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be there. Rather than constantly running to the next thing, the next goal, the next change, consider that everything that’s in front of you – the good and the bad – is there on purpose, and your real job is only to figure out what that purpose is.

What Is Enough?

I don’t know anyone who hasn’t wished for more than they have or at least, very few. And, those few who said they had enough were usually people who had already lived a full life and amassed a substantial amount of money so they never had to worry about paying their bills or living the way they wanted.

But, is this really what is meant by having enough?

Missing Life’s Joys
To have enough for some people never comes. They never seem to be happy with what they have always moaning about somebody they know who has more money, or a bigger house, or a newer car, or who goes on regular exotic vacations. For these people, I am truly sorry.
They have missed a great deal that life has to offer by seemingly looking for more to make them happy. But, I doubt that happiness will ever find them no matter how much they have.

Happiness Beyond Wealth
For others, having enough means that they live comfortably; they live a lifestyle that befits their monetary means but this does not mean that they suffer.

These type of people do not need the newest of everything being quite satisfied with a car that may be used and a couple of years old just glad that they have a dependable automobile to get them to where they need to go.

It means that they enjoy a back yard BBQ just as much as if they were flying off to an exotic destination. They spend quality time with their family enjoying the comradeship and the little quarrels that spill over from time to time. They go to bed being grateful for what they have.

Not Happy At All
And, others may have had enough but decided that their lifestyle it brought what not really what they needed or wanted or indeed, what made them happy. These are the people who had the big salaries, had the company car, had all the conferences and offsite get a ways, who had the big house and the cottage by a remote lake. And, for all they had, they spent exactly that and then some.

To these people, this kind of life was not satisfying because it was filled with a type of phoniness where you never really seemed to have friends in the truest sense, instead a whole bunch of acquaintances that you associated with because they were part of the role, expected as a team player or a corporate gopher.

Now, on the other hand, there are thousands of people who think this is just what they always wanted. If this is the case and they are really happy, then good for them. But for all those others, when is enough to the point when enough doesn’t mean anything anymore?

We have a friend who had it all – a well paying job, a big house, the cottage that most people would love to have as a house! But he was truly unhappy. There were many who looked at him and couldn’t understand why he was not the happiest man in the world. But as he said to me, “all these things are just material things, they don’t bring true happiness.”

It Is Your Decision
The point is this: to have enough is something that only your inner self can explain. It is up to you to really decide what makes you happy and what is enough when it comes to your life, family, job and so forth.

On the other hand, if you feel that enough is no longer what you value, then it is time to make a change to what you really want. Maybe this change requires you to move away from what you have been doing, take a new job or career direction or start your own business.

Maybe it is time to have a hard look at your own values and see whether these values have been compromised over the years to the point where you need to make a big adjustment.

Decide now before you end up forever searching for what is enough.


Boko Haram, the Nigerian terrorist group, kidnapped 110 school girls in the town of Dapchi around February.

According to reports, many of the terrorists dressed as soldiers during the raid of the school and confused the students. Recently the same Boko Haram group returned most of the girls, except one who is still in captive as she refused to convert her faith and belief from Christianity to Islam. The father of the girl speaks….

Nata Sharibu, father of the only student of Federal Government Science and Technical College, Dapchi, Yobe state who is yet to be freed, says Boko Haram insurgents decided not to release his daughter because she refused to denounce Christ.

In a surprising manner, Boko Haram fighters returned the girls to Dapchi on Wednesday. The Cable had earlier reported that Liya Sharibu did not make it back to Dapchi apart from the five schoolgirls who reportedly lost their lives.

Speaking on RayPower FM shortly after the students were released, the girl’s father said he learnt that the insurgents gave his daughter the option of converting to Islam but she rejected it.
He expressed delight over her stance but prayed for her return.

“All of them were released. They said some were dead there and my daughter is alive but they cannot release her because she is a Christian,” he said.

“They gave her the option of converting in order to be released but she said she will never become a Muslim… I am very sad but I am also jubilating too because my daughter did not denounce. People of God, please let us raise prayer for Liya Sharibu that the hand of the Lord will be upon her, that the Lord should deliver her from the den of lions and bring her back safely without being molested. Pls let us arise and pray for this girl.

If you are a true Christian send this message to other Christian and dedicate at least 3 minutes to pray for this girl till she’s released. God bless you.

Repost: What Was the ‘Crime’ of Jesus That Got Him Crucified? #Easter #History #Crucifixion

Soon another Holy Week will be upon us, beginning with Palm Sunday and culminating with Easter Sunday. It was “the week that changed the world.”
The week began in a humble, triumphant sort of way. That may seem like an oxymoron. Jesus was hailed as a king, but rode in on a donkey—a humble way to begin His public entry into Jerusalem. Of course, He was fulfilling what Zechariah the prophet had foretold about 700 years before.

Dr. Paul L. Maier is a professor of ancient history emeritus from Western Michigan University. He is a terrific scholar on all things related to Jesus and the Gospels.
In his 1997 book, In the Fullness of Time, Maier writes of Jesus’ entry into the Holy City on the eve of the Passover on that very first Palm Sunday: the donkey “was the common beast of burden of the time, in contrast to the superior horse of gilded chariot used in Roman triumphs.”

The city was bustling and filled with people. Dr. D. James Kennedy notes this: “Josephus tells us that there were over three million pilgrims that visited the city on this occasion. 256,000 lambs were slain for the Passover.”

Of course, the climax of Jesus’ entry was His death (on Passover) and resurrection.
Why was Jesus crucified? What crime did He allegedly commit?

Crucifixion was a horrible way to die. It was so bad that no Roman citizen could be crucified. It was an execution reserved for slaves and bandits. How amazing then that the Son of God become man would allow Himself to be so degraded by people whom He Himself had created.

Crucifixion was invented in the Near East and perfected by the Romans. It was not uncommon for a crucified victim to suffer for days. Pontius Pilate was surprised Jesus had died in only a few hours—however, He had been scourged so horribly that He could have bled to death, had He been released after the whipping.

The crucified victim had the crime he committed posted above his head. Crucifixion was like a living billboard—do what this fellow did and you too could end up like this.

In the case of Jesus, we’ve all seen the crucifixes with INRI above His head. This stands for Iesus Nazarenvs Rex Ivdaeorvm, Latin for Jesus of Nazareth, King of the Jews, as recorded in John’s Gospel.
His “crime” was claiming to be a king, a treasonous act in ancient Rome.

In a television interview I once conducted with Dr. Paul Maier, he noted that there were three phases of Roman history, beginning with the Monarchy from 753 to 509 B.C. The next stage was the Republic from 509 to 30 B.C. And then there was the Roman Empire from 30 B.C. to 476.

Commenting on that first phase, Maier told me, “The first seven kings of Rome ended in a real tyrant. His name was Tarquin the Proud, and they didn’t want another king throughout their history.” Thus, after 509 B.C., the Romans eschewed the title “king” [rex] thereafter, despite having emperors who were far more powerful than any earthly king.

Thus, Jesus’ claim to be the King of the Jews was His death sentence. Maier adds: “[Rex] was a term of opprobrium. It was somebody who was trying to subvert the masses…. And that is the charge that the prosecution made, which really turned the case as far as Pontius Pilate was concerned.”

It’s a tragic fact that in 2000 years of Christian history, there have been anti-Semitic professing Christians who blamed the Jews for the crucifixion of Jesus.
But the fact is that Jesus laid down His life as fully God and fully man, who alone fulfilled the Ten Commandments, on behalf of sinners—so that those who believe in Him might be saved. As Jesus Himself said, “I lay down my life that I may take it up again. No one takes it from me, but I lay it down of my own accord. I have authority to lay it down, and I have authority to take it up again” (John 10:17-18). If there were any “crime” committed for which Jesus was dying, it was the crime committed by sinful people against our Holy Creator.

Christians believe that Jesus is the King, whose kingdom was foretold by Daniel the prophet about 500 years before He came, who said that in the “days of those kings”—which kings? The Roman kings—the God of heaven will set up a kingdom that will smite the Roman Empire.

It begins as a small stone but that stone goes on to become a mountain that fills the whole earth. Christianity began very small, but has grown to where about one-third of humanity claims to be Christian.

And so during this Holy Week, Christians celebrate the coming 2000 years ago of the King, who came the first time in humility, who will one day ride a white horse as the conquering King of kings and Lord of lords.

Around The World: China Bans Christians From All Church Activities #News #Trending #Top Post

As the persecution of Christians continue, here is the latest activity happening in China.

According to the source, Authorities across several counties China’s central Henan province issued a warning on March 8, forbidding any Christian gatherings in the area and placing Christians under house arrest. Additionally, officials continue to tear down couplet door decorations that use Christian language.

According to an anonymous source in Shangqiu, Henan, Christians there have been placed under house arrest without charge, with police officers watching their residence and requiring them to report where they are going every time they wish to leave the house.

“I heard that many churches in Sheqi County also received a notice that believers cannot gather anymore,” a Christian in Nanyang, Henan said. “Christians are afraid of gathering and they don’t have anywhere to gather either. Times have changed. It feels like the Cultural Revolution.”

The Cultural Revolution refers to the period between 1966 and 1976, when Mao Zedong attempted to destroy all influences besides Communism in China, and was a period of great economic and societal hardship, especially for citizens who practiced religion. Atheism began to be enforced as the official religious belief of the Communist Party.

A Christian named Wang spoke with a reporter on March 9, explaining that the day previous, a notice had gone out to all churches in the cities of Zhumadian and Zhoukou, as well as Gushi County, announcing that all religious activities in the area are cancelled until further notice. Though the warning stipulates that any who refuse to comply will be punished, the nature of that punishment is unclear.

In Tanghe County, authorities forcibly disbanded house church meetings and ordered all participants to register with a government operated Three-Self Church instead. Christians were warned that any who continued to meet would be fined 30,000 yuan (U.S. $4,700).

During the celebration of Chinese New Year, also known as Spring Festival, which can last several weeks in China, authorities inspected Christian households and removed any decorations which referenced religion. Couplets, which are banners with paired poetic phrases hung on both sides of the door to a house, are very common decorations for the Spring Festival. However, officials tore down all couplets which used the term “Emmanuel” and replaced them with couplets wishing for “good fortune and wealth” instead.

ChinaAid reports on instances of religious persecution, such as the outbreak of events across Henan province, in order to expose abuses by the Chinese government and promote human rights and rule of law in China.

Source: China Aid

Wait With Patient #JoyceMeyer #inspiration

We spend a lot of time in our lives waiting because change is a process. Many people want change, but they don’t want to go through the waiting process. But the truth is, waiting is a given—we are going to wait. The question is, are we going to wait the wrong or right way? If we wait the wrong way, we’ll be miserable; but if we decide to wait God’s way, we can become patient and enjoy the wait. It takes practice, but as we let God help us in each situation, we develop patience, which is one of the most important Christian virtues. Patience is a fruit of the Spirit (see Galatians 5:22). It’s developed only under trial, so we must not run from difficult situations. But let endurance and steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing (James 1:4).

As we develop patience, the Bible says we finally feel completely satisfied—lacking nothing. Even our relationship with God involves progressive changes. My relationship with God is so much different now than it was in the early days of my Christian experience. It is not nearly as emotionally exciting…and yet it is better. Every change I’ve gone through has made me more mature, solid and well-grounded. We learn to trust God by going through many experiences that require trust. By seeing God’s faithfulness over and over, we let go of trusting ourselves, and gradually we place our trust in Him. Looking at it like this, it is easy to see how timing plays an important part in learning to trust God. If He did everything we asked for immediately, we would never grow and develop. Timing and trust work side by side.

Making Jesus Famous: Seven Reasons to Not Fear Sharing Your Faith #evangelism

The word “ evangelism ” sends a shiver down the spine of many Christians.

This month is still a month of spreading the word, winning new souls, and making Jesus famous. Have shared some of the experiences have had that Jesus turned my situation to Joy. Let’s talk to our neighbours, colleagues at work or school, a passer by, or that person you always buy things from. This is a month of Evangelism.

“I won’t know what to say.” “I want to get to know the person better.” “They seem like they wouldn’t be open to the gospel.” “Evangelism is not my spiritual gift.”

There are many common excuses people use for not following the commands of Scripture to share the gospel (Matthew 28:16-20; Mark 16:15).

Here are some truths from Scripture that will encourage you to take a step outside your comfort zone and into the exciting world of sharing your faith in Christ:

1. It is by the power of God that people are saved.
For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes… (Romans 1:16)
Knowing that people are saved only through the power of God, and not by human effort or ability, should provide comfort for those seeking to make a kingdom-difference. This also takes the pressure off when people are not responding the way we want because we know we are not responsible for the salvation of a particular person, but God is.

2. When you share your faith, you gain a deeper understanding of Christ.
When we testify to others how God saved us from sin and wrath, how he has made us a new creation in Christ, and how has filled us with joy and peace by the Holy Spirit, we are reminded of God’s awesome work in our lives. This deepens our love and understanding of Christ.
In Philemon 6 the Apostle Paul says to Philemon, “I pray that you may be active in sharing your faith, so that you will have a full understanding of every good thing we have in Christ” (NIV).

3. Even Jesus was rejected.
Success in evangelism is measured not in the outcome, but in your obedience to the command of Christ. The story of the Jesus and the rich young ruler in Matthew 19:16-30 gives a great picture of this. The young man approached Jesus, interested in hearing about how to get to heaven.
You would think that any encounter with Jesus, the Son of God who has power to grant saving faith, would have been a sure-fire conversion. This was not the case.

After Jesus led him through the law (which shows us our sin and need for the Savior) and told him the cost of discipleship, we are told the young man went away sorrowful.

4. When we are rejected, we are promised heavenly rewards.
Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you. (Matthew 5:11-12)
Evangelist Mark Cahill calls all three potential witnessing outcomes a “win”:
If the person comes to Christ, that is an obvious win.

If they seem interested but don’t come to Christ, you plant seeds that God could water and grow in the future, which is another win.

If they reject you, you get heavenly rewards, which is definitely a win!
Not only is being rejected not bad, but we receive heavenly rewards when we are rejected.

5. The Holy Spirit will give you words.
In Luke 12, Jesus talks to his followers about being a witness. Verses 11 and 12 should be a comfort:

And when they bring you before the synagogues and the rulers and the authorities, do not be anxious about how you should defend yourself or what you should say, for the Holy Spirit will teach you in that very hour what you ought to say.

If God can speak through donkeys like he did in Numbers 22:28, people should be no problem for him! Take him at his word!

6. Our job is to plant seeds or water the soil. God takes care of the growth.
Just like a gardener cannot force seeds to spring forth with life merely by his will, evangelists cannot force people to respond to the message of Christ by their will. God is the one who gives life both physically and spiritually.

We should take the opportunities we are given to plant seeds by sharing the gospel and to water seeds already planted, but ultimately God will help the person grow.

7. God will go with you.
After he gave the Great Commission to go and make disciples in Matthew 28:18-20, Jesus did not leave his disciples alone but said, “Behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age” (v. 20). Going out on your own can be a frightening thing, but that is never the experience of the Christian.

Christ promises to always be with you.
Jesus said, “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few” (Matthew 9:37). Are you going to be a laborer, someone willing to take a step of faith and love to share the message of the gospel?

The Value Of A Smile

The value of a smile is priceless, yet it is the cheapest, easiest, most rewarding and most sincere gift to anyone that crosses your path. A smile makes a person’s day, anybody’s day even a stranger’s day. A smile is infectious. Start infecting people with your smile today.

A smile is nature’s best antidote for discouragement. It brings rest to the weary, sunshine to those who are sad, and hope to those who are hopeless and defeated.
A smile is so valuable that it can’t be bought, begged, borrowed, or taken away against your will. You have to be willing to give a smile away before it can do anyone else any good.
So if someone is too tired or grumpy to flash you a smile, let him have one of yours anyway. Nobody needs a smile as much as the person who has none to give.

Things Change #inspiration #motivation

For most people, graduation is an exciting day – the culmination of years of hard work. My graduation

day was a day to remember.

I remember that weekend 8 years ago. Family and friends had flown in from across the country to watch me walk across that stage. But like everyone else in my graduating class, I had watched the economy turn from bad to worse my senior year. After the university, I went on a compulsory full National Youth Service Corp for a year, which was mandatory for all graduates in my country. We worked and got paid by the government and where we worked. After a year, we are done with the programme. We graduates had degrees, but very limited prospects. Numerous applications had not panned out and I knew that the next day, I will start to carter for myself.
The weeks ahead weren’t easy. I gathered up everything I couldn’t carry and put it into storage. Then, because I knew where I was coming from, they couldn’t offer me any opportunities, I packed up and went back to Lagos to find work. But what I thought would take a week dragged into two, and then four, and 100 job applications later, I found myself in the exact same spot as I was before.
You know that feeling when you wake up and you are just consumed with dread? Dread about something you can’t control – that sense of impending failure that lingers over you as you hope that everything that happened to you thus far was just a bad dream? That feeling became constant in my life.
Days felt like weeks, weeks like months, and those many months felt like an unending eternity of destitution. And the most frustrating part was no matter how much I tried, I just couldn’t seem to make any progress.
So what did I do to maintain my sanity? I wrote. Something about putting words on a page made everything seem a little clearer – a little brighter. Something about writing gave me hope. And if you want something badly enough… sometimes a little hope is all you need!
I channeled my frustration into creating an entertaining blog. Where I vent in current entertainment news and some personal write up. I got used to blogging and started making some small change and recognition. Never did I refuse to give up.
And then one day, without any sort of writing degree or contacts in the writing world – just a lot of hard work and perseverance – I was offered a job with a media house to be a writer/ Public Relations Officer to some of the biggest artists in my country. After that, things slowly began to fall into place. Then, a few months later, I got an interview with a telecommunications company to be the Admin Officer of the company. Now I found my part in writing and spreading the good news around for people who are depressed or unmitigated to move on in life. I stopped the entertainment blog and created this wonderful blog “Motivated And Free”. To help people, and also draw them close to Christ.
The moral of this story is… don’t give up. Even if things look bleak now, don’t give up. Several years back, it was a different story for me. But I thank God for His grace and mercy with continuous favour in my daily activities.
If you work hard, give it time, and don’t give up, things will always get better. Oftentimes our dreams lie in wait just a little further upstream… all we need is the courage to push beyond the river.

I will appreciate if this is shared to your loved ones, family, and enemies. Let us kick depression out of the way.

The Ugly Truth About Addiction


This young lady’s story is really inspiring to social media addicts or to lady’s who are hungry for social media fame.

Alanna Ketler in November 3, 2015 shared to the whole world this deepest addiction and sacrifice to success story.

Essena O’Neil is a 19-year-old Australian Instagram star and she recently opened up to reveal the truth about her life and the shots that made her famous on social media.

She began her blog and YouTube account when she was in high school, and it wasn’t long before they completely consumed her life. She became a widely known online sensation, garnering over half a million followers on Instagram and over 250,000 YouTube subscribers. “I fell in love with this idea that I could be of value to other people,” she wrote. “Let’s call this my snowballing addiction to be liked by others.” Soon she was getting sponsorship opportunities and was able to support herself entirely through this work. She was also offered to model in L.A.

Many young girls looked up to O’Neil and were even obsessed with her. Little did they know that behind that pretty face was someone miserable and exhausted.

“Yeah 16-year-old Essena would have been like ‘WTF girl you have the dream life,’” she wrote. “So why did I feel so lost, lonely and miserable?”

O’Neil eventually decided she had had enough after realizing she wan’t living an authentic life. She then decided to make a drastic change in her life and announced to her followers that she was quitting social media, and has already begun editing all of the captions on her photos to tell the truth behind the pictures.

“I was addicted to what others thought of me, simply because it was so readily available,” she wrote. “I was severely addicted. I believed how many likes and followers I had correlated to how many people liked me. I didn’t even see it happening, but social media had become my sole identity. I didn’t even know what I was without it.”

Not only has she deleted her Tumblr account, but she plans to stop posting on YouTube as well. She has also deleted over 2,000 pictures from her Instagram account; she says they served no real purpose other than self-promotion. She also went as far as to admit that her “hot body” shots were the results of unhealthy habits…

“A 15 year old girl that calorie restricts and excessively exercises is not goals. Anyone addicted to social media fame like I once was, is not in a conscious state,”

“…Stomach sucked in, strategic pose, pushed up boobs,” O’Neill wrote. “I just want younger girls to know this isn’t candid life, or cool or inspirational. Its contrived perfection made to get attention.”

“Without realizing, I’ve spent majority of my teenage life being addicted to social media, social approval, social status and my physical appearance,” she wrote. “Social media, especially how I used it, isn’t real.”

She also opened up about how she was making money from some of her posts and was completely honest about how there were no actual “candid” photos; they were all staged and photoshopped.

Essena O’Neil Is Being the Change

What this young woman is doing is absolutely incredible. Having the courage to open up and be honest about everything she was doing is an amazing feat in itself. She is now able to be an excellent role model for all of her younger fans and they will know the truth and the true cost of this “success.” Some of her more recent posts are geared toward exposing the lies behind what you see on social media.

O’Neil has also started up a new website called LetsBeGameChangers.com to tell her full story, and is challenging her fans to give up social media for one week. She hopes to encourage others to be present and live life, authentically.

“The more you engage in any type of emotion or behavior, the greater your desire for it will become.