Photos: Am Officially A Married Man

God truly showed Himself. It was a big success on Saturday. Appreciate Every one that came and also those who prayed for the event.

Am so happy 😁😁😁😁

More photos below…

The traditional wedding was also lit.

More photos coming soon….

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Should Young Christians Rush to Get Married?

True or False?

Am not into relationship or marriage writing, but this caught my attention and needed to be shared.

For young adult Christians who have grown up believing that sex outside of marriage is wrong, it can be understandable that they might rush to the altar with the person they feel so strongly in love with. It’s no shock to anyone that young people are flooded with feelings and desires that lead them to wanting to be physical with whoever they are attracted to, and when sex is known as a sin unless it’s with a spouse, the rush to get a ring on that finger makes sense.

With a culture that so readily promotes the “happily ever after” path and seems obsessed with the latest pop culture couplings, marriages, divorces, and drama in between, it’s not surprising that many young people would view marriage as the ultimate destination and goal in relationships. Even in the church, marriage is often lauded as the best thing, the highest achievement, the greatest gift, and it can lead young people to feeling like they have to get to that point quickly for their lives, their relationships, and their presence in that community to really matter and have value.

Ethan Renoe recently wrote an article for Relevant asking “ Should So Many Christians Push to Get Married Young? ” and he zeroes in on one famous Bible passage about singleness and marriage: 1 Corinthians 7 . This passage has been often debated, and it raises some important (although controversial) questions.

In verse 8 of that chapter, Paul writes, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.”
This is a very different stance than what our culture and our churches tend to promote. “But what if Paul was telling the truth?” Renoe asks. “What if it really is better for us to remain single instead of diving headfirst into marriage?”
Wouldn’t that be something?

It’s a helpful and healthy question to ask ourselves, though. As a single woman in her mid-twenties, it’s one I find myself pondering often. The expectation seems to be that I will get meet the man of my dreams someday and then get married shortly thereafter… but I’m not so sure that’s what’s meant for me. I’m definitely in no hurry to get there if that is what the Lord has in store, that’s for sure. As I see more and more friends getting married (even friends quite a few years younger than me, which feels strange), I return to this question, wondering if marriage is really the ultimate good thing we should be striving for, or if Paul was right in encouraging singleness instead.

For the Christians (young or old) who pursue marriage as a way to justify their physical and sexual desires, it seems clear that the focus is misplaced. “As Christians,” Renoe explains, “our primary calling in life is not to gratify our sexual desires first and foremost. It is to glorify God, enjoy Him forever, and bring others into this sphere of blessedness. For this reason, I’ve come to see many of the young marriages of Christians as more of a detriment to the work of the church than a blessing.”

He goes on to say, “what I mean by that is, if we really believe that Jesus, not sex, is the source of our satisfaction, it should affect the way we live our lives. It means perhaps we would spend years of our lives giving to the world in sacrificial and beneficial ways before settling down with our sweetheart to raise children rather than diving into marriage for the wrong reasons.”

Now, this does assume that sex and a desire for physical intimacy is the driving force behind young couples getting married, which isn’t always the case. But he does make a good point that the Lord has great opportunities in store for us in our twenties and thirties when we free ourselves to follow his leading and serve him with our lives, unencumbered by such a serious relationship commitment. It’s not that the desires for intimacy go away, but instead that those who choose to embrace singleness instead redirecting those desires toward Jesus and the work he has for us instead.

We can pursue intimacy in other ways — in our prayer life with the Lord, in our Bible studies and conversations with close friends, in sharing our stories vulnerably with one another, and with sharing common interests and bonding with others around us.

While there have admittedly been times or seasons of my life where I have felt the absence of a meaningful relationship or longed for a husband, there have been many more times where I have been grateful for the freedom that comes with singleness, especially when it comes to service opportunities and ministry work in my church and community.

“We have become blinded by a culture that teaches that the truest source of satisfaction is sex, so it makes sense that many of us would marry young for a taste of that ecstasy,” Renoe writes.

What if we saw our lives instead as something so much greater? What if we saw our singleness as a chance to truly give ourselves to others? What if we saw our free time as a gift from the Lord allowing us to serve the people around us and expand the Kingdom? What if we reprioritized our desires and what is important to us, putting satisfaction in Christ above all else?

Like Renoe concludes, there is no hurry for us to get married. There are so many opportunities before us in the seasons we are in now, and there is so much goodness to be found in a life wholly committed to serving the Lord and others. Pursue him first and foremost, and discover that he, better than any other, can and will fulfill every desire of your heart, no matter your relationship status. The rings can wait.

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YF2018 Union: The Countdown Has Started!!!

So guys am getting married in the next 5 days…

I owe every single moment of my relationship with my beautiful bride to be to God Almighty. For good 3 years we have been together, in good times and bad times. The trial period and the harvest period. She stood by me all along and supported me when I was broken, broke, and lost. I give every to God for putting me through your path as we journey this life together my Queen.

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YF 2018

My Beautiful Queen

What more can I ask for???

You have made me the happiest man on earth.

My Humble self

Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing. And obtains favour from the Lord”.

About to start a new phase in my life #Happy

The only thing I can use to repay you for all your love, care, support, and prayers is to make you my better half and partner for life. To make you my wife and mother of my kids. Thank you for stealing the keys to my heart as we exchange our vows November 3rd, 2018.

Hope This Video Inspires You

Life is not all bed of roses. You will face challenges, you will be insulted, neglected, rejected and abused. But always remember you are who you are. When they tell you your business won’t go far, you don’t have to argue with anyone, just keep going. When they tell you your ugly, appreciate the fact that you are alive and kicking life to the wall.

This young lady is now a motivational coach and speaker to younger kids who are faced with challenges within their environments.

Be inspired, Be motivated!!!

Video: Daystar Christian Center “Women Of Destiny Conference 2018”

Am so touched and gingered when I hear the truth about life. A powerful conference that just ended in Daystar Christian Centre Lagos Nigeria “Women of Destiny Conference”. It’s motivating and inspiring!!!

Where my ladies in the house 📣📣📣… This is for you.

This are the videos I could get from the speakers of this wonderful conference.

First I want to acknowledge my Senior Pastor “Pastor Seun Uwubamen” she was part of the speakers and she gave a wonderful presentation of relationship and in a married home.

Mehn this woman of God is always on fire and a very honest woman when it comes to responsibility between a husband and wife. Pastor Mrs Felix Adejumo. Check her preachings and teachings on YouTube.

It is my first time watching her teach. I must admit she gave her best and her best was wonderful. “Laurie Idahosa” God bless you MA.

Guys watch, you will thank me later…

Photos: Congratulations Tolulope And Ayodeji 2018

There is nothing like seeing your sister getting hitched. The joy of two coming together to become one is just a wonderful feeling.

What God has joined together, let no man put assunder. This Saturday is going to be Legen….. Wait for it….. dary 😁

It all started when we both thought of the future been married and starting a family. I remembered after church service we used to gist about life and how everything we ever wished for come to pass. Gradually sis, it’s already coming to pass.

The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.

True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart.

Love is physiologically a legal battle that lovers fight until death.

Congratulations sis… God bless your union!!

9 Types Of Wives You Must Not Be

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When I got a message, I was expecting nothing like this but it came through. I laughed for a while after going through the write up. But most especially it’s a good lesson and, information for troubled homes. Decided to share this, it might go a long way for couples out there.

1. Chameleon wives: They smile but they don’t mean it. They are pretenders and always right. They kneel to greet pastor but not their husband.

2. Goat wives: They are boxers and fighters. They beat and fight their husband at every little provocation. They are not submissive. They compete leadership with their husband. There cannot be two heads. Any thing with two heads is a monster. A woman should respect the head. Though she can give suggestion, she should not compete with the man as the head of the home.

3. Peacock wives: They are richer than their husband is. They are proud, arrogant, and very stubborn.

4. Mosquito wives: They are party wives; they love pleasure and are very sociable. They have no time for their children. They go for parties always and leave their responsibility to house help.

5. Butterfly wives: They are too fragile; they love to be pampered all the time. A woman should be hardworking and resourceful.

6. Pig wives: They are dustbin wives. They are dirty. Their house is dirty, smelling, and unkempt.

7. Vulture wives: They have zero tolerance for other women talking to their husband. They police their husband and check their handset every minute. They are possessive and jealous and do not trust their husbands.

8. Bull dog wives: They are ready to fight, keep malice with their husbands. They use sex as a weapon to punish their husband.

9. Hawk wives: They pursue joy and pleasure at the detriment of their family. They transfer their functions to their maids and driver. Forgetting that whoever has access to the mind of your children is the trainer of your children. Even if have a cook, serve your husband yourself.

Invest in your marriage. What you put into your marriage is what you will get out of it. Invest your time in your home, in books in research and in Word study.
Know the love language of your spouse and give it to them. It is different for different people. Some it is gift, assisting with house chores, adventures, communication etc.

Deal with your spouse according to knowledge and understanding.

Before You Call The Wedding Planner: By Funke Egbemode 

My best friend sent this great write up to me this morning. After reading, it got to me and decided to share because it doesn’t belong to my phone, but for the whole world to read and be careful. 

Marriage is becoming a risky business by the hour. Instead of enlarging the family, it is reducing it. When your son or daughter marries, you expect grandchildren as dividends. Now, your initial investment gets liquidated in a pool of blood, without recourse to you. One infuriated sick and weak girl just grabs a kitchen knife and carves up your son in a flash, ripping out your heart and dreams of being surrounded by happiness in your old age. One silly boy in a moment of uncontrollable blinding fury stabs your daughter in the throat, leaving you reeling in that kind of pain no parent can recover from. Wives killing their husbands. Husbands killing their wives. How did our innocent babies become murderers? How did we miss it? What did we do wrong, or failed to do that is filling our doorsteps with shoes of mourners and our once happy homes with wailings and gnashing of teeth? Did the Bible not promise that our children will surround our tables and that we will not cast our young? So, what is going on? It is bad enough that more and more young marriages are failing. It is already a sad testimony that more women are becoming breadwinners and telling our sons when to snore in their own beds. But this added blood and gore and loss and unending pain… Or are you not worried?

Sure, the latest tragedies happened far from you but they are really closer than you think. If you still think these recent spousal murders do not really concern you, take a look at your daughter, your son and tell yourself you can vouch for the spouses they will end up with. And if your children are already in their 20s and of marriage age, swear you are not a teensy bit concerned about the suitors milling around them. That fine-boy-no-pimples full of smiles and politeness, does he have anger issues? Is he a keeper, a reaper or a taker? That babe who is already calling your son ‘Ayo mi’ (my joy) or ‘honey’, can you trust her with your greatest treasure, your brilliant caring son?
There is no retirement age for parents. We are parents for life. Our job is cut out for us and we must do it with all our heart and might. There is really no short cut. This is our calling until we are called home by He who chose us for this assignment as daddies and mummies. Of course, the temptation to hand over our daughters and our parenting jobs over to our in-laws the day we give them out in marriage will always be there. But it is a temptation we must resist as soon as the effects of red wine champagne wears off. Yeah. Wine-carrying, celebrated destination wedding ceremonies with the captains of industry and 10 governors in attendance is what it is, just another party. The marriage itself begins the following day. And let’s not forget that the young bride and groom had lived a protected life up until their wedding day. They were chauffeured to primary and secondary schools, assisted in picking their universities. Their NYSC postings were arranged by daddy. Their first jobs too via daddy’s connections. This is the first time they would be taking huge steps on their own. They probably will still be using daddy’s mechanic and mummy’s travel agent and caterer. Don’t bother denying it. We are all guilty of over-parenting. We all look forward so much to the days our children will get married that we forget there are things we must do, that is, beyond the small chops and assorted meals from here to China.
Raise your hand if you did a proper background check on your son’s wife before the wedding. Seriously? Yeah.
*Let me stress this point then. You must investigate your daughter’s suitor, your son’s intended. Don’t be overly excited by the diamond ring he gave her or the rich family she comes from. You must do your research. You must ensure you are not handing over your treasure to a pig who’ll go play in the mud with it. Most parents hardly ever do that background check before calling the wedding planner. Is he abusive? Does she throw flower vases at television sets? Does his father beat his mother? Is her mother cantankerous? Before you fix the wedding date, make sure you are not funding a ceremony that will put your child in an early grave. That is the pre-wedding warning.*
However, marriage is the critical point. While I think it is a sin to meddle in your children’s marriage, I also think it is a crime to push our children into the deep end of the pool without providing life jackets. Parents should let new couples totter, falter, fall even but be there to help them back on their feet. Watch from a distance but watch you must, keenly, discreetly, wisely. The fear of failure and what the society would say make a lot of new couples die in silence. Without being intrusive, nudge your daughter or daughter-in-law to speak freely. Call her to accompany you to a party you don’t want to attend alone. Start a topic that will help her open up. It could be a new television series, a movie with a relationship or marriage theme. And being a busy politician or high flying executive is not an excuse. I open such topics with my girls while they are helping me pick an  evening dress, do my make-up or while we are watching a movie that I had picked for that purpose. I have also had such intimate talks with my son as he drove us to church. 
Fathers, let your son-in-law accompany you to events, golf course, church, mosque. What’s wrong with an occasional barber-date together? Get your grooming Saturday in sync. It helps you see through what they may be trying to hide without asking probing questions. You have gained an extra child and that should be an advantage.
Stop by unannounced occasionally too and make such visits  brief, very brief.  Take along gifts. Those unannounced visits help you to catch them without rehearsed speeches. Hug the wife, she will wince or grunt if she has been kicked or punched. Does she have puffy eyes, discoloured cheeks or walking with a limp? If every time you go there, there is always a story why a piece of furniture is broken or cracked, one of them  may be violent, hurling coffee mugs at the television or kicking flower vases.
And if you discover that one of them is abusive, don’t expect them to sort it out on their own or with their pastor. An abusive wife or husband is a sick person. He needs help. She needs to see the appropriate doctor, it is an emergency. If the abusive partner refuses to get help, retrieve the one that belongs to you to safety. My mother used to counsel that a safe small corner on earth is better than a big space in the grave. You cannot fold your arms and hope she will stop slapping your son while she graduates to stabbing him. If he has pushed her down the staircase once and you leave her there, who will you blame when your church elders arrive with sober faces to break the news of your daughter?
Of course I know my pastor, and many other pastors reading this, will object to my ‘retrieve-your-child’ solution but I prefer my pastor chides me to him telling me ‘it is well’ later. God forbid. If a sick spouse gets help, the marriage can get back on track and everybody gets a chance to live happily ever after. And read the Bible too.Before you call the wedding planner

My Friend’s Wedding 

What God has joined together let no man put assunder. I am so against the policy of divorce these days. Whenever there is a problem in a relationship or marriage, pray to God and believe all will be surely great. Remember how it was and reflect on that special day you guys became one. 

That leads me to the main issue of this short piece… 

Only if you know the pain behind that smile. The fight, the struggle to keep a good relationship, the resources needed for a successful wedding day. 

Today I celebrate my friend turned sister, Tutu who got married last week. God bless your new home with blessings, favour, fruitfulness, and divine resources in Jesus name. 

Happy Sunday guys!!! 🎈💕💕💕💕💕