Celebrating Women Around The World

Enjoy—and then go out there and be a part of the movement to advocate for women.

You guys matter.

I love you all!

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This Is An Interesting Story And Lesson For Men

When I started reading this post sent to me on my WhatsApp, I was first confused, but getting towards the end, it made real sense and lesson to be learnt. Please be patient enough to read it.

The metaphor used in this story Is amazing..

(To men) Please take time to ponder. 😕

(To women) Just enjoy the story. 😋

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighbouring kingdom.

The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question was:
*What do women really want?*

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but first he would have to agree to her price.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur’s closest friend. Young Arthur was horrified.

She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.

He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden.

But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered.

Arthur’s question thus:
“What a woman really wants?”

She said, “A woman wants to be in charge of her own life.”

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth, and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was. The neighbouring monarch granted Arthur his freedom. And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him.

The most beautiful woman he had ever seen was sitting by the bed.

The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth become her horrible and deformed self only half the time, and be the beautiful maiden the other half.

“Which would you prefer?” She asked him. “BEAUTIFUL during the DAY… OR at NIGHT?”

Lancelot pondered the predicament.

During the day, he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!

OR,

would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day? But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous moments with?

(If you are a man reading this) What would YOUR choice be?

(If you are a woman reading this) What would YOUR MAN’S choice be?

And Lancelot’s choice is given below…

BUT, please make YOUR choice first before you scroll down below!

OKAY?

Knowing the answer the witch gave to Arthur for his question, Sir Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.

Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

Now, what is the moral to this

The moral is…

1. There is a ‘witch’ in every woman, no matter how beautiful she is. It’s how a man manages it

2. If you let a woman decide on her own she gives u d best. but if u force her with ur decisions she becomes a witch.

Hmmmm
What do you think ?

So, be careful how you treat a woman, especially your wife; so your prayers may be answered!!!

True or False???

Drop your comments below.

Happy Sunday guys!!!

What Are You Grateful For This Year

This year is such a blessing for me. God truly answers prayers, He never fails.

Am grateful to God for the gift of life and saving me from death traps during my traveling.

Am thankful and grateful to God for my family and friends that stood by me this year.

Am grateful to God for Good Health and sound mind.

Am grateful to God this year, allowing me to marry my best friend and Queen this year.

Am grateful to God for providing for my needs.

Am thankful and grateful to all of you reading my blog, and my community members. You guys are my professional colleagues. Thank you for everything have learnt from you guys this year.

Am grateful for the word of God. A-side the persecutitof Christians around the world, the gospel is still spreading very fast.

Am grateful for my country Nigeria. With the difficulties and economic downfall. God still kept us moving and alive.

Am grateful for my place of work and the favour and protection God gave to me.

We all have something to be grateful for this year. If you don’t have anything, just look at the way you breathing and alive. If you feel you asked God for something and you didn’t get it. Don’t fret and be dissapointed, God will surprise you in 2019 in Jesus name.

I love you guys, see you in 2019

Happy New Year in advance…

Merry Christmas From Motivated And Free

Am sending my love to you guys. My professional colleagues in my community, my readers, and my followers. You guys made my 2018 great. Learnt a lot from you people and thank God we all here to celebrate Christmas.

So I decree and declare that…
This Christmas, I wish peace sequester your life, love flood your soul and happiness are reflected in your face, I wish you from the heart all the good that you deserve.
May you never miss LOVE … and if you do not find it, you already know where I live.

I wish you a Christmas full of mathematics: addicted to pleasure, subtracted from pain, multiplied with happiness and divided in love with the people that matter most to you.

Merry 🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅

One And The Other

Both men received the same sentence,
Both would serve the same penalty,
One man would live in paradise,
The other too blinded to see.

One’s heart was stonily calloused,
His sins he refused to see,
The other fully acknowledging,
Why he’d been led to Mt. Calvary

Dragging their crosses behind them,
Gave them time to reflect on their deeds,
One man defiant and hostile,
The other aware of his needs.

But along with the two walked another,
Sentenced to die that same day,
What did he do to justify,
Them treating Him in the same way?

When they’d reached the place called Golgotha,
One thief could no longer pretend,
As their bodies were raised on the crosses,
It was certain his life would soon end.

Both men had heard the stories,
Of this carpenter from Galilee,
Who raised the dead, gave sight to the blind,
And taught of God’s great mystery.

In one it stirred up a yearning,
Of hope that endures past the grave,
The other found only anger,
And a feeling of being betrayed.

One man joined in the mocking,
“If you’re God come and set us free!”
The other studied His countenance,
His poise and His calm dignity.

In the midst of the hatred and taunting,
Jesus spoke words beyond all belief,
“Father please forgive them,”
Not in anger but chocking back grief.

At the words one man’s heart had melted,
The other stayed hardened as stone,
One entered in eyes wide open,
The other in darkness alone.

The words gave one man confidence,
To ask of Him one grand request,
“Lord remember me in your kingdom,”
“I am weary and need peace and rest.”

In the midst of the pain and anquish,
While suffering for all of our vice,
With a look of love, He said to the thief,
“Today you will see paradise.”

Dealing with Grief and Finding Hope

Nobody wants to die but want to go to heaven.
Death is inevitable. But death─ sudden or expected─ always brings sorrow and grief to the ones who are left behind. However, life still marches on. It is hard, but we must remember that as humans we have an immense ability to cope with anything that life brings. Although we all have different levels of coping abilities, there are several basic and universal steps to dealing with grief and finding hope again…

Allow The Feelings To Flow: Losing someone you love will conjure all unimaginable emotions within you, sorrow, regret, guilt, pain, grief, heartbreaks, misery, anger, sadness and many more. Feeling these emotions all at once can be extremely difficult. It is quite normal, so let them flow. You do not need to suppress them. Cry all you want. With time and allowing grief to be released, it will become less painful. It is an important process that will help you in dealing with grief and accepting your loss.

Talk About It When You Can: Talking about the death of your loved ones can be a way of remembering them and can help you understand what happened. It will give you the opportunity to start the healing process. Denying the death of a loved one can result in isolation and you pushing away your family and friends.

Find A Support System: Coping with a loved one’s death is never easy; especially if you are dealing with it alone. You need support coming from your family and friends so that you can find comfort and overcome grief faster. Moreover, while your family and friends can be your greatest source of support for overcoming the death of someone, but it is also advisable that you take advice from professional people when you find all the emotions and pain too hard to handle. Psychologists give professional advice and develop strategies according to your needs to get you through the grieving process.

Understand The Grieving Process: Dealing with grief and bereavement is a process. It is quite important to allow yourself to experience every stage of the grieving process for you to completely heal. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross outlined the five stages of grief in her book titled “On Death and Dying.” These stages are not necessarily experienced in order and some stages can be revisited. These five stages are:

  • Denial: Dealing with death can be overwhelming. It is an incomprehensible experience and you can find it hard to believe that your loved one is gone. You continue to deny that it is not happening and there is no way that your loved one left you.
  • Anger: As you realize the reality of your situation you begin to feel angry. Your anger or fury might be directed to your loved one for leaving you, to the doctors for not doing their job and healing your loved one, to God who took your loved one or even to yourself for maybe not being a better person to your loved one. All of this is quite normal and will pass.
  • Bargaining: It is quite common for an individual to start bargaining or negotiating with a higher power, like God. Do not be surprised or think that you are crazy when you start making deals with God like: “I will be better, just please give him back to me.”
  • Depression: The sorrow and overwhelming sadness you feel after the death of a loved one is normal. It is common to feel that your life will never be the same again. This feeling does not last forever and will pass with time.
  • Acceptance: This stage does not necessarily mean that you accept or come to terms that your loved one is already dead. It does not mean that if you are already at this stage, you will not revisit the other stages above. But rather, it means that the pain and grief of losing someone you love will reduce and become more manageable.

Celebrate Life: You need to mourn the death of your loved ones, but there comes a time when you need to turn from the mourning toward a new stage, of celebrating life again. Understanding that death is inevitable and that we will all die someday will give you an opportunity to live your life to the fullest. Remember that your life does not stop when someone you love passes away. Ask yourself this: “Would he or she be happy seeing me like this forever because they passed?” Cry as much as you need to, but know that your family and friends are still there for you, ready to walk forward and to live life fully with you now. Celebrate the fact that you are living.

Preserve Precious Memories: Someone so special to you might be gone but their memories stay. Keep all photographs, things he or she gave you, or create a memorial like planting a tree to remember your loved one. This will help you keep all the memories you shared together and overcome your loss.

Final Thoughts: It always feels so unfair when someone you love passes away, but that does not mean you have to stop living. God created us, human beings, to be strong and to survive anything. So, grieve as much as you need to, and remember you will be able to stand up and smile again. After all, your loved ones may not have stayed with you, but the memories you have with them will forever stay in your heart.

I can testify to each and every point stated here. I don’t know about you but if you have anyone facing the difficulty of not passing through grief and lack hope. Please share this with them.

Have a blessed day!!!

By: Brian Zeng

    YF2018 Union: The Countdown Has Started!!!

    So guys am getting married in the next 5 days…

    I owe every single moment of my relationship with my beautiful bride to be to God Almighty. For good 3 years we have been together, in good times and bad times. The trial period and the harvest period. She stood by me all along and supported me when I was broken, broke, and lost. I give every to God for putting me through your path as we journey this life together my Queen.

    More photos below..

    YF 2018

    My Beautiful Queen

    What more can I ask for???

    You have made me the happiest man on earth.

    My Humble self

    Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing. And obtains favour from the Lord”.

    About to start a new phase in my life #Happy

    The only thing I can use to repay you for all your love, care, support, and prayers is to make you my better half and partner for life. To make you my wife and mother of my kids. Thank you for stealing the keys to my heart as we exchange our vows November 3rd, 2018.

    Pictures: The 6th Edition Of The Skip A Meal Initiative

    Charity is the highest prayer; as God is love, God cannot ignore Himself.

    Skip A Meal Initiative

    You have been given a mind to solve problems for others, a heart to feel compassion for others, a mouth to speak kind words to others, ears to hear the plight of others, eyes to look out for others, and hands to sustain others.

    His Treasure House International is out again with another wonderful humanitarian outreach on Saturday 13th October, 2018.

    This outreach will never be possible if not for the idea and actualization of this initiative by our senior Pastor and Pastor Mrs. Uwu’bamen. Also can’t forget the team and the efforts of the strong women behind the success of this initiative “Women of Grace”.
    The man of noble character is humble before those less educated than him, compassionate to those less fortunate than him, and kind to those inferior to him.

    Things God Wants You To Remember When Life Gets Rough

    Things God Wants You To Remember When Life Gets Rough

    1. He is listening. He is listening to your prayers, your fears, your pain and your silence. He is listening to what you are asking for and in time he will either give you what you were asking for or something much better.

    2. He is making you stronger. With every unanswered prayer, with every disappointment, with every hurdle, with every loss, he is making you stronger. He is giving you the strength you need so you can be strong for others. So you can be a strong mother, a strong father, a strong wife, a strong husband, a strong daughter, a strong son, and a strong friend.

    3. He has a better plan for you. He knows what’s better for you, he knows what you
    need not what you want . He is planning the perfect timing for your life. The timing of your love, the timing of your career, and the timing of your miracle.

    4. He will answer your questions. He will show you why you didn’t get that job, or why it didn’t work out with that person. He will show you why you lost a loved one, why he broke your heart or why he tested you so much. He will make things clear to you and you will thank him for it.

    5. He will heal you. He will heal your broken heart, he will ease your restless mind, and he will solve the mystery of your puzzled thoughts. He wants you to be patient but he will always fix you.

    6. He wants you to trust him. He wants you to have faith in him, he wants you to leave the big things – the uncontrollable things up to him, he wants you to believe in him, he wants you to go back to him when you think you have no one and he wants you to trust that he will provide for you when you lose everything. He will always rescue you before you drown.

    7. He wants you to know you’re never alone. He is always there with you; when you’re scared or confused, he is there with you. When you’re afraid of the dark, he is there with you. When you are crying late at night and you think no one can hear you, he can hear you. When you’ve given up on your life and on love and think you have no one, you have him. No matter where you are, he is always with you and he wants you to know that he is enough.

    8. He wants you to grow. He wants to you to change, he wants you to learn things the hard way, he wants you to evolve, he wants you step outside of your comfort zone, he wants you to lose your way so you can find him and find yourself. He wants you to be wise and strong and he wants you to prosper.

    9. He wants you to know he loves you. He loves you more than you know, he may be hard on you sometimes but he loves you, he may not give you everything you asked for but he loves you. No matter how many mistakes you’ve made or how many times you got angry with him, he still loves you, he forgives you and he is turning your life around. He doesn’t love you for your money or your looks or your status, he loves you for you. God loves you more in a moment than anyone could in a lifetime.

    10. He wants you to believe in miracles. He is bringing you small miracles so you can believe in the big miracles. In every dream of yours that come true, in every pleasant surprise you get, in every enlightening situation you encounter, in every person who moved you, in every person you loved – he’s making miracles happen. He’s a God of magic, wonder and hope and he wants you to believe that.

    Credit to one of my mentors Rania Naim

    The Greatest Gift Is Love

    A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them.

    She said, “I don’t think i know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat”.

    “Is the man of the house home?”, they asked.

    “No”, she said. “He’s out.”

    “Then we cannot come in”, they replied. In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.

    “Go tell them i am home and invite them in!” The woman went out and invited the men in. “We do not go into a house together,” they replied.

    “why is that?” she wanted to know. One of the old men explained: “His name is wealth, “he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love”. Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home”.

    The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!!”, he said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!”

    His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?”

    Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!”

    “Let us heed our daughter-in-law’s advice,” said the husband to his wife. “Go out and invite Love to be our guest.”

    The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.” Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?”

    The old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!”

    What an inspiring story.

    In life we all wish and attain to be successful and wealthy. Leaving behind the most important thing which is Love. When we love one another in our; homes, office, friends and family and so on. We will experience a great difference in life.

    The New Chance: His Love

    How have you reacted to the murder of Jesus Christ? Did you laugh when you heard? Cry? Ignore? Or have you taken the chance that His death on the cross and subsequent resurrection affords you?

    Evilness, corruption and disarray,
    The world is full of it today.

    Yet He was loving, compassionate and filled with care,
    When I was so ignorant and stuck in sin’s lair.

    He endured nails, blood and shame,
    While I laughed at His terrible but patient pain.

    Before the death He said, “I shall rise from the grave, I will,”
    And His covenant He did fulfill.

    He loved us, He cared for us and saved you and I,
    And now I’ll take the new chance of His love and turn from Satan’s desperate cry.

    How Can I Love Jesus More?

    A question from a concerned reader.

    Love is never centered in the external things we do, but in the longing of the heart. The Pharisees read and memorized many books of the Scriptures, prayed long prayers, fasted two times a week, and strictly adhered to all of the religious requirements that they had been taught, but they did not love God. It is great to read the Bible and pray, to sing and praise, and to do all of the other external aspects of religion, but only if we first love God.

    Jesus said of the Jewish leaders of His day that the people honor Him with their lips but their heart is far from Him (Matthew 15:7-9). Love towards God is making God the object of one’s affections in the heart. The first and great command is to love God with all of our hearts. As we draw our hearts towards our God, the heart’s desires for sin will weaken.

    You ask how you can love Jesus more.

    Love is a command in Scripture. Love is drawing our hearts into another. We grow in love as we draw our hearts towards our Savior. We long for Him.

    We seek to be with Him. We treasure His company. We meditate on His words. We adore Him. We thank him from the heart. We spend quality time with Him. We do not see Him as the means to something else, but He Himself is the special treasure we seek.

    May Jesus become the love of your life, your joy, and delight. If you draw your heart to Him, you will gain a treasure that will supersede the passing pleasures of sin.

    Anonymous

    Help Save Baby Oghene-Marho Peace

    I hate this! I hate this so much. God have mercy. This breaks my heart. I can’t imagine a young child going though this Lord. Please help. Regrann from @owambenaija – This 4months old has a HEART CONDITION and needs surgery .
    .
    TEMPTATIONS come in diverse forms and so when we pray “Lead us not into temptation…” most of us still take it for granted. First I am personally appealing to all MEN and fathers reading this TONIGHT to PLEASE take out a little share from the Friday night /weekend groove money and assist a fellow father trying to save his child.

    Nothing is more devastating than the pain of parents being helpless and unable to save their innocent child.
    I have spoken to this Young man, he doesn’t have #15Million for the life saving surgery his 4months old baby OgheneMarho .

    I appeal to us all, if 15,000 of us can give just #1k each today, we can help this little child’s live.

    Mothers who know how vulnerable their little angels are and Ladies still praying to God for the gift of motherhood please also transfer the little you can to this child’s account.
    I will provide the father and family’s phone number if you need to speak to the father/them personally.

    The doctors are also available to speak to any organization interested in lending a hand.

    Please for the sake of humanity, I plead with all kindhearted individuals reading this to just transfer #1k to this account and it’s also fine if you can afford to please give according to your capacity.

    May God keep delivering us from temptation.

    ORHERUATA PEACE OGHENEMARHO , ACCOUNT NO :3127623347. FIRST BANK.

    To those also going to PRAY tonight for this child, Atleast share this on your page as we never know whose PAGE the angles of help might be following.

    #SaveBabyMarho

    Giving To Charity When You Don’t Have Money To Spare

    “Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody. I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty, than the person who has nothing to eat.” – Mother TeresaLet us beg from Our Lady to make our hears "meek and humble" like her Son's was. We learn humility through accepting humiliations cheerfully. Do not let a chance pass you by. It is so easy to be proud, harsh, moody and selfish but we have been created for better things. Why stoop down to things that will spoil the beauty of our hearts?    - Mother Teresa

    The life of Mother Teresa is a great example of a charity giver and lover of kindness to humanity. She believed in loving people more than yourself and do the little you can do to contribute to one’s life, adding a smile to someone’s face can go a long way.

    Portraying my point to the subject matter, giving to charity when you don’t have money to spare. This can have a negative effect on you. However, if you value being able to help others and contribute, you may feel upset or even guilty that you’re no longer in a position to do so. Or perhaps you’ve rarely or never given to charity in the past, but you’ve been moved by the suffering caused by the financial crisis – yet you yourself have little money to give.

    The good news is that there are a number of ways you can make a real difference, without much money. Here are three ways that you could put into practice today, whatever your financial circumstances. Why not give one a try?

    You might not be able to contribute N5,000/month to a good cause, but how about N200- N500? Foregoing a fast food package once a month could give you enough for this.

    Remember that next time you think that your N200 or N500 note won’t make any difference. It’s like voting; each individual’s act may be as insignificant as a single drop of water, but add those drops together and you have a river strong and powerful enough to sweep change across the world.

    Save Your Spare Change

    Do your pockets end up full of small change? Many of us have a jar of coins gathering dust at home. How about saving up all your nickles and dimes for a month, and donating them to charity (dropping them into a donations jar is an easy way to do this). You’re very unlikely to miss them!“Go out into the world today and love the people you meet. Let your presence light new light in the hearts of people.” - Mother Teresa

    You could take this idea further by asking friends or colleagues to join in. How about putting a big jar in the kitchen (or some other communal location) at work, and asking people to drop in any change that they have? One of the reasons why many of us contribute little or nothing to charity is because we just don’t get around to it – you’ll be giving your colleagues an easy and quick way to change the world!

    Get Sponsored to Do Something

    If you don’t have any money of your own to give to charitable causes, how about giving someone else’s? No, I’m not suggesting a Robin Hood plan of robbing from the rich and giving to the poor … instead, you ask people to sponsor you to do something. (If possible, get your whole family, or some work colleagues, on board.)

    Your options here are really only limited by your imagination. And don’t think that you’re too old, or that your kids are too young; tiny children can participate in simple events like sponsored walks, and one a person who is between 70 and 79 years old I know has just abseiled from the roof of a hospital building to raise money for their geriatric ward.

    Doing a sponsored event is also a great way to break out of your comfort zone, or to do something you’ve always wanted to try but never plucked up the courage to attempt!

    Here are just a few of the many sponsored events you might consider:

    • Ask people to sponsor you to lose weight (get healthy and raise money for a good cause)
    • A sponsored walk (anything from your local park with the kids, to walking the Great Wall of China)
    • Running a marathon or taking part in an organized cycle event
    • Abseiling, bungee-jumping, hang-gliding…
    • Using one of your skills: For example. If you’re a writer, how about organizing a “sponsored write”?