Dealing with Grief and Finding Hope

Nobody wants to die but want to go to heaven.
Death is inevitable. But death─ sudden or expected─ always brings sorrow and grief to the ones who are left behind. However, life still marches on. It is hard, but we must remember that as humans we have an immense ability to cope with anything that life brings. Although we all have different levels of coping abilities, there are several basic and universal steps to dealing with grief and finding hope again…

Allow The Feelings To Flow: Losing someone you love will conjure all unimaginable emotions within you, sorrow, regret, guilt, pain, grief, heartbreaks, misery, anger, sadness and many more. Feeling these emotions all at once can be extremely difficult. It is quite normal, so let them flow. You do not need to suppress them. Cry all you want. With time and allowing grief to be released, it will become less painful. It is an important process that will help you in dealing with grief and accepting your loss.

Talk About It When You Can: Talking about the death of your loved ones can be a way of remembering them and can help you understand what happened. It will give you the opportunity to start the healing process. Denying the death of a loved one can result in isolation and you pushing away your family and friends.

Find A Support System: Coping with a loved one’s death is never easy; especially if you are dealing with it alone. You need support coming from your family and friends so that you can find comfort and overcome grief faster. Moreover, while your family and friends can be your greatest source of support for overcoming the death of someone, but it is also advisable that you take advice from professional people when you find all the emotions and pain too hard to handle. Psychologists give professional advice and develop strategies according to your needs to get you through the grieving process.

Understand The Grieving Process: Dealing with grief and bereavement is a process. It is quite important to allow yourself to experience every stage of the grieving process for you to completely heal. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross outlined the five stages of grief in her book titled “On Death and Dying.” These stages are not necessarily experienced in order and some stages can be revisited. These five stages are:

  • Denial: Dealing with death can be overwhelming. It is an incomprehensible experience and you can find it hard to believe that your loved one is gone. You continue to deny that it is not happening and there is no way that your loved one left you.
  • Anger: As you realize the reality of your situation you begin to feel angry. Your anger or fury might be directed to your loved one for leaving you, to the doctors for not doing their job and healing your loved one, to God who took your loved one or even to yourself for maybe not being a better person to your loved one. All of this is quite normal and will pass.
  • Bargaining: It is quite common for an individual to start bargaining or negotiating with a higher power, like God. Do not be surprised or think that you are crazy when you start making deals with God like: “I will be better, just please give him back to me.”
  • Depression: The sorrow and overwhelming sadness you feel after the death of a loved one is normal. It is common to feel that your life will never be the same again. This feeling does not last forever and will pass with time.
  • Acceptance: This stage does not necessarily mean that you accept or come to terms that your loved one is already dead. It does not mean that if you are already at this stage, you will not revisit the other stages above. But rather, it means that the pain and grief of losing someone you love will reduce and become more manageable.

Celebrate Life: You need to mourn the death of your loved ones, but there comes a time when you need to turn from the mourning toward a new stage, of celebrating life again. Understanding that death is inevitable and that we will all die someday will give you an opportunity to live your life to the fullest. Remember that your life does not stop when someone you love passes away. Ask yourself this: “Would he or she be happy seeing me like this forever because they passed?” Cry as much as you need to, but know that your family and friends are still there for you, ready to walk forward and to live life fully with you now. Celebrate the fact that you are living.

Preserve Precious Memories: Someone so special to you might be gone but their memories stay. Keep all photographs, things he or she gave you, or create a memorial like planting a tree to remember your loved one. This will help you keep all the memories you shared together and overcome your loss.

Final Thoughts: It always feels so unfair when someone you love passes away, but that does not mean you have to stop living. God created us, human beings, to be strong and to survive anything. So, grieve as much as you need to, and remember you will be able to stand up and smile again. After all, your loved ones may not have stayed with you, but the memories you have with them will forever stay in your heart.

I can testify to each and every point stated here. I don’t know about you but if you have anyone facing the difficulty of not passing through grief and lack hope. Please share this with them.

Have a blessed day!!!

By: Brian Zeng

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    YF2018 Union: The Countdown Has Started!!!

    So guys am getting married in the next 5 days…

    I owe every single moment of my relationship with my beautiful bride to be to God Almighty. For good 3 years we have been together, in good times and bad times. The trial period and the harvest period. She stood by me all along and supported me when I was broken, broke, and lost. I give every to God for putting me through your path as we journey this life together my Queen.

    More photos below..

    YF 2018

    My Beautiful Queen

    What more can I ask for???

    You have made me the happiest man on earth.

    My Humble self

    Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing. And obtains favour from the Lord”.

    About to start a new phase in my life #Happy

    The only thing I can use to repay you for all your love, care, support, and prayers is to make you my better half and partner for life. To make you my wife and mother of my kids. Thank you for stealing the keys to my heart as we exchange our vows November 3rd, 2018.

    Pictures: The 6th Edition Of The Skip A Meal Initiative

    Charity is the highest prayer; as God is love, God cannot ignore Himself.

    Skip A Meal Initiative

    You have been given a mind to solve problems for others, a heart to feel compassion for others, a mouth to speak kind words to others, ears to hear the plight of others, eyes to look out for others, and hands to sustain others.

    His Treasure House International is out again with another wonderful humanitarian outreach on Saturday 13th October, 2018.

    This outreach will never be possible if not for the idea and actualization of this initiative by our senior Pastor and Pastor Mrs. Uwu’bamen. Also can’t forget the team and the efforts of the strong women behind the success of this initiative “Women of Grace”.
    The man of noble character is humble before those less educated than him, compassionate to those less fortunate than him, and kind to those inferior to him.

    Things God Wants You To Remember When Life Gets Rough

    Things God Wants You To Remember When Life Gets Rough

    1. He is listening. He is listening to your prayers, your fears, your pain and your silence. He is listening to what you are asking for and in time he will either give you what you were asking for or something much better.

    2. He is making you stronger. With every unanswered prayer, with every disappointment, with every hurdle, with every loss, he is making you stronger. He is giving you the strength you need so you can be strong for others. So you can be a strong mother, a strong father, a strong wife, a strong husband, a strong daughter, a strong son, and a strong friend.

    3. He has a better plan for you. He knows what’s better for you, he knows what you
    need not what you want . He is planning the perfect timing for your life. The timing of your love, the timing of your career, and the timing of your miracle.

    4. He will answer your questions. He will show you why you didn’t get that job, or why it didn’t work out with that person. He will show you why you lost a loved one, why he broke your heart or why he tested you so much. He will make things clear to you and you will thank him for it.

    5. He will heal you. He will heal your broken heart, he will ease your restless mind, and he will solve the mystery of your puzzled thoughts. He wants you to be patient but he will always fix you.

    6. He wants you to trust him. He wants you to have faith in him, he wants you to leave the big things – the uncontrollable things up to him, he wants you to believe in him, he wants you to go back to him when you think you have no one and he wants you to trust that he will provide for you when you lose everything. He will always rescue you before you drown.

    7. He wants you to know you’re never alone. He is always there with you; when you’re scared or confused, he is there with you. When you’re afraid of the dark, he is there with you. When you are crying late at night and you think no one can hear you, he can hear you. When you’ve given up on your life and on love and think you have no one, you have him. No matter where you are, he is always with you and he wants you to know that he is enough.

    8. He wants you to grow. He wants to you to change, he wants you to learn things the hard way, he wants you to evolve, he wants you step outside of your comfort zone, he wants you to lose your way so you can find him and find yourself. He wants you to be wise and strong and he wants you to prosper.

    9. He wants you to know he loves you. He loves you more than you know, he may be hard on you sometimes but he loves you, he may not give you everything you asked for but he loves you. No matter how many mistakes you’ve made or how many times you got angry with him, he still loves you, he forgives you and he is turning your life around. He doesn’t love you for your money or your looks or your status, he loves you for you. God loves you more in a moment than anyone could in a lifetime.

    10. He wants you to believe in miracles. He is bringing you small miracles so you can believe in the big miracles. In every dream of yours that come true, in every pleasant surprise you get, in every enlightening situation you encounter, in every person who moved you, in every person you loved – he’s making miracles happen. He’s a God of magic, wonder and hope and he wants you to believe that.

    Credit to one of my mentors Rania Naim

    The Greatest Gift Is Love

    A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them.

    She said, “I don’t think i know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat”.

    “Is the man of the house home?”, they asked.

    “No”, she said. “He’s out.”

    “Then we cannot come in”, they replied. In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.

    “Go tell them i am home and invite them in!” The woman went out and invited the men in. “We do not go into a house together,” they replied.

    “why is that?” she wanted to know. One of the old men explained: “His name is wealth, “he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love”. Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home”.

    The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!!”, he said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!”

    His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?”

    Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!”

    “Let us heed our daughter-in-law’s advice,” said the husband to his wife. “Go out and invite Love to be our guest.”

    The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.” Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?”

    The old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!”

    What an inspiring story.

    In life we all wish and attain to be successful and wealthy. Leaving behind the most important thing which is Love. When we love one another in our; homes, office, friends and family and so on. We will experience a great difference in life.

    The New Chance: His Love

    How have you reacted to the murder of Jesus Christ? Did you laugh when you heard? Cry? Ignore? Or have you taken the chance that His death on the cross and subsequent resurrection affords you?

    Evilness, corruption and disarray,
    The world is full of it today.

    Yet He was loving, compassionate and filled with care,
    When I was so ignorant and stuck in sin’s lair.

    He endured nails, blood and shame,
    While I laughed at His terrible but patient pain.

    Before the death He said, “I shall rise from the grave, I will,”
    And His covenant He did fulfill.

    He loved us, He cared for us and saved you and I,
    And now I’ll take the new chance of His love and turn from Satan’s desperate cry.

    How Can I Love Jesus More?

    A question from a concerned reader.

    Love is never centered in the external things we do, but in the longing of the heart. The Pharisees read and memorized many books of the Scriptures, prayed long prayers, fasted two times a week, and strictly adhered to all of the religious requirements that they had been taught, but they did not love God. It is great to read the Bible and pray, to sing and praise, and to do all of the other external aspects of religion, but only if we first love God.

    Jesus said of the Jewish leaders of His day that the people honor Him with their lips but their heart is far from Him (Matthew 15:7-9). Love towards God is making God the object of one’s affections in the heart. The first and great command is to love God with all of our hearts. As we draw our hearts towards our God, the heart’s desires for sin will weaken.

    You ask how you can love Jesus more.

    Love is a command in Scripture. Love is drawing our hearts into another. We grow in love as we draw our hearts towards our Savior. We long for Him.

    We seek to be with Him. We treasure His company. We meditate on His words. We adore Him. We thank him from the heart. We spend quality time with Him. We do not see Him as the means to something else, but He Himself is the special treasure we seek.

    May Jesus become the love of your life, your joy, and delight. If you draw your heart to Him, you will gain a treasure that will supersede the passing pleasures of sin.

    Anonymous

    Help Save Baby Oghene-Marho Peace

    I hate this! I hate this so much. God have mercy. This breaks my heart. I can’t imagine a young child going though this Lord. Please help. Regrann from @owambenaija – This 4months old has a HEART CONDITION and needs surgery .
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    TEMPTATIONS come in diverse forms and so when we pray “Lead us not into temptation…” most of us still take it for granted. First I am personally appealing to all MEN and fathers reading this TONIGHT to PLEASE take out a little share from the Friday night /weekend groove money and assist a fellow father trying to save his child.

    Nothing is more devastating than the pain of parents being helpless and unable to save their innocent child.
    I have spoken to this Young man, he doesn’t have #15Million for the life saving surgery his 4months old baby OgheneMarho .

    I appeal to us all, if 15,000 of us can give just #1k each today, we can help this little child’s live.

    Mothers who know how vulnerable their little angels are and Ladies still praying to God for the gift of motherhood please also transfer the little you can to this child’s account.
    I will provide the father and family’s phone number if you need to speak to the father/them personally.

    The doctors are also available to speak to any organization interested in lending a hand.

    Please for the sake of humanity, I plead with all kindhearted individuals reading this to just transfer #1k to this account and it’s also fine if you can afford to please give according to your capacity.

    May God keep delivering us from temptation.

    ORHERUATA PEACE OGHENEMARHO , ACCOUNT NO :3127623347. FIRST BANK.

    To those also going to PRAY tonight for this child, Atleast share this on your page as we never know whose PAGE the angles of help might be following.

    #SaveBabyMarho

    Giving To Charity When You Don’t Have Money To Spare

    “Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody. I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty, than the person who has nothing to eat.” – Mother TeresaLet us beg from Our Lady to make our hears "meek and humble" like her Son's was. We learn humility through accepting humiliations cheerfully. Do not let a chance pass you by. It is so easy to be proud, harsh, moody and selfish but we have been created for better things. Why stoop down to things that will spoil the beauty of our hearts?    - Mother Teresa

    The life of Mother Teresa is a great example of a charity giver and lover of kindness to humanity. She believed in loving people more than yourself and do the little you can do to contribute to one’s life, adding a smile to someone’s face can go a long way.

    Portraying my point to the subject matter, giving to charity when you don’t have money to spare. This can have a negative effect on you. However, if you value being able to help others and contribute, you may feel upset or even guilty that you’re no longer in a position to do so. Or perhaps you’ve rarely or never given to charity in the past, but you’ve been moved by the suffering caused by the financial crisis – yet you yourself have little money to give.

    The good news is that there are a number of ways you can make a real difference, without much money. Here are three ways that you could put into practice today, whatever your financial circumstances. Why not give one a try?

    You might not be able to contribute N5,000/month to a good cause, but how about N200- N500? Foregoing a fast food package once a month could give you enough for this.

    Remember that next time you think that your N200 or N500 note won’t make any difference. It’s like voting; each individual’s act may be as insignificant as a single drop of water, but add those drops together and you have a river strong and powerful enough to sweep change across the world.

    Save Your Spare Change

    Do your pockets end up full of small change? Many of us have a jar of coins gathering dust at home. How about saving up all your nickles and dimes for a month, and donating them to charity (dropping them into a donations jar is an easy way to do this). You’re very unlikely to miss them!“Go out into the world today and love the people you meet. Let your presence light new light in the hearts of people.” - Mother Teresa

    You could take this idea further by asking friends or colleagues to join in. How about putting a big jar in the kitchen (or some other communal location) at work, and asking people to drop in any change that they have? One of the reasons why many of us contribute little or nothing to charity is because we just don’t get around to it – you’ll be giving your colleagues an easy and quick way to change the world!

    Get Sponsored to Do Something

    If you don’t have any money of your own to give to charitable causes, how about giving someone else’s? No, I’m not suggesting a Robin Hood plan of robbing from the rich and giving to the poor … instead, you ask people to sponsor you to do something. (If possible, get your whole family, or some work colleagues, on board.)

    Your options here are really only limited by your imagination. And don’t think that you’re too old, or that your kids are too young; tiny children can participate in simple events like sponsored walks, and one a person who is between 70 and 79 years old I know has just abseiled from the roof of a hospital building to raise money for their geriatric ward.

    Doing a sponsored event is also a great way to break out of your comfort zone, or to do something you’ve always wanted to try but never plucked up the courage to attempt!

    Here are just a few of the many sponsored events you might consider:

    • Ask people to sponsor you to lose weight (get healthy and raise money for a good cause)
    • A sponsored walk (anything from your local park with the kids, to walking the Great Wall of China)
    • Running a marathon or taking part in an organized cycle event
    • Abseiling, bungee-jumping, hang-gliding…
    • Using one of your skills: For example. If you’re a writer, how about organizing a “sponsored write”?

    Exterminate The Spirit Of Guilt And Condemnation

    As a Christian, we experience the presence of guilt when we sin or do something bad. After fallen into the temptation, we start having this condemnation thought in us that God is angry and whatever we have asked will not be answered.I'm free from the past, free from guilt, free from shame, and free from condemnation. I'm free with a freedom that can only be found in Christ. Christianity is not about being bound by a set of biblical rules; it's  about being set free.   Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus, the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death. Romans 8:12 #collarbone #tattoo #freedom #free #words #verse #romans

    I was surfing through my old notes and saw one of Joyce Meyer’s writing about this particular subject.

    “How much time do you waste feeling bad about yourself? Whatever amount of time it is, it is too much! Even if you are not where you want to be in your walk with God, you don’t have to feel guilty and ashamed. You can rejoice that you have made some progress. Jesus, who began a good work in you, will continue developing and perfecting His work in you right up until the day of Christ’s return. When the devil attacks you with guilt and shame, you can say, “I may not be where I need to be, but thank God I am not where I used to be! God is working in me right now, and each day I improve!”

    My friend, your problems are not the root. When you go through an evil day, you are like a sickly plant with sick leaves. You may have leaves of sickness, poverty, a broken marriage or depression in your life. But these are just the leaves. These are just the manifestations of the root. It would be foolish to attack the leaves because they are not the cause of your problems. We all know that there’ll be no leaf if there is no root.

    Joseph Prince in one of his preaching discussed something similar in dealing with the spirit of condemnation.

    When there’s condemnation, there’ll be fear. When there’s fear, there’s going to be stress. And when there’s stress, there’ll be manifestations of the curse.

    Now, if you disagree with me that the root cause is condemnation, let me refer you to Genesis, the book of beginnings.

    Do you know that Adam was planted in the midst of a finished work? Everything was prepared for him. But the devil told him that he needed to do something to qualify for all the things he had already qualified for. The devil gave him a mistaken identity. He said, You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” (Genesis 3:4–5)

    The truth is that Adam was already like God! But Adam believed the devil, ate the fruit and fell. And the curse came.

    Before there was poverty, sickness and death in Adam’s life, there was stress. How do we know that? Well, God said, “In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread…” (Genesis 3:19) And sweat speaks of stress and self-effort.

    But if you go deeper, you will find that there was fear. Do you know what Adam said to God when God asked him where he was? He said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.” (Genesis 3:10) Adam was afraid. He was fearful. So the deeper root of stress is fear. But before he was fearful, he felt condemned.

    The deepest root of all is condemnation.

    Trending: New Music By Steve Josh Titled “I Do”

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    Kindness — Hidden Camera Ad Warms Heart

    This is one video have seen that shows us how to be kind to people. Not just people but strangers.

     

    It is a hidden camera ad, where a kid without a jacket is cold at a bus stop in Norway. The majority of passersby at the bus stopped took the time to help.

    The point of the ad from SOS Children’s Villages Norway is to raise awareness of the children suffering in Syria. They ask, “Will you lend a hand?”

    You can see the translation in English by clicking the “CC”. Personally, I liked it better without the translation.

    Be an everyday Hero.

    Originally posted on Brad Aronson’s Blog

    Guilty

    Was she really guilty?

    Guilty of something? No, there was no chance for she to have been guilty of something that caused pain or heartache to others. Hilda was only a normal lady; a lovely entity made of flesh and bone, that just was looking for somebody to love her, just the way she was.

    Why does somebody have to set rules for love? Who said that only the ones that fit in the beauty standards have any right to be loved? Hilda was on this earth to enjoy her own existence, not to please others. Those jealous hearts could keep talking trash about her. She had no time for bitter words. They could stay forever in the darkness, hiding behind their own fears. But she was more determined to keep her head up. There was no reason to hide in shame. Love is always a tender flower, lightening all hearts up. There’s no use in shaming somebody for loving freely. isn’t that the way love must always be? No being must cage a beautiful bird like love is. Hilda was happy with her truth, so while others tried to keep her down, she would enjoy long days under the sun. She really deserved them.

    A true story from an Anonymous

    Lessons to Learn From Apostle Paul As Christians

    Paul was an inspirational man of God and there are many things that we can learn from him.

    Who was apostle Paul?

    Paul of Tarsus (c. 10 – c. 67), originally named Saul, was one of the most notable of early Christian missionaries, his prolific writings forming a major portion of the New Testament. His influence on Christian thinking has, arguably, been more significant than any other New Testament author, though he himself very likely never knew Jesus in life, but was converted to his faith by a vision which appeared to him in his efforts to suppress Christianity.

    For Paul, killing Christians was committed as an act honoring God. Though he was out to bring an end to the early Christian movement, it was motivated by reverence for the law. We can become so immersed in religious traditions that we miss the actual spiritual move of God when He causes a shift. If we are disconnected in the spirit we’ll act out of former understanding and not the “right now” word of God.

    The apostle Paul never seemed to exhaust the topic of grace – what makes us think we can? He just kept coming at it and coming at it from another angle. That’s the thing about grace. It’s like springtime. You can’t put it in a single sentence definition, and you can’t exhaust it. When Paul was in prison, he never siezed a day without praying and asking for the grace of God. “Lord your grace is so sufficient”. If he can be saved from all the killings and persecution of Christians, surely it’s just by the grace of God.

    So why should we take the time to learn from a previously known murderer? Especially someone who tried to kill off the very thing he later promoted?

    Here are lessons to learn from Paul;

    1. God can use ANYONE

    Of all the people that God could have used to bring so many people to Him, he ironically used the man who had been killing Christians. God changed Paul’s heart and used him for His glory. It’s almost difficult for us to understand why God picked Paul of all people, but honestly that’s what makes Paul so relatable to us. Even though we aren’t murdering other people, we still don’t deserve the second, third, fourth, etc. chances that God willingly and gracefully gives us when we mess up. The fact of the matter is that God cares about everyone . If God can use someone like Paul to do that much good, then that should be encouragement to know that He can use anyone, including you!

    2. No one is beyond the saving grace of God.

    God was more than willing to forgive Paul for the countless lives that he took and for all the bad things that he had done. God gave Paul grace and transformed him into a completely different person. Like Paul, God can do the same for us. We are broken people that can be transformed by God’s saving grace that He so lovingly gives to us, even though we don’t deserve it.

    3. It’s okay if you mess up.

    I know that as Christians, we can be really hard on ourselves for our mistakes. It can be tempting to think that if we mess up, that God won’t love us anymore. Paul killed tons of people in his past. He tried to stop Christianity. Even still, God forgave him, had a purpose for him, and loved him. Know that if you make a mistake, it’s okay. We are not perfect people because we live in a sin fallen world. It’s impossible for us to be completely perfect, and that’s why we need God in our lives. Don’t get discouraged by your mistakes, but allow God to use them to transform and strengthen you so that you can be an encouragement those around you.

    4. How to get your priorities

    Paul talks about how “to live is Christ and to die is gain” (Philippians 1:21).
    In Philippians 3:7-9, Paul talks about how everything else of this world is garbage compared to his relationship with Jesus Christ. He knew that nothing else in this world even mattered. God was number one in Paul’s life. I don’t know about you, but that can be a pretty difficult thing to do. It’s so easy to put other things in that number one place in our lives: school, work, family, friends, relationships, anything that we find important. But Paul shows us that when it’s all said and done, the only thing that matters is our relationship with God and that He is number one in our lives.

    5. What it takes to be with God forever

    Building off of point #4, we know that Paul recognized the importance of a relationship with Jesus. He also recognized that’s what’s going to get us into Heaven. He shows us that there is a difference between knowing something about Christ and actually knowing Him on a personal level. In Philippians 3:9-10 Paul writes, “..that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ- the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith.” In other words, Paul realized what is so hard for us to understand: We can’t do it on our own . Our own good works and merit isn’t enough to get us into Heaven because we’re not perfect, nor did Jesus die for us to be perfect. Good works is the product of faith in Jesus Christ, and salvation is about a relationship with God. Knowing Him is the goal.

    6. Our past doesn’t define us.

    I’ve heard it said, “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.”
    It’s pretty clear that Paul had a very dark and wicked past, but he didn’t let that define him. Instead, he grew and learned from it and was transformed into an incredible man of God. In Philippians 3:13, Paul writes, “…Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.” One thing I have recently learned is that Satan is not God, he just wanted to be God. So since he isn’t God, he cannot see what is in front of us, so that only leaves one weapon for him to use: our past. He’s gotten good at it too; putting the thoughts of “I’m too far gone for God to use me” or “I’ve made too many mistakes for God to love me” into our heads. However, our past mistakes do not define us. They only provide opportunities for us to grow. God knows we are imperfect people, so He will love us regardless, and nothing that we can do will ever change that.

    7. The importance of quiet time.

    Paul wanted to know more and more of Jesus. He spent quality time with Him as often as he could. In Philippians 3:10-11, Paul writes, I want to know Christ- yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead.” Paul knew that the only way that he would get to know God on the level that he wanted to was by spending time with Him in His Word and through prayer. Paul shows us the importance of quality time and that it results in knowing Christ intimately and personally.

    8. How to care for others.

    Paul’s life and his works make it evident to us that he cared for others.
    Acts 17:16 says, “While Paul was waiting for them in Athens, he was greatly distressed to see that the city was full of idols.” Because Paul had a heart for the Lord, he also had a heart for His people. In Paul’s engagement with others, he didn’t act as though he was better than them, but instead fueled his conversation with compassion. This is an important thing to learn from Paul, especially in our interactions with others about faith. Nothing about it should be condemning, but instead out of genuine love and compassion for God and His people.

    9. Humility

    One thing that really sticks out to me about Paul is written in Philippians 3:12. Pauls says, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.” Now if there was anyone that could brag about how on fire they are for God, of all the good things that they have done for Him, or all that they have surrendered for Him and accomplished through Him, it could be Paul. But Paul recognizes that he still has room for growth and doesn’t let pride consume him. Paul’s humility amazes me and it is something that we can definitely learn from and aspire to.

    10. How to be content in any situation.

    In Philippians 4:11-13, Paul writes, “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in an and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all things through him who gives me strength.” The secret of Paul’s contentment was that he drew his strength from the Lord. He learned to rely on God’s promises and strength to help him be content in any situation. He knew that God would supply him with everything that he would need and that God ultimately knew what was best for him. I tend to be the type of person who stresses and worries, so I know that this is a very difficult thing to accomplish. However, I know that with God’s strength, it is possible for me to accomplish this.

    11. How to stand firm in Christ.

    In Philippians 3:20-21, Paul writes, “But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body.” The way to stand firm is to keep our eyes on Him. It can become so easy for us to be distracted by everything going on around us, but we need to remember that this world is not our home. Standing firm means to resist the ways of this world. Don’t get discouraged or lose heart when you mess up, but instead continue to press into the Lord. He promises strength, so with Him, you can stay true to the Lord.
    These are just a few points that we can take away from Paul, but there is so much more that we can learn from him. All in all God used a man who was wicked and transformed him into an evangelistic dynamite. In all of these points that we can take away from Paul, know that you are not too far gone for God to use, that He has a purpose for you, and that in His strength, He can use you to do great things for His kingdom and glory.

    Meadow Hall Foundation Presents: Back To School Drive Project

    In the words of Late Mother Teresa.

    “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”

    “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa

    Meadow Hall foundation started this project “Back to school drive” to challenge the low factor of children having access into schools or school materials. The foundation is keen on reaching out to 1000 children and more to enroll them back to school, instead of staying at home or roaming the streets.

    For your donations, kindly send to: Meadow Hall Charity Foundation (Access Bank 0695140643)

    Your contribution will go a long way for these children.

    For more information, sponsors, or partnership;

    Email- info@meadowhallfoundation.org or

    Call- 07058012288

    Thank you for your interest and contribution.