Repost: 30 Beautiful Moments In Your Life That You Will Never Forget

By: Rania Naim

1. The moment you faced a longtime fear. There is no greater feeling than doing what you were most afraid of and getting through it.

2. The moment you aced a difficult test. And that awesome feeling you get that you can accomplish anything you put your mind to.

3. The moment you started driving without supervision and played your favorite music the whole way.

4. The moment you got your first salary and how you felt that hard work truly pays off.

5. The moment you made a new friend knowing that you will be friends forever.

6. The moment your crush told you they liked you and how you couldn’t stop smiling.

7. The moment you land in your favorite country and how it breathes new life into you.

8. The moment you rest your head on the pillow after a productive day at work and how it’s bringing you one step close to your goal.

9. The moment your favorite team wins the championship and the euphoria that follows.

10. The moment you hold the baby of someone close to you, and how innocent and soft you become in that moment.

11. The moment you stand up for yourself after being quiet and patient for so long.

12. The moment you get what you’ve been praying for and realizing that the world is not so bad after all.

13. The moment you realize how loved you are by those around you and how supportive they are.

14. The moment that your pet welcomes you home every day as if you are the best thing that ever happened to them.

15. The moment after you’ve had a special conversation with a special someone and immediately feel the growing bond between both of you.

16. The moment you made someone smile after having a terrible day.

17. The moment you let go of someone or something that was holding you back and the liberation that came with it.

18. The moment you make your family happy; whether by being a good student, a good person or just being there for them when they need you.

19. The moment your friends do something sweet for you and remind you of how much they love you.

20. The moment you successfully complete a mission: losing weight, being more focused, being more positive…etc.

21. The moment you are done reading a good book and the inspiration you find in its words.

22. The moment you prove someone who doubted you wrong and the confidence you gain from it. Learning to believe in yourself more often.

23. The moment you master one of the hard yoga poses and the strength you feel after.

24. The moment you decide to be a little bit kinder to yourself and start slowly loving yourself with your imperfections.

25. The moment you receive a heart-felt thank you for touching someone’s life.

26. The moment your favorite song comes on when you have been waiting to hear it all day.

27. The moment you run into an old friend or an acquaintance unexpectedly.

28. The moment you go to the beach after a long time and the serenity you feel from the sound of the waves and the beauty of the sky.

29. The moment you finally understand why something happened to you and finally solving that riddle.

30. The moment of silence when you can truly enjoy your own presence and be grateful for the gift of living no matter how hard or easy your life seems to be.

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Why We Should Live Like We’ve Never Been Hurt

Why We Should Live Like We’ve Never Been Hurt

People say love like you’ve never been hurt, but how about we try to live like we’ve never been hurt? Live like life never disappointed us, like pain didn’t change us, like we didn’t grow up or learn, like we are still innocent kids believing that life will turn out exactly the way we want it to. Every now and then let’s live with the naiveté of a 7 year old.

Even if it sounds unrealistic, even if it sounds crazy, even if it sounds impossible, we should try to live like that – even for one day.

We should live like we know we’ll get what we want when we ask for it. Like the universe is our genie granting us anything we wish for. Like the universe is here to spoil us and give us everything we want.

We should live like we never fell off the bike or fell while running. We should run like we are free and we should throw caution to the wind and let our bodies roam the world – unafraid of bruises.

We should speak with no reservations, we shouldn’t be afraid of being vulnerable or throwing tantrums or crying in bed next to our favorite soft toy. We shouldn’t be afraid to feel.
We should live worry-free, like we have all the time in the world to do the things we want and be with the people we love. We shouldn’t worry about the right time or the wrong time or worry about time at all. Life is infinite.

We should say what’s on our minds and in our hearts without calculating or rephrasing or editing. We should speak with no reservations, we shouldn’t be afraid of being vulnerable or throwing tantrums or crying in bed next to our favorite soft toy. We shouldn’t be afraid to feel.

We should quit things we don’t like and stay in bed all morning because we feel like it. We shouldn’t wake up to responsibilities that drain us and a routine that slowly kills us.

We should look forward to our birthdays and throw the biggest and greatest birthday parties. We should get excited about growing up and making our dreams come true. We should get excited about life.

We should believe in romance and fairy-tales, we should believe in a love that is so pure and real, we should believe in ‘ forever’ against all odds.

We should wake up every day waiting for a miracle.We should believe in miracles and magic and a life that is bigger and better than what we know, we should wake up every day waiting for a miracle.

We should have expectations that are not crushed by reality or rules or rights and wrongs.

We should be silly and playful and laugh as loudly as we can, we shouldn’t worry about what people might say. We shouldn’t suppress our laughter or our joy.

We should play house and dream of our perfect home. A home that is built with love, not broken hearts and unfulfilled promises or empty rooms and unspoken words. We should believe in a happy home – one we want to go to every night and wake up in every morning.

We should live like we don’t know any better.

Maybe One Day We’ll Figure This Life Out

Figuring Life Out

Maybe one day we’ll know why certain people have left us and why they didn’t come back. One day we will be able to connect the dots and understand how the pieces we didn’t understand all found their way to fit into the puzzle of our lives and complete the picture.

Maybe one day we’ll know why destiny keeps bringing certain people back into our lives or why their lessons had to be learned over and over again so we can finally know it by heart.

Maybe those people are meant to be a bigger part of our future and they keep reappearing to remind us that their part in our story is not over.
Maybe one day we’ll know why we left certain jobs and why we were forced to change directions. Maybe we were meant to change the world and our jobs weren’t going to make that happen. Maybe we are free spirits who are destined to roam the world freely without being caged in an orbit of predictability.

Maybe one day we’ll know why we didn’t get along with our parents or our relatives. Maybe we were meant to go out and make new friends and find people who teach us that we don’t have to share the same blood to count as family. Maybe we were meant to get lost and wander to find where we truly belong – to find a home we don’t want to escape from.

Maybe we were meant to fail and be laughed at to learn how to shield ourselves from the stones that keep getting thrown our way.

Maybe we needed to learn how to walk on pebbles so we can walk slowly and discover that there is more than one path along the way.

Maybe we were meant to be laughed at so we can understand that one person’s tragedy is another person’s comedy.

Maybe we were meant to fall in love with the wrong people to learn that love doesn’t discriminate. That the heart doesn’t know the rules or the terms or the social conduct. It just feels and jumps recklessly into anything that moves it. Maybe we need to learn that love will always be inexplicable, something of the Gods, something that calls us to do things that are unfamiliar to us. Something that makes us believe in magic – a dream that meddles in the nightmares of reality.

Maybe we were meant to sail away from the shore to learn the methods of surviving alone, to learn that loneliness won’t kill us and solitude can be our friend. Maybe we need to disappear to see who will care to find us, who will care to bring us back to life, who will wonder about us and who will wish we never find our way back.

Maybe we needed to be scared so we can understand that we will never be fearless but we can be courageous and we can be brave. Maybe one day we will know if our fear is merely a reflection of our own insecurities or fear of our own greatness . Maybe one day we will know why we were so afraid to shine.

Maybe one day we will know why we just can’t be happy, why we are always searching for something to stress us out so we can feel like we are part of society, why we always have to feel ‘useful’ to be accepted, why we always want more than what we have and why we feel like it’s a crime to just exist – just be – bounded by our nothingness.

Maybe one day we will look back and life will make sense, maybe one day we will stop asking so many questions and let the answers find us. Maybe one day we will know for sure why we wasted so much trying to get a grasp of life that we forgot that we are here to live it – not understand it.

To Be Happier Today – Nothing Has to Change

Happiness

How many times have you read quotes, self-help advice and spiritual wisdom that tells us… happiness is always available right now, that’s it a choice we make?

It’s a powerful truth.

And while of course it’s natural to think about the future, and to desire more, and to want to create more, and to expand yourself and your life… the happiness you want isn’t going to be found “out there”.

Instead it’s ALWAYS waiting for you in the present. And you will feel it when you CHOOSE to focus on the little moments, the small but meaningful things in your day, the blessings (big or small) that you can be grateful for.

In the very second you choose to put your attention on gratitude, enjoying the little things, a portal of happiness opens up in your heart! ?

Nothing has to change in order for you to be happier right now. You CAN of course change whatever you want, but you don’t HAVE to change things in order to feel happier.

So please remember to enjoy the little things today, “take time to smell the roses! which makes me laugh because I’m one of those people you see who stops on the sidewalk when walking past a rose bush and LITERALLY leans into the garden and takes a moment to smell the roses! ????????

And if you want to be continuously drawn like a magnet into the present moment to enjoy the little things and feel happier as a result… we hope you’ll love this new collection below in The Daily Positive shop. Surround yourself, your family and friends with positive reminders for an uplifted life.

The Free Gift In Hebrews

Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the women, and she won his favour and approval more than any of the other virgins. So he set a royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti. Esther 2:17

Without Grace, Life would have been on analogue mode instead of digital. There would have been no basis for Christianity because it wouldn’t have been different from other religions. This Grace comes with the salvation brought to us through the death of Christ on the cross. The salvation through Christ offers us privileges before we ever think of working for any. This is exactly the coverage of the book of Hebrews. The good news of Grace! I’ve realized that not all free things are free. Whenever some freebies get to you, know that someone may have paid for it.

Some people have become spiritually irresponsible because they think that Christ has done it all so there is no other price to pay. This is wrong since Grace does not stop you from being responsible for the things that pertain to your competence and character. The grave you have requires that you work out your salvation with fear and trembling. This Grace allows you labour in your area of competence and portrays you very efficient and well- priced. Therefore, live your life with this consciousness and be an example. Let your light so shine. Enjoy Grace this new month.

Christ has paid the capital charges of salvation. Pay the service charge of living a life that points people back to him.

Source: Daily Discoveries

Once Upon A Time

Once upon a time, there was a multi billionaire, who was enjoying his life to the maximum and had power and influence over many companies and many employees.

Unlike most rich people, he was a good person. He had put some rules in his companies. According to his vision, keeping these rules would facilitate the work flow and at the same time would create a friendly cozy and fair atmosphere between the employees.

The multi billionaire himself kept these rules too in order to give a good example and to be the model to be followed by the employees.

As the billionaire respected the employees, he never forced them to follow him. He respected the freedom of his employees and their free will was something he never allowed himself to control- although the amount of money he had, would allow him to control whatever he wanted. However, the wise billionaire found that respecting each other’s freedom would lead to a better atmosphere and better productivity.

Despite the smooth work flow and the good work condition, an employee decided to rebel against the billionaire and he turned some employees against their boss. The rebellious decided to lie, to falsify the truth and to disrespect all the rules put by the billionaire. For that, the rebellious and his followers were thrown out of the billionaire’s companies and were considered enemies.

The rebellious who have lost their jobs, have never been successful in establishing their own company. They were left weak, poor and unemployed.

Actually the loss of these employees did not affect the productivity of the companies, as the power of the multi billionaire could guarantee him and his employees a very prosperous life.

While enjoying his life, the multi billionaire started to imagine himself as a father of many children. He is a person who has lots of money and power that he could share with his children and that could guarantee joy and happiness for them. He started imagining his children’s life and thought that he will give each one of them a company. He will delegate his powers to his children and will of course respect their freedom. He will encourage them to be creative, productive and to enjoy their life and their business. He will ask them to obey the rules he had put in his companies and in order to preserve the rules, he will also write them down for them in a manual. He imagined himself loving his children so much and he decided never to abandon them. Whoever needs him and asks for his help and support, he will immediately come to help him.

The billionaire was aware that he has some enemies, the rebellious. But he also knew how weak they were. They were not even capable of establishing one company, while he had so many companies. The billionaire knew that the rebellious will try to hunt his children, but he also knew that if he stands next to his children, no rebellious could harm them. He will offer his ultimate love to his children, all they have to do is to love him back to enjoy the perfect life he will offer them and to enjoy his protection.

While imagining his children, the multi billionaire started to love them so deeply, even before they were born. He loved sharing and was ready to share his whole life with his children. He was already ready to die for them.

The years have passed and his children grew up. Each one of his children has become the owner of a company with unlimited power and influence.

Some children have enjoyed their father’s care and love. They kept their father’s rules and enjoyed keeping them. They invited their father to spend some days with them in their companies. Whenever the rebellious tried to come next to them, they called for their daddy, who just needed to stand next to them to keep the enemy away. These children made a huge success out of their companies. They also participated in the establishing of new companies. And when it was family time, they spent great moments with their father who shared his visions and his thoughts with them. The multi billionaire was very proud of them and he kept giving them more and more.

Another group of children decided to enjoy the power given to them, but didn’t accept their dad’s presence. They preferred to consider him dead, while he was there alive standing in front of them. They considered him too old and old fashioned. Whenever he talked, they shut their ears and turned away their faces. While disrespecting the rules put by the billionaire, they dealt with the rebellious in their work. They started to trade with them and to invite them from time to time to their companies. By doing this, the rebellious gained more power on the market. As long as the multi billionaire was not invited, they appeared and merchandised with the billionaire’s children. In fact the rebellious started to take ownership of these companies and the billionaire’s children, the real owners, started to obey their new masters. Heartbroken, the billionaire could only -from time to time- pass by these children, wishing one of them would call for him, but, as he was respecting their free will, he could never impose himself.

The last group of children decided to obey the rules and to work in their companies. But they never really talked to their father. They decided to act as employees and not as owners. They followed the rules and whenever the rebellious came, they called for their father to deal with him. This group has never understood why they were here and what they were doing. They have never enjoyed their place, as they never understood that their daddy is longing to talk to them and to share his visions with them. They never understood that they have the powers of their father and that they were the owners of their companies. All they could see is that they are working, obeying rules and calling their father to face the enemy. The billionaire was also heartbroken for this group of children. He wished he could spend time with them to talk to them, but they never invited him in an intimate way. All he could do is knocking on their companies’ doors, waiting for anyone to open and to invite him to an intimate chat and dinner.

The Only Problem With Your Life Is The Way You Think About It

1. You generally spend more time thinking about your life than you do actually living it. You spend more time dissecting problems than you do coming to solutions, more time daydreaming than you do asking yourself what those thoughts indicate is lacking or missing in your waking life, or coming up with new solutions as opposed to actually committing to the ones that are already in front of you. You’ve replaced “reflection” with “experience,” and wonder why you feel unfulfilled.

2. You don’t find wonder in the simple pleasures, the way you once did. You think nature is boring and “play” is for children and there’s nothing awe-inspiring about a shaft of light through the window or a stranger’s smile or a spring day or your favorite book in bed. When you’ve lost sight of the magic of the little things, it’s not because the magic has gone elsewhere, only that you’ve chosen to disregard it in favor of something else.

3. You have something you wanted in the past, but you don’t enjoy it the way you thought you would, or you’ve replaced your desire for it with a desire for something else. Bring yourself back to the feeling of wanting what you have more than anything, the way you once did. Try to embody that. You’re making yourself prouder than you realize.

4. If you were to tell your younger self what your life is like now, they’d be in disbelief. You seriously could not have imagined that your life would turn out as well as it did – that the worst things became turning points, not endless black holes of emotion.

5. You think of money in terms of “obligation” not “opportunity.” Your mindset is: “I have to pay my bills,” as opposed to “I get to pay my bills, which house me, clothe me, and feed me, and that I can pay for by myself.” If you don’t value money by appreciating what it does for you, you’ll never feel as though you have enough.

6. You think you don’t have enough friends. You’re measuring the connection in your life by a quantity, not a quality, assuming that the problem is not enough around you, when it’s really that there’s not enough inside you.

7. You’re either over-reliant or under-attached to the friends you do have. You either don’t keep in touch enough or you get easily frustrated because you think that friends should make you feel “better” and “happy” in an unrealistic way. So you think that the only way to achieve that is to over-bond yourself to them, or disregard them when they don’t fulfill the role you’ve imposed on them (hence your feeling as though you don’t have enough!)

8. You imagine your life as though someone else was seeing it. Before you make a decision, you recite a storyline in your head. It goes something like this: “she went to college, she got this job, she married this guy after a terrible breakup, and all was well.” This is what happens when your happiness starts to come from how other people feel about you, as opposed to how you feel about yourself.

9. Your goals are outcomes, not actions. Your goals are to “be successful” or “see a certain number in the bank” as opposed to “enjoy what you do each day, no matter what you’re doing” or “learn to love saving more than frivolously spending.” Outcomes are just ideas. Actions are results.

10. You assume you have time. When it comes to doing what really matters to you – reconnecting with family, writing that book, finding a new job – you say “I’m only [such and such an age] I have a long time.” If you assume you “have time” to do something, or that you’ll do it later, you probably don’t want it as much as you think you do. There isn’t more time. You don’t know. You could be dead tomorrow. It doesn’t mean you have to get everything done today, but that there’s rarely an excuse not to start.
11. A bad feeling becomes a bad day. You think that experiencing negative emotions is the result of something being wrong in your life, when in reality, it’s usually just a part of being human. Anxiety serves us, pain serves us, depression does too. These things are signals, communications, feedbacks, and precautions that literally keep us alive. Until you begin thinking this way, all you will perceive is that “good feelings mean keep going” and “bad feelings mean stop,” and wonder why you’re paralyzed.

12. You think that being uncomfortable and fearful means you shouldn’t do something. Being uncomfortable and fearful means you definitely should. Being angry or indifferent means you definitely shouldn’t.

13. You wait to feel motivated or inspired before you act. Losers wait to feel motivated. People who never get anything done wait to feel inspired. Motivation and inspiration are not sustaining forces. They crop up once in awhile, and they’re nice while they’re present, but you can’t expect to be able to summon them any given hour of the day. You must learn to work without them, to gather your strength from purpose, not passion.

14. You maladaptively daydream. Maladaptive daydreaming is when you imagine extensive fantasies of an alternative life that you don’t have to replace human interaction or general function. Most people experiencing it while listening to music and/or moving (walking, riding in a car, pacing, swinging, etc.) Rather than cope with issues in life, you just daydream to give yourself a “high” that eliminates the uncomfortable feeling.

15. You’re saving up your happiness for another day. You’re sitting on the train on the way to work, thinking how beautiful the sunrise looks, and how you’d like to read your favorite book, but you don’t in favor of checking your email again. You begin to feel a sense of awe at something simple and beautiful, and stop yourself, because your dissatisfaction fuels you. You’re creating problems in one area of your life to balance out thriving in another, because your happiness is in a mental container.

Reasons Why Pain Makes You A Better Person

Reasons Why Pain Makes You A Better Person

It is a fact of life that we will experience pain time and time again – pain changes people. It may take a while for the pain to leave your body and your heart or it may be engraved inside of you forever, but I realized that every time I experienced unbearable pain, I changed significantly – changed for the better. There is something about going through a lot of pain that makes you want to be a good human being.

Here’s why pain can make you a better person:

1. It makes you compassionate. When you go through a lot of pain, you become more empathetic; you don’t want others to go through what you’ve been through and you don’t wish the pain you experienced upon anyone. It teaches you how to be kind and to never underestimate someone else’s pain just because you haven’t gone through it yourself.

2. It makes you wiser. The little things don’t bother you anymore, you don’t sweat the small stuff like you used to; you look at the bigger picture instead. Pain makes you look at life differently and it makes you understand the essence of life.

3. It makes you cherish your relationships . Pain makes you value your relationships more, you realize that you have people you can lean on in times of trouble and people who genuinely love you and are happy to support you. Pain makes you strengthen the bond between you and your closest friends and family.

4. It makes you stronger. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. After the storm has passed, pain makes you a lot stronger and better prepared to face difficult situations. Pain is sometimes the training you need to pass the tests of life.

5. It makes you re-evaluate your life. It makes you reconsider your career, your health, your finances and your relationships. It can help you go in another direction or find a meaningful purpose for your life. Pain makes you stop and question a lot of things and try to find answers and these answers can change your life.

6. It can be a major source of inspiration. Your pain can be your main inspiration for a new project, for a new charity, for a new community event and if you’re an artist, it will be the catalyst for the art you produce. Most masterpieces were painted strokes of pain.

7. Your love becomes stronger. You love more deeply and you are more open to being vulnerable. Even though pain makes you stronger, it makes you softer too. It makes you want to give love and ease someone else’s pain. Your love becomes pure and more profound.

8. It makes you fight for happiness. When you’re in pain, you look for waysto feel better and ways to be happy. You do things you never thought you would just to put a smile on your face. It makes you active in the pursuit of happiness.

9. It makes you more spiritual. When you can’t understand why certain things happen to you, you tend to look for answers outside of yourself. You try to understand God and the universe. You try to comprehend the divine laws and you start to slowly believe that there must be a bigger reason for your pain – you become more in touch with your spirituality and you pay more attention to it.

10. Your scars make you beautiful. The scars no one can see, the scars that hold stories of pain and survival, the scars that show that you’ve fought for something or loved someone, the scars that indicate that you have been bruised but you’re still walking – your scars make you different, they make you a human being with imperfections and they make you special .

3 Tips for Dealing with Unemployment Stress

“Unfortunately, we will have to let you go…”

It was a Friday afternoon when in the aftermath of this devastating sentence, I packed up my things.

For months afterwards, I replayed my co-workers long faces, their barely concealed shock, and their naked relief that it hadn’t been them.

As this period grew longer and longer though, I was attacked by fear of the unknown, confused, unmotivated and sort of damaged. It was later that I came to terms with it. I became convinced that this was the best thing that ever happened to me – and it was! Because it opened a lot of doors inside of me that never knew it was there.

Unemployment is one of the many challenges that people face in the course of their careers.

The hardest thing about unemployment is not the lack of a job, but the self-doubt, the depression that creeps in, as job applications are rejected, over and over.

As someone who faced these rejections time and time again, I can tell you that it does get easier, and that it is possible to stay positive in the face of the storm. Here’s how –

1. Be Grateful

I know, I know. Easier said than done, but this is the most important of all. We have a tendency to blame ourselves for things outside our control, and nowhere is it truer than in the case of sudden job loss.

“It’s all my fault” or “I deserved it” are negative thoughts that can make your day spiral downwards instantly. Don’t indulge in them! Keep a check on negative self-talk – know that you deserve that dream job you’ve always desired. This is only a temporary setback on your way to the career you’ve always sought.

Gratitude can help direct the negative attitude into a more positive direction.

One of the methods I used was to list two positive things for every negative thought that came to me. This tactic halted the black moods immediately, and showed me that in spite of everything, I still had things to be grateful for.

Another habit to encourage grateful thinking is to list down five things you’re thankful for, that day. I did it just before bed, but this can be done at any time during the day.

2. Have a Purpose

“Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.” – Viktor Frankl’s famous book ‘Man’s Search for meaning’ makes a valid point. During unemployment, it can feel like there’s no point of getting out of bed, or of sending out resumes for the umpteenth time.

In truth, this approach will depress you – as it did me.

Keeping to a schedule – one that allows for fulfilling, purposeful activities is the best way to get through this time.

Is there a hobby you’ve been meaning to try your hand at?

Or an event you’ve wanted to go to? Now is the time to give it a go!

During my sabbatical, I got back to my true passion – writing. I wrote every day, without fail. I wrote articles, blog posts, short stories, poetry – anything that brought me comfort. Not only did it get me back in touch with my passion, it made me better at it to some extent – and the joy it brought into my day was unparalleled, as I continue to be expectant for a better job.

3. Get Outside!

Staying at home, day after day, is depressing. One of the things that worked for me was making myself go outside. I would head out for a walk, listen to some music in the park or simply grab a cup of coffee at the nearby cafe.

This helped me see there was a world beyond the confines of my home – which eased the sense of isolation and loneliness I often felt.

One other thing that worked wonders for me? Catching up with friends. Work can make us so busy, we often get out of touch with old pals, and this can be the best time to reconnect.

I agree that it can be tough. Listening to friends talk about their work – that really exciting deal they just cracked, or the project that they are currently working on, can be hard. In fact, it can feel like they are being deliberately cruel.

They’re not. Friends and Family are crucial at a time like this – when we are most vulnerable, and it feels like the dark times will never end. Give your friends a chance to rally around you, to support you in this difficult time. If discussions about work bother you, explain your point of view – more often than not, good friends will tone them down, or avoid speaking of it altogether.

However, if it is really difficult to be around old friends – make new ones! This can be as easy as volunteering for a cause you care about or joining a hobby class – there are new and interesting people to meet all around us!

Final Thoughts

In my first days of this break, I was overwhelmed. I was frantic in my job search and networking, but I was holed up at home, and the depression came at me in waves.

No one told me that health needs to be a priority at this time – physical AND mental.

It is really important to rediscover yourself in this time. You are not your job, or the organization that you work for. You are so much more than that!

So while I did take on my job search daily – it did not take up my entire day.

These tips helped me make myself productive and happy. Try them out, they might just help you too.

I was truly inspired by Shuyaasha Misra in posting this true experience of my life early 2016.

Don’t Be A Pretzel

This is originally posted on the daily positive.

You are not a pretzel. Don’t twist yourself to fit into who you think people want you to be – just to make them happy – which then makes your soul feel all twisty-like. Be who you are. Accept and love all your quirky aspects. Make your soul happy. Don’t be a pretzel. Be your whole enchilada.” – Karen Salmansohn

What do you do to make yourself more likable or acceptable to others?

I’ve heard the following types of things, and I’ve experienced my own versions of these in the past…

I don’t want to be seen without make up on.

I prefer to wear a hat to cover my receding hairline.

I can’t wear sleeveless tops because I don’t like my arms.

I try not to say too much, in case I say the wrong thing.

Just in the last few weeks I’ve seen many examples of people CHANGING THEMSELVES in some way that puts them out (alters their natural preferred state) in order to be more acceptable to others.

3 REALIZATIONS

Here are a few useful realizations that I hope this will either support you, or you could pass onto someone who might benefit…

People are far too busy caring about themselves to be concerned about what you do, what you look like, what you wear, what you own, what you say.

If someone did care, and they judged you in any way for being you, it truly isn’t anything to do with you, and it’s a reflection of where they’re at in their own consciousness.

The kicker – most of the time we’re actually not changing ourselves to be more acceptable to others. The truth is… we often don’t feel acceptable to OURSELVES! 😲 If you don’t accept yourself, it’s a natural subconscious thread to believe others won’t accept you either.

2 QUICK TESTS

Here’s a little QA test to see if you’re wasting your energy on self-adjustment to be more “acceptable” (when you’re already acceptable just as you are!!!)

ASK YOURSELF:

“If there was NO ONE ELSE around, and it was just me on this planet, what would I do, what would I wear, what I would say?”

“If I 100% accepted myself, what would I do, what would I wear, how would I behave, what would I say?”

You might be surprised by what these questions bring up – exposing the ways you adjust yourself AWAY FROM your natural, divinely created and glorious self.

As the above quote says, no more twisting yourself like a pretzel, it’s time to be your whole enchilada!

When God’s Timing Is Taking Too Long

We all want good things to happen in our lives, but too often we want it now…not later. When it doesn’t happen that way, we are tempted to ask, “When, God, when?” Most of us need to grow in the area of trusting God instead of focusing on the “when” question. If you’re missing joy and peace, you’re not trusting God. If your mind feels worn out all the time, you’re not trusting God.

The tendency to want to know about everything that’s going on can be detrimental to your Christian walk. Sometimes knowing everything can be uncomfortable and can even hurt you. I sometimes in my life tend to being impatient, frustrated and disappointed because there were things I didn’t know. God had to teach me to leave things alone and quit feeling that I needed to know everything. I finally learned to trust the One who knows all things and accept that some questions may never be answered. We prove that we trust God when we refuse to worry.

God wants us to live by discernment—revelation knowledge, not head knowledge. It’s difficult to exercise discernment if you’re always trying to figure everything out. But when you’re willing to say, “God, I can’t figure this out, so I’m going to trust You to give me revelation that will set me free,” then you can be comfortable in spite of not knowing. Trusting God often requires not knowing how God is going to accomplish what needs to be done and not knowing when He will do it. We often say God is never late, but generally He isn’t early either. Why? Because He uses times of waiting to stretch our faith in Him and to bring about change and growth in our lives.

What You Are Looking For And Longing For

Whatever you are looking for and longing for, you are here to BE IT.

You are ready right now.

“If you inherently long for something, become it first. If you want gardens, become the gardener. If you want love, embody love. If you want mental stimulation, change the conversation. If you want peace, exude calmness. If you want to fill your world with artists, begin to paint. If you want to be valued, respect your own time. If you want to live ecstatically, find the ecstasy within yourself. This is how to draw it in, day by day, inch by inch.” ― Victoria Erickson

Today, notice what do you long for? Then ask yourself…

“How might I embody this today? How might I bring it to life myself?”

Pleading The Blood Of Jesus In Prayers

The name that is above every other names. Jesus my King!!!

Pleading the blood of Jesus is one of the most effective ways to pray that I have ever learned. When I present the blood of Jesus to Father God in prayer, it’s like I can sense a transaction taking place in Heaven. I can feel that I am praying God’s will for my life, and that I’m giving Him permission to do all the radical things His Word says He wants to do.

By pleading the blood of Jesus in prayer, I have seen relationships healed, physical needs provided, my finances protected, and many other things. God always answers the blood of Jesus!

Look at what the Bible says in Hebrews 10:19-23:

“Therefore, brethren, having boldness to enter the Holiest by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way which He consecrated for us, through the veil, that is, His flesh, and having a High Priest over the house of God, let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful”

We always hear that Jesus’ blood bought us forgiveness of sins, healing, and eternal life; and of course those things are true. However, healing, forgiveness, etc are like raindrops falling from a big cloud in the spiritual sky. And unfortunately, we tend to look only at the raindrops, without ever noticing the glorious, over-arching cloud overhead!

So what is that cloud? What is the link that ties everything together? The glorious “cloud” that Jesus purchased for us with His blood is the wonder of complete and total access to God, to intimate relationship with Him, and to everything He wants for us.

Jesus’ blood purchased complete and total one-ness with God for us, His adopted children. That blood made a way for us to know God, to dwell with Him, to abide in Christ Jesus, and to receive everything our Father has so that His will can be done on earth as it is in Heaven. Isn’t that amazing?

So how do we plead the blood of Jesus in prayer? We simply:

Remind God of what His will is (as revealed in Scripture);

Remind God that Jesus poured out His blood on the cross so that Father’s will could be carried out; and

Insist that Father carry out His perfect will based on the blood of Jesus, which is the legal currency with which He purchased our victory.

Here are six things from the Bible that help us to see why the blood of Jesus holds such a special place in the hearts of believers:

1. We gain bold access to God in worship and prayer

The Bible is clear that every person is alienated and separated from God because of our sin (Colossians 1:21). That means even the best of us are actually unable to approach God to offer worship or prayer. Because of our sins, we remain at a distance from Him.

But the Bible tells Christians to come boldly into God’s presence, “We have confidence to enter the holy places by the blood of Jesus” (Hebrews 10:19). If you are a Christian today, you can have boldness and confidence as you approach God with your prayers and your worship, because you are no longer far away from God, “Now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been made near by the blood of Christ” (Ephesians 2:13).

It is because of the blood of Jesus Christ that we have the great privilege of pouring our hearts out to God (Psalm 62:8) casting our cares on Him (1 Peter 5:7) and praying any time and any place in the power of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:18). Does your prayer life reflect the kind of relationship you have with God through the blood of His Son?

2. Forgiveness of sin

In addition to being able to enter into God’s presence through the blood of Christ, we are also forgiven of our sins. Ephesians 1:7 says that, “In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace.” Because of Christ’s shed blood, God is able to forgive us for our sins and give the punishment that we deserved to Christ.

Christ had a special way of explaining this to his disciples during the Last Supper, which also was the Passover meal celebration.

He said, “For this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins”(Matthew 26:28). He was telling His disciples that just as the blood of the lamb delivered the Hebrews from the night of terrors in Egypt, so Christ’s own blood would deliver the people who were covered by it from the judgment of God on the last day.

3. Consciences cleansed

Through the blood of Christ, Christians receive the cleansing of their consciences. Hebrews 9:14 says, “…how much more will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without blemish to God, purify our conscience from dead works to serve the living God.”

This is an amazing promise! Christ cleansing our consciences from acts that lead to death! How does He do it? By the blood of Christ, because on the cross He offered Himself unblemished to God! He offered Himself—His unblemished, perfect life—as a sacrifice to God for us on account of our sins. Therefore, He alone is able to cleanse our consciences through His blood.

Even though all of our minds have been corrupted by sin and seared as with a hot iron (1 Timothy 4:2), Christ can cleanse our consciences. We are able to live right lives and think right thoughts once again in Christ. This is great news for those who are burdened by a sinful past and corrupted consciences.

4. We are progressively cleansed from more and more sin

Not only are we forgiven from sin, but we are also sanctified through the blood of Christ. Hebrews 13:12 tells us that “Jesus also suffered…in order to sanctify the people through his own blood” (Hebrews 13:12). God is calling his people be holy as He is, which is one of the reasons Jesus suffered. Without holiness, no one will see the Lord (Hebrews 12:14).

After we are forgiven of our sins and able to enter into a new relationship with God, it makes sense that God wants us to be in a new relationship with the sin that previously condemned us as well. That is why he gives us the power, through the blood of His Son, to be cleansed from our sinful behaviors.

5. We are able to conquer the accuser of the brethren

Because of Christ’s sacrifice and the pouring out of His blood on our behalf, we can trust in the righteousness of Christ and not our own righteousness when we are accused by our enemy. Revelation 12:11 says, “And they have conquered him [Satan] by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, for they loved not their lives even unto death.” As believers, we know that we cannot stand on our own merit or because of our own deeds. We know that our good deeds are as filthy rags before God (Isaiah 64:6) and that the Christ’s righteousness attributed to us is how we are able to stand up against accusations.

6. Rescued out of a sinful way of life

…you were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers, not with perishable things such as silver or gold, but with the precious blood of Christ, like that of a lamb without blemish or spot. (1 Peter 1:18-19)

Being ransomed from futile ways is another benefit Christians have through the blood of Jesus. We are rescued from a life lived devoid of meaning and are brought into a relationship with God and the ability to live in his will and with purpose.

Compared to the precious blood of Jesus Christ, the most valuable things of this earth (like silver and gold) are reduced to meaningless, perishable things. That is because the blood of Jesus gives Christians salvation of their souls, forgiveness from sins, access to God, victory over the enemy, and the power to live with a clear conscience, something that the gold and silver items in the Old Testament temple could never do.

Which Would You Choose?

You can be right or you can be peaceful, but you can’t be both.

Which would you choose?

The ego wants to be right.

In a situation where someone else seems to have it wrong, and you feel (or know!) that you’re right, it’s oh so very tempting to point out their wrongness.

The ego loves that.

However, have you ever noticed that trying to show others you’re right, often comes at a cost?

By it’s very nature the act of PROVING SOMEONE WRONG or PROVING SELF RIGHT doesn’t involve much peace. It involves an energy, even if very subtle, of separation and judgment.

Now – that said, it’s quite valid to be right! There will be plenty of times in life when you are right, and someone else is technically “wrong”, but the questions to ask ourselves in those times are…

Does it really matter who is right or wrong?

Does it really make any difference if I point out how right I am?

Would I rather have peace as quickly as possible?

So in those moments when you want to stand up for yourself, or have the last word, or feel the need to counter someone else’s viewpoint (and there are plenty of opportunities for that in a world of contrasting beliefs and opinions), ask instead…

Would I rather be right or would I rather be peaceful?

Personally, most often these days I choose peace. There are very few times where it adds value to my life, to others or to this world if I were to battle to be right. So I don’t. Not because I can’t, not because the topic isn’t important. Simply because… I VALUE PEACE MORE.

What do you value?

What will you choose?

Staying Strong During Life Challenges: A Reminder

If life challenges are knocking on your door, or they’ve already moved on in and seem to be making themselves at home, these are 6 empowering reminders I researched for you.

Tune in, because it’s time for you to rise up strong…

#1

You have A 100% track record for getting through everything in your life.

You’re doing pretty awesome!

You’re still breathing, heart beating, and you have what it takes to walk ahead powerfully.

Remind yourself every day – “I will be okay. Everything will be okay. I always get through somehow. I trust this.”

#2

This too shall pass.

Challenges are like storms that arrive in your life, like a weather pattern. Storms have a life span. And your life span is longer than its!

The storm will come and it will go, and you will outlive it.

Remember, this is a season. Like everything in life, it will eventually pass. Thoughts pass. Feelings pass. Challenges pass.

Be patient and trust.

#3

Diamonds are made under pressure, and so are you. Your challenges will be the making of you.

Life challenges pressuring you are softening your rough edges, calling you to evolve, buffering you to expose the power and beauty you have.

On the other side of this challenge, you will shine again, brighter than before.

#4

All challenges morph into wisdom.

This is the gift that challenges bring. They come to offer you something.

Whatever you get out of a challenge in the form of greater understanding, skills and life wisdom, you will not only use in future (as a handy side benefit) but you will NEED in future.

There is Divine Order in your life. Maybe you don’t know yet what this life challenge is gifting you, or maybe you do. Maybe you don’t know yet what this wisdom is for, but you will find out soon enough!

Perhaps the wisdom is to support something you will DO in the future. Perhaps it is to help you SHARE that wisdom with someone else in your life, to uplift them on their journey. You needn’t be concerned about why you’re being given this wisdom, only that it is has purpose.

The Universe/Divinity (whatever word you use to describe a higher power at play in your life)… it moves us across each others life paths, in right time and right order. We end up learning through challenges and then being called forth into work, career, vocations, relationships, situations and places in order that we can contribute through the wisdom we have gained.

There is purpose to what you are going through. Trust this.

#5

Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together

That’s actually a Marilyn Monroe quote!

Remember that when it feels like life is falling apart, sometimes it’s actually life’s way of spring cleaning you (and your circumstances) to prepare you for the coming summer season of your life.

So even though it’s tempting to think that life is beating down on you, pause to consider if maybe the slate is being wiped clean in order that something better can form.

#6

What we resist persists. So, it’s vital TO let go and flow.

Use this mantra on a daily basis… “This is happening, and I choose peace.”

Your attitude is EVERYTHING when it comes to staying strong. You will either become a victim to what is happening or you will rise up and be a victor.

The choice is yours, and it all starts in your mindset.

I hope these reminders are helpful for whatever life challenges you might be going through now, or that you may face on your forward journey.

Source: The Daily Positive