How We Can Use a Secular Holiday to Celebrate God’s Love: Valentine’s Day

There is no right or wrong way for Christians to conduct themselves on Valentine’s Day that is different from any other day of the year. There are, however, attitudes and actions that we should adopt in honor of the day of love.

You can find the internet littered with articles and entries on the origin of Valentine’s Day: who St. Valentine was, or if he inspired the holiday. Those are trivial details. As it is today, whether or not it was ever religious, Valentine’s Day is a secular holiday for which Hallmark sells a lot of greeting cards, candy stores sell a lot of chocolate, and florists sell a lot of bouquets.

It is not important that you support, condemn, or ignore the consumerism associated with Valentine’s Day. It is important, however, that we, as Christians, consider how and why we should celebrate Valentine’s Day rather than restrict our views to the romantic exploitation of the secular world.

Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world. James 1:27.

On Valentine’s Day, if there is a void in someone’s life where love should be, that emptiness is magnified by expectation. Think about your widowed grandmother or your divorced uncle. Seek out those who don’t have a home or a family or those who are caught in a cycle of poor decisions. Take the time to express love to those who feel unlovable.

Be thankful in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:18.

Valentine’s Day is a reminder of how we have been loved and who has loved us. Let your parents and grandparents know that you are grateful to have them as examples of how to love your own children and spouse. Call your friends to tell them how much you appreciate the love you’ve shared through laughter, shopping sprees, Harry Potter marathons, and sleepovers. A faithful source of love is precious, and whether it is familial, platonic, or romantic, it has the capacity to inspire, encourage, and heal.

I have found the one whom my soul loves. Song of Solomon 3:4.

Celebrating Valentine’s Day with your significant other is not wrong. I hope that I have not given you that impression. Romantic love is a gift from God, and he wants us to revel in the love that He shows to us by giving us another person to know and love in a holy, intimate way. Yes, Valentine’s Day can be a cheesy time to celebrate your relationship. I say go ahead and cheese it up.

Too often, we ignore the opportunity to share Christ’s love through the simplest actions. Our faith sends us into the world to love unconditionally, but if we are not exhibiting that love, how are we going to make disciples in His name? Let Valentine’s Day serve as a reminder of God’s love and the command He has given us to show love to others.

Quick Ways to Make Someone Happy Today

“Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

One of the best ways to create a happier life for yourself is to make other people happier.

Why?

  • You see it. You’ll feel happier as someone’s face lights up with joy.
  • You did a good thing. You’ll feel happier because you feel you have done a good thing. And so your self-esteem shoots up too.
  • You get what you give. In the long run you tend to be treated by others as you treat them. Plus, the way you treat and think about others also tends to be the way you treat and think about yourself.

So how can you make someone happier?

1. Give a sincere compliment. Many positive things tend to go unsaid. So give someone a sincere compliment today. It can mean especially much if it’s for something that is close to the other person’s heart. Or something he or she has been putting in a good effort with like getting into better shape for the last few months.

2. Let someone into your lane while you’re driving. It can unstress his or her day quite a bit.

3. Hold the door open for a few extra seconds. It doesn’t take much of an effort but it can put a smile on someone’s face.

4. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted. We may sometimes take what others do a bit too much for granted. Like the food they cook, how they keep doing their job consistently each and every day or how to they are there to listen when we need it.

5. Share some of your tasty homemade cookies. Or bread, ice cream or jerky.

6. Give away a piece of your hobby. Like a bracelet or a drawing you have made for instance.

7. Share some of your fall harvest. For example some jam, canned vegetables or dried delicious mushrooms or fruit.

8. Encourage. The world can be a tough and discouraging place at times. So encourage someone who is in a negative situation at the moment. Add your own perhaps more grounded and optimistic perspective on the situation to lessen his or her worries and perhaps exaggerated fears.

9. Tell a good – or terrible – joke. Or a funny story about something that happened to you last week.

10. Share something funny you found online. Play one of your favorite clips from a stand-up show you love if you are out of jokes and good stories at the moment.

11. Share a Spotify-playlist with the most inspiring and uplifting songs you know. Send it to a friend that needs it right now. Or share it with family, friends or co-workers on social media.

12. Give a stranger a compliment. Few things can brighten a day like getting a kind and unexpected compliment from someone you pass by or you have just met. So take a few seconds and give that to someone you encounter today and tell her how nice her shoes, hat or hairstyle looks. Or ask him where he where he got that cool t-shirt or umbrella.

13. Help out practically with advice. If a friend needs some help then ask someone you know who has been in that situation for advice. Or do a bit of online research to find what he she might be looking for.

14. Pick some flowers. It only takes few minutes but the joy lasts for days.

15. Give a hug. It unstresses and it can disrupt negative thoughts and change someone’s mood surprisingly quickly. Use when appropriate though.

Please Stop Judging People. Here’s Why!

To be honest, I struggle with this. As a motivational blogger and an easy going person, I find myself feeling or acting like I’m more valuable than others.

But I’m not.

Every human life is worth exactly the same. And any action or behavior or statement that leads anyone to believe otherwise, is wrong.

Culture encourages us to discuss other people’s faults. To tear each other down based on looks or the mistakes of our past.

But are we not human? Have we not failed as well? Is determining someone’s worth not more than the clothes they wear or the scars on their life? It reminds me of a statement I’ve read in the Bible, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”

This video is a profound reminder of how much depth we miss when we judge those around us. Will you join me in reconsidering a stranger’s value and, possibly, even count them above yourself?

Do you struggle with this? How will this change the way you think about people? Let me know in the comments below..

This Is An Interesting Story And Lesson For Men

When I started reading this post sent to me on my WhatsApp, I was first confused, but getting towards the end, it made real sense and lesson to be learnt. Please be patient enough to read it.

The metaphor used in this story Is amazing..

(To men) Please take time to ponder. 😕

(To women) Just enjoy the story. 😋

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighbouring kingdom.

The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question was:
*What do women really want?*

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but first he would have to agree to her price.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur’s closest friend. Young Arthur was horrified.

She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.

He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden.

But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered.

Arthur’s question thus:
“What a woman really wants?”

She said, “A woman wants to be in charge of her own life.”

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth, and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was. The neighbouring monarch granted Arthur his freedom. And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him.

The most beautiful woman he had ever seen was sitting by the bed.

The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth become her horrible and deformed self only half the time, and be the beautiful maiden the other half.

“Which would you prefer?” She asked him. “BEAUTIFUL during the DAY… OR at NIGHT?”

Lancelot pondered the predicament.

During the day, he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!

OR,

would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day? But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous moments with?

(If you are a man reading this) What would YOUR choice be?

(If you are a woman reading this) What would YOUR MAN’S choice be?

And Lancelot’s choice is given below…

BUT, please make YOUR choice first before you scroll down below!

OKAY?

Knowing the answer the witch gave to Arthur for his question, Sir Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.

Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

Now, what is the moral to this

The moral is…

1. There is a ‘witch’ in every woman, no matter how beautiful she is. It’s how a man manages it

2. If you let a woman decide on her own she gives u d best. but if u force her with ur decisions she becomes a witch.

Hmmmm
What do you think ?

So, be careful how you treat a woman, especially your wife; so your prayers may be answered!!!

True or False???

Drop your comments below.

Happy Sunday guys!!!

When God Interrupts Your Plans

By: Tiffanie Butts

Last week, during my morning commute, I was listening to the one of my favorite radio stations. A woman (let’s call her Jane) called in to share about an experience she recently had.

She began by stating how she woke up late for work and was rushing to get ready. Already 20 minutes late, she was driving down the highway and saw a man on the side of the road. She felt led to pull over, so she did. The man asked to use her phone so he could make a call. Jane hesitantly gave him her cell phone and he proceeded to call 911. As she continued to listen she realized he was calling to report a suicide…his own.

She sat there in disbelief as he communicated with the operator. After he hung up, she sat and prayed with him until an ambulance came. Long story short – he did not commit suicide that day.

This story struck me in a powerful way. Jane being late for work allowed her path to cross with a man who needed to hear about God’s grace and forgiveness.

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the life we’ve been given that we forget to tune into the One who gave it to us. We’re so busy, so distracted, that we don’t realize when God is trying to re-direct our attention.

We must be willing to let God interrupt our schedules and change our plans as he sees fit.

It’s easy to get bent out of shape when things don’t go as planned (I’ll be the first to admit that I do at times). But maybe, just maybe things are going according to plan – just not our plan. I have had an experience where I only told someone that you beautiful, you don’t need to worry, God is under control. She changed her broken face to a shining face. Even just a smile to someone can help that person change his/her from committing suicide.

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand. – Proverbs 19:21

What if, instead of being so focused on ourselves, and militant about our schedules and to-do lists, we surrendered our time to God? What if we asked him to help us be more aware of opportunities to share the truth and show the love of Christ? What if we prioritized obeying the promptings of the Holy Spirit regardless of our own preferences and insecurities?

Jane’s alarm didn’t go off that morning for a divine reason – God wanted to use her to save a life. And you know what? He wants to use us in the same way.

Everyday God gifts each of us with opportunities to share His love, grace, and truth with those we come in contact with – but do you notice it? Many times we are too focused on our inconvenience rather than His purpose.

Jesus said, “My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me.” – John 10:2

Let us be a people who don’t merely hear, but do (James 1:22-25). Who follow Christ’s example, laying down our own preferences for the will of our Father in Heaven so that we may show others the love, grace, and truth found only in Jesus Christ.

Merry Christmas From Motivated And Free

Am sending my love to you guys. My professional colleagues in my community, my readers, and my followers. You guys made my 2018 great. Learnt a lot from you people and thank God we all here to celebrate Christmas.

So I decree and declare that…
This Christmas, I wish peace sequester your life, love flood your soul and happiness are reflected in your face, I wish you from the heart all the good that you deserve.
May you never miss LOVE … and if you do not find it, you already know where I live.

I wish you a Christmas full of mathematics: addicted to pleasure, subtracted from pain, multiplied with happiness and divided in love with the people that matter most to you.

Merry 🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅

Pictures: Meadow Hall Foundation “Back To School Drive”

Pictures: Meadow Hall Foundation

Meadow Hall Foundation through its School Adoption Programme (SAP) provides infrastructural.and educational support to schools, pupils, teachers, and the host communities.

It was a successful outreach with Meadow Hall group last Friday. Over 400 pupils who are have been assisted to get settled in this academical session. It wouldn’t have come through of not for you guys kind donation and support.

Am very happy and glad that we at Motivated And Free did our bit and supported this great initiative. We use this medium to thank the management of Meadow Hall Foundation, for trusting us and making us one of their media partners. God bless.

Help Save Baby Oghene-Marho Peace

I hate this! I hate this so much. God have mercy. This breaks my heart. I can’t imagine a young child going though this Lord. Please help. Regrann from @owambenaija – This 4months old has a HEART CONDITION and needs surgery .
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TEMPTATIONS come in diverse forms and so when we pray “Lead us not into temptation…” most of us still take it for granted. First I am personally appealing to all MEN and fathers reading this TONIGHT to PLEASE take out a little share from the Friday night /weekend groove money and assist a fellow father trying to save his child.

Nothing is more devastating than the pain of parents being helpless and unable to save their innocent child.
I have spoken to this Young man, he doesn’t have #15Million for the life saving surgery his 4months old baby OgheneMarho .

I appeal to us all, if 15,000 of us can give just #1k each today, we can help this little child’s live.

Mothers who know how vulnerable their little angels are and Ladies still praying to God for the gift of motherhood please also transfer the little you can to this child’s account.
I will provide the father and family’s phone number if you need to speak to the father/them personally.

The doctors are also available to speak to any organization interested in lending a hand.

Please for the sake of humanity, I plead with all kindhearted individuals reading this to just transfer #1k to this account and it’s also fine if you can afford to please give according to your capacity.

May God keep delivering us from temptation.

ORHERUATA PEACE OGHENEMARHO , ACCOUNT NO :3127623347. FIRST BANK.

To those also going to PRAY tonight for this child, Atleast share this on your page as we never know whose PAGE the angles of help might be following.

#SaveBabyMarho

Giving To Charity When You Don’t Have Money To Spare

“Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody. I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty, than the person who has nothing to eat.” – Mother TeresaLet us beg from Our Lady to make our hears "meek and humble" like her Son's was. We learn humility through accepting humiliations cheerfully. Do not let a chance pass you by. It is so easy to be proud, harsh, moody and selfish but we have been created for better things. Why stoop down to things that will spoil the beauty of our hearts?    - Mother Teresa

The life of Mother Teresa is a great example of a charity giver and lover of kindness to humanity. She believed in loving people more than yourself and do the little you can do to contribute to one’s life, adding a smile to someone’s face can go a long way.

Portraying my point to the subject matter, giving to charity when you don’t have money to spare. This can have a negative effect on you. However, if you value being able to help others and contribute, you may feel upset or even guilty that you’re no longer in a position to do so. Or perhaps you’ve rarely or never given to charity in the past, but you’ve been moved by the suffering caused by the financial crisis – yet you yourself have little money to give.

The good news is that there are a number of ways you can make a real difference, without much money. Here are three ways that you could put into practice today, whatever your financial circumstances. Why not give one a try?

You might not be able to contribute N5,000/month to a good cause, but how about N200- N500? Foregoing a fast food package once a month could give you enough for this.

Remember that next time you think that your N200 or N500 note won’t make any difference. It’s like voting; each individual’s act may be as insignificant as a single drop of water, but add those drops together and you have a river strong and powerful enough to sweep change across the world.

Save Your Spare Change

Do your pockets end up full of small change? Many of us have a jar of coins gathering dust at home. How about saving up all your nickles and dimes for a month, and donating them to charity (dropping them into a donations jar is an easy way to do this). You’re very unlikely to miss them!“Go out into the world today and love the people you meet. Let your presence light new light in the hearts of people.” - Mother Teresa

You could take this idea further by asking friends or colleagues to join in. How about putting a big jar in the kitchen (or some other communal location) at work, and asking people to drop in any change that they have? One of the reasons why many of us contribute little or nothing to charity is because we just don’t get around to it – you’ll be giving your colleagues an easy and quick way to change the world!

Get Sponsored to Do Something

If you don’t have any money of your own to give to charitable causes, how about giving someone else’s? No, I’m not suggesting a Robin Hood plan of robbing from the rich and giving to the poor … instead, you ask people to sponsor you to do something. (If possible, get your whole family, or some work colleagues, on board.)

Your options here are really only limited by your imagination. And don’t think that you’re too old, or that your kids are too young; tiny children can participate in simple events like sponsored walks, and one a person who is between 70 and 79 years old I know has just abseiled from the roof of a hospital building to raise money for their geriatric ward.

Doing a sponsored event is also a great way to break out of your comfort zone, or to do something you’ve always wanted to try but never plucked up the courage to attempt!

Here are just a few of the many sponsored events you might consider:

  • Ask people to sponsor you to lose weight (get healthy and raise money for a good cause)
  • A sponsored walk (anything from your local park with the kids, to walking the Great Wall of China)
  • Running a marathon or taking part in an organized cycle event
  • Abseiling, bungee-jumping, hang-gliding…
  • Using one of your skills: For example. If you’re a writer, how about organizing a “sponsored write”?

Kindness — Hidden Camera Ad Warms Heart

This is one video have seen that shows us how to be kind to people. Not just people but strangers.

 

It is a hidden camera ad, where a kid without a jacket is cold at a bus stop in Norway. The majority of passersby at the bus stopped took the time to help.

The point of the ad from SOS Children’s Villages Norway is to raise awareness of the children suffering in Syria. They ask, “Will you lend a hand?”

You can see the translation in English by clicking the “CC”. Personally, I liked it better without the translation.

Be an everyday Hero.

Originally posted on Brad Aronson’s Blog

Meadow Hall Foundation Presents: Back To School Drive Project

In the words of Late Mother Teresa.

“Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”

“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa

Meadow Hall foundation started this project “Back to school drive” to challenge the low factor of children having access into schools or school materials. The foundation is keen on reaching out to 1000 children and more to enroll them back to school, instead of staying at home or roaming the streets.

For your donations, kindly send to: Meadow Hall Charity Foundation (Access Bank 0695140643)

Your contribution will go a long way for these children.

For more information, sponsors, or partnership;

Email- info@meadowhallfoundation.org or

Call- 07058012288

Thank you for your interest and contribution.

Ignore Society, This Is How You Should Be Labeled

Most people label you by what you wear, the kind of car you drive, what job you have and how much money you make. Often these labels are shallow and impermanent, but this is how society likes to define us and consequently, this is how we sometimes define ourselves. But what we should really be labeled by; is who we are and who we’re trying to be.


You should be labeled by your pain. The hardships you endured, how gravely you suffered, the heartbreak that left you empty, the wounds that scarred your veins and the tragedies that became part of your story.

You should be labeled by you strength. How you survived your pain, how you healed or how you’re still healing, how you’re going to fight through the bad days and how you’re overcoming your own fears.

You should be labeled by your kindness. By how giving you are and how big your heart is, by how forgiving you are and how compassionate you can be. By how far you’re willing to go for those you love without expecting anything in return and how much you’re willing to compromise for them.

You should be labeled by your love. How you can do anything for the one you love and how supportive you can be to your closest friends. How protective you are and how loyal you are and how you continue to love even after you’ve been hurt.

You should be labeled by your dreams. What you really want to be doing, how you want to change the world, how you want to change lives or change your life and how you want to be remembered long after you’re gone. You should be defined by your wishes and your dreams not by what you do to make ends meet.

You should be labeled by your hidden beauty. The beauty that shines from the inside, the beauty that has got nothing to with makeup or pretty outfits. The beauty that people can only see when they know you and discover the treasures you hold within.

You should be labeled by your soul. The energy you exude, the way you make people feel, the way you help them see the best in themselves and the way you try to make someone’s life better. How you see God, how you trust the universe and how you connect with the world around you.

You should be labeled by all the things that touched your heart and the things that blew your mind. You shouldn’t be labeled by the things that make you conform, you should be labeled by the things that make you stand out.
If you follow what society brings, you will be lost in the wind. Be true to yourself and brand it hard

Be Kind To A Stranger Everyday

On his deathbed, Aldous Huxley reflected on his entire life’s learning and then summed it up in seven simple words:”LET US BE KINDER TO ONE ANOTHER“.All too often we believe that in order to live a truly fulfilling life we must achieve some great act or grand feat that will put us on the front covers of magazines and newspapers.Nothing could be further from the truth.A meaningful life is made up of a series of daily acts of decency & kindness which adds up to something great over the course of a lifetime.Pinterest picture

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Everyone who enters your life has a lesson to teach & a story to tell. Every person you pass during the moments that make up your days represents an oppurtunity to show a little more of the compassion & courtesy that defines your humanity. Why not start being more of the person you truly are during your days & doing what you can to enrich the world around you????? In my mind, If you make even one person smile during your day or brighten the mood of even one stranger , your day has been a worthwhile one.

“kindness quite simply is the rent we must pay for the space we occupy on this planet “

Become more creative in the ways you show compassion to strangers. Paying the toll for the person in the car behind you , offering your seat on the subway and being the first to say hello are great places to start.

Video: Taking Your Disguise Off

Christiano Ronaldo disguised himself in a town-square in Madrid and no one cared about him. Even with his swags with the ball, no one cared.

But when he took his disguise off, everyone wanted a piece of him. What a world we live in.

If Jesus comes in disguise will you care about him? Treat everyone with love and respect as Jesus will do.