Interview Discussion With Popular Instagram Relationship Coach “Abigail Ajayi”

The first time I met this woman of substance was back then at the university. She was a professional dancer and actor on stage. Now she’s a renowned relationship coach on Instagram. She is the spokesperson and owner of “relationship talk with abilight”.

She’s married and a mother of 3 beautiful children. Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you Mrs. Abigail Ajayi.

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and were you born? 

  • My name is Abigail Ajayi, I am from the western part of Nigeria. I grew up in a family of 6. I had most of my education in Nigeria. I am an alumnus of the prestigious Redeemer’s University where I studied Theatre Arts. I am presently running my Master’s program in Paris, France.

2. How was life growing up? 

  • I would say it was fun especially as the only daughter. You can imagine how it felt growing up among 3 soldiers.

Me: Laughs!!! I can imagine

3. At what age in life did you decide to become a relationship coach? 

  • Well, I didn’t decide to be a relationship coach, but experiences from my teenage and adolescent years where I saw some of my friends face relationship challenges which I had to help resolve stirred up my counseling dreams. Toward the end of the year 2017, I was led in my spirit to start the relationship talk. Taking this decision was not so easy, but as Relationship talk with Abilight is a ministry initiated by God, He made all things work seamlessly.

4. How do you cope with running a fast-growing relationship coaching platform?

  • It’s my passion and a lifestyle so there is nothing to cope. I find joy in what I do.

5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?  

  • It’s being a blessing, never has it been a burden because I feel it’s a privilege to be a blessing to people.

6. What challenged have you experienced as a relationship coach? 

  • Ensuring I do as I preach, also coaching someone who reached out for change but refuses to change. 


7. In your opinion, what is the major problem couples face during marriage/relationship? 

  • The major problem in marriage/ relationship is lack of true love, if we love ourselves the way God has orchestrated love, marriage will work perfectly. Where love reigns, submission will be easy, where love reigns Peace reigns…
  • Secondly, I will say lack of communication. 

8. What’s the weirdest thing a follower has ever told you? 

  • Hmm, requesting to be taught how to seduce his own mother (incest) Me: What a hilarious person. I can imagine the kind of weird things you hear during your sessions online.

9. Your videos and presentation confidence are so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown? 

  • Fear of the unknown no… God has been my strength so far… 

                  Abigail and her Husband


10. You’ve been married for close to 6-7 years now if am correct. What have been the driving force to your successful marriage? 

  • GOD, I can’t over emphasis Him. He forever will remain my reference. 

11. You have featured mothers and other personalities on your platform. Which professional do you seriously look at to work with or have something coming out with? 

  • I’ll say a professional marriage counselor who has very good experience in counseling and also a psychologist to speak enormously on depression as it’s an issue a lot of young people face especially after encountering relationship challenges.

12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on a daily basis? 

  • Never considering myself as a failure. 
  • Becoming a better ME daily
  • Impacting the world in my own little way. I sincerely believe I don’t need to be the president before I can implement change… The change could be implemented from you as an individual.

13. You studied Theater arts at the university. What drove you to switch from that profession to become a relationship coach? 

  • *smiling* well I didn’t switch like you think, my career as a relationship coach is complemented by my training as a thespian. Being able to communicate with people and passing my message to the world on live tv to me is part of acting. I will also add that as a relationship coach I can streamline what I want my audience to hear at any particular time.


14. What advice would you give to those women who are depressed on not getting married in time, and those who are facing one problem or the other in their marriages? 

  • My advice to women who are depressed about not getting married in time; please don’t get tired of praying. One thing I realize in life is at times God keeps us away from danger without our knowledge and we blame Him for it.
  • Work on yourself as an individual, at times we might be our own problem. Beauty could help you get a relationship but the character keeps you in that relationship. 
  • The purpose of marriage is to reflect the relationship of the Godhead and to serve him. But when you don’t even have the opportunity to serve God what’s the essence of it. So, people will tell me there are marriages working perfectly without God involved, hmmm my brother/sister it will tell with time. Am a kingdom bearer and I talk from that perspective.
  • I can’t over emphasis prayer in marriage. When there is an issue in your home, try to settle it both physically and spiritually. Often run back to your Heavenly Father to take charge and speak to His son/ daughter. He alone knows how to speak to a child. 
  • Lastly, Patience is key. In as much as it’s not an abusive relationship, be patient! 

15. Also, what advice would you give to unmotivated and non-inspired people around the world who are tired of life, especially ladies.

  • No one is useless. Life or experience is a teacher… do not get discourage even in that situation. One driving force that pushes me is a NEW day. I believe a new day brings new blessing. Always remember you ain’t useless! Often remember you are wonderfully made by the most high, So one driving force we all must have is the Holy Spirit. If you haven’t encountered Him, ensure you do today.
  • You shall make it, never retire today! Be a vision on a mission! 

16. What’s next for Abigail Ajayi? 

  • *smile* a lot but right now I just launched my new brand, LIGHT EXQUISITE FUNCTIONS: it’s an event management brand. She was born out of necessity and me exploring my creativity. You can follow me on my IG page @lightexquisitefunctions and @relationshiptalkwithabilight. 

Thank You.

We should be the one thanking you for creating time from your busy schedule.

  • Thanks so much Mr Femi Johnson. 

You welcome.

If you want to know more about Abigail Ajayi or you find yourself having issues in your relationship or marriage. Folllow Abigail @relationshiptalkwithabilight

Till next time, do have a wonderful day!!!
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Interview With Ex- Beauty Queen And Super Model: Joyce Ngozi Chidebe

Am so privilege to have the opportunity of interviewing an Ex- Nigerian Beauty Queen, a super model, and a friend over the weekend.

Guys, join me as I welcome Joyce Ngozi Chidebe

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and Where were you born?

I am the 3rd child in a family of 7. Was born in Lagos state. I attended both primary and high school in Lagos state, and my university (UNIBEN) in Edo state.

2. How was life growing up?
Growing up was something!
I grew up in a 3 bedroom apartment that had a cacophony of people in it because my parents never turned a blind eye to a person in need.
You have accommodation problem, there’s always a couch/bed for you to sleep in.
No food, there is always a plate for you.
The pro of that was that I understood people’s suffering from a really young age and it taught me humility.
The con on the other hand is I am a very quiet/private person so the inability to quiet the noise and have an alone time irked me.
In all it helped shape me into who I am today: strong, grounded and disciplined.

Me: that’s so kind of you guys.. Both 😂😂😂

3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into modelling?
I decided to go into modeling when I was 17 years old.

4. How did you cope with running your daily activities and modelling?
I always say the best way to live is to make sure there is a sync or balance in the things you do. My daily activities and modeling is very much inter woven so there is never a clash.

5. Is being a supermodel a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?
It’s been an absolute blessing. I’ve met amazing people, achieve feats that were just imaginations before now and also been able to give me financial freedom.
6. What’s the weirdest thing your fans has ever told you?
“You are my role model” it was overwhelmingly but highly flattering/appreciated. It was like a bitter sweet feeling because here I am trying to constantly improve myself and with that comes self criticism so it was absolutely amazing to hear that someone appreciate the work I am doing.
7. Your self confident is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?

Absolutely! I believe a person without is a person without dreams. Confidence/courage isn’t the lack of fear but the ability to look at your fear and with a sweating palm/racing heart hold on to it so tight that even the universe will help you make those dreams come true!

8. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?
Fashion designing, animation, interior design and architecture.

9. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

This is difficult question to answer as I have a long list of people I would love to work with in every field I am interested in. It ranges from Namoi Campbell, Coco Rocha, Edward Enninful, Karl Lagerfeld, rElon musk, Richard Branson, Meryl Streep, Mia jocovich, Emma Stone, Johnny Deep, Chimamanda Adiche and much more.

10. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?
Is it weird to say I don’t have a go to note pad cos I actually don’t.
11. You were MBGN 2012 runner up and also West Africa Beauty Queen runner up. How has life treated you after the beauty pageant?

Beauty pageantry was a beautiful stepping stone for me. It help me dream even more, made me push more and it has help me drive myself in the direction I currently am right now.

12. What advice would you give to aspiring young models?
Things are not going to be given to you, you have to work for it. Show up for your casting, be prompt and have a “can do” energy. A lot of no’s might be thrown at you but shake it of, keep pushing and give them a reason to say yes. Believe me when I say it’s quite worth it.

13. Please advice the unmotivated and non inspired people around the world today on why they shouldn’t give up but keep trying. Please explain???
Life is tough, I truly do understand that but putting too much thoughts to your problems won’t solve it. So just like a tough exam in school, solve the easy problems: that would give you an energy/mental boost. That way you have a few more things to be grateful for and helps you look at the tougher problems with more of a positive light. Don’t rush but also dont be lazy, a steady pace will keep you balanced and help you enjoy the small miracles on your way to your big picture.

14. What’s next for Joyce?
I am busy dreaming with my eyes wide open.

We all from Motivated and Free Blog appreciate you for sparing us a bit of your time because we know you are a very busy lady. We wish you the best in all your endeavours.

Thank you.

Interview Discussion With Digital Marketer And Entrepreneur “Mrs Uche Anunobi

Some few days back I had the privilege of meeting an old school friend of mine. She’s an extraordinary woman, a wife, a friend and a sister. Through her coaching lectures, she has turned a lot of people’s life around on Instagram and how to build there businesses around the social media platform. Also she has inspired and motivated a lot of people to keep doing what they do best and never give up.

Ladies and Gentlemen please help me to welcome Mrs. Uche Anunobi….

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school and Where were you born?

I was born in Lagos and grew up in Lagos except for when I was in school. I attended Redeemers University for my undergrad studies and did an MBA at the Lagos Business School.

2. How was life growing up?

Growing up was great for me because I got to see both my parents work really hard to ensure we were comfortable. They showed us love and encouraged us to be better always.

3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into entrepreneurship and a digital marketing coach?

I decided to become an entrepreneur after 3 years of working in an audit firm. The firm was a great one and I learnt a lot about how businesses operate but had zero experience and very little confidence that I could run one myself. That was when I decided to do an MBA to up-level my training. After my MBA, I started testing out my entrepreneurial skills, failing in some and succeeding in some. I’ve also struggled with choosing that one thing that I would love to do for the rest of my life.

4. How do you cope running a fast growing digital marketing platform?

At first, I thought it was crazy and put myself under a lot of unnecessary pressure. But now, I have learnt that there are timeless principles that always work regardless of the changing digital environment and I’ve dedicated myself to learning those principles. That way, I feel less pressured keeping up with the ever changing platform. I embrace the change better and educate other to do same.

5. Is being an entrepreneur a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?

It is more of a blessing than a burden. Entrepreneurship teaches you many things: how to be kind to everyone (customer service), how to plan yourself better because you’d be juggling so many things at the same time, how to motivate yourself because there’ll be no boss to motivate you, the importance of having a coach and trust me, having a coach is everything.

6. What challenged have you had to as a digital marketing coach and entrepreneur?

The most challenging for me is getting people to implement the great things that would move their business forward. People love and understand what I’m telling them to do but get lazy to do the work even though they know it will make all the difference. I guess that’s why coaches like to work with high performance individuals.

7. In your opinion, what is the most difficult part about your line of work?

Ensuring that clients don’t give up when the going gets tough because the entrepreneurial path is not all roses and sunshine.

8. What’s the weirdest thing your followers has ever told you?

I think I’m lucky not to have had any weird follower yet..lol

9. Your business confident is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?

All the freaking time! This is a daily struggle, the only thing is, I don’t let it stop me, not anymore.

10. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?

I so look forward to working with Tara Durotoye, Tricia (Triciabiz), Nelly (Naijabrandchick), Steve Harris, Bankole Williams, Stephanie Obi and Tomie Balogun. I love these great men and women because they inspire me every day. And what’s even more exciting is that they are all Nigerians who started thinking big as youths.

11. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

Tara Durotoye

12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?

How to be a better version of me

How to impact lives positively

How to run my business better

13. Aside the unemployment nature of the country, what drove you to switch from a graduate to a digital marketing coach?

Unemployment didn’t drive me to switch. I chose to switch because I wanted to impact lives in a way that I couldn’t with my paid employment.

14. What advice would you give to unmotivated and non-inspired people around the world. Please explain???

I’d advise them to first acknowledge that they have a challenge of being unmotivated and uninspired. Acknowledging is the first step towards a turn around. Next, they can start to read great books, start working on their business ideas, surround themselves with great people and get a coach.

15. What’s next for Uche Anunobi?

I’m working on developing an online course that would help entrepreneurs kick start and grow their businesses online. I’m also working on my book to open people’s eyes to see how they can take advantage of the online space. These alongside my free weekly live videos on my Instagram page @uche.anunobi will help to grow a tribe of intentionally successful young Nigerian entrepreneur.

We appreciate your contribution and advise for unmotivated people around. We wish you well in all your future endeavours.

To get in touch with uche for advise and coaching, you can follow her on Instagram: @uche.anunobi

Interview Discussion With The CEO of I. Pearls Fashion: Tabitha Bankole

What motivates and drive extraordinary people to do big things? It’s determination. To continue our series on interviewing upcoming young CEO’s, today we have a creative stylist and fashion designer. A lady of charm, elegant, and spruce. Guys welcome Tabitha Bankole “CEO I. Pearls Fashion”.

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school, and Where were you born?

My name us Bankole Tabitha, the 5th of 6 children. I was born in ogun state but my family relocated to Lagos when I was about 7 years old. I schooled in mbari mbayo school, redeemers high school and redeemers University where I obtained a B.A in history and international relations.

> 2. How was life growing up?

Life was good, had its ups and downs, I wanted to be a doctor growing up but I can’t stand blood… Then I wanted to be a farmer but I can’t hold chicken… Growing up was just growing up, I am still growing.

> 3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to go into the fashion business?

Fashion was my plan b, agriculture was my plan A, plan A was never going to work so plan B became plan A

> 4. How do you cope running a fast growing business?

Growing yes but I don’t think it’s moving as fast as I want. Generally it is a lot of dedication, hardwork, sweat and tears, but some day I will get there soon.

> 5. Is being a CEO a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?

It is kind of a bit of both, as the owner of a business you carry a lot of responsibilities on your shoulders, a lot more than you bargained for, but it’s a blessing because I have no limitations, i can go as high as I want which is a big blessing.
> 6. What challenge have you had as a business owner?
A lot of challenges, a whole lot I can mention a few… Dealing with fake fabric vendors to satisfying clients, coping with emergency jobs, getting investors.. A whole lot

> 7. In your opinion, what is the most difficult part about fashion and style?

Creativity : as a designer or stylist you have to keep being creative, it is the only way to stay in the game. There are over a million styles out there and a million coming out daily, so you have you keep thinking and being creative to stay in the game.

> 8. What’s the weirdest thing a customer/ staff has ever told you?

Nothing weird yet, I await that moment (laughs)
> 9. Your business confidence is so bold, do you sometimes have the fear of the unknown?
Yes definitely I do, every business owner does, but you just have to keep the faith and keep moving.

> 10. Which other professional are you looking to work with or have something coming out with?

I am working on something new, I will let people know when it is time.

> 11. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world, who would it be?

Omg that will be Oprah!

> 12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?

Stay diligent, remain motivated, and keep working hard.

> 13. Aside the unemployment nature of the country, what drove you to switch from an International relations graduate to a fashion business owner?

Unemployment played no role in my business. I always knew I want to be an entrepreneur right from high school, in my university days I sold all sorts, so business has always being a part of me. I still love international relations and some day, I might do something in my line of study

> 14. What advice would you give to unmotivated and non inspired people around the world. Please explain???

Just keep doing what you do, the road is not easy but once you start flying you remain flying, there is no traffic in the air, so just keep trying to ‘take off’ and once you do, you will soar for ever.

> 15. What’s next for Tabitha Bankole?
I am working on my ready to wear line, and doing something new in the bridal industry. Once I am ready, the world will know.

Thank you very much for your time and contribution to our platform. Hope we do this again..

Tabitha Bankole: Sure…