She is the first Nigerian woman to be a google developer expert. She is one of the most influential young women in Nigeria and making us proud.
She is truly doing well, which makes her our wcw this week.
It all started at age 14 when Ire Aderinokun played an online game and got stuck in the world of pixels and bits. She went on to get a Degree in Experimental Psychology and a Master’s in Law but never forgot her first love.
Aderinokun’s career emphasizes the importance of being a self-starter and consistency. She has succeeded in building a career on the platform of thought leadership and it has gotten even better as she is giving back to society. Progressing from a mailing list of 1,431 to 2,541 subscribers on her blog, to speaking at the WeAreDevelopers conference in Vienna last year, Aderinokun has shown us that commitment to consistency is the purest form of handwork.
Currently working as a full-time front-end developer at eye/o, she is dedicating her resources to seeing young women through tech programs online.
The way we see other people is often a reflection of how we see ourselves.
In fact, it is our most extreme reactions to other people that are often the most revealing. When we are intensely jealous of someone to the point of hatred, there is usually a reason. When we cannot stop comparing ourselves to someone else, there is usually a reason.
That reason is that there is something about them, or their lives, that we secretly aspire to have.
We might deny it, we might try to hide it, we might villainize them and victimize ourselves in order to feel better about it.
But in the end, when we are totally preoccupied about who is better than us, more attractive than us, more successful than us, or happier than us, it is always because there is a huge, gaping hole within us that we do not yet know how to fill.
We fill it with action.
We fill it by showing up.
We fill it by no longer neglecting our true desires and our deep needs.
We fill it by going after the life we really want.
We fill it by rising to the challenge, adapting to the competition, and becoming the absolute best version of ourselves.
Do you know what happens when you start showing up fully in your own life? You stop caring about who might be better than you.
When you think you look the best you possibly can, you stop caring that someone might look better. When you think you are doing the best you possibly can, you stop caring that someone might do better. When you think you are being the best you possibly can, you stop caring that someone might be better.
That insecurity almost always comes from our subconscious awareness that we are not doing all that we are capable of, and that person is. Instead of pointing out our own fault, we project it onto them, shaming, belittling, or trying to make them seem to be less than what they are.
This is not effective.
This does not do anything but make us seem petty and small.
Throwing shade at someone else’s light does not make you shine brighter, it only reveals the darkness within you.
The truth is that you don’t actually want to be better than other people, you just want to feel like you are enough, and you are never going to feel like you are enough if you aren’t showing up and trying to do what you truly want to do.
Worthiness is both something we are born with, and yet, something we must prove to ourselves over time. Nobody wakes up with profound confidence, it is something they build by getting out into the world and showing themselves that they are capable of what they desire.
The same is true here.
Someone else’s beauty does not make you less beautiful, someone else’s success does not make you less successful, someone else’s well being does not make you less healthy.
There is enough shine for everyone, there is enough success for everyone, there is enough goodness for everyone.
Instead of fighting to have someone else’s taken away, it’s time to start chasing your own.
When you really start showing up as the person you want to be, you’ll never again fear that you aren’t measuring up to someone else’s standard, because you’re measuring up to your own — and that’s all you really want anyway.
This is a guest post from Briana Weist.
Before I dive through the post for the day, I want to congratulate everyone for witnessing the new month of June. It’s already half of the year guys. We are slowly getting to our place of growth and enlarging our coast. Happy New Month!
As Christians we must begin cherishing God’s will above our own Comfort. This is not always simple to do, but it is possible. This post explains how.
In order to begin cherishing God’s will above our comfort, the bottom line this. God is God, and His glory should be our pursuit even when it hurts. When Joab and his brother Abishai were surrounded by the Syrians and Ammonites, this is what he said: “Be of good courage, and let us play the man for our people, and for the cities of our God, and may the LORD do what seems good to him” (2 Samuel 10:12)
They were ready for battle, but were resolved to whatever outcome God deemed good in His view. Esther echoed a similar refrain: “… I and my young women will also fast as you do. Then I will go to the king, though it is against the law, and if I perish, I perish.” (Esther 4:16)
Once again we see an abandonment to God to do what He deems best. I’ll do what I know to do to the best of my ability and trust God to have His way. I really feel this is the essence of having faith: trusting God in spite of the outcome. It is a trust in God’s goodness (having the best intentions for us), His ability (to do all things), and His wisdom (to do that which will bring Him glory and us joy in Him).
In both passages, the central characters took responsibility, were decisive, yet rescinded themselves to God’s will. James encourages us to have this attitude.
Sometimes, we make plans, speak presumptuously about the plans without any acknowledgment that God should have a say. As if God exists simply to meet our needs or for our sole satisfaction. He warns: “Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.” (James 4:15)
It’s time to start cherishing God’s will like never before.
His will is our ultimate place of fulfillment, even if it seems like we miss out on some momentary comfort. This is not always easy, and I am sure it was no different for the Bible characters mentioned earlier. But, such trust in God sets the stage for Him to show Himself strong. As tempting as it might be, let not your heart be anchored simply on things hoped for but rather stay grounded on God’s goodness, power and wisdom.
Credit to Sho.
We’re all searching for happiness in life. But many of us look in the wrong places. Start with thankfulness. Thankfulness is the beginning of happiness!As a human race, people are more unhappy than ever before. I’ve discovered that there are three main reasons for this decline in our overall happiness. The three main reasons for our unhappiness are comparison, comfort, and entitlement. I’ll explain each in detail below.
Thanks to big media, TV, movies, and even social media platforms, we’re always comparing ourselves to someone else. Comparison will steal your happiness quicker than anything else. The key to overcoming the comparison game is to take these things for what they are. Remember, online, and on TV, you’re seeing someone’s best. Both their successes and their failures, you see it polished and made interesting for you. At the end of the day, each of us are human, and what you see on a screen is not reality. Stop comparing yourself!
This is the silent killer. Do you want to die faster? Live a comfortable life. I could really go on a rant about comfort, but I’ll save it for a content later. Here’s the summary, comfort is an illusion. The more comfortable you are consistently, the less happy you’ll be. The more uncomfortable you are, the more you push yourself and don’t allow yourself to relax, the happier you will be. (In moderation, of course) If you want to be happier in life, get off the couch, do something crazy that makes you really uncomfortable, stretch yourself!
I’ve heard many people say that because Buhari is the president, they’ve felt more unhappy. GROW UP. Since when is it someone else’s responsibility to make you happy? News flash, life isn’t about you, and it never will be. Yes, I know, I’m being harsher than I usually am here. But many people need to hear this. Life isn’t about you, stop acting like it is. Take responsibility for your life and circumstances. Make the best of every season that you’re in. If there’s something you don’t like happening around you, fill the gap, be the solution instead of the complaining voice. (Remember, I love you all! I’ll stop being harsh now.)
One more thing, happiness is not circumstantial.
Happiness doesn’t come from having a great job or owning a successful business, and it doesn’t come from being debt-free or extremely wealthy. It doesn’t come from being in a stable relationship or having a lot of friends. Everything I just mentioned makes you FEEL happy, but it’s all a by product. Happiness is a mindset, not a set of circumstances.
Obviously, there are more reasons why people are so unhappy than I mentioned above. I have found these three reasons to be the root of the happiness crisis that we’re facing. If you can overcome these three things, you’ll begin being happier. But let’s not stop there! Let’s dive into ways to proactively increase your happiness.
How can I be happier?
If you want to be happier in life, you must understand that happiness is a mindset. It’s not your circumstances. And you don’t obtain happiness by avoiding the three main reasons that people are so unhappy that I mentioned above. The key to beginning to live a happier life is to get into a mindset of happiness. The best way to start shifting your mindset is by being thankful. Thankfulness is the beginning of happiness. This isn’t always easy, but if you can remember it in your daily life, you can start becoming a happier person.
In conclusion, remember to avoid comparison, comfort, and entitlement because circumstances do not lead to happiness. Instead, remember that thankfulness is the beginning of happiness. You can become happier by expressing gratitude, making life about more than yourself, and lastly, and ultimately, that each of us is free in Christ!PS: Am also working on myself on this matter. I post this to also find happiness in what I do, forgetting whatever challenges am having at the moment. We shall overcome by the Grace of God.
Life happens so fast these days. We are always on the move; we are always changing or working toward something new. The next big thing is always almost here or about to happen. We are so focused on getting where we want to be that we forget where we came from and we forget where we are in that moment. Most people would tell you that they are not happy with where they currently are. Why is this?
The world has always tried to sell this statement to the people within it: “Happiness is right around the corner.”
The truth is that happiness is not around the corner, the next thing to be excited about is what you are being sold. Happiness is temporary and based on your circumstances. Your circumstances change daily. This has become more and more troubling to me as we live in an increasingly unhappy world. The problem is not the world itself; the problem is that the people who follow Jesus are following this suite of unhappiness. We are called to be in the world, not part of it. (John 15:19)
More people would want to know Jesus and be saved if they saw genuine joy in the lives of those that call themselves believers. We are called to be different than the world. Even during difficult times in life, we are still called to be full of joy. James 1:2-3 says, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.”
1 Kings 4:29-34 speaks of how wise King Solomon was. Leaders from all around the world came to seek counsel from him. 1 Kings 4:29 says, “God gave Solomon wisdom and very great insight, and a breadth of understanding as measureless as the sand on the seashore.” Solomon says something that really sticks out to me in Ecclesiastes 3:12 “I perceived that there is nothing better for people than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live.”
In Solomon’s unmeasurable wisdom from God, he says that there is nothing better for people than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live. It seems so simple when you read it, but why aren’t we living it out?
Whatever it is that you are currently doing, stop for a minute! Refocus. Remember to enjoy your life! Your life is a gift from God. We were not created to be unhappy and unfulfilled in this life. God ultimately created us so that He could watch His creation do good works and be full of joy in the process. God created us to watch us be happy. Colossians 3:17 says, whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Have you ever thought of it that way before? God created you so He could enjoy you and for you to enjoy Him through your joyfulness in life. Today, give thanks in all things; be joyful on the journey of your life no matter what season you are in. Let God look down at His creation and see you enjoying what He has given you. Start enjoying your life today!
This is my prayer for all of you.
Dear Father, we approach your throne on behalf of the mothers whom you have entrusted with the care of your most precious little ones. We thank you for creating each mom with a unique combination of gifts and talents. We thank you for the sacrifice of self each mom gives for her children. For the late nights spent rocking a colicky infant. For the hands calloused from washing, wiping, scrubbing, mixing, backing, stirring, hugging, patting, disciplining, holding, writing, erasing, painting, and pouring.
We thank you for the gift of time moms give for their kids, whether it’s stay-at-home moms, working moms, and moms who have some combination of the two. We thank you for the flexibility of moms, for their tirelessness, their perseverance, and their devotion.
We pray you give each mom strength. Help her to see in every mundane task the eternal, cosmic significance that you place on motherhood. Help her to understand that the most radical, world-changing events may be happening anonymously in her home. Help her to forgive those who undermine her significance.
We especially pray for single moms, who must lean solely on you for the fathering of their children. We thank you that you’re big arms surround children who may never know their earthly father. We also pray for mother who never had the honor of bearing children, but whose nurturing extends to the many poor and needy who crass the threshold of their lives.
Love you all!
If you’ve settled for a normal life, you’re missing out on being something more. For the sake of ‘being normal’ you’re missing out on extraordinary living
Normal is defined as conforming to a standard. To being usual, typical, or doing what is expected of you. Some synonyms for ‘normal’ are common, ordinary, customary, conventional, habitual, fixed, or traditional.
Is being normal a good or bad thing?
Based on the definition, being normal sounds good, right? If you follow the norms, you will never face questioning or be in trouble. You would fit right in, and everyone in your circle would love and admire you. It sounds like quite the cushy, comfortable life we all hope for. Yet, when you take a closer look, you will see just how dangerous ‘being normal’ can turn out for you.
Some examples of traditions/norms can include believing the teachings from childhood and never questioning it. Believing cultural/traditional rituals without ever questioning any of it. Believing that you can only reach so high, earn so much, marry a particular type of person, believe a certain way… etc.
As a guideline, if it is anything that you feel ‘forced’ or coerced into doing, or you do it out of fear, then you may be operating out of an established norm/tradition. The motives behind why you are doing what you do are seriously important.
The traditions of man or culture,, may create life limitations. Each society has its own culture, its own acceptable ways of living and of life. You can be ostracized and criticized if you go against the cultural norms of society.
A ‘normal’ life means that I have accepted the norms of my people and the limitations they impose on me.
The danger lies therein, because once we accept something as ‘normal’ we limit our ability to receive beyond that. ‘Normal,’ creates boundaries and stifles creativity, it discourages the unlimited life that God has for us. The way you see yourself, is what matters most.
You can’t change society or cultural norms, but you can choose your beliefs and change yourself.
God has a life without limits for you. Every time a limitation arises, as a stronghold, take it into your secret place with God. Meditate on His love for you, and on His word, and you will see the boundaries of those limitations removed.
With Christ in you, there are NO LIMITATIONS on what He can do, and what He wants to do in your life and through you.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. – Romans 12:2
Stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you. Allow the Holy Spirit to inwardly transform you through a total reformation of how you think. This will empower you to discern God’s will as you live a beautiful life, satisfying and perfect in his eyes.
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Now that God has refined you, He’ll test your faith like gold. This is where a lot of believers become discouraged and give up.
When faced with a situation that tests your faith in God, how do you respond? Many times, our initial prayer is for God to deliver us from the situation. We may even beg Him for it. But I’ve learned that God doesn’t deliver us from a test because the purpose of the test is actually to deliver us.
It can be difficult to understand why a good and perfect God allows us to go through trying situations. The reason is simple: sanctification. God is transforming us into the image of His son, Jesus Christ. God tests us for our good; to develop our faith. Testing is not something we should despise because it’s a chance to show the genuineness of our faith and glorify our Lord.
Testing Reveals What is in Us
This third I will put into the fire; I will refine them like silver and test them like gold. They will call on my name and I will answer them; I will say, ‘They are my people,’ and they will say, ‘The LORD is our God.’” – Malachi 3:3 NIV
The bible tells us that God refines and tests us like silver and gold. To understand what that looks like practically, you first have to understand how silver is refined. In short, the silversmith places the silver in a fire and watches it very carefully. He knows the silver is ready when he can clearly see his reflection (or image) in the metal.
When you’re in a trial or test, does God see His image and character in you? Or are your carnal ways of thinking still leading your behavior? Do you exhibit the fruits of the spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, self-control,etc…) or are you led by your flesh? Will you doubt God or trust Him if a less qualified person is given the promotion you’ve been praying for? Do you slander that person’s name to everyone around you or do you ask God to remove the bitterness and still serve at your job as unto the Lord? When faced with a test, what is in you will come out of you. How we respond determines if God moves us forward in His will or allows us to spend a bit more time in our current season.
Testing Removes Impurities From us
As you grow in your faith you’ll begin passing more and more tests. It’s a great feeling, but even though you’re on the right track you shouldn’t get too comfortable. Now that God has refined you, He’ll test you like gold.
Gold is naturally impure. To purify it, the goldsmith must put into the furnace repeatedly. With each pass through the fire it becomes more pure. This is why there are different karats of gold (8,16,24). The higher the karat the more pure it is, with 24 karat being the purest. If we want our faith in God to pure and indestructible like gold, our faith has to go through the fire again and again. Although we’ve been made right with God through our faith in Jesus, the remnant of our sinful nature is still within us. Our sanctification doesn’t happen all at once, it’s a process.
Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. – 1 Peter 4:12-13 NIV
This is where a lot of believers become discouraged and give up. We don’t know when the tests will come, how long they will last, or how intense they will be. Like the Israelite’s in the desert, we can grow weary and start to believe God has forsaken us in the very place He brought us to. In our weakness and fear, we attempt to take matters into our own hands instead of waiting on God (See Exodus 32 NIV).
“If your faith doesn’t cost you anything it’s because it s not worth anything”
Your Faith Will Cost You
To follow Christ we must pick up our cross and deny ourselves. This requires dying to our own desires and ways of thinking. The tests we go through are design to kill our flesh so we learn to rely on the Holy Spirit. It’s a fight not to go back to self-medicating or finding our worth in a relationship. It’s a struggle to stay faithful at work when you’re being overlooked or discredited. Trials feels like the complete opposite of what life in Christ should be, but it’s not. The purpose of the test is to grow your faith, free you from bondage, and increase your dependency on God. Shallow beliefs and idols won’t last in the trial, they’ll will be ruined by the fire. Only what is true and pure will remain.
Friends, don’t fear the fire – the tests and trials. The fire isn’t designed to destroy you, but to remove everything that’s been holding you back from God’s perfect will. If you stay steadfast, you will glorify God and come to know His power in a brand new way. Your triumph will be a testimony to believers and unbelievers alike. Now this isn’t to say that it will get easier, but you will become stronger, wiser, and not as easily swayed by storms that come your way.
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. – James 1:2-4 NIV
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Have you ever purchased a new item only to feel overwhelmed when you go to use it? It’s so new and different that you don’t even know where to begin. A new Christian may often feel this way as he/she learns to navigate the Christian life. There is no instant pot Christians.
That’s how I felt when I took my instant pot out of the box. It wasn’t a crockpot where I could just toss things in and turn on. The instant pot has so many buttons and options. And, within each feature, there are more features! It’s a completely new way of cooking, and I just couldn’t figure it out was I went. The instant pot was a new way of life and I needed to learn and understand how to use it. I thought I’d be making fancy meals right out of the box, instead I needed to start with the basics.
There’s No Instant Pot Christianity
For those of us who have been followers of Jesus, we sometimes anticipate an instant pot Christian. We expect the moment someone believes, their life is instantly changed to what we expect a Christian to look like and speak. There is no instant pot Christians.
If Christianity was about molding a person to a specific set of standards and conduct, we’d have a religion with a group of people that looked, dressed, and acted the same.
Christianity is the Transformation of Lives by the Power of God
In Romans 12:2, Paul writes that we are not to conform but be transformed. Conforming, by definition, is to comply with rules and laws. Conforming does not indicate there is new life within you; instead, it’s an indication that you are are a rule follower. Anyone can conform to a set of rules. However, true life transformation is by the power of God. This is the power that changes lives.
When you come to Christ, you are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). Your previous way of life and thinking are no longer relevant, but it takes time to learn God’s way. There are no instant pot Christians. You learn His ways by consistently renewing your mind. As you renew your mind, your life is being transformed, from the inside out, into the same image as the Lord (2 Corinthians 3:18).
I remember my own journey as a new believer five years ago. Theologies and terminologies were overwhelming. I would call the language of mature believers “Christianese” for I didn’t understand what it meant when “God spoke to you” or “being saved”. My attempts for understanding through the Bible only led to more questions. My previous ideas of life needed reprogramming. I didn’t need a new set of rules to follow, I needed a reboot of my operating system.
This is what the transforming power of God does, it wipes out our old operating system and puts in a new one.
The More I know, the Less I Understand
Fast forward five years later, and I have a deeper understanding of God, but I also have many unanswered questions. Unanswered questions is good for it keeps us seeking God. We will never understand the ways of God, and we must learn to accept the mystery of God. God doesn’t think the way we do for He is greater than us and so are His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Because we are made in His image, we can relate to His thoughts, but we cannot understand Him. It’s like a young child who can relate to the thoughts of his parent but cannot understand his parent at the same time. As parents, we have experiences and a larger picture to base our decisions. So it is with us and God for we are His children and do not understand the ways of God. We need to be okay accepting the mysteries of God.
We get ourselves into a lot of trouble when we think we have God figured out. And, when God doesn’t act the way we expect Him, this leads to disappointment and a crisis of faith.
While we may have lots of questions, God reveals truth to us in His time. The Holy Spirit will teach you everything you need (John 14:26). Remember, your life is not built in an instant for there are no instant pot Christian.
Christianity is not an instant pot. You are not changed in an instant. Instead, by the power of God, and over time, you will find your life tranformed. Don’t allow anyone recieve you, you are a work in progress.
Thanks to CHRISSY PETRAITIS for this piece.
Our concern shouldn’t be that our task is small. Instead, we should be asking: Am I doing my task greatly, regardless of its size or seemingly importance?
Life is full of small things, isn’t it? I don’t mean snails and sand fleas. No, I mean the small choices we make, like taking care of our bodies, and tasks we complete, like home and work responsibilities. Since “small” or seemingly routine, non-earth-shattering items construct the majority of our time, perhaps they aren’t so insignificant after all.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for daring adventures and if you follow my personal blog, you know I just returned from traveling two weeks in Italy. Everything in its place, right? Although life certainly has its mountain-top moments, it’s also good to adventure on the small scale.
Truth is, God cares about and can use our ordinary, less-than-glamorous moments just as much as those bucket-list accomplishments.
Don’t believe me? Let’s take a look at the Bible in 1 Chronicles. Now this book holds its share of hurdles, including chapters of genealogies, but it also holds a challenge relevant to our lives.
In 1 Chronicles 9:29-34, we find a short account of appointed responsibilities in the house of God and who was charged with what task. Maybe you’re thinking, “So what?” Stay with me and take a look at verse 29:
“Some of them were appointed over the furnishings and over all the implements of the sanctuary, and over the fine flour and the wine and the oil and the incense and the spices” (NKJV).
Overseeing vessels and instruments in the temple’s sanctuary seem like trivial tasks. Making the ointment of the spices (verse 30) or keeping inventory of the flour, wine, oil and other spices (verse 29) don’t sound especially exciting to me. If that job posting opened today, none of us would probably sign up for it.
However, these details were important enough to record in Scripture. In fact, these small tasks proved vital to the efficiency and order in the house of God.
If you’re like me, we’re often so focused on doing something “big” for God that we trip over the little things. For example, how was our attitude toward that task we didn’t especially enjoy?
Yet God cares about our response to appointments great and small. We see this again and again in Scripture.
- “Let all things be done decently and in order” (I Corinthians 14:40 NKJV).
- “Do all things without complaining and disputing” (Philippians 2:14).
- “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13).
- “And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him” (Colossians 3:17).
- “But you be watchful in all things … fulfill your ministry” (2 Timothy 4:5).
In other words, the big and the small assignments both matter. I like how Helen Keller summarized this idea:
“I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble.”
NB: Do something small as if they were great today.
Thank You that we get to be a part of Your global Church at this moment. Thank You for the opportunity to spread Your love and hope to a world living in darkness and despair.
Your Word says that if Your people humble themselves, turn away from wickedness, and call on Your name, that You will answer them and heal their land.
So we, Your people, are asking Your forgiveness for the times we’ve chosen not to love the people You put in front of us.
Allow this season to strengthen Your Church and to remind us of how much You love this hurting world.
Please heal our land and use us to meet the needs of others. Grow our faith as You grow Your global Church.
Come, Lord Jesus, and do what only You can do.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Let us spread Faith and not Fear.
Everyone is simply projecting their inner experience into the outer world – be that positive or negative, be that praise or criticism. To live your life at peace and empowered here are 2 TIPS…
Lots of credit goes to Bernadette Logue for her brilliant piece to the world.
The word ‘rejection’ terrifies this generation because we assume it means that we failed or we’re not good enough. We assume it means that we can’t win the game or get what we want. We assume that it makes us look weak, bad and inadequate.
But the essence of life is change and adapting to the things we can’t control including the things that rejected us and the things we couldn’t get. It’s not a direct reflection of our own shortcomings but it’s just a natural part of life and it happens to everyone. And I mean EVERYONE.
But we never look at the other side of rejection, at the possibility that maybe we wanted something that wasn’t going to be right for us or we wanted someone who wasn’t going to treat us right. We never try to understand what rejection is trying to tell us. It’s trying to tell us that we’re knocking on the wrong door. We’re going the wrong way. We’re trying so hard for something that could cause us so much pain.
I always look back at the times I was rejected from something and how it always led me to something better. I look back at the times I thought someone was great or irreplaceable only to discover that they were not genuine or kind. Sometimes we don’t see the obvious truth because we’re fixated on the word ‘rejection’ and how we can literally do anything to avoid it, even if it means destroying ourselves and forgetting our worth. I eventually found something better and wondered why I can’t learn to embrace rejection and take it as an opportunity to grow.
You might not get the things you want but you will get the things you need. You might not get the person you love but you will end up with the person who adores you and shows you a different kind of love.
Why can’t we see the blessings in rejection? Why are we only looking for the instant gratification of the word ‘yes?’ Given that many times ‘yes’ broke our hearts too and left us with nothing.
We contradict ourselves because we keep saying that if something is meant for us, it will find us, yet we can’t seem to shake rejection off, we can’t stop it from crippling us when it comes to taking risks and loving ourselves.
Rejection is also fate telling us that some things are not meant for us and if they were, we wouldn’t have been rejected. Rejection is another word for redirection.
Rejection sucks by all means and no one likes the bitter taste of the word ‘no’ but it’s also preparing us for something bigger than what we wanted for ourselves. It teaches us that God’s plan will always be better than ours and sometimes that’s all the faith we need to get over the fear of rejection and actually learn how to embrace it.
Guest post from Rania Naim.
Originally posted on Thoughts Catalog.
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