What You Need To Realize If You Feel Like You Aren’t As Far As You Should Be In Life #BriannaWeist

1. Sometimes the thing you keep trying to fix about yourself isn’t meant to be fixed.

A lot of culture tries to tell us that we can be perfect if we work hard enough – and that not being perfect is a product of laziness. But there are things about ourselves we are not meant to change. It’s human nature to want to feel like we belong, but what makes us different sets us apart. We’re not meant to shed the things that make us who we are – even if those things are sometimes quirks and weaknesses and fears.

Sometimes you keep the weight on because when you think you can’t rely on your looks, you start to develop your interests and your sense of self.

Sometimes you can’t finish the project because that’s not the project that you have in you to create. Sometimes you keep having emotional breakdowns because you’re trying to stop yourself from going any farther down the wrong path. Instead of trying to change the things that make us uncomfortable, sometimes we have to trust them.

2. Your life isn’t going to change if it doesn’t need to change.
There are some things in life that are hard to change, but you need to change, like staying in a relationship that’s hurting you, not being able to hold down a job, living outside of your means, abusing a substance or not getting help for a mental illness. But these things are extreme. Being obsessed with changing yourself can make your life exponentially worse if you begin to discard everything that’s good in favor of what could be better.

Your life will not change if it doesn’t need to change – that’s what nobody will tell you. If you’ve paid your bills and do work you find at least somewhat enjoyable and spend time with a few people who are close to you and have some clothes in your closet and know where your next meal is coming from, you’re doing better than you think you are.

Continually “fixing” yourself when nothing is wrong will only exhaust you. It will make you miserable. It will condition your brain to be anxious about nothing and everything.

If you can take an honest look at yourself and acknowledge that you’re doing alright, maybe the problem is more that you don’t know how to be content and weather the natural discomforts of life, rather than uproot and overhaul the second you experience a slightly uncomfortable feeling.

3. Timing is everything – and the thing about timing is that you can only understand it in retrospect.
You will not meet your life partner a day before you are ready to. The job opportunity you’ve been searching for will not present itself until you’ve learned what you need to from where you are. Sometimes you are meant to have seasons of idleness. Sometimes what you find on the detour ends up being the better destination.

Sometimes the novel is not ready to be written because you haven’t met the inspiration for your main character yet. Sometimes you need two more years of life experience before you can make your masterpiece into something that will feel real and true and raw to other people.

Sometimes you’re not falling in love because whatever you need to know about yourself is only knowable through solitude. Sometimes you haven’t met your next collaborator. Sometimes your sadness encircles you because, one day, it will be the opus upon which you build your life. – Jamie Varon

4. There’s no one blueprint for how a life should go.

Forcing your life into specific timelines is what’s causing you pain. It’s not that you aren’t where you should be, it’s that you think you should be somewhere else. You can’t do “growth” wrong. Becoming who you are isn’t something that takes a set number of weeks or months or years in your 20s.

You are not supposed to be the person you thought you’d grow up to be when you were in high school. You made projections based on the limited knowledge you had then. You made assumptions that turned out not to be true. You do not owe it to your younger self – or anyone else – to be something you that no longer suits you.

5. The hardest and longest lesson that any one of us can learn is to do what we can, and surrender to the rest.
By showing you what you cannot control, you are reminded of what you can. By making you feel helpless, you are pushed to take action. By taking away what you thought you couldn’t bear to lose, you see that you are not reliant on anything but your heart and mind. By bringing waves of unexplainable pain, you remember that not everything can be understood, but it must still be endured. By showing you what you do not have success doing, you begin to redefine what you think you’re here for.

When we are confronted with what we can’t change, we are shown what we can. Life is always trying to awaken us to an inner power.

6. Sometimes the best and most poignant parts of your life will be the ones in which you aren’t all that happy.
If you think you’re not where you should be in life, it’s probably because you aren’t as happy as you imagined you could be.
But “happiness” is such a crude measure of whether or not you’re doing alright, because it doesn’t account for what really makes people thrive: fulfillment, purpose, movement, meaning.

Sometimes, you will uncover the best parts of yourself as you dig yourself out from uncertainty and despair. Sometimes, the work that will make you most proud and fulfilled is the same work that exhausted you and kept you up until 1 a.m. every weeknight creating it.

Sometimes, the forever person you’ve been waiting for is on the other side of the challenging relationship you have to get through now.

A happy life is not consistent with a good one. Happiness tends to breed complacency, which is good – for a bit. But wildfires are as necessary to human hearts as they are to nature:
We think of forest fires as these devastating events that we need to stop, but they are actually vital to ecological health of an area. There are plants that require the heat of a wildfire for their seeds to burst open and plant themselves in the earth. There are others that are meant to be flammable, so that fires quells competition. As it turns out, forests are made to have a periodic cleansing by fire. Your heart is made this way, also. – Chrissy Stockton

7. You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
It’s easy to think that we are only ever “meant” for good things, that the only seasons of our lives that are “correct” are the ones that we enjoy. But the dark moments of your life are just as intentional as the better ones. They serve just as much purpose.

There is no instance in which you are ever not where you are supposed to be. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be there. Rather than constantly running to the next thing, the next goal, the next change, consider that everything that’s in front of you – the good and the bad – is there on purpose, and your real job is only to figure out what that purpose is.

What Is Enough?

I don’t know anyone who hasn’t wished for more than they have or at least, very few. And, those few who said they had enough were usually people who had already lived a full life and amassed a substantial amount of money so they never had to worry about paying their bills or living the way they wanted.

But, is this really what is meant by having enough?

Missing Life’s Joys
To have enough for some people never comes. They never seem to be happy with what they have always moaning about somebody they know who has more money, or a bigger house, or a newer car, or who goes on regular exotic vacations. For these people, I am truly sorry.
They have missed a great deal that life has to offer by seemingly looking for more to make them happy. But, I doubt that happiness will ever find them no matter how much they have.

Happiness Beyond Wealth
For others, having enough means that they live comfortably; they live a lifestyle that befits their monetary means but this does not mean that they suffer.

These type of people do not need the newest of everything being quite satisfied with a car that may be used and a couple of years old just glad that they have a dependable automobile to get them to where they need to go.

It means that they enjoy a back yard BBQ just as much as if they were flying off to an exotic destination. They spend quality time with their family enjoying the comradeship and the little quarrels that spill over from time to time. They go to bed being grateful for what they have.

Not Happy At All
And, others may have had enough but decided that their lifestyle it brought what not really what they needed or wanted or indeed, what made them happy. These are the people who had the big salaries, had the company car, had all the conferences and offsite get a ways, who had the big house and the cottage by a remote lake. And, for all they had, they spent exactly that and then some.

To these people, this kind of life was not satisfying because it was filled with a type of phoniness where you never really seemed to have friends in the truest sense, instead a whole bunch of acquaintances that you associated with because they were part of the role, expected as a team player or a corporate gopher.

Now, on the other hand, there are thousands of people who think this is just what they always wanted. If this is the case and they are really happy, then good for them. But for all those others, when is enough to the point when enough doesn’t mean anything anymore?

We have a friend who had it all – a well paying job, a big house, the cottage that most people would love to have as a house! But he was truly unhappy. There were many who looked at him and couldn’t understand why he was not the happiest man in the world. But as he said to me, “all these things are just material things, they don’t bring true happiness.”

It Is Your Decision
The point is this: to have enough is something that only your inner self can explain. It is up to you to really decide what makes you happy and what is enough when it comes to your life, family, job and so forth.

On the other hand, if you feel that enough is no longer what you value, then it is time to make a change to what you really want. Maybe this change requires you to move away from what you have been doing, take a new job or career direction or start your own business.

Maybe it is time to have a hard look at your own values and see whether these values have been compromised over the years to the point where you need to make a big adjustment.

Decide now before you end up forever searching for what is enough.

Repost: What Was the ‘Crime’ of Jesus That Got Him Crucified? #Easter #History #Crucifixion

Soon another Holy Week will be upon us, beginning with Palm Sunday and culminating with Easter Sunday. It was “the week that changed the world.”
The week began in a humble, triumphant sort of way. That may seem like an oxymoron. Jesus was hailed as a king, but rode in on a donkey—a humble way to begin His public entry into Jerusalem. Of course, He was fulfilling what Zechariah the prophet had foretold about 700 years before.

Dr. Paul L. Maier is a professor of ancient history emeritus from Western Michigan University. He is a terrific scholar on all things related to Jesus and the Gospels.
In his 1997 book, In the Fullness of Time, Maier writes of Jesus’ entry into the Holy City on the eve of the Passover on that very first Palm Sunday: the donkey “was the common beast of burden of the time, in contrast to the superior horse of gilded chariot used in Roman triumphs.”

The city was bustling and filled with people. Dr. D. James Kennedy notes this: “Josephus tells us that there were over three million pilgrims that visited the city on this occasion. 256,000 lambs were slain for the Passover.”

Of course, the climax of Jesus’ entry was His death (on Passover) and resurrection.
Why was Jesus crucified? What crime did He allegedly commit?

Crucifixion was a horrible way to die. It was so bad that no Roman citizen could be crucified. It was an execution reserved for slaves and bandits. How amazing then that the Son of God become man would allow Himself to be so degraded by people whom He Himself had created.

Crucifixion was invented in the Near East and perfected by the Romans. It was not uncommon for a crucified victim to suffer for days. Pontius Pilate was surprised Jesus had died in only a few hours—however, He had been scourged so horribly that He could have bled to death, had He been released after the whipping.

The crucified victim had the crime he committed posted above his head. Crucifixion was like a living billboard—do what this fellow did and you too could end up like this.

In the case of Jesus, we’ve all seen the crucifixes with INRI above His head. This stands for Iesus Nazarenvs Rex Ivdaeorvm, Latin for Jesus of Nazareth, King of the Jews, as recorded in John’s Gospel.
His “crime” was claiming to be a king, a treasonous act in ancient Rome.

In a television interview I once conducted with Dr. Paul Maier, he noted that there were three phases of Roman history, beginning with the Monarchy from 753 to 509 B.C. The next stage was the Republic from 509 to 30 B.C. And then there was the Roman Empire from 30 B.C. to 476.

Commenting on that first phase, Maier told me, “The first seven kings of Rome ended in a real tyrant. His name was Tarquin the Proud, and they didn’t want another king throughout their history.” Thus, after 509 B.C., the Romans eschewed the title “king” [rex] thereafter, despite having emperors who were far more powerful than any earthly king.

Thus, Jesus’ claim to be the King of the Jews was His death sentence. Maier adds: “[Rex] was a term of opprobrium. It was somebody who was trying to subvert the masses…. And that is the charge that the prosecution made, which really turned the case as far as Pontius Pilate was concerned.”

It’s a tragic fact that in 2000 years of Christian history, there have been anti-Semitic professing Christians who blamed the Jews for the crucifixion of Jesus.
But the fact is that Jesus laid down His life as fully God and fully man, who alone fulfilled the Ten Commandments, on behalf of sinners—so that those who believe in Him might be saved. As Jesus Himself said, “I lay down my life that I may take it up again. No one takes it from me, but I lay it down of my own accord. I have authority to lay it down, and I have authority to take it up again” (John 10:17-18). If there were any “crime” committed for which Jesus was dying, it was the crime committed by sinful people against our Holy Creator.

Christians believe that Jesus is the King, whose kingdom was foretold by Daniel the prophet about 500 years before He came, who said that in the “days of those kings”—which kings? The Roman kings—the God of heaven will set up a kingdom that will smite the Roman Empire.

It begins as a small stone but that stone goes on to become a mountain that fills the whole earth. Christianity began very small, but has grown to where about one-third of humanity claims to be Christian.

And so during this Holy Week, Christians celebrate the coming 2000 years ago of the King, who came the first time in humility, who will one day ride a white horse as the conquering King of kings and Lord of lords.

The Ugly Truth About Addiction


This young lady’s story is really inspiring to social media addicts or to lady’s who are hungry for social media fame.

Alanna Ketler in November 3, 2015 shared to the whole world this deepest addiction and sacrifice to success story.

Essena O’Neil is a 19-year-old Australian Instagram star and she recently opened up to reveal the truth about her life and the shots that made her famous on social media.

She began her blog and YouTube account when she was in high school, and it wasn’t long before they completely consumed her life. She became a widely known online sensation, garnering over half a million followers on Instagram and over 250,000 YouTube subscribers. “I fell in love with this idea that I could be of value to other people,” she wrote. “Let’s call this my snowballing addiction to be liked by others.” Soon she was getting sponsorship opportunities and was able to support herself entirely through this work. She was also offered to model in L.A.

Many young girls looked up to O’Neil and were even obsessed with her. Little did they know that behind that pretty face was someone miserable and exhausted.

“Yeah 16-year-old Essena would have been like ‘WTF girl you have the dream life,’” she wrote. “So why did I feel so lost, lonely and miserable?”

O’Neil eventually decided she had had enough after realizing she wan’t living an authentic life. She then decided to make a drastic change in her life and announced to her followers that she was quitting social media, and has already begun editing all of the captions on her photos to tell the truth behind the pictures.

“I was addicted to what others thought of me, simply because it was so readily available,” she wrote. “I was severely addicted. I believed how many likes and followers I had correlated to how many people liked me. I didn’t even see it happening, but social media had become my sole identity. I didn’t even know what I was without it.”

Not only has she deleted her Tumblr account, but she plans to stop posting on YouTube as well. She has also deleted over 2,000 pictures from her Instagram account; she says they served no real purpose other than self-promotion. She also went as far as to admit that her “hot body” shots were the results of unhealthy habits…

“A 15 year old girl that calorie restricts and excessively exercises is not goals. Anyone addicted to social media fame like I once was, is not in a conscious state,”

“…Stomach sucked in, strategic pose, pushed up boobs,” O’Neill wrote. “I just want younger girls to know this isn’t candid life, or cool or inspirational. Its contrived perfection made to get attention.”

“Without realizing, I’ve spent majority of my teenage life being addicted to social media, social approval, social status and my physical appearance,” she wrote. “Social media, especially how I used it, isn’t real.”

She also opened up about how she was making money from some of her posts and was completely honest about how there were no actual “candid” photos; they were all staged and photoshopped.

Essena O’Neil Is Being the Change

What this young woman is doing is absolutely incredible. Having the courage to open up and be honest about everything she was doing is an amazing feat in itself. She is now able to be an excellent role model for all of her younger fans and they will know the truth and the true cost of this “success.” Some of her more recent posts are geared toward exposing the lies behind what you see on social media.

O’Neil has also started up a new website called LetsBeGameChangers.com to tell her full story, and is challenging her fans to give up social media for one week. She hopes to encourage others to be present and live life, authentically.

“The more you engage in any type of emotion or behavior, the greater your desire for it will become.

Learn To Rely God #Inspiration #motivation

Proverbs 16:9 says, A man’s mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps and makes them sure.

Proverbs 20:24 says, Man’s steps are ordered by the Lord. How then can a man understand his way? When God directs our paths, He sometimes leads us in ways that don’t make sense to us so we’re not always going to understand everything. If we try to reason out everything, we will experience struggle, confusion and misery—but there is a better way.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. This sounds so simple, yet too many people make the mistake of trying to figure everything out themselves. Most of us have spent our lives trying to take care of ourselves, but when we accept Christ as our Savior, we must learn to trust our lives to His care.

When we do, we can say with the psalmist, …I trusted in, relied on, and was confident in You, O Lord; I said, You are my God. My times are in Your hands…(Psalm 31:14-15).

First Peter 5:5 tells us that …God sets Himself against the proud (the insolent, the overbearing, the disdainful, the presumptuous, the boastful)—[and He opposes, frustrates, and defeats them], but gives grace (favor, blessing) to the humble. Anyone who thinks they’re a self-made man or woman has a rude awakening coming because Jesus said, …apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing (John 15:5). Humility is a covering that draws the help of God into our lives to protect us. When we humble ourselves by saying, “God, I don’t know what to do, but I’m trusting You,” God gets in gear to help us.

God won’t allow us to succeed at anything unless we’re leaning and relying on Him. But when we humble ourselves under the mighty hand of God, in due time, He will exalt us (see 1 Peter 5:6).

“Due time” is God’s time, when God knows we’re ready, not when we think we’re ready. The sooner we understand and accept that, the sooner God can work His plan in our lives.

Gift Of Love In Many Ways

There are many gifts that we give through the course of a year, and some of these are for special people in our lives as well as for many friends and Sometimes, these gifts are really no more than an acknowledgement of friendship, or those given to commemorate a special day like a wedding anniversary or a birthday.

How Many Are Gifts of Love

Have you thought, though, how many of these gifts were gifts of love ? The difference is that gifts of love need not be, and most probably are not, materialistic.
These gifts of love can take many forms including the love of a mother for her children to protect them from harm, or the love shown through sacrifice of time or energy so that another may benefit from your action.

My Experience
A gift of love can occur in the strangest of ways as was experienced by my sister and I many years ago. My sister had recently bought a new car for her daily commute to and from work. She taught school in a small farming community and needed her car for her work and, as everyone else, to get to a larger town for groceries.

We lived in a snow belt and as it turned out, my sister picked me up from home to go with her to town. It started out as a pleasant winter day with only a few snowflakes falling. The roads were in good shape for a winter day and so we didn’t give any thought to our drive. And, as she knew from past experience, she had emergency supplies in the car including a heavy quilted blanket that we had often taken with us as kids for our drives with our parents. It was a great blanket and while many years old, it was fondling remembered as part of our youth.

As we drove, it started to snow heavier and heavier until we could hardly see ahead of us. Now, it was time to be concerned. The wind whipped the snow so fiercely that you could barely see the car in front even with its taillights on.

Then, suddenly, the car in front braked quickly and so did we. We came to a complete stop avoiding hitting the car in front, and then we saw it through the swirling snow.
Two vehicles had met head on in the blinding whiteout. There were a couple of other cars stopped but no police. I knew I had to go and see if I could help, and I told my sister to stay in the car. I got out, went to the accident and saw a young woman alone in the drivers seat obviously trapped from the force of the collision. It was still cold and frigid with the snow constantly blowing and whipping into our faces. Several men were trying to pry the seat back to get the trapped woman free but they were having no success.

I quietly spoke to the woman and told her that help was coming even though I didn’t see any nor did I know if the police were called or an ambulance. I couldn’t do anything for her except reassure her that she would be fine and that she would be freed in a few minutes. She was shivering uncontrollably and I was concerned about her going into shock. So, I knew I had to keep her warm but how? Then, I remembered our emergency heavy blanket and set off to get it. I told my sister, in very few words, that I was going to wrap the woman in our blanket.
I got the blanket, returned to the car, and wrapped her snuggling in its warmth. All she said was thank you. And, just at this point the police arrived. I figured that there was nothing more I could do so I told the woman again that she would be freed soon and would be just fine and that the police had arrived to help.

I left her wrapped warmly and returned to our car. The weather had started to clear so we decided that it was time to move on since the police had arrived and there were still several men still helping. We never saw her again; in fact, we didn’t even know her name or where she was from. My sister and I talked about our bad trip on several occasions later.

Sooner or later, the conversation usually mentioned our faithful heavy and warm blanket often wondering what happened to it. We hoped that the young woman kept it and still has it.

Different Forms
Gifts come in all forms. Maybe, our blanket was a gift to another who needed it more.

Repost: 15 Things That Happen When You Have A ‘Happy Personality’ But An Anxious Mind #Brianna Weist

Anxiety is not a personality trait, it is an emotion some people experience, and a mental illness others have to deal with every day of their lives. But when it is such a big part of your daily experience, it can be hard to forget that you are not it . How often do you hear people say: “I’m an anxious person,” rather than, “I’m someone who has anxiety.” It’s hard to realize that you can be an inherently happy person and still struggle with anxious feelings. Here, a few signs that’s your case:

1. Most of your anxiety comes from the fear that something could actually take your happiness away. You cannot fear losing that which you don’t already have.

2. When you aren’t anxious, you’re a pretty content person, which is what makes anxiety so scary: you have so much to lose. When you’re not feeling anxious about something, you’re happy with your life in general. There’s no one huge thing you can identify as being “wrong” (other than the natural challenges of human life and, of course, your crippling anxiousness).

3. You’re able to imagine what your life would look like without anxiety. That means you’re able to see yourself as a person outside of your illness. If you can imagine yourself without it, that means at some level you know who you are without it.

4. You can remember a time – even if it was when you were very young – in which you weren’t constantly anxious. If you can remember how you were “before,” that means it’s not an inherent part of you.

5. You can name an event or a pattern of events that caused your fear thoughts to take over and try to “protect” you. If you can identify what began or perhaps contributed to your feelings of anxiety, you can see how it was something outside of you that caused it.

6. The things that stress you out are hypotheticals, not realities. You are more upset about what could happen than what’s happening. You are more upset about what you imagine people think than what they’ve really said. This means you have a problem with the way you think, not the way you really are.

7. You can identify parts of your life you are genuinely happy about. If there’s at least one or two things going on that you are consistently grateful for or happy to have, there’s a part of you that is still happy, too.

8. You fear so much because you love so much. This is true of almost anyone who has some kind of existential worry consistently in their life (even if they themselves don’t realize it). If there’s nothing to lose, there’s nothing to be scared of.

9. You’re still easily inspired, despite often feeling down. This indicates that you still have the natural ability to hope, dream and wonder. These are cornerstones of a happy disposition.

10. When you’re not thinking about how you’re anxious, you’re a fairly well-adjusted person. Even if you don’t enjoy all of your life, there are at least some parts of it that you have fun with. Maybe you can connect with people easily, or are super creative (see next point). There’s some kind of forward motion and drive within you.

11. You’re very creative. It’s not that creative people are inherently happy (a lot of evidence argues otherwise) it’s just that when creative people are creating, they are experiencing some feeling of release or fulfillment that is akin to contentment.

12. You want to make a better life for yourself, it’s just that nothing you’ve tried so far has worked well enough. Like it or not, this means that you do have hope for your future, or at least in your potential.

13. You have a pretty easy time getting along with others. Even if you spend more time on your own, when you’re around other people, you can connect with them fairly easily (people with unhappy dispositions have a much, much harder time with this).

14. You’ve forgotten that you’re a happy person because you’ve been through so much stress and trauma. Sometimes the people who are affected by it the most are the ones who are most loving, kind and sensitive. It seems unfair, but these things happen to everyone, and you can either try to work through them, or consider yourself a victim forever.

15. You know, in your heart, that what you are experiencing now is not who you are. It is a part of your experience, but it is not indicative of your personality, or what you future will necessarily entail. The biggest sign that you’re a happy person with an anxiety disorder (as opposed to being just an “anxious person”) is that deep down, you know this to be true.

What It Really Means To Have Unwavering Faith #Rania Naim #faith #patience

It means that you trust God with your life more than you trust yourself. It means that you trust his timing even when you’re running out of patience. It means that you trust his decisions even if you don’t like them. It means that you will love him with all your heart even if you don’t understand him.

It means that even when you question him, you still believe in him, even when you’re tired from everything he’s been throwing your way, you sleep with your mind at ease because you know he knows what he’s doing. It means that you accept what he’s written for you even if you’re dying to change it.

It means that instead of fighting with him, you fight for him. It means that instead of complaining to him, you thank him.

Because faith doesn’t change anything around you but it changes everything within you.

Faith doesn’t always shine and sparkle but it helps you live through the darkness and through the pain.

Faith keeps you going when everyone else is giving up, faith keeps you dreaming when everyone else is waking up and faith teaches you the meaning of life and ultimately teaches you how to live.

Faith means that you don’t know where the road is taking you but you’re still driving, it means that you don’t know if you’re good enough for something but you still go for it, it means that you don’t always have what it takes but you’re still trying.

Faith is not seeing God but knowing he’s there, it’s not hearing him but knowing he’s listening, it’s thinking he doesn’t love you but knowing that he’s always saving you.

Because we’re not meant to understand God or destiny, we’re not meant to make sense of something that’s beyond what we can comprehend — beyond what we can grasp.

We’re not meant to interfere with the universe and what it brings to us. We’re only meant to believe in ourselves and foresee the best and wish that our vision will somehow manifest itself and that God will answer our prayers.

But faith is also understanding that sometimes what we pray for is not right for us, it’s understanding that we sometimes don’t know what we’re praying for.

Because human beings change and life changes but God doesn’t. We are all unstable and impermanent but God is eternal.

And sometimes without faith, you’ll never understand life, you’ll never understand God and you’ll never understand yourself.

Without faith, there will always be a void you can’t fill and something missing that you can’t find. You can only find it when you find God — you’ll stop feeling empty once you feed your soul with faith.

Repost: Read This If You Don’t Think You Can Move On #love #inspiration #Rania Naim

I know things don’t make sense to you right now. I know you’re asking yourself all the ‘whys’ and ‘hows’ you can think of.

I know you’re terrified of moving on because what if it’s too soon? What if it’s a mistake? What if it’s just a bump in the road, not a dead-end? And what if you never feel this way again, what if nothing as incredible as this knocks on your door again?

But as long as your door is always open, better things will knock on it and as long as your heart is still beating, it will always find ways to fall in love again.

Because what is stopping us from moving on is the same thing that will set us free. Those who hurt us are those who can heal us once we decide to let them go. Because even though you don’t want to move on, you also don’t want to be just another memory, just another experience or just another person someone else decided not to love.
You want to be the one who dealt with it with your head up high, you want to be the one who loved himself enough to know that something better is awaiting him, you want to be the one who decided not to be defined by someone who didn’t, couldn’t love her and you want to be the one who moved on, the one who didn’t stay waiting, the one who didn’t settle and the one who cried for one night and woke up the next day smiling.

Because the truth about moving on is that it hurts too, it hurts to look back, it hurts to throw away the memories and it hurts to end something you were not ready to finish, but in life, the things that are hardest to do are the things we must do to live, to survive and to thrive.

Because while it hurts to move on, it hurts even more to hang on. It hurts when you’re afraid of losing someone who is not afraid of losing you.

But like a train, you must keep moving, you can’t stop in one station, you can’t wait for every passenger to get on board, you can’t just miss the whole ride because someone couldn’t give you what you want.

You can’t keep going in the same direction that leads to nowhere, you just have to keep moving and if they care, they will walk after you, if they don’t, you have to believe that the road is full of surprises and has a better gift for you.

You have to keep walking until you no longer see the road you left behind.

My Motivational Magnet

You may think it a bit strange that I have a favourite motivational magnet and it rests in plain site on my refrigerator when I have literally thousands of great motivational and inspirational messages and quotes to choose from right at my fingertips.

A Quote That Motivates Me

Well, I find that this quote really motivates me to get on with what I am doing or want to do because I see it first thing in the morning on each and every day. The quote goes like this:

“Follow your DREAMS , transform your LIFE.”

A Dream I Had

Many years ago, I had a dream; this dream had to do with being the best I could be, learning the most I could learn, and making it to the top of an organization I worked for. Well, I lived my dream day in and day out, took risks , moved away from my family to continue my quest, set about studying at night to earn further and necessary credentials, and after many years, I accomplished what started out as a dream.

And Today, It Has More Meaning

The quote above is still with me to this day. And, it is even more valid today. You see, I left that company several years ago to follow a new dream. The new dream meant that I had to start over again with a lot to learn and many challenges. That dream is still alive and well today despite the obstacles, challenges and setbacks. But, through all those challenges, it never occurred to me to quit; just the opposite.

Times Were Not Always Easy

Just because you have a dream doesn’t mean the road is going to be easy. In fact, to follow one’s dream can often mean enduring more than you ever have before, moving completely out of your comfort zone of security from what you already know, spending hours upon hours of hard work not ever sure that the path is paved or full of pot holes.

If The Road Is Bumpy

So, why follow your dream if the road is bumpy? The easiest way to explain this is to say that it is a dream that you own and does not belong to anyone else, nor is it living a life that is dictated by other people be that an employer or a company. It is a dream that makes you excited to get up in the morning knowing that you have full control of your own destiny and what you do or do not do is your choice.

What Is Your Dream

It is easier, I admit, to follow along on a course less difficult where the only decision is to get up in the morning and go to work and do your best. And, while there is certainly nothing wrong with this path of life, if it is not your dream, then you are simply denying yourself what could have been.