Video: A Very Important Prayer For Everyone

This too shall pass..

You are covered by the blood of Jesus.

Whoever is affected right now, I decree and declare speedy recovery in Jesus name.

Be Safe!

Treat Experience As Learning a Lesson: Wisdom In Making Decisions

This is a wise lesson to us all.

As a small child , I was very selfish, always grabbing the best for myself.

Slowly, everyone left me and I had no friends. I didn’t think it was my fault and I criticized others.

But my father gave me 3 sentences to help me in life.

One day, my father cooked 2 bowls of noodles and put them on the table. One had an egg on top while the other bowl had none on top.

Then he asked me to choose a bowl of noodles.

Because eggs were hard to come by those days, I chose the bowl with egg!

I was congratulating myself on my wise choice/decision and decided to wallop the egg. To my surprise, I saw that my father’s bowl of noodles had two eggs at the bottom beneath the noodles!

With much regret, I scolded myself for being too hasty in my decision.

My father smiled and taught me to remember that what your eyes see may not be true.

He added that, If you make a habit of taking advantage of people, you will end up losing.

The next day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles: one bowl with an egg on top and the other bowl with no egg on top.

Again, he asked to choose the bowl I wanted.

This time, I felt smarter so I chose the bowl without any egg on top.

Hmmmmmm to my surprise, there was not even a single egg at the bottom of the bowl!

Again, my father smiled and said to me, My child, you must not always rely on experiences because sometimes, life can cheat you or play tricks on you.

Never be too annoyed or sad, with situations, just treat experience as learning a lesson that cannot be gotten from any textbooks.

The third day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles, one bowl with an egg on top and the other with no egg on top.

He asked me to choose the bowl I wanted.

But this time, I told my father, Dad, you choose first. You are the head of the family and you contribute the most to the family.

My father was very happy and he chose for me.

He chose the bowl with one egg on top. But as I ate my bowl of noodles, to my surprise, there were two eggs at the bottom of the bowl.

My father smiled at me with love in his eyes. He said, my child, you must remember that when you think for the good of others, good things will always naturally happen to you.

I always remember these 3 sentences of my father.

As we continue on the remaining journey of 2019, think for the good of others. Don’t be selfish, Put others first and your joy will be completed. Don’t run after post, position, wealth, fame etc and bruise others to get it.

Enjoy your weekend!

Remember This When You’re Searching For Yourself

This is a guest post.

The truth is, you always find yourself something missing. There is no perfect state for you to feel complete, all the time.

The truth is, you always find yourself lost somewhere in the middle of nowhere. No matter how far you go, no matter how deep you went through, you are lost.

The truth is, you always find yourself being so empty. Even though you feel like you have everything you want, you feel torn apart.

Deep down inside, we are always searching for affection. No matter how we seek independence, we don’t want to be alone.

At the end of the day, it’s not about what is right or wrong, what is true or false.

What matters most is the sense of being we have when we have strong faith on something we cannot see.

We are trying to hold on to something we cannot predict even though we are afraid of knowing the fact that fantasies cannot really protect us, but it will definitely saves us from our dreadful thoughts.

It’s all about the connection we make to other people, community, nature, other living things or to the omnipotent. It’s all about how we feel through the links we created with the outside world.

It’s not about the power anymore, nor belonging, nor the truth. It’s about how much love you give to this world full of darkness, to the people you care, to the things you want to see growing.

If these will make you feel more alive, then follow its path.

Because no matter how you conform in the place you belong to, you will always find something is “missing” if you are not allowing yourself to find your own calling.

Credit to Erina Yamada for this lovely piece.

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I Hope You Know That You Always Have A Choice

I hope you know that you always have a choice.

I hope you understand that you are capable of changing your life even if the odds are against you. I hope you know that there are people out there who are willing to help you and guide you until you make it on your own. I hope you know that the kind of happiness you’re looking for is not out of reach.

I hope you still remember what happiness looks like, what it feels like and what it means to you because life has a way of making you forget and life has a way of making you believe that you don’t deserve it. I hope you still have the courage to fight for that happiness and fight for that life. I hope you don’t make settling a habit just because it’s easier. I hope you don’t make pain a permanent friend just because it’s been with you for a while. I hope you understand that pain is there to make you grow instead of making you suffer.

I hope you know that you always have a choice.

I hope you don’t give up on your love story just because all your previous stories ended in heartbreak. I hope you still believe in the kind of love that softens your heart and makes you trust again. The kind of love that brings out the depths of your emotions, the beauty of your soul and the kindness of your heart. The kind of love that doesn’t remind you of everything that’s wrong with the world. I hope you find the kind of love that restores your faith in romance. The kind of love that stands by you and makes you feel at home.

And I hope you have the courage to leave the kind of love that poisons your heart. The kind of love that forces you to hide who you are or play games or question yourself. I hope you can still take your heart back from those who destroyed it.

I hope you know that you always have a choice.

But more than anything, I hope you never give up on yourself. Your dreams. Your happiness. Your ideas. Your feelings. Your voice. And I hope you know that they matter. Please don’t discount them. Please don’t forget them. Please don’t let your mistakes define you.

I hope you can forgive yourself. I hope you don’t forget your worth because of a few mistakes or a few people who couldn’t love you. I hope you read this and remember that you’re here to evolve. You’re here to learn. You’re not here to be perfect. You’re not here to do everything right.

I hope you know that you always have a choice.

And I hope that in the coldest of moments, you choose to show the world your warmth. And in the midst of all tragedies, you choose to show the world your faith.

And through it all, I hope you always choose yourself.

This is a guest post from Rania Naim.

Career is Great, But Entrepreneurship is The Salt Of Life

The Richest
Man in China said:
_If you put Bananas and
Money in front of
Monkeys, Monkeys will
choose Bananas
because monkeys do
not know that *Money
can buy a lot of
Bananas.

_IN REALITY,
if you offer JOB and
BUSINESS to people,
they would choose JOB
because most people
do not know that
BUSINESS can bring
more MONEY than
Wages.

Similarly,
Robert Kiyosaki,
author of the best
selling book “RICH DAD,
POOR DAD” and also a
business partner of
Donald Trump said:
_”One of the reasons
poor are poor, is
because they are NOT
TRAINED TO RECOGNIZE
ENTREPRENEURSHIP
OPPORTUNITIES._
They spend too much
time in school and what
they have learnt in
school, is to WORK FOR
WAGES instead of
MONEY WORKING FOR
THEM.

“Profit is better than
Wages, for Wages can
make you a living but
Profits can bring you a
Fortune.”

THINK INVESTMENT
and stop fighting over
increments of salaries,
it still won’t be enough
……
Hear this from a
Professor to freshmen
and women during their
orientation:

(Actually
he is an Acting DVC
Academic at a small/
new university in
Kenya)
“Academic excellence is
overrated!
Being top of your class
does not necessarily
guarantee that you will
be at the top of life.
You could graduate as
the best student in
Finance but it doesn’t
mean you will make
more money than
everybody else.
The best graduating
Law student does not
necessarily become the
best lawyer.

The fact is, life requires
more than the ability to
understand a concept,
memorise it and
reproduce it in an exam.
School rewards people
for their memory.
Life rewards people for
their imagination.
School rewards caution,
life rewards daring.
School hails those who
live by the rules. Life
exalts those who break
the rules and set new
ones.

So do I mean people
shouldn’t study hard in
school? Oh, no, you
should. But don’t
sacrifice every other
thing on the altar of
First Class.

Don’t limit yourself to
the classroom. Do
something practical.
Take a leadership
position.
Start a business and
fail. That’s a better
Entrepreneurship 101.

Join or start a good club.
Contest an election and
lose. It will teach you
something Political
Science 101 will not
teach you.

Attend seminars.
Read books outside the
scope of your course.
Go on missions and win
a soul for eternal
rewards…

Do something you
believe in!
Think less of becoming
an excellent student
but think more of
becoming an excellent
person.

Don’t make the
classroom to be your
world but Make the
world your classroom.
Step forward, try
politics, try farming, try
businesses, try an
extra thing .
Entrepreneurship is the
salt of life, “diversify your income.

Don’t feel shy to share with others, including your children.

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Bruce Lee’s Top 7 Fundamentals for Getting Your Life in Shape

If you haven’t been living under a rock for the last 30 years I’m pretty sure you know who Bruce Lee was. 😁😁😁

If you have, then you may be interested to know that Lee was a very famous martial artist and actor who sparked the first big interest of Chinese martial arts in the West in the 60’s and 70’s.

But besides being an awesome fighter and iconic figure Lee also had some very useful things to say about life.

Here are 7 of my favourite fundamentals from Bruce Lee.

1. What are you really thinking about today?

“As you think, so shall you become.”

Perhaps the most basic statement of how we work. Think about what you are thinking today. What do those thoughts say about you? About your life? And how well do they really match your plans for your life and your image of yourself?

It’s easy to forget about this simple statement in everyday life. It’s easy to be quite incongruent with what you think on an ordinary day compared to how you view yourself and your goals.

A simple external reminder such as a post-it with this quote can be helpful to keep you and your thoughts on the right track.

An brilliant and beautiful expansion on this thought can be found in James Allen’s “As a man thinketh”.

2. Simplify.

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”

If you want to improve your life then it’s tempting to want to add more. One problem with this may be that you don’t really have the time or energy to do more though. And so your efforts to improve become short-lived.

Adding more and more just creates more stress, worries and anxiety. Removing clutter and activities, tasks and thoughts that are not so important frees up time and energy for you to do more of what you really want to do. And as the clutter in your outer world decreases the clutter in your inner world also has a tendency to decrease.

This has the added benefit of making it easier to actually enjoy whatever you are doing even more while you are doing it.

Adding more thoughts and thinking things over for the 111th time may create a sense of security. It’s also a good way to procrastinate and to avoid taking that leap you know you should take. And the more you think, the harder it gets to act. Perhaps because you want to keep that comforting sense of security and avoid the risk of wrecking that feeling.

Thinking has its place. It can help you plan a somewhat realistic route to your goal and help you avoid future pitfalls. Overthinking is however just a habit that will help you waste a lot of time. It’s more useful to replace that habit with the habit of just doing it.

3. Learn about yourself in interactions.

“To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.”

The one person that is the hardest to get to really know may be yourself. Studying yourself while you are alone may result in some insights. But it’s also likely to produce a lot of made up thought loops and doubts in your mind.

A good way to really learn more about yourself is study yourself in interactions with other people. How people react and act in these interaction can over time teach you a lot. And what you think and how you react can perhaps teach you even more.

What you see, feel and hear in other people may be a reflection of you. The things you learn by thinking this way may not always be pleasant, but they can be enlightening. They help you to see yourself and also how you may be fooling yourself.

And these powerful insights can be very valuable for your personal growth. So, in interactions with others, try asking yourself: what is reflected?

4. Do not divide.

“Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.”

This is a very useful and powerful thought. It is also one that obviously is hard to live by. Why? I believe it’s because the ego loves to divide and find ways to “add more” to itself. It want’s to feel better than someone else. Or more clever. Or prettier. Or cooler. Or wiser.

How can you overcome this way of thinking and feeling?

To me it seems to boil down to not identifying so much with your thoughts or feelings. That doesn’t mean that you stop thinking or feeling. It just means that you realize – and remember in your everyday life – that the thoughts and emotions are just things flowing through you.

You are not them though.

You are the consciousness observing them.

When you realize and remember this it enables you to control the thoughts and feelings instead of the other way around. It also enables you to not take your thoughts too seriously and actually laugh at them or ignore them when you feel that your ego is acting out. When you are not being so identified these things you become more inclined to include things, thoughts and people instead of excluding them.

This creates a lot of inner and outer freedom and stillness. Instead of fear, a need to divide your world and a search for conflicts.

To learn more about this I would recommend Eckhart Tolle’s books like “The Power of Now” and “A New Earth”.

5. Avoid a dependency on validation from others.

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

“Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory.”

The ego wants to add because it thinks it’s not enough. One way of doing that is by craving validation from others. We want to feel smart, pretty, successful and so on. And the validation makes you feel good for a while. But soon you need a new fix.

And the problem with being dependent on validation from other people is that you let other people control how you feel. This creates a rollercoaster of emotion in your life.

To find more emotional stability and to take control of how you feel you need to get your validation from to a more consistent source. Yourself. You can replace the expectations and validation of others by setting your own expectations and by validating yourself.

And so you validate yourself by thinking about how awesome you are. You don’t sell yourself short. You appreciate how far you have come and the positive things you have done. You appreciate your own value in the world. You set goals and you achieve those goals. This builds confidence in yourself and in your abilities. These things will help you to build a habit of inner validation.

Now, showing off. Why do we do that? To get validation from others. However, this need for validation often shines through and that is why a thing like bragging seldom works. Instead of seeing the cool and successful person you are trying to project people just see the insecure and needy person looking for validation. And your bragging falls flat.

6. Be proactive.

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”

It’s easy to get locked into a reactive mindset. You just follow along with whatever is happening. You do what the people around you do. You react to whatever is going on.

And so you get lost in your circumstances. This way of thinking doesn’t feel too good. You tend to feel powerless and like you are just drifting along.

A more useful and pleasurable way of living is to be proactive. As Bruce says: to create opportunities despite the circumstances around you. This feels better and provides better results (no matter if that with your blog or business, while dating or when it comes to your health). But on the other hand it’s also more difficult. It’s easier to just drift along in the reactive stream of life.

And if you want to be proactive then you may have to take the lead quite often. And that can be scary.

Still, living proactively is so much more rewarding and exciting.

7. Be you.

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”

Just being yourself is a hard thing to do. You may do it sometimes. And other times you may forget or fall back into old thought patterns. Or you may imitate someone else.

And that comes through too. And it may work.

But I believe that being the real you will work better. Because there the genuine you is shining through. Without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of phoniness. It’s you to 100%. It’s you with not only your words but you with your voice tonality and body language – which some say is over 90% of communication – on the same wavelength as your words. It’s you coming through on all channels of communication.

So I’m not saying: “yeah man, you should just be yourself because it’s the right thing to do etc”.

I’m saying that I think being your authentic self – the one where you do little dividing, the one that needs little validation from others, the one where your ego is not running the show and trying to get something from someone – will give you better results and more satisfaction in your day to day life because you are in alignment with yourself.

And because people really like genuine and people really like authenticity.

How to Stop Feeling Guilty & Believe in Yourself

Have you been feeling guilty recently?

Or perhaps for a very long time?

Maybe you’ve done something you regret, something awful even.

Or maybe you are just tired of feeling shamefaced all the time.

You’re going to get really good at this. The more you practice reframing your thoughts about your relationships, the more enchanting you will become.

The process goes something like this:

  1. First ask yourself, “Should I really feel guilty about this?”
  2. Question the motivations of the person placing guilt on you. Was it about their needs or yours?
  3. If you are at fault, do something about it. Make it up to the person if you can. And move on.
  4. It’s not the end of the world if you lose a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about you or won’t forgive you.
  5. Use the experience as a learning opportunity to make yourself a better person.

And remember this, you gorgeous person–the best cure for guilt is to the become the highest version of yourself, not of someone else!

Thank you Tami Green for these wonderful points.

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The Truth About Difficult Times You’re Facing in Life

Recently, have been reading a lot of inspiring articles online. I find it important to share some of my readings with you guys.

Every one of us goes through difficult times in our lives. But, that’s not a bad thing. Here’s the truth about difficult times in your life.

Originally posted by Joshua Delp.

Are you facing difficult times in your life right now? Many Christians view these trialing seasons as the work of the enemy and not the work of God. As far as I can see, this is not a biblical truth. Yes, there is an element to trial that involves our sinful nature, fleshly desires, spiritual warfare, and the chaos and insanity of this world.

I know many of you who are reading this have suffered greatly. You have seen and experienced that which you would not wish on your worst enemy. I know that. I have too. The pain and brokenness you have faced was not the work of God.

Life challenges
When life sucks, have faith in God and believe the situation will change.

But our God is the God of Salvation; the God that makes all things new. (2 Corinthians 5:17) Remember that God allowed Job to go through trials that he may give an example of faith to the generations. Promise after promise in the Bible assures us that God uses trial to create greater faith in us, steadfastness, perseverance, a more Christ-like character.

James says, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

The truth about difficult times in your life

No one enjoys difficult times in life; there’s no secret there. During these times is when a person’s true character is revealed. Following Jesus is easy while you’re at church. It’s also easy when everything is going our way in life. But what about when following Jesus costs us something?

Sometimes God must allow us to come to the end of our strength because it is only then that we learn to rely on His Grace, which is the power to be the men and women He is calling us to be.

The beauty of God’s Mercy is that if we will hold on to Him, if we continue to follow Jesus, even when everything is screaming on the inside and outside, our worse, when we are mediocre and complacent, he uses the darkness of this broken world to create something priceless in us: Steadfast faith that will lead us to Eternity with God.

It’s only when we understand the truth about difficult times in life that we begin to receive refreshment from God. Only by persevering in the face of trial, do we receive the crown of life.

In closing, here are a few encouraging bible verses that help us understand the truth about difficult ties in our lives and what they actually mean.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him. Who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

“Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.” James 1:12

“In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith–of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire–may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” 1 Peter 1:6-7

The question is, What difficult time have you been through in life that has prepared you for where you are today?

Thanks Joshua for this inspiring piece.

Be Brave With Your Life

Life as they say is so precious. We have no right to take our life because it is too precious to harm yourself. The words of authority spoken by God in the beginning is the definition of supremacy and authority when he made man and gave him life. That is why we need to take life seriously and also enjoy it to the fullest. Be brave with your life.

By now you know my passion, my life is all about inspiring and motivating lives. A life that’s quality driven.It’s a message I intend to keep sharing for the rest of my life, because I’ve been on the other side of quantity without quality, of more pain and less pleasure, of darker days than brighter ones…Stop listening to those who say…it can’t be done, you don’t have it in you, you don’t deserve it, you are not worth it. Stop listening to that because it will kill your spirit and quench your fire. Listen to the voice of “I can, I will and I am”. Feed what you want to grow! If you want to remain in the state you are in – a life of pain, unhappiness, darkness, despair, worry, and fear then DO NOTHING!

Suicide is not an option as i have explained in the first paragraph. Your life is too precious and God sees it that way. Do your best and leave the rest.

You need to be brave with your life and take charge of it to being your better self.

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The Truth: Hurts But Heals

They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen” (Romans 1:25).

There is definitely some truth in the old saying, “The truth hurts.” We can all empathize with those moments when a truth becomes so obvious that it makes our stomach drop as if we were plummeting down a hill on a roller coaster. There are those moments when someone points out a character flaw that you were blind to, or those times when it becomes glaringly obvious that you made a mistake and you owe someone an apology. Personally, my least favorite “truth moments” are those times when I have been holding firmly to an argument only to realize that I was completely wrong.

Yes the truth hurts, but, more importantly, the truth heals. In all of the situations I just mentioned above, is the truth not the ideal answer? Even though it means that someone might be wrong or someone needs to apologize, isn’t it better than the alternative of living out the pain and destruction of a lie? I for one do not always react favorably when someone points out a truth in my life, but I always end up being grateful for it. The permanent pain of living a lie is far worse than the temporary pain of facing a truth. The truth heals, and pain almost always accompanies healing.

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My dad is one of the most loved and respected people I ever know, but he is not shy about pointing out the truth. I would often go to him for advice when I have a problem about life or understanding some events in the bible. Every time I speak to my dad I will be hoping he tells me how right I am even when am wrong. I have no recall one time where he did that. In fact, it will be the opposite. He will often provide no response to my attempts to vilify the other person, and he will spend most of his time trying to open my eyes to where I have been wrong.

I remember often getting frustrated with my dad during these conversations. On the outside, I would respectfully nod my head and try to listen. On the inside, I remember thinking, “How does she not see that I am right and the other party is wrong!?” I would often leave the house disappointed that I did not get what I wanted, but the truth of his words would always sink in eventually. Whether it was an hour or a week after I walked out the door, I would heed his words. I would go apologize to everyone i offended or whatever wronged i did, which often led to reconciliation and a greater peace in my life.

I would call my dad for an affirmation of MY TRUTH, not seeking out THE TRUTH. Luckily for me, my dad will be willing to risk a little pain and discomfort by telling me the truth, because he knows that the truth would heal me. It is so easy to take the same approach with God. We can read the bible and skip over the parts we don’t like, or go to church on Sundays and only receive the words from the preacher that we are comfortable with. We may not say it, but we think things like, “God’s favour and blessings sound great, but that whole thing about picking up my cross to follow Him sounds painful.” We can try to affirm OUR TRUTH rather than seeking out THE TRUTH, and the word says that “THE TRUTH shall set you free” (John 8:32).

Jesus is the way, THE TRUTH, and the life. Only He can convict us of our sin, while at the same time offering us love, forgiveness and grace to cover it. One encounter with Him can bring us to our knees in shame and also leave us completely full of joy. Jesus loved us too much not to convict us our sin, but He also loved us too much to let us suffer in our sin.  What truth are you exchanging for a lie, because the truth seems too painful to face? What is the Holy Spirit convicting you of that you’re pretending not to hear? Be courageous! Step into that truth, and let the healing take place!

I’m Slowly Learning That I Don’t Have To Compete With Anyone Else

This is another guest post from Rania Naim.

I’m slowly learning that life and love are not a race I should be trying to win. I’m not interested in competing. I’m not even interested in winning.

I’m interested in learning, in growing and I’m interested in doing what’s best for me even if it means being out of the race. Even if it means losing every now and then because ultimately, I don’t want people to decide what ‘winning’ means for me. I don’t want my life to be determined by a finish line and I don’t want my love life to be a bunch of hearts I’m trying to break.

I’m slowly learning that it’s not really about numbers for me but more about experiences. I want to live, I don’t want to compete. I want to love for the sake of loving, I don’t want to love so I can get a few extra points or win a race I don’t want to even participate in.
I’m slowly learning that I don’t want to compete with a bunch of younger or more attractive girls. I don’t want love to be about competing and standing out and fighting over one person.
I’m slowly learning that love is a feeling and you can’t really put a score on that. You can’t really put a number on your heart and I’d rather wait for the heart that’s moved by me than compete for a stoic or a shallow heart. I’d rather lose the game altogether if this is how you find love.

I’m slowly learning that if I keep living trying to compete with others, I’m ruining my own life because someone will always have something I want. Someone will always have something I don’t have. Someone will always be more accomplished.

Someone will always be more attractive. Someone will always be better at something I’m struggling with and it’s not a fair way to live when you compare yourself to others and always fall short. It’s not a fair way to live when you feel like you have to be everything you can’t be. It’s not a fair way to live when you’re always trying to win instead of trying to be yourself, fail and learn or just accept what the universe has in store for you.

I’m slowly learning I can’t control what everyone around me is doing but I can find the best way to be myself. My own definition of success and happiness. The right way for me to live the life I want according to my own rules. The kind of love I’m looking for without having to manipulate anyone into loving me.
I’m slowly learning that not competing may get you slower results but it will get you the right ones. I’m slowly learning that my life works better when I set the rules, when I follow the pace that’s working for me, when I decide where the finish line is and when I pick my own team. The team that I want to stay with forever whether we win or lose. The team that will always be by my side.

I Can’t Do It Alone

I have a couple of quotes in my notes that I put up to remind me of things in my life that I sometimes forget. One of the quotes that comes up each day is “I can’t do it alone”. This didn’t come from some famous author, its just a simple statement that anyone can say that holds a lot of truth.

One of my favorite songs as a kid in church and youth group was “Lean on Me.” It came along with lots of hand motions and fun ways to sing it, so as a kid its perfect. But I thought back this morning to the words of the song and again…they carry a lot of truth.

“Lean on me, when you’re not strong, and Ill be your friend, Ill help you carry on. For, it won’t be long till I’m going to need somebody to lean on.”

So I can talk about these “truths” in these quotes and songs all day, but lets turn to the real TRUTH and see what God has to say about it. God put a few stories on my heart this morning reminding me of the importance of not being able to do it alone. Here are a few examples…

Adam & Eve (Genesis 2)
Genesis 2:18 – “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Think about it, this is God’s first attempt and creating a human being. The very first thing God realized about humans was that they shouldn’t be alone. If God thinks that, well I know He’s a lot smarter than I am, so I’ll believe Him!

Noah and the Ark (Genesis 6 & 7)
Genesis 6:19 – “You are to bring into the ark two of all living creatures, male and female, to keep them alive with you.”
Genesis 7:1 – “The Lord then said to Noah, ‘Go into the ark, you and your whole family, because I have found you righteous in this generation.’”
God doesn’t forget about how Adam needed a helper. God’s heart is such that in all His creation he tends to create things in pairs. Its a testament to how His heart is, and how He is giving us the ability to show love to others and demonstrate His love for us through other people on this earth. God could have very easily just started over after the flood or just brought one animal a piece to save room on the ark and then just made more after the flood. But he didn’t. He didn’t just have two of every animal come, he had Noah’s entire family. God knows that the way He created this earth that we can’t do it alone.

Moses in Battle (Exodus 17)
Exodus 17:11-13 – “As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. 12 When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up—one on one side, one on the other—so that his hands remained steady till sunset. 13 So Joshua overcame the Amalekite army with the sword.”
This may be my favorite model of friendship in all of the bible. Moses hears from God and understands His power by simply holding his hands up. His friends (Aaron and Hur) notice Moses’s faith and when he grows tired they immediately come to his aid and raise his hands for him. The Israelites would have been defeated had it not been for Moses’s friends who were beside him throughout the entire battle.

Jesus and the Disciples (Luke 6)
Luke 6:12-13 – “One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God. When morning came, he called his disciples to him and chose twelve of them, whom he also designated apostles”
So lets get this straight…Jesus (who is God) was praying and after he was finished praying it was made clear to him to call out these 12 guys to walk alongside Him to fulfill His ministry. This is the perfect example of how Jesus is proving to us how to live our lives. If its good enough for Jesus its good enough for me. He didn’t do it alone either!

I could go on and on with the bible showing groups of people that did it together (David and Jonathan is another great story you should read in 1 Samuel 18). But in short, regardless of how much power we have, ultimately we need someone else to lean on, someone else to lift our hands up, someone else to encourage us throughout our lives. This is the entire concept of “spotting” when you are at the gym. While you can do the first reps no problem, its those last few that you may need help with, and the spotter should be encouraging you the entire time.

So my question is this. Who is your spotter in your life? Do you have someone like Moses did in Aaron and Hur that will lift you up when you are down and tired? If not, even Jesus saw that this was important, so what are you waiting for? Find that person (or people) in your life that can do it. If you don’t have any, make it a point to go meet new people and find someone you can count on. Thats what church family is all about, so that would be a great place to start!

Just remember, and keep telling yourself…”I can’t do it alone”

Ecclesiastes 4:12 – “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

83 Ways to Become a Better Person (Final List)

Hey guys!!!

This is the last list from my series on how to be a better person. Hope you have learnt one or two things from this short series. Well I have and can’t wait to share the rest.

61. Remind yourself that pain is temporary. Repeat the mantra when you are doing #60.
62. Learn how to greet someone in Japanese, in manner and in language.
63. Go out of your way for your customers and your clients . Do it because you care not because they pay you.
64. Create your own product. It can be anything but create something that is your very own and then sell it.
65. Learn how to sell. And sell only what you would buy yourself.
66. Write everyday . It’s the essence of all wealth, the necessity of all success, and it will make you happy and rich.
67. Think about what you eat and choose with intention and with smarts.
68. Travel to a far, exotic, foreign country at least once.
69. Stop using your kids or your marriage or life’s problems as an excuse that “keeps you from being happy” . That’s garbage.
You are the only person that decides your happiness. As Tolstoy said so brilliantly, “If you want be happy, then be.”
70. Associate with people that are smarter, more successful, happier and kind enough to let you in their circle.
71. Get out of the naysayer, negative, jaded social circles first. It’s time to let go!
72. Visit the Pacific ocean. I don’t know how it does it but it makes you a better person.
73. If you don’t mean something, don’t say it. If you can’t help it, then don’t put yourself in situations that make you say it.
74. Stop lying to yourself. You know deep down when you do it. You can fool anyone but yourself. Choose honesty.
75. Believe in someone who doesn’t have
confidence in herself or himself. Sometimes, it changes their life to have someone believe in them.
76. Listen to uplifting, positive information that pushes you to take action with your life. Podcasts abound. Turn off the news.
77. Sell your TV or trade it in for books.
78. Spend a few minutes studying gorillas. They are so like us, it’s like looking into a mirror and seeing a reflection of yourself. Learn from gorillas.
79. Go whale watching and get lost in the world of these gentle giants.
80. Climb one mountain, even if you are not fit and it’s not “your thing”. Something about climbing and looking down at how far you have come. Seriously.
81. Help someone who is in trouble. Just genuinely help.
82. Start a blog but only write about stuff you care about. Only!
83. Believe that there is enough – way more than enough – success to go around for all of us. This of course does not apply if you are in the corporate world. It’s quite limited. Only a few succeed.

There you have it. 83 ways to become a better person but there are more ways. What would you say is the 84th and beyond? Tell me in the comments!

The more credit goes to P. Life..

83 Ways to Become a Better Person (List 3)

Hey guys!

Today I continue with my list about ways to become a better person. If you’ve missed the other lists, don’t worry, you can simply search the blog or check the archive section for the previous lists.

So here is the list on being a better person starting from 41-60..

41. Watch your health like a hawk. Don’t rely on doctors or nutritionists. You Know Best.
42. Walk away if it compromises your values or it will eat away at you sooner or later.
43. Start that project, that dream, that task that ages ago you put away, saving it for “someday”. Just Start It!
44. Take the second step after starting that project in #43.
45. Create a bucket list if only to get a sense of immediacy and urgency about life.
46. Remind yourself that life is finite and your days are numbered and now is the time to do what you want.
47. Ask your boss for a raise . Ask again if you don’t get an answer or get a new boss.
48. If bosses don’t work out for you, no problem. You weren’t meant to have one. Become your own damn boss!
49. Don’t just get married to get married. Marry for love. Marry for love so intense you can’t stand not being married to it.
50. Don’t have children unless you want them. And don’t feel bad if you don’t. Don’t force your spouse to want them either, just find one who does.
51. Get a dog only if you are not going to leave it in a crate all day long. Please.
52. Find people who get you. Really, really get you! Find the group, the community that gets you , whoever you may be. Find it.
53. Stop mistreating your body. You are not invincible and it will catch up with you and you will regret it.
54. Don’t put up with the crappy corporate job culture if you are itching to get out. It’s mostly lies, half-truths, and total nonsense.
55. Take a hard-core class that pushes your body. Indoor cycling. Krava maga. Kickboxing. Power yoga.
56. Stay away from people who are jealous of you and don’t be jealous of others. They are not who you are meant to be.
57. Read Rumi’s poetry. Do this more than once.
58. Motivate yourself every single day to keep going and don’t even talk to me about poor odds or bad luck. Just keep going.
59. Fight complacency like you would an animal that is out to suck the very life out of you.
60. Push past your comfort zone, be it in body, mind or spirit. Get uncomfortable. Good stuff will happen next.

Stay tuned for the final list on this space. Have a wonderful day and happy weekend!!!