Kids These Days: Generation Z Most Conservative Since WWII

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Kids These Days: Generation Z

For at least a decade, Millennials have been stereotyped as lazy, entitled, and stuck on social media. In Nigeria, our President had already tagged us to be lazy youths with no ambition. While that may not be entirely fair, they are notoriously liberal, overwhelmingly supporting left-leaning candidates and favoring policies like nationalized healthcare and same-sex “marriage.”

But Millennials are also getting old—relatively speaking. The first are now reaching the ripe old age of thirty-five! And sometime between 1995 and 2000, the millennial generation ended, or at least stopped being born, and a new generation began.

Members of “Generation Z” are now beginning to graduate high school, and 2016 was the first time any of them were old enough to vote. At seventy million and counting, they’re also about to outnumber their predecessors.

So, what’s so intriguing about this new brood? Well, according to a growing body of research, they may be, by certain measures, the most conservative generation since World War II—more than Millennials, Generation Xers and even the Baby-Boomers.

Millennials were raised in a time of roaring prosperity, when video cassettes were a bigger influence than digital technology, and many came of age before the age of radical Islamic terror. Gen Z kids, by contrast, are “digital natives.” They’ve never known life without the Internet, and have grown up surrounded by instant access to the world’s harsh realities on their smart phones.

These young people are products of conflict and recession. They can only remember a news cycle “marred by economic stress, rising student debt… and war overseas.” As a result, they’ve taken on what one team of Goldman-Sachs analysts called a “more pragmatic” and conservative outlook on the world.

Of course, generalizations at this stage are very early and very subject to development.

And get this: According to one British study conducted by global consultancy firm, The Guild, almost sixty percent of Gen Z respondents in the U.K. described their views on “same-sex marriage, transgender rights and marijuana legalization” as “conservative” or “moderate,” compared with a whopping 83% of Millennials who called themselves “quite” or “very liberal” on these issues. The Gen Z participants were even ten times more likely than Millennials to dislike tattoos and body piercings!

These are good trends, but these students still need discipleship and catechesis. A tendency toward traditional values, by itself, means nothing unless those who believe in revealed Truth, the Gospel, the natural family, and political and religious liberty step forward and train the next generation to articulate and live out these truths.

What is clear from this emerging data about the young is that they don’t fit neatly into rhetoric about the “right side of history.” As Columbia University sociologist, Musa Al-Gharbi writes, trends like this are deeply troubling for those so recently crowing that the future belonged to one political party.

No one knows what the future holds, except the One Who holds the future! And the fact that so many were apparently wrong about the right side of history is just another reminder that He alone is God, Whom the Psalmist called “faithful throughout all generations.”

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Adult Is Not A Verb: Helping Young People Spread Their Wings

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It’s been called a lot of things: “Peter Pan Syndrome” or my favorite, “failure to launch,” but whatever the term, the phenomenon is undeniable. A record number of young people today are getting stuck in the transition between childhood and adulthood.

Despite attending college in record numbers, millennials seem to struggle to move on to the next phase of life. Just a decade ago, a healthy majority of young adults were able to successfully fledge. Now, those who’ve managed to leave the nest are a minority.

Of course, the recession and a sluggish job market are factors. Millennials do have tougher career prospects than their parents did. But the economy isn’t the only explanation, and the language young people use to talk about adulthood makes that obvious.

Writing in The Wall Street Journal, Nebraska Senator Ben Sasse announced that Twitter had turned the noun “adult” into a verb. “#Adulting” is what kids post on social media to congratulate themselves for the rather ordinary feats of paying the bills, finishing the laundry, or just getting to work on time.

“I adulted!” goes the saying, as if fulfilling daily responsibilities is somehow above and beyond the call of duty. “Adulting” has become so universally recognized that the American Dialect Society nominated it for the most creative word of 2015.

But the Senator’s most important suggestion? Older generations must start investing in the lives of young adults. Summarizing relevant research in 2013, The Boston Globe reported a staggering statistic: Only a quarter of Americans 60 and older had discussed anything important with anyone under 36 in the previous six months! Exclude relatives and that figure dropped to a mortifying 6 percent. How alien this would have sounded to the Apostle Paul, who in Titus 2 urges older men and older women to teach the younger.

Only by connecting and investing in their lives can we reasonably expect our kids, our grandkids, and their peers to understand that “adult” is not something you do. It’s someone you are.

Dealing with Grief and Finding Hope

Nobody wants to die but want to go to heaven.
Death is inevitable. But death─ sudden or expected─ always brings sorrow and grief to the ones who are left behind. However, life still marches on. It is hard, but we must remember that as humans we have an immense ability to cope with anything that life brings. Although we all have different levels of coping abilities, there are several basic and universal steps to dealing with grief and finding hope again…

Allow The Feelings To Flow: Losing someone you love will conjure all unimaginable emotions within you, sorrow, regret, guilt, pain, grief, heartbreaks, misery, anger, sadness and many more. Feeling these emotions all at once can be extremely difficult. It is quite normal, so let them flow. You do not need to suppress them. Cry all you want. With time and allowing grief to be released, it will become less painful. It is an important process that will help you in dealing with grief and accepting your loss.

Talk About It When You Can: Talking about the death of your loved ones can be a way of remembering them and can help you understand what happened. It will give you the opportunity to start the healing process. Denying the death of a loved one can result in isolation and you pushing away your family and friends.

Find A Support System: Coping with a loved one’s death is never easy; especially if you are dealing with it alone. You need support coming from your family and friends so that you can find comfort and overcome grief faster. Moreover, while your family and friends can be your greatest source of support for overcoming the death of someone, but it is also advisable that you take advice from professional people when you find all the emotions and pain too hard to handle. Psychologists give professional advice and develop strategies according to your needs to get you through the grieving process.

Understand The Grieving Process: Dealing with grief and bereavement is a process. It is quite important to allow yourself to experience every stage of the grieving process for you to completely heal. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross outlined the five stages of grief in her book titled “On Death and Dying.” These stages are not necessarily experienced in order and some stages can be revisited. These five stages are:

  • Denial: Dealing with death can be overwhelming. It is an incomprehensible experience and you can find it hard to believe that your loved one is gone. You continue to deny that it is not happening and there is no way that your loved one left you.
  • Anger: As you realize the reality of your situation you begin to feel angry. Your anger or fury might be directed to your loved one for leaving you, to the doctors for not doing their job and healing your loved one, to God who took your loved one or even to yourself for maybe not being a better person to your loved one. All of this is quite normal and will pass.
  • Bargaining: It is quite common for an individual to start bargaining or negotiating with a higher power, like God. Do not be surprised or think that you are crazy when you start making deals with God like: “I will be better, just please give him back to me.”
  • Depression: The sorrow and overwhelming sadness you feel after the death of a loved one is normal. It is common to feel that your life will never be the same again. This feeling does not last forever and will pass with time.
  • Acceptance: This stage does not necessarily mean that you accept or come to terms that your loved one is already dead. It does not mean that if you are already at this stage, you will not revisit the other stages above. But rather, it means that the pain and grief of losing someone you love will reduce and become more manageable.

Celebrate Life: You need to mourn the death of your loved ones, but there comes a time when you need to turn from the mourning toward a new stage, of celebrating life again. Understanding that death is inevitable and that we will all die someday will give you an opportunity to live your life to the fullest. Remember that your life does not stop when someone you love passes away. Ask yourself this: “Would he or she be happy seeing me like this forever because they passed?” Cry as much as you need to, but know that your family and friends are still there for you, ready to walk forward and to live life fully with you now. Celebrate the fact that you are living.

Preserve Precious Memories: Someone so special to you might be gone but their memories stay. Keep all photographs, things he or she gave you, or create a memorial like planting a tree to remember your loved one. This will help you keep all the memories you shared together and overcome your loss.

Final Thoughts: It always feels so unfair when someone you love passes away, but that does not mean you have to stop living. God created us, human beings, to be strong and to survive anything. So, grieve as much as you need to, and remember you will be able to stand up and smile again. After all, your loved ones may not have stayed with you, but the memories you have with them will forever stay in your heart.

I can testify to each and every point stated here. I don’t know about you but if you have anyone facing the difficulty of not passing through grief and lack hope. Please share this with them.

Have a blessed day!!!

By: Brian Zeng

    Positive Thinking Versus Positive Knowing

    Many people today talk about the importance of “positive thinking.” Positive thinking is important, But It is not enough. Left undetected and uncontrolled, positive thinking can quickly degenerate into positive wishing and positive hoping.

    Instead of serving as an energy force for inspiration and higher achievement, positive thinking can become little.more than a generally cheerful attitude towards life and whatever happens to you, positive or negative.

    To be focused and effective in goal attainment, positive thinking must translate into “Positive knowing.” You must absolutely know and believe in the depths of your being that you are going to be successful at achieving a particular goal. You must proceed completely without doubt. You must be so resolute and determined, so convinced of you ultimate success, that nothing can stop you.

    Repost: 30 Beautiful Moments In Your Life That You Will Never Forget

    By: Rania Naim

    1. The moment you faced a longtime fear. There is no greater feeling than doing what you were most afraid of and getting through it.

    2. The moment you aced a difficult test. And that awesome feeling you get that you can accomplish anything you put your mind to.

    3. The moment you started driving without supervision and played your favorite music the whole way.

    4. The moment you got your first salary and how you felt that hard work truly pays off.

    5. The moment you made a new friend knowing that you will be friends forever.

    6. The moment your crush told you they liked you and how you couldn’t stop smiling.

    7. The moment you land in your favorite country and how it breathes new life into you.

    8. The moment you rest your head on the pillow after a productive day at work and how it’s bringing you one step close to your goal.

    9. The moment your favorite team wins the championship and the euphoria that follows.

    10. The moment you hold the baby of someone close to you, and how innocent and soft you become in that moment.

    11. The moment you stand up for yourself after being quiet and patient for so long.

    12. The moment you get what you’ve been praying for and realizing that the world is not so bad after all.

    13. The moment you realize how loved you are by those around you and how supportive they are.

    14. The moment that your pet welcomes you home every day as if you are the best thing that ever happened to them.

    15. The moment after you’ve had a special conversation with a special someone and immediately feel the growing bond between both of you.

    16. The moment you made someone smile after having a terrible day.

    17. The moment you let go of someone or something that was holding you back and the liberation that came with it.

    18. The moment you make your family happy; whether by being a good student, a good person or just being there for them when they need you.

    19. The moment your friends do something sweet for you and remind you of how much they love you.

    20. The moment you successfully complete a mission: losing weight, being more focused, being more positive…etc.

    21. The moment you are done reading a good book and the inspiration you find in its words.

    22. The moment you prove someone who doubted you wrong and the confidence you gain from it. Learning to believe in yourself more often.

    23. The moment you master one of the hard yoga poses and the strength you feel after.

    24. The moment you decide to be a little bit kinder to yourself and start slowly loving yourself with your imperfections.

    25. The moment you receive a heart-felt thank you for touching someone’s life.

    26. The moment your favorite song comes on when you have been waiting to hear it all day.

    27. The moment you run into an old friend or an acquaintance unexpectedly.

    28. The moment you go to the beach after a long time and the serenity you feel from the sound of the waves and the beauty of the sky.

    29. The moment you finally understand why something happened to you and finally solving that riddle.

    30. The moment of silence when you can truly enjoy your own presence and be grateful for the gift of living no matter how hard or easy your life seems to be.

    How To Write The Best Story Of Your Life

    • Each new day is an opportunity to write a new story; a blank page to start over and begin writing a new chapter. You have pages to fill with your own words. You have sentences to live by and characters to support your story. Make sure you write a story that you love, a story you are proud of, a story your children and grandchildren will want to read over and over again, and make sure you write an authentic one, an original one, a story that reflects your life, your dreams and your desires – not a copy of someone’s life or a story someone else has written for you. Here is how to write the best story of your life.
    • Start by building the right characters. Your characters are the ones that make your story come to life, and they are an integral part of your journey. Pick the right characters, the ones that will stick with you till the end of the story, the ones that will support you when your story is falling apart, the ones who will fill all your pages and chapters, and the ones who will help you write a happy ending.
    • Find the purpose of your story. What are you trying to tell the world? What are you here for? And what story do you want people to read about you? Find a meaning to your story that makes you come alive and inspires you to wake up every day. Find a meaning that keeps your story interesting and keeps you interested , find a meaning to fight for, live for and die for.
    • Don’t let defeat put an end to your story. Every great story has periods of despair, failures and defeats, but this is what makes it even more compelling and this is what makes it even more substantial. This is the climax of your story and the turning point. This is when you start changing and your whole story changes. It now becomes about how you handle defeat, how you rise up after you fall down, and how you change the direction of your life after failure. A victorious ending requires a series of lost battles.
    • Pick an exciting theme. The theme is one of the most fundamental components of your story. Pick a theme that ends each chapter with hope, faith, and a desire to make tomorrow better. A theme that makes your character stronger in every chapter, a theme that makes people root for you and want to see you make it to the end. Pick a positive theme, a humorous tone maybe, or a theme that depicts the strength in struggle and the beauty in vulnerability.
    • Love is the essence of your story. Your story will be very weak without the power of love. You have to write a story of love and passion. Love is what keeps the story moving forward. It could be a lover, a friend, your work, your parents, your children, God or the love of the journey, the love of the unknown, or even your struggle to find love and define it. No matter how you tackle it, love is the crux of your story.
    • Don’t worry so much about the ending. Pay more attention to the details of your story and the way it’s unfolding. The best writers often don’t know how their story will end, they just start writing and the ending comes to them after they’ve shaped the main plot. If you focus too much on the ending, you might miss out on the whole story.
    • Give it a spectacular title. The title is what summarizes your story in a few words. It’s what makes people want to read your story. It’s your choice how you want people to perceive your story. Each day you make a choice as to whether the title ends with a question mark, a period, or an exclamation point.

    Get In Here If You Want Some Motivation Right Now

    Desperate times call for desperate measures.

    You said you needed motivation. I’m going to do what needs to be done to get you in gear. NO EXCUSES.
    Do you want to get off your comfort zone and start producing instead of wallowing in despair, depression, self pity, fear, doubt or whatever is holding you back?

    Are you sick of not getting anything done?

    Let’s DO THIS.

    The point of this exercise is to give you motivation to do something right now. Don’t just absorb this and continue sitting around procrastinating.

    TAKE ACTION.

    Follow the steps below carefully.

    1. Quit bitching about how tired you are.

    The world doesn’t care.

    And if you’re feeling depressed or down, stop feeling sorry for yourself while you’re at it. It doesn’t matter.

    We all face obstacles. How you deal with those obstacles defines who you are and determines how successful you are in life.

    Did you catch that? It was the secret to life. Seriously.

    Let me say it again.

    We all face obstacles. How you deal with those obstacles defines who you are Jobs

    determines how successful you are in life.

    2. Read the quotes below. If you have a favorite quote or two you always refer to, read that too.

    Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75. – Benjamin Franklin

    Here is the test to find whether your mission on Earth is finished: if you’re alive, it isn’t. – Richard Bach

    Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. – Steve Jobs

    3. If the motivation you need is to work on building your own business, watch this video.

    I don’t care if you’ve seen it before. Watch it again.

    Be warned, if you’re not working towards being self employed, this video might push you in that direction.

    4. Put a pot of coffee on or get some tea brewing.

    Try a bulletproof coffee if you need an extra kick.

    5. If you haven’t eaten something, eat a little snack now.

    Eat something healthy. Eat some nuts or fruit. Take your vitamins.

    6. Do one of the following three things:

    A) Take a shower, OR

    B) Go for a brisk walk, OR

    C) Call the friend who most lifts you up and makes you feel great after every conversation. Tell him or her that you need a little pep talk. Put a 10 minute limit on the conversation.

    7. If you’re around people right now, go tell one of them how much you appreciate him or her.

    Just say, “hey, I wanted to tell you that I appreciate you because…”

    If you’re not around people, think about something or someone you’re grateful for. Go over the reasons you’re grateful in your mind.

    Gratitude is happiness. Happiness is motivating. Be grateful more often by thinking about who and what you’re happy for, or by telling someone.

    8. If you normally sit down to work, stand up.

    Standing up to work is motivating. It gets the blood flowing.

    9. Turn off email, Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and whatever other social procrastination network you’re part of.

    Turn off the TV if it’s on.

    Seriously, TURN THEM OFF.

    10. Now, put on your favorite music playlist.

    Play something that gets you jacked.

    Hint: try the playlist you use at the gym.

    (If you don’t regularly go to the gym or workout otherwise, start doing that tomorrow. You have to be healthy to stay motivated.)

    11. List the top 3 positive outcomes of achieving your task.

    Think about what you’re planning to accomplish today.

    Don’t worry about everything that’s holding you back from accomplishing it. Instead, focus on the positive things that will happen once you get it done.

    For example, if you have homework to do, your list might look like this:

    1) I’ll learn something useful.
    2) I’ll make myself and my teacher proud of what I accomplished.
    3) I’ll get closer to achieving a good grade in the class so I can graduate and move on to doing what I’m really meant to do in life.

    Write down the three things. Don’t skip this part. Make sure you focus on the 3 most important outcomes.

    12. Think about the part of doing this task that you enjoy.

    Most tasks have some enjoyable component to them.

    Focus on what you like about what you have to do, no matter how simple or how small. Enjoy the very act of doing your task for what it’s worth.

    Now here’s the most important part.

    Lock yourself in a room with the thing you need to be doing.

    Don’t leave until you make some progress.

    Put pen to paper, fingers to keyboard, or axe to the grindstone.

    Stop looking for external motivation. Stop letting yourself procrastinate.

    Start going through the motions of making progress. At first it might feel forced, but eventually you’ll get in the groove.

    What to do if this doesn’t work.

    We all have things to do that we really just don’t want to do, but have to for some reason. These are the toughest to find motivation for.

    For these especially difficult situations, I recommend two things.

    First, question whether or not this thing really needs to be done.

    What are the consequences of not doing it? Can you live with the consequences? Is there any way to not do this thing?

    Then, if you still conclude that this thing absolutely has to get done, focus on simply getting past it.

    Imagine the relief of not having this thing on your plate anymore.

    How will that make you feel?

    Dig deep. See how quickly you can possibly do this thing.

    Do it now and move on to stuff you really want to do.

    So guys what do you think about these points from Sparkline? If it’s very important, adopt it and get out of your comfort zone and also feel free to comment on more points or addition.

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    Smart and Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself

    Some days you wake up motivated and ready to go. And some days things feel heavy as you arise and it is hard to get going and find that inner drive.

    1. Just get started and let the motivation catch up with you. You don’t have to wait for motivation to get started. If you want to work in a consistent way every day then sometimes you just have to get going anyway. And the funny thing is that after I have worked for a while things feel easier and easier and more fun and the motivation catches up with me.

    2. Start small if big leads you to procrastinating. If a project or task feels too big and daunting don’t let that lead you into procrastination. Instead, break it down into small steps and then take just one of them to start moving forward.

    3. Start tiny if a small step still leads you to procrastination. If breaking it down and taking a small step still leads you to procrastinating then go even smaller. Take just a tiny 1-2 minute step forward. That’s it. Because the most important thing is to just get going and to build momentum forward.

    4. Reduce the daily distractions. When you have easily accessible distractions all around you then it becomes hard to focus. So shut the door to your office. Put your smart phone in silent mode at the other end of your work space or home. And use an extension for your browser like StayFocusd to keep yourself on track.

    5. Get accountability from the people in your life. Tell your friends what you will do on social media, via phone or in real life. Ask one or more of them to regularly check up on you and your progress. By doing this you’ll be a lot less likely to try to weasel out of things or give up at the first obstacle.

    6. Get motivation from the people in your life. Spend less time with negative people who always look at the dark or apathetic side of things. And spend more of the time you have now freed up with enthusiastic or motivated people and let their energy flow over to you.

    7. Get the motivation from people you don’t know. Don’t limit yourself to just the motivation you can get from the people closest you. There is a ton of motivating books, podcasts, blogs and success stories out there that you can tap into to up or renew your motivation.

    8. Play music that gives you energy. One of the simplest things I do when I feel low in energy or motivation is to play music that is upbeat and/or inspires me in some way. A break with a few songs or working while listening to them for a while usually works well.

    9. Find the optimism. Pessimism can drain both your motivation and energy. But the positive and constructive way of looking at things can on the other hand energize and recharge your motivation. So when you’re in what looks like a negative situation ask yourself questions like: What’s one thing that’s good about this? And what’s one hidden opportunity here?

    10. Be kind to yourself when you stumble . It’s so easy to fall into the trap of beating yourself when you stumble or fail. But that don’t work that well in my experience. You just feel worse and less motivated. So try this the next time: be kind to yourself, nudge yourself back on the path you were on and take one small step forward.

    11. Be constructive about the failures. To make your setbacks more valuable and less hurtful be constructive about them. When you stumble ask yourself: what is one thing I can learn from this setback? Then keep that lesson in mind and take action on it to improve what you do.

    12. Compare yourself to yourself and see how far you have come. Instead of deflating yourself and your motivation by comparing yourself to others who are so far ahead of you.

    13. Be grateful for what you got. When motivation is running low then it’s easy to start seeing your life and the aspects of it through a negative lens. To put your focus on what you still have and who you are – and to recharge with positivity and motivation – ask yourself a question like: What are 3 things I sometimes take for granted but can be grateful for in my life? My answers would, for example, be a roof over my head, clean water and not having to go hungry.

    14. Reduce your to-do list to just one item. An over-stuffed to-do list can be a real motivation killer. So try reducing your current to-do list to just one item. The one that’s most important to you right now or perhaps the one you’ve been procrastinating on for way too long. Then get started by taking a big, small or tiny step. And have another list tucked away somewhere where you can’t see it with other tasks to do later on.

    15. Don’t forget about the breaks. Few things can in my experience drain the daily motivation like just working non-stop. Instead, work for 45 minutes each hour and use the rest for a break where you eat a snack, get out for some fresh air or do a bit of stretching. You’ll – perhaps somewhat counter-intuitively – get more done in a day and week and do work of higher quality because your energy, focus and motivation will simply last longer.

    16. Adjust your goal size. If a big goal in your life feels overwhelming set a smaller goal to find your motivation again. And if a smaller goal doesn’t seem inspiring try to aim higher and make it bigger goal and see how that affects your motivation.

    17. Take 2 minutes to look back at your successes. Close your eyes and let the memories of your biggest successes – no matter in what part of your life – wash over you. Let those most positive memories boost your motivation.

    18. Reward yourself and celebrate your successes (no matter how big or small they are). If you’re looking forward to a nice reward that you’re getting yourself after you’re done with a task or a project then your motivation tends to go up. If you celebrate a success in some other way by for example by taking 1 minute to appreciate what you did or by telling someone about your success then that also usually recharges motivation and positivity. So dangle those carrots and celebrate to keep your motivation up.

    Ways To Be Successful Aside Being Great At Your Job

    Right now, it seems the only noble or worthwhile thing to do is to become an entrepreneur, a leader, a creative professional, or at least the most valuable person in the room. The problem is that not everybody is suited to do these things, and even fewer actually want to. But when we use our jobs as means of emotional validation – something we can work on to prove our inherent worth – this is what emerges. There are so many ways to measure a good life, aside from your day job, so here are a few ways to begin gauging the depth of your character beyond the implication of your title and the sum of your paycheck….

    1. Do good work. Not what you think other people think is good work, but work in which you put forth so much complete, genuine effort that you are at peace with yourself at the end of the day.

    2. Be the kind of person who actively, consciously seeks out the loving, kind parts of even the most undeserving, unkind people.

    3. Always be open to the idea that you could be wrong, or your perspective could be misinformed, especially if you want to demand the same from others.

    4. Learn to enjoy your life while not having to forego your responsibilities. Learn to find that enjoyment in them, not in spite of them.

    5. Become the kind of person you think the world needs more of. Do what you often feel compelled to advise other people to do. Make the change you think needs to happen on the planet within your personal life.

    6. Learn to live within your means, and happily so. Pay all of your bills, and save what you can. Relish in the kind of independence that brings.

    7. Be the kind of person that other people feel better just for having been around. Learn how to comfort without placating, and love without losing yourself.

    8. Be an incredible friend, one who is able to sustain a friendship despite major life changes, moves, or time. One who reaches out, makes phone calls, sends thank you cards.

    9. Decide that what you have is enough – this is the only way to stop wanting.

    10. Enjoy the holidays the way you did as a kid. Create your own traditions. Treat the people you love well.

    11. Value your own opinions just a little bit more than you do other people’s. Don’t live your life trying to make sure everyone loves you but you.

    12. Speak out when you see injustice, but do so by offering a better solution, not another personal attack just coming from a different angle.

    13. Be the kind of person that your child self would be proud of.

    14. Practicing loving people unconditionally – no matter what.

    15. Learn to love yourself that way first.

    16. Validate the emotions of the people who are closest to you. Doing so is an art form, and the essence of real intimacy (platonic or not).

    17. Make time to do things you love, even if that something will never lead to a job, and even if you will never be the best at it.

    18. Whatever you want to spend the most time consumed by – the family you already have, the family you want to build, the joy you find in your morning coffee or working on your novel-to-be for an hour each night – be someone who sticks to their priorities. Define your life with something you’re proud of, not just whatever you’re afraid not to have.

    Signs You’ve Evolved More Than You Give Yourself Credit For

    It’s hard to see how far along the path you’ve come while you’re so focused on taking each step – so to say. You’ve probably had the experience of a third party commenting on how much you’ve changed but barely being able to realize only because you’re with yourself each day. This is normal, but is also the product of focusing on how what’s left to do rather than what you’ve already accomplished – which is why it’s often hard to give yourself the credit you really deserve.

    1. You have something in your life that you would have previously considered impossible, or at least, a dream come true. Sobriety, a degree, a partner, a dream job…

    2. You forget how much you’ve gone through, simply because it doesn’t cross your mind anymore. Your past seems like it happened “in a different life.”

    3. Your criteria for a romantic “type” are personality traits, not physical characteristics. Your idea of “love” has expanded beyond just the feeling that sexual attraction gives you.

    4. You have more than just your problems to tal
    bout with friends. More interests you than just gossip – as you’ve learned that those conversations have very little to do with other people, and absolutely everything to do with you.

    5. The worst happened, and then it passed. You lost the person you thought you couldn’t live without and then you kept living. You lost your job then found another one. You began to realize that “safety” isn’t in certainty – but in faith that you can simply keep going.

    6. You’ve created your own belief system, if not entirely and thoroughly questioned your existing one. You no longer subscribe to anything that doesn’t resonate or make sense to you.

    8. You’re more discerning of who you spend your time with. You value your closest friends more than you do the idea of a “group.”

    9. You don’t change any part of yourself – your personality, your opinions, even your clothes – based on who you’re going to be around that day.

    10. You don’t blame other people for your problems anymore. You don’t choose to suffer because you assume if you complain loudly enough, the Universe will have to fix it.

    11. You don’t relate to a lot of your old friends anymore, but you can still keep in touch and appreciate the role they had in your life.

    12. You’re not worried about fitting in anymore, you sincerely don’t want to be “normal,” and you sincerely do not care about being “cool,” as you now see that the “cool kids” usually don’t get very far past high school.

    13. You can talk about the problems in your life that you thought you’d absolutely never get over and you can also talk about exactly how you got over them.

    14. You stop and enjoy life more often, rather than just sprinting from goal to goal.

    15. You’re highly skeptical of anything that’s fed to you as being “just the way things are.” You’re always open to the idea that there could be a different, better, kinder, more enlightened way to live, and you’re always willing to at least try for it.

    16. If you were to tell your younger self about the life you have now, they sincerely wouldn’t believe you.

    Struggles of An Ambitious Introvert

    Waking up today, I didn’t know what to write about. I decided not to post today but stumbled on this article online that got me interested.

    1. It’s not even just easy to let work take over your life, it’s the default you revert to if you aren’t careful. It’s hard to strike a balance when you kind of don’t care about your social life as much as you do your work life. People say it’s unhealthy, but is it healthier to balance out things you don’t care about with things you do? These are the things you wonder.

    2. You make “taking criticism personally” into an art form. It’s basically impossible for you to separate your work from who you are as a person – when one is failing, both are (and vice versa).

    3. You want people to know about everything you’ve accomplished, but you have no idea how to communicate it without either underplaying it or sounding like an ass. You feel uncomfortable honestly sharing how much you think you’ve accomplished (who is actually comfortable with this, though???)

    4. If you could hire someone to network for you, you would. You don’t have that savvy social butterfly gene, yet you still need to make those connections work for you somehow. *Cue alcohol-fueled “work events.”*

    5. Whenever your boss says “hey, could we talk?” your little hyper-active, people-pleasing, success-craving brain hears: “you’re fired, it’s over, your career is done.” Introvertedness is to self-awareness what the Kardashians are to contouring.

    6. Because you’re always trying to improve yourself, it’s hard for you to learn how to appreciate what you have accomplished, and what you do have. A lot of this is fueled by knowing that you could do better, and you could do more (so why aren’t you?!?)

    7. You feel like you always have a foot down on people who want to send a dozen emails to people in their field and find getting coffee with strangers invigorating. You’ll just Google the “how to” and hope it suffices, no?

    8. If you don’t keep yourself in check, you’re prone to getting hyper-competitive. To you, success is individual, and so it’s easy to let yourself slip into the idea that it’s comparative.

    9. You’d rather work alone, but like, teamwork makes the dream work and all that nonsense. Remember when you had to do group projects in school and it was the worst? Yep well every grown up day is kind of like that! Welcome!

    10. Most of your “goals” and “dreams” are just to create a better life for yourself or for those around you. You don’t need the spotlight, and you don’t need recognition, but you do need to go to bed at night knowing you’re doing something you are about, and you’re doing the best you can at it.

    11. Self-promotion is your living, breathing, Tweet-fueled nightmare. And unfortunately, a lot of the time, your success will have a lot to do with that, even if it’s just being able to sell yourself to an employer.

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    By: Brianna Weist

    POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

    This is amazing, Randy Pausch 47 yrs old, A computer Sc. lecturer from Mellon University. He died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book “The last lecture” before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind.

    In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful “guide to a better life” for his wife and children to follow.

    May you be blessed by his insight.

    Personality
    1. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
    2. Don’t have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
    3. Don’t over do; keep your limits
    4. Don’t take yourself so seriously; no one else does
    5. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip
    6. Dream more while you are awake
    7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
    8. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
    9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
    10. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present
    11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
    12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
    13. Smile and laugh more
    14. You don’t have to win every argument.

    Agree to disagree.

    Community
    15. Call your family often
    16. Each day give something good to others
    17. Forgive everyone for everything
    18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
    19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
    20. What other people think of you is none of your business
    21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

    Life
    22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
    23. GOD heals everything
    24. Do the right things
    25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
    26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
    27. The best is yet to come
    28. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful
    29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
    30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

    While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

    Remember,

    GOOD THINGS ARE FOR US TO SHARE…..!!!!!!

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    Repost: 15 Things You Can Start Doing Today to Bring Inner Peace Into Your Life

    The daily life can be busy, hectic and at times overwhelming.

    It may sometimes feel like bringing just a little more inner peace and calmness into your life is a hopeless wish.

    But it doesn’t have to be that way. Small and smart changes can over time make a big difference.

    So today I’d like to share 15 of my own favorite tips for finding more peace and calmness in everyday life.

    1. Set limits. If your life is overfilled you may need to set some limits. So stop doing some of the least important things, the things that honestly don’t matter that much. Set a limit for how many times you will check inboxes, Instagram, Twitter etc. per day. And say no if you really don’t have the time.

    2. Find a relaxation technique that works for you. I like belly breathing and working out to release tensions and recharge during the day. What works for you? Long walks, music, yoga, meditation or going for a swim? Find out and do that.

    3. Don’t make mountains out of molehills. This can create a lot of unnecessary stress. When facing what looks like a mountain ask yourself questions like: Does someone on the planet have it worse than me right now? Will this matter in 5 years? These questions help you to zoom out and realize that things may not be that bad and that you can handle them.

    4. Slow down. Your emotions work backwards too. If you slow down while walking, moving your body or talking you can often start to feel less stressed (compared to if you move/talk fast). Slowing down to decrease stress goes for many other things you do in everyday life too like riding your bicycle, working at your desk and eating.

    5. Unclutter your world, unclutter your mind. Just take 3 minutes to declutter your workspace or the room you’re in. A uncluttered, simplified and ordered space around you brings clarity and order to the mind. So don’t stop there. Declutter, simplify and organize your home and life too to live in a more relaxing environment.

    6. Use a minimalistic workspace. My work space is just a laptop on a wooden desk. I use a comfy chair and there is room for my glass of water beside the computer. That’s it. There are no distractions here. Just me, the computer and the water. This brings peace and makes it easier to focus during my working hours.

    7. Be 10 minutes early. It’s a small habit but it has transformed much of my travel time during the year from a slightly or very stressful time to periods of relaxation and recharging.

    8. Accept and let go. Now is now. But if something negative from the past – something someone said, something someone did – is still on your mind then accept and let that feeling and thought in instead of trying to push it away. When you accept that it is then it starts to lose power. And while the facts may still be there in your head the negative feelings become a lot less powerful. At this point, let that thing go like you are throwing out a bag of old clothes. And direct your focus to the present moment and something better instead.

    9. Ask instead of guessing. Reading minds is pretty much impossible. But still we often try it and create anxiety, uncertainty and misguided conclusions for ourselves. So ask and communicate instead. It may sometimes be a bit hard at first but it can save you and the people around you so much trouble in the long run.

    10. Escape for a while. Read a novel, watch your favorite TV-show or a movie. It’s simple but it works well to just release pressure and relax.

    11. Solve a problem that is weighing down on you. Don’t procrastinate anymore. Solve your problem and release it and all the underlying stress and tension that it is creating in your life. You probably already know what to do, you are just not doing it yet. But the longer you wait the worse the tension inside becomes. So get up from your chair and get started on doing it for just 1-3 minutes right now.

    12. Disconnect over the weekend. Leave your work – and work phone – where it belongs. Disconnect or at least limit your internet activity and the checking of your smart phone over the weekend. And spend more of your Saturdays and Sundays with an undivided attention on your family, friends, hobby or maybe being out in nature.

    13. Remember the 5 little words that’ll help you to stay sane: one thing at a time. By keeping those words in mind and letting them guide you through your day and week you’ll be less stressed and more focused (and that will not only bring more inner peace but also help you to do a better and quicker job at pretty much anything).

    14. Breathe. When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your mind breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present moment again.

    15. Remember: There’s a day tomorrow too. Sometimes you have a bad day. Or life interferes with your plans for the day. And so you don’t get what you had planned or hoped for done. The best way to handle such a situation is – in my experience – simply to kindly tell yourself that there’s a day tomorrow too and that you can get it done then. Beating yourself up is on the other hand not a smart or helpful strategy.