The Power of a Response


I do not know about you, but in the heat of a conversation, I am generally more tempted to emotionally respond, rather than rationally respond. The way we respond to people and situations, has more power than we may realize. It has the power to build a strong foundation and relationship and it has the power to destroy relationships. A response can cause a relationship to grow stronger, or it can cause someone to become defense and have their guard up every time we enter a room. In this article, we will address how to function and grow through our emotional responses in a healthy way! The final goal should always be to show people the way to Jesus, not revenge to justify our emotional response.

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” – James 1:19-20

There are a lot of moments where God is prompting us to slow down and take a moment to process and discern the situation, before jumping to a conclusion or response. We cannot allow our emotions to rule our day, or get in the way of what God is trying to do through us.

Here are three simple ways to avoid an irrational, emotional response:

1. Take a deep breathe before responding. We hear this all the time and laugh when someone says to “count to ten” but it is honestly one of the smartest things you can do. It works in the heat of the moment. When you take deep breaths, you are pushing more oxygen to your brain. This gives you a clearer perspective on things, producing a better thought process in the moment. The more clarity in your situation the better.

2. See both sides of the situation. Take a step back, emotionally and hypothetically. Removing yourself from the situation, gives you perspective from both sides of the situation. If you know you tend to respond based off of emotions, it’s best to eliminate them. View both sides of the situation, to ensure a rational response, through using wisdom and discernment.

3. Humble and submit yourself. As much as you may feel like you do not owe the other person something, whether you do or not, you do owe it to God. We must honor and love others. We are called to love God and to love others. If you truly strive to serve God everyday, you will humble yourself and simmer your emotions. This will allow you to love others through a simple act of kindness. No matter if they deserve it or not, loving someone can be the best way of representing Jesus to others.

At the end of the day, know that you should always pray about things more than you talk about them. If emotional and unjustifiable responses are things you struggle with, I encourage you to take it to God. Above all else, always take it to God!

“…Don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves.” -James 1:22

Humbly accept God’s word, allow it to plant in your heart, and allow that harvest to save your soul; for that’s the power God’s word has in our lives!

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Rushing Around… But Where’s the Fire?

How many times in your day do you feel like you were rushing around trying to put out one fire after another? How many times during the day are you actually at peace with yourself and you don’t feel like you have to hurry up to get to the next task on your list?

If you can go day in and day out without feeling the need to be rushing around from one fire, to another task to satisfy a need for someone else, to accomplishing something that you forgot to do yesterday… I applaud you. But that is not me! If you are like me and many others we have not figured out how to appropriately manage our time and our stressors. Thus, rushing around is all we know. It’s not healthy, but hey…we have made it this far, right?

From solving home issues, rushing to get my work done before deadline, trying to finish some personal assignments, the list doesn’t end. Managing personal health problems, drama at work, stress with significant others, bills, say what? We all have stressors and pressures in life. These struggles and different types of anxiety, can attack us from all angles of life. As someone who suffers from stress and anxiety, I know how important it is to keep the right perspective on things. Easier said than done though, right?

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” – Philippians ‭4:6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Also, easier said than done. It’s easy to think we can bottle up all the things in life that consume our thoughts, place them in a box, take them to God, set them down and walk away. Never giving another worry about them. I’m not too sure that’s what this verse calls us to do. You see, God wants us to take action. The action isn’t hanging it over to him to fix and not doing anything about it ourselves.

“So, do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah ‭41:10‬ ‭NIV

God’s promise does not free us from doing some of the heavy lifting ourselves.

We are not promised that God will solve our problems and we won’t have to pray, follow His word, or change some of our own behaviors. Giving our worries to God does not mean we are absent of having to make personal adjustments.

Here’s an example:

Having a full-time job, donating time to volunteer activities and other obligations at church can be hard to manage when it comes to time commitments. I send up all the prayers I can think of, beg God for a solution. While I do these things, I continue to cram my schedule and nothing changes. I pray harder, I get plugged in to the right communities, I surround myself with friends who have the same values, but still my prayers go unanswered.

Here’s the same example with a much different viewpoint:

Having a full-time job, donating time to volunteer activities and other obligations at church can be hard to manage when it comes to time commitments. While I send up prayers to God, I get organized and prioritize my schedule. Looking at the commitments I have made, I decide which ones I should prayerfully consider stepping down from. Seeking wise counsel, God begins to reveal to me which priorities are most important and advancing His kingdom. Then it becomes very clear what should stay on my schedule.

My first moments awake I spend with God. No, this was not always the case. I used to be so wrapped up in my work and social media, I would check on those things first. Now, before my feet hit floor (or at least while I’m brushing my teeth or in the toilet) I am spending time in the word. I’m reading, or listening to my daily devotional and praying for different areas in my life.

My last moments awake I spend with God. This too wasn’t always the case. Don’t tell anyone, but I have several shows I like to watch, but because I don’t have time (no pun intended) I downloaded them on my phone to watch later. I used to spend the last hours of my days watching TV. Not anymore. A very close friend of mine told me about an app that will help me in reading inspirational stories, which I have been using. If it’s not that, I’m listening to worship music as I drift asleep. This forces me to relax my mind and make every attempt possible to close out my days peacefully.

When you aren’t sure… Just ask.

Seek wise counsel and identify the things in your daily life that are creating the most stress in your routine. Ask yourself, or even write down the pros and cons of that activity. If there are more cons on the list and you’ve gone to God in prayer over them, ask yourself if that particular thing is truly necessary to have you all worked up over and rushing around to accomplish on a regular basis.

Overcoming The Fear Of Rejection

To be a soul winner for Jesus, we must overcome all fear, including rejection. The Samaritan Woman at the Well not only carried water, she carried the burden of rejection. This is the incredible story of her turnaround from Weakness to Wellness to Witness.

Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon. (John 4:6 NIV)

She was alone drawing from Jacob’s well at about the sixth hour. This was a famous well that provided water to the community. But it was the sixth hour, in the hot afternoon. This Samaritan woman was alone because the well was half of a mile away from the community. The women usually carried water either in the morning or the evening. Why did she come under the hot sun? Maybe it was an emergency. Or maybe she wanted to be alone, away from the eyes of other women, to avoid listening to disparaging remarks from other women. Or was it out of fear?

Rejected by Society

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”(John 4:16-18 NIV)

She had had 5 husbands and the man whom she was living with – was not a husband. In those days, women don’t divorce husbands. Either she was divorced 5 times, or had had 5 husbands who died, or a combination of both. In any case, she would have most likely been disregarded by men and a taboo to the women of that society in general.

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Furthermore, she was not married to the man she was living with. After 5 marriages, she wasn’t young anymore. Young women carried waters from the well because they were stronger. Because of the fact she had to carry water herself meant that she didn’t have a servant. We can infer that she was living with that man because she was depending on him financially. Since she was willing to live with him without being married to him, it showed her desperation.

Jesus Crossed Barriers to Reach Out to Her

As a rule of thumb, Jews don’t speak to Samaritans. Men couldn’t speak to women without the husband’s there. Rabbis were not supposed to be near her. Sounds like fear, right? Jesus confronted her past. She didn’t lie to hide her shame.

To be a soul winner, we need to be transparent so that others can see the real Jesus in us. For the light to shine into us, and then, through us to others, we need to be transparent.

Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.” (John 4:39 NIV)

Her transparency was clear when she brought many souls to Jesus. She told many about Jesus: “He told me all that I ever did.” This means she laid bare about her past life to many people. She didn’t care if they already knew about her past or not.

Through her divine supernatural encounter with Jesus, she knew without a shadow of doubt that God loved and accepted her. Now she was no longer living in fear. She was no longer dependent on others for love and acceptance. She now knew that God Himself loved and accepted her.

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When Do We Offer Thanksgiving? At All Times

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In every situation, in all things and by so doing we enter into the victorious life where the devil cannot control us.

How can he control us if we are going to be joyful and thankful no matter what the circumstances are? Admittedly, this kind of lifestyle sometimes requires a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving, but i would rather sacrifice my thanksgiving to God than sacrifice my joy to satan.

Be grateful at all times, one filled with gratitude not only toward God, but also toward people. When someone does something nice to you, let him/her know that you appreciate it.

Show appreciation in your family among the various members. So often, we take for granted the things that God has blessed us with. A sure way to lose something is not to appreciate it.

Have you told your wife/girlfriend how you appreciate her each day?

Meditate daily on all the things you have to be thankful for. Rehearse them to the Lord in prayer, and as you do you will find your heart filling up with life and light.

“Through Him, therefore, let us at all times offer up to God a sacrifice of praise, which is the fruit of lips that thankfully acknowledge and confess and glorify His name”.


Hebrews 13:15

Having Strength During Hard Times: Bible Verses

Don’t Worry Or Fear, Find Your Strength In Him

It can be so easy to give into worry, fear and despair, but with Him we can find strength, and look forward to wonderful things. He gives us hope!

Isaiah 43:1-3 Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the Lord you God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.

Luke 12:25-26 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life[a]? 26 Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?

Philippians 4:6 Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

Psalm 34:4 I sought the Lord, and he answered me, and delivered me from all my fears.

Psalm 27: 1-3 The LORD is my light and my salvation whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid? When the wicked advance against me to devour me,it is my enemies and my foes who will stumble and fall.Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear;though war break out against me,even then I will be confident.

Joshua 1:9 Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Psalm 145: 18-19 The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cry and saves them.

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Isaiah 12:2 Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The Lord, the Lord, is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation.

God Gives Us A Spirit Of Strength And Power

Through faith in Christ we are given a spirit of power, love and discipline, and for that reason we have nothing to fear. We can hold onto his promises and be confident that he’ll see us through even the darkest of days.

2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.

Psalm 138:3 When I called, you answered me; you made me bold and stouthearted.

Psalm 16:8 I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.

Psalm 62:1-2 My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will never be shaken.

Psalm 112: 1, 7-8 Praise the Lord! Happy are those who fear the Lord. They are not afraid of evil tidings; their hearts are firm, secure in the Lord. Their hearts are steady, they will not be afraid.

Psalm 91:1-2 You who live in the shelter of the Most High, who abide in the shadow of the Almighty, will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress; my God in whom I trust.”

Psalm 112: 1, 7-8 Praise the Lord! Happy are those who fear the Lord. They are not afraid of evil tidings; their hearts are firm, secure in the Lord. Their hearts are steady, they will not be afraid.

Hard Times May Come, But He’s There With Us Through Them All

Though we aren’t promised an easy life, we are told that Christ will be there with us when we believe in Him, that he won’t give us more than we can handle with His help, and even our hard times can be used to glorify God.

2 Corinthians 12:9 My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.

Philippians 4: 12-13 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation . . . . I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

2 Thessalonians 3:3 But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen and protect you from the evil one.

Isaiah 40:29 He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless.

1 Peter 5: 10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.

Hebrews 4:16 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who in every respect has been tested as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore approach the throne of grace with boldness, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

Deuteronomy 31:6,8 Be strong and bold; have no fear or dread of them, because it is the Lord your God who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.

2 Thessalonians 3:16 Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way.

Strength In Christ Our Lord And Savior

As the verses above illustrate, we’re told to call on Jesus Christ, and that he will hear us and give us strength, hope and a grace sufficient to carry us through. He will be our ever present help when we’re in need, and he can give us a peace that passes all understanding. For me that’s extremely encouraging.

Happy Birthday To My Beautiful Wife

My Queen, words can’t describe how I feel today about you. I owe everything to my God. You are a phenomenon woman, a woman of substance, God’s gift to me. I lacked a lot of things in the past, you came into my life to polish my past to have a better view with the present and future.
You are the reason I’m content, happy, and the man that I am.
Every day of my life I want to make sure you know how much you mean to me and how much I appreciate you because you are the best.
You deserve all the best in life because you are selfless, caring, understanding, loving and amazing.
I will forever love you even when I won’t be able to remember my own name. Your love will shine through my last breath.


My love for you is unbreakable. My devotion for you is unshakable. You and I are inseparable. Have a very happy birthday my amazing wife!

Guys help me celebrate this woman of faith with me today!!!🙏🙏

Pride Prevents Patient Waiting

Trust your day is going great guys.

So this morning I was really bothered about my future and what and what am yet to be done around me. I tried distracting myself with house chores and stuffs but to no avail. Later on, I picked an old jotter of mine and started reading. The first thing my eyes sighted on was a topic about being patient and not pride.

It is impossible to enjoy waiting if you don’t know how to wait patiently. Pride prevents patient waiting because the proud person thinks so highly of himself that he believes he should never be inconvenience in anyway.

Although we are not to think badly of ourselves, we are also not to think too highly of ourselves. It is dangerous to lift ourselves up to such an elevated place that it causes us to look down on others. If they are not doing things the way we want, or as quickly as we think they should be done, we behave impatiently.

“A humble person will not display an impatient attitude”

Am so relieved right now, I hope you are also???

Take One Day At A Time

I like to describe worry or anxiety as spending today to figure out tomorrow. Let’s learn to use the time God has given to us for what He intended. It sounds easy right??? But in this case easy is far from it. It takes the spirit and grace of God to be at peace with ourselves knowing the challenges we face or what is making us worry. We humans and vulnerable. Don’t beat yourself to it.

“Life is to be lived- here and now”

Sadly, as I mentioned in the first paragraph only the Grace and Spirit of God can turn our minds out of worry and anxiety to peaceful and worry less. Very few people know how to live each day to the fullest. But you can be one of them. Jesus said that satan, the dark one, comes to steal your life. (John 10:10). Don’t allow him to do it any longer!

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Don’t spend today worrying about tomorrow. You have enough things going on today; it needs all of your attention. God’s grace is on you to handle whatever you need for today, but tomorrow’s grace will not come until tomorrow comes- so don’t waste today!

We Have A Calling On Our Lives To Live

We live in a quit society. I’m guilty of it. You’re guilty of it. We all are. The moment something becomes boring and mundane, we often check out and move on. Let’s face it, life is amazing. There is so much going on in the world at any given moment. They literally invented an iPhone 8, skipped the 9 and made the 10, same as Samsung within 15 minutes of each other. It’s overwhelming. It’s also stimulating. This makes it so much easier to move on when the stimulation stops.

There’s a saying I’ve heard and love, this faith walk ain’t no cake walk.

When we first come to Jesus, I believe all of us are fired up initially. We have this peace that surpasses anything we’ve known. We feel grace in ways we didn’t even know possible. It’s electric. (Boogie woogie woogie).

We become emboldened and begin to share our new-found faith. We are then often discouraged by those tenured in the faith who will say the fire will fade and we won’t always have the same passion and vigor. I specifically was told by a friend shortly after I had a fresh encounter with Jesus who told me to enjoy it because it wouldn’t last. For those who keep the faith and keep the fire, they are eventually labeled as ‘radical’ or not your average Christian. They believe God still interacts with us daily and still seeks to dwell among his people. Others who may have become jaded and tired, believe God doesn’t work as he once did. They may not say it, but the way they live it says it all.

Here’s the crazy thing though, if you asked either one if they were willing to die for their faith or God they would both answer yes.

  • Many, if not all of us would say we are willing to die for our faith. I’m not so sure though.
  • I think the more honest question would be, if you could quit being a follower of Jesus today with no blowback or questions from others, no accountability, and no conviction, would you do it?
  • To many of us, when we say die for our faith, this is the heart behind it.
  • The reality is dying for your faith allows you to not deal with the Earthly blow-back of that professed faith. Don’t get me wrong, It’s an incredibly bold move to die for a friend or die for Jesus.
  • But it takes as much if not more to live for your faith, to continually stand strong in the face of opposition & persecution. When Jesus speaks of laying his life down for a friend. It’s not a call to die…
    But a call to live.

Who are you living for?

The initial command from Jesus to all of us is “Come, follow me.” Many of us immediately drop everything to follow him, but once the road becomes narrower, or harder to climb, we may take a break or find a detour. We convince ourselves as long as we get to our destination it doesn’t matter if we followed Jesus exactly as he led. If we were really honest with ourselves, most of our personal goals would be to make it to Heaven. The goal of Jesus though was to bring heaven to Earth.

God asks you to pick up your cross and follow him. This isn’t the cross you will be crucified to for your own sins. Jesus would never ask you to climb on the cross. There is only one perfect offering and sorry, it’s not you. We are called to bear the burdens of each other. To lighten the load. When we carry the cross, we’re carrying it for friends and family who aren’t yet able to carry their own. It may have become too heavy or they may have not known it was there. He then wants us to carry it to the top of the mountain, stick it in the ground and allow him to climb on it.

We are the Hitch of the kingdom.

God wants us to be the match maker. He’s not asking you to save the world for him. He’s not asking you to heal anyone. All he’s asking you to do is make an introduction. God wants us to live for Him, so he may continue to be introduced to as many people as possible. His will is that everyone should reunite to him.

Christ never called us to die for him, but he did call us to live. Live for him today.

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World Premiere: Lil Dizzie Ft. Blasta Boss, Joko6E And Brythreesixty- Shakuzonto

Award winning Nigerian Afropop star Lil Dizzie is back with a bang! The artiste who has produced hits like Club Inferno, King Deuces, E- Money Anthem and many others. He promises to takeover the airwaves with yet another hit single, and this one is titled Shakuzonto

This monster jam features Blasta Boss from Kenya, Joko6E from South Africa, and Brythreesixty from Zimbabwe. Lil Dizzie never relents on his music career especially in the international scene.

Shakuzonto is a Afropop genre of music with creativity infusing the famous Nigerian dance “ShakuShaku” and Ghana dance “Azonto” together originated SHAKU-ZONTO.

This song is produced by Nigeian young producer MO’BEATZ. This is another party grooving jam for the young and old.

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My Freedom Day Quotes

Today March 14, 2019 the world celebrates World Freedom Day. Freedom from modern day slavery, injustice, and violence around the world.

Happy World Freedom Day! #worldfreedomday

“The secret to happiness is freedom… And the secret to freedom is courage.” – Thucydides

“True success, true happiness lies in freedom and fulfillment.” – Dada Vaswani

“Freedom lies in being bold.” – Robert Frost


“Freedom consists not in doing what we like, but in having the right to do what we ought.” – Pope John Paul II

“What then is freedom? The power to live as one wishes.” – Marcus Tullius Cicero

“Freedom comes from strength and self-reliance.” – Lisa Murkowski

“I prefer liberty with danger to peace with slavery.” – Jean-Jacques Rousseau

“I’m a big advocate of freedom: freedom of speech, freedom of expression, freedom of thought.” – Jimmy Wales

“I believe in freedom of speech, but I believe we should also have the right to comment on freedom of speech.” – Stockwell Day

What makes you free???

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You Can’t Just Sit At Church And Become Spiritually Strong, Just Like You Can’t Just Sit At The Gym And Expect To Become Physically Strong..

BY CHARLES HAMRICK

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Most human beings have uttered the words, or some form of them, “I am out of shape” or “I need to get in shape” at some point in their lives.  Regardless of the reason behind wanting to get in shape, most all people have an innate desire to be in better shape than they currently are.  We do this as humans because we want our body to both look and perform better.  The only way to accomplish this goal, despite anything you may have heard on late night television, is to work at it.  There is no easy fix or simple way to get in shape.  Its not a click of a button or some magical pill you can take.

If you know me, you know that I’m not what you would call a “gym rat” or someone who is going to work out every day of the month. I do know people (one who writes often on this blog quite often, no names mentioned, haha) that works out nearly every day and feels lost if they don’t.  There is nothing wrong with this, they just realize that to stay strong and improve the shape they are in they need to keep working at it everyday.  I admire their commitment to their health and am always impressed with the daily dedication.

Similar to the way we have to work out to keep our physical bodies in shape, we have to “work out”, to stay in shape spiritually as well.  You can’t just sit at church and become spiritually strong, just like you can’t just sit at the gym and expect to become physically strong.  You have to put some work into it on a daily basis.  God wants to teach you and interact with you daily.  He wants you to pick up His Word and read it (daily) and learn from it.  He wants you to ask questions and dig deeper to understand His Word.  God loves to speak to us, and loves us to understand how to speak to Him.

You will start to see yourself getting stronger as you continue to daily spend time with Him in some form or fashion.  If this is not something you currently do, I encourage you to start TODAY and give it a shot for a certain amount of time.  While I am a firm believer that we have a responsibility to keep ourselves in good physical heath, being good stewards of the body that we were given for our time on this earth, I believe even more strongly that we have a responsibility to be spiritually strong, for the battles we will face throughout our lives.  A few of my friends are starting a 24-Day Challenge today for physical health reasons where they focus on eating healthy, cleansing and putting good things (vitamins / supplements / etc.) in their system.  I would suggest you start a 24-Day Spiritual Challenge, where you spend time with God every day for 24 days, in the Bible, in prayer, in meditation, in church and any other place you can get yourself into the presence of God and see what He does for you and tells you.  Focus on it and I promise you will come out in better shape than you did going in!

1 Corinthians 6:19-20
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

1 Timothy 4:7-8
Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.

Don’t Do the Devil’s Job for Him

Do you find yourself making it your job to control things? Do you stress out about things that you can’t control? If you’re anything like me, it’s more often than you would like to admit. God reminds me ALL THE TIME that He is the one in control, not me. Can we control everything that goes on in our lives? No. Letting go is something I still work on daily.

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When we take control of our own lives, things are never as good as when we let God have control. If we are controlling our lives, then we are the ones making decisions about our lives instead of aligning ourselves with the will and the word of God.

We can not do the devil’s job for him. The devil wants to come in, cause division in all areas of our lives, in the lives of those around us, and in the Kingdom. If the devil can get us to do his job for him, he can sit back and watch us crumble.

The need for control does the devil’s job for him because:

  1. It causes us stress.
  2. Makes us anxious.
  3. Creates division between us and others.
  4. It delays our obedience to God’s plan.

If we are under stress  and anxious, we are not trusting God. When we trust God and focus on His plan, we will be overwhelmed with a supernatural sense of security and comfort.

At the center of division is the problem of control. Division between people happens when both sides are fighting for control and neither is willing to fight for unity. When we fight for control at the expense of unity, we are doing the devil’s job for him.

“Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall.” Luke 11:17 NIV

Christine Caine says “delayed obedience is still disobedience“. When we take things into our own hands, we are telling God that we think our plan is better. We eventually always come back around to His plan because His plan for us is always better. There is not a better example of this than when I avoided serving in the kids ministry at my church. I used to work as an Assistant Director of a preschool in town. At church I did everything I could to avoid serving in kids since I worked with kids every day during the week. Guess what? I now serve on staff with the cKids team at Celebration Church. By delaying my obedience because I was trying to control things and do things my way. I spent two years avoiding the exact place God wanted to place me.

Here are 4 ways conquer your need for control:

  1. Align yourself with God’s word and His will.
  2. Take your issues to God first. When you do take it to another person, seek to tell them what God did in your life instead of seeking validation in your need to control things.
  3. Pray. Ask God to help you give full control over to Him in all areas of your life.
  4. Give grace to yourself and others.

What have you tried to have control over that didn’t turn out well? The good news is, it is never to late to hand it all over to God! Do not take on things you were never meant to carry. God is waiting and willing to take it back.

Speak Words Out loud, But Be Positive

When is the last time you thought something, and never actually did it? If you’re like most of us, it happens almost daily. There are many things we think or want to do that we never actually do. Maybe you’re single and you pass someone you are initially attracted to and you say to yourself, “I’m going to talk to that person.” But then you just keep walking past, making excuses not to. Or maybe you are in a job and say, “I’m going to quit and start my own business,” but the fear of that keeps you from taking the next step.

Say It Out Loud

Now, in either one of these scenarios, what would happen if you told a friend of yours the exact same thing. By simply bringing another person into the discussion and speaking it out loud you most likely feel obligated to do it.

There is a great power in words. Not written words, or thought about words, but SPOKEN words. I’m not saying that there isn’t power in written words or thoughts, but there is something different and powerful about speaking the words out loud.

Psalm 33:9 – “For when he spoke, the world began! It appeared at his command.”

Joshua 6:20 (Battle of Jericho) – “When the trumpets sounded, the army shouted, and at the sound of the trumpet, when the men gave a loud shout, the wall collapsed; so everyone charged straight in, and they took the city.”

Genesis 1:3 – “And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light.”
Throughout Genesis 1, every time God put something in existence the Bible reads, “And God said,…”

Have you ever seen someone talking to themselves to get ready to do something? By simply speaking positive words to yourself, it can give you a different mentality.

Spoken Words Have Power

The scary part here is that you can just as easily have words affect you negatively. Maybe you have one of these friends: the friend who is always negative and always tells you how bad everything is when you talk to them. Wonder why things are always going poorly for them? They keep convincing themselves by speaking it out loud that things are bad. And a lot of the times it affects you as well. You have to speak positively into your own life and others.

When people say you can’t do something, you can easily combat that with YES, I CAN, or, better yet, YES, GOD CAN. It seems pretty simple, and maybe a little cheesy, but you can never have too many positive words spoken into your life.

Find those people that will speak positively to you, and make sure you are speaking positively to yourself and to anyone you speak to.