This is originally posted on the daily positive.
You are not a pretzel. Don’t twist yourself to fit into who you think people want you to be – just to make them happy – which then makes your soul feel all twisty-like. Be who you are. Accept and love all your quirky aspects. Make your soul happy. Don’t be a pretzel. Be your whole enchilada.” – Karen Salmansohn
What do you do to make yourself more likable or acceptable to others?
I’ve heard the following types of things, and I’ve experienced my own versions of these in the past…
I don’t want to be seen without make up on.
I prefer to wear a hat to cover my receding hairline.
I can’t wear sleeveless tops because I don’t like my arms.
I try not to say too much, in case I say the wrong thing.
Just in the last few weeks I’ve seen many examples of people CHANGING THEMSELVES in some way that puts them out (alters their natural preferred state) in order to be more acceptable to others.
Here are a few useful realizations that I hope this will either support you, or you could pass onto someone who might benefit…
People are far too busy caring about themselves to be concerned about what you do, what you look like, what you wear, what you own, what you say.
If someone did care, and they judged you in any way for being you, it truly isn’t anything to do with you, and it’s a reflection of where they’re at in their own consciousness.
The kicker – most of the time we’re actually not changing ourselves to be more acceptable to others. The truth is… we often don’t feel acceptable to OURSELVES! 😲 If you don’t accept yourself, it’s a natural subconscious thread to believe others won’t accept you either.
2 QUICK TESTS
Here’s a little QA test to see if you’re wasting your energy on self-adjustment to be more “acceptable” (when you’re already acceptable just as you are!!!)
“If there was NO ONE ELSE around, and it was just me on this planet, what would I do, what would I wear, what I would say?”
“If I 100% accepted myself, what would I do, what would I wear, how would I behave, what would I say?”
You might be surprised by what these questions bring up – exposing the ways you adjust yourself AWAY FROM your natural, divinely created and glorious self.
As the above quote says, no more twisting yourself like a pretzel, it’s time to be your whole enchilada!