You seek someone’s help, you read articles and books to find answers, you talk to friends and family, you go to a therapist so they can help you make decisions, help you lead a better life and help you quiet the endless cycle of confusion in your head, but at the end of the day you’ll still be the one who needs to make these decisions, after all is said and done, it will be your call. No one else will make them for you when it’s time to take action.
Because even if the whole world told you not to do something and a little voice inside of you whispered that you should, you will end up following that voice.
Here’s the funny thing about human beings, they think they don’t know the answers and sometimes they really don’t but almost everyone knows how to find it or where to find it, almost everyone knows where to start and almost everyone knows what needs to be done, but almost everyone wants confirmation that they’re on the right track, they want someone to tell them they’re right and they want someone to make the decision a little easier.
Because that’s all what we really want; someone to make the decision easier instead of making the actual decision, someone to make us feel like we’re not alone.
But when people don’t agree with us or our decisions, we tend to doubt ourselves and we stop making decisions based on how we feel or what we know and make decisions based on what the people who care about us tell us to do, because sometimes they’re right and sometimes we can take ourselves to hell.
But isn’t making decisions based on someone else a hell of its own? Isn’t living an inauthentic life the worst decision you could possibly make?
I guess what makes decisions easier is that they’re our own, when you make the right decision, you get a sense of pride and ownership that you knew what was right for you and when you make the wrong one, it’s easier to move on with no regrets because it was also all you.
Because if you give the right to choose or the right to decide to someone else, you’re giving away the right to live.
Only you can make the decision to quit or try harder, only you can make the decision to stay or leave, only you can make the decision to love or hate, only you can make the decision to hold on or let go and only you can make the decision to control your life or let others control you.
Decisions can be many things; they can be hard or easy, rash or calculated, temporary or forever and they can also change, but the one thing that shouldn’t change is who makes these decisions.
And that should always be YOU.