In our part of the world, I have noticed with great interest how people suffer for lack of clearly defined objectives.

For example, due to economic reasons, when most couples are starting out together they often have to start out small and then build up gradually. Hence it’s very important that they define and agree on pre-set objectives they will observe such as strict adherence to budgeting. Thereafter, if this couple rents a self-contained or a one- bedroom flat and decide to live on a small feeding budget for a start, it’s imperative they make it clear to family and relatives that they will need some time to grow before they can accommodate any third party to live with them.

Although, that is not easily understood around love, it’s a very important step and they must stand by that decision.