Influence or Control

Control:
to exercise restraint or direction over;
dominate;
command

Influence:
the capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc., of others

In Matthew 28: 18-20, we read Jesus’ famous words that have been termed “The Great Commission”. Jesus said, “Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything that I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” Jesus told His followers to go and make disciples using His example as the way to accomplish that goal.

Even though the directive of the great commission is captured in Matthew 28, we have to dig into the rest of God’s word to determine the methods by which we are to achieve that directive. If Jesus tells us to reach people in the same way that He reached them, then we need to study and understand how He did that. If we study the scriptures, we can easily discern that Jesus constantly demonstrated the method of influence over the method of control. Jesus’ goal was NOT to establish a worldly rule over people and force them to submit to His commands. In John 6: 15, we can read that Jesus literally withdrew when He believed that the people were going to forcefully try and make Him a king.

Jesus’ real goal was to lovingly convince people into freely choosing to trust and follow Him. Jesus used a lot of different methods to accomplish that goal. He diligently sought to understand the needs of the people he was trying to reach, and He met those needs. It didn’t matter if they deserved it or not. He healed their sicknesses, gave them food, and even raised their dead. He set the example, by living a full and powerful life that people found attractive and were drawn to. Jesus loved people unto death and said things like, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down His life for the sheep.” Jesus’ sacrificial, loving, bold, attractive persona drew people in and influenced them to follow Him in a way that no human being was able to do before He was born or since He was crucified.

If Jesus’ method was influence, then that is not only the method that He wants us to use, but it is the only method that truly works. If we really want to impact the world around us, it has to be through His method of influencing people not through our selfish, default method of controlling people. To be fair, control can accomplish a lot of things. For example, parents may be able to control their kids and force them to be “good” kids, but if the child hasn’t truly been influenced to trust in and adopt that lifestyle, there is a good chance they will run wild as soon as they leave the house. False religions may be able to control their congregations through fear and the distortion of God’s word, but they will lack the fullness of life that Jesus promised to His followers. Control does not produce God’s intended result of a willful, loving obedience. That obedience is meant to be anchored by trust and established in His kindness, love, grace and mercy.

If there was ever an instance where control was warranted, it was in God’s relationship to us. An all knowing, all good creator could justifiably control the every move of His creation to ensure a perfect outcome for every situation. However, He chose influence over control. He chose to lovingly and attractively woo us to choose to love Him, rather than to force us. Because in the truest sense of love, a love that He created, it must be chosen and not forced. I believe that the following statements illustrate the difference between control and influence:

  • Control is rooted in fear while influence is rooted in trust.
  • Control produces short term results, but influence produces lasting results.
  • Control produces slaves, but influence produces followers.
  • Control creates selfish competition while influence builds unified teams.
  • Control suppresses people, but influence empowers people.

Friends, Jesus calls us to walk like Him. God’s good will for His children is that our every action and over every word would provide an intoxicating draw towards our loving Father. His goal is not for us to use the godliness within us and our knowledge of His word to control others into getting in line with our will. The goal is for us to become righteousness, and to influence others with the unexplainable love and life that shines through in the way we live. Our God chose influence over control, and that is His will for us as well. Let’s not strive to control others for our own benefit and comfort, but to unselfishly point them towards our loving Father for their benefit.

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Goodbye To Perfection

Growing up, I have always tried to be this “perfect” embodiment of what I believed a good, morally upstanding person should be. I have come a long way from that insecure, control-freak of a person I used to be. Here’s the truth: we are not really in control, anyway.

Unfortunately, this was the start of placing heavy burdens on myself that would later lead to even more far-fetched goals and inevitable disappointments. Disappointment in myself, in others, and even in myself for other’s choices, which I had felt responsible over. There is this saying,We are not responsible for people, we are responsible to people.

Why Worry?

Fortunately, I have come a long way from that insecure, control-freak of a person I used to be. Here’s the truth: we are not really in control, anyway. So why worry about things that you cannot really control?

The English word worry actually has its roots in the word “strangle,” which is one of the most powerful descriptions of what worry does to you – it strangles the life out of you.”

Recently, I have been trying to be more invested in my blog and other business idea I have, trying harder and learning more. Yet, the other day I had a call from a client, who just found fault with a job I did. I was discouraged, and I must admit that I was disappointed in myself. Yet, after a while, I started encouraging myself and reminding myself that this is not the truth of who I am. My identity does not lie in the approval of others, it lies in the truth of who God says I am.

Once, I read an article by Andrew Wommack, that also really helped, where he said, The same is true with the heart. If we take our eyes off Jesus and focus on the evil of this world and our circumstances, then, little by little, the layers of negativity harden around our hearts, and the love for God and others waxes cold.”[i]

Our Identity Is in Him

I read a post just like this a couple of weeks ago on my Facebook, and it was a great reminder for me today, “Don’t measure your worth or value based on the things that fluctuate and are conditional. Instead, find your value in the unconditional and consistent love of God.” There is only so much pleasure your job can bring you, or your relationships, or reruns of old TV shows. The ultimate pleasure is found in the Father. Your identity is based on your knowledge of Him.

So many times I have forgotten (when the disappointment hits) that my worth is found in Christ alone. The world’s standard is a high one, yet this is what Jesus says to us,

“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV)

Perfect Rest in Him

So be encouraged today, no matter the burdens that the world tries to place on you or that you place on yourself, there is a rest that you can seek and find. In fact, God wants to give you rest, and He wants you to enjoy your life, every aspect of it.

Maybe we can start by letting go of the perception of a “perfect life.” Instead, we should embrace a “real life,” warts and all. As we focus on Jesus, instead of the problem/or its details, we will start walking on water and growing in our faith.

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Photos: Skip A Meal: Mission Durunmi Abuja Nigeria

Courtesy of: Women of Grace (His Treasure House International Church)

It was another successful mission outreach on Saturday 16th March, 2019 from the women of grace group in my church. The funniest thing here is that am the only guy in the group. #proudofme

There is nothing in this life as great as sharing love, and giving back to the community.

Giving back to society is in fact vague and misty in nature. There’s so much that we procure from society. There are so many strata of people who make up the whole population of a nation. But they are different from each other. Some are affluent and some are mere stragglers of survival. In many countries, there are masses who don’t even have excess to basic day-to-day requirements. There are also people who have so much in excess, that the amounts if distributed, would solve many problems plaguing most areas around the world.

Here are some deep quotes that relates to my topic.

“If there be any truer measure of a man than by what he does, it must be by what he gives.”
―Robert South

“If you knew what I know about the power of giving, you would not let a single meal pass without sharing it in some way.”

“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”
―Winston Churchill

I leave you with this. “Part of being a person is about helping others.”

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Expect Failure at First

No plan is perfect the first time it is created. Most plans to accomplish something new will fail over and over again at the beginning. This is to be expected. Your ability to accept feedback and make corrections to the plan of activity is vital to your success. Keep asking, what’s working? and what’s not working? Be more concerned with what’s right rather than who’s right.

Remember the old saying, “back to the drawing board” whenever your plan doesn’t work, relax, take a deep breath, and revisit it.

Focus on the Solution

When you have a problem, resolve to be solution oriented. Expect difficulties as a part of the process and reaolve to respond to them effectively. If you are not achieving your goals on schedule, ask, what is the problem? What else is the problem? What are the solutions? What else is a solution? What can we do now? What is the next step?

It seems that when you begin work on the achievement of a new goal, you immediately experience setbacks, obstacles, difficulties, and temporary failure. This is to be expected. It is normal and natural. It takes tremendous effort to launch something new and make it successful. But this is the price that you have to pay to achieve the goals that you have set for yourself.

Expect Something Good To Happen

Sometimes when you’ve had a series of disappointing things happen, you can get in the habit of expecting more of what you already have.

I used to be like that. My motto was, “If you don’t expect anything good to happen, then you won’t be disappointed when it doesn’t.”

But this isn’t how God wants us to live!

According to Joyce Meyer. You all know her and her history right??? she always using her past and experience as an example during her preachings. When she was sexually abused as a child by her father, she grew up and became an adult who was really negative. Even after she had a strong relationship with God, she still struggled with this for a while.

Then one morning, she was standing in the bathroom and she remember noticing this evil presence around her. It wasn’t new…she realized she had always felt it. It made her think, What bad thing is going to happen next?

She then asked God what this feeling was. He spoke to her heart and said, “Evil forebodings.”

Later, she found Proverbs 15:15, which says, All the days of the desponding and afflicted are made evil [by anxious thoughts and forebodings], but he who has a glad heart has a continual feast [regardless of circumstances] (AMPC).

Once she read this verse, she realized what it meant. An ‘evil foreboding” is the fear of something bad happening when nothing was going wrong.

Then she looked back and saw how it affected her different times in the past…

For example, the night her husband Dave asked her to marry him, he said he needed to talk to her about something. She actually thought he was going to break up with her because she always expected the negative! True story from Joyce Meyer.

That’s exactly what Satan wants you to do. He wants you to expect something bad and to become fearful of the “what ifs.”

Fear is the opposite of faith, and it takes faith to accept anything good in our lives.

When she was expecting something bad to happen, her expectation was from Satan. If we are not careful, this expectation will open the door to Satan’s evil plans for our lives by waiting for bad things.

But when we expect good things, we open the door to God’s plans (see Lamentations 3:25).

God can’t wait to be good to you…

God is good. Everything He does is good and wonderful. In fact, God wants to do something outrageously wonderful in your life every moment of every day…but you have to be ready and expect it to happen.

Isaiah 30:18 (AMPC) says it perfectly: Therefore the Lord [earnestly] waits [expecting, looking, and longing] to be gracious to you; and therefore He lifts Himself up, that He may have mercy on you and show loving-kindness to you…. Blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied) are all those who [earnestly] wait for Him, who expect and look and long for Him…

God is looking and longing for someone who’s waiting for Him to be good to them. God wants to be good to you, but you have to be expecting Him to move in your life!

Today is your day to start believing something good is going to happen to you! God is working in your life right now, and when you get your breakthrough, it will be the result of what God has been doing for a long time.

I’ve gotten into a habit of saying something almost every day of my life, and I encourage you to do the same. Declare:

“God is good, and something good is going to happen to me today!”

Whether you see it or feel it or not, keep praying and expecting because God is longing to be gracious and good to you!

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Patience Means Waiting on The Path, Not Creating a Path

I pulled up to a stoplight the other day and was feeling pretty anxious about getting to my destination the quickest way possible. I didn’t want to sit there; I was getting impatient that I was the first car stopped at this red light. But then I saw an opportunity to take a shortcut and not sit at the poorly timed light. The urge to keep moving and not wait for the green light had taken over any chance I had of sitting there another second. I looked over to my right and saw the perfect opportunity to cut through a gas station and a few parking lots, as there was no traffic or lights to stop me. I was on a mission. My mission was to save time until I was sitting at another light waiting to get back on the road. Sure enough, the cars that were behind me at the first red light were passing by one by one.

This reminded me of our relationship with Christ and what begins to happen when we become impatient trying to replace His timing with our timing. I have noticed in my life that when I try to take my own steps, it often sets me back farther than had I remained patient in the process. We often feel like we know the timing of everything and the route we need to take to reach our destiny. Our destiny for us isn’t God’s destiny for us. God may call us to something we never thought imaginable. Do we accept the challenge to remain patient in the process of His calling? We honor God when we live with patience. We show Him that we are willing to submit to His plan and not our plan.

Think about Job and how everything he owned was destroyed along with his children. However, he remained patient knowing God had a plan for his life.

We know that Noah had some patience. He waited 120 years for God to send the flood!

Think about Jesus, knowing He would be crucified but still exemplified patience leading up to His death on the cross. Jesus remained patient with His disciples teaching them all the way up until His death.

Are we speeding through life trying to reach our own destination by any means necessary? Or are we remaining patient where God has placed us and following His lead? It is easy to say, “Why did I not get the promotion at work over this person?” or “Why do I have to respond to the authority of my boss?” We have many questions we ask and we often try to answer them on our own. Let God prepare us. He is developing us along the journey. He will show us how He used that waiting period to strengthen us for His glory.

Romans 12:12 – Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.

James 5:11 – Behold, we consider those blessed who remained steadfast. You have heard of the steadfastness of Job, and you have seen the purpose of the Lord, how the Lord is compassionate and merciful.

Are You Speaking Life or Death?

The tongue is a small organ in our mouths that allows us the ability to speak. It’s a powerful weapon that as human beings we may know about but don’t use properly. We can speak hope, encouragement, and life into people instead of doubt and discouragement into people’s lives.

Why is it that as human beings we feel better about putting people down instead of lifting them up?

I think that it has something to do with the way we as people speak to each other. We’ve all been told by parents, teachers, and, even our friends that it’s how we speak to people that produces results.

Have we ever stopped to ask ourselves why we speak to people the way that we do? Have we ever stopped and wondered how a person’s life would have turned out if we chose to speak life into that person instead of insecurity?

The Bible is filled with Scriptures about how we should treat people, but it also focuses on the power of the tongue.

The power to lift someone up and knock them down all stems from the tongue. In the Gospels and Paul’s letters, we are told that our tongue is a weapon, but how do we employ such a weapon so that it changes people to go out and speak their opinions and be heard? As Christians, how can we use the power of our voice to affect the world for Christ?

Use your tongues to impact lives not destroy them.

As Christians, we can use our voices to affect positive change in the world, but we must be willing to speak out and bring life and hope to others. Nothing can change unless we use the voice that God has given us to change the world.

Throughout my own life, I’ve had no problem speaking my mind, but I have had trouble learning to control the emotion behind the words because as people; our emotions and our words can have a tremendous impact.

Our tongues can breed either life or death in a person’s life, but it depends on us as people.

Throughout my high school life and even as I continue my college education, I’ve learned that how I speak to people can really do some good. Life, Death, Anger, Frustration, and Hope are all tied to the power behind our tongues.

I’ve gathered a list of some of the lessons that I’ve learned and am still learning when it comes to the power of our tongues. I pray that something is said that encourages you to use your tongue to uplift, encourage, inspire, and impact lives for Christ.

1). Our Tongues Can Produce Life or Death

We’ve all heard the Scripture from Proverbs 18:21 that talks about how life and death are in the power of our tongue, but how do we produce life from the words we speak?

Well, for starters, we as Christians can speak life into someone by just being there for someone, by helping them through a situation. Just by helping someone through our words can bring life to someone’s life.

“A wholesome tongue is the tree of life, But perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” – Proverbs 15:4 (NKJV)

Also, what we watch on TV on our phones can also affect how we talk with people. As people, especially as Christians, the words that we speak can produce life if we choose to watch things that give us encouragement.

The words we speak can bring life, hope, and sometimes peace to someone, but they can also bring death, despair, and even discouragement to someone if we don’t learn to control our frustrations.

Our tongues are powerful weapons that can be used in the kingdom of God. Are we going to speak life into our situations or are we going to speak defeat in our lives?

2). Checking our Spiritual “Temperature”

The words that we speak to people can become motivated by our emotions, but have you ever taken the time to ask yourself why you suddenly feel so “fired” up about something that is minor?

Have you ever asked yourself the question: Do I respond to situations in my life that are at a “Level 2?”

Our spiritual temperature is the indicator of where we are in terms of our relationship with Christ. Do we have a spiritual “fever” that could be affecting the way we speak to people?

If we as Christians can determine our spiritual temperature, we can then determine how we are to approach people. We should approach people with a heart of love not a heart of indifference.

3). Don’t Speak Down to Yourself or Others

Not speaking down to myself is something that through reading God’s Word I’ve been able to overcome.

Why do we let either the Devil or our own insecurities get in the way of speaking life into our situations?

Ephesians 4:19 (NKJV) says, “ Let no corrupt word proceed out of mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.”

No evil thinking should proceed from our lips. The negative thoughts we have should be pushed to the side in favor of thinking “God says that I am more than a conqueror”.
The problem with us as humans is that we don’t know how to control our tongues. Our tongues have the incredible power to do good if we learn to control our tongues and speak life into our situations instead of death.

Likewise, what we watch on TV or our phones can influence if we are speaking life or death in someone’s life.

The Power of a Response


I do not know about you, but in the heat of a conversation, I am generally more tempted to emotionally respond, rather than rationally respond. The way we respond to people and situations, has more power than we may realize. It has the power to build a strong foundation and relationship and it has the power to destroy relationships. A response can cause a relationship to grow stronger, or it can cause someone to become defense and have their guard up every time we enter a room. In this article, we will address how to function and grow through our emotional responses in a healthy way! The final goal should always be to show people the way to Jesus, not revenge to justify our emotional response.

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” – James 1:19-20

There are a lot of moments where God is prompting us to slow down and take a moment to process and discern the situation, before jumping to a conclusion or response. We cannot allow our emotions to rule our day, or get in the way of what God is trying to do through us.

Here are three simple ways to avoid an irrational, emotional response:

1. Take a deep breathe before responding. We hear this all the time and laugh when someone says to “count to ten” but it is honestly one of the smartest things you can do. It works in the heat of the moment. When you take deep breaths, you are pushing more oxygen to your brain. This gives you a clearer perspective on things, producing a better thought process in the moment. The more clarity in your situation the better.

2. See both sides of the situation. Take a step back, emotionally and hypothetically. Removing yourself from the situation, gives you perspective from both sides of the situation. If you know you tend to respond based off of emotions, it’s best to eliminate them. View both sides of the situation, to ensure a rational response, through using wisdom and discernment.

3. Humble and submit yourself. As much as you may feel like you do not owe the other person something, whether you do or not, you do owe it to God. We must honor and love others. We are called to love God and to love others. If you truly strive to serve God everyday, you will humble yourself and simmer your emotions. This will allow you to love others through a simple act of kindness. No matter if they deserve it or not, loving someone can be the best way of representing Jesus to others.

At the end of the day, know that you should always pray about things more than you talk about them. If emotional and unjustifiable responses are things you struggle with, I encourage you to take it to God. Above all else, always take it to God!

“…Don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves.” -James 1:22

Humbly accept God’s word, allow it to plant in your heart, and allow that harvest to save your soul; for that’s the power God’s word has in our lives!

Rushing Around… But Where’s the Fire?

How many times in your day do you feel like you were rushing around trying to put out one fire after another? How many times during the day are you actually at peace with yourself and you don’t feel like you have to hurry up to get to the next task on your list?

If you can go day in and day out without feeling the need to be rushing around from one fire, to another task to satisfy a need for someone else, to accomplishing something that you forgot to do yesterday… I applaud you. But that is not me! If you are like me and many others we have not figured out how to appropriately manage our time and our stressors. Thus, rushing around is all we know. It’s not healthy, but hey…we have made it this far, right?

From solving home issues, rushing to get my work done before deadline, trying to finish some personal assignments, the list doesn’t end. Managing personal health problems, drama at work, stress with significant others, bills, say what? We all have stressors and pressures in life. These struggles and different types of anxiety, can attack us from all angles of life. As someone who suffers from stress and anxiety, I know how important it is to keep the right perspective on things. Easier said than done though, right?

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” – Philippians ‭4:6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Also, easier said than done. It’s easy to think we can bottle up all the things in life that consume our thoughts, place them in a box, take them to God, set them down and walk away. Never giving another worry about them. I’m not too sure that’s what this verse calls us to do. You see, God wants us to take action. The action isn’t hanging it over to him to fix and not doing anything about it ourselves.

“So, do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah ‭41:10‬ ‭NIV

God’s promise does not free us from doing some of the heavy lifting ourselves.

We are not promised that God will solve our problems and we won’t have to pray, follow His word, or change some of our own behaviors. Giving our worries to God does not mean we are absent of having to make personal adjustments.

Here’s an example:

Having a full-time job, donating time to volunteer activities and other obligations at church can be hard to manage when it comes to time commitments. I send up all the prayers I can think of, beg God for a solution. While I do these things, I continue to cram my schedule and nothing changes. I pray harder, I get plugged in to the right communities, I surround myself with friends who have the same values, but still my prayers go unanswered.

Here’s the same example with a much different viewpoint:

Having a full-time job, donating time to volunteer activities and other obligations at church can be hard to manage when it comes to time commitments. While I send up prayers to God, I get organized and prioritize my schedule. Looking at the commitments I have made, I decide which ones I should prayerfully consider stepping down from. Seeking wise counsel, God begins to reveal to me which priorities are most important and advancing His kingdom. Then it becomes very clear what should stay on my schedule.

My first moments awake I spend with God. No, this was not always the case. I used to be so wrapped up in my work and social media, I would check on those things first. Now, before my feet hit floor (or at least while I’m brushing my teeth or in the toilet) I am spending time in the word. I’m reading, or listening to my daily devotional and praying for different areas in my life.

My last moments awake I spend with God. This too wasn’t always the case. Don’t tell anyone, but I have several shows I like to watch, but because I don’t have time (no pun intended) I downloaded them on my phone to watch later. I used to spend the last hours of my days watching TV. Not anymore. A very close friend of mine told me about an app that will help me in reading inspirational stories, which I have been using. If it’s not that, I’m listening to worship music as I drift asleep. This forces me to relax my mind and make every attempt possible to close out my days peacefully.

When you aren’t sure… Just ask.

Seek wise counsel and identify the things in your daily life that are creating the most stress in your routine. Ask yourself, or even write down the pros and cons of that activity. If there are more cons on the list and you’ve gone to God in prayer over them, ask yourself if that particular thing is truly necessary to have you all worked up over and rushing around to accomplish on a regular basis.

Overcoming The Fear Of Rejection

To be a soul winner for Jesus, we must overcome all fear, including rejection. The Samaritan Woman at the Well not only carried water, she carried the burden of rejection. This is the incredible story of her turnaround from Weakness to Wellness to Witness.

Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon. (John 4:6 NIV)

She was alone drawing from Jacob’s well at about the sixth hour. This was a famous well that provided water to the community. But it was the sixth hour, in the hot afternoon. This Samaritan woman was alone because the well was half of a mile away from the community. The women usually carried water either in the morning or the evening. Why did she come under the hot sun? Maybe it was an emergency. Or maybe she wanted to be alone, away from the eyes of other women, to avoid listening to disparaging remarks from other women. Or was it out of fear?

Rejected by Society

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”(John 4:16-18 NIV)

She had had 5 husbands and the man whom she was living with – was not a husband. In those days, women don’t divorce husbands. Either she was divorced 5 times, or had had 5 husbands who died, or a combination of both. In any case, she would have most likely been disregarded by men and a taboo to the women of that society in general.

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Furthermore, she was not married to the man she was living with. After 5 marriages, she wasn’t young anymore. Young women carried waters from the well because they were stronger. Because of the fact she had to carry water herself meant that she didn’t have a servant. We can infer that she was living with that man because she was depending on him financially. Since she was willing to live with him without being married to him, it showed her desperation.

Jesus Crossed Barriers to Reach Out to Her

As a rule of thumb, Jews don’t speak to Samaritans. Men couldn’t speak to women without the husband’s there. Rabbis were not supposed to be near her. Sounds like fear, right? Jesus confronted her past. She didn’t lie to hide her shame.

To be a soul winner, we need to be transparent so that others can see the real Jesus in us. For the light to shine into us, and then, through us to others, we need to be transparent.

Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.” (John 4:39 NIV)

Her transparency was clear when she brought many souls to Jesus. She told many about Jesus: “He told me all that I ever did.” This means she laid bare about her past life to many people. She didn’t care if they already knew about her past or not.

Through her divine supernatural encounter with Jesus, she knew without a shadow of doubt that God loved and accepted her. Now she was no longer living in fear. She was no longer dependent on others for love and acceptance. She now knew that God Himself loved and accepted her.

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When Do We Offer Thanksgiving? At All Times

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In every situation, in all things and by so doing we enter into the victorious life where the devil cannot control us.

How can he control us if we are going to be joyful and thankful no matter what the circumstances are? Admittedly, this kind of lifestyle sometimes requires a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving, but i would rather sacrifice my thanksgiving to God than sacrifice my joy to satan.

Be grateful at all times, one filled with gratitude not only toward God, but also toward people. When someone does something nice to you, let him/her know that you appreciate it.

Show appreciation in your family among the various members. So often, we take for granted the things that God has blessed us with. A sure way to lose something is not to appreciate it.

Have you told your wife/girlfriend how you appreciate her each day?

Meditate daily on all the things you have to be thankful for. Rehearse them to the Lord in prayer, and as you do you will find your heart filling up with life and light.

“Through Him, therefore, let us at all times offer up to God a sacrifice of praise, which is the fruit of lips that thankfully acknowledge and confess and glorify His name”.


Hebrews 13:15

Having Strength During Hard Times: Bible Verses

Don’t Worry Or Fear, Find Your Strength In Him

It can be so easy to give into worry, fear and despair, but with Him we can find strength, and look forward to wonderful things. He gives us hope!

Isaiah 43:1-3 Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the Lord you God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.

Luke 12:25-26 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life[a]? 26 Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?

Philippians 4:6 Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

Psalm 34:4 I sought the Lord, and he answered me, and delivered me from all my fears.

Psalm 27: 1-3 The LORD is my light and my salvation whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid? When the wicked advance against me to devour me,it is my enemies and my foes who will stumble and fall.Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear;though war break out against me,even then I will be confident.

Joshua 1:9 Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Psalm 145: 18-19 The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cry and saves them.

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Isaiah 12:2 Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The Lord, the Lord, is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation.

God Gives Us A Spirit Of Strength And Power

Through faith in Christ we are given a spirit of power, love and discipline, and for that reason we have nothing to fear. We can hold onto his promises and be confident that he’ll see us through even the darkest of days.

2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.

Psalm 138:3 When I called, you answered me; you made me bold and stouthearted.

Psalm 16:8 I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.

Psalm 62:1-2 My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will never be shaken.

Psalm 112: 1, 7-8 Praise the Lord! Happy are those who fear the Lord. They are not afraid of evil tidings; their hearts are firm, secure in the Lord. Their hearts are steady, they will not be afraid.

Psalm 91:1-2 You who live in the shelter of the Most High, who abide in the shadow of the Almighty, will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress; my God in whom I trust.”

Psalm 112: 1, 7-8 Praise the Lord! Happy are those who fear the Lord. They are not afraid of evil tidings; their hearts are firm, secure in the Lord. Their hearts are steady, they will not be afraid.

Hard Times May Come, But He’s There With Us Through Them All

Though we aren’t promised an easy life, we are told that Christ will be there with us when we believe in Him, that he won’t give us more than we can handle with His help, and even our hard times can be used to glorify God.

2 Corinthians 12:9 My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.

Philippians 4: 12-13 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation . . . . I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

2 Thessalonians 3:3 But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen and protect you from the evil one.

Isaiah 40:29 He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless.

1 Peter 5: 10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.

Hebrews 4:16 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who in every respect has been tested as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore approach the throne of grace with boldness, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

Deuteronomy 31:6,8 Be strong and bold; have no fear or dread of them, because it is the Lord your God who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.

2 Thessalonians 3:16 Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way.

Strength In Christ Our Lord And Savior

As the verses above illustrate, we’re told to call on Jesus Christ, and that he will hear us and give us strength, hope and a grace sufficient to carry us through. He will be our ever present help when we’re in need, and he can give us a peace that passes all understanding. For me that’s extremely encouraging.

Happy Birthday To My Beautiful Wife

My Queen, words can’t describe how I feel today about you. I owe everything to my God. You are a phenomenon woman, a woman of substance, God’s gift to me. I lacked a lot of things in the past, you came into my life to polish my past to have a better view with the present and future.
You are the reason I’m content, happy, and the man that I am.
Every day of my life I want to make sure you know how much you mean to me and how much I appreciate you because you are the best.
You deserve all the best in life because you are selfless, caring, understanding, loving and amazing.
I will forever love you even when I won’t be able to remember my own name. Your love will shine through my last breath.


My love for you is unbreakable. My devotion for you is unshakable. You and I are inseparable. Have a very happy birthday my amazing wife!

Guys help me celebrate this woman of faith with me today!!!🙏🙏

Pride Prevents Patient Waiting

Trust your day is going great guys.

So this morning I was really bothered about my future and what and what am yet to be done around me. I tried distracting myself with house chores and stuffs but to no avail. Later on, I picked an old jotter of mine and started reading. The first thing my eyes sighted on was a topic about being patient and not pride.

It is impossible to enjoy waiting if you don’t know how to wait patiently. Pride prevents patient waiting because the proud person thinks so highly of himself that he believes he should never be inconvenience in anyway.

Although we are not to think badly of ourselves, we are also not to think too highly of ourselves. It is dangerous to lift ourselves up to such an elevated place that it causes us to look down on others. If they are not doing things the way we want, or as quickly as we think they should be done, we behave impatiently.

“A humble person will not display an impatient attitude”

Am so relieved right now, I hope you are also???

Take One Day At A Time

I like to describe worry or anxiety as spending today to figure out tomorrow. Let’s learn to use the time God has given to us for what He intended. It sounds easy right??? But in this case easy is far from it. It takes the spirit and grace of God to be at peace with ourselves knowing the challenges we face or what is making us worry. We humans and vulnerable. Don’t beat yourself to it.

“Life is to be lived- here and now”

Sadly, as I mentioned in the first paragraph only the Grace and Spirit of God can turn our minds out of worry and anxiety to peaceful and worry less. Very few people know how to live each day to the fullest. But you can be one of them. Jesus said that satan, the dark one, comes to steal your life. (John 10:10). Don’t allow him to do it any longer!

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Don’t spend today worrying about tomorrow. You have enough things going on today; it needs all of your attention. God’s grace is on you to handle whatever you need for today, but tomorrow’s grace will not come until tomorrow comes- so don’t waste today!